“All you need is love” is a lie.
This first episode might be a little controversial because I think saying “I love you” should not be the peak of relationship seriousness. Because for one, it’s really easy to say I love you to someone you don’t really know.
I think we’ve gotten love all wrong and it’s messing up our expectations of what it means to have a healthy relationship.
We talk about falling in love like we’re powerless against it. Love has taken control and we’re plummeting face first right into it. And whether we fall into a “Hallmark Movie Love” where the high-powered city businesswoman meets up with the small town farmer and they work together to keep Pine City from getting redeveloped.
Or a “Shakespearean Love” where there’s going to be a bunch of tragedy waiting for you at the end, we talk about it like it’s out of our control. Because I’m in love.
If all we need is love, why are so many people who are in love and getting married, falling out of love and getting divorced?
Listen to the episode and hear why I think some other statements and parts of a relationship are WAY MORE IMPORTANT than saying I love you.
If you want to read more about the lies of love, I write about it all in my new book 25 Lies Twentysomethings Need to Stop Believing, which you can find here: https://bit.ly/25-Lies
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