July 3, 2025 • 32 mins
Sometimes life feels heavy, unclear, or like everything is unraveling, and that’s exactly when the most powerful shifts begin. In this episode, I share what it means to honor the seasons that feel undervalued or uncomfortable, and why those moments are often invitations for deeper alignment. I share a step-by-step voice activation exercise that taps into your nervous system, releases stuck energy, and helps you reconnect to your truth. I also share journal prompts, somatic check-ins, and how to shift out of performance and into deep safety within your body. Get ready to release what’s holding you back and rise into your next season.
HIGHLIGHTS
- How to find meaning and magic in undervalued seasons of life.
- A voice activation practice to regulate your nervous system and reconnect.
- Journal prompts to help you release control and create inner safety.
- A mindset shift to help you release what’s no longer aligned.
- Final spots for Greece women’s retreat + a sneak peek at my Maui event for men.
RESOURCES + LINKS
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You can look at it this way You're being invited to
access deeper alignment, andthat doesn't happen by
constantly repeatingaffirmations.
It happens by getting insideyour body.
All right, so use this as yourinitiation.
You are listening to theAligned and Alive podcast with
Chrissy May, where we discussthe various aspects of
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spirituality and wellness.
Where we discuss the variousaspects of spirituality and
wellness.
A place where you can findguidance and a space to explore
your life's meaning and purpose,allowing you to become
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connected, aligned and feelingfully alive.
Attention, all my soul sisters,imagine this eight days of pure
transformation at a private10,000 square foot villa,
overlooking the Aegean Sea.
Yes, as in Greece, as in thisSeptember, where we will dive
deep in sacred circles,releasing, renewing and
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reconnecting with your highestself Heal in the crystal clear
waters of the Aegean Sea,letting the waves carry away
what no longer serves you.
You'll enjoy private boat ridesto hidden coves and a soul
awakening visit to the iconicMamma Mia Island.
Every meal, a nourishingexperience crafted with love by
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our private chef, enjoymoonlight rituals, ecstatic
dance, sound healing, breathwork, sacred ceremonies, dancing
lessons as in Greek dancelessons, cooking lessons, so
much more.
This is a once-in-a-lifetimeexperience that you do not want
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to miss.
Everything is designed toawaken the divine within.
This is more than a retreat.
It's a homecoming to yourself.
So are you ready to transform?
If so, then join us in Greecethis September.
You can head on over tochristymaycom for more
information and to schedule yourcall.
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Now back to the show.
Welcome to Aligned and Alive,the podcast where high-level
conversations meet real-lifetransformation.
If you're ready to elevate yourmindset, unlock your power and
live with deeper purpose, you'rein the right place.
All right for today's episode.
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I'm speaking on undervaluedseasons of life, why that
breakdown often means yourbreakthrough.
I know this because I've beenthrough it time and time again,
and when I can sit in reflection, like really sink into it and
look back, I'm like oh my gosh,yep, that is exactly what I
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needed to go through.
It was actually an incrediblegift.
But it never feels like that,does it?
Like when you're in the muck?
You're in it and you're likewhat the heck Right?
Like we just get into all thesemonkey mind conversations.
Why am I going through this?
Why haven't I been able to kickthis?
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Or why is this personconstantly showing up this way?
And so, if I can just lend myperspective on how I've been
able to now zoom out and look ateverything and I'm like, uh-huh
, okay, I got it, check, check,check, noted.
I'm no longer going to sit inthat mindset of why me Not that
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I usually will go, why me?
I'm a victim, nothing like thatbut why is this happening again
?
Or why can't I move throughthis with greater ease?
And so I personally can seeevery situation truly as a gift,
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and I seriously mean that.
And moving forward into thisnext season, this next chapter
that I'm shifting through, itjust allows more space to
actually sink into a situationand lean into it, rather than
allowing the emotion to takeover, because that can happen so
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quickly.
You're in it and it's sodifficult to get out of it
sometimes, and that emotion canactually have so much power over
you, if you allow it.
You see, I know from experiencethat we can be our greatest
strengths and we can really bethe champion that we need.
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It is inside of us.
We don't need someone else tobe there.
Yes, it helps to have thatcommunity and that tribe,
absolutely, but at the end ofthe day, it's up to us, because
you can have your raving fansand your raving community and
your therapist and your coachand your mentor and all the
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things around you supporting youand lifting you and guiding you
.
At the end of the day, it's upto you, and so I just want to
have this episode be anopportunity for you to stay
curious, to allow thatself-inquiry to go a little bit
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deeper, to lean in with adifferent perspective.
Just allow space for that.
Maybe you just need to checkyourself.
Maybe you just need to let goof the attachments and the ego
and all the things that hold ushostage.
Just let it go and just go.
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Okay, maybe there is somethingthat I'm not seeing, maybe
there's a blind spot.
Maybe I can just take fiveminutes out of my day and listen
to Chrissy, talk away and offerup a different perspective.
We are going through lifetogether and it's so refreshing
when someone can just be so openand honest and vulnerable and
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transparent and just give it howit is as to what they're moving
through, because you can learnso much.
There's so much to learn fromone another.
I learn from my clients in mycoaching programs.
I learn from my women in myretreats.
I'm constantly learning as I'mleading and I think that's a
really important message toreally sink in is, you know, we
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can be in a leadership role, butif we're so attached to our ego
and our titles and all thethings that, honestly, they
don't mean anything.
They don't.
I'm just going to say it,that's how it is, it's not.
You cannot allow yourself tobecome so attached to people,
places, things, titles, becauseyou will find yourself in a cage
and you will find yourself soembedded into the program that
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you created that when things dopop up and you need to pivot and
I say that with love, like youneed to pivot, otherwise you
will stay stuck.
You cannot allow theattachments to overrule your
freedom in life, and I've donethat and I can see that now,
looking back.
I allowed so many things inmoments to hold me so tightly
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that it was so difficult to makea decision.
I know what that's like.
It's the scariest thing in theworld.
When you're in that moment.
You're like God, I need to leapright now, but I just can't.
And I'm like why?
Why is this so hard for me tomake this decision?
Because I know in my mind it'sright, but my body is like no.
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Well, I have a solution for youand it really comes down to
feeling safe, feeling safe inyour body, feeling safe in your
soul, feeling safe, safe, safe,like when you can just feel safe
within, it's so much easier tomake that shift, to make that
leap.
It really is, and this is whywe talk about the inner work,
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because the inner work is thework that will allow you to win
in life, because the inner workis the work that will allow you
to win in life.
Hands down and I know becauseI've avoided so many spaces of
committing to it, oftentimesbecause I've allowed my ego to
lead the way, and not ego in thesense of a bad thing we all
have ego.
It's just getting out of themind and getting into the body
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and feeling super safe andsupported, and this is what I
teach my clients in our sessions.
This is what I help guide themthrough.
There are so many modalitiesthat we can use in order to
shift this inside of our body.
There's breath work, there'schanting, there's singing,
there's dancing, there'sclinical hypnosis.
There's so many things we cando to help shift that stuck
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energy, and so I wanted to firststart this episode off with
some practices that you can doright now that will help you
activate your inner knowing,activate your energy field to
really show up and lean into allthe things that life brings the
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icky, the fun, the in-between,all of it with so much more
confidence.
It feels so good when you canface something head on, whether
it's a difficult conversation,whether it's just your own fear,
you know like just your ownfear.
You're like all right, I'mtired of letting this control my
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life.
I'm going to go just do thedamn thing or show up for myself
, or make the decision, or takethis leap of faith or whatever
that looks like for you.
Do not believe for one momentthat you are the only one going
through a challenging season oflife.
Just not for one moment.
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We all are.
It may look all glitzy and glamon social, but I'm here to tell
you right now that God's honesttruth is that every single
human being is going throughsomething in their life, every
single one, and it's a choicethat they've made to navigate
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that with a different attitude,mindset and skill set that
they've allowed themselves toacquire, to show up in a
different way.
That's all it is.
It's not this.
She or he is more special thanI, or they have something better
than me.
Like, let that all go, that'sjust your mind spinning out of
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control, creating stories thataren't even true, right?
So let's just let that go andlet's come back to the truth
that it all comes back to you,and the choices you make will
dictate how you will experiencethis thing called life.
That's it.
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Whether you're going throughchallenging health issues,
relationships, financialsetbacks, whatever it looks like
for you, you're not alone andyou can navigate this with so
much more grace and freedom thanyou ever thought possible, and
it all comes down to yourperspective and how you choose
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to navigate the situation.
So, no more pep talk, no more.
You know, christy, going on atangent, I'm just going to shift
into how I can help you.
Right, that's what you're herefor.
How can you help me?
Just give me the dang thing.
That's what I'm going to do.
So I want to start withsomething that may seem kind of
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silly, and I just ran one of myclients through it yesterday and
it's just so fun.
Like it's a fun exercise.
I've done it before, I haven'tdone it in a really long time,
and so it was really enjoyableto move through it again.
And I did a session on my ownafter my client session and it
just it was so good.
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I'm like, how come I don't dothat more often?
You know like I can show up onmy sessions and guide my clients
through amazing experiences.
And then I'm like, chrissy,hello, you know that works, so
why aren't you doing it?
So I, yeah, I checked myself.
I got real, real, real.
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So diving in this is calledvoice activation and it works
because sound is a directpathway to your nervous system
and your energy centers in thebody, especially the throat,
which is so many of us have somany issues with our throat
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chakra.
Why do you think it's becausewe hold suppressed truth, fear
and self-expression.
So when we activate our voice,so much can flow through.
It allows space for all of thatstuckness inside your body to
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now release.
So I know everyone typicallywill think of modalities like
meditation or sound baths.
Right, like this is the popularoutlets for us to go to when we
feel we need to release or letgo or breath work, right, very
common?
Yeah, for years and years andyears.
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This is all you see online ortalk about.
But do you know your own voice?
The way you activate it isactually complete and utter
freedom.
It's peaceful, it's comfortingand it's fulfilling.
You just feel elevated.
When I did this before we gointo it, when I did this in a
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class setting a while back, wedid it for an hour and I'm not
even hitting you, I waslevitating.
It was so amazing, and so I'mgoing to guide you through it
right now to help you shiftthrough any sort of stuckness
you're feeling inside your body,and I want you to start with a
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soft hum.
Just let the sound sit in yourthroat and chest.
You're not going to forceanything.
You're just going to notice thevibration and as you hum, I
want you to imagine the soundfilling your entire body, from
your root to your throat.
So we're going to focus ontorso and we're going to open up
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vowel sounds, and these soundsaren't random.
They each carry energy.
Let the sounds move through you,saying each of the following
slowly, one at a time, and thefirst one is heart opening.
It's ah, let this one.
Crack your chest wide open andjust feel the release.
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Okay, that's the first one.
Not a singer, so do not judge.
That's the whole point of this.
Like this is getting reallyvulnerable.
You're just going to let it goand not feel like you're being
judged.
Maybe someone there on theother end of this you know
episode is laughing.
I don't care, it helps, so youcan laugh all you want.
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Number two is going to be oh,it's a grounding vibration.
Oh, let that sink into yourhips, your legs, the floor
beneath you.
You're just, oh, all right.
Third one is E.
This is for clarity andexpression, and you're just
going to let this vibration movethrough your entire jaw and
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your third eye and that is E,all right, e, all right.
And the last one, this is onefor integration and truth and it
anchors all of it in.
So you're going to let itvibrate through all your bones
already, and this is a good one.
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Everyone, a lot of people inthe yogi world, know this one.
Oh again.
Oh, all right.
So now that your voice is open,this allows you to really flow
through with so much more graceon how to show up and speak your
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truth.
So you don't have to overthink,you just have to speak.
The first thing that rises.
It can be messy, just let it bereal.
And you're going to readthrough each prompt.
You can have someone pair thisup with somebody and then just
finish the sentence.
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What I do if I'm alone, I dojournal writing.
So I'll put together like fiveto 10 statements that need me to
finish, and then I finish thewhole entire statement.
So I'm going to give you anexample.
The first one is the truth isdot dot dot.
You got to finish itimmediately.
The first thing that comesthrough your mind immediately.
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Write it down or say it outloud, if you can do this either
way.
If you're a partner withsomebody, this is a lot easier.
However, if you're by yourself,it's still very beneficial.
So the truth is boom.
What's the truth for you rightnow, after you move through this
voice activation?
Second one what I've beenafraid to say is dot dot dot.
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Third one if I wasn'tperforming or people pleasing
that's a big one I'd finallyadmit.
What would you finally admit ifyou weren't people pleasing?
Fourth, I am no longeravailable for dot dot dot.
And five the most powerfulversion of me says dot dot dot.
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Those are some examples ofprompts that will help you
activate your truth.
It's going to activate what'sreally inside of you.
This is you, all of you.
This is a great exercise to movethrough.
It's allowing you to open upall those energy centers and
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just speak your truth, let itall out, let it shine.
No judgment, just let it rip.
You are safe to speak.
Let it rip, you are safe tospeak.
This is your space, yourunfiltered self.
So use this exercise everysingle day.
Like anything, repetition is key.
Anything you want to improve,expand on release, repetition is
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key.
So move through that processand you will feel a completely
different shift.
I promise you you will feel ashift.
Allow this to become your go-toexercise and practice, for a
few weeks at least.
If you're meditating awesome,that's great.
I'm not discounting meditation.
I do it daily.
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This is just another addedbonus to really get inside your
body and open up.
So if you're in that space rightnow, if things are feeling
heavy or unknown or likeeverything is just crumbling
down, just utilize this practice.
You're not lost, you're justgetting reconnected.
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That's what this is.
So you can look at it this wayYou're being invited to access
deeper alignment, and thatdoesn't happen by constantly
repeating affirmations.
It happens by getting insideyour body.
All right, so use this as yourinitiation, and there's a couple
of ways you can also accessmore self-compassion and trust,
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and those are obviously journalprompts, and one that I like
using is what if this isn'tfalling apart?
What if it's really fallinginto place?
I have reminded myself time andtime again when I'm really in
the heat of it, like what ifthings aren't falling apart?
What if I can just let go andlet God?
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What if I can release thisclingy attachment that I have
onto this because I want it towork out this way so bad?
What if it's not for me?
What if it needs to fall apart?
Because in order for things tofall into place, I have to
release the attachment?
So that's just a journal promptshift that I have written down
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from time and time again.
That has served me well.
And then, of course, the somaticcheck-in, which, really looking
inside your body, which is whatI just guided you through and
where am I holding onto controlin my body?
And what would it feel like ifI released it and just softened
that voice activation exerciseis a great way to do a body
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check-in and clear everything up.
How about this question?
What has this season given methat I wouldn't have received
otherwise?
Ooh, sit with that, that's sodelicious.
What has this season given methat I wouldn't have received
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otherwise?
This is a very powerfulquestion, reflection question,
because it can be related toeven the darkest seasons of your
life.
We think it's the worst, andI'm not saying it's not like
death of a loved one orfinancial ruin or messy breakup
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or a diagnosis of a health issuemessy breakup or a diagnosis of
a health issue.
I'm not saying it's not painfulor awful, even.
All I'm saying is to reframe itand look at that season and
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what it gave you that you wouldnever have received had you
never gone through that seasonof life.
I know women who've gone throughhorrific seasons with breast
cancer and watching my own momnavigate her cancer journey and
watching her whittle away infront of me, it's the worst
thing ever.
But in turn her season giftedso many people and I know
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including herself in a reallyroundabout way.
We think we're so invincible.
You're like, oh, it's not goingto happen to me, or my parents
are never going to die becausethat just happens to everyone
else, or I'm never going toreceive a cancer diagnosis, or
I'm never going to havefinancial ruin.
Most people feel invincible.
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I've been there at times whereI'm like, oh, my God, that's so
tragic, that's so terrible, thathappened to you, but you think
it's not going to happen to me,right?
No, this is part of life.
This is part of just theexperience of it all.
And if we can become soconnected within, like really in
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tune to our bodies, we cannavigate this whole process with
a little more love andunderstanding and compassion,
and not just for others but moreimportantly, for ourselves.
We can feel so safe within,even through the darkest of
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hours.
And I know again, because Ilived it and because of it I'm
able to hold space for thetransformation in others.
And whether that's in my sacredshift, therapy sessions, or
it's the retreats that Ifacilitate or the events that
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I'm curating right now, I knowI'm able to really lead now
because I've been through somuch and I can look at it now
with a lens of love and truecompassion and as a gift.
And so, if you're navigatingyour own unraveling right now,
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trust that something beautifulis being born, not in spite of
this, but because of it.
And so, if you would like toeven dive deeper, if you want to
work one-on-one, if you want toget connected in a community
and we have Greece coming up, ohmy gosh, this is for the ladies
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.
So, men, I apologize, but holdtight, because I have something
for you too.
I'll share that with you in aminute.
So, ladies Greece, yes, thisSeptember 19th through the 27th,
we just booked a few morespaces over the last couple of
days.
We are down to our final two,final two spaces.
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That's it.
And once they're gone, they'regone.
And I would love to have you ifyou're called by the way, I
always say that because you'llknow it inside of you If you
truly are called to want thatnext level soul experience, like
soul connection.
This is deep.
We go really, really deep andwe have a ton of fun doing it.
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By the way, and the women thatare in this specific group, holy
moly, like on fire.
These women are amazing.
And I know there's women who'vejust signed up that don't know
each other, but they're lit upbecause they know they're being
called to something greater.
You don't ignore that.
Don't ignore that nudge or that.
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Yes, I do need this in my life.
It'll be the biggest blessingyou will ever receive when it
comes to your own evolution andtransformation.
And I know because, again, I'vebeen there.
I've been on the other side ofit, I've gone to retreats and
programs and all the offeringsthat have pushed me through to
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the other side of it.
You cannot do this on your own.
It's impossible.
I've tried.
You have to have someone helpfacilitate that process to
really bring you through.
And so, if you are called, wehave two spaces left for Greece.
Please reach out to me, please,please, please, because I would
love to have a conversationwith you on seeing if it is a
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good fit for you.
Number one, to see if it isright for you, and two, where
you're at right now in life andwhat you're looking to get out
of that next season.
And so reach out to me.
I hired a new executiveassistant.
Her name is Angel and she is anangel.
Oh, she's been amazing.
I'm going to put Angel's emailin the show notes.
She's just angel atchristymaycom.
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Reach out to her.
She will get you connected andscheduled with me to hop on a
super quick call.
We can do it super quick, 15minute phone call and I'll walk
you through everything.
So again, greece retreat.
Two more spaces.
Connect with my assistant,angel.
Angel at christymaycom.
The link will be in the shownotes if you need it.
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And to my men Hi, hi, all youbeautiful humans.
It has been so fulfilling andrewarding working with men again
.
The last time I worked with menwas in my health and wellness
company that I had for about 12years and I had a space in those
of you familiar with Scottsdalearea and I had a space in those
of you familiar with Scottsdalearea.
I had a space in the Scottsdaleair park.
It was called CMA performanceand it was amazing.
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I loved it and I worked with alot of men, but that was my last
like real container workingwith men in personal development
, mindset, health and wellnessspace, and so I opened up the
opportunity for my rapid rewireprogram about a year and a half
ago, and that's when I startedworking with men again, and it
has been such a blessing, let metell you, and I just feel so
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honored to be able to guide suchwonderful people through their
own transformation and evolution.
It is a massive gift, and soI've created an emergence.
I'm merging together thespirituality, retreat component
all that luscious, deliciousinner work and all the things we
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do and personal development,mindset, growth hacks all of
that merged into one event.
Growth hacks all of that mergedinto one event.
So think of retreats, meetpersonal development,
transformation, all the things.
It's just so good and I'mcurating it right now.
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We are in it and it's going tobe in Maui.
Yes, it's going to be on Maui.
For those of you who havelistened to this podcast forever
, do you remember me speaking onmy Maui retreat that I've been
trying to launch forever?
Yeah, that was when thispodcast first launched, which
was in 2022.
I started working on a Mauiretreat back in 2021, before the
podcast even started.
That's how long this journeyhas taken and there was a reason
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why it never truly launched asthe initial idea.
So everything happens for areason and I let go of the
attachment.
See, this is in real lifeexperience happening.
I let go of the attachment andI said I will know when it's
really right and how thatoffering looks like.
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And look what happened.
I started working with menagain and men are like hey, when
are you going to offer aretreat for us?
I know you host women all thetime.
And I thought, oh my gosh, lookat how this all came together.
And so now I'm merging thatretreat setting, as I mentioned,
with the personal developmenttransformation, with the
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personal developmenttransformation, mindset tools,
growth activation all the thingsthat you need to expand and
evolve into your greatest levelright now.
This is where nervous systemhealing fuels next level
leadership.
So, yes, maui in February 2026.
We are curating it right nowFive glorious days on Maui at
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the Four Seasons Kapalua I mean,if you haven't been there, you
got to go.
It's one of the finest hotels Ihave ever seen.
The views of the ocean, thebeaches, just everything about
it is spectacular.
This is a high level mastermind, if you will five day
experience on Maui in February2026.
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And for those of you that arelooking for an experience like
this, this will be my biggestoffering in the sense of like
how grand it's going to be.
I already have speakers linedup, facilitators coming in from
all over the world I mean fromliterally all over the world.
So, yeah, that's what I'mreally focusing on right now,
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and it just feels so good, sogood to be in this space and I'm
going to share with yousomething I know from a personal
standpoint I could not lead orbe in this space unless I went
through all the things I wentthrough.
So I'm telling you please holdonto this piece of advice I'm
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just becoming your BFF right now.
Hear me out.
Whatever you are going throughright now, whatever you are
going through right now, allowit to be a gift for your next
level of transformation andexpansion.
Allow it, just lean into it.
Don't fear it.
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Just start being very proactiveon how you can help yourself
feel safe in navigating throughit.
What I provided today in thisepisode is a great tool, a great
practice to utilize.
So be intentional with whatyou're doing on a daily basis
and how you're showing up foryourself, whether it is voice
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activation practices or maybe itis a swim in the pool.
Swimming is great, too, to helpmove your body and energy, and
it's very supportive andnourishing.
Maybe it is a hike on abeautiful sunny day.
Whatever that looks like foryou, just start being so
intentional on allowing yourselfto lean into what you're moving
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through right now rather than alens of judgment and fear.
With that being said, make it abeautiful and prosperous day,
much love.
You can look at it this way You're being invited to
access deeper alignment, andthat doesn't happen by
constantly repeatingaffirmations.
It happens by getting insideyour body.
All right, so use this as yourinitiation.
You are listening to theAligned and Alive podcast with
Chrissy May, where we discussthe various aspects of
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A place where you can findguidance and a space to explore
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This is more than a retreat.
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So are you ready to transform?
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Now back to the show.
Welcome to Aligned and Alive,the podcast where high-level
conversations meet real-lifetransformation.
If you're ready to elevate yourmindset, unlock your power and
live with deeper purpose, you'rein the right place.
All right for today's episode.
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I'm speaking on undervaluedseasons of life, why that
breakdown often means yourbreakthrough.
I know this because I've beenthrough it time and time again,
and when I can sit in reflection, like really sink into it and
look back, I'm like oh my gosh,yep, that is exactly what I
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needed to go through.
It was actually an incrediblegift.
But it never feels like that,does it?
Like when you're in the muck?
You're in it and you're likewhat the heck Right?
Like we just get into all thesemonkey mind conversations.
Why am I going through this?
Why haven't I been able to kickthis?
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Or why is this personconstantly showing up this way?
And so, if I can just lend myperspective on how I've been
able to now zoom out and look ateverything and I'm like, uh-huh
, okay, I got it, check, check,check, noted.
I'm no longer going to sit inthat mindset of why me Not that
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I usually will go, why me?
I'm a victim, nothing like thatbut why is this happening again
?
Or why can't I move throughthis with greater ease?
And so I personally can seeevery situation truly as a gift,
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and I seriously mean that.
And moving forward into thisnext season, this next chapter
that I'm shifting through, itjust allows more space to
actually sink into a situationand lean into it, rather than
allowing the emotion to takeover, because that can happen so
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quickly.
You're in it and it's sodifficult to get out of it
sometimes, and that emotion canactually have so much power over
you, if you allow it.
You see, I know from experiencethat we can be our greatest
strengths and we can really bethe champion that we need.
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It is inside of us.
We don't need someone else tobe there.
Yes, it helps to have thatcommunity and that tribe,
absolutely, but at the end ofthe day, it's up to us, because
you can have your raving fansand your raving community and
your therapist and your coachand your mentor and all the
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things around you supporting youand lifting you and guiding you
.
At the end of the day, it's upto you, and so I just want to
have this episode be anopportunity for you to stay
curious, to allow thatself-inquiry to go a little bit
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deeper, to lean in with adifferent perspective.
Just allow space for that.
Maybe you just need to checkyourself.
Maybe you just need to let goof the attachments and the ego
and all the things that hold ushostage.
Just let it go and just go.
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Okay, maybe there is somethingthat I'm not seeing, maybe
there's a blind spot.
Maybe I can just take fiveminutes out of my day and listen
to Chrissy, talk away and offerup a different perspective.
We are going through lifetogether and it's so refreshing
when someone can just be so openand honest and vulnerable and
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transparent and just give it howit is as to what they're moving
through, because you can learnso much.
There's so much to learn fromone another.
I learn from my clients in mycoaching programs.
I learn from my women in myretreats.
I'm constantly learning as I'mleading and I think that's a
really important message toreally sink in is, you know, we
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can be in a leadership role, butif we're so attached to our ego
and our titles and all thethings that, honestly, they
don't mean anything.
They don't.
I'm just going to say it,that's how it is, it's not.
You cannot allow yourself tobecome so attached to people,
places, things, titles, becauseyou will find yourself in a cage
and you will find yourself soembedded into the program that
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you created that when things dopop up and you need to pivot and
I say that with love, like youneed to pivot, otherwise you
will stay stuck.
You cannot allow theattachments to overrule your
freedom in life, and I've donethat and I can see that now,
looking back.
I allowed so many things inmoments to hold me so tightly
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that it was so difficult to makea decision.
I know what that's like.
It's the scariest thing in theworld.
When you're in that moment.
You're like God, I need to leapright now, but I just can't.
And I'm like why?
Why is this so hard for me tomake this decision?
Because I know in my mind it'sright, but my body is like no.
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Well, I have a solution for youand it really comes down to
feeling safe, feeling safe inyour body, feeling safe in your
soul, feeling safe, safe, safe,like when you can just feel safe
within, it's so much easier tomake that shift, to make that
leap.
It really is, and this is whywe talk about the inner work,
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because the inner work is thework that will allow you to win
in life, because the inner workis the work that will allow you
to win in life.
Hands down and I know becauseI've avoided so many spaces of
committing to it, oftentimesbecause I've allowed my ego to
lead the way, and not ego in thesense of a bad thing we all
have ego.
It's just getting out of themind and getting into the body
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and feeling super safe andsupported, and this is what I
teach my clients in our sessions.
This is what I help guide themthrough.
There are so many modalitiesthat we can use in order to
shift this inside of our body.
There's breath work, there'schanting, there's singing,
there's dancing, there'sclinical hypnosis.
There's so many things we cando to help shift that stuck
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energy, and so I wanted to firststart this episode off with
some practices that you can doright now that will help you
activate your inner knowing,activate your energy field to
really show up and lean into allthe things that life brings the
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icky, the fun, the in-between,all of it with so much more
confidence.
It feels so good when you canface something head on, whether
it's a difficult conversation,whether it's just your own fear,
you know like just your ownfear.
You're like all right, I'mtired of letting this control my
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life.
I'm going to go just do thedamn thing or show up for myself
, or make the decision, or takethis leap of faith or whatever
that looks like for you.
Do not believe for one momentthat you are the only one going
through a challenging season oflife.
Just not for one moment.
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We all are.
It may look all glitzy and glamon social, but I'm here to tell
you right now that God's honesttruth is that every single
human being is going throughsomething in their life, every
single one, and it's a choicethat they've made to navigate
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that with a different attitude,mindset and skill set that
they've allowed themselves toacquire, to show up in a
different way.
That's all it is.
It's not this.
She or he is more special thanI, or they have something better
than me.
Like, let that all go, that'sjust your mind spinning out of
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control, creating stories thataren't even true, right?
So let's just let that go andlet's come back to the truth
that it all comes back to you,and the choices you make will
dictate how you will experiencethis thing called life.
That's it.
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Whether you're going throughchallenging health issues,
relationships, financialsetbacks, whatever it looks like
for you, you're not alone andyou can navigate this with so
much more grace and freedom thanyou ever thought possible, and
it all comes down to yourperspective and how you choose
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to navigate the situation.
So, no more pep talk, no more.
You know, christy, going on atangent, I'm just going to shift
into how I can help you.
Right, that's what you're herefor.
How can you help me?
Just give me the dang thing.
That's what I'm going to do.
So I want to start withsomething that may seem kind of
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silly, and I just ran one of myclients through it yesterday and
it's just so fun.
Like it's a fun exercise.
I've done it before, I haven'tdone it in a really long time,
and so it was really enjoyableto move through it again.
And I did a session on my ownafter my client session and it
just it was so good.
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I'm like, how come I don't dothat more often?
You know like I can show up onmy sessions and guide my clients
through amazing experiences.
And then I'm like, chrissy,hello, you know that works, so
why aren't you doing it?
So I, yeah, I checked myself.
I got real, real, real.
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So diving in this is calledvoice activation and it works
because sound is a directpathway to your nervous system
and your energy centers in thebody, especially the throat,
which is so many of us have somany issues with our throat
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chakra.
Why do you think it's becausewe hold suppressed truth, fear
and self-expression.
So when we activate our voice,so much can flow through.
It allows space for all of thatstuckness inside your body to
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now release.
So I know everyone typicallywill think of modalities like
meditation or sound baths.
Right, like this is the popularoutlets for us to go to when we
feel we need to release or letgo or breath work, right, very
common?
Yeah, for years and years andyears.
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This is all you see online ortalk about.
But do you know your own voice?
The way you activate it isactually complete and utter
freedom.
It's peaceful, it's comfortingand it's fulfilling.
You just feel elevated.
When I did this before we gointo it, when I did this in a
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class setting a while back, wedid it for an hour and I'm not
even hitting you, I waslevitating.
It was so amazing, and so I'mgoing to guide you through it
right now to help you shiftthrough any sort of stuckness
you're feeling inside your body,and I want you to start with a
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soft hum.
Just let the sound sit in yourthroat and chest.
You're not going to forceanything.
You're just going to notice thevibration and as you hum, I
want you to imagine the soundfilling your entire body, from
your root to your throat.
So we're going to focus ontorso and we're going to open up
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vowel sounds, and these soundsaren't random.
They each carry energy.
Let the sounds move through you,saying each of the following
slowly, one at a time, and thefirst one is heart opening.
It's ah, let this one.
Crack your chest wide open andjust feel the release.
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Okay, that's the first one.
Not a singer, so do not judge.
That's the whole point of this.
Like this is getting reallyvulnerable.
You're just going to let it goand not feel like you're being
judged.
Maybe someone there on theother end of this you know
episode is laughing.
I don't care, it helps, so youcan laugh all you want.
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Number two is going to be oh,it's a grounding vibration.
Oh, let that sink into yourhips, your legs, the floor
beneath you.
You're just, oh, all right.
Third one is E.
This is for clarity andexpression, and you're just
going to let this vibration movethrough your entire jaw and
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your third eye and that is E,all right, e, all right.
And the last one, this is onefor integration and truth and it
anchors all of it in.
So you're going to let itvibrate through all your bones
already, and this is a good one.
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Everyone, a lot of people inthe yogi world, know this one.
Oh again.
Oh, all right.
So now that your voice is open,this allows you to really flow
through with so much more graceon how to show up and speak your
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truth.
So you don't have to overthink,you just have to speak.
The first thing that rises.
It can be messy, just let it bereal.
And you're going to readthrough each prompt.
You can have someone pair thisup with somebody and then just
finish the sentence.
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What I do if I'm alone, I dojournal writing.
So I'll put together like fiveto 10 statements that need me to
finish, and then I finish thewhole entire statement.
So I'm going to give you anexample.
The first one is the truth isdot dot dot.
You got to finish itimmediately.
The first thing that comesthrough your mind immediately.
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Write it down or say it outloud, if you can do this either
way.
If you're a partner withsomebody, this is a lot easier.
However, if you're by yourself,it's still very beneficial.
So the truth is boom.
What's the truth for you rightnow, after you move through this
voice activation?
Second one what I've beenafraid to say is dot dot dot.
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Third one if I wasn'tperforming or people pleasing
that's a big one I'd finallyadmit.
What would you finally admit ifyou weren't people pleasing?
Fourth, I am no longeravailable for dot dot dot.
And five the most powerfulversion of me says dot dot dot.
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Those are some examples ofprompts that will help you
activate your truth.
It's going to activate what'sreally inside of you.
This is you, all of you.
This is a great exercise to movethrough.
It's allowing you to open upall those energy centers and
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just speak your truth, let itall out, let it shine.
No judgment, just let it rip.
You are safe to speak.
Let it rip, you are safe tospeak.
This is your space, yourunfiltered self.
So use this exercise everysingle day.
Like anything, repetition is key.
Anything you want to improve,expand on release, repetition is
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key.
So move through that processand you will feel a completely
different shift.
I promise you you will feel ashift.
Allow this to become your go-toexercise and practice, for a
few weeks at least.
If you're meditating awesome,that's great.
I'm not discounting meditation.
I do it daily.
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This is just another addedbonus to really get inside your
body and open up.
So if you're in that space rightnow, if things are feeling
heavy or unknown or likeeverything is just crumbling
down, just utilize this practice.
You're not lost, you're justgetting reconnected.
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That's what this is.
So you can look at it this wayYou're being invited to access
deeper alignment, and thatdoesn't happen by constantly
repeating affirmations.
It happens by getting insideyour body.
All right, so use this as yourinitiation, and there's a couple
of ways you can also accessmore self-compassion and trust,
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and those are obviously journalprompts, and one that I like
using is what if this isn'tfalling apart?
What if it's really fallinginto place?
I have reminded myself time andtime again when I'm really in
the heat of it, like what ifthings aren't falling apart?
What if I can just let go andlet God?
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What if I can release thisclingy attachment that I have
onto this because I want it towork out this way so bad?
What if it's not for me?
What if it needs to fall apart?
Because in order for things tofall into place, I have to
release the attachment?
So that's just a journal promptshift that I have written down
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from time and time again.
That has served me well.
And then, of course, the somaticcheck-in, which, really looking
inside your body, which is whatI just guided you through and
where am I holding onto controlin my body?
And what would it feel like ifI released it and just softened
that voice activation exerciseis a great way to do a body
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check-in and clear everything up.
How about this question?
What has this season given methat I wouldn't have received
otherwise?
Ooh, sit with that, that's sodelicious.
What has this season given methat I wouldn't have received
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otherwise?
This is a very powerfulquestion, reflection question,
because it can be related toeven the darkest seasons of your
life.
We think it's the worst, andI'm not saying it's not like
death of a loved one orfinancial ruin or messy breakup
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or a diagnosis of a health issuemessy breakup or a diagnosis of
a health issue.
I'm not saying it's not painfulor awful, even.
All I'm saying is to reframe itand look at that season and
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what it gave you that you wouldnever have received had you
never gone through that seasonof life.
I know women who've gone throughhorrific seasons with breast
cancer and watching my own momnavigate her cancer journey and
watching her whittle away infront of me, it's the worst
thing ever.
But in turn her season giftedso many people and I know
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including herself in a reallyroundabout way.
We think we're so invincible.
You're like, oh, it's not goingto happen to me, or my parents
are never going to die becausethat just happens to everyone
else, or I'm never going toreceive a cancer diagnosis, or
I'm never going to havefinancial ruin.
Most people feel invincible.
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I've been there at times whereI'm like, oh, my God, that's so
tragic, that's so terrible, thathappened to you, but you think
it's not going to happen to me,right?
No, this is part of life.
This is part of just theexperience of it all.
And if we can become soconnected within, like really in
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tune to our bodies, we cannavigate this whole process with
a little more love andunderstanding and compassion,
and not just for others but moreimportantly, for ourselves.
We can feel so safe within,even through the darkest of
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hours.
And I know again, because Ilived it and because of it I'm
able to hold space for thetransformation in others.
And whether that's in my sacredshift, therapy sessions, or
it's the retreats that Ifacilitate or the events that
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I'm curating right now, I knowI'm able to really lead now
because I've been through somuch and I can look at it now
with a lens of love and truecompassion and as a gift.
And so, if you're navigatingyour own unraveling right now,
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trust that something beautifulis being born, not in spite of
this, but because of it.
And so, if you would like toeven dive deeper, if you want to
work one-on-one, if you want toget connected in a community
and we have Greece coming up, ohmy gosh, this is for the ladies
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.
So, men, I apologize, but holdtight, because I have something
for you too.
I'll share that with you in aminute.
So, ladies Greece, yes, thisSeptember 19th through the 27th,
we just booked a few morespaces over the last couple of
days.
We are down to our final two,final two spaces.
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That's it.
And once they're gone, they'regone.
And I would love to have you ifyou're called by the way, I
always say that because you'llknow it inside of you If you
truly are called to want thatnext level soul experience, like
soul connection.
This is deep.
We go really, really deep andwe have a ton of fun doing it.
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By the way, and the women thatare in this specific group, holy
moly, like on fire.
These women are amazing.
And I know there's women who'vejust signed up that don't know
each other, but they're lit upbecause they know they're being
called to something greater.
You don't ignore that.
Don't ignore that nudge or that.
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Yes, I do need this in my life.
It'll be the biggest blessingyou will ever receive when it
comes to your own evolution andtransformation.
And I know because, again, I'vebeen there.
I've been on the other side ofit, I've gone to retreats and
programs and all the offeringsthat have pushed me through to
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the other side of it.
You cannot do this on your own.
It's impossible.
I've tried.
You have to have someone helpfacilitate that process to
really bring you through.
And so, if you are called, wehave two spaces left for Greece.
Please reach out to me, please,please, please, because I would
love to have a conversationwith you on seeing if it is a
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good fit for you.
Number one, to see if it isright for you, and two, where
you're at right now in life andwhat you're looking to get out
of that next season.
And so reach out to me.
I hired a new executiveassistant.
Her name is Angel and she is anangel.
Oh, she's been amazing.
I'm going to put Angel's emailin the show notes.
She's just angel atchristymaycom.
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Reach out to her.
She will get you connected andscheduled with me to hop on a
super quick call.
We can do it super quick, 15minute phone call and I'll walk
you through everything.
So again, greece retreat.
Two more spaces.
Connect with my assistant,angel.
Angel at christymaycom.
The link will be in the shownotes if you need it.
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And to my men Hi, hi, all youbeautiful humans.
It has been so fulfilling andrewarding working with men again
.
The last time I worked with menwas in my health and wellness
company that I had for about 12years and I had a space in those
of you familiar with Scottsdalearea and I had a space in those
of you familiar with Scottsdalearea.
I had a space in the Scottsdaleair park.
It was called CMA performanceand it was amazing.
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I loved it and I worked with alot of men, but that was my last
like real container workingwith men in personal development
, mindset, health and wellnessspace, and so I opened up the
opportunity for my rapid rewireprogram about a year and a half
ago, and that's when I startedworking with men again, and it
has been such a blessing, let metell you, and I just feel so
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honored to be able to guide suchwonderful people through their
own transformation and evolution.
It is a massive gift, and soI've created an emergence.
I'm merging together thespirituality, retreat component
all that luscious, deliciousinner work and all the things we
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do and personal development,mindset, growth hacks all of
that merged into one event.
Growth hacks all of that mergedinto one event.
So think of retreats, meetpersonal development,
transformation, all the things.
It's just so good and I'mcurating it right now.
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We are in it and it's going tobe in Maui.
Yes, it's going to be on Maui.
For those of you who havelistened to this podcast forever
, do you remember me speaking onmy Maui retreat that I've been
trying to launch forever?
Yeah, that was when thispodcast first launched, which
was in 2022.
I started working on a Mauiretreat back in 2021, before the
podcast even started.
That's how long this journeyhas taken and there was a reason
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why it never truly launched asthe initial idea.
So everything happens for areason and I let go of the
attachment.
See, this is in real lifeexperience happening.
I let go of the attachment andI said I will know when it's
really right and how thatoffering looks like.
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And look what happened.
I started working with menagain and men are like hey, when
are you going to offer aretreat for us?
I know you host women all thetime.
And I thought, oh my gosh, lookat how this all came together.
And so now I'm merging thatretreat setting, as I mentioned,
with the personal developmenttransformation, with the
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personal developmenttransformation, mindset tools,
growth activation all the thingsthat you need to expand and
evolve into your greatest levelright now.
This is where nervous systemhealing fuels next level
leadership.
So, yes, maui in February 2026.
We are curating it right nowFive glorious days on Maui at
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the Four Seasons Kapalua I mean,if you haven't been there, you
got to go.
It's one of the finest hotels Ihave ever seen.
The views of the ocean, thebeaches, just everything about
it is spectacular.
This is a high level mastermind, if you will five day
experience on Maui in February2026.
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And for those of you that arelooking for an experience like
this, this will be my biggestoffering in the sense of like
how grand it's going to be.
I already have speakers linedup, facilitators coming in from
all over the world I mean fromliterally all over the world.
So, yeah, that's what I'mreally focusing on right now,
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and it just feels so good, sogood to be in this space and I'm
going to share with yousomething I know from a personal
standpoint I could not lead orbe in this space unless I went
through all the things I wentthrough.
So I'm telling you please holdonto this piece of advice I'm
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just becoming your BFF right now.
Hear me out.
Whatever you are going throughright now, whatever you are
going through right now, allowit to be a gift for your next
level of transformation andexpansion.
Allow it, just lean into it.
Don't fear it.
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Just start being very proactiveon how you can help yourself
feel safe in navigating throughit.
What I provided today in thisepisode is a great tool, a great
practice to utilize.
So be intentional with whatyou're doing on a daily basis
and how you're showing up foryourself, whether it is voice
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activation practices or maybe itis a swim in the pool.
Swimming is great, too, to helpmove your body and energy, and
it's very supportive andnourishing.
Maybe it is a hike on abeautiful sunny day.
Whatever that looks like foryou, just start being so
intentional on allowing yourselfto lean into what you're moving
(32:12):
through right now rather than alens of judgment and fear.
With that being said, make it abeautiful and prosperous day,
much love.
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Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.