ADHDifference - NEGATIVE SELF-TALK

In this episode Julie and Jel Legg delve into the topic of negative self-talk—those persistent, looping thoughts that can erode confidence and hold people back from trying new things. For those with ADHD, these internal narratives can be especially loud and deeply rooted, often shaped by years of misunderstanding, impulsivity, and self-doubt.

They explore how these thought patterns can quickly spiral into feelings of worthlessness or inadequacy. The conversation touches on the role of adult diagnosis in helping to reframe these thoughts, the importance of recognising unrealistic expectations, and the power of self-compassion. Together, they discuss ways to interrupt the loop of negative self-talk through mindfulness, perspective, community, and kindness.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Negative self-talk is common, and particularly intense for people with ADHD due to a mix of internal and external pressures.
• Understanding the ADHD brain brings clarity to these patterns and can open the door to self-compassion and change.
• Failure is not the same as giving up. Failing is a natural part of growth; giving up turns that failure into a permanent roadblock.
• Unrealistic expectations can sabotage joy. It’s okay to be good—not everything needs to be exceptional to be meaningful.
• Celebrate progress. Even small achievements are worth acknowledging. “Take the win” is a mindset worth adopting.
• Tools like mindfulness, reframing, and open conversations can help break the cycle of negative thinking.
• No one is alone in this. Whatever the thought or struggle, others are likely experiencing something similar—and connection can be a powerful antidote.

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