#54 - Tips for Downsizing Without Losing What Matters

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Downsizing doesn't mean losing your identity or precious memories—it's about focusing on what truly matters and making room for new experiences. This practical guide takes you step-by-step through the emotional and physical process of downsizing, offering strategies to honor sentimental objects while creating a lighter, safer living environment.

• Understanding the psychology behind our attachment to possessions
• Starting the downsizing process early to make thoughtful rather than rushed decisions
• Using the four-box sorting method: keep, donate, sell, and let go
• Creative ways to preserve memories without keeping every physical item
• Setting boundaries with yourself and others during the downsizing process
• Focusing on what you gain rather than what you lose through downsizing
• Practical tips for making the logistics of decluttering smoother
• Remembering that relationships and experiences matter more than possessions

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:32):
Welcome to the Aging in Place Directory podcast.
I'm your host, robin Schiltz,and today we're diving into a
subject that hits home for justabout everyone eventually
Downsizing.
Maybe you're considering movingto a smaller space,
decluttering for safety, or justseeking that lighter, freer
feeling that comes from lettinggo of stuff.

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But you want to do it withoutlosing what truly matters those
objects, memories and routinesthat make life meaningful.
So settle in and let's exploretogether the tips for downsizing
without losing what matters.
You know the word downsizingcan make some people nervous.
After all, we collect alifetime of treasures, memories

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and yes, sometimes clutter.
The idea of letting it go isdaunting, but downsizing doesn't
mean losing yourself or yourstory.
It's about focusing on whatmatters most.
It's a chance to refresh,reclaim space and make room for
new experiences and joy.
Today I'll take youstep-by-step through the

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downsizing process, sharingpractical tips, moving stories
and some laughs along the way.
So if you or a loved one arethinking about this transition,
you'll walk away with realstrategies and maybe even a
smile.
So let's start withunderstanding why downsizing
feels hard.
Let's face it downsizing israrely about the square footage.

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It's about the feelings, thehistory, even our sense of
identity.
There's a reason.
Parting with those old softballtrophies or your kid's macaroni
art makes your heart twinge.
It turns out psychology plays ahuge role in downsizing.
Our things aren't just things.
They're symbols of who we were,the people we love and the

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lives we've led.
So be gentle with yourself.
If you're helping someone elsethrough this, remember to honor
their feelings as well.
A top tip is, instead offocusing only on the loss of the
objects, view downsizing as apositive, an opportunity to edit
your story.
Highlight the best chapters andpass your wisdom to someone

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else.
Part two is start planning early, like today.
One of the biggest pitfallsWaiting until a move is right
around the corner.
If you're listening today andyou're not under pressure to
move now, you're in a great spot.
Starting early allows you tomake thoughtful decisions
instead of rushed ones.

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Here's how you might start Walkthrough your home with a
notebook or phone.
List things that are absolutemust-keep, the non-negotiables.
Jot down what your future dailylife will look like.
Will you be hosting thegrandkids, working on your art,
traveling a lot?
Your answers can help guideyour priorities and next mark a

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realistic goal.
For example, I'll go throughthe garage by the end of next
month.
Remember you want progress, notperfection.
Part three is the power ofsorting, not just decluttering.
So let's get practical.
The phrase declutter conjuresimages of trash bags and yard

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sales, but sorting is key.
You aren't just tossing things,you're making conscious choices
.
It's time for the classic andsurprisingly effective four box
method of sorting.
So you're going to label fourboxes.
The first one is keep, whichwill be the items you truly use

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or that spark joy.
You're going to label thesecond box as donate this is
good stuff you no longer need,but someone else could love.
Box number three is labeledsell.
This is going to be valuablesthat you would rather turn into
cash.
And box number four is going tobe labeled let go.

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These are items destined forrecycling or the trash.
Next, bring a friend in, put onsome favorite music and work
one room or even one drawer at atime.
Tip here is that thesentimental pile will always be
the toughest.
That's okay.

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Set it aside and revisit itwith fresh eyes.
Part four is honoringsentimental objects without
drowning in your stuff.
This is where downsizing meetsheartstrings.
How do we let go without losingmemories?
Well, here are some ideasDigitize, scan letters or photos

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, create a digital album toshare with family.
And then there's no shoeboxrequired.
How about making a memory quilt?
Have a quilter, turn yourfavorite t-shirts or baby
clothes into a blanket ofmemories, frame it.
Pick a few truly meaningfulitems and turn them into art

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your wedding invitation, yourson's drawing, that funny
postcard from Aunt Betty.
And then there's family storyday.
Invite loved ones to choose anitem they'd like to remember you
by.
You can share stories, laugh,cry a little and suddenly things
turn into gifts.
And remember that sometimesjust taking photos of certain

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objects before letting them gocan be enough.
Part five is setting boundariesfor yourself and others.
Let's say you've sorted,reminisced and made decisions.
Now what?
Sometimes you'll facewell-meaning kids or friends who
want you to keep that becauseyou'll regret it, or you might

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be tempted to hold on to morethan you need.
Boundaries are your friends.
Politely explain your reasonsfor getting rid of the object.
If it helps, make a maybe pileand revisit the items in a week.
Remember too, you're notresponsible for managing
everyone else's feelings aboutyour stuff.

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A friend of mine decided to giveaway her collection of snow
globes.
Her daughter, who'd beenlooking at them since she was a
child, was really upset untilshe realized mom wanted the
collection to be enjoyed, notboxed up, so they picked a few
favorites to keep.
They gifted the rest and theyeven hosted a snow globe
send-off party so friends couldtake snow globes home as well.

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They donated the rest.
But sometimes a little ceremonymakes all the difference.
So part six is downsizing forbetter living.
Remember that the purpose ofdownsizing isn't just to get rid
of things.
It's to enrich your life.
With less clutter, it's easy tofind what you need, you're

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safer from falls and futureloved ones won't be burdened by
sorting through endless boxes ofyour stuff.
A lighter space also invitespossibility.
Maybe you'll pick up a newhobby, welcome a pet or travel
more.
Part seven is the logistics andsome surprising tips for
smoother decluttering.

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Start with low sentiment spaces.
Think bathroom doors, drawersexcuse me kitchens, the linen
closet, the laundry room.
Set a timer, even 15 to 30minutes a day, or one drawer
adds up.
Take before photos of thingsthat you want to remember and

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then also take those photos ofthe room or the drawer.
It's motivating to see yourprogress and ask for help.
Friends, family, evenprofessional organizers can make
it easier and more fun to getrid of your stuff.
If you're changing homes.
Draw a basic floor plan of yournew space.

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Will your favorite readingchair fit in that space?
Knowing the answer helps toprevent heartbreak and back
aches.
You can donate and sell,because local charities, online
groups and churches oftenwelcome gently used goods.
And if you're selling, tryneighborhood apps or consignment

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stores for antiques or art.
Part eight is what?
Never to downsize yourrelationships and your happiness
.
As you let go of physicalthings, make space for more
visits, longer phone calls andmore laughter.
Objects are great, butconnection is the main event.
And remember that downsizingisn't a one-time event.

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It's a process.
Your home, like your life, canbe a living, evolving story.
So let's recap First, startearly and go at your own pace.
Sort thoughtfully, don't justdeclutter.
Honor your memories withcreativity, set boundaries for
yourself and others, and focuson what makes your next chapter

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great.
Decluttering isn't just aboutwhat you lose.
It's about what you gain Time,freedom and room for what
matters most.
And keep this in mind.
Decluttering is reallyright-sizing.
So here's to living with moreof what matters and less of what
doesn't.
So thanks for joining me todayon today's episode on the Aging

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in Place Directory podcast.
Remember that your story ismore important than your stuff.
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Until next time, may your homealways reflect your heart.
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Take care Bye.