Leveled Up Friendships

Making friends as an adult is hard—especially when you move to a new city and don’t know anyone. After moving somewhere completely new, I’m rebuilding my social life and community from scratch, and in this episode, I’m sharing the exact three-part plan I’m using to meet new people, make meaningful connections and turn those connections into real friendships.

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Have you ever watched a close friend change and wondered if the friendship can survive it?

In this listener Q&A, we're tackling one of the hardest friendship questions I've ever received:

"My friend's changing lifestyle offends me. What do I do?"

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Maybe they've changed their values. Maybe their priorities shifted. Maybe you bare...

Ever feel like you're the one carrying every conversation?

You're asking thoughtful questions, listening well, and genuinely trying to get to know someone... but they never seem to ask you anything back.

Does that mean they don't care?

Not necessarily.

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You've probably heard the advice: "If they don't match your energy, cut them off."

But what if that mindset is actually causing you to lose really good friendships?

In this video, I'm sharing a different perspective after spending the last 15 years studying friendship and sharing more than 500 meals with strangers. We'll talk about why friendship isn't a scoreboard, why reciprocity can quietly become transactional, and what you shoul...

Have you ever wondered, "Can I really trust this person?"

Trust is the foundation of every healthy friendship, but knowing who to trust—and when to trust them—isn't always easy. Maybe you've been betrayed before, had your boundaries ignored, or watched someone disappear when life got hard.

In this video, I'm sharing the biggest signs I look for when deciding whether someone is truly trustworthy.

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If you've ever felt anxious around someone because you're constantly trying to keep the peace, this episode is for you.

Maybe you're choosing your words carefully. Replaying conversations afterward. Walking on eggshells because you're worried they'll take something the wrong way. The harder you try to keep the peace, the more anxious you become.

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Networking can feel exhausting… especially if you’re introverted, socially anxious, or constantly overthinking every interaction afterward. But what if networking didn’t have to drain your entire social battery?

In this episode, I’m breaking down how to network without feeling emotionally exhausted afterward, even if you hate small talk, struggle with social anxiety, or feel awkward meeting new peopl...

If your fear of rejection has ever stopped you from reaching out, starting a conversation, or putting yourself out there… this episode is going to challenge everything you think you know.

In this episode, I break down the science behind rejection and why you’re actually not getting rejected nearly as much as you think. Using research from Stanford, insights from the Gottman Institute, and the work of friendship ...

If you’ve ever walked into a room and had the thought, “I don’t think they like me,” this episode is for you.

Most people assume their friendships struggle because of what they say or how they act. But the real issue is happening underneath the surface—your thought patterns. The quiet beliefs you carry into conversations can shape how you show up, how you interpret others, and ultimately, the ki...

Loneliness isn’t just a feeling… it’s changing you in ways most people never talk about.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the hidden dangers of loneliness and what it’s actually doing to your motivation, your decisions, your mental state, and your life.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, disconnected, or like you’re slowly becoming someone you don’t recognize… thi...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Wait… how did I just share all of that?” In this video, I’m breaking down exactly how to become the kind of friend people feel safe opening up to—and why it’s not a personality trait, it’s a skill you can learn.

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Most people think being likable means being impressive. So they try harder. They perform more. They overthink every interaction.

And ironically… that’s exactly what makes people feel disconnected from them.

In this video, I’m breaking down what actually makes someone likable, and it has nothing to do with being the loud...

Ever feel like you’re showing up, giving a lot in your friendships… and it’s still not working?

In this episode, we’re unpacking why that happens and what most people misunderstand about generosity in friendships. Because it’s not always about doing more… sometimes it’s about something entirely different.

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Have you ever felt left out by your friend group and immediately started spiraling?

Maybe you saw a picture, heard about a hangout, or noticed people getting closer without you. In this episode, I break down the most common reasons why you might feel left out and what those moments often reveal about the deeper dynamics inside a friendship or friend group.

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Have you ever had the unsettling feeling that a friendship is slowly changing… but you can’t explain why?

Adult friendships rarely end with a dramatic fight. More often, they slowly drift apart. In this episode, I break down the five most common reasons friendships start to fade and what you can do if you want to stop the drift before the relationship disappears entirely.

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If you feel completely misunderstood by the internet, friends, or family, this episode is for you.

A few weeks ago, I was asked a simple question: How do you deal with being misunderstood? Ironically, days later I found myself living the answer in real time after a video of mine went viral for something completely unexpected.

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There comes a moment when you know it’s time to forgive… but everything in you resists.

In this deeply personal episode of Accidentally Intentional, I open up about my recent struggle with unforgiveness, the physical and emotional toll it took, and the turning point that finally shifted something in me.
If you’ve been replaying the past, carrying resentment, or feeling stuck in pain you can’t seem...

If you have social anxiety and you’re trying to make new friends, you know the spiral. "What if I look stupid? What if I’m awkward? What if they don’t like me?"

In this episode, I walk you through exactly how I build real friendships while dealing with social anxiety. These are the mindset shifts and practical techniques I use every time I walk into a room full of strangers, even when my nervous system is screaming...

If you’ve been hurt before, it makes total sense that you’re hesitant to put yourself out there again. But what if the thing you want most, deeper friendships, real community, a fresh start, is sitting on the other side of one brave decision?

In this episode of Accidentally Intentional, I’m sharing the mindset shift that helped me stop feeling like life was just happening to me and start choosing what happe...