October 4, 2024 • 40 mins
What happens when a seemingly manageable lifestyle spirals into chaos? Angie Gerber shares her incredible story of transformation after hitting rock bottom in 2017 due to alcohol addiction. Her journey began with a wake-up call so intense it forced her to confront her demons head-on. This episode explores how Angie took the courageous step of seeking help from Bob Proctor, a pivotal mentor who guided her onto the path of recovery and self-discovery. Through Angie's candid narrative, you'll gain insight into the destructive isolation of addiction and the profound change that comes from choosing awareness and change.
Discover the power of community and support as Angie recounts her experiences with Alcoholics Anonymous and the transformative role it played in her sobriety journey. With the influence of motivational figures like Bob Proctor and Jack Canfield, Angie made decisive changes that not only led to her personal healing but also to financial recovery. Her story exemplifies the strength required to break free from the grip of addiction and the impact of replacing negative habits with positive influences. As Angie reflects on her path, she highlights the importance of resilience and purpose in overcoming life's challenges.
Angie's journey didn't stop at personal recovery. Inspired by her own transformation, she transitioned from a traditional real estate career to create a nurturing environment for others, especially women who faced similar traumas. Through the power of affirmations and self-love, she has become a beacon of hope, empowering others to shift from a victim mindset to one of empowerment and purpose. Embrace the lessons of gratitude and personal growth as Angie shares how life's toughest moments can lead to profound personal growth and a more fulfilled life. Tune in for an episode brimming with hope, resilience, and the transformative power of self-love.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome back to the Against All Odds the Less Than
1% Chance podcast with your host, Maria Aponte, where we will
hear stories of incrediblepeople thriving against all odds
, and my hope is that we can allsee how life is always
happening for us, even when weare the Less Than 1% Chance.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hey, hey, welcome back to, against All Odds, the
Less Than 1% Chance Podcast,with your host, maria Aponte.
I am so excited, you guys,because it's just funny how life
works, but I connected withthis amazing human.
I already feel her energy and Iknow that you guys are going to
get so much out of this.
So who is Angie Gerber?
(00:42):
Well, let me tell you, shebelieves that we become what we
think about.
She facilitates and coachespeople who are sick and tired of
being sick and tired.
I know that feeling all toowell and they want results.
So she discovered her callingas a coach and mentor in 2017.
She hit rock bottom, which we'lltalk about a lot more, and then
really at the lowest point ofher life and knew something had
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to change, and she didn't knowhow it was going to get better.
But you always have faith thatsomething is out there that can
help get you better.
She made a life transformingdecision to hire her first coach
, so I've also been.
He's also been one of mymentors, so I know exactly how
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powerful this person is.
His name is Bob Proctor, andthen the rest is history.
Through Bob's coaching, shefound the secret to getting
lasting results.
This led her to her passion andpurpose and finally living her.
I get to versus I have to everyday, which is so powerful.
She since completed hundreds ofhours of coaching and training.
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She is certified as aprofessional coach, cpc, an
energy leadership index masterpractitioner which I'm really
excited to hear about all ofthat's a core transition
dynamics specialist and a BobProctor consultant, which, again
, I've worked with that samecompany and it is seriously
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life-changing.
She believes that once you havethe awareness of this
life-changing information, youwill start shifting thoughts and
finally create the results youtruly desire.
Tell her what you want and shewill show you how to get it.
And if she can do it, you cantoo.
So welcome Angie, I'm soexcited to have you.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Oh, I'm so grateful to be here.
Thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Oh, absolutely.
So.
Let's like get into a bit ofthe backstory, because obviously
this podcast is called againstall odds and a lot of the times
I feel like this will help theperson that may be in the
process of what circumstances wewe think life has done to us,
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and and then we can shift to seehow life is happening for us
with the stories that that theyhear on here.
So I want to get like deep intolike where you were before.
You found all of this and allthis new life.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Yeah, absolutely yes, and it's so interesting that my
story and my rock bottom in2017 was with alcohol and that
whole journey of mine withalcohol.
I come from a family ofalcoholics in recovery and so I
started the teenage drinkingnothing big college, it was all
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under control.
In probably about six to ninemonths before my rock bottom in
February of 2017, it's almostlike a switch flipped and I no
longer had control, or it was.
Then the whole disease hadcontrol over me and I was making
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decisions that I wouldn't havemade.
I'd become someone I wouldn'thave recognized even a year,
half a year earlier.
And it's interesting becausewhen you're in that spot, you
feel I at least isolated myselfso terribly that friends of 30
plus years did not even knowwhat was going on.
The only person that reallyknew the extent to it of it and
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he didn't even know it all wasmy husband.
And yeah, it just.
It's just this vicious circle,that of reasons why you drink.
I remember in August theprevious August, before the
February I wrote a four pageletter on a legal pad and it was
legal pad size, so it was justlike the reasons why I drink,
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and it went on and on and it wasbecause it's sunny out, because
it's cloudy.
I'm in real estate, so becauseI closed a deal, because a deal
fell apart, because we'regetting along, because we're not
, because my kids are angels,because they're little crap
heads, it was all of the reasons, any reason, and it just was so
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interesting that in that timein my life I just became more
isolated and more isolated andmore isolated, because it got to
the point where you had to behome by a certain time because
you really didn't want to be outand about.
My husband said I don't knowhow many times I can't do this
anymore.
I can't do this, we can't.
I can't do this anymore.
(05:30):
Because it was just so out ofcontrol.
And the turning point and therock bottom for me was when he
caught me drinking and drivingwith my kids, our kids.
He said that to me and it wasin that moment just something
clicked and I knew like,literally, I was probably three
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to five days away from losingeverything and I was so to the
point of being out of controlthat it was either I was going
to hurt myself, I was going tohurt someone else or, yeah, with
just really making horrificdecisions that could be life
altering and I got so lucky inthose last months that something
like that didn't happen,because it was to the point
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where I had to continue to feedthis beast inside of me.
So like four in the morning itwas driving around showing
houses, it was going to a moviewith my kids that started
serving alcohol, so I indulgedand just making really, really,
really bad decisions that Iwouldn't have made again like a
year, half a year earlier.
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Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yeah, that's really powerful because it's funny, how
not funny, but it's interesting, how that turning point, that
switch that you're like, oh myGod, when did this take over?
The person that I am, theeverything I personally didn't.
I think that the reason that Inever got into any excessive
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drinking or drugs was because mybrother is a recovering addict
and I grew up addict and I grewup he's seven years older than
me I was probably six, seven,eight, nine, around that age
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group when I started seeing himcome home completely drugged out
or drunk or making a scene.
There was just so much of that,that and I remember like
getting scared hearing him wakeup and or not wake up.
He was like fighting in hissleep and fighting himself in
his sleep and I think thatscarred me in such a good way
because I stayed away from it,because I know that is a lot of
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the times in your gene pool, ifyou will.
If there's someone in the familythat has it, it's so much more
likely for someone else tocontinue that addictive
personality.
And I was like you know what?
Not, nope, I'm just not goingto.
And it was.
(08:03):
I tell him all the time.
You were my first eye openingperson, a way, awareness of an
against all odds story, becauseafter 20 years I saw you
completely stop and he's now 15years sober.
I believe something aroundthere and it's just crazy to to
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see and to experience like alllevels of of sobriety and the
back and forth like at for awhile he would get sober and
then we knew when it wasn't thatcase anymore and so until his
rock bottom.
Yeah, it's just such a pivotalmoment where you're like, okay,
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something's gotta give and it's,I'm gonna trust that I'm being
guided in the right direction.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Yeah, no, absolutely.
And I have a similar story withmy brother, I.
So my rock bottom was when Iwas 40.
I'm 47 now, so that was sevenyears ago.
But in high school back in the90s my brother overdosed as well
and his drug of choice backthen was like LSD and weed and
whatnot.
So my he really.
They said if he was going tolive he'd be a vegetable.
They didn't know if he wasgoing to make it.
He made it.
He's fantastic.
(09:20):
He's been sober since, butwatching him go through that
process too.
So I never touched it and Ialways thought I can control
myself with alcohol.
In the beginning, for many,many, many, many years it was
just the occasional and it wasjust going out.
And then it was blacking outonce a year and then it was
blacking out once a quarter andthen it was blacking out once a
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month and then once a week.
And I had someone that when Ishared this, this story, with
them because in the beginning Ihad so much shame for the first
three to four years, like barelyanyone knew about this I
wouldn't tell anyone about it.
And then, through just littleintuitive hits of telling people
, beautiful things started tohappen.
So then I got more comfortableBack.
(10:04):
Then I just I wouldn't tellanyone, but yeah, so with my
brother and I wouldn't touch it.
And again you think you havecontrol until you don't and,
like I said, that switch flipsor it's almost like going into a
raging stream and all of asudden you lose your footings
and you're swept away.
You can't like you'refloundering and you have nothing
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to grab onto.
It just feels so much like that.
And then you feel the out ofcontrolness and so you drink
more.
And then my husband gets mad atme, so I drink more.
The bank is calling for themortgage, so I drink more.
And it's just this circle ofendless demise of yourself.
It's interesting.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Yeah, allowing something else to have the power
of everything that's happenedin your life.
Yeah, that's so that that isvery, very powerful.
So then take us into whathappened, 2017.
And where, like to where youare now.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Yep.
So again it was in that momentwhere I knew, like my husband
had said a bunch of times, Ican't do this anymore, and I
knew that time he meant it likethere is, this is done, I'm done
, and I was about to loseeverything that I cared about.
And so what I did and again Ithink it was a lot because of
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the shame and the guilt and justnot wanting anyone to know what
was going on that I actually Ididn't check myself in anywhere,
I just met because my family'sin recovery, so they have people
and I met this woman and I juststarted to go to AA.
So there was 90 meetings in 90days.
She's like just do that.
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And I remember walking into myfirst one and I must have had
this look on my face becausethis woman came over and sat
down and she's like this is yourfirst time.
And I was just like I didn'tknow how I was going to do it
and I had drank that the morningbefore I went in there and I
was just like, oh my gosh, thisis crazy.
And I remember, for the firstthree days of my sobriety, my
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husband's like Are you okay?
Because I was just pacing andjust breathing in and out and it
was like second to second.
It wasn't even day to day yet,I hadn't been to that point.
It was second to second.
And then I got minute to minuteand it's just, I knew I had to
do it and I went for the firstthree months until I hired Bob
and I found all that informationand I truly will have to say
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that it for me, it saved my lifebecause I had self-isolated
myself so much and I felt sofreaking crazy and out of it and
just like on this island alonethat when I walked into that
room and they put me in thefirst step room with a bunch of
early on recovery people inrecovery that and then the old
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timers would come in and talk tous and I looked around and I'm
and I actually was like, okay,so I'm not the craziest person
in the room and it was justalmost like these are my people
and I said things and I feltcomfortable in that room that I
would probably never say outloud again outside of those
walls.
So it really and it made meunderstand because there was two
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gentlemen I remember older,older gentlemen, and one of them
was sober, 25 years, and thenhe went back out.
And another one was 28 yearsand he went back out.
And it wasn't until that verymoment that I understood what
the disease was.
That doesn't matter if it's aday, a week, 25 years, 28 years.
One of them ended up exactlywhere he was within two weeks
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and the other one was just abouta month.
But that's how much this thing,this disease inside of you
lives and is just waiting to befed.
And once you feed it it willexplode.
And so that's what I understoodit to be finally.
And so I went through all that.
And once you take a habit out,you have to replace it.
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So I at the beginning was just,so just.
I didn't know what to do, I wasjust surviving.
And then I watched the Secretfor the first time at age 40.
And I was like oh so I boughtBob Proctor's book.
I bought Jack Canfield, lisaNichols, john Osworth, all of it
.
It was like a whole, like.
I was like I'd never heardanyone talk like that.
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And so then I was just likesomething about Bob Proctor and
Jack Canfield and I was goingback and forth.
But I landed on Bob and I wentto go coach with him and it was
like $10,000.
And I was like well, I'm aboutto lose everything.
Yeah right, I have no idea howthat's going to happen, because
I got to take care of the bankfirst, got to get my house,
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everything, as you can imagine,I was the bill payer.
So I was not doing that for thelast half a year or so, for the
most part.
So, really financial ruin atthat point.
And he said, well, you haven'tmade the decision.
Once you make the decision, away will be shown.
And I just like when you canfeel the truth and when
something is just like right in,my intuition was screaming and
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so I made the decision andwithin 24 hours away was shown.
So I signed up, I got thecoaching for a year.
In that year I was 40 and thestuff that Bob said and how he
shared and just the gratitudeand you said it's happening for
you, not to you, and how much ofa victim I was my whole life
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and that energy I was puttingout and not being a leader, and
just it was just like a wholenew universe was open to me
literally and I was like andstuff started happening.
I was manifesting stuff afterthing after thing.
Me, this is what I'm meant todo, and so I love real estate.
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So I was in real estate and Iwas in coaching.
I was tug of warring with this.
What do I do?
What do I do?
And, following my intuition, Ifound a business partner that
was looking for a coach ormentor for new agents.
So for two years I coached inand helped new and inexperienced
agents set up and run asuccessful real estate business.
And then I help agents that are20 plus years in agents set up
and run a successful real estatebusiness.
And then I help agents that are20 plus years in the business
and I run a women's businesscollective.
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So I help women entrepreneursand it's just such a gift.
And I went back and so then Iwent and you talked about IPEC.
So I went, I got certified asIPEC because again, that
imposter syndrome well, I haveto know what I'm, I have to be
able to show that I know whatI'm doing.
So I went in.
Everything happens for a reason.
I absolutely believe that and Imet so many amazing people
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through the IPEC coaching andthe energy levels and all of
that.
And it's still like when Ireally really thought about and
sat with it, it still scratchedthe surface and went a little
bit deeper.
But Bob's information and reallyhow he explains the conscious
and the subconscious and theparadigms and our habitual
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behaviors and how they were putthere.
When they were put there, bythe time we were like five or
eight years old.
We're still making decisionsfrom that place, from that
environment and information.
I just knew that having to dothe repetition remove that those
that no longer served you andreplace them with what will is
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nothing changes if nothingchanges.
And I had lived my whole lifelike that, like before I found
this information.
We'd go for real estate, we gofly across the country and get
really jacked up and jazzed upand just so like I'm gonna do it
, I'm gonna do it, I just can'twait.
And you get back and within aweek or two you'd be like, oh,
all the, all the fun andexcitement, and I'm gonna get
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after it.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
It's all debated Because nothing?
Speaker 3 (17:49):
changed.
Yeah, it's like you canmotivate anyone for a short
period of time, but it takes thediscipline and the decision and
showing up repetitively overand over and over that's
actually ever going to changeanything.
And that's so much what Bobtaught me, because he said until
the day he left this earth andhe said until the day I leave
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this earth, I will fight myparadigms and my habitual
behaviors every day.
We all will.
So it's first becoming aware ofit and then having the tools
and the resources and goingthrough, like I did, with
thinking into results and beingprepared for it, so you can make
a different choice and you dounderstand exactly what's
happening and, more importantly,what to do to break through the
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fear and get through on faith.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Yeah, absolutely.
I actually did thinking intoresults as well in 2018.
I feel I'll do it foreverbecause it's you have it.
But it was those kind of thingsthat shifted so much in me.
So I had I lost my 11 yearcareer in the travel industry in
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2017.
And in 2018, I decided not togo back to the industry and I
was like I'm going to do my ownthing and 2018 is going to be
the year of me.
And that's when I found, likeBob Proctor and all of that, it
was it.
Definitely I still, to this day, I have meditations that I
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listen to him.
That's what I use every morning.
If I have 10 minutes or so, Ihave an 11 minute meditation and
if I have enough time, I'll doa 20 minute meditation.
But like, that's who I listento.
Because to this day and Istarted with the secret to like
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everything you're like sayingI'm like, yeah, it's so crazy,
because I had my, my brother hadlistened to that, the audios of
that, like years and years andyears ago, and I remember him
like on a kick of all of thesecret and all that stuff.
And it wasn't till 2017 that Iwatched the movie for the first
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time.
I live in Orlando, florida, soI went from, I went somewhere to
Tampa Florida and it's like atwo and something hour drive and
in that drive so I could stayawake, I just put it on the
dashboard so that I could atleast like keep alert.
And I was like, what is this?
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I didn't even come homeimmediately I went to Walmart
and I bought this huge posterboard I still have it here and I
created my first vision boardand I bought all the things and
it was, it was mind blowing.
And I listened to the movieagain and I was like, okay, I
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need to create a list of.
I was not in a greatrelationship at the time and it
was long distance and he at themoment lived in Tampa.
So it was like coming back fromseeing him.
And I remember I was like I needto write on a piece of paper
because they say that you haveto write it down.
I need to write on a piece ofpaper because they say that you
have to write it down and I needto write exactly what I want in
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a person and exactly what Iwant in a relationship.
And I still have that paper,but I had put that also on my
vision board.
The person that I was with wasnot that person.
He had a lot of the qualitiesthat I loved and what the
qualities that I didn't loveabout that relationship.
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I flipped it and put theopposite.
So let's say he cheated on me,right?
Well, I wanted someone that wasfaithful and loyal and honest
and all of the things thatcheating was not Right.
So the opposite.
And this list was like I justleft it there.
I knew it in my heart but Ijust left it.
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I found it years later and myboyfriend now fulfills probably
like 98% of that list 98, 99.
And we're working on 1%, becauseone of those was that I wanted
someone that danced.
He was not good at dancing, sowe're going to dance classes now
, so we're just going up thatlist.
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But it's something that that Ilearned through Bob, and it's so
powerful that when you're so,what you consistently think
about is what you manifest.
And it's so incredible, soincredible.
You said you started workingwith new agents and coaching
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them.
Then how did that transitioninto what you're doing now?
Speaker 3 (22:38):
Yep.
So I am still doing that in alittle.
I moved brokerages because nowI'm really focused on helping
agents a week in the business or20 plus years level up their
business With where I'm at now.
There's wealth buildingopportunity because most people
have never been to a realtorretirement party, because there
just isn't anything like that.
So I'm really passionate aboutjust showing up and supporting
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agents because I know in yourlist as well, we win through
just helping others win.
So if you can help others getto their goals, yours will be
taken care of.
And I've just always had aservant heart and I've always
loved showing up and justpouring into people.
So I was on a real estate teamfor seven years and I had the
split to the brokerage and thesplit to the team and by the
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time it got to me there justreally wasn't a lot left.
So I've found a place where Ican actually invite agents to
join me and not have to chargethem because of how the
compensation works.
And it's just a beautiful thingto be able to show up at that
level and pour into agents andnot have to charge a team split
and get them to start buildingtheir wealth and really pouring
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into themselves and into theirfuture selves.
So, yeah, it's been amazing,and I think it was in Christmas
or no New Year's Eve of 22.
So, going into 22.
That's when I went back to BobProctor and I signed up to be a
Proctor Gallagher consultant andI paid him a lot of money to be
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able to hold that title and toget certified in this and just
really be one of his consultants.
Because from 2017 to that point, I had been certified, I had
done a lot of coaching and itreally just I knew I had to be
immersed in this informationevery day through the repetition
, because it's truly whatchanges, because not much will
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go in and change unless you dothe work.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
So, yeah, yeah, I love that so much.
Oh, my gosh, this is so good.
So what tell us, like a littlebit about if you can do it
anyone can, because I thinkthat's so powerful and a lot of
people have this like limitingbelief and this comparison that
that is in a negative way,because if she did it, then
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there's no room for me, or ifthere's so much of that, so give
me all the goods on that oh,I'm so glad you asked that
because that is where it allstarted, like when I first met
Bob and he was like theaffirmations.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
Or I literally was in such a rock bottom, low spot in
my life that my firstaffirmation was looking in the
mirror because he said you lookin your left eye and you say it
five times.
And you look in your right eyeand you say it five times
because that's the gateway toyour soul.
And I look and I'm just bawlingand sobbing like I'm worthy,
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like I didn't believe it.
I didn't even believe I wasworthy.
Yeah, that is how horrible Ifelt and how I felt like a
failure.
I felt the shame, the guilt,the how is this ever going to
happen?
In those early days and minutesof recovery, I'm like, how do I
do this?
Like, how do I go here and howdo I go there and how do I go
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boating and how do I go out andhow do I?
Everything in my life to thatpoint revolved around alcohol.
All my friends, everything wedid wherever we went, alcohol,
all my friends, everything wedid wherever we went.
It was all around that.
And then that switch flippedand then it just it elaborated
that and it was just like Ididn't even know how to do life
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and in that, yeah, it's theworthy.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
For me it was just like I remember yeah, I remember
for the first time tellingmyself that I love you in the
mirror.
That was so hard and beautifulall at once and I'm getting like
emotional just thinking aboutit, because that was something
that I feel like I struggledwith so much was when I first
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started started my healthjourney about nine years ago.
It was a lot of the.
It was like, well, I don'tmatter, I have kids to take care
of, I have a career to takecare of, I have everyone else to
take care of, and it was like Iwas last place in all of that.
And then I was told I hadcancer.
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And one of the biggest thingsthat I continue to this day to
tell anybody that will listen iswhat Bob says if you have dis
ease in your body, you createdisease.
Oh, it was.
That to me is like oh, so good.
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It's mind blowing and so simpleand so good Because I dealt
with and it was a lot of theworthiness and I was sexually
assaulted when I was 16.
And I carried that by myselffor years and with that I ended
up with cancer at 18, cervicalcancer at 18, at 19.
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So if I look back, all of thatthe weight of that dis-ease
created that disease in my body.
And it, oh my gosh, the momentthat I understood what the heck
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personal development was and Iunderstood that there was a
different way of thinking ofthings, and I understood, like
all of this, all of thesementors that came into my life
when I decided that's, when Idecided that my health needed to
flip, that I needed to change,that I needed to put my oxygen
mask on first, that was themoment that I was like, okay,
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this is all new, and Iunderstand how much dis-ease I
was going through and I was justholding it all in and just
allowing everything to pile onand it just it took a number on
my body.
I was dealing with depression,with cancer, with being a single
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mom and just, yeah, notunderstanding how I was going to
make it through the 2015.
2015 for me was like craziness.
And then I decided that Ineeded to take care of my health
and when I decided, I found thetools and it was what like
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continued to change from thereand I think that's again just so
powerful.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah, it absolutely is.
And it was just like and withinlike, so those three months
that I went to AA and then itwas in that time that I watched
a secret and I hired Bob and Ifound gratitude, and it all
starts with gratitude.
Like I have right here on mywrist, I'm so happy and grateful
.
I'm so happy and grateful nowthat, because that's the, that's
(29:47):
what saved, like is that, andthat's your right hand, that's
my left the interesting partabout it.
So if I can go like this, the, Iam grateful that's in Bob's
handwriting.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
So after he passed, away.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Yeah, I had his assistant get one of his
journals that says I'm gratefulfor, and I took the I am
grateful in his handwriting andI was just like when I was after
he had passed, and I wasplanning on getting a tattoo
with my bonus son, who is goingto be 18.
So I knew I hadn't got it yetfor a reason, and it was for
that reason and it's just like,yeah, and that's in that darkest
(30:25):
moment, in those darkest days,if I could look back and the
thing that shifted me I don'teven know if it's the quickest,
but just with the most impactwas Bob saying if you can't be
grateful for where you're at andthere's good in everything, you
are not going to allow foranything like to come into your
(30:46):
space that you want.
So I had never said I wasgrateful for in the way of
really like, really thinkingabout it and meaning it, and so
I just found gratitude foreverything and it was through,
like, just like, okay, so I'vedone this and I still have that,
and I still have this and this,and it was just like and then
you're raising your vibration toa different frequency and
(31:10):
that's where I say, if I can doit.
Anyone can do this and I canshow anyone how to do this
because truly it's just knowingthe tools and the resources, the
higher faculties I had neverheard of such things.
We live from our five senses.
What's a higher faculty?
It took me a long time ofstudying to even just being able
to have those at my fingertipsand now it's just like I live by
(31:32):
them and I always have beenintuitive to some point.
But really actually tounderstand that and to dive in
and to study yourself, and justthe more you study yourself and
the more you get to knowyourself, the more I think it
has absolutely made me a bettercoach and a better mentor,
because you can start seeing inothers more what they don't yet
(31:53):
see in themselves.
And it's just.
It's such a beautiful gift andthat's where I just knew that
this was any.
Like you said, anyone that willlisten.
I have the next 40 to 50 yearsnow.
Yes, I didn't have it the first40.
And everything happens for areason.
I knew I need to go througheverything.
That's just one of my rockbottoms, as you can imagine.
There's definitely more, andyet that was the one that really
(32:16):
just rocked everything andshifted and gave me the this is
happening for me, not to me,moment and I know I wouldn't be
in the seat and I know Iwouldn't have met Bob.
I know my whole life in thetrajectory would not have
changed had I not went throughthat darkest, darkest time.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
Yeah, I feel like I used to say that all the time
everything happens for a reasonand I switched it.
I switched it to everything haspurpose.
Yes, happens for a purpose,because I don't believe like bad
things happen to a kid.
I don't think that there's areason for it, but you could
(32:56):
always find purpose and meaningbehind it.
So I feel like I can help womenthat have been sexually
assaulted, because I have been,yes, many, many years, and it
created disease in my body, andso I feel like we can always
find purpose and meaning behindthe things that we go through,
(33:28):
even if there's not a reason forit.
I love that.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
Yeah, and I have a similar thing like that and I
love that purpose Because Ioften hear people say we can do
hard things.
We can do hard things and I'mlike what if we said we make
hard things look easy?
Yeah, so I love, I love that.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
It's just a flip of words that just create a
different impact and make itmore like.
I know I love Tony Robbins formany, many years and I know that
he I don't even know if it washim, but I know that he says a
lot life is happening for youand not to you.
But until I worked with Brad,that said, which is my mindset
(34:07):
coach, that said it every singletime and it was like repetitive
, and repetitive, and repetitive.
And I was like, yeah, I'madopting that.
You got it from your mentor, Igot it from my like I'm adopting
that because that really makesan impactful for me and so I
love that, that we can just flipit just a little bit and it
(34:30):
makes it so impactful, yeah, sogo ahead.
Speaker 3 (34:35):
Well, and I was just gonna say and I appreciate that,
because even with Bob it tookme a while Like you said, you
had to hear it over and over andover again to accept it,
because he would just be likethere's good in everything and
it's happening for you, not toyou.
And again I was in such a victimmentality and victim mode.
I had been in a difficult coparenting situation and just
(34:56):
played the victim role and tothe point of disease, just all
the bad energy.
And it took me a while toreally grasp that and accept and
understand and work throughthat there's good in everything
and that this is happening forme, not to me, and remove that
victim mentality.
Because you said there's onlytwo people you can be.
You can be a victim or a leaderand you get to choose.
(35:19):
And being a victim for so, so,so many decades, it didn't
happen instantly, so absolutely,and I didn't understand like
there's not good in this,there's not good in that, and
he's just like there's good andeverything.
You just got to look for it,yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
Yeah, believe me, I, and I think that sometimes
people are apprehensive to tellme things because they already
know that I'm going to be likewell, but aren't you stronger
because of it?
You've already survived yourworst day, like you've already
gotten through it and you'restill here.
That should be proof that thisis nothing in comparison to all
(35:55):
the things that you've alreadygone through.
That should be your proof thatyou can get through anything,
and it's so hard to sometimeslike hear when you're in that
victim mode.
So, yeah, that's something.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
Yeah, and even victim was a bad word.
Growing up I didn't evenunderstand that.
Or the other thing was ignorant.
Bob used ignorant a lot.
I'm like, again because of theenvironment.
I grew up in what that wordmeant to me.
It's not at all what it meantfor him.
So that's again.
He's like, again because of theenvironment.
I grew up in what that wordmeant to me.
It's not at all what it meantfor him.
So that's again.
He's like your perception andyour perspective.
It can change.
And I was like whoa, like I canmake different choices and
(36:35):
decisions and think differently.
And it was just like this againthis whole new world open up
and everything like this again,this whole new world open up and
it just everything.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
It's so amazing, that's so awesome.
Okay, so what kind of ritualsdo you do to like level up to
where you are now?
Speaker 3 (36:51):
Yes, so I greet gratitude all the time.
I start my day with gratitudeand it just gets you in the
right vibration, the rightenergy.
And then I have been alwaysworking a lot with triggers, so
we'll get triggered all day,throughout the day, and I call
it the power of two.
So two seconds, two minutes,two hours, days, weeks, months,
(37:15):
years, decades we get to choosehow long we're triggered for.
So it's even in those momentsthat I choose, like what I'm
grateful for, or I go to theopposite, because he always
talks about the pendulum and thepolar opposite.
Everything has a polar opposite.
So it's really what's helped methe most throughout my day is,
again, always starting withgratitude and then just the more
(37:36):
aware you can be and the moreyou don't let it happen to you.
It's happening for you and justreframing it, looking at it
from a different perspective,studying constantly, studying
Again, it's Tony, it's BobProctor, it's just different
people that I'm connecting with.
I do a lot of just following myintuition and I'm always going
(37:58):
to be a student, because Ibelieve everyone is our student
and our teacher.
Yeah, so I'm learning frompeople constantly and really
just the more I get to knowmyself, the more I can help
others.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
Yeah, I agree, I love it.
So anything else that you wantto like, give to us.
Like, give to us.
Speaker 3 (38:20):
I just want to say, because I remember when I was in
the depths of my addiction, Iwould be scrolling Facebook and
there's this one girl that Iwent to school with, that she
was in recovery and she had beenfor a few years and I would
stop and I look at it, but I wasjust, I don't have a problem.
I wouldn't even admit I had aproblem until I absolutely had
(38:40):
to, and it's just it doesn't?
It sometimes has to get to thatpoint until I absolutely had to
, and it's just it doesn't.
It sometimes has to get to thatpoint.
For me.
It had to get to that point forme to listen.
If anyone's listening that'sbeen weighing on them, or that
they maybe should seek help, orthis isn't the way they want it
to be, or they know that it canbe different or can be better.
Just know that you're not alone.
(39:02):
You might feel alone, because Icertainly, certainly did.
There's help and there's placesthat you can go and people that
you can call and if you need tocall me, I just don't want
anyone to feel as isolated andalone as I did to myself,
because it's a very, very, verylonely place.
You start telling yourselveseven more stories than you ever
(39:25):
thought possible.
And then they get heavier andharder, and deeper and darker
and I just, if I can, talkanyone into seeking out help or
someone.
That would be my ask today.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
That's amazing.
So I'm going to put Angie'sinformation in the show notes
and just any way to get incontact with her website or
social media or whatever.
Angie, thank you so much.
This was amazing.
It's so crazy that I truly feellike vibration.
(39:59):
There's definitely this big hugepurpose behind this recording
today and I'm just so incrediblygrateful that we connected and
sometimes we get away from thestudies that made a difference,
and it's been a while since Ihaven't reviewed, thinking into
results and just a lot of thingsthat you said that I'm like
(40:20):
yeah, that was so good man.
I need to go back through that,so thank you for that.
It made me aware of what toolsI have that I probably haven't
used in a while.
So I appreciate you andlisteners.
I hope you got some awesomestuff out of this because it was
so good.
Thank you so much for listeningtoday.
(40:40):
Peace out, guys.
Love your life.
Bye.
Speaker 1 (40:42):
Thank you so much for listening today.
Peace out, guys.
Love your life.
Bye.
Welcome back to the Against All Odds the Less Than
1% Chance podcast with your host, Maria Aponte, where we will
hear stories of incrediblepeople thriving against all odds
, and my hope is that we can allsee how life is always
happening for us, even when weare the Less Than 1% Chance.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Hey, hey, welcome back to, against All Odds, the
Less Than 1% Chance Podcast,with your host, maria Aponte.
I am so excited, you guys,because it's just funny how life
works, but I connected withthis amazing human.
I already feel her energy and Iknow that you guys are going to
get so much out of this.
So who is Angie Gerber?
(00:42):
Well, let me tell you, shebelieves that we become what we
think about.
She facilitates and coachespeople who are sick and tired of
being sick and tired.
I know that feeling all toowell and they want results.
So she discovered her callingas a coach and mentor in 2017.
She hit rock bottom, which we'lltalk about a lot more, and then
really at the lowest point ofher life and knew something had
(01:05):
to change, and she didn't knowhow it was going to get better.
But you always have faith thatsomething is out there that can
help get you better.
She made a life transformingdecision to hire her first coach
, so I've also been.
He's also been one of mymentors, so I know exactly how
(01:27):
powerful this person is.
His name is Bob Proctor, andthen the rest is history.
Through Bob's coaching, shefound the secret to getting
lasting results.
This led her to her passion andpurpose and finally living her.
I get to versus I have to everyday, which is so powerful.
She since completed hundreds ofhours of coaching and training.
(01:49):
She is certified as aprofessional coach, cpc, an
energy leadership index masterpractitioner which I'm really
excited to hear about all ofthat's a core transition
dynamics specialist and a BobProctor consultant, which, again
, I've worked with that samecompany and it is seriously
(02:14):
life-changing.
She believes that once you havethe awareness of this
life-changing information, youwill start shifting thoughts and
finally create the results youtruly desire.
Tell her what you want and shewill show you how to get it.
And if she can do it, you cantoo.
So welcome Angie, I'm soexcited to have you.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Oh, I'm so grateful to be here.
Thank you so much for having me.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Oh, absolutely.
So.
Let's like get into a bit ofthe backstory, because obviously
this podcast is called againstall odds and a lot of the times
I feel like this will help theperson that may be in the
process of what circumstances wewe think life has done to us,
(03:02):
and and then we can shift to seehow life is happening for us
with the stories that that theyhear on here.
So I want to get like deep intolike where you were before.
You found all of this and allthis new life.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Yeah, absolutely yes, and it's so interesting that my
story and my rock bottom in2017 was with alcohol and that
whole journey of mine withalcohol.
I come from a family ofalcoholics in recovery and so I
started the teenage drinkingnothing big college, it was all
(03:43):
under control.
In probably about six to ninemonths before my rock bottom in
February of 2017, it's almostlike a switch flipped and I no
longer had control, or it was.
Then the whole disease hadcontrol over me and I was making
(04:04):
decisions that I wouldn't havemade.
I'd become someone I wouldn'thave recognized even a year,
half a year earlier.
And it's interesting becausewhen you're in that spot, you
feel I at least isolated myselfso terribly that friends of 30
plus years did not even knowwhat was going on.
The only person that reallyknew the extent to it of it and
(04:26):
he didn't even know it all wasmy husband.
And yeah, it just.
It's just this vicious circle,that of reasons why you drink.
I remember in August theprevious August, before the
February I wrote a four pageletter on a legal pad and it was
legal pad size, so it was justlike the reasons why I drink,
(04:48):
and it went on and on and it wasbecause it's sunny out, because
it's cloudy.
I'm in real estate, so becauseI closed a deal, because a deal
fell apart, because we'regetting along, because we're not
, because my kids are angels,because they're little crap
heads, it was all of the reasons, any reason, and it just was so
(05:09):
interesting that in that timein my life I just became more
isolated and more isolated andmore isolated, because it got to
the point where you had to behome by a certain time because
you really didn't want to be outand about.
My husband said I don't knowhow many times I can't do this
anymore.
I can't do this, we can't.
I can't do this anymore.
(05:30):
Because it was just so out ofcontrol.
And the turning point and therock bottom for me was when he
caught me drinking and drivingwith my kids, our kids.
He said that to me and it wasin that moment just something
clicked and I knew like,literally, I was probably three
(05:50):
to five days away from losingeverything and I was so to the
point of being out of controlthat it was either I was going
to hurt myself, I was going tohurt someone else or, yeah, with
just really making horrificdecisions that could be life
altering and I got so lucky inthose last months that something
like that didn't happen,because it was to the point
(06:12):
where I had to continue to feedthis beast inside of me.
So like four in the morning itwas driving around showing
houses, it was going to a moviewith my kids that started
serving alcohol, so I indulgedand just making really, really,
really bad decisions that Iwouldn't have made again like a
year, half a year earlier.
(06:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:34):
Yeah, that's really powerful because it's funny, how
not funny, but it's interesting, how that turning point, that
switch that you're like, oh myGod, when did this take over?
The person that I am, theeverything I personally didn't.
I think that the reason that Inever got into any excessive
(06:56):
drinking or drugs was because mybrother is a recovering addict
and I grew up addict and I grewup he's seven years older than
me I was probably six, seven,eight, nine, around that age
(07:20):
group when I started seeing himcome home completely drugged out
or drunk or making a scene.
There was just so much of that,that and I remember like
getting scared hearing him wakeup and or not wake up.
He was like fighting in hissleep and fighting himself in
his sleep and I think thatscarred me in such a good way
because I stayed away from it,because I know that is a lot of
(07:42):
the times in your gene pool, ifyou will.
If there's someone in the familythat has it, it's so much more
likely for someone else tocontinue that addictive
personality.
And I was like you know what?
Not, nope, I'm just not goingto.
And it was.
(08:03):
I tell him all the time.
You were my first eye openingperson, a way, awareness of an
against all odds story, becauseafter 20 years I saw you
completely stop and he's now 15years sober.
I believe something aroundthere and it's just crazy to to
(08:27):
see and to experience like alllevels of of sobriety and the
back and forth like at for awhile he would get sober and
then we knew when it wasn't thatcase anymore and so until his
rock bottom.
Yeah, it's just such a pivotalmoment where you're like, okay,
(08:48):
something's gotta give and it's,I'm gonna trust that I'm being
guided in the right direction.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
Yeah, no, absolutely.
And I have a similar story withmy brother, I.
So my rock bottom was when Iwas 40.
I'm 47 now, so that was sevenyears ago.
But in high school back in the90s my brother overdosed as well
and his drug of choice backthen was like LSD and weed and
whatnot.
So my he really.
They said if he was going tolive he'd be a vegetable.
They didn't know if he wasgoing to make it.
He made it.
He's fantastic.
(09:20):
He's been sober since, butwatching him go through that
process too.
So I never touched it and Ialways thought I can control
myself with alcohol.
In the beginning, for many,many, many, many years it was
just the occasional and it wasjust going out.
And then it was blacking outonce a year and then it was
blacking out once a quarter andthen it was blacking out once a
(09:42):
month and then once a week.
And I had someone that when Ishared this, this story, with
them because in the beginning Ihad so much shame for the first
three to four years, like barelyanyone knew about this I
wouldn't tell anyone about it.
And then, through just littleintuitive hits of telling people
, beautiful things started tohappen.
So then I got more comfortableBack.
(10:04):
Then I just I wouldn't tellanyone, but yeah, so with my
brother and I wouldn't touch it.
And again you think you havecontrol until you don't and,
like I said, that switch flipsor it's almost like going into a
raging stream and all of asudden you lose your footings
and you're swept away.
You can't like you'refloundering and you have nothing
(10:25):
to grab onto.
It just feels so much like that.
And then you feel the out ofcontrolness and so you drink
more.
And then my husband gets mad atme, so I drink more.
The bank is calling for themortgage, so I drink more.
And it's just this circle ofendless demise of yourself.
It's interesting.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Yeah, allowing something else to have the power
of everything that's happenedin your life.
Yeah, that's so that that isvery, very powerful.
So then take us into whathappened, 2017.
And where, like to where youare now.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
Yep.
So again it was in that momentwhere I knew, like my husband
had said a bunch of times, Ican't do this anymore, and I
knew that time he meant it likethere is, this is done, I'm done
, and I was about to loseeverything that I cared about.
And so what I did and again Ithink it was a lot because of
(11:24):
the shame and the guilt and justnot wanting anyone to know what
was going on that I actually Ididn't check myself in anywhere,
I just met because my family'sin recovery, so they have people
and I met this woman and I juststarted to go to AA.
So there was 90 meetings in 90days.
She's like just do that.
(11:45):
And I remember walking into myfirst one and I must have had
this look on my face becausethis woman came over and sat
down and she's like this is yourfirst time.
And I was just like I didn'tknow how I was going to do it
and I had drank that the morningbefore I went in there and I
was just like, oh my gosh, thisis crazy.
And I remember, for the firstthree days of my sobriety, my
(12:09):
husband's like Are you okay?
Because I was just pacing andjust breathing in and out and it
was like second to second.
It wasn't even day to day yet,I hadn't been to that point.
It was second to second.
And then I got minute to minuteand it's just, I knew I had to
do it and I went for the firstthree months until I hired Bob
and I found all that informationand I truly will have to say
(12:32):
that it for me, it saved my lifebecause I had self-isolated
myself so much and I felt sofreaking crazy and out of it and
just like on this island alonethat when I walked into that
room and they put me in thefirst step room with a bunch of
early on recovery people inrecovery that and then the old
(12:52):
timers would come in and talk tous and I looked around and I'm
and I actually was like, okay,so I'm not the craziest person
in the room and it was justalmost like these are my people
and I said things and I feltcomfortable in that room that I
would probably never say outloud again outside of those
walls.
So it really and it made meunderstand because there was two
(13:15):
gentlemen I remember older,older gentlemen, and one of them
was sober, 25 years, and thenhe went back out.
And another one was 28 yearsand he went back out.
And it wasn't until that verymoment that I understood what
the disease was.
That doesn't matter if it's aday, a week, 25 years, 28 years.
One of them ended up exactlywhere he was within two weeks
(13:40):
and the other one was just abouta month.
But that's how much this thing,this disease inside of you
lives and is just waiting to befed.
And once you feed it it willexplode.
And so that's what I understoodit to be finally.
And so I went through all that.
And once you take a habit out,you have to replace it.
(14:00):
So I at the beginning was just,so just.
I didn't know what to do, I wasjust surviving.
And then I watched the Secretfor the first time at age 40.
And I was like oh so I boughtBob Proctor's book.
I bought Jack Canfield, lisaNichols, john Osworth, all of it
.
It was like a whole, like.
I was like I'd never heardanyone talk like that.
(14:20):
And so then I was just likesomething about Bob Proctor and
Jack Canfield and I was goingback and forth.
But I landed on Bob and I wentto go coach with him and it was
like $10,000.
And I was like well, I'm aboutto lose everything.
Yeah right, I have no idea howthat's going to happen, because
I got to take care of the bankfirst, got to get my house,
(14:42):
everything, as you can imagine,I was the bill payer.
So I was not doing that for thelast half a year or so, for the
most part.
So, really financial ruin atthat point.
And he said, well, you haven'tmade the decision.
Once you make the decision, away will be shown.
And I just like when you canfeel the truth and when
something is just like right in,my intuition was screaming and
(15:04):
so I made the decision andwithin 24 hours away was shown.
So I signed up, I got thecoaching for a year.
In that year I was 40 and thestuff that Bob said and how he
shared and just the gratitudeand you said it's happening for
you, not to you, and how much ofa victim I was my whole life
(15:29):
and that energy I was puttingout and not being a leader, and
just it was just like a wholenew universe was open to me
literally and I was like andstuff started happening.
I was manifesting stuff afterthing after thing.
Me, this is what I'm meant todo, and so I love real estate.
(15:56):
So I was in real estate and Iwas in coaching.
I was tug of warring with this.
What do I do?
What do I do?
And, following my intuition, Ifound a business partner that
was looking for a coach ormentor for new agents.
So for two years I coached inand helped new and inexperienced
agents set up and run asuccessful real estate business.
And then I help agents that are20 plus years in agents set up
and run a successful real estatebusiness.
And then I help agents that are20 plus years in the business
and I run a women's businesscollective.
(16:18):
So I help women entrepreneursand it's just such a gift.
And I went back and so then Iwent and you talked about IPEC.
So I went, I got certified asIPEC because again, that
imposter syndrome well, I haveto know what I'm, I have to be
able to show that I know whatI'm doing.
So I went in.
Everything happens for a reason.
I absolutely believe that and Imet so many amazing people
(16:42):
through the IPEC coaching andthe energy levels and all of
that.
And it's still like when Ireally really thought about and
sat with it, it still scratchedthe surface and went a little
bit deeper.
But Bob's information and reallyhow he explains the conscious
and the subconscious and theparadigms and our habitual
(17:02):
behaviors and how they were putthere.
When they were put there, bythe time we were like five or
eight years old.
We're still making decisionsfrom that place, from that
environment and information.
I just knew that having to dothe repetition remove that those
that no longer served you andreplace them with what will is
(17:22):
nothing changes if nothingchanges.
And I had lived my whole lifelike that, like before I found
this information.
We'd go for real estate, we gofly across the country and get
really jacked up and jazzed upand just so like I'm gonna do it
, I'm gonna do it, I just can'twait.
And you get back and within aweek or two you'd be like, oh,
all the, all the fun andexcitement, and I'm gonna get
(17:46):
after it.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
It's all debated Because nothing?
Speaker 3 (17:49):
changed.
Yeah, it's like you canmotivate anyone for a short
period of time, but it takes thediscipline and the decision and
showing up repetitively overand over and over that's
actually ever going to changeanything.
And that's so much what Bobtaught me, because he said until
the day he left this earth andhe said until the day I leave
(18:09):
this earth, I will fight myparadigms and my habitual
behaviors every day.
We all will.
So it's first becoming aware ofit and then having the tools
and the resources and goingthrough, like I did, with
thinking into results and beingprepared for it, so you can make
a different choice and you dounderstand exactly what's
happening and, more importantly,what to do to break through the
(18:32):
fear and get through on faith.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Yeah, absolutely.
I actually did thinking intoresults as well in 2018.
I feel I'll do it foreverbecause it's you have it.
But it was those kind of thingsthat shifted so much in me.
So I had I lost my 11 yearcareer in the travel industry in
(18:57):
2017.
And in 2018, I decided not togo back to the industry and I
was like I'm going to do my ownthing and 2018 is going to be
the year of me.
And that's when I found, likeBob Proctor and all of that, it
was it.
Definitely I still, to this day, I have meditations that I
(19:23):
listen to him.
That's what I use every morning.
If I have 10 minutes or so, Ihave an 11 minute meditation and
if I have enough time, I'll doa 20 minute meditation.
But like, that's who I listento.
Because to this day and Istarted with the secret to like
(19:43):
everything you're like sayingI'm like, yeah, it's so crazy,
because I had my, my brother hadlistened to that, the audios of
that, like years and years andyears ago, and I remember him
like on a kick of all of thesecret and all that stuff.
And it wasn't till 2017 that Iwatched the movie for the first
(20:05):
time.
I live in Orlando, florida, soI went from, I went somewhere to
Tampa Florida and it's like atwo and something hour drive and
in that drive so I could stayawake, I just put it on the
dashboard so that I could atleast like keep alert.
And I was like, what is this?
(20:26):
I didn't even come homeimmediately I went to Walmart
and I bought this huge posterboard I still have it here and I
created my first vision boardand I bought all the things and
it was, it was mind blowing.
And I listened to the movieagain and I was like, okay, I
(20:48):
need to create a list of.
I was not in a greatrelationship at the time and it
was long distance and he at themoment lived in Tampa.
So it was like coming back fromseeing him.
And I remember I was like I needto write on a piece of paper
because they say that you haveto write it down.
I need to write on a piece ofpaper because they say that you
have to write it down and I needto write exactly what I want in
(21:11):
a person and exactly what Iwant in a relationship.
And I still have that paper,but I had put that also on my
vision board.
The person that I was with wasnot that person.
He had a lot of the qualitiesthat I loved and what the
qualities that I didn't loveabout that relationship.
(21:31):
I flipped it and put theopposite.
So let's say he cheated on me,right?
Well, I wanted someone that wasfaithful and loyal and honest
and all of the things thatcheating was not Right.
So the opposite.
And this list was like I justleft it there.
I knew it in my heart but Ijust left it.
(21:53):
I found it years later and myboyfriend now fulfills probably
like 98% of that list 98, 99.
And we're working on 1%, becauseone of those was that I wanted
someone that danced.
He was not good at dancing, sowe're going to dance classes now
, so we're just going up thatlist.
(22:13):
But it's something that that Ilearned through Bob, and it's so
powerful that when you're so,what you consistently think
about is what you manifest.
And it's so incredible, soincredible.
You said you started workingwith new agents and coaching
(22:34):
them.
Then how did that transitioninto what you're doing now?
Speaker 3 (22:38):
Yep.
So I am still doing that in alittle.
I moved brokerages because nowI'm really focused on helping
agents a week in the business or20 plus years level up their
business With where I'm at now.
There's wealth buildingopportunity because most people
have never been to a realtorretirement party, because there
just isn't anything like that.
So I'm really passionate aboutjust showing up and supporting
(23:02):
agents because I know in yourlist as well, we win through
just helping others win.
So if you can help others getto their goals, yours will be
taken care of.
And I've just always had aservant heart and I've always
loved showing up and justpouring into people.
So I was on a real estate teamfor seven years and I had the
split to the brokerage and thesplit to the team and by the
(23:25):
time it got to me there justreally wasn't a lot left.
So I've found a place where Ican actually invite agents to
join me and not have to chargethem because of how the
compensation works.
And it's just a beautiful thingto be able to show up at that
level and pour into agents andnot have to charge a team split
and get them to start buildingtheir wealth and really pouring
(23:48):
into themselves and into theirfuture selves.
So, yeah, it's been amazing,and I think it was in Christmas
or no New Year's Eve of 22.
So, going into 22.
That's when I went back to BobProctor and I signed up to be a
Proctor Gallagher consultant andI paid him a lot of money to be
(24:10):
able to hold that title and toget certified in this and just
really be one of his consultants.
Because from 2017 to that point, I had been certified, I had
done a lot of coaching and itreally just I knew I had to be
immersed in this informationevery day through the repetition
, because it's truly whatchanges, because not much will
(24:32):
go in and change unless you dothe work.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
So, yeah, yeah, I love that so much.
Oh, my gosh, this is so good.
So what tell us, like a littlebit about if you can do it
anyone can, because I thinkthat's so powerful and a lot of
people have this like limitingbelief and this comparison that
that is in a negative way,because if she did it, then
(24:58):
there's no room for me, or ifthere's so much of that, so give
me all the goods on that oh,I'm so glad you asked that
because that is where it allstarted, like when I first met
Bob and he was like theaffirmations.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
Or I literally was in such a rock bottom, low spot in
my life that my firstaffirmation was looking in the
mirror because he said you lookin your left eye and you say it
five times.
And you look in your right eyeand you say it five times
because that's the gateway toyour soul.
And I look and I'm just bawlingand sobbing like I'm worthy,
(25:34):
like I didn't believe it.
I didn't even believe I wasworthy.
Yeah, that is how horrible Ifelt and how I felt like a
failure.
I felt the shame, the guilt,the how is this ever going to
happen?
In those early days and minutesof recovery, I'm like, how do I
do this?
Like, how do I go here and howdo I go there and how do I go
(25:55):
boating and how do I go out andhow do I?
Everything in my life to thatpoint revolved around alcohol.
All my friends, everything wedid wherever we went, alcohol,
all my friends, everything wedid wherever we went.
It was all around that.
And then that switch flippedand then it just it elaborated
that and it was just like Ididn't even know how to do life
(26:15):
and in that, yeah, it's theworthy.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
For me it was just like I remember yeah, I remember
for the first time tellingmyself that I love you in the
mirror.
That was so hard and beautifulall at once and I'm getting like
emotional just thinking aboutit, because that was something
that I feel like I struggledwith so much was when I first
(26:40):
started started my healthjourney about nine years ago.
It was a lot of the.
It was like, well, I don'tmatter, I have kids to take care
of, I have a career to takecare of, I have everyone else to
take care of, and it was like Iwas last place in all of that.
And then I was told I hadcancer.
(27:03):
And one of the biggest thingsthat I continue to this day to
tell anybody that will listen iswhat Bob says if you have dis
ease in your body, you createdisease.
Oh, it was.
That to me is like oh, so good.
(27:23):
It's mind blowing and so simpleand so good Because I dealt
with and it was a lot of theworthiness and I was sexually
assaulted when I was 16.
And I carried that by myselffor years and with that I ended
up with cancer at 18, cervicalcancer at 18, at 19.
(27:46):
So if I look back, all of thatthe weight of that dis-ease
created that disease in my body.
And it, oh my gosh, the momentthat I understood what the heck
(28:07):
personal development was and Iunderstood that there was a
different way of thinking ofthings, and I understood, like
all of this, all of thesementors that came into my life
when I decided that's, when Idecided that my health needed to
flip, that I needed to change,that I needed to put my oxygen
mask on first, that was themoment that I was like, okay,
(28:33):
this is all new, and Iunderstand how much dis-ease I
was going through and I was justholding it all in and just
allowing everything to pile onand it just it took a number on
my body.
I was dealing with depression,with cancer, with being a single
(28:55):
mom and just, yeah, notunderstanding how I was going to
make it through the 2015.
2015 for me was like craziness.
And then I decided that Ineeded to take care of my health
and when I decided, I found thetools and it was what like
(29:19):
continued to change from thereand I think that's again just so
powerful.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
Yeah, it absolutely is.
And it was just like and withinlike, so those three months
that I went to AA and then itwas in that time that I watched
a secret and I hired Bob and Ifound gratitude, and it all
starts with gratitude.
Like I have right here on mywrist, I'm so happy and grateful
.
I'm so happy and grateful nowthat, because that's the, that's
(29:47):
what saved, like is that, andthat's your right hand, that's
my left the interesting partabout it.
So if I can go like this, the, Iam grateful that's in Bob's
handwriting.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
So after he passed, away.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Yeah, I had his assistant get one of his
journals that says I'm gratefulfor, and I took the I am
grateful in his handwriting andI was just like when I was after
he had passed, and I wasplanning on getting a tattoo
with my bonus son, who is goingto be 18.
So I knew I hadn't got it yetfor a reason, and it was for
that reason and it's just like,yeah, and that's in that darkest
(30:25):
moment, in those darkest days,if I could look back and the
thing that shifted me I don'teven know if it's the quickest,
but just with the most impactwas Bob saying if you can't be
grateful for where you're at andthere's good in everything, you
are not going to allow foranything like to come into your
(30:46):
space that you want.
So I had never said I wasgrateful for in the way of
really like, really thinkingabout it and meaning it, and so
I just found gratitude foreverything and it was through,
like, just like, okay, so I'vedone this and I still have that,
and I still have this and this,and it was just like and then
you're raising your vibration toa different frequency and
(31:10):
that's where I say, if I can doit.
Anyone can do this and I canshow anyone how to do this
because truly it's just knowingthe tools and the resources, the
higher faculties I had neverheard of such things.
We live from our five senses.
What's a higher faculty?
It took me a long time ofstudying to even just being able
to have those at my fingertipsand now it's just like I live by
(31:32):
them and I always have beenintuitive to some point.
But really actually tounderstand that and to dive in
and to study yourself, and justthe more you study yourself and
the more you get to knowyourself, the more I think it
has absolutely made me a bettercoach and a better mentor,
because you can start seeing inothers more what they don't yet
(31:53):
see in themselves.
And it's just.
It's such a beautiful gift andthat's where I just knew that
this was any.
Like you said, anyone that willlisten.
I have the next 40 to 50 yearsnow.
Yes, I didn't have it the first40.
And everything happens for areason.
I knew I need to go througheverything.
That's just one of my rockbottoms, as you can imagine.
There's definitely more, andyet that was the one that really
(32:16):
just rocked everything andshifted and gave me the this is
happening for me, not to me,moment and I know I wouldn't be
in the seat and I know Iwouldn't have met Bob.
I know my whole life in thetrajectory would not have
changed had I not went throughthat darkest, darkest time.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
Yeah, I feel like I used to say that all the time
everything happens for a reasonand I switched it.
I switched it to everything haspurpose.
Yes, happens for a purpose,because I don't believe like bad
things happen to a kid.
I don't think that there's areason for it, but you could
(32:56):
always find purpose and meaningbehind it.
So I feel like I can help womenthat have been sexually
assaulted, because I have been,yes, many, many years, and it
created disease in my body, andso I feel like we can always
find purpose and meaning behindthe things that we go through,
(33:28):
even if there's not a reason forit.
I love that.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
Yeah, and I have a similar thing like that and I
love that purpose Because Ioften hear people say we can do
hard things.
We can do hard things and I'mlike what if we said we make
hard things look easy?
Yeah, so I love, I love that.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
It's just a flip of words that just create a
different impact and make itmore like.
I know I love Tony Robbins formany, many years and I know that
he I don't even know if it washim, but I know that he says a
lot life is happening for youand not to you.
But until I worked with Brad,that said, which is my mindset
(34:07):
coach, that said it every singletime and it was like repetitive
, and repetitive, and repetitive.
And I was like, yeah, I'madopting that.
You got it from your mentor, Igot it from my like I'm adopting
that because that really makesan impactful for me and so I
love that, that we can just flipit just a little bit and it
(34:30):
makes it so impactful, yeah, sogo ahead.
Speaker 3 (34:35):
Well, and I was just gonna say and I appreciate that,
because even with Bob it tookme a while Like you said, you
had to hear it over and over andover again to accept it,
because he would just be likethere's good in everything and
it's happening for you, not toyou.
And again I was in such a victimmentality and victim mode.
I had been in a difficult coparenting situation and just
(34:56):
played the victim role and tothe point of disease, just all
the bad energy.
And it took me a while toreally grasp that and accept and
understand and work throughthat there's good in everything
and that this is happening forme, not to me, and remove that
victim mentality.
Because you said there's onlytwo people you can be.
You can be a victim or a leaderand you get to choose.
(35:19):
And being a victim for so, so,so many decades, it didn't
happen instantly, so absolutely,and I didn't understand like
there's not good in this,there's not good in that, and
he's just like there's good andeverything.
You just got to look for it,yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
Yeah, believe me, I, and I think that sometimes
people are apprehensive to tellme things because they already
know that I'm going to be likewell, but aren't you stronger
because of it?
You've already survived yourworst day, like you've already
gotten through it and you'restill here.
That should be proof that thisis nothing in comparison to all
(35:55):
the things that you've alreadygone through.
That should be your proof thatyou can get through anything,
and it's so hard to sometimeslike hear when you're in that
victim mode.
So, yeah, that's something.
Speaker 3 (36:11):
Yeah, and even victim was a bad word.
Growing up I didn't evenunderstand that.
Or the other thing was ignorant.
Bob used ignorant a lot.
I'm like, again because of theenvironment.
I grew up in what that wordmeant to me.
It's not at all what it meantfor him.
So that's again.
He's like, again because of theenvironment.
I grew up in what that wordmeant to me.
It's not at all what it meantfor him.
So that's again.
He's like your perception andyour perspective.
It can change.
And I was like whoa, like I canmake different choices and
(36:35):
decisions and think differently.
And it was just like this againthis whole new world open up
and everything like this again,this whole new world open up and
it just everything.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
It's so amazing, that's so awesome.
Okay, so what kind of ritualsdo you do to like level up to
where you are now?
Speaker 3 (36:51):
Yes, so I greet gratitude all the time.
I start my day with gratitudeand it just gets you in the
right vibration, the rightenergy.
And then I have been alwaysworking a lot with triggers, so
we'll get triggered all day,throughout the day, and I call
it the power of two.
So two seconds, two minutes,two hours, days, weeks, months,
(37:15):
years, decades we get to choosehow long we're triggered for.
So it's even in those momentsthat I choose, like what I'm
grateful for, or I go to theopposite, because he always
talks about the pendulum and thepolar opposite.
Everything has a polar opposite.
So it's really what's helped methe most throughout my day is,
again, always starting withgratitude and then just the more
(37:36):
aware you can be and the moreyou don't let it happen to you.
It's happening for you and justreframing it, looking at it
from a different perspective,studying constantly, studying
Again, it's Tony, it's BobProctor, it's just different
people that I'm connecting with.
I do a lot of just following myintuition and I'm always going
(37:58):
to be a student, because Ibelieve everyone is our student
and our teacher.
Yeah, so I'm learning frompeople constantly and really
just the more I get to knowmyself, the more I can help
others.
Speaker 2 (38:11):
Yeah, I agree, I love it.
So anything else that you wantto like, give to us.
Like, give to us.
Speaker 3 (38:20):
I just want to say, because I remember when I was in
the depths of my addiction, Iwould be scrolling Facebook and
there's this one girl that Iwent to school with, that she
was in recovery and she had beenfor a few years and I would
stop and I look at it, but I wasjust, I don't have a problem.
I wouldn't even admit I had aproblem until I absolutely had
(38:40):
to, and it's just it doesn't?
It sometimes has to get to thatpoint until I absolutely had to
, and it's just it doesn't.
It sometimes has to get to thatpoint.
For me.
It had to get to that point forme to listen.
If anyone's listening that'sbeen weighing on them, or that
they maybe should seek help, orthis isn't the way they want it
to be, or they know that it canbe different or can be better.
Just know that you're not alone.
(39:02):
You might feel alone, because Icertainly, certainly did.
There's help and there's placesthat you can go and people that
you can call and if you need tocall me, I just don't want
anyone to feel as isolated andalone as I did to myself,
because it's a very, very, verylonely place.
You start telling yourselveseven more stories than you ever
(39:25):
thought possible.
And then they get heavier andharder, and deeper and darker
and I just, if I can, talkanyone into seeking out help or
someone.
That would be my ask today.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
That's amazing.
So I'm going to put Angie'sinformation in the show notes
and just any way to get incontact with her website or
social media or whatever.
Angie, thank you so much.
This was amazing.
It's so crazy that I truly feellike vibration.
(39:59):
There's definitely this big hugepurpose behind this recording
today and I'm just so incrediblygrateful that we connected and
sometimes we get away from thestudies that made a difference,
and it's been a while since Ihaven't reviewed, thinking into
results and just a lot of thingsthat you said that I'm like
(40:20):
yeah, that was so good man.
I need to go back through that,so thank you for that.
It made me aware of what toolsI have that I probably haven't
used in a while.
So I appreciate you andlisteners.
I hope you got some awesomestuff out of this because it was
so good.
Thank you so much for listeningtoday.
(40:40):
Peace out, guys.
Love your life.
Bye.
Speaker 1 (40:42):
Thank you so much for listening today.
Peace out, guys.
Love your life.
Bye.
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