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January 23, 2024 42 mins

Ding Dong! Have you ever found yourself in the unexpected role of a coach, not just in parenting but on the baseball field? That's where I landed this week, juggling my son's enthusiasm for the sport with my own hilarious cluelessness about coaching. But the fun doesn't stop there; imagine our family's delight when we discovered our new library's 50-book limit, opening a whole new world of bedtime stories and a slight panic about where we'll keep them all! Join us as we weave through these parenting adventures, including managing an almost-eight-year-old's love for loud YouTubers and finding the hilarity in every day.

Jealousy can be more than just a green-eyed monster; it's a complex dance of emotions that can lead to some downright bizarre scenarios. Ever heard of a man divorcing his wife over a horse kiss? We've got that story and more. We're also tackling the intricacies of jealousy in relationships, invoking Tony and Carmella from "The Sopranos" to explore the fine line between emotional and physical infidelity. It's a candid conversation filled with personal insights and gender perspectives on this timeless struggle, and we're pulling it all apart for you.

Wrap up your day with us as we talk about conquering the beast of jealousy, offering practical tips and personal musings on keeping envy at bay. We're not shying away from uncomfortable truths, diving into how many sexual partners is too many to discuss and the buzz around Ariana Grande's latest romantic entanglement. And let's not forget, we're prepping for our next juicy segment about the skeletons we all hide away. Intrigued? You should be. So, send us your anonymous stories, and let's navigate the messy yet fascinating world of modern relationships together.

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0:26 Jealousy and Parenting Stories
9:51 Jealousy and Gender Differences
21:02 Overcoming Jealousy
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Speaker 2 (00:26):
Welcome back to All Tricks, no Treats, the number
one podcast for life adviceoverall, and it's wild to think
that we're back two weeks in arow.

Speaker 1 (00:37):
Two weeks baby.
We told you New Year, same us.

Speaker 2 (00:40):
but Trying a little harder Knew us yeah.

Speaker 1 (00:46):
Yeah, I'm excited.
It's been a little bit of alike come on, we gotta do this,
let's do this, like pushing eachother.
Not that we don't want to behere, but just you know it's a
little hard sometimes.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
Yeah, especially now that we have our garage set up
or I'm like I want to make alittle podcast studio.
I'm kind of like we need to getin the groove of things to get
it going.
But yeah, we're excited to beback for sure.

Speaker 1 (01:12):
Yes, and so now that we're trying to be back week
after week, just bear in mindthat our catch up will be a
little less eventful.

Speaker 2 (01:23):
More boring.
We're just a couple of parentswho do the same shit every
single day?
Yeah, who?

Speaker 1 (01:30):
have a routine, so our little catch up is just a
few things.
The first thing I have is thatChris here signed up to be
assistant baseball coach.
Oh my goodness For champ.

Speaker 2 (01:43):
Okay.
So the only reason why I signedup is because champ's little
best bud is playing baseball andhis dad's the coach.
So he told me hey, sign up forassistant coach and they'll be
on the same team for sure.
That is the only reason I didit.
I am not a coach at all.
Like I would get childprotective services called.

(02:06):
If I was a coach I'd be yellingand going crazy, but there's no
way I could.
I'm gonna help for sure.

Speaker 1 (02:14):
Like I helped last season.
Yeah, you did that last year.

Speaker 2 (02:16):
But yeah, I guess technically right.

Speaker 1 (02:20):
We'll see how it goes , but also like your dad used to
coach, didn't he?

Speaker 2 (02:25):
Yeah, that's why I don't want to coach.
My dad was the best coach ever.
He coached me and all my bestfriends.
We played baseball, soccer andfootball, but he was the coach I
was like five till I was like12.
And when champ started playingI don't know, it was weird I

(02:48):
always said that wasn't like myrole.
I don't think because I thinkbecause I had it so good growing
up that I want to leave it toother people, not me.

Speaker 1 (02:59):
Everyone's different, but I'm proud of you.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
It was fun helping the first season he played, but
I'm not trying to be all in itand plan shit and throw pitches
to them.

Speaker 1 (03:11):
I'm not down for that .
To be honest, you're just aball shagger.
Yeah, I'm a Shag the balls baby.
Okay, and next is Bubby got herfirst library card.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
Yeah, which is cool.
Wait, is it the first one inthe city or overall?

Speaker 1 (03:28):
This is her first one when we lived in Whittier.
Champ was only old enough toget one, so when we would go, it
would just be well, it would beme, champ, bubby and Nucky, but
champ would be the only onewith a library card.
And I do want to talk about the.
I told you, the book max when wewent there we signed up and

(03:53):
we're so excited like she was soexcited to get her card and her
pin number and all these thingsthat are new library and so in
the Whittier library their bookmax is four, so you can only
check out four books at a time.
So I was like, okay, we weresigning up and I said, oh, I'm
just a quick question, what'sthe maximum number of books we

(04:14):
can get?
And she just looked at me andshe was like, well, because we
both signed up, she said, well,you can get 50 and she can get
50.
And I went I'm a huge reader,so that's like a amazing thing
to me and I was like, oh, ourlast library only allowed four
books.

Speaker 2 (04:33):
I'm good with four books.
You know I'm good with fourbooks because if I ran them out
I wouldn't even I won't readthem.
Hey, maybe I won't return themeither, but 50 books.
Sorry 50 books.
Who's reading 50 books?
Nobody.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
I think it's for kids it might be a little easier
because they're like five pageslong.
Yeah, you just go through book,but I told where we go every
day, or every time after herballet, so I let her get seven
books, so one a day, that's cool.

Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, damn 50 books, I know I was proud of them.
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:13):
Nice, okay, I'm the last one.
Champ is going through ayelling face.

Speaker 2 (05:19):
Dude this kid.
Half the time I'm mad about itand half the time I can't stop
laughing about it, because thisguy's face is.
He makes and noises he makesand like, oh man, and then I
tell him, stop, dude, like stopdoing that.
And then he knows what to do tomake me smirk and tell him that

(05:40):
, though, when you're laughing,because it's so confusing.

Speaker 1 (05:43):
You're like dude, stop it, dude stop it.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
And he's like he's the freaking, funniest, most
annoying guy.
He's fucking hilarious.
Oh man, I don't you know whatit is.
It's a fucking YouTube channelas he watches all those gamers
all the gamers.
For some reason, instead ofjust like showing you how to
play or whatever they show you,they're always like oh my god, I

(06:10):
can't jump over this box.

Speaker 1 (06:13):
What's going?
So much yelling?

Speaker 2 (06:14):
Yeah, like dude, what are you?
I mean?
It grabs all the kids attention.
They like that shit.
And champ gets all these noisesfrom different YouTubers and
man it's funny and then notfunny.

Speaker 1 (06:26):
I'll just hear like these little squeaks, yeah, and
I'm like what is happening?

Speaker 2 (06:32):
Dude, this guy is hilarious.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
Well, it's parenting for almost eight year old.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
The cure to that or to fix that problem is don't let
them watch YouTube anymore.

Speaker 1 (06:43):
Or don't laugh when you're trying to discipline.

Speaker 2 (06:46):
It's hard, it might be hard, it's funny Anyway.
Well, cheers to our two weeksin a row.
Let's do it.
We're still sick.

Speaker 1 (07:00):
So yeah, my nails match your bandaid.

Speaker 2 (07:05):
You got a you got an interesting blue Cheers.

Speaker 1 (07:15):
Okay, so our topic for this week is jealousy.

Speaker 2 (07:26):
Swimming through the sea swimming through sickle.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
I only know that way.

Speaker 2 (07:31):
Because I licked it up like two days ago and I what
would we say?

Speaker 1 (07:36):
I think we just said gibberish.

Speaker 2 (07:44):
Isn't it funny how you listen to these songs for 20
years and then you look up thelyrics so you find out what the
lyrics are and you're like Ididn't know what said that?

Speaker 1 (07:54):
Wasn't also funny that you make up your own words
like you have your own words toit.

Speaker 2 (07:58):
Yeah, for sure I think it's funny.
But yeah, finding out the realwords is kind of like oh yeah,
that makes more sense.
That like it fits in more likebetter, but yeah, anyway, more
better jealousy.

Speaker 1 (08:13):
So we have our polls.
We asked would you say you're ajealous person?
64% said yes, what's mine ismine.
36% said no way, I'm unbothered, which I also want to
preference.
That we pull out a note sayingthis doesn't just pertain to

(08:34):
romantic relationships,relationships.

Speaker 2 (08:37):
Relationships.

Speaker 1 (08:40):
This doesn't just pertain to romantic
relationships.
It can pertain to anything.
You know, friends, a randomperson, someone you just met.
And our next question is haveyou ever had someone be jealous
of you?
60% said it happens when you'reamazing, like I am the little

(09:00):
emoji doing like yeah.
40% said no, I'm still amazing,though, probably Mm-hmm.
And our last one how would youdeal with jealousy?
33% said be like Elsa and letit go?
33% said hype myself up, I'mthe best.

(09:21):
22% said slush some tires.
Damn, those are those crazyjealous people 11% said hand me
some scissors, they're cut off.

Speaker 2 (09:33):
They're crazy too.
What would you be?

Speaker 1 (09:36):
Tire slashing.

Speaker 2 (09:41):
I'm the let it go guy .

Speaker 1 (09:43):
You are not Elsa, oh please, olaf, I'm the.

Speaker 2 (09:51):
Thanks to everyone who voted, but I wanted to.
I just looked up something realquick online and I wanted to
see what you think is the mostoutrageous jealousy story.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
Oh, I get to vote.
Ooh, I like it.

Speaker 2 (10:06):
They're just cheesy.
It's literally what we used todo Look up a topic and then it's
the first link, and then I justdid that.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
Well, I just did that .

Speaker 2 (10:13):
So the first one is the jealous Saudi husband who
divorced his wife after shekissed a horse.

Speaker 1 (10:20):
I what I mean?
Was it with tongue?
Oh, the horse tongue.
The horse tongue.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
Okay, the next one is Britain's most jealous woman
makes her man take a liedetector test every time he
leaves the house.
That has to be false.

Speaker 1 (10:39):
Did they have like a contest or something Like who's
most jealous, and she won?

Speaker 2 (10:44):
No, I think she wins every time.
She's fucking crazy.
If that's real, Okay.
And the last one is the jealousman who smashed his
girlfriend's laptop after seeinga photo on her Facebook page
and suspecting an affair.
Only it was a picture of MittRomney.
Oh my gosh, you think theybroke up.

(11:10):
They had to have broken up.
If you're that fucking crazyand you're that dumb who you
don't know who Mitt Romney isthen you should break up with
that guy.
What you need?
Things are craziest.
I don't need the horse tongue.
Well, we don't know if it's thetongue.

Speaker 1 (11:25):
Yeah, we don't know if it's the tongue the lie
detector test or the Mitt Romney.
I feel like the lie detectortest.

Speaker 2 (11:32):
That one's the most crazy, for sure.

Speaker 1 (11:34):
But also like poor horse.
What did the horse do to youwho?

Speaker 2 (11:37):
hurt you.
Good looking horse.
Probably we gotta let's look atthis one.
Anyway, I thought that wasfunny.
I wanted to read it.
Yeah, that's wow.

Speaker 1 (11:48):
I mean jealousy can get the best of some of us so
well, how would you definejealousy?

Speaker 2 (11:57):
Are you asking me or are you just?

Speaker 1 (11:58):
Yeah, I'll ask you.

Speaker 2 (12:00):
I define it as the ugliest feeling inside your
belly that makes you wanna killsomeone.

Speaker 1 (12:11):
Oh, you are a tire slasher, no.

Speaker 2 (12:15):
I don't know, that's what is it?

Speaker 1 (12:17):
So, according to Oxford definitions, jealousy is
the state or feeling of beingjealous.

Speaker 2 (12:23):
Oh my God, you can't really explain it right.
I'm sure you could, but it's aweird word to, or weird feeling,
I think.

Speaker 1 (12:33):
I would feel like saying wanting something that
someone else has.
Hmm.

Speaker 2 (12:41):
I'll give yeah like anything instead of that.
It's very dumbed down to makepeople like.

Speaker 1 (12:48):
The most dumbed down is the state of being jealous.

Speaker 2 (12:51):
Yeah, that doesn't answer any question.
No, it doesn't.
Nothing's defined.

Speaker 1 (12:56):
But, like I said when we did our polls, I do wanna
say it's not just romanticjealousy.
People can be jealous of you orvice versa.
You can be jealous of someoneelse for various reasons, such
as a job, car, money, horse.

Speaker 2 (13:10):
House.

Speaker 1 (13:13):
A lot of different reasons.

Speaker 2 (13:14):
OK.

Speaker 1 (13:15):
So do you think guys show jealousy different from
girls?

Speaker 2 (13:21):
It depends on what it is.
I think my biggest thing isthat I wasn't jealous.
Ok, so for a long time you tookcare of me and I wasn't jealous
.
But I could see how men wouldbe like kind of jealous of that,
like damn, she has a better jobthan me or she's doing better
than me.
I think maybe in that.

Speaker 1 (13:42):
But so studies from around the world have reported
that men are more jealous ofsexual infidelity than emotional
infidelity, and women are theopposite they're more jealous of
emotional cheating than sexualcheating.
So I have emboldened and Ididn't tell you I had this.

Speaker 2 (14:01):
And I asked you what was on the agenda but this I
have Tony versus Carmella.
The Sopranos.

Speaker 1 (14:11):
So, if you are watching the Sopranos, if you
haven't watched the Sopranos andyou think you might just fast
forward a little bit, we'regoing to get into jealousy of
men versus women and this is aWell, let me just give a preface
.
Tony is habitually, physically,sexually, emotionally cheating

(14:33):
on Carmella all the time.
Different women, multiple women, strippers, hookers all the
time.

Speaker 2 (14:41):
One-legged women.

Speaker 1 (14:42):
Yep, carmella has never, ever physically.

Speaker 2 (14:47):
Yeah, she did, don't say.

Speaker 1 (14:49):
Oh, she did.
She kissed one man in thebathroom.

Speaker 2 (14:55):
Or.

Speaker 1 (14:56):
OK, see, this is why I brought it up.
She has only kissed one man.
She felt so guilty.
She went to see her priestafter, and then nothing passed.
A kiss, nothing, nothing elsebut that.

Speaker 2 (15:12):
And so and she was emotionally cheating with her
fucking priest.
Don't forget about that.
Oh, they had some a fling.
They had something in thebeginning.
I mean they had like I've neverheard your voice go so good
You're for the streets.

Speaker 1 (15:33):
That's wild no, it wasn't cheating, it was just
there were.
There was a connection thereand it wasn't.
It wasn't a Very like, stronglike.
Oh yes, we love each other.
It was just Carmella cravesBecause she doesn't get it from
her husband.
She craves Attention, and eventhat's what she said about it.

(15:54):
Say the same fear be yo.
That's what she said about him.

Speaker 2 (15:58):
That's the problem.
It's emotional cheating.
Women have an attachment to theguys that they either Talk to
or hook up with physically men.
If men fuck a girl, it doesn'tmean anything to men, it's.
They could just be like, okay,that's, for example, I could

(16:19):
hook up with ten girls.
Those girls don't mean anythingto me.
You're my soul, that's no, I'mtelling you as an example, it
doesn't mean anything.
But fucking Carmella over hereis proving my point exactly.
It's emotional and and mendon't get emotional over hooking

(16:40):
up with other girls.

Speaker 1 (16:41):
That just means women are smarter and they just don't
go sticking things where theyshouldn't go.

Speaker 2 (16:46):
No, it's men, are men .
It's a beginning of time wehave to, we have to freaking.
We have to get it out.
It doesn't mean nothing, justlike I tell you I have to jerk
off.
I don't want to, but I have to.
It's natural, my god, I haveyour prostate issues or whatever
.
Things with prostate aredifferent man, I have to know it

(17:09):
doesn't matter.
No, they have to yes, that'swhy you fucking ruin all your
socks.

Speaker 1 (17:18):
I was matching socks today, or I should say trying to
match socks Mm-hmm none of themmatch.
You had a double wash a coupleof you owe me a lot of parents
of sauce.

Speaker 2 (17:28):
I'll buy you whatever you want but I Don't know.

Speaker 1 (17:32):
It's just Men and women, I guess, are different in
their jealousy.
But also, do you think men aremore vengeful in their jealousy
or like more, I Don't like showit more outwardly than women?

Speaker 2 (17:47):
I think both men and women could be pretty nutty when
it comes to showing thejealousy.

Speaker 1 (17:53):
I think yeah, I think yeah, yeah, that both can show
for sure.

Speaker 2 (17:58):
I think it's both, and it's just so many examples
of it's not like one's morecrazy than the other.
It's when someone's jealous,which is not a good like quality
to have, or trait, what wouldyou call it it's not a good
quality to have quality if it'snot good.
It's not good to have jealousyin your body in and around your

(18:21):
body, because it's kind of toxic, you know, like you should be
able to trust.
If it's relationship-wise orpartner-wise, you should be able
to trust your Significant otherin that regard, I think.
But other stuff, I mean, andeven another stuff, like if your
friends doing good or yourfriends doing better than you

(18:43):
like you shouldn't be jealousabout that.
That kind of stuff, yeah, youshould pump them up.
I think they're like cheer forthem.
You know you shouldn't have.
You shouldn't be jealous ofanybody.
I'm not jealous of anybody, butI wrote three things down real
quick.
Can I say, yeah, the onlythings I'm jealous of are
Lottery winners is one to to isPeople that are in Vegas right

(19:11):
now in the buffet line.
I'm jealous of them becausethey're about to eat.
And the last one isgood-looking men that are in
shape because I just started.
I just started meal preppingand I wish I could skip it and
look like dudes on Instagram.

Speaker 1 (19:30):
I Agree with that one .
I'm jealous of good-lookinggirls that are in shape.

Speaker 2 (19:34):
Those are the only things I'm jealous of.
I think I'm not really jealousof anybody.

Speaker 1 (19:39):
That's good.

Speaker 2 (19:40):
Like I said on the last episode, I have everything
that I've ever wanted, so I'mI'm good, except these fucking
people On my list, but yeahthat's funny.

Speaker 1 (19:51):
When you said that you were jealous of the buffet
people, before you said that,when you were like, oh, these
are people I'm jealous of, Ithought of the last time we went
to that Chinese Place, the onewhere it's kind of buffaista, a
little bit of that's thegreatest one you go and you load
up your plate and they weigh itand then you eat your food.
And Last time we went, I thinkwe went right before the dinner,

(20:14):
the dinner rush, so we werejust finishing up because I love
getting the fried plantainsthat they have, and we went just
before the dinner rush andeverything was a little like a
Little, yeah, you can tell.
Yeah, I was a little bit old andthen I even told you that.
And then we were sitting thereeating and I could see them

(20:35):
bringing out fresh like whiterice, fresh Like orange chicken,
like fresh everything, and Iwas jealous of the people that
were there.

Speaker 2 (20:44):
Oh man you forgot the best one, your favorite, cream
of shrimp.

Speaker 1 (20:48):
Please don't say that you love you get it every time.
No, I told you last time.
There was a lot of like sauceor whatever on top, so I had to
flip whatever, it's white.
That's that noise, that climb.

Speaker 2 (21:00):
Please stop, I'm a flim.

Speaker 1 (21:02):
All of a sudden, you're French.

Speaker 2 (21:06):
I'm from France, chinese, french, same shit, you
know they all love the creme.

Speaker 1 (21:14):
Yeah, okay, how can you tell if someone is jealous?
There are a few Specific bodylanguage related things to being
jealous body language Mm-hmm,whoa.
Mm-hmm, it's not like the lastone, where you're like, tilt
your head to an 80 degree angleand smirk your eye.

Speaker 2 (21:34):
What is it the?

Speaker 1 (21:35):
eye roll, okay, so here's some frowning or scowling
.
Mm-hmm glaring or staring.
Oh, it's a rhyme.

Speaker 2 (21:44):
You're rapping now.

Speaker 1 (21:45):
Uh-huh, give me a beat, give me a beat.
Frowning, scowling, well, oh,that's a good start, guys.

Speaker 2 (21:58):
Jesus, mm-hmm.
We probably sound like dyingwalruses every time, sorry
trying to exit our lungs okay.

Speaker 1 (22:11):
Frowning or scowling, glaring or staring narrowed
eyes.
What does that even mean?
It means your eyes are like,really like squinty eyes you
mean squinty eyes, squintyMcSquinty.

Speaker 2 (22:25):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (22:26):
Clenched jaw.
Well, pissed off, mm-hmm yeahwell, actually wish I mean I
might need a clenched off.
That'd be good for me toojawline.
Titan fists like Arthur.

Speaker 2 (22:40):
Jesus, this is like.

Speaker 1 (22:42):
Well, this is weird tense facial expression, stiff
posture, crossed arms, pacing orrestlessness.

Speaker 2 (22:52):
I hate all of those.

Speaker 1 (22:53):
So if you ever see someone pacing by you back and
forth, it means a jealous of you.
The frickin' with their fuckin'fists, with their thighs, I'm
like they're gonna beat my ass.

Speaker 2 (23:05):
I'm like this guy's gonna beat me up for no reason.
I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
Yeah, those are stupid.

Speaker 1 (23:09):
I don't like any of those, Well you don't know,
physical, physical jealousy.
That's how it like shows itselfsometimes.
That's how people you know.

Speaker 2 (23:19):
Yeah, I guess that's the first time I ever kind of
heard of that.

Speaker 1 (23:22):
It's body language.
Ok, so do you have any adviceto overcome jealousy?

Speaker 2 (23:30):
Um, that's kind of the same advice I give to every
topic is to not be a bitch.
No, I'm just kidding.
Um, probably don't like compareyourself to other people
Because, like before I had whatI have, I'd see other people and

(23:54):
be like, damn, they fuckin'have this and that and that, and
that is like very negative.
To think that way and thinkingof that way like it holds you
back, I think.
So I don't think you shouldcompare yourself to people.
Everyone has their own path,their own lane, um, and you
should stick to it and fuckeverything else.
I think I think just worryingabout yourself is advice I give

(24:21):
In regards to like a personalshit, like in relationship stuff
, like trust.
Be more trusting instead ofjealous, because someone who's
with you is with you for areason and not, I mean, without
trust, it's not probably a verygood relationship.
So, in relationship, trust, andif you're on your own trying to

(24:44):
better your life, just worryabout yourself and don't compare
.
I think those are two pieces ofadvice I'd give.

Speaker 1 (24:51):
Nice, I thought you said two pieces in a pod.

Speaker 2 (24:54):
Um.

Speaker 1 (24:55):
OK, so mine is just always try to remember that the
grass is not always greener onthe other side, like the grass
is greener where you water itfor sure, for sure.
Um and then um.
I feel like you should usejealousy to work on yourself,
like use it to reach your owngoals.

Speaker 2 (25:18):
What do you mean Like ?

Speaker 1 (25:19):
like, if you're jealous of someone, then this is
before I even like wroteanything else under this.
But um, if you're jealous ofsomeone, I feel like you should
kind of look into that and kindof use it to like.
Like, if I'm see some girl onInstagram and I'm like man, her
body's great, like oh gross,look at her.
I'd be like, well, what can Ido?

Speaker 2 (25:39):
So use it as fuel kind of like.

Speaker 1 (25:41):
Use it to reach your own goals.

Speaker 2 (25:43):
Make you get to the next.
That's interesting because mineis more like don't.

Speaker 1 (25:47):
Don't pay attention yeah.

Speaker 2 (25:48):
But I mean it could, it could go either way.

Speaker 1 (25:51):
Yeah, that's why we're here, guys.

Speaker 2 (25:53):
I guess you can use it as a motivation a little bit,
but yeah.

Speaker 1 (25:58):
Yeah, and I've in um, like pertaining to a
relationship, I've always saidlike I've all.
I kind of like when we wouldtalk about people that you've
been with before, I would saythings like well, I've always
known like you ended up with me,so you're mine.

Speaker 2 (26:16):
Isn't it weird how people like stress on who have
you been with before, Likepeople you hooked up with?

Speaker 1 (26:26):
Oh, you're good.
What do you mean?
Just wait.

Speaker 2 (26:29):
But it's crazy.

Speaker 1 (26:31):
Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (26:32):
That's all I wanted to say.

Speaker 1 (26:33):
Okay.
So we have a few tips toovercome it.
Trace it back to its source, soask yourself what lies at the
root of it.
Then take steps to change whatyou don't like in order to get
what you want.
Next one is voice your concernso you can bring it up to
whoever you need to.
Maybe sometimes they haven'tnoticed their actions or you

(26:55):
know?
Just talk it out.
Next one is talk to someone youtrust, Like a friend.
In the moment of jealousy,Sometimes it can take over and
it can give you a slightlywarped sense of reality, Not to
say that you like you knowthings you saw aren't true, but
sometimes, when we're in themoment where just like this,

(27:17):
this, this you're holding on towhat you think, you thought.

Speaker 2 (27:19):
Your senses are heightened.

Speaker 1 (27:21):
So maybe talk to someone else who's looking in.

Speaker 2 (27:24):
Sure.

Speaker 1 (27:24):
Mm, hmm, the last, oh no, not last one.
The next one is change youroutlook on jealousy.
Jealousy can show you there's adifference between what you
have and what you want.
So kind of like what I said,like they can show you what you
have and then you can worktowards something else.

Speaker 2 (27:42):
Yeah, that makes sense.

Speaker 1 (27:44):
Last one, use it as a chance to practice gratitude
for what you have.
So, appreciating positivethings in your life that don't
relate to jealousy can help yourealize that while you're, you
might not think your life mightnot be perfect, because who does
think their life is perfect?

Speaker 2 (28:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (28:01):
You've got a lot of good things to be thankful for,
so cool.

Speaker 2 (28:05):
Those are some good tips yeah.
Nice, for sure.

Speaker 1 (28:09):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (28:13):
And next is our ask men.
What are we asking men today?

Speaker 1 (28:18):
We're asking all of us what's your response when
your girlfriend asks how manypeople you had sex with?

Speaker 2 (28:26):
Oh, I say one because it's true.
Oh God, you took my V card.

Speaker 1 (28:34):
Okay, we all know I didn't, and that's why I said
here you go.
That's why, when I read this, Iwas like, oh, this is gonna be
a good one here you go my baby.
Okay, first one true number,honest answer, good for him.

Speaker 2 (28:55):
So he tells her the true number.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
Yeah, he tells anyone .
Oh, we'll see.
Now we know that you're lying,sneeze, okay.
Next one is I tell her, if sheasked, I don't really have
anything to hide.
Next one is I'd be honest anddirect.
That's important to me and so,of course, I'd respect if it's

(29:19):
important to her.
Plus, it would be good inseeing if we have similar views
of sex and intimacy, which isalso good.

Speaker 2 (29:26):
I think you're on the ask women page.

Speaker 1 (29:29):
Why?
Because you don't like that.
Guys don't agree with you.

Speaker 2 (29:32):
No, just false, this is falsified information.

Speaker 1 (29:38):
Oh well, you'll like this one About 12 ish depends on
exactly how you define sex.

Speaker 2 (29:44):
One thing I'm going to answer that now about 12 ish.

Speaker 1 (29:47):
I'd rather that then would the truth the truth I
thought we're about truth andhonesty.
We are about truth and honesty.
One God, please.
It's funny that you tell me one, but then in like the moment of
other times, like, oh well,this happened, and then this
happened.
But then we come back and it'salways on one.

Speaker 2 (30:07):
You're out.

Speaker 1 (30:08):
You're out, out in the fields.
I tell her I can count them onone hand.
I'm a sign language minor.
I can count to any number onone hand.

Speaker 2 (30:21):
That one's not bad.
I like that one.

Speaker 1 (30:23):
I haven't had a girlfriend ask me this since I
was in my early 20s.
Most people don't care, and I'mworried of those that are, but
I would answer truthfully.

Speaker 2 (30:32):
Yeah, I'm worried about those that are.

Speaker 1 (30:35):
That are what.

Speaker 2 (30:36):
Interested in that.

Speaker 1 (30:39):
Meaning your wife.

Speaker 2 (30:41):
Sure, yeah, yeah, I guess it is okay to be open and
stuff.

Speaker 1 (30:48):
It's good to be open.

Speaker 2 (30:50):
But for men it's not, it's just brush it to the side
a little bit.

Speaker 1 (30:55):
That is so crazy.
You say that because, if I toldyou a certain number, you, you
did, you told me somethingdifferent.
Okay, we're not.
We're not doing this.
Ah, Don't get it.
Why are you getting mad?
Because you literally told meone and then you want to start
this.

Speaker 2 (31:14):
Then we'll be laying down.

Speaker 1 (31:15):
You'd be like oh well , I did have sex with that girl,
oh well.

Speaker 2 (31:18):
I never said that you did, I never you said I had sex
with that girl.

Speaker 1 (31:22):
She sat on top of me and then you said I had sex with
that girl.

Speaker 2 (31:25):
Oh, yeah, what.

Speaker 1 (31:27):
Uh huh.

Speaker 2 (31:28):
You're spinning false facts.
No, I remember.
So if you want to, start this.

Speaker 1 (31:33):
these are things you said I never said that, and then
you also said well, I lost myvirginity to this girl.
Who?
Who is this person?

Speaker 2 (31:42):
I would never tell you people's names or people.

Speaker 1 (31:45):
You didn't tell me her name.
You told me who she was, howyou knew her.

Speaker 2 (31:48):
Uh huh.

Speaker 1 (31:50):
All of a sudden, you're telling the people fake
stuff.

Speaker 2 (31:54):
Fake stuff.
You want me?

Speaker 1 (31:54):
to keep going.
Okay, then I'll say it.
You lost your virginity to yoursister's friend who was in her
30s, who was a nurse.
Yeah, then also you had sexwith a girl at your New York
camp.
Then also you had sex with, uhhuh, you had sex with another
girl who you went to high school, with, who you said you guys

(32:17):
hooked up.
So that's already three girlsthere.

Speaker 2 (32:21):
I was just trying to look cool.

Speaker 1 (32:22):
None of those are true.
Uh huh, all of a sudden.
I was just trying to look cool,yeah.

Speaker 2 (32:28):
I don't okay.

Speaker 1 (32:32):
I'll come with receipts.
There ain't no receipts.

Speaker 2 (32:35):
Those are all receipts.
No, those are fucking falsereceipts you wrote you.
Those aren't the actualreceipts.
Those are the ones you.
You buy that receipt book atthe 9910 store and you feel that
bitch out on it.

Speaker 1 (32:46):
I traced your words and those receipts, so don't
bring that.

Speaker 2 (32:49):
Those aren't facts, those are fucking fibs.

Speaker 1 (32:53):
So you fib?

Speaker 2 (32:54):
I was just trying to look cool for any of you.

Speaker 1 (32:57):
Oh, okay, okay.

Speaker 2 (33:03):
Oh man, this got a little, a little wild.
Yeah.
Yeah, you see how she got,because I called her out and how
she changed her number to me awhile ago and then she fucking
got crazy.

Speaker 1 (33:14):
The amount of, the amount of you know.
You know what I'm talking about.
The amount of people that I'vehad actual sex with will never
change.
All right, it will never change.
It changed, did it.

Speaker 2 (33:27):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (33:28):
No no.

Speaker 2 (33:30):
Oral counts too.

Speaker 1 (33:35):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (33:46):
And next is our hot goss, hot Gossley.

Speaker 1 (33:50):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (33:52):
That was one of our songs, I know it's going to say
it.

Speaker 1 (33:54):
I know you're the one that's saying it.
Okay, so we only have one today.

Speaker 2 (33:59):
Are you gonna cry?

Speaker 1 (34:00):
No, I'm frustrated.

Speaker 2 (34:01):
What is it?

Speaker 1 (34:02):
Ariana Grande.

Speaker 2 (34:03):
Ariana Grande.
She said her name's fuckingGrandi on a radio show.
Ariana Grande, shut the fuck upshe doesn't even know.
Grande, You're big bitch Grande.

Speaker 1 (34:21):
If you were a Starbucks cup, you'd be a large
size.

Speaker 2 (34:24):
Yeah, you fuck Grandi .

Speaker 1 (34:27):
Well, she got called out by friends of her new
boyfriend's wife.

Speaker 2 (34:32):
Okay, wait.

Speaker 1 (34:33):
Wait, say that again.

Speaker 2 (34:36):
What are you talking about?

Speaker 1 (34:38):
Ariana Grande got called out by friends of her new
boyfriend's yeah, wife Becausehe's still married.
Her new boyfriend.

Speaker 2 (34:47):
His wife.

Speaker 1 (34:48):
Uh-huh, his wife.

Speaker 2 (34:50):
He's married, but he's with Ariana Grande.
Yes, huh, I never heard of this.

Speaker 1 (34:55):
Wait, we talked about this.

Speaker 2 (34:57):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (34:58):
The guy that she cheated with.
He's technically still married.

Speaker 2 (35:03):
Uh-huh.

Speaker 1 (35:04):
And so.

Speaker 2 (35:06):
Her friends called her out.

Speaker 1 (35:07):
No, his wife's friends called her out for her
new song.

Speaker 2 (35:13):
What's it called or what does it say?

Speaker 1 (35:18):
It says your business is yours and mine is mine.
Why do you care so much who'sdick I ride?
They called her out for hercomplete lack of remorse on what
she did.
What do you mean?

Speaker 2 (35:33):
I'm not saying pfft because I'm against you.
I'm saying pfft because I'm foryou, Don't?
There's no remorse.
I agree, that's fucking grimy,slimy.

Speaker 1 (35:44):
I have a little quote from a friend.
She could have taken thisopportunity to create music that
would be therapeutic for her toheal and for fans to listen to.
She could have taken this timeto create art that would help
those who were hurt to heal, butshe didn't.
She created art that basicallysays fuck you, I don't care what
I did to her anyone because I'mhappy.

Speaker 2 (36:06):
She was happy with the last fucking 10 guys she was
with.

Speaker 1 (36:09):
Yeah, a lot of people were saying that yeah.

Speaker 2 (36:11):
She sucks.
I just looked this up, butlet's see, she dated Graham
Phillips.
She dated fucking JordanViskomi, jay Brooks, nathan
Sykes, big Sean I heard he's bigtoo, so after Isn't that-?

Speaker 1 (36:27):
that's why it's nothing.

Speaker 2 (36:28):
After him, she's useless.
Ricky Alvarez, mac Miller, peteDavidson, Mikey Foster is that
him?

Speaker 1 (36:37):
I don't know, I don't even know who that is.

Speaker 2 (36:39):
Herself.
Oh, I know Dalton Gomes.
Oh, that's the guy she marriedthis guy.

Speaker 1 (36:45):
No, Dalton Gomez is the guy she married.

Speaker 2 (36:47):
And that's her new Ethan Slater.
Okay, spongebob, speaking offucking body counts, this is who
we know 11.
Useless she one part of her isgrandi, and we know what that
part is she's yeah, no, thatdoes suck.

(37:11):
I'm just I mean, I'm justkidding, obviously, I'm just
talking to you, but no, shesucks.
No, it does suck when you don'thave remorse for ruining a
marriage Allegedly.
We don't fucking know.

Speaker 1 (37:22):
Allegedly, they're literally in the process of
divorce.
We've all seen the pictureswhere it's like a few months ago
he was posting about hisone-year-old child and his wife,
and now he's with Ariana Grande.

Speaker 2 (37:33):
Okay, let me just say this If people are married and
they're together and say theybreak up say like a month after
they break up and they're notthey're not interested in
working it out and he or shestarts hooking up with someone
or gets to someone that's notthey're not together, no more.

(37:53):
That's not cheating.
So maybe they broke up andnobody knows.
Nobody knows when they broke up, how they broke up.
So that's why I say allegedlyit doesn't matter that they're
married If they're broken up.
So they have to wait threeyears to start dating someone if
it takes that long to fuckingdivorce.

Speaker 1 (38:09):
I don't think you need to wait three years, but I
also think you need to wait morethan one or two months.
You were literally-.

Speaker 2 (38:14):
Says who.

Speaker 1 (38:15):
You were in a marriage.

Speaker 2 (38:16):
Says who.

Speaker 1 (38:18):
Says the rules of physics and everything else.

Speaker 2 (38:22):
The background theorem yes, a squared plus B
squared plus C squared.
Yes, yes, no, no, there's noway that you can You're just
talking shit.

Speaker 1 (38:29):
I don't care.
There's no way that you cancome from a marriage and start
dating right away after youended that marriage.
It's happened millions of timesit has, and those people need
help.

Speaker 2 (38:40):
They need help, but they're free to do whatever they
want If they both know they'renot gonna work-.

Speaker 1 (38:44):
No one says they're not.
That's why they're off carryingtheir relationship.

Speaker 2 (38:46):
Okay, but to me that's not cheating.

Speaker 1 (38:50):
You're legally still married who?

Speaker 2 (38:52):
cares.
So you're saying that'scheating because they're legally
married.

Speaker 1 (38:57):
I think yes, I think, legally you're still married.

Speaker 2 (39:00):
You said yes.

Speaker 1 (39:02):
I also think you need to give it depends on the time
of the relationship.
You need to give yourself waymore than less than six months.

Speaker 2 (39:11):
No, you don't, yes, you do.
You can move on and Becausethen what?

Speaker 1 (39:14):
does that say about your relationship?

Speaker 2 (39:17):
It says it didn't work out which it didn't clearly
.
So that's why I say allegedly,I'm not saying-.

Speaker 1 (39:23):
You're not saying.
It's not allegedly.
This is what happened.
Allegedly is for when we don'tknow what happened.
This is what happened.

Speaker 2 (39:29):
So we know they were together and she hooked up with
this guy while they weretogether.

Speaker 1 (39:32):
Yes, while they were filming the that play, she was
like well, she was a wickedwitch of the east.
Isn't that the good witch?
Well, she was the bad witch?

Speaker 2 (39:42):
No, that's the bad witch.
Oh, okay, anyway why can't?

Speaker 1 (39:46):
you say her lady bits are grandi, but I can't say
anything about her being with amarried man.

Speaker 2 (39:51):
Because if they're separated, he's not they're not
married anymore.

Speaker 1 (39:55):
But they weren't separated, is the point.

Speaker 2 (39:56):
Okay, you're fucking Tansy.
I guess they called yourfucking hotline and said Brianna
.

Speaker 1 (40:05):
And I said let me tell you-.

Speaker 2 (40:08):
His wife's friends called you personally Good.

Speaker 1 (40:12):
Girl, hey girls, I got you, I'll be there for you.
Okay, okay, okay.

Speaker 2 (40:17):
Yeah, she still sucks .
She's fucking horrible, thatgirl.

Speaker 1 (40:20):
From the moment she licked those donuts she sucked
yeah anyway, yeah, well, that'sit.
That was our hot goss for theday.

Speaker 2 (40:29):
That was good hot goss.

Speaker 1 (40:30):
That was very hot, it got a little hot.
It got heated.

Speaker 2 (40:34):
Yeah, it did.
Fucking hot goss.
That's what a hot goss shouldbe every time let's find
something that will borderlinemake us fight like that.

Speaker 1 (40:43):
Then we could bounce back.
Anyway, Wait.
So you don't want to hear aboutmillionaires anymore trying to
go back in their age.

Speaker 2 (40:51):
No, that's stupid.
No that guy was stupid.
That wasn't stupid.
But yeah.
Anyway, we appreciate you guystuning in.
That was our episode onjealousy.
Hopefully you took a littleaway from this.
I felt kind of lost, to behonest.
I don't know why my mind isjust-.

Speaker 1 (41:10):
You're not a jealous guy.

Speaker 2 (41:12):
Nope, you could do whatever you want, just not
anything with boys.
You could go make more moneythan me.

Speaker 1 (41:22):
No, back then it was a dirty issue.
I'm just kidding.

Speaker 2 (41:29):
So in the next few episodes we want to do skeletons
in the closet.
We say it every time.
It's a number that you couldcall and leave a voicemail or
text Any questions of adviceabout your personal life, dating
life, your kids.
You could talk shit.
You could fucking get somethingoff your chest.

(41:49):
We play it or read itanonymously and we hope you guys
do it.
But Brianna will say the number, since she knows it off the top
of her head 562-457-0613.

Speaker 1 (42:04):
Yes.

Speaker 2 (42:04):
Yes, it is 562-457-0613.

Speaker 1 (42:07):
It is anonymous.
You can call, you can text andit will always be anonymous.

Speaker 2 (42:13):
We'll play your voicemail or read your text yeah
it's fun, it's cool.
We like doing that.

Speaker 1 (42:19):
We already got one, do we?

Speaker 2 (42:21):
Yeah, we got a long one, so maybe we just need one
for that episode.
No, I'm just kidding.
But yeah, we'll catch you inthe flip-flop later.
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