Actually, you know what
"Actually, you know what" is a story/experience telling podcast where Stephany (aka Steggy) dives into relationships, self-growth, and all of the lessons learned (and not learned) along the way. Humor, honesty, and chaos is promised. Think of it like chatting with your best friend over a glass of wine: sometimes funny, sometimes deep, always real. Joined often by her partner-in-crime Mal, this is your space to laugh, reflect, heal, and feel a little less alone in the messy journey of figuring life out.
Episodes
Mal and Steggy circle back on their list of "hot takes" (which might actually just be lukewarm) from "too much" communication to the "bean soup" mentality. Take a listen and see if you agree or disagree with the topics at hand!
This week, we dive into the 2nd half of Love Island! We know reality TV isn't for everyone - but we can't help but be obsessed with this show! Don't worry, we sprinkle in some stuff about farts and people's behavior, too.
This week, Steph and Mal unpack the lessons hiding inside Steph's recent breakup without turning it into an ex-bashing session. From confusing chemistry with compatibility to learning what emotional safety actually feels like, they're talking about the patterns that keep showing up and how to finally break them.They also dive into trusting your intuition again, raising your standards without becoming cynical, and what Stephany hope...
Making friends in your late 30s shouldn't feel like performing a full moon ritual... and yet, here we are.
This week, we're talking about something that's been on our minds A LOT lately: finding your people! From unanswered texts to canceled plans and everyone seemingly becoming way too comfortable with being homebodies, making genuine friendships as adults feels way harder than we expected. Is it just us, or has building community ...
It seems like the ENTIRE WORLD is either watching the World Cup, Love Island, or both!!
Steggy and Mal decide to dive into their current obsession - LOVE ISLAND! We talked about all things happening in Love Island up through Episode 21 - so if you have not reached that point, THERE WILL BE SPOILERS!
Otherwise, if you love Love Island, then join us while we talk through all things happening in the Villa!
Steggy and Mal give super random hot takes - some serious and some not so serious - to kick off their HOT TAKES episode editions, which we plan to do more of in the future! We hope to have specific themes like love, friendship, careers, life, ETC. If you have any suggestions for hot takes, feel free to send them our way!
Steggy and Mal continue their talk about Toxic Masculinity and dive into the movie Ladies First (Netflix)
This week, we're diving into a topic that's often misunderstood, oversimplified, or used as a buzzword: toxic masculinity.From the pressure men face to suppress emotions to the ways these expectations affect friendships, relationships, mental health, and everyone around them - we're unpacking what toxic masculinity means and what it doesn't.
What happens when something that once made you feel magical stops feeling like home?In this episode, Steggy (Stephany) talks about her relationship with cosplay. The creativity, confidence, friendships, identity, and internet /social media version of herself that came with it - and what it feels like to step away from something that shaped her for years. Is it really about costumes...or is it actually about evolution, burnout, chan...
Steggy and Mal dive further into friendship dynamics, including the question: what the HECK do male friendships look like?! Which leads us into toxic masculinity - which we'll be discussing way more in depth on another episode!
In this episode, we’re diving into the grief of losing a friend and the emotional weight that doesn’t always get acknowledged. From wondering what you did wrong to realizing how much of yourself you gave, we unpack WHY these endings can feel so uniquely painful.We also explore the different ways men and women experience friendships and why emotional vulnerability can feel easier in some spaces than others, and how socie...
Listen to part 2 of Christopher Gutierrez walking us through dating throughout the decades and even gives men dating today some advice!
From AOL chatrooms to dating apps, we’re diving into how love has evolved across the decades. Joined by author Christopher Gutierrez, we explore ghosting, swipe culture, and what we might’ve lost (or gained) along the wayBe sure to follow Christopher at @deadxstop AND check out the Catcade in Chicago!
https://www.thecatcade.org/
In our first-ever video podcast Steggy sits down with Professional Cool Guy Benjamin Trust to talk all things relationships (vodcast available on YouTube)Watch/listen to us yap about everything from meeting Ben back when he and his now-wife were just dating, to how he balances a demanding wrestling career, fatherhood, and intentionally showing up in his marriage.We also dive into:• Private vs. public relationships• Advice for young...
Part 2 of the New Years Episode! Mal and Steggy discuss their 2026 goals, vibes, and predictions for the new year. What are your resolutions?
*Apologies again for the audio - we're still figuring out the best method for now until we get the right equipment!
In this episode, Mal and Steggy reflect on 2025: the best of, the worst of, the lessons we’re keeping, and the energy we’re leaving behind. From wins we’re proud of to experiences that humbled us, we’re unpacking what this year really taught us and how it’s shaping our intentions for 2026.We talk growth, gratitude, mistakes, glow-ups, and the personal shifts that changed us. This is your reminder that ...
Mal and Steggy read MORE submissions from the audience - except this time, we're discussing Green Flags! From the lovely green flags that make us swoon to the overrate green flags that make us rethink the color assignment.
In this episode Steggy talks about the strange, quiet ways social media has changed how we trust, date, love, and connect. From DMs that blur the lines of loyalty to the pressure of performing a perfect life online. This is a blunt look at what it feels like to be human in a digital world.Steggy shares how social media has shaped her own relationships. How and how social media has made it harder to trust, and why she finds herself ...
Join us as we continue reading submitted red flags!
The coven has spoken!In this episode, we read and react to listener-submitted red flags straight from Instagram. We received so many submissions that we had to split this one up into 2 parts! Make sure to tune in for part 2!
*Apologies for the uneven levels for the first half of the episode. We're still learning!!
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