July 12, 2023 • 45 mins
Ding Dong! Ever wondered about the secret life of a modern family navigating crafts, dim sum, and ear piercings? We're taking you with us on our latest adventures: from monthly visits to Home Depot for craft time with our kids, to a fascinating trip to Chinatown. We even stumble upon a comical video of cultural appropriation that has us in stitches.
Are you struggling to understand the murky world of "situation ships"? Let's break it down together. We share personal experiences of being caught in these ambiguous relationships, diving into the necessity of setting boundaries and being honest about your feelings. We're offering no-nonsense advice on how to navigate situation ships, and important signs to look out for. Are you in one? Should you be in one? Let's figure it out together.
Finally, we're getting real about the underrated importance of physical affection in relationships. Often overlooked, especially for men, physical affection can be a powerful expression of love and care, and even a primary love language. We're reflecting on our experiences and how we've learned to value this aspect of our relationships. Plus, we touch on Jonah Hill's controlling relationship "expectations" - because sometimes, Hollywood doesn't even get it right. Also, a good time at the MGK Spain performance. Join us for these explorations and more on this week's episode of All Tricks, No Treats!
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Hello and welcome back to All Tricks, no treats,
three weeks I'm going to sayevery time.
Three weeks in a row.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
We're back One day.
we're like week 283.
We're back.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
We're here to give you our knowledge.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Pew, pew, pew.
I'm just kidding.
Yeah, so it's been a week.
A week feels like you know nottoo long, but there's, you know.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
When we stay on track it feels like a week isn't that
long, Like it's shit We need tofucking do this again.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
What have we done?
We need to do this again.
Commitment No.
And the past week we've doneHome Depot.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Our second time going to Home Depot, taking the kids.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Yeah, so every first Saturday of Home Depot.
it used to be every Saturdaybecause I remember my grandpa
taking me and my cousin and wehad our own little aprons He
would take us.
but every first Saturday of themonth Home Depot hosts like a
little crafty time for the kids.
(01:18):
So if you're ever looking forsomething to do for your kids,
you can sign up on HomeDepotcom.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Get your bratty spoiled kids to do some hands on
things.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Yeah, i mean they go and they do like a craft.
It's something new every month,but it's super cool to see them
like hammer screwdriver.
Obviously, you know like Bobbyand Mr Nichols need help holding
a screwdriver, or you knowhammering in the right place.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
The fun part for them is painting Oh they love
painting At the end.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
And it's everywhere and I try not to get that mad.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
but I feel like that's, that's like a parent's
thing, like we go and we'rebuilding it, we're all sweating.
It was holding the screwdriver.
Every single parent is liketrying to do the best, like just
trying to put it together whiletrying to like work with their
kid, but ultimately we end updoing it, and then the kids at
the end were with the paintbrushlike blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
There's like five colors on a plate and I'm always
like, Oh, try to paint it nice.
And then eventually it turnsinto a gray that they just mix
all of it together and they forsome reason put their hands in
it and just it's crazy.
I'm like, ah, whatever.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Yeah, it's like the same pale grade.
Yeah, pale gray.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
So they've.
they've done two projects andboth of them are the same gray
color.
They're all the same, but it'sgood.
It's good for them.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Yeah, it's fun, so we did that.
And then also um Bobby got herears pierced.
I think like a year ago maybealmost a year ago like a year
ago And it kind of like healedweird.
Like it popped out and um,sometimes it like is healing a
(02:58):
little weird, i don't even knowwhat to say.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Like it's like it just gets a little like pussy at
the in the back, yeah, and soit doesn't hurt her really
though.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
No, there's never any pain or anything, it just, you
know, it's just kind of likeangry, it's a little bit of an
angry piercing And so, um, thisweek she was like Oh, my ear.
And so we just kind of lookedat it and it had a little bit of
pus and we're like Oh, what'sgoing on?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I said, uh, Dr Chris will take care of this.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
And you took to your phone and you wanted to look up
a pussy ear.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yeah, but pussy is not.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You said.
You said you said wait, how doyou spell pussy?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I said how do you clean a pussy ears?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
You said a pussy ear, but your phone probably well,
your phone.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I thought I typed how do you clean a pussy ear?
And then I was like wait, thatsentence doesn't look that right
.
And I told Brianna how do youspell pussies?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
And what came up?
Pussy.
So we figured it out ourselves.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
No, thanks to you, uh , google MD, it's okay.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Dr Chris, thanks.
And lastly, we went toChinatown.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Chinatown.
I want to be ninja, okay.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Have you seen that video?
Speaker 1 (04:30):
No, It's this white lady who's doing like a fun
fundraiser for famous people nowrich people And she starts
singing a song in a Chineseaccent and everyone's like that
is the most racist thing I'veever seen.
I need to show you real quick.
And while she's singing this,there's like an Asian lady right
(04:52):
in the front and she's makinglike a weird face.
It's fucking incredible.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Because it's offensive.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Yes, is this like?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
crazy.
Why is she trying so?
Speaker 1 (05:10):
hard.
I have no idea.
She's like fucking doing herninja hands and oh my god.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
No, but she's like running around the room.
Yeah, it was wild.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
That's an old video, but I felt like you needed to
see a clip to know what I wastalking about.
Okay, thank you.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Yeah, sorry, i'm trying to tell them because we
saw this place.
We both saw different videos.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah, so I saw mine like in June.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Oh god, here comes the competition.
And then Brianna is likethere's this dumpling place.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
It's called Dongkok.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
It's called.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
What's it called?
Wangkok, wangkok?
And I was like wait, i think Iknow what that place is.
And I showed her a picture andit was the same spot but a
different video, because we'vebeen wanting dumplings for a
really long time and we haven'tfound a place.
That's like ridiculously goodand we're like let's go, let's
take the kids.
So, yeah, we ended up going.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
We wanted to give them an authentic dim sum
experience And also I feel likeit was kind of a.
It was like a little culturallesson for them too, which was
pretty cool, like we got to talkabout different cultures, eat
this Sometimes things aredifferent for us and what we do
not sit because, you know kidsour kids, they say whatever they
(06:28):
want.
So we had conversations about,like you know, sometimes we, to
be polite, we have to say thingsin a different way, and you
know.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I don't say it at all .
Speaker 2 (06:40):
So we just learned about culture and eat some dim
sum and it was fun.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
So our plan was like to get a few different types of
dumplings.
And what are those?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Oh, pork, like buns, kind of like pork buns, steamed
buns, baked buns, all the buns.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
And when we got to the front of the line I said,
damn, i need all of it.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
I know We do that every time.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
So we got like 30 dumplings for I don't know why.
She gave me four pieces of cake.
I asked for two and she gave mefour big ass pieces and then
two rice cakes and two chickenrice and it was way too much.
We walked like six blocks to.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
No, we didn't walk that far.
Six blocks.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Maybe four blocks or three blocks.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Two blocks Next door.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
So we finally found a place and we ended up by Ulvera
Street, which was nice becausewe were going to take the kids
there after And I was kind ofdisappointed in the dumb things.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Yeah, you weren't having it.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
The first bite I was like oh man, this is so good.
I think I was just like reallyhungry And then the more I ate,
the more I was like I kind ofregret this.
I don't know why.
The meat was just kind of weird.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I told you that It wasn't weird.
It just wasn't to our liking.
It wasn't what we were used to.
I have a thing with meatdiscoloration.
There's like any sort ofredness, purple-ness, pink-ness.
That chicken was a weird thing.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
It looked like the gray that the kids use at the
Home Depot painting those things.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
I'm sure it's delicious to other people.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
And we bring up saying things in the right way,
because Champa was like itstinks.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Yeah, we were walking because, like, can we leave It
stinks?
Speaker 1 (08:36):
And I was like oh no, oh no Because the chicken rice
was wrapped in some type of leafI think it was banana leaf,
Banana leaf, Yeah, and thebanana leaf smelled pretty
gnarly.
It was like hot and steamy Andit was like when you open the
bag it was like, well, and hewas like that stinks, Oh man,
And we didn't end up eating that.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
No we didn't, but you know, we tried different things
and it was a good culturalexperience for us For sure, yay,
so, yeah.
So that's been our week, andnow we're drinking.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Because we're forgetting.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
We're drinking to those buns, man.
If anyone knows like anotherdim sum place?
I know there's that ding-fungdim.
I don't know, i think it's a.
Chaolengbao, that's the bun.
That's the actual bun Dim sumplace.
We'd love to try it, so let usknow.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Yeah, let us know.
Thanks, Cheers, cheers.
These are huge, that's what shesaid.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
That's what you never said.
You're so good.
Okay, so our topic for today issituations.
Was I supposed to sing thatwith you?
(09:59):
No, I just didn't know how tomake that to a song.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
It's a long Situation ships The long thing.
If you don't know what that isyou're about to know.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Oh yeah, So we had some polls.
I like doing this, So we hadsome polls, and I really like
doing polls because I like tosee you know what everyone knows
how we're all doing.
On the same aspect, And ourquestion was do you know what a
situation ship is?
Good question 50% said duh, 33%said no, was that a rapper?
(10:34):
And 17% said yes, and I'm inone Help, damn the big help, the
big help.
And our next question is haveyou been or are you in a
situation?
ship 14% yes Said yes, i loveit.
So they love their situation.
(10:56):
Ship 36% said yes, i said helpwith a crying face.
And 50% said no, isn't he awrestler?
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Cause they don't know what it is.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Yeah, cause they still don't know what a
situation ship is, and our lastthing was to have anyone send us
their situation, ship storiesor tips.
Okay, so we actually got a few.
Someone said it's a catch 22biting me in the ass and they
put a crying face.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
It's hard.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
It's hard, it's hard out there.
It is, it's hard, it's hard Acatch 22.
So maybe they like started outbeing into it.
I don't know, but they saidit's biting them in the ass.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
So that's common.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Unfortunately, they're like seeing the negative
aspects of it right now.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
I think they were into it, and then they're
getting to a point where theywanted to be more and that's why
they're like help me please.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
The next one is I'm in a few.
I'm at a point in my life whereI'm successful Good for you,
mid 30s and want to have fun.
Some of the girls feel the sameand somewhat more, but when it
comes to that time, i'm straightup.
Well, my first thing is goodfor you for being straight up
with them.
That's the biggest thing of asituation ship, i feel like.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
I got has it planned out.
I got knows what he's doing.
What did you write this?
Speaker 2 (12:26):
You're like so proud for that.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Well, he's not like an asshole and just like leaving
them on red or not talking tothem or whatever.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
That's what I'm saying.
when it comes to that time, i'mstraight up.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
So nice, that's what it should be.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Have your fun.
Yeah, set your rules whateveryou want.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Good for you.
Someone said WTF is this?
LOL in all caps.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Who said that Wow?
Because you're an old part.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
They probably think it's like a cruise ship.
The situation ship Next one iskeep your feelings out of it,
know your place, stay in yourlane.
It is what it is.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
That's straight up.
That's what a situation ship is.
You can't get feelings mixed inor you'll get like that person
is not working out for them.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
That's some sound advice.
That's like you know easiersaid than done, but if that's
your advice, i feel like you gotit.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
You've been in love with you.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Good for you.
Last one, i was in a couple andthey ended not feeling the same
.
I was sad at the time but endedup with my soulmate and
couldn't be happier.
They ended up bad and I'm happyabout it with a crying,
laughing face.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Damn.
Revenge is sweet brother, hey,sometimes it doesn't work out,
and then you end up with theperson that you want to be with,
and then, hey, things didn'twork out for the other parties,
which is good for that guy.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Well, I mean, I'm happy that they're happy, but
also, you know, I never wish itwill towards anyone else.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Speak for yourself.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
I will, but yeah, that's it.
Thanks everyone.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Yeah, we appreciate you guys for writing in.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Yeah, for answering our little polls.
So are we ready to know what asituation ship is?
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Let's hear it.
Okay.
Let's educate the people, okay.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
A romantic or sexual relationship that is not
considered to be formal orestablished.
So give me, essentially it'ssomething that's undefined.
There's like it's like a greatarea of knowing.
There's something more likemore than friendship.
Like you know, you guys kind ofhave like an attraction, some
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chemistry, but there's still nocommitment or relationship
established.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
No label, essentially What I get out of it.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
I kind of when I was like looking up, looking it up,
i was thinking because you know,we're from a different time
than the youngsters these days.
So I was thinking like, is itlike friends with benefits or is
it like talking?
Remember, everyone would belike, oh, we're talking.
It's kind of like talking right.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I think it's friends with benefits.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I don't think talking is at a level where it's or you
could get feeling so easytalking you're just talking to
the person.
I mean sure you could like themor something, but when you're
intimate with someone that'slike a next level thing.
So that's more gray area thanjust talking to someone.
You could be talking toeveryone.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
You don't think talking has like physical
intimacy?
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Not all the time.
I mean, I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
So it can be temporary, like you've gone on a
few dates with someone and it'sstill too early to discuss your
relationship status, you know,when you're still trying to fill
it out, like, just hang out alittle bit.
But it can also be like thedefinition of a relationship,
like you're just playing in asituation.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
I agree.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Have you ever experienced a situation?
Speaker 1 (16:30):
I have a couple, a few Oh.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I mean.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
I think, growing up, when I was talking to girls or
dating, whatever you want tocall it I always felt like I was
into them more than they wereinto me.
But I was young and dumb So Iwas like, well, i'll just keep
trying, keep doing this Youliked hard.
Yeah, and it bit me in the assevery time.
(16:56):
I think My heart has a lot ofbandages on it.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Sorry, and you came to sew it up, you sewed it up.
I went with my foot and pushedon the pedal.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Yeah, but it sucks, definitely sucks, to be on the
wrong side of a situation ship,but the grass is greener on the
other side.
You just got to keep trucking,keep moving on.
There's more fish in the sea,you know.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Yeah, have you.
I've been in a situation ship.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
When Who You've got never got you on it, you whore.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I.
It doesn't mean I haven't beenin a situation ship.
Okay, yeah, so I've been in oneWere you sad.
I mean, you know, we did whatwe did, we had our fun, but Did
he have a bigger dick than me?
Oh God, here come the questions.
But you know, things just ended.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
That sucks.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
And that was it.
Now move it on.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
For me.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Yeah.
So yeah, i mean it was.
It's kind of weird to be inthat gray area and to not have
like any kind of like knowledgeof where it's going, but also I
think that's kind of like thefun of it as well.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
Yeah.
Like to be in the moment andspontaneous, and I think it's
fun when it's fairly new Andthen.
But when you start getting youremotions into it and you start
feeling a certain way and theymight not be then it might be
like, damn, what is this goingto be, What is this going into?
But sometimes they might notfeel the same.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Yeah, yeah, that sucks.
That's when you gotta, you know, speak up for yourself.
Okay, so you have some pros andcons.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
I do Have a situation ship.
I did some research, don't look.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Oh, that hand hid everything.
I'm going to try to go throughit quick, So pros of a situation
ship flexibility.
Everyone likes a flexibleperson.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Casual and low pressure, which is true, just
doing what you got to do andthen boning out.
Three is emotional connection.
What's crazy about a situationship is that you could be on
like a just hookup level, butit's someone that you're into.
It might not be someone thatyou see yourself in the far
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future, but in the near future,yes.
So that's why it could be murkyand like great, because you
have to have some type ofconnection.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
I think that's the thing too, like with either
person, like even if you'reattracted to them, you can have
like a little tinge of jealousy.
Because you're attracted tothem, you want something with
them, like whether it's physical, emotional.
So you know, you're kind ofalways looking for something.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Yeah, and the last one is a learning experience.
It can help you understand yourneeds, your preferences, what
you like, where you see yourselfin the future.
Okay, cons are lack ofcommitment.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
Yeah, that can be a big issue for a lot of people.
Emotional ambiguity ambiguity,ambiguity ambiguity ambiguity
ambiguity ambiguity how do yousay ambiguity, ambiguity,
ambiguity.
That was a, that was a skatingemotional ambiguity ambiguity,
(20:28):
ambiguity ambiguity, you know,over the skating brand.
ambiguous, ambiguity, ambiguity, ambiguity emotional ambiguity.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
That's a weird word.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Say it five times fast.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Um, uh.
Situationships can often likeclear expectations and
boundaries, making it difficultto know where one stands
emotionally.
Uh.
The third one is potential forunequal investment, which means
it can involve people withdiffering levels of emotional
investment.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Yeah, so one person could be into it and one person
can be like, like, like me.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
I like them more than me.
We're on different levels, ithink.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
I feel.
I think, like you know some,there's always going to be
someone who wants more or likesa little bit more than the other
, and then, once it startsbecoming more apparent that the
other one doesn't feel, the sameway.
That's when it gets a littlehard.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
And it's like this last one.
It limits growth anddevelopment.
Which could it can stop youfrom doing something with
someone else, or yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
if you meet someone else one night, you could be
like oh well, you know, i've gotthis guy so and so hanging out
waiting for me, so I can't dothis 100% nice yeah, so those
are some pros and cons, so Ilike your pros and cons.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Okay, so here are some signs.
You're in a situation ship.
Obviously these are not, likeyou know, all of the signs, not
clear cut signs.
Like we're not experts, takewhat we say with the grain
assault.
So there's been no defined therelationship combo, obviously
yes, obvious, it's a big one.
You haven't integrated intoeach other's lives meaningfully,
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which means you haven't mettheir family, their friends or
colleagues.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
That's a big step yeah meeting someone in there
and if you are in one of these,you want to not do this, if you
want to stay at that level, ithink if you want to remain
ambiguous.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Yeah, sex may be a big, or perhaps the biggest part
of your relationship.
So ultimately you're physicallyclose, but not emotionally
close.
Yeah, friends with benefits yeah, there's no regularity with
your time together.
You could spend the weekendwith them and then go days
(22:55):
without contact.
So there's a lack ofconsistency, sure, yeah, um, you
feel like you're walking oneggshells about telling them
what you want.
If you feel like you, you know,if you feel like you want more
and you don't think, if youultimately don't think they want
the same, you're kind of afraidto bring it up.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
I was like that how cute you were.
I was fucking so scared and mybuddies were just like do it, do
it so we went to like this nicerestaurant and then I love
hearing these because I don'ttell you anything.
So we went to this nicerestaurant, so I took this girl
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to the alcove.
Where is it?
Speaker 2 (23:40):
in Los.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Filos and I told her how I felt.
I said I liked you and I likebeing around you, and she, she
didn't tell me she liked me back, but she told me that she liked
hanging out with me too, and Iwas like cool, but I was just as
confused as ever.
And then, uh, after that wewent to go see Beirut uh, the
Greek theater, like up thestreet, and I was like fuck, i
(24:05):
feel fucking weird.
And uh, we had a bottle andthat's when you got drunk yeah,
we drank like this huge bottlevodka and I was just like trying
to enjoy it, i was like singblur, like I was so shit-faced.
Yeah, i was fucked up.
And then, um, during the show,she started holding my hand and
(24:26):
she's never done this startedholding my hand and like kind of
being on me and I was sheintoxicated as well?
fuck, yeah, she was, and I waslike damn you did it, you're
like I did it, i won Iaccomplished it.
We're together one for men anduh, i was like what is this?
like this is fucking crazy.
And then we left after the showand then, uh, she texts me like
(24:49):
a couple days later, like Ijust see as a friend, and I was
like fuck, what's?
what are you talking?
Speaker 2 (24:55):
about.
I want to cry.
Oh, that makes me feel so sad.
I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I don't.
I mean obviously I don't carenow, but I don't know what I'm
saying, sorry, I was like soheartbroken.
I was like, aww, life's over.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
She didn't meet my family too, and so, yeah, yeah
she was yeah, i mean you were alittle less ambiguous, but was
that good?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
was that a good fake cry?
that was the situation sheposed, and I was on the wrong
side.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
I, i got too much feelings and hey, but you tried
and I'm proud of you yeah youknow, fuck them anyway.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Sorry, i didn't mean to make it about me, you know
but, I tend to do that, thatsort of thing, i like hearing
your past stories all right um,let's see.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Okay, last one, the length of time.
So the longer a situation is,often it's not very promising
because, you know, it signifiesa lack of desire of at least one
party to move the relationshipinto a different, more committed
state.
So you know it's like the samething over and over and like we
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said in the beginning,everything kind of starts out as
a situation ship, because youdon't know what the future holds
.
You don't know what you knoweveryone's feelings are it's
pretty much dating.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
I feel it's like dating it can.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Yeah, we all start out in a situation, but the
longer it stays, it can signifysomething.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
I mean it doesn't.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
You know, it's not definite, but it can signify
something, i agree okay.
So here are some tips if youfind yourself being in a
situation ship okay ask yourselfif this is really what you want
, because, you know, sometimesit is like the person we just
heard yeah, they're in a pointwhere they just want to.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
That's all they want to do they want that they're,
you know.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
They want to have their fun, you know.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
Good for them which is understandable if I think of
you're clear, because if you'renot, then it's just kind of like
oh, that should suck, that wasmy favorite thing about their
reply that they said they'restraight up with it because I
think that's all you can be.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Yeah, so, um, make sure you're not pushing your own
wants and needs aside.
You know for them.
Because you want to satisfytheir needs, yeah, um.
Or because you think theirfeelings might change.
Because they might never change, you know you don't want to
(27:19):
push yours aside to be like, oh,one day they'll they'll feel
the same way.
I do no, because they might not.
They're a human being.
You know their own feelings andstuff.
Um, if you are truly good withyour situation, ship set some
boundaries, like are you goingto talk about who else you're
both sleeping with?
because you know it could comeup?
they could yeah, are there?
only certain times of the weekyou're going to see each other.
(27:41):
I think if you're in one ofthese, it should be more
spontaneous, not like, becausethat seems more structured, more
like daydee, like well, no, um,and just like that, we just
started, and just like that, andCarrie was started hooking up
with her producer of her podcastyeah and he asked her out
(28:03):
because someone wrote in aboutlike, oh, i think we're gonna go
to the next level, and she waslike oh, okay, well then here's
what you need to do.
You need to go out, do otherthings, yeah.
And he asked her out.
I'm like he said hey, nextThursday yeah let's go do this
and she initially said yeahinitially said yes, but then she
shot him down because shedoesn't.
She likes her time of themhooking up together yeah you
(28:26):
know you gotta set yourboundaries, you gotta be clear,
yeah, um, and will it always bejust the two of you or will you
guys kind of blend together yoursocial aspects of life, like
friends, family?
Speaker 1 (28:39):
yeah, when it gets into that that's when it gets a
little a little weird so yeah,try to stay away from that,
unless you want more.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
But that's my last point.
Yeah, and if you actually wantmore, you need to speak up.
You need to tell them I'veenjoyed spending time with you.
Tell them me, oh, i'm sorry,you know.
Maybe let them know what you'veliked about your time together
and ultimately say you knowwhere do you see this going?
(29:12):
100% let the conversation gowhere you want it to go, because
you need to find out foryourself yeah put yourself first
yeah, my advice, if you're inone of these is don't stop doing
what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Don't let this hold you back, like what we talked
about before.
Yeah, don't let it, uh, stopyou from seeing other people,
from experiencing new things.
Um, because, like what we said,you could say like, oh, but I
have this person that I do thiswith.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Just keep doing what you're doing and, yeah, don't
focus on on that, because itmight not go anywhere yeah, set
your boundaries and until youhave those, like you know, clear
, cut boundaries, enjoy yourself, have your fun, live your life
with multiple people, but useprotection, please, yeah, okay,
(30:05):
so now it's time for ask man oh,you're gonna say hot god, i was
like dad we're moving fast,thought it was it.
Oh no, ask man, ask man.
Okay, how important is physicalaffection?
to you in a relationship, iecuddling, you know, non-sexual
(30:26):
cuddling, massages, kissing mineis number one.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
Oh, i thought you were asking me no, yeah, what is
yours?
mine is massaging, kissing,cuddling yours is a big thing.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Yeah, it's a big thing, yeah and I get pissed off
.
I don't get it okay, relax,we're f***ing after this okay
someone said non-sexual physicalaffection is important to me.
Hand-holding on a long drive,cuddling on the couch, a quick
shoulder rub while cooking superreassuring and comforting to me
.
Someone said more importantthan sex.
(31:02):
To be honest Could be Yeah.
Yeah, someone else said, i thinkI'd rather have a sexless but
affectionate relationship thanthe inverse.
Someone said physical contactis my primary love language.
Hold me, lay my head in yourlap, hold my face in your hands
(31:23):
and stare into my eyes.
Let's cuddle.
Can we nap together?
Can we dance in the kitchenslowly at random?
Oh, i want to hold your handeverywhere we go.
Hug me from behind for noreason.
Let's hug or cuddle so closethat our hearts are separated by
as little distance as possible.
It all gives me dot, dot dotpeace.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
Damn, that's a poet.
That's next level.
Wow, that's some stalker shitright there.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Oh no.
Someone said I haven't feltgenuine physical affection from
a woman in years.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
Oh, bummer, you can barbree on it.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Thanks God, good stuff.
Lastly, someone said it'srequired for a relationship to
exist.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
I agree.
I think a big part of ourrelationship is that I love when
you touch me and rub me andwhen we're driving you scratch
my head.
I have to ask most of the time,but a lot of the time you just
scratch my head Let me know whatyou want.
I love it.
I don't know why, even growingup I was always like not for
(32:24):
that, like hugging my sistersand my mom and dad.
I don't really remember themsaying I love you that much and
stuff.
But I cannot say enough, idon't think.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
That's good.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
And like touch you enough and hug you enough.
It's weird how I'm opposite,like with you and the kids.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
I think it's.
We've kind of like like I saidI think the last episode we've
learned things from the waywe've grown up, so we've kind of
, you know, switched it up theway we know we want to be,
wanted things to be for us.
So we're we're voicing that forourselves, we're doing that for
our kids, cause you know, weknow what we need, what we, our
(33:08):
inner child, needed.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Yeah, so we're making those amends for ourselves.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
For sure.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
Good for you.
I went to give you physicalaffection and I hit my hand.
I did a little higher.
I like it cause I thinksometimes we don't really think
about that for men, like wedon't really think like men.
Speaker 1 (33:29):
I'm going to stop so you can listen to me.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
You know that's not something we really think of men
needing or wanting.
You know, men are supposed tobe what people think.
The strong, the you know, dowhatever you need to be done,
but they need physical affectiontoo.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
Have you seen?
have you seen those videoswhere sorry, i'm going to cut
you off?
Have you seen those videoswhere it shows like the guy with
his friends, like his ladyyelling at him or texting him,
and he's like, whatever, i'm,just I'm with the boys.
And then it shows them withthem and they're like on their
lap, like hugging them, they'relike twiddling their thumbs by
(34:06):
them.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
I've been sent this by my best friend where it's
like, and you too, where it'slike a guy being like the
manliest of men's.
And then it's like theirfriends go away and they're like
, can you hold me and hug me?
and you like, turn into alittle baby.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
Yeah, for sure.
I think that's funny, it'simportant.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
It's important for everyone.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
I won't, you won't, let me forget it, hey sometimes,
when you start rubbing me, yourub me for like a really long
time.
I'm just like damn hell yeah,this is fucking tight.
And I'm like sometimes I dotell you okay, you don't, thank
you, that felt good.
Hell, then you'll stop.
But a lot of the time I'm justlike damn hell yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
Cute, okay, and next is our hot girls.
You were ready.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
I got it right that time.
Okay, what's on the list?
What are we talking to youabout?
Speaker 2 (35:04):
We just talked about it earlier, so I might be a
little frustrated and flusteredabout it.
So Jonah Hill, we have a little.
I mean, i'm sure a lot ofpeople have heard it There's a
little story about him being anot nice person.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
He is a not nice person.
I had a run in with Jonah Hillone time.
I almost beat his ass.
Oh God, it was in 2012.
I was in New York City roamingthe streets with my friends And
we were walking in Manhattan andone of my buddies is like oh,
(35:41):
that's a guy from super badliterally walked right past us
And I said, hey, can my buddiesget a picture there from the UK?
And he was like no, no, no, no,no, no.
I mean I guess that's notreally an asshole thing, but
that's fine.
It's normal, but I was just likewhat the fuck?
Like you look like a dweeb notdoing anything, like you can't
stop and take a picture for twoseconds, and that kind of like
(36:04):
run me the wrong way.
I never asked pictures for likefamous people really I don't
And I was just like dude, i'llbe tight because they don't see
these fucking people.
We saw them The singer of Oasis, liam Gallagher, and I heard
that guy's a fucking asshole,like big asshole.
Oh no.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
I haven't heard.
I've heard he's very nice.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Oh, okay, well, I've heard the opposite.
And this guy took a picturewith me and my buddies.
I didn't even ask for a picture, they did, and he was like do
you want a picture with Jim?
Speaker 2 (36:32):
I was like, yeah, I guess so, oh, because he's from
like the UK.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
Yeah, and it was cool .
And then this guy couldn't takea picture with us and I was
like you're kind of douchey.
He was buying us with abackpack and like not doing shit
.
But anyway, i've never likedhim since, since 2012,.
I never fucked with you, jonahHill.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
Well, neither do a lot of us now, because his ex,
sarah Brady, released old textsfrom their past relationship and
it's kind of come to show whohe could be behind closed doors.
So people have said it hasshown him to be insecure
controlling.
These are not our words, theseare other people's words.
Insecure controlling, weird.
(37:12):
So Sarah Brady is a modelprofessional surfer,
professional surf instructorthat's her job.
So, based on the texts he's senther, that, the screenshot she's
shown everyone.
He's made a list of things shecould not do because of his, and
(37:32):
this is his.
These are his own words, hisown words and I quote setting
boundaries.
So these are his boundaries.
He's setting Removing hersurfing videos where she's
wearing a bathing suit so shecould no longer post pictures of
herself in a bathing suit.
Keep in mind she's aprofessional surfer, she's a
model like that's her job.
(37:54):
She cannot surf with menanymore and she cannot model
anymore.
So he just all of theseconversations I'm sure could be
found online.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
They could be.
I've seen some.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
I saw a lot of them earlier and it's just I don't
know the lingo he used ascreating boundaries for himself
and like Yeah, for him.
Yeah, and I don't think likeyou create boundaries.
We create boundaries andguidelines in our relationships
to fill respect and safe, and Idon't think we create those to
(38:34):
make demands of someone tochange who they are personally,
like to change their personalautonomy, who they are in their
job, and I don't think that's.
I don't think that's okay.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
Yeah.
So the way he came at it waswrong, because before they were
even together, this was hercareer.
This is what she did.
So asking someone to endfriendships and end what they've
been doing, posting surfingvideos and bathing suit pictures
like you can't do that shit,you're not.
(39:07):
Like you can't be the boss ofsomeone, you know.
Speaker 2 (39:10):
Isn't that what he said?
like you need to also not hangout with other women who are
like problematic or something.
I don't think he said the wordproblematic.
But he also said like I don'twant you hanging out with other
women who like basically like Idon't know, like aren't?
he doesn't like their lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
Yeah, And even her having friends.
That are guys.
A lot of surfers obviously areguys and she developed
relationships and friendshipswith guys and girls.
To tell someone to end, that is, that's super controlling and
that's that seems insecure onone's part.
Speaker 2 (39:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:47):
Especially him because he's so successful and
he's not like the ugliest guy.
He's not very attractive, butfor you to be at a level so high
where you're at, in directingand acting, and trying to tell
someone that they have to prettymuch give up their whole
(40:07):
lifestyle is For you isridiculous.
And yeah, yeah, you need tochange your fucking therapist,
bro, because they're not fuckinghelping you out, they're not
fucking helping your ass.
Speaker 2 (40:17):
In those texts he was quoting his therapist so much,
saying like Oh well, my doctorsaid Oh well, this and that like
Fuck you and your doctor.
Speaker 1 (40:24):
How about?
Speaker 2 (40:25):
that I don't know, that's weird.
I don't know.
I just think telling her thatthe stuff that she did that
violates this is, and I quote,violates his boundaries, it's
it's giving him the opportunityto like act like a victim but
still control the situation.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
Act like a pussy more than a victim.
Speaker 2 (40:42):
Yeah, it's not.
Okay, it's not like arelationship and I'm, you know,
good for her for getting out ofit, good for her for calling him
out on it and showing otherwomen what they don't need Yeah.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
Other people what they don't need because people
were saying Oh, why are youdoing this to he's?
Speaker 2 (40:55):
so nice Yeah.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
And she's like look at the way he's fucking treating
me.
Speaker 2 (40:58):
This is the true him.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
Yeah, Listen.
So boundaries are a real thingIf you come at it from like the
right way.
So like if you started postingsome gnarly pictures and some
hanging out with guys that youjust became friends with, then
that would be an issue.
But if you were doing shitbefore like if you had a best
(41:20):
guy friend before I even met you, or posting fucking modeling
pictures or something, Iwouldn't, I would never ask you
to not do that anymore, to notdo what you're familiar with.
I'd there would be boundaries,obviously, but it wouldn't be so
demanding and no therapist isgoing to tell me that.
(41:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
Yeah, No, it's just.
You know, we're here for you,That's.
Speaker 1 (41:49):
That's not okay So your problem is you stopped
hanging out with Seth Rogen, broAnd uh.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
Oh, seth Rogen, go go make some pottery with him,
like get you know, yeah, youneed to smoke a couple of joints
and chill the fuck out.
Speaker 1 (42:03):
You have too much money to be stressing about a
fucking surfer girl.
Yeah, dorky ass food.
Speaker 2 (42:08):
Let your you know, let your personality speak for
itself.
Don't control someone else.
Speaker 1 (42:12):
Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (42:13):
Yeah, Okay, Well, and our last one is um machine gun.
Kelly was on tour We're doing alot of tour and he was on tour
in Mexico and a fan had a sign.
I feel like you saw this.
You were just smiling at me.
Speaker 1 (42:27):
Is it Mexico or Spain ?
I?
Speaker 2 (42:29):
don't know.
I accidentally deleted it, soI'm going off my mind.
But he was on tour and a fanhad this sign that said I'm here
um for you And I would love foryou to punch me in the face.
Speaker 1 (42:41):
Oh shit, no, i didn't see this, oh no.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
Okay, It said like I would love for you to punch me
in the face.
Blah, blah, blah.
I don't know what else, but hethere's video of him walking
around and he sees it and helooks at him and the guy's like
yeah, yeah, And he punches himin the face, Dang.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
And he like walks away.
That's it And the guy got whathe wanted.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
So I mean it wasn't a will of cheese.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
That's the type of face If I seen Mike Tyson or if
I seen a couple of people likeConnor McGregor or you'd be dead
, or I wouldn't tell him thathit me full force, i'd be like
bitch, slapped me or dosomething, dude, that is the
coolest thing you could do.
So I guess machine killer washis person.
(43:25):
I thought you were going tobring up this video I just saw
yesterday.
He was in Spain and I likemachine gun Kelly, i like his
more poppy stuff.
I don't really listen to hisrap, i think Eminem buried him.
Yeah, that's why he's doing popmusic now.
But he was in Spain and hestarted talking in Spanish,
(43:48):
saying I'm going to perform asong for you guys in your
language, and everyone startedgoing fucking crazy.
But he started speaking Spanish, i was like what the heck, And
he's saying this song And he wassinging every fucking.
I don't know any of those.
(44:08):
Obviously, but he was singingall those lyrics and everyone
went fucking crazy And I saiddude, I like machine and Kelly,
That thing was the sick.
Everyone looked like a millionpeople was jumping and yelling
and screaming.
And I was like dude.
he's the man That's cool.
Speaker 2 (44:26):
I like machine and Kelly.
I hated him in bird box.
Speaker 1 (44:29):
I loved him.
I love the way he acts too.
He's a good actor.
He's such a good actor.
I mean I love him.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
Okay, relax.
Speaker 1 (44:38):
Jonah Hill machine and Kelly machine and Kelly
That's some boundaries man Relax.
What situation?
Yeah, but that's it anyway.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
He punched a fan in the face.
Speaker 1 (44:51):
He was singing in a different language.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:53):
Yeah, so it seemed a little more serious today.
Speaker 2 (44:57):
I think the situations are serious, you know
there's a lot of feelinginvolved, a lot of lack of
feeling questioning, yeah, soour skeletons in the closet is
coming up.
We really want people to callin any advice.
You need any stories, anything,so give us a call 562-457-0613.
Speaker 1 (45:24):
Leave a voicemail or a text message and we will play
it live and talk about it andgive you our advice and laugh
and whatever.
But we appreciate you guys.
We'll catch you on the flipflop later.
Bye, bye, bye.
Hello and welcome back to All Tricks, no treats,
three weeks I'm going to sayevery time.
Three weeks in a row.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
We're back One day.
we're like week 283.
We're back.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
We're here to give you our knowledge.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Pew, pew, pew.
I'm just kidding.
Yeah, so it's been a week.
A week feels like you know nottoo long, but there's, you know.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
When we stay on track it feels like a week isn't that
long, Like it's shit We need tofucking do this again.
Speaker 2 (00:47):
What have we done?
We need to do this again.
Commitment No.
And the past week we've doneHome Depot.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Our second time going to Home Depot, taking the kids.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Yeah, so every first Saturday of Home Depot.
it used to be every Saturdaybecause I remember my grandpa
taking me and my cousin and wehad our own little aprons He
would take us.
but every first Saturday of themonth Home Depot hosts like a
little crafty time for the kids.
(01:18):
So if you're ever looking forsomething to do for your kids,
you can sign up on HomeDepotcom.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Get your bratty spoiled kids to do some hands on
things.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Yeah, i mean they go and they do like a craft.
It's something new every month,but it's super cool to see them
like hammer screwdriver.
Obviously, you know like Bobbyand Mr Nichols need help holding
a screwdriver, or you knowhammering in the right place.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
The fun part for them is painting Oh they love
painting At the end.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
And it's everywhere and I try not to get that mad.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
but I feel like that's, that's like a parent's
thing, like we go and we'rebuilding it, we're all sweating.
It was holding the screwdriver.
Every single parent is liketrying to do the best, like just
trying to put it together whiletrying to like work with their
kid, but ultimately we end updoing it, and then the kids at
the end were with the paintbrushlike blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
There's like five colors on a plate and I'm always
like, Oh, try to paint it nice.
And then eventually it turnsinto a gray that they just mix
all of it together and they forsome reason put their hands in
it and just it's crazy.
I'm like, ah, whatever.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Yeah, it's like the same pale grade.
Yeah, pale gray.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
So they've.
they've done two projects andboth of them are the same gray
color.
They're all the same, but it'sgood.
It's good for them.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Yeah, it's fun, so we did that.
And then also um Bobby got herears pierced.
I think like a year ago maybealmost a year ago like a year
ago And it kind of like healedweird.
Like it popped out and um,sometimes it like is healing a
(02:58):
little weird, i don't even knowwhat to say.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
Like it's like it just gets a little like pussy at
the in the back, yeah, and soit doesn't hurt her really
though.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
No, there's never any pain or anything, it just, you
know, it's just kind of likeangry, it's a little bit of an
angry piercing And so, um, thisweek she was like Oh, my ear.
And so we just kind of lookedat it and it had a little bit of
pus and we're like Oh, what'sgoing on?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
I said, uh, Dr Chris will take care of this.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
And you took to your phone and you wanted to look up
a pussy ear.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Yeah, but pussy is not.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You said.
You said you said wait, how doyou spell pussy?
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I said how do you clean a pussy ears?
Speaker 2 (03:47):
You said a pussy ear, but your phone probably well,
your phone.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
I thought I typed how do you clean a pussy ear?
And then I was like wait, thatsentence doesn't look that right
.
And I told Brianna how do youspell pussies?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
And what came up?
Pussy.
So we figured it out ourselves.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
No, thanks to you, uh , google MD, it's okay.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Dr Chris, thanks.
And lastly, we went toChinatown.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Chinatown.
I want to be ninja, okay.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Have you seen that video?
Speaker 1 (04:30):
No, It's this white lady who's doing like a fun
fundraiser for famous people nowrich people And she starts
singing a song in a Chineseaccent and everyone's like that
is the most racist thing I'veever seen.
I need to show you real quick.
And while she's singing this,there's like an Asian lady right
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in the front and she's makinglike a weird face.
It's fucking incredible.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Because it's offensive.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
Yes, is this like?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
crazy.
Why is she trying so?
Speaker 1 (05:10):
hard.
I have no idea.
She's like fucking doing herninja hands and oh my god.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
No, but she's like running around the room.
Yeah, it was wild.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
That's an old video, but I felt like you needed to
see a clip to know what I wastalking about.
Okay, thank you.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Yeah, sorry, i'm trying to tell them because we
saw this place.
We both saw different videos.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah, so I saw mine like in June.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Oh god, here comes the competition.
And then Brianna is likethere's this dumpling place.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
It's called Dongkok.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
It's called.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
What's it called?
Wangkok, wangkok?
And I was like wait, i think Iknow what that place is.
And I showed her a picture andit was the same spot but a
different video, because we'vebeen wanting dumplings for a
really long time and we haven'tfound a place.
That's like ridiculously goodand we're like let's go, let's
take the kids.
So, yeah, we ended up going.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
We wanted to give them an authentic dim sum
experience And also I feel likeit was kind of a.
It was like a little culturallesson for them too, which was
pretty cool, like we got to talkabout different cultures, eat
this Sometimes things aredifferent for us and what we do
not sit because, you know kidsour kids, they say whatever they
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want.
So we had conversations about,like you know, sometimes we, to
be polite, we have to say thingsin a different way, and you
know.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I don't say it at all .
Speaker 2 (06:40):
So we just learned about culture and eat some dim
sum and it was fun.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
So our plan was like to get a few different types of
dumplings.
And what are those?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Oh, pork, like buns, kind of like pork buns, steamed
buns, baked buns, all the buns.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
And when we got to the front of the line I said,
damn, i need all of it.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
I know We do that every time.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
So we got like 30 dumplings for I don't know why.
She gave me four pieces of cake.
I asked for two and she gave mefour big ass pieces and then
two rice cakes and two chickenrice and it was way too much.
We walked like six blocks to.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
No, we didn't walk that far.
Six blocks.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
Maybe four blocks or three blocks.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Two blocks Next door.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
So we finally found a place and we ended up by Ulvera
Street, which was nice becausewe were going to take the kids
there after And I was kind ofdisappointed in the dumb things.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Yeah, you weren't having it.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
The first bite I was like oh man, this is so good.
I think I was just like reallyhungry And then the more I ate,
the more I was like I kind ofregret this.
I don't know why.
The meat was just kind of weird.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I told you that It wasn't weird.
It just wasn't to our liking.
It wasn't what we were used to.
I have a thing with meatdiscoloration.
There's like any sort ofredness, purple-ness, pink-ness.
That chicken was a weird thing.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
It looked like the gray that the kids use at the
Home Depot painting those things.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
I'm sure it's delicious to other people.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
And we bring up saying things in the right way,
because Champa was like itstinks.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Yeah, we were walking because, like, can we leave It
stinks?
Speaker 1 (08:36):
And I was like oh no, oh no Because the chicken rice
was wrapped in some type of leafI think it was banana leaf,
Banana leaf, Yeah, and thebanana leaf smelled pretty
gnarly.
It was like hot and steamy Andit was like when you open the
bag it was like, well, and hewas like that stinks, Oh man,
And we didn't end up eating that.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
No we didn't, but you know, we tried different things
and it was a good culturalexperience for us For sure, yay,
so, yeah.
So that's been our week, andnow we're drinking.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Because we're forgetting.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
We're drinking to those buns, man.
If anyone knows like anotherdim sum place?
I know there's that ding-fungdim.
I don't know, i think it's a.
Chaolengbao, that's the bun.
That's the actual bun Dim sumplace.
We'd love to try it, so let usknow.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Yeah, let us know.
Thanks, Cheers, cheers.
These are huge, that's what shesaid.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
That's what you never said.
You're so good.
Okay, so our topic for today issituations.
Was I supposed to sing thatwith you?
(09:59):
No, I just didn't know how tomake that to a song.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
It's a long Situation ships The long thing.
If you don't know what that isyou're about to know.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Oh yeah, So we had some polls.
I like doing this, So we hadsome polls, and I really like
doing polls because I like tosee you know what everyone knows
how we're all doing.
On the same aspect, And ourquestion was do you know what a
situation ship is?
Good question 50% said duh, 33%said no, was that a rapper?
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And 17% said yes, and I'm inone Help, damn the big help, the
big help.
And our next question is haveyou been or are you in a
situation?
ship 14% yes Said yes, i loveit.
So they love their situation.
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Ship 36% said yes, i said helpwith a crying face.
And 50% said no, isn't he awrestler?
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Cause they don't know what it is.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Yeah, cause they still don't know what a
situation ship is, and our lastthing was to have anyone send us
their situation, ship storiesor tips.
Okay, so we actually got a few.
Someone said it's a catch 22biting me in the ass and they
put a crying face.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
It's hard.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
It's hard, it's hard out there.
It is, it's hard, it's hard Acatch 22.
So maybe they like started outbeing into it.
I don't know, but they saidit's biting them in the ass.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
So that's common.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Unfortunately, they're like seeing the negative
aspects of it right now.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
I think they were into it, and then they're
getting to a point where theywanted to be more and that's why
they're like help me please.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
The next one is I'm in a few.
I'm at a point in my life whereI'm successful Good for you,
mid 30s and want to have fun.
Some of the girls feel the sameand somewhat more, but when it
comes to that time, i'm straightup.
Well, my first thing is goodfor you for being straight up
with them.
That's the biggest thing of asituation ship, i feel like.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
I got has it planned out.
I got knows what he's doing.
What did you write this?
Speaker 2 (12:26):
You're like so proud for that.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Well, he's not like an asshole and just like leaving
them on red or not talking tothem or whatever.
Speaker 2 (12:35):
That's what I'm saying.
when it comes to that time, i'mstraight up.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
So nice, that's what it should be.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
Have your fun.
Yeah, set your rules whateveryou want.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Good for you.
Someone said WTF is this?
LOL in all caps.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Who said that Wow?
Because you're an old part.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
They probably think it's like a cruise ship.
The situation ship Next one iskeep your feelings out of it,
know your place, stay in yourlane.
It is what it is.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
That's straight up.
That's what a situation ship is.
You can't get feelings mixed inor you'll get like that person
is not working out for them.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
That's some sound advice.
That's like you know easiersaid than done, but if that's
your advice, i feel like you gotit.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
You've been in love with you.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Good for you.
Last one, i was in a couple andthey ended not feeling the same
.
I was sad at the time but endedup with my soulmate and
couldn't be happier.
They ended up bad and I'm happyabout it with a crying,
laughing face.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Damn.
Revenge is sweet brother, hey,sometimes it doesn't work out,
and then you end up with theperson that you want to be with,
and then, hey, things didn'twork out for the other parties,
which is good for that guy.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Well, I mean, I'm happy that they're happy, but
also, you know, I never wish itwill towards anyone else.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Speak for yourself.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
I will, but yeah, that's it.
Thanks everyone.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
Yeah, we appreciate you guys for writing in.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Yeah, for answering our little polls.
So are we ready to know what asituation ship is?
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Let's hear it.
Okay.
Let's educate the people, okay.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
A romantic or sexual relationship that is not
considered to be formal orestablished.
So give me, essentially it'ssomething that's undefined.
There's like it's like a greatarea of knowing.
There's something more likemore than friendship.
Like you know, you guys kind ofhave like an attraction, some
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chemistry, but there's still nocommitment or relationship
established.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
No label, essentially What I get out of it.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
I kind of when I was like looking up, looking it up,
i was thinking because you know,we're from a different time
than the youngsters these days.
So I was thinking like, is itlike friends with benefits or is
it like talking?
Remember, everyone would belike, oh, we're talking.
It's kind of like talking right.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
I think it's friends with benefits.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
I don't think talking is at a level where it's or you
could get feeling so easytalking you're just talking to
the person.
I mean sure you could like themor something, but when you're
intimate with someone that'slike a next level thing.
So that's more gray area thanjust talking to someone.
You could be talking toeveryone.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
You don't think talking has like physical
intimacy?
Speaker 1 (16:00):
Not all the time.
I mean, I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
So it can be temporary, like you've gone on a
few dates with someone and it'sstill too early to discuss your
relationship status, you know,when you're still trying to fill
it out, like, just hang out alittle bit.
But it can also be like thedefinition of a relationship,
like you're just playing in asituation.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
I agree.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
Have you ever experienced a situation?
Speaker 1 (16:30):
I have a couple, a few Oh.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I mean.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
I think, growing up, when I was talking to girls or
dating, whatever you want tocall it I always felt like I was
into them more than they wereinto me.
But I was young and dumb So Iwas like, well, i'll just keep
trying, keep doing this Youliked hard.
Yeah, and it bit me in the assevery time.
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I think My heart has a lot ofbandages on it.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Sorry, and you came to sew it up, you sewed it up.
I went with my foot and pushedon the pedal.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Yeah, but it sucks, definitely sucks, to be on the
wrong side of a situation ship,but the grass is greener on the
other side.
You just got to keep trucking,keep moving on.
There's more fish in the sea,you know.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
Yeah, have you.
I've been in a situation ship.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
When Who You've got never got you on it, you whore.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
I.
It doesn't mean I haven't beenin a situation ship.
Okay, yeah, so I've been in oneWere you sad.
I mean, you know, we did whatwe did, we had our fun, but Did
he have a bigger dick than me?
Oh God, here come the questions.
But you know, things just ended.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
That sucks.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
And that was it.
Now move it on.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
For me.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Yeah.
So yeah, i mean it was.
It's kind of weird to be inthat gray area and to not have
like any kind of like knowledgeof where it's going, but also I
think that's kind of like thefun of it as well.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
Yeah.
Like to be in the moment andspontaneous, and I think it's
fun when it's fairly new Andthen.
But when you start getting youremotions into it and you start
feeling a certain way and theymight not be then it might be
like, damn, what is this goingto be, What is this going into?
But sometimes they might notfeel the same.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Yeah, yeah, that sucks.
That's when you gotta, you know, speak up for yourself.
Okay, so you have some pros andcons.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
I do Have a situation ship.
I did some research, don't look.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Oh, that hand hid everything.
I'm going to try to go throughit quick, So pros of a situation
ship flexibility.
Everyone likes a flexibleperson.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Casual and low pressure, which is true, just
doing what you got to do andthen boning out.
Three is emotional connection.
What's crazy about a situationship is that you could be on
like a just hookup level, butit's someone that you're into.
It might not be someone thatyou see yourself in the far
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future, but in the near future,yes.
So that's why it could be murkyand like great, because you
have to have some type ofconnection.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
I think that's the thing too, like with either
person, like even if you'reattracted to them, you can have
like a little tinge of jealousy.
Because you're attracted tothem, you want something with
them, like whether it's physical, emotional.
So you know, you're kind ofalways looking for something.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Yeah, and the last one is a learning experience.
It can help you understand yourneeds, your preferences, what
you like, where you see yourselfin the future.
Okay, cons are lack ofcommitment.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
Yeah, that can be a big issue for a lot of people.
Emotional ambiguity ambiguity,ambiguity ambiguity ambiguity
ambiguity ambiguity how do yousay ambiguity, ambiguity,
ambiguity.
That was a, that was a skatingemotional ambiguity ambiguity,
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ambiguity ambiguity, you know,over the skating brand.
ambiguous, ambiguity, ambiguity, ambiguity emotional ambiguity.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
That's a weird word.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Say it five times fast.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Um, uh.
Situationships can often likeclear expectations and
boundaries, making it difficultto know where one stands
emotionally.
Uh.
The third one is potential forunequal investment, which means
it can involve people withdiffering levels of emotional
investment.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Yeah, so one person could be into it and one person
can be like, like, like me.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
I like them more than me.
We're on different levels, ithink.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
I feel.
I think, like you know some,there's always going to be
someone who wants more or likesa little bit more than the other
, and then, once it startsbecoming more apparent that the
other one doesn't feel, the sameway.
That's when it gets a littlehard.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
And it's like this last one.
It limits growth anddevelopment.
Which could it can stop youfrom doing something with
someone else, or yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
if you meet someone else one night, you could be
like oh well, you know, i've gotthis guy so and so hanging out
waiting for me, so I can't dothis 100% nice yeah, so those
are some pros and cons, so Ilike your pros and cons.
Speaker 1 (21:50):
Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Okay, so here are some signs.
You're in a situation ship.
Obviously these are not, likeyou know, all of the signs, not
clear cut signs.
Like we're not experts, takewhat we say with the grain
assault.
So there's been no defined therelationship combo, obviously
yes, obvious, it's a big one.
You haven't integrated intoeach other's lives meaningfully,
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which means you haven't mettheir family, their friends or
colleagues.
Speaker 1 (22:20):
That's a big step yeah meeting someone in there
and if you are in one of these,you want to not do this, if you
want to stay at that level, ithink if you want to remain
ambiguous.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Yeah, sex may be a big, or perhaps the biggest part
of your relationship.
So ultimately you're physicallyclose, but not emotionally
close.
Yeah, friends with benefits yeah, there's no regularity with
your time together.
You could spend the weekendwith them and then go days
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without contact.
So there's a lack ofconsistency, sure, yeah, um, you
feel like you're walking oneggshells about telling them
what you want.
If you feel like you, you know,if you feel like you want more
and you don't think, if youultimately don't think they want
the same, you're kind of afraidto bring it up.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
I was like that how cute you were.
I was fucking so scared and mybuddies were just like do it, do
it so we went to like this nicerestaurant and then I love
hearing these because I don'ttell you anything.
So we went to this nicerestaurant, so I took this girl
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to the alcove.
Where is it?
Speaker 2 (23:40):
in Los.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Filos and I told her how I felt.
I said I liked you and I likebeing around you, and she, she
didn't tell me she liked me back, but she told me that she liked
hanging out with me too, and Iwas like cool, but I was just as
confused as ever.
And then, uh, after that wewent to go see Beirut uh, the
Greek theater, like up thestreet, and I was like fuck, i
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feel fucking weird.
And uh, we had a bottle andthat's when you got drunk yeah,
we drank like this huge bottlevodka and I was just like trying
to enjoy it, i was like singblur, like I was so shit-faced.
Yeah, i was fucked up.
And then, um, during the show,she started holding my hand and
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she's never done this startedholding my hand and like kind of
being on me and I was sheintoxicated as well?
fuck, yeah, she was, and I waslike damn you did it, you're
like I did it, i won Iaccomplished it.
We're together one for men anduh, i was like what is this?
like this is fucking crazy.
And then we left after the showand then, uh, she texts me like
(24:49):
a couple days later, like Ijust see as a friend, and I was
like fuck, what's?
what are you talking?
Speaker 2 (24:55):
about.
I want to cry.
Oh, that makes me feel so sad.
I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I don't.
I mean obviously I don't carenow, but I don't know what I'm
saying, sorry, I was like soheartbroken.
I was like, aww, life's over.
Speaker 2 (25:08):
She didn't meet my family too, and so, yeah, yeah
she was yeah, i mean you were alittle less ambiguous, but was
that good?
Speaker 1 (25:19):
was that a good fake cry?
that was the situation sheposed, and I was on the wrong
side.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
I, i got too much feelings and hey, but you tried
and I'm proud of you yeah youknow, fuck them anyway.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Sorry, i didn't mean to make it about me, you know
but, I tend to do that, thatsort of thing, i like hearing
your past stories all right um,let's see.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Okay, last one, the length of time.
So the longer a situation is,often it's not very promising
because, you know, it signifiesa lack of desire of at least one
party to move the relationshipinto a different, more committed
state.
So you know it's like the samething over and over and like we
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said in the beginning,everything kind of starts out as
a situation ship, because youdon't know what the future holds
.
You don't know what you knoweveryone's feelings are it's
pretty much dating.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
I feel it's like dating it can.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Yeah, we all start out in a situation, but the
longer it stays, it can signifysomething.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
I mean it doesn't.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
You know, it's not definite, but it can signify
something, i agree okay.
So here are some tips if youfind yourself being in a
situation ship okay ask yourselfif this is really what you want
, because, you know, sometimesit is like the person we just
heard yeah, they're in a pointwhere they just want to.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
That's all they want to do they want that they're,
you know.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
They want to have their fun, you know.
Speaker 1 (26:45):
Good for them which is understandable if I think of
you're clear, because if you'renot, then it's just kind of like
oh, that should suck, that wasmy favorite thing about their
reply that they said they'restraight up with it because I
think that's all you can be.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Yeah, so, um, make sure you're not pushing your own
wants and needs aside.
You know for them.
Because you want to satisfytheir needs, yeah, um.
Or because you think theirfeelings might change.
Because they might never change, you know you don't want to
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push yours aside to be like, oh,one day they'll they'll feel
the same way.
I do no, because they might not.
They're a human being.
You know their own feelings andstuff.
Um, if you are truly good withyour situation, ship set some
boundaries, like are you goingto talk about who else you're
both sleeping with?
because you know it could comeup?
they could yeah, are there?
only certain times of the weekyou're going to see each other.
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I think if you're in one ofthese, it should be more
spontaneous, not like, becausethat seems more structured, more
like daydee, like well, no, um,and just like that, we just
started, and just like that, andCarrie was started hooking up
with her producer of her podcastyeah and he asked her out
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because someone wrote in aboutlike, oh, i think we're gonna go
to the next level, and she waslike oh, okay, well then here's
what you need to do.
You need to go out, do otherthings, yeah.
And he asked her out.
I'm like he said hey, nextThursday yeah let's go do this
and she initially said yeahinitially said yes, but then she
shot him down because shedoesn't.
She likes her time of themhooking up together yeah you
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know you gotta set yourboundaries, you gotta be clear,
yeah, um, and will it always bejust the two of you or will you
guys kind of blend together yoursocial aspects of life, like
friends, family?
Speaker 1 (28:39):
yeah, when it gets into that that's when it gets a
little a little weird so yeah,try to stay away from that,
unless you want more.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
But that's my last point.
Yeah, and if you actually wantmore, you need to speak up.
You need to tell them I'veenjoyed spending time with you.
Tell them me, oh, i'm sorry,you know.
Maybe let them know what you'veliked about your time together
and ultimately say you knowwhere do you see this going?
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100% let the conversation gowhere you want it to go, because
you need to find out foryourself yeah put yourself first
yeah, my advice, if you're inone of these is don't stop doing
what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Don't let this hold you back, like what we talked
about before.
Yeah, don't let it, uh, stopyou from seeing other people,
from experiencing new things.
Um, because, like what we said,you could say like, oh, but I
have this person that I do thiswith.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Just keep doing what you're doing and, yeah, don't
focus on on that, because itmight not go anywhere yeah, set
your boundaries and until youhave those, like you know, clear
, cut boundaries, enjoy yourself, have your fun, live your life
with multiple people, but useprotection, please, yeah, okay,
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so now it's time for ask man oh,you're gonna say hot god, i was
like dad we're moving fast,thought it was it.
Oh no, ask man, ask man.
Okay, how important is physicalaffection?
to you in a relationship, iecuddling, you know, non-sexual
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cuddling, massages, kissing mineis number one.
Speaker 1 (30:30):
Oh, i thought you were asking me no, yeah, what is
yours?
mine is massaging, kissing,cuddling yours is a big thing.
Speaker 2 (30:38):
Yeah, it's a big thing, yeah and I get pissed off
.
I don't get it okay, relax,we're f***ing after this okay
someone said non-sexual physicalaffection is important to me.
Hand-holding on a long drive,cuddling on the couch, a quick
shoulder rub while cooking superreassuring and comforting to me
.
Someone said more importantthan sex.
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To be honest Could be Yeah.
Yeah, someone else said, i thinkI'd rather have a sexless but
affectionate relationship thanthe inverse.
Someone said physical contactis my primary love language.
Hold me, lay my head in yourlap, hold my face in your hands
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and stare into my eyes.
Let's cuddle.
Can we nap together?
Can we dance in the kitchenslowly at random?
Oh, i want to hold your handeverywhere we go.
Hug me from behind for noreason.
Let's hug or cuddle so closethat our hearts are separated by
as little distance as possible.
It all gives me dot, dot dotpeace.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
Damn, that's a poet.
That's next level.
Wow, that's some stalker shitright there.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Oh no.
Someone said I haven't feltgenuine physical affection from
a woman in years.
Speaker 1 (31:51):
Oh, bummer, you can barbree on it.
Speaker 2 (31:55):
Thanks God, good stuff.
Lastly, someone said it'srequired for a relationship to
exist.
Speaker 1 (32:02):
I agree.
I think a big part of ourrelationship is that I love when
you touch me and rub me andwhen we're driving you scratch
my head.
I have to ask most of the time,but a lot of the time you just
scratch my head Let me know whatyou want.
I love it.
I don't know why, even growingup I was always like not for
(32:24):
that, like hugging my sistersand my mom and dad.
I don't really remember themsaying I love you that much and
stuff.
But I cannot say enough, idon't think.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
That's good.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
And like touch you enough and hug you enough.
It's weird how I'm opposite,like with you and the kids.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
I think it's.
We've kind of like like I saidI think the last episode we've
learned things from the waywe've grown up, so we've kind of
, you know, switched it up theway we know we want to be,
wanted things to be for us.
So we're we're voicing that forourselves, we're doing that for
our kids, cause you know, weknow what we need, what we, our
(33:08):
inner child, needed.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Yeah, so we're making those amends for ourselves.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
For sure.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
Good for you.
I went to give you physicalaffection and I hit my hand.
I did a little higher.
I like it cause I thinksometimes we don't really think
about that for men, like wedon't really think like men.
Speaker 1 (33:29):
I'm going to stop so you can listen to me.
Speaker 2 (33:32):
You know that's not something we really think of men
needing or wanting.
You know, men are supposed tobe what people think.
The strong, the you know, dowhatever you need to be done,
but they need physical affectiontoo.
Speaker 1 (33:46):
Have you seen?
have you seen those videoswhere sorry, i'm going to cut
you off?
Have you seen those videoswhere it shows like the guy with
his friends, like his ladyyelling at him or texting him,
and he's like, whatever, i'm,just I'm with the boys.
And then it shows them withthem and they're like on their
lap, like hugging them, they'relike twiddling their thumbs by
(34:06):
them.
Speaker 2 (34:06):
I've been sent this by my best friend where it's
like, and you too, where it'slike a guy being like the
manliest of men's.
And then it's like theirfriends go away and they're like
, can you hold me and hug me?
and you like, turn into alittle baby.
Speaker 1 (34:22):
Yeah, for sure.
I think that's funny, it'simportant.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
It's important for everyone.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
I won't, you won't, let me forget it, hey sometimes,
when you start rubbing me, yourub me for like a really long
time.
I'm just like damn hell yeah,this is fucking tight.
And I'm like sometimes I dotell you okay, you don't, thank
you, that felt good.
Hell, then you'll stop.
But a lot of the time I'm justlike damn hell yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
Cute, okay, and next is our hot girls.
You were ready.
Speaker 1 (34:58):
I got it right that time.
Okay, what's on the list?
What are we talking to youabout?
Speaker 2 (35:04):
We just talked about it earlier, so I might be a
little frustrated and flusteredabout it.
So Jonah Hill, we have a little.
I mean, i'm sure a lot ofpeople have heard it There's a
little story about him being anot nice person.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
He is a not nice person.
I had a run in with Jonah Hillone time.
I almost beat his ass.
Oh God, it was in 2012.
I was in New York City roamingthe streets with my friends And
we were walking in Manhattan andone of my buddies is like oh,
(35:41):
that's a guy from super badliterally walked right past us
And I said, hey, can my buddiesget a picture there from the UK?
And he was like no, no, no, no,no, no.
I mean I guess that's notreally an asshole thing, but
that's fine.
It's normal, but I was just likewhat the fuck?
Like you look like a dweeb notdoing anything, like you can't
stop and take a picture for twoseconds, and that kind of like
(36:04):
run me the wrong way.
I never asked pictures for likefamous people really I don't
And I was just like dude, i'llbe tight because they don't see
these fucking people.
We saw them The singer of Oasis, liam Gallagher, and I heard
that guy's a fucking asshole,like big asshole.
Oh no.
Speaker 2 (36:22):
I haven't heard.
I've heard he's very nice.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Oh, okay, well, I've heard the opposite.
And this guy took a picturewith me and my buddies.
I didn't even ask for a picture, they did, and he was like do
you want a picture with Jim?
Speaker 2 (36:32):
I was like, yeah, I guess so, oh, because he's from
like the UK.
Speaker 1 (36:35):
Yeah, and it was cool .
And then this guy couldn't takea picture with us and I was
like you're kind of douchey.
He was buying us with abackpack and like not doing shit
.
But anyway, i've never likedhim since, since 2012,.
I never fucked with you, jonahHill.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
Well, neither do a lot of us now, because his ex,
sarah Brady, released old textsfrom their past relationship and
it's kind of come to show whohe could be behind closed doors.
So people have said it hasshown him to be insecure
controlling.
These are not our words, theseare other people's words.
Insecure controlling, weird.
(37:12):
So Sarah Brady is a modelprofessional surfer,
professional surf instructorthat's her job.
So, based on the texts he's senther, that, the screenshot she's
shown everyone.
He's made a list of things shecould not do because of his, and
(37:32):
this is his.
These are his own words, hisown words and I quote setting
boundaries.
So these are his boundaries.
He's setting Removing hersurfing videos where she's
wearing a bathing suit so shecould no longer post pictures of
herself in a bathing suit.
Keep in mind she's aprofessional surfer, she's a
model like that's her job.
(37:54):
She cannot surf with menanymore and she cannot model
anymore.
So he just all of theseconversations I'm sure could be
found online.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
They could be.
I've seen some.
Speaker 2 (38:12):
I saw a lot of them earlier and it's just I don't
know the lingo he used ascreating boundaries for himself
and like Yeah, for him.
Yeah, and I don't think likeyou create boundaries.
We create boundaries andguidelines in our relationships
to fill respect and safe, and Idon't think we create those to
(38:34):
make demands of someone tochange who they are personally,
like to change their personalautonomy, who they are in their
job, and I don't think that's.
I don't think that's okay.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
Yeah.
So the way he came at it waswrong, because before they were
even together, this was hercareer.
This is what she did.
So asking someone to endfriendships and end what they've
been doing, posting surfingvideos and bathing suit pictures
like you can't do that shit,you're not.
(39:07):
Like you can't be the boss ofsomeone, you know.
Speaker 2 (39:10):
Isn't that what he said?
like you need to also not hangout with other women who are
like problematic or something.
I don't think he said the wordproblematic.
But he also said like I don'twant you hanging out with other
women who like basically like Idon't know, like aren't?
he doesn't like their lifestyle.
Speaker 1 (39:26):
Yeah, And even her having friends.
That are guys.
A lot of surfers obviously areguys and she developed
relationships and friendshipswith guys and girls.
To tell someone to end, that is, that's super controlling and
that's that seems insecure onone's part.
Speaker 2 (39:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (39:47):
Especially him because he's so successful and
he's not like the ugliest guy.
He's not very attractive, butfor you to be at a level so high
where you're at, in directingand acting, and trying to tell
someone that they have to prettymuch give up their whole
(40:07):
lifestyle is For you isridiculous.
And yeah, yeah, you need tochange your fucking therapist,
bro, because they're not fuckinghelping you out, they're not
fucking helping your ass.
Speaker 2 (40:17):
In those texts he was quoting his therapist so much,
saying like Oh well, my doctorsaid Oh well, this and that like
Fuck you and your doctor.
Speaker 1 (40:24):
How about?
Speaker 2 (40:25):
that I don't know, that's weird.
I don't know.
I just think telling her thatthe stuff that she did that
violates this is, and I quote,violates his boundaries, it's
it's giving him the opportunityto like act like a victim but
still control the situation.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
Act like a pussy more than a victim.
Speaker 2 (40:42):
Yeah, it's not.
Okay, it's not like arelationship and I'm, you know,
good for her for getting out ofit, good for her for calling him
out on it and showing otherwomen what they don't need Yeah.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
Other people what they don't need because people
were saying Oh, why are youdoing this to he's?
Speaker 2 (40:55):
so nice Yeah.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
And she's like look at the way he's fucking treating
me.
Speaker 2 (40:58):
This is the true him.
Speaker 1 (41:00):
Yeah, Listen.
So boundaries are a real thingIf you come at it from like the
right way.
So like if you started postingsome gnarly pictures and some
hanging out with guys that youjust became friends with, then
that would be an issue.
But if you were doing shitbefore like if you had a best
(41:20):
guy friend before I even met you, or posting fucking modeling
pictures or something, Iwouldn't, I would never ask you
to not do that anymore, to notdo what you're familiar with.
I'd there would be boundaries,obviously, but it wouldn't be so
demanding and no therapist isgoing to tell me that.
(41:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
Yeah, No, it's just.
You know, we're here for you,That's.
Speaker 1 (41:49):
That's not okay So your problem is you stopped
hanging out with Seth Rogen, broAnd uh.
Speaker 2 (41:55):
Oh, seth Rogen, go go make some pottery with him,
like get you know, yeah, youneed to smoke a couple of joints
and chill the fuck out.
Speaker 1 (42:03):
You have too much money to be stressing about a
fucking surfer girl.
Yeah, dorky ass food.
Speaker 2 (42:08):
Let your you know, let your personality speak for
itself.
Don't control someone else.
Speaker 1 (42:12):
Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2 (42:13):
Yeah, Okay, Well, and our last one is um machine gun.
Kelly was on tour We're doing alot of tour and he was on tour
in Mexico and a fan had a sign.
I feel like you saw this.
You were just smiling at me.
Speaker 1 (42:27):
Is it Mexico or Spain ?
I?
Speaker 2 (42:29):
don't know.
I accidentally deleted it, soI'm going off my mind.
But he was on tour and a fanhad this sign that said I'm here
um for you And I would love foryou to punch me in the face.
Speaker 1 (42:41):
Oh shit, no, i didn't see this, oh no.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
Okay, It said like I would love for you to punch me
in the face.
Blah, blah, blah.
I don't know what else, but hethere's video of him walking
around and he sees it and helooks at him and the guy's like
yeah, yeah, And he punches himin the face, Dang.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
And he like walks away.
That's it And the guy got whathe wanted.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
So I mean it wasn't a will of cheese.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
That's the type of face If I seen Mike Tyson or if
I seen a couple of people likeConnor McGregor or you'd be dead
, or I wouldn't tell him thathit me full force, i'd be like
bitch, slapped me or dosomething, dude, that is the
coolest thing you could do.
So I guess machine killer washis person.
(43:25):
I thought you were going tobring up this video I just saw
yesterday.
He was in Spain and I likemachine gun Kelly, i like his
more poppy stuff.
I don't really listen to hisrap, i think Eminem buried him.
Yeah, that's why he's doing popmusic now.
But he was in Spain and hestarted talking in Spanish,
(43:48):
saying I'm going to perform asong for you guys in your
language, and everyone startedgoing fucking crazy.
But he started speaking Spanish, i was like what the heck, And
he's saying this song And he wassinging every fucking.
I don't know any of those.
(44:08):
Obviously, but he was singingall those lyrics and everyone
went fucking crazy And I saiddude, I like machine and Kelly,
That thing was the sick.
Everyone looked like a millionpeople was jumping and yelling
and screaming.
And I was like dude.
he's the man That's cool.
Speaker 2 (44:26):
I like machine and Kelly.
I hated him in bird box.
Speaker 1 (44:29):
I loved him.
I love the way he acts too.
He's a good actor.
He's such a good actor.
I mean I love him.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
Okay, relax.
Speaker 1 (44:38):
Jonah Hill machine and Kelly machine and Kelly
That's some boundaries man Relax.
What situation?
Yeah, but that's it anyway.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
He punched a fan in the face.
Speaker 1 (44:51):
He was singing in a different language.
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (44:53):
Yeah, so it seemed a little more serious today.
Speaker 2 (44:57):
I think the situations are serious, you know
there's a lot of feelinginvolved, a lot of lack of
feeling questioning, yeah, soour skeletons in the closet is
coming up.
We really want people to callin any advice.
You need any stories, anything,so give us a call 562-457-0613.
Speaker 1 (45:24):
Leave a voicemail or a text message and we will play
it live and talk about it andgive you our advice and laugh
and whatever.
But we appreciate you guys.
We'll catch you on the flipflop later.
Bye, bye, bye.
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