May 28, 2025 • 11 mins
Have you ever wondered why the same patterns keep repeating in your life? In this solo episode, I talk about the emotional and energetic work that’s helped me and the incredible women I coach. I break down the concept of “reading the mirror” and why it’s the key to emotional freedom, self-awareness, and real transformation. I also share four steps to decode the patterns, rewire your beliefs, and elevate the environments that shape your identity. Plus, details about my newest monthly container designed to support women in doing this deep inner work in real time.
HIGHLIGHTS
- How to know when life is reflecting back what you need to heal.
- Why your life, relationships, and business are mirrors.
- How to spot what your energy, boundaries, or beliefs are reflecting.
- Four steps to shift your internal reality and upgrade your life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back all you beautiful souls to another
episode of Aligned and Alive.
If you've been wondering whycertain patterns keep showing up
in your life, this episode willshow you how to read the mirror
, reclaim your power and finallyshift that reflection.
You are listening to theAligned and Alive podcast with
(00:21):
Chrissy May, where we discussthe various aspects of
spirituality and wellness.
A place where you can findguidance and a space to explore
your life's meaning and purpose,allowing you to become
connected, aligned and feelingfully alive.
Live.
(00:52):
Attention, all my soul sisters,imagine this eight days of pure
transformation at a private10,000 square foot villa,
overlooking the Aegean Sea.
Yes, as in Greece, as in thisSeptember, where we will dive
deep in sacred circles,releasing, renewing and
reconnecting with your highestself.
Heal in the crystal clearwaters of the Aegean Sea,
(01:13):
letting the waves carry awaywhat no longer serves you.
You'll enjoy private boat ridesto hidden coves and a
soul-awakening visit to theiconic Mamma Mia Island.
Every meal, a nourishingexperience crafted with love by
our private chef.
Enjoy moonlight rituals,ecstatic dance, sound, healing,
(01:34):
breath work, sacred ceremonies,dancing lessons as in Greek,
dance lessons, cooking lessons,so much more.
This is a once-in-a-lifetimeexperience that you do not want
to miss.
Everything is designed toawaken the divine within.
This is more than a retreat.
(01:56):
It's a homecoming to yourself.
So are you ready to transform?
If so, then join us in Greecethis September.
You can head on over tochrissiemaycom for more
information and to schedule yourcall.
Now back to the show.
Last weekend, I had the honorof being the closing keynote
(02:17):
speaker at the ProfessionalWomen's Conference in New Mexico
, guiding an incredible room ofwomen through a transformational
experience of healing,self-inquiry and emotional
freedom, and what I witnessed inthat space was profound Women
remembering their power, lettinggo like really letting go and
(02:41):
reconnecting with the version ofthemselves that had been buried
under years of expectations,responsibilities and programming
.
And it mirrored what I've beenexperiencing behind the scenes
as I move into the next phase ofmy brand and business.
And this isn't just a rebrand.
This absolutely 100,000% is areclamation.
(03:04):
So today's conversation is aboutwhat is life trying to show you
and are you truly willing totake a look at it?
Because your life is a mirrorand it has so much to teach you
and show you where you're at, ifyou allow it.
Like every relationship, everytrigger, every time you avoid,
(03:26):
procrastinate or even overgive,it's all reflecting something to
you about you.
So do you have it in you toremain curious?
You know, maybe that client whokeeps crossing boundaries?
It's a mirror.
The friend who constantlydrains your energy?
Yes, a mirror.
Or the chronic fatigue oranxiety that keeps returning
(03:50):
when you think you've healed itall?
Oh, yeah, it's a mirror.
And how about that strainedconnection?
It may be reflecting theboundaries you're still afraid
to honor, or the parts of youcraving deeper self-respect, or
that plateau in your business.
It might not be about strategy,and oftentimes it's not.
(04:11):
It could be a mirror showingyou it's time to step into
elevated environments thatstretch your thinking, your
energy and your identity.
See, growth often requiresproximity, and sometimes the
business isn't stuck.
You've just outgrown the roomyou're in, and again, this isn't
about blame.
(04:31):
It's about reflection and whatit reveals, and most people are
living in constant reaction.
So if you've been cravingexpansion but still feel stuck,
this might be the conversationthat really unlocks your next
level.
And so I want to dive a littlebit deeper on reading the mirror
(04:53):
and what that requires, whichis really a level of emotional
maturity that most people avoid,because, let's be honest, it's
really a whole lot easier formany people to blame
circumstances than to examinethe self.
Oh, we don't want to look atour part in it, right?
I mean, come on, become a grownadult here, take full
(05:15):
responsibility, turn the gazeinward and start doing the inner
work.
Okay, that's really how thiswhole process begins.
Stop pointing the fingeroutside.
It all begins and ends with you.
So when you truly begin to readthe mirror of your life,
everything changes, not just alittle bit, but exponentially.
(05:37):
Exponentially, and not becausethe external world shifts
instantly, it's because you do.
So let's make this reallypractical.
I'm going to guide you througha few steps to consider as you
navigate this process, and praythat you do, because, let's be
honest, it all begins and endswith you.
So one pause the performance andjust observe without judgment.
(06:02):
Start by asking yourself whatam I experiencing?
On repeat, you know what arethose patterns?
Right, look into those, leaninto that and what keeps
triggering me or draining me?
And how about?
Where do I feel the mostresistance or the most avoidance
, which is more common than not?
(06:23):
And don't rush into labelingthis as good or bad or trying to
fix it.
Just observe.
This is about awareness, notshame, okay.
Step two look beneath thesurface.
Okay, we're going to go alittle bit deeper and ask
yourself what could this bereflecting back to me about my
beliefs, energy or boundaries?
(06:46):
And some examples might be apattern of being underpaid may
reflect an unconscious beliefthat your worth is still tied to
hustle and not embodiment.
Or how about a string ofmisaligned relationships?
They could be showing you whereyou've accepted emotional
(07:06):
breadcrumbs because you haven'tyet anchored into self-trust,
and that chronic busyness justmight be a mirror for your
avoidance of intimacy withyourself.
This is where things get real.
The mirror rarely reflects whoyou think you are.
It reflects who you're actuallybeing.
(07:29):
Number three ask the powerquestion.
Once the reflection becomesclear, ask if this is my mirror,
what needs to shift?
Sit with that one.
If this is my mirror, whatneeds to shift within me to
(07:52):
create a different reflection?
Sometimes the answer will beenergetic, like raising your
standard, grounding deeper intoself-worth, healing the wound
that says I have to earn love.
And other times it'senvironmental.
You are being called into newrooms that are going to expand
(08:12):
and evolve you.
How about?
Into braver conversations, intoactions that feel stretching?
And number four don't just readthe mirror, okay, you have to
actually respond to it.
Action.
Yes, awareness without alignedaction is really spiritual
entertainment.
You saw the reflection.
(08:33):
Now you get to move from it.
You're seeing scarcity, respondwith overflow.
If you're seeing disconnection,respond with intimacy.
If you're seeing contraction,respond with expansion.
Reading the mirror gives youthe truth.
Responding to it activates yourtransformation.
(08:55):
And this is exactly the kind ofwork that we will be doing
inside the Shift, my newestcontainer designed for the
high-level human who is nolonger available for half-lived
potential.
It's not just about personaldevelopment.
Although I've been a studentfor 25 plus years, I've learned
that it's so much more.
(09:15):
And it's not just aboutstrategy.
No, it's actually about feelingsafe in your body.
Many times it's energeticrefinement, it's emotional
integration and identityexpansion all in one space, one
beautiful sacred space.
We go beyond mindset work andinto the true recalibration of
(09:38):
your inner environment.
So then your external worldbegins to reflect a higher
standard of truth, leadershipand yes, alignment.
Inside the shift, you'll receiveone immersive 90-minute group
session each month.
It's going to be done via Zoom,a private, intimate community
(09:59):
for high-level connections, techsupport between sessions for
integration and a monthly videoguidance from yours truly,
myself, to keep you anchored inyour next level.
You'll have direct access to meto help you read the mirrors in
your life and reshape them inreal time.
So the offering will allow youto join for three months, six
(10:23):
months or 12 months, based onthe depth you're ready to
actually embody.
And we begin next month, inJune.
So just text the word waitlistto 602-428-7221.
Or, yes, just go and click thelink in the show notes.
You know I always got youcovered to text the word
waitlist and you'll be added andnotified immediately.
(10:44):
When we launch, when you shiftyour inner world, everything
else mirrors back that upgrade.
It all begins and ends with you.
Your expansion will require awhole new standard and Tony
Robbins said it best the onlything that changes our life
long-term is when we raise ourstandards.
(11:06):
So get ready to raise yourstandards, get ready to rise,
get ready to shift.
Make it a beautiful day, muchlove.
Welcome back all you beautiful souls to another
episode of Aligned and Alive.
If you've been wondering whycertain patterns keep showing up
in your life, this episode willshow you how to read the mirror
, reclaim your power and finallyshift that reflection.
You are listening to theAligned and Alive podcast with
(00:21):
Chrissy May, where we discussthe various aspects of
spirituality and wellness.
A place where you can findguidance and a space to explore
your life's meaning and purpose,allowing you to become
connected, aligned and feelingfully alive.
Live.
(00:52):
Attention, all my soul sisters,imagine this eight days of pure
transformation at a private10,000 square foot villa,
overlooking the Aegean Sea.
Yes, as in Greece, as in thisSeptember, where we will dive
deep in sacred circles,releasing, renewing and
reconnecting with your highestself.
Heal in the crystal clearwaters of the Aegean Sea,
(01:13):
letting the waves carry awaywhat no longer serves you.
You'll enjoy private boat ridesto hidden coves and a
soul-awakening visit to theiconic Mamma Mia Island.
Every meal, a nourishingexperience crafted with love by
our private chef.
Enjoy moonlight rituals,ecstatic dance, sound, healing,
(01:34):
breath work, sacred ceremonies,dancing lessons as in Greek,
dance lessons, cooking lessons,so much more.
This is a once-in-a-lifetimeexperience that you do not want
to miss.
Everything is designed toawaken the divine within.
This is more than a retreat.
(01:56):
It's a homecoming to yourself.
So are you ready to transform?
If so, then join us in Greecethis September.
You can head on over tochrissiemaycom for more
information and to schedule yourcall.
Now back to the show.
Last weekend, I had the honorof being the closing keynote
(02:17):
speaker at the ProfessionalWomen's Conference in New Mexico
, guiding an incredible room ofwomen through a transformational
experience of healing,self-inquiry and emotional
freedom, and what I witnessed inthat space was profound Women
remembering their power, lettinggo like really letting go and
(02:41):
reconnecting with the version ofthemselves that had been buried
under years of expectations,responsibilities and programming
.
And it mirrored what I've beenexperiencing behind the scenes
as I move into the next phase ofmy brand and business.
And this isn't just a rebrand.
This absolutely 100,000% is areclamation.
(03:04):
So today's conversation is aboutwhat is life trying to show you
and are you truly willing totake a look at it?
Because your life is a mirrorand it has so much to teach you
and show you where you're at, ifyou allow it.
Like every relationship, everytrigger, every time you avoid,
(03:26):
procrastinate or even overgive,it's all reflecting something to
you about you.
So do you have it in you toremain curious?
You know, maybe that client whokeeps crossing boundaries?
It's a mirror.
The friend who constantlydrains your energy?
Yes, a mirror.
Or the chronic fatigue oranxiety that keeps returning
(03:50):
when you think you've healed itall?
Oh, yeah, it's a mirror.
And how about that strainedconnection?
It may be reflecting theboundaries you're still afraid
to honor, or the parts of youcraving deeper self-respect, or
that plateau in your business.
It might not be about strategy,and oftentimes it's not.
(04:11):
It could be a mirror showingyou it's time to step into
elevated environments thatstretch your thinking, your
energy and your identity.
See, growth often requiresproximity, and sometimes the
business isn't stuck.
You've just outgrown the roomyou're in, and again, this isn't
about blame.
(04:31):
It's about reflection and whatit reveals, and most people are
living in constant reaction.
So if you've been cravingexpansion but still feel stuck,
this might be the conversationthat really unlocks your next
level.
And so I want to dive a littlebit deeper on reading the mirror
(04:53):
and what that requires, whichis really a level of emotional
maturity that most people avoid,because, let's be honest, it's
really a whole lot easier formany people to blame
circumstances than to examinethe self.
Oh, we don't want to look atour part in it, right?
I mean, come on, become a grownadult here, take full
(05:15):
responsibility, turn the gazeinward and start doing the inner
work.
Okay, that's really how thiswhole process begins.
Stop pointing the fingeroutside.
It all begins and ends with you.
So when you truly begin to readthe mirror of your life,
everything changes, not just alittle bit, but exponentially.
(05:37):
Exponentially, and not becausethe external world shifts
instantly, it's because you do.
So let's make this reallypractical.
I'm going to guide you througha few steps to consider as you
navigate this process, and praythat you do, because, let's be
honest, it all begins and endswith you.
So one pause the performance andjust observe without judgment.
(06:02):
Start by asking yourself whatam I experiencing?
On repeat, you know what arethose patterns?
Right, look into those, leaninto that and what keeps
triggering me or draining me?
And how about?
Where do I feel the mostresistance or the most avoidance
, which is more common than not?
(06:23):
And don't rush into labelingthis as good or bad or trying to
fix it.
Just observe.
This is about awareness, notshame, okay.
Step two look beneath thesurface.
Okay, we're going to go alittle bit deeper and ask
yourself what could this bereflecting back to me about my
beliefs, energy or boundaries?
(06:46):
And some examples might be apattern of being underpaid may
reflect an unconscious beliefthat your worth is still tied to
hustle and not embodiment.
Or how about a string ofmisaligned relationships?
They could be showing you whereyou've accepted emotional
(07:06):
breadcrumbs because you haven'tyet anchored into self-trust,
and that chronic busyness justmight be a mirror for your
avoidance of intimacy withyourself.
This is where things get real.
The mirror rarely reflects whoyou think you are.
It reflects who you're actuallybeing.
(07:29):
Number three ask the powerquestion.
Once the reflection becomesclear, ask if this is my mirror,
what needs to shift?
Sit with that one.
If this is my mirror, whatneeds to shift within me to
(07:52):
create a different reflection?
Sometimes the answer will beenergetic, like raising your
standard, grounding deeper intoself-worth, healing the wound
that says I have to earn love.
And other times it'senvironmental.
You are being called into newrooms that are going to expand
(08:12):
and evolve you.
How about?
Into braver conversations, intoactions that feel stretching?
And number four don't just readthe mirror, okay, you have to
actually respond to it.
Action.
Yes, awareness without alignedaction is really spiritual
entertainment.
You saw the reflection.
(08:33):
Now you get to move from it.
You're seeing scarcity, respondwith overflow.
If you're seeing disconnection,respond with intimacy.
If you're seeing contraction,respond with expansion.
Reading the mirror gives youthe truth.
Responding to it activates yourtransformation.
(08:55):
And this is exactly the kind ofwork that we will be doing
inside the Shift, my newestcontainer designed for the
high-level human who is nolonger available for half-lived
potential.
It's not just about personaldevelopment.
Although I've been a studentfor 25 plus years, I've learned
that it's so much more.
(09:15):
And it's not just aboutstrategy.
No, it's actually about feelingsafe in your body.
Many times it's energeticrefinement, it's emotional
integration and identityexpansion all in one space, one
beautiful sacred space.
We go beyond mindset work andinto the true recalibration of
(09:38):
your inner environment.
So then your external worldbegins to reflect a higher
standard of truth, leadershipand yes, alignment.
Inside the shift, you'll receiveone immersive 90-minute group
session each month.
It's going to be done via Zoom,a private, intimate community
(09:59):
for high-level connections, techsupport between sessions for
integration and a monthly videoguidance from yours truly,
myself, to keep you anchored inyour next level.
You'll have direct access to meto help you read the mirrors in
your life and reshape them inreal time.
So the offering will allow youto join for three months, six
(10:23):
months or 12 months, based onthe depth you're ready to
actually embody.
And we begin next month, inJune.
So just text the word waitlistto 602-428-7221.
Or, yes, just go and click thelink in the show notes.
You know I always got youcovered to text the word
waitlist and you'll be added andnotified immediately.
(10:44):
When we launch, when you shiftyour inner world, everything
else mirrors back that upgrade.
It all begins and ends with you.
Your expansion will require awhole new standard and Tony
Robbins said it best the onlything that changes our life
long-term is when we raise ourstandards.
(11:06):
So get ready to raise yourstandards, get ready to rise,
get ready to shift.
Make it a beautiful day, muchlove.
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