July 31, 2023 • 42 mins
Ding Dong! Get ready for a wild ride as we relive our surprise encounter with Atmosphere at the Five Points Amphitheater and we guarantee you'll resonate with our story if you've ever had a chance encounter with a band from your teenage years. Hear about our adventurous decision to book a 6 AM flight after a night out, with our three kids!!! If you're game for some real talk and belly laughs, don't forget to dial in and share your stories.
We've all been there - tangled in the messy web of relationships. How do you navigate a relationship that's not yet official? We tackle these tough questions head-on and share our insights on spotting red flags and standing up for oneself. We also explore the perils of feeling a bit helpless when a partner appears indifferent. If you're riding the dating roller coaster, tune in for some solid advice.
Ever felt overwhelmed by your in-laws or found it hard to make friends with your partner's friends' spouses? We've been there too. Listen as we share our thoughts on drawing healthy boundaries and dealing with the challenges of accepting your partner's circle. On top of that, we discuss the intricacy of navigating relationships with your significant other's entourage. If you're wrestling with these issues, join us as we share our wisdom and invite you to share your challenges. We promise you're not alone.
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Speaker 1 (00:26):
Welcome back to All Tricks, no Cheats.
This is the number one lifeadvice podcast.
So if you guys heard our introsong, it's a little different,
it's a little new.
If you didn't hear the story ofour original song, I paid some
guy on Fiverr from likeBangladesh or wherever the fuck,
and we heard it on some likehome improvement reel.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Ad sort of ad.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
And she's like, is that our song?
And I went back and said whatthe fuck?
I messaged that guy quick andhe was, like we provide like the
animation for your logo.
Like we just add a song.
That's not what the song is incustom the animation is.
I said bro, you're a fuckingscam artist.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
So they just added like one little star flying
through the sky, and that waswhat we paid for.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
If you watch the YouTube video, the intro, with
our name All Tricks, no Treats.
That's what I paid for 300fucking dollars.
I could have figured it outmyself.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
For words, letters to come together.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yes, but um so I went to Upwork, which is not the
bootleg version.
I think Fiverr is like thebootleg version.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Doesn't Fiverr have multiple Rs?
Yes, it's Fiverr, maybe.
Yeah, I should have got thehand you should have known with
multiple Rs.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
But I hired some Americans Don't be rude and we
got like three good songs back.
So that was yeah, that wasnumber one.
The next couple episodes willplay the other ones and we'd
like for you guys to give alittle bit of feedback on.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
They're all.
They're all very good.
You've been like listening tothem and like you've been
sending our our uh comments backand forth and stuff.
So yeah, we've got some goodones.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
We're glad we have a updated original one where we
don't have to see it on somehome improvement video.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
But yeah, today is our episode of Skeletons in the
Closet.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
In the Closet.
We don't have a song for that.
This is our second one.
So we're not really sure how todo the song Is it?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
I don't know, but we didn't rehearse it obviously.
Yeah, Um but maybe let'spractice Like the cup song.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Should I get a cup, like Anna Kendrick and pitch for
a fake?
The acapella.
That was a butt ice.
The acapella.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
But anyway it's our Skeletons in the Closet, where
we have a hotline where you guyscan call or text and tell us
anything you want Life advice,kids advice If you want to get
something off your chest.
A funny story.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
You want to laugh with us?
Cry with us, we'll fill thingstogether, yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
And we'll make fun of you in the process, so you
don't feel as bad as you do, orwhatever.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
Hey, we're all going through this together, so let's
feel it together.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
But first we just want to catch up, because we
know it's been like two weeks,so let's catch up with our beers
real quick.
Yeah, I'm parched.
Are you parched?
You're hot, I'm sweating.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I don't know why you get so hot.
I'm sweating and she's likeit's cold in here because I have
the AC at like 69.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
My toes are blue, my hands are numb, mine are red
because it's hot.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Cheers oh yeah, baby Ooh.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
That butt.
Ice is crispy.
Ooh, it's very cold so here, wego.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
I know we talked about this before, but we went
on a trip.
But before we went on our tripwe actually the night before we
had our 6 AM flight 6 AM, 6 AMwith three kids.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Smart with the two year old four year old and seven
year old.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
We were very smart to book a 6 AM flight and plan a
night out before.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
So we went to Five Points Amphitheater which we
love in Irvine Very cool, verycool, great venue.
Yeah, and we saw SlightlyStupid.
There were two other openingbands, but Atmosphere was there.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
If you grew up when we did, when we did in high
school around 2004,.
5'6" Atmosphere was a big deal.
It was a big underground rapper, the band and we didn't even
know he was playing.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
No, we didn't.
We saw something aboutAtmosphere, we heard something
about it.
We were like oh, maybe it'sthat.
We were like is this theAtmosphere or is this Atmosphere
?
We don't know who it is.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Yeah, so originally Sublime was supposed to be
playing and we didn't know that.
The card was kind of switchedup and we had our beers.
We were hanging out with ouraunt and uncle, chris and
Shelley, shout out.
We loved going to shows withthem and we were walking up to
the spot where we entered to ourseats and we heard we're
Atmosphere from Minneapolis andme and Brianna looked at each
(05:12):
other like what the fuck?
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Don't let them in, just drove by.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Oh fuck, we missed him.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
He drove by very fast .
He had a little umbrella over.
Damn, where is he going?
Speaker 1 (05:23):
We have a view of our outside front yard and we live
in an area where there's no alot of them in More white people
.
So we stopped him one time andwe bought like six things.
We had workers here and Ibought them shit too and I was
like, damn, our neighbors areprobably like oh no they're
gonna bring this guy here.
(05:43):
Anyway, back to the Atmospherestory.
I was like this is an.
This can't be Atmosphere.
He is from Minneapolis, theyare from there.
And she's like, was it theAtmosphere?
And I said, if it's theAtmosphere, it's different.
Yeah, so we go and she's likeit sounds like him and I said
this is fucking slug, this isAtmosphere.
Dude, I was, I got emotional,it was fucking insane.
(06:06):
I feel like all the bands thatI've been wanting to see, like
Blink, tushae, amore, atmospherethis year has been like
incredible Musically yeah thecure.
Yeah, and I was like screamingmy heart out to a lot of the
songs and our aunt and unclewere like damn, he really does
like them.
But they were like a big highschool underground band, so big.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
I just remember his face.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Dude.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
His face on the cover of the.
I remember on my iPod, like youknow how it used to show the
little picture.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
His face.
Yeah, for sure, it was juststraight on out of his face.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
And I'm like a big fat, sick, hungry dude all the
time and and I don't have thatmuch energy is what I'm getting
at.
And when I found out it was him, I was like a kid again and I
was jumping and screaming andyelling and like drinking beers
more than I drink really and Iwas.
It was fucking insane.
(07:02):
I couldn't believe it.
I was so happy, it was a goodsurprise.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
It was fun.
And I do want to talk aboutsomething that he said when he
was talking about one of hissongs.
He said I want to let my sonknow that I hear him and that
was very I.
Like we've said before, we, youknow, growing up we've learned
things from our parents and itjust goes to show that we're
learning, that we want our kidsto.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
you know know that we're listening to them and I
thought that was very cute.
I liked it a lot.
He's he's a cute dad, he's cute.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
He's cutie.
He does have a little whitepatch in his hair.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Dude he's dude, he's getting old.
I don't even know how old he is, but they're still doing it and
hey yeah, he's still got allthe energy.
They're killing it.
They had good vibes, good stagepresence.
Everyone was into it.
I know there was a lot ofpeople that really didn't know
them, but it was fuckingincredible it was nice.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
It was nice.
So after that we got home weslept maybe like two hours, two
hours, yeah, and then we wokethe kids up, got in the car and
we drove to LAX.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
We woke up at like 5am, 4.40 or something.
I woke up at 4.30.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
I got a.
I felt kind of cool because Igot us like a cool car, a big
SUV, with the guy with the blacksuit on and I was like we're
riding in style baby, but we hadto get up early and when I
travel I like to catch a red eyebecause I feel like that's a
cheat code on an extra day.
But it's technically,technically not.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
No, it is.
It's like the best way to getthe bank for your book.
You get there early in themorning.
You take maybe a little nap inthe car same thing we did in
Salem.
Sure, and then you explore thewhole day During the day.
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
So we got there pretty early and our flight was,
I like what, six something, six, fifteen, and it was perfect.
The flight was the smoothestflight in the world.
The flight was very good.
The pilot's name was Karen, awoman and she.
I love you, karen.
It was the most like smoothflight you can ever ask for.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
We were.
I was very worried about justthe kids.
It wasn't champs first flight,but it was Bubby and Nucky's
first flight.
So, we had a two year old, fouryear old, the first flights and
I was very nervous about whatwe're going to do Because you
know, you see those videos oflittle kids like yelling yeah,
and you don't want to botheranyone around you because we're
(09:22):
all in the same little metalship together.
But so we were very nervous butwe got on.
We got them little.
Actually.
Yeah, shout out to who do wefly with JetBlue?
Jetblue.
Shout out to JetBlue becausethey were very good.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
That was my first time flying with JetBlue yeah,
me too, and Bubby was sitting byme, champ and Nucky were with
Brianna.
The plane was half empty, thankGod.
Thank God Because we had nobodyby us and the kids were free to
stand up and do whatever.
But we were on the runway andBubby kept asking me oh we
leaving yet, or we leaving?
I said here we go.
(09:57):
And the plane started going.
I'm like all right, it'spicking up.
You need to be a big girl, butif you want to hug my arm, you
go ahead.
And as soon as the front wheelstarted lifting, I was looking
over at her and she looked at meand she said is there any
snacks?
I said I said bitch.
I said I'm terrified.
(10:18):
What do you mean?
I didn't say that.
I didn't say that.
I was just like shocked becauseI was like dude.
I thought she was going to bescared, but she was like super
chill, nucky was super chill,nucky was so good.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
So we saw that the TVs were working and we were
like, ok, let's buy someheadphones for all three of them
.
So I walked up to the.
Is it steward if you're a man,or stewardess?
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I've no idea.
Those guys are stewardess.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
Who cares?
Call them steward.
Yeah, little Little stewardWalked up to little steward and
I was like, can I buy someheadphones?
And he said, oh yeah, here youjust here, just take it.
And he gave me one and I waslike, oh my God, I don't know
two more, sir.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
And he said here, just take them.
So he gave us free headphones,yeah, and they were like seven
bucks each or something, yeah,so the kids had headphones.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
They were watching the movie.
When we were taking off, I wasvery worried about Nucky's ears,
because little kids' ears popsOn the plane.
Here's a trick.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
That's here.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Usually they say if you have a baby and you're
taking off on a plane, to givethem a bottle or breastfeed or
something like a juice or alollipop, something to get like
their like mouth moving becauseit makes sure that their ears
don't pop.
Nice, yeah, but it was good.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
We had a good trip.
Yes, so real quick.
I know we've been talking aboutthis for a minute, but we flew
up to Seattle and we drove allthe way down.
We hit Seattle, Portland, Boise.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
We Portland sucked.
We didn't like Portland, so weactually stayed one night.
We planned on two, and then wewent to Boise instead.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Yeah, and then we ended in Vegas, which we love
Vegas so much, oh, so much.
Out of the whole trip, vegaswas probably the best.
But a thing about Seattle andPortland.
What's similar about that isyou could see homeless people
smoking crack right on thefucking and meth right on the
street there was foil on thefloor.
(12:15):
I said hey, here's anotherfucking crack.
And the guys, the kids, arealways like what is that?
Speaker 2 (12:21):
They don't know what it.
I call them zombies, butBrianna doesn't like me to refer
.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
But I like when they I tell them yeah, you yell at
them, yeah, and they're like hey, zombie, no, that's not nice.
That's their whatever.
Fuck them.
They want to choose that Idon't care.
Well, they're still humanbeings All right, we'll touch on
like our trip, probably nextepisode.
I think we should like talkabout what we did so people
could like see where they couldgo and if they haven't been
(12:46):
there.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
But cool, let's get some skeletons out of those
closet.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
We have like three people who hit us up via text
and then we have one voicemail.
So let's read some messages.
Ok, here's the first one.
So they message story timewarning.
This happened 10 years ago.
I'm a completely differentperson now, somewhat, lol, my
(13:11):
situation ship.
Thank you for responding to oneof our episodes.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
We appreciate that.
Nice we got the terms.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
My situation.
Ship was getting rocky and hewas seeing other girls but would
lie, saying they were justfriends, quote, unquote.
One day his friends was actingtoo controlling Over him, I
guess.
In whatever situation they werein, he told me to stay home.
(13:38):
We shared a studio together.
Woman's intuition told me to goto the gig he was going to.
I called my friends and weshowed up.
When I got there he was toodrunk to notice I was there.
Jeez, you're a fucking ninja.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Oh, and I mean good for you and your friends, Good
for you.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Those are good friends too, but this points out
that this guy was having a goodenough time where he wasn't
even thinking about you, whichmakes him kind of an asshole.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
You think that's the only part that makes him an
asshole?
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Not the only part, but that's in addition to the
other two or three things thatwe've written.
Speaker 3 (14:14):
I'm sweating.
Now I'm not cold anymore.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
I was there for a good two hours.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
Holy shit, was this person watching him the whole
time?
You were watching him.
They weren't even watching theshow, they were just focused,
zeroed in on him the whole time.
That's the toxic.
I, like You're waiting.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
La taxica.
You're letting him boil.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
I feel you You're letting him boil La taxica.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
I was there for a good two hours when I seen he
was leaning, hugging up againsthis friend.
I approached him and when herealized it was me, he yelled oh
shit, while the girl ran away.
This is so many red flags.
The girl ran away.
This is obviously a dealbreaker.
(14:54):
I told him this is what you dowhile I'm at home, cool.
And walked away.
I haven't read the rest, butthanks for not just popping him
square in the fucking job.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Oh, I was going to say you're a way better person
than I am.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
He approached me and got in my face.
One thing led to another and westarted throwing hands at a
backyard gig.
He tried to get me in theheadlock and I was uppercutting
him.
A group of my guy friendsseparated us and we're going to
beat his ass until they seen hisface all bloody Damn.
He blooded his face.
(15:30):
Nice, I ain't trying to fightwith you bitch.
Get it.
His two homegirls were going tojump me but my friend circled
me to protect me.
He got back in my face and wenta second round.
I left him on the floor and wasleaving the gig he came running
after me crying saying friendwants to say sorry and for me to
(15:51):
kick him out.
Oh, my god, the friend wantedhim to say sorry to her.
That's fucking insane.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Wait, the friend that was circling, the friend that
was going to beat.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
No, his quote unquote .
Friend, the girl wanted him to.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
Wait, ok, his quote unquote.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
friend wanted to say sorry to this person that was
being cheated on, yeah, and forhim not to kick him out of his
house.
Oh my god, plot twist.
Plot twist Wait, it's not done.
Plot twist I was five monthspregnant when this went down.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Oh my god, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
You got in a fight.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
That's crazy.
First of all, this guy's anasshole.
I hope I'm sure you're not withhim, but for him to do all this
shit and the friend sayingdon't kick him out, please,
please, don't kick him out.
Who are you?
If she was just a friend, hewouldn't have been hiding this
whole situation to begin with.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
If he was just a friend, he wouldn't have replied
oh shit, the moment he saw you.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
And her running away.
That's fucking crazy.
You did good.
You beat his ass.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Hey, you did so good.
I'm proud of you.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
One thing I'm kind of disappointed.
I wish your homeboys fucked hisass up too.
That would have been tight.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
But maybe you know what you tough, maybe you did it
all.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Hell yeah, I hope you're not in that situation.
Thank you for the story.
That was fucking juicy.
Speaker 3 (17:21):
That was a good story and honestly, I don't know who
you are.
But hey, message me.
I want to be friends with you.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
You're a badass, I want to be friends with you.
Thank you so much for writingin yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
I hope.
I hope your life has flourished.
I hope you have nothing butpositivity.
You don't have that negativepeople, Anything in your life.
I hope you're doing.
I hope you're doing real good.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
And this happened 10 years ago, so I hope your kid's
fucking killing it in life.
Both of you Might be like 10years old probably.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Both of you.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Yeah, that was the first story.
Thank you for writing in On tothe next one.
All right, I'm a newly singlemama and haven't been single in
years, capitalized years, we'retalking almost eight.
Being together with someone foreight years side note is a long
time.
That's a big part of your life.
So I think being single afterthat long is A lot of things
(18:13):
have changed.
Is gnarly yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
That's a big change.
You're a new person.
I mean even just that outsideenvironment, dating has changed.
People have changed, that's abig thing.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
I decided this weekend, instead of working
quote unquote kids with dad, totake a spontaneous trip to Vegas
with someone I'm seeing Nice.
Call me crazy, reckless,whatever, but I've never, ever
in my entire life done anything.
This last minute slashspontaneous and bat shit crazy.
(18:46):
I'm excited to live my life forme and be a little messy along
the way, Ain't posting a damnthing while I'm there and
location off.
Be back in three days, laughingface.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
I love that.
Good for you, Girl.
Be as messy as you want to be.
You deserve it.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Yeah, so again, eight years is a long time and after
separating with someone, in myopinion, it's hard to move on or
it's hard to talk to someone,but at the same time, if someone
sees interest, it feels good,especially, like you said, you
have kids.
We're older now.
(19:26):
I don't know how old thisperson is, but they have kids.
I'm assuming maybe our age.
But if someone's into you, itfeels good.
Speaker 3 (19:34):
Yeah, it's good to have that little spark
especially.
I don't know what happened inthe marriage, but obviously
something happened to where itwasn't there anymore.
So, to feel like something elseto make this person excited and
to feel like let me go do this,that's a good thing, yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
And you're allowed to , so you deserve it.
Yeah, I always tell Brianna Ihate that Drake fucking said
this, but you only live one life, you live once.
Speaker 3 (19:58):
Yellow, you're yellowing forever.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
And you can't let shit stop you from doing things
you want to do, for doing thingsthat make you feel good.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
So Especially other people.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Yeah, and you've said you've never done anything like
this, Like you're allowed to dothis.
You're allowed to make baddecisions.
It's not saying that that was abad decision, but you're
allowed to make decisions thatyou never have previously.
So I hope you had a good time.
Hopefully you send us whathappened.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Live life for yourself, especially being a
mama of kids.
You know you're living yourlife for your kids, so I'm glad
that you were able to take thattime.
No work, live it for yourself.
I hope you had all the shots.
I hope you had all the but ice.
I hope you had all the dick,all the messiness you want.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
All the messiness baby.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Can you next skeleton in the closet Call in and just
let us know how it went.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Tell us the deets baby.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
We'll pump you up even more Hell.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Yeah, all right, thank you so much for that call
as well.
So this next one is a voicemail.
Let's hear the voicemail.
Who's brave enough to leave avoicemail?
Speaker 3 (21:07):
We got it right here, but still these are all
anonymous.
We don't know who these peopleare.
That's why we're like oh, wedon't know yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
You guys are so cute.
I love that greeting Hi.
Ok, I don't know what to do.
Long story short.
I've been talking to someonefor about three months and I
(21:38):
mean, things have gotten prettyserious, all except for the fact
that we're not official.
We weren't official and I justdecided to add things because I
felt like I was begging for hisattention at this last point,
(21:59):
and I don't want to have to begfor someone's attention, so,
anyway.
So I ended things a couple daysago about five days ago, six
days ago and he never responded.
And it really hurt my feelingsthat he didn't respond to me.
(22:21):
Ending things because I felt sodisposable, like you're not
going to even give me a goodbyeor I wish you well, or not even
a fuck.
You Like nothing.
And what hurts more thansomeone being angry or like
cheating you, is when they don'tcare.
Does that make sense?
I've always said the antithesisis the opposite of love is not
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hate, it's apathy, becausesomeone who is so apathetic to
you or anything in life is likeas if you're non-existent.
So that's how I can feel.
Anyway, I can already feelChris Garza rolling his eyes at
me.
Anyway, he finally respondedtoday, like a week later.
(23:04):
And what do I do?
Just what do I do?
Do I ignore that text?
Do I acknowledge that he textedme?
I mean, the text was prettymuch like him saying sorry, but
he didn't necessarily say likehe wants to meet up again.
(23:25):
I don't know.
I don't know what I should do.
I do miss him, but I don't wantto have to beg someone's
attention.
So what do I do?
Love you.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Damn, that was a fucking deep ass voicemail.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
But we appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
Yeah, I mean a couple things.
There's a lot of variables inthis, the situation and how we
have to respond.
So one thing dating threemonths.
When people date, typicallyit's not usually with one person
, so three months might seem along time to some people, but
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it's not that long in reality.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Especially if you haven't had that exclusive talk
which she said.
They're not official.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Yes, Number two, you feel like you're begging for his
attention.
Yeah, To me that's your fuckinganswer.
Yeah, guys are being guys.
Guys are doing their own thing.
I'm glad that he responded andit made you a little hopeful.
But again, guys will doanything to keep something going
(24:36):
.
That's good If you're hooking up, if you're again showing him
attention, like not that it'sbad for you to keep responding
to him or keep trying to texthim, but it feels good to be
wanted.
So he might be in a situationwhere, oh damn, that feels good
that she's texting me and tryingto get a hold of me.
(24:57):
But again, he could be doinghis own thing and I mean, I'm
not trying to be like a dick,but he can always go back to you
and give you a fucking sentenceor paragraph, wrapped up with a
bow, to make you feel like,okay, he's interested in me
again.
So take it with a grain of saltand I think you should focus on
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you, have fun, date otherpeople and don't put all your
eggs in one basket, becausenobody deserves that.
Everyone deserves to find truehappiness and you need to find
it anywhere, not just in oneplace.
Speaker 3 (25:35):
So I do agree with you.
I do think that it's hard beingnot I'm doing air quotes, not
official and not being able to.
Obviously you can't controlwhat the other person does.
You are kind of in this littlesituation where you don't know
(25:59):
what's going on.
You know, because as girls, wealways like to think that we,
you know, we want more, we wouldlike to think that more is
coming of it.
Whatever our situation is, youknow, that could eventually lead
to something, because that'swhat we all date for, right.
We all date for someone who isgoing to be our lifetime
companion.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
Yeah, so that's what we want.
So I get that.
I get wanting to be withsomeone and choose someone who's
going to come from a situationship and turn into a lifetime
companion.
But at the same time, I doagree with you You're not
official, so it is very great.
(26:43):
It's a very great area to know,like where you go from here,
what you do from here, andthat's the worst part about
dating.
The worst part about dating isyou don't know Like you don't.
You don't know what you can say.
You don't know what you can dobecause you know you don't want
to do one thing and eventuallyturn them off where they're like
(27:03):
oh, yeah, it's definitely arisk being in that area, where
you are, when you're.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I don't know if you're ready to make it
exclusive, but even if you bringup the conversation saying, hey
, where are we?
Speaker 3 (27:17):
Like do we see this, See this going forward?
That's actually going to be atopic.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
It obviously could lead one of two ways.
It could stay the same, just asconfusing as it is.
Or they could say, yeah, let'smove this into, but as a man, if
I'm there already, I'm bringingit up as a man.
I know people are like anybodythe girl could say it, or the
guy we know if we wanna move itforward or not.
(27:41):
So I think as a man, you shouldstep up and say I wanna move
forward.
It's a risk for you to bring itup, so you have a decision to
make.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
I think traditionally we are used to the guy saying
that and initiating it and us,as you know, someone else with
them Taking the lead being a man.
Following and saying okay, yeah, let's do this, and that's what
we all want.
But my number one thing is,girl, I never want you to feel
(28:12):
like you're less than.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Aw, girl's gang.
Yeah, sorry, the bang gang,bang gang.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
I never want anyone to feel like they're less than
or like they don't deserveanything, because you do.
You really do.
You deserve the most.
You deserve the best.
I don't even know you, but I Ithink all girls, all anyone
(28:49):
who's willing and ready for thatthat you deserve the world.
So I don't think that youshould be sitting here and
waiting for someone or beingmade to feel like you're not
enough, because you are, and Iknow that, whoever you are,
there is there's a millionpeople out there who would be
(29:13):
willing and lucky to have you.
So I think, like he said, yougot your answer, you know.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
Good one babe.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
Yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Oh, good advice, Listen and again like, who knows
, maybe this could turn out good.
We just don't know.
But hopefully we get an updateand it's a good one.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
Yeah, you just deserve to be happy, so
hopefully, whatever your updateis is Oops, even if you are
still with that person andthings are better, or if you've
moved on and you're having fun.
I agree with you, though havefun.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Go out, go out, girl.
Yeah, take Brianna, take mewith you, let's go to some CD
bars.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
Let's find you someone, let's find you someone.
Thank you so much, though weappreciate your call.
Okay, we have one more.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
Okay, one more.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Overbearing mother-in-laws and making
friends with your partner'sfriends' spouses.
Okay, so let's break both ofthese down.
The first part is overbearingmother-in-laws.
Did you write this?
Speaker 3 (30:35):
I cannot inhale.
I'm sorry.
I'm gonna like inhale these,but I see through my nostrils.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
I'm not trying to get into too much detail, but, as
some of you know, I don't reallytalk to my family anymore.
We don't, yes, which I meansucks, but I guess Brianna might
have been in that boat for alittle bit, so she could relate,
might have.
So what do you think about this?
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 3 (31:00):
I mean, we all hear the stereotypical version of
in-laws, so we all know, youknow where people are like ugh,
my mother-in-law.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:08):
Yeah, I'm not gonna go into a lot, but it sucks.
It sucks to have someone as anin-law who is domineering,
Relittling, Catty, you know,cuts things off, makes you.
Because I'm a very I'm a veryempathetic person.
I'm someone who is very I don'tlike drama and I don't like
(31:35):
confrontation.
If it comes to me, I'll put upwith it and I'll, you know, do
what I have to do, but I wouldmuch rather avoid it.
So, to have an overbearingin-law, it sucks a lot to have
someone who's oversteps theirboundaries, because the biggest
thing as a parent, as a spouse,is your boundaries.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:55):
And to have someone who comes into your relationship
and puts their Two cents Morethan two cents puts their dollar
50 in way more than they should.
It's a lot and it sucks and italso puts a strain on your
relationship as a parent withyour spouse.
It sucks, so I get that it'svery hard, but the advice I have
(32:20):
for you is I heard this onetime.
Something happened to me inlike third or fourth grade, I
don't even remember, but one ofthe noon duty aides came up to
me and I was really sad.
They were like you know what?
You gotta just be like a duck,and when the water gets on the
duck, they just let it roll offtheir back.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
You just Water off a duck's back.
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Just gotta let it roll off your back.
There's been a million timeswhere I've been like okay, and
I've just had to do the deepsigh and just be the bigger
person and move on, because Inever wanted it to affect my
relationship with my husband ormy relationship or my kid's
(32:59):
relationship with theirgrandparent.
I mean obviously things aredifferent now, but and listen, I
mean being in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
Growing up, we're programmed to love family and be
around family and friends andthat's what life's about.
And I think I've gone throughenough things and I'm at a point
where I'm successful enough andI have my own family to say
fuck family.
(33:27):
You need to do what you need todo to be happy, whether that's
with friends or girlfriend orwife and kids.
My kids are my life and Irefuse to have them around any
negativity, anything that makesthem question like what's going
(33:48):
on?
Like whoa, this is crazy to bearound, you know, like Like a
relationship.
If a relationship with someoneis meant to be, it'll happen.
If you fall out with yourfamily and it's meant to be you
guys will rekindle, apologieswill be made.
You guys will grow and mature,but until then, fuck everyone.
You need to look out for youand your own, so don't try to
(34:13):
get approval from family ormother-in-laws.
You do you.
You do what makes you and yourpartner happy and they should
support you.
Your spouse should support you.
Your kids should support you.
So I mean down, this is gettinga little deep.
Speaker 3 (34:28):
But I think that's the hardest thing is the spousal
support, because there aretimes where the spouse is cut in
half, like they're like well,you're my husband or wife, but
this is my parent, this is mymom.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
That's true.
At the end of the day, you staytrue to yourself.
You'll feel 100% better if youstick to your guns and you stick
to your beliefs.
Speaker 3 (34:50):
So let's use some Jonah Hill lingo Don't let your
boundaries be crossed.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
Hey, stick to your stick to your boundaries.
Fuck the noise, fuck everybody.
So, just be happy.
We live too fucking short toworry about family and
mother-in-laws andfather-in-laws and whatever, so
overbearing mothers.
Speaker 3 (35:14):
Ultimately, they're just a person.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
Yeah they're nobody to you.
You start your own life, youfigure your own life out.
But that's the first one.
Come hang out with us.
Yeah, we'll talk.
Speaker 3 (35:25):
Yeah, we'll talk Way deep.
Speaker 1 (35:27):
We're a small, tight knit unit.
So the second part is makingfriends with your partner's
friend's spouses.
That's a good one as well, Ithink when we were dating I
didn't really like any of yourfriends.
Speaker 3 (35:45):
No, when we started dating, you were such a hater.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
And I don't know why, maybe because I was.
I don't like people in general.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
No, new, friends.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
And I'm territorial, like even with my family growing
up.
That's a big part of myfamily's identity too is they're
territorial people.
That's part of the overbearingmother-in-law.
Speaker 3 (36:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
So it was hard for me to accept a lot of her friends,
even her friends husbands.
I was like fuck them, like Idon't know why I always had like
this mindset.
But I think over time you'llenjoy the company, because I
(36:30):
used to say and Breanna hatesthis that I was a lone wolf.
Speaker 3 (36:35):
Like I had a few friends.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
I was just going to say that I had a few friends,
but at the end of the day, Ilook out for me only until I got
her and I got our kids.
They're the only ones I careabout.
So other people I didn't give ashit about.
I didn't care about her bestfriends and her best friends
husbands or what they were goinglike.
(36:57):
She'd tell me the T.
Don't, don't get me wrong.
I love the fucking drama.
I love to stir the pot, baby.
Speaker 3 (37:02):
Oh, he's got his big wooden spoon.
Yep, no, come with it.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
But to make friends with them.
I mean, I didn't care, like Iyeah, they were an afterthought
of, like us, like I'd all right,they're going to come around,
Sure, I guess.
But over time I think I grew alove for for them.
I love them as much as you andI would help them out if they
(37:29):
needed it.
And, yeah, and whoever they'rewith, whoever they're surrounded
by, I think, because our familyis so small, it's OK for me to
love.
Speaker 3 (37:46):
Are you going to cry too?
Are you crying too?
Speaker 1 (37:48):
No, but same for you.
It's OK for you to beterritorial.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
Quote unquote.
Speaker 3 (37:55):
It's.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
OK for you to keep your partner and your babies
close.
But as you grow you'll learnand you'll accept that it's OK
to make friends, to let them inyour life, to let people in your
life.
As long as it's not fuckingtoxic or weird, it's OK to be
surrounded by by love.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
So I am a big advocate, but I'm a big believer
of Drake.
No new friends, no new friends,no, no yeah it's a big Drake
day guys.
But yeah, no new friends.
I've got my core group offriends.
Like you know, that's all Ineed in life.
They're my sisters, but, likewe said, we have a very small.
(38:40):
We have a very small family.
We don't have a lot and my bestfriends are, you know, they're
all I need, even before he camealong.
They're all I need in life.
They're, you know everything.
You know my supporters,whatever, but that's for him too
.
Those are your guys.
(39:00):
Your friends are the ones whohave known you.
You know some of them longerthan I have.
Some of them know you betterthan I have.
They have a lot of memorieswith you, they have a lot of
good times with you and uh huh.
So, coming into a relationshipwhere your partner has friends,
(39:24):
someone who you know want tospend time with them, it's hard.
It's hard to be like OK, who isthis?
But also same thing aboutboundaries as long as they're
not overstepping theirboundaries of not just you but
your relationship, that's whatyou need to keep in mind.
If they're not making you feeluncomfy.
If they're making you feeluncomfortable, then you need to
say something to yoursignificant other, especially if
(39:47):
they're making anything in yourrelationship feel uncomfortable
, you need to say somethingagain.
But you know, as someone who isan introvert, I'm an introvert.
I'm not like I said no newfriends.
I'm not like, come on guys, I'mnot like a big person to do
that, but those that's yoursignificant others family,
(40:09):
that's your significant othersfriends.
So you just got to.
You know, no one says you haveto be best friends with them,
but just kind of take it day byday.
You know they obviously lovethe person that you're with.
So stay true to yourself, butalso keep in mind that your
significant other loves them fora reason.
Yeah, I think, just kind of beopen to it.
(40:29):
I know it's hard, I know it'shard, it's hard, it's very hard,
but take a shot.
Just take a little flask drinkthroughout the day and yeah,
maybe they'll share it in yourflask with you.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
They are the liquor always turns you to someone else
.
Liquor goes quicker.
But anyway yeah that's all wegot.
Speaker 3 (40:56):
That's what we got.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
Damn, I think we got.
Instead of making fun of youguys, I think we felt for you
guys.
Speaker 3 (41:01):
Oh, this is a very I told, I told you guys this, that
I'm empathetic.
Anyway, yeah, yeah, that's it,that's it, but thank you for
leaving your skeletons out ofthe closet with us.
Speaker 1 (41:16):
Yeah, If you guys have any thing you want advice
on or to clear up things or wantour opinion on, you guys could
text us, leave a voicemail callus yeah, whatever, yeah, and
we'll or DM us.
Yeah, we'll play it for youguys, our next skeletons in the
closet, and we'll tell you whatwe think and what we feel.
Speaker 3 (41:37):
And these are fun because we do like to.
We do like to get to know thepeople who are with us in this
journey, who listen to us, whofill the things with us.
So if you have a skeleton inthe closet you would like to
release, our phone number is562-4570613.
Speaker 2 (41:58):
I got to memorize now .
That was good.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Say it again 562-4570613.
All right, guys.
The next episode will have oursecond intro that we received.
We'd like for you guys again tolet us know how you like it.
But other than that, we'llcatch you on the flip flop later
(42:21):
.
Welcome back to All Tricks, no Cheats.
This is the number one lifeadvice podcast.
So if you guys heard our introsong, it's a little different,
it's a little new.
If you didn't hear the story ofour original song, I paid some
guy on Fiverr from likeBangladesh or wherever the fuck,
and we heard it on some likehome improvement reel.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Ad sort of ad.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
And she's like, is that our song?
And I went back and said whatthe fuck?
I messaged that guy quick andhe was, like we provide like the
animation for your logo.
Like we just add a song.
That's not what the song is incustom the animation is.
I said bro, you're a fuckingscam artist.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
So they just added like one little star flying
through the sky, and that waswhat we paid for.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
If you watch the YouTube video, the intro, with
our name All Tricks, no Treats.
That's what I paid for 300fucking dollars.
I could have figured it outmyself.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
For words, letters to come together.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Yes, but um so I went to Upwork, which is not the
bootleg version.
I think Fiverr is like thebootleg version.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Doesn't Fiverr have multiple Rs?
Yes, it's Fiverr, maybe.
Yeah, I should have got thehand you should have known with
multiple Rs.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
But I hired some Americans Don't be rude and we
got like three good songs back.
So that was yeah, that wasnumber one.
The next couple episodes willplay the other ones and we'd
like for you guys to give alittle bit of feedback on.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
They're all.
They're all very good.
You've been like listening tothem and like you've been
sending our our uh comments backand forth and stuff.
So yeah, we've got some goodones.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
We're glad we have a updated original one where we
don't have to see it on somehome improvement video.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
But yeah, today is our episode of Skeletons in the
Closet.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
In the Closet.
We don't have a song for that.
This is our second one.
So we're not really sure how todo the song Is it?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
I don't know, but we didn't rehearse it obviously.
Yeah, Um but maybe let'spractice Like the cup song.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Should I get a cup, like Anna Kendrick and pitch for
a fake?
The acapella.
That was a butt ice.
The acapella.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
But anyway it's our Skeletons in the Closet, where
we have a hotline where you guyscan call or text and tell us
anything you want Life advice,kids advice If you want to get
something off your chest.
A funny story.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
You want to laugh with us?
Cry with us, we'll fill thingstogether, yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
And we'll make fun of you in the process, so you
don't feel as bad as you do, orwhatever.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
Hey, we're all going through this together, so let's
feel it together.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
But first we just want to catch up, because we
know it's been like two weeks,so let's catch up with our beers
real quick.
Yeah, I'm parched.
Are you parched?
You're hot, I'm sweating.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I don't know why you get so hot.
I'm sweating and she's likeit's cold in here because I have
the AC at like 69.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
My toes are blue, my hands are numb, mine are red
because it's hot.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Cheers oh yeah, baby Ooh.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
That butt.
Ice is crispy.
Ooh, it's very cold so here, wego.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
I know we talked about this before, but we went
on a trip.
But before we went on our tripwe actually the night before we
had our 6 AM flight 6 AM, 6 AMwith three kids.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Smart with the two year old four year old and seven
year old.
Speaker 3 (04:09):
We were very smart to book a 6 AM flight and plan a
night out before.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
So we went to Five Points Amphitheater which we
love in Irvine Very cool, verycool, great venue.
Yeah, and we saw SlightlyStupid.
There were two other openingbands, but Atmosphere was there.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
If you grew up when we did, when we did in high
school around 2004,.
5'6" Atmosphere was a big deal.
It was a big underground rapper, the band and we didn't even
know he was playing.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
No, we didn't.
We saw something aboutAtmosphere, we heard something
about it.
We were like oh, maybe it'sthat.
We were like is this theAtmosphere or is this Atmosphere
?
We don't know who it is.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Yeah, so originally Sublime was supposed to be
playing and we didn't know that.
The card was kind of switchedup and we had our beers.
We were hanging out with ouraunt and uncle, chris and
Shelley, shout out.
We loved going to shows withthem and we were walking up to
the spot where we entered to ourseats and we heard we're
Atmosphere from Minneapolis andme and Brianna looked at each
(05:12):
other like what the fuck?
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Don't let them in, just drove by.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Oh fuck, we missed him.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
He drove by very fast .
He had a little umbrella over.
Damn, where is he going?
Speaker 1 (05:23):
We have a view of our outside front yard and we live
in an area where there's no alot of them in More white people
.
So we stopped him one time andwe bought like six things.
We had workers here and Ibought them shit too and I was
like, damn, our neighbors areprobably like oh no they're
gonna bring this guy here.
(05:43):
Anyway, back to the Atmospherestory.
I was like this is an.
This can't be Atmosphere.
He is from Minneapolis, theyare from there.
And she's like, was it theAtmosphere?
And I said, if it's theAtmosphere, it's different.
Yeah, so we go and she's likeit sounds like him and I said
this is fucking slug, this isAtmosphere.
Dude, I was, I got emotional,it was fucking insane.
(06:06):
I feel like all the bands thatI've been wanting to see, like
Blink, tushae, amore, atmospherethis year has been like
incredible Musically yeah thecure.
Yeah, and I was like screamingmy heart out to a lot of the
songs and our aunt and unclewere like damn, he really does
like them.
But they were like a big highschool underground band, so big.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
I just remember his face.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Dude.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
His face on the cover of the.
I remember on my iPod, like youknow how it used to show the
little picture.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
His face.
Yeah, for sure, it was juststraight on out of his face.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
And I'm like a big fat, sick, hungry dude all the
time and and I don't have thatmuch energy is what I'm getting
at.
And when I found out it was him, I was like a kid again and I
was jumping and screaming andyelling and like drinking beers
more than I drink really and Iwas.
It was fucking insane.
(07:02):
I couldn't believe it.
I was so happy, it was a goodsurprise.
Speaker 3 (07:05):
It was fun.
And I do want to talk aboutsomething that he said when he
was talking about one of hissongs.
He said I want to let my sonknow that I hear him and that
was very I.
Like we've said before, we, youknow, growing up we've learned
things from our parents and itjust goes to show that we're
learning, that we want our kidsto.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
you know know that we're listening to them and I
thought that was very cute.
I liked it a lot.
He's he's a cute dad, he's cute.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
He's cutie.
He does have a little whitepatch in his hair.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Dude he's dude, he's getting old.
I don't even know how old he is, but they're still doing it and
hey yeah, he's still got allthe energy.
They're killing it.
They had good vibes, good stagepresence.
Everyone was into it.
I know there was a lot ofpeople that really didn't know
them, but it was fuckingincredible it was nice.
Speaker 3 (07:52):
It was nice.
So after that we got home weslept maybe like two hours, two
hours, yeah, and then we wokethe kids up, got in the car and
we drove to LAX.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
We woke up at like 5am, 4.40 or something.
I woke up at 4.30.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
I got a.
I felt kind of cool because Igot us like a cool car, a big
SUV, with the guy with the blacksuit on and I was like we're
riding in style baby, but we hadto get up early and when I
travel I like to catch a red eyebecause I feel like that's a
cheat code on an extra day.
But it's technically,technically not.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
No, it is.
It's like the best way to getthe bank for your book.
You get there early in themorning.
You take maybe a little nap inthe car same thing we did in
Salem.
Sure, and then you explore thewhole day During the day.
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
So we got there pretty early and our flight was,
I like what, six something, six, fifteen, and it was perfect.
The flight was the smoothestflight in the world.
The flight was very good.
The pilot's name was Karen, awoman and she.
I love you, karen.
It was the most like smoothflight you can ever ask for.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
We were.
I was very worried about justthe kids.
It wasn't champs first flight,but it was Bubby and Nucky's
first flight.
So, we had a two year old, fouryear old, the first flights and
I was very nervous about whatwe're going to do Because you
know, you see those videos oflittle kids like yelling yeah,
and you don't want to botheranyone around you because we're
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all in the same little metalship together.
But so we were very nervous butwe got on.
We got them little.
Actually.
Yeah, shout out to who do wefly with JetBlue?
Jetblue.
Shout out to JetBlue becausethey were very good.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
That was my first time flying with JetBlue yeah,
me too, and Bubby was sitting byme, champ and Nucky were with
Brianna.
The plane was half empty, thankGod.
Thank God Because we had nobodyby us and the kids were free to
stand up and do whatever.
But we were on the runway andBubby kept asking me oh we
leaving yet, or we leaving?
I said here we go.
(09:57):
And the plane started going.
I'm like all right, it'spicking up.
You need to be a big girl, butif you want to hug my arm, you
go ahead.
And as soon as the front wheelstarted lifting, I was looking
over at her and she looked at meand she said is there any
snacks?
I said I said bitch.
I said I'm terrified.
(10:18):
What do you mean?
I didn't say that.
I didn't say that.
I was just like shocked becauseI was like dude.
I thought she was going to bescared, but she was like super
chill, nucky was super chill,nucky was so good.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
So we saw that the TVs were working and we were
like, ok, let's buy someheadphones for all three of them
.
So I walked up to the.
Is it steward if you're a man,or stewardess?
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I've no idea.
Those guys are stewardess.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
Who cares?
Call them steward.
Yeah, little Little stewardWalked up to little steward and
I was like, can I buy someheadphones?
And he said, oh yeah, here youjust here, just take it.
And he gave me one and I waslike, oh my God, I don't know
two more, sir.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
And he said here, just take them.
So he gave us free headphones,yeah, and they were like seven
bucks each or something, yeah,so the kids had headphones.
Speaker 3 (11:08):
They were watching the movie.
When we were taking off, I wasvery worried about Nucky's ears,
because little kids' ears popsOn the plane.
Here's a trick.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
That's here.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
Usually they say if you have a baby and you're
taking off on a plane, to givethem a bottle or breastfeed or
something like a juice or alollipop, something to get like
their like mouth moving becauseit makes sure that their ears
don't pop.
Nice, yeah, but it was good.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
We had a good trip.
Yes, so real quick.
I know we've been talking aboutthis for a minute, but we flew
up to Seattle and we drove allthe way down.
We hit Seattle, Portland, Boise.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
We Portland sucked.
We didn't like Portland, so weactually stayed one night.
We planned on two, and then wewent to Boise instead.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Yeah, and then we ended in Vegas, which we love
Vegas so much, oh, so much.
Out of the whole trip, vegaswas probably the best.
But a thing about Seattle andPortland.
What's similar about that isyou could see homeless people
smoking crack right on thefucking and meth right on the
street there was foil on thefloor.
(12:15):
I said hey, here's anotherfucking crack.
And the guys, the kids, arealways like what is that?
Speaker 2 (12:21):
They don't know what it.
I call them zombies, butBrianna doesn't like me to refer
.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
But I like when they I tell them yeah, you yell at
them, yeah, and they're like hey, zombie, no, that's not nice.
That's their whatever.
Fuck them.
They want to choose that Idon't care.
Well, they're still humanbeings All right, we'll touch on
like our trip, probably nextepisode.
I think we should like talkabout what we did so people
could like see where they couldgo and if they haven't been
(12:46):
there.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
But cool, let's get some skeletons out of those
closet.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
We have like three people who hit us up via text
and then we have one voicemail.
So let's read some messages.
Ok, here's the first one.
So they message story timewarning.
This happened 10 years ago.
I'm a completely differentperson now, somewhat, lol, my
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situation ship.
Thank you for responding to oneof our episodes.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
We appreciate that.
Nice we got the terms.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
My situation.
Ship was getting rocky and hewas seeing other girls but would
lie, saying they were justfriends, quote, unquote.
One day his friends was actingtoo controlling Over him, I
guess.
In whatever situation they werein, he told me to stay home.
(13:38):
We shared a studio together.
Woman's intuition told me to goto the gig he was going to.
I called my friends and weshowed up.
When I got there he was toodrunk to notice I was there.
Jeez, you're a fucking ninja.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Oh, and I mean good for you and your friends, Good
for you.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
Those are good friends too, but this points out
that this guy was having a goodenough time where he wasn't
even thinking about you, whichmakes him kind of an asshole.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
You think that's the only part that makes him an
asshole?
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Not the only part, but that's in addition to the
other two or three things thatwe've written.
Speaker 3 (14:14):
I'm sweating.
Now I'm not cold anymore.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
I was there for a good two hours.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
Holy shit, was this person watching him the whole
time?
You were watching him.
They weren't even watching theshow, they were just focused,
zeroed in on him the whole time.
That's the toxic.
I, like You're waiting.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
La taxica.
You're letting him boil.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
I feel you You're letting him boil La taxica.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
I was there for a good two hours when I seen he
was leaning, hugging up againsthis friend.
I approached him and when herealized it was me, he yelled oh
shit, while the girl ran away.
This is so many red flags.
The girl ran away.
This is obviously a dealbreaker.
(14:54):
I told him this is what you dowhile I'm at home, cool.
And walked away.
I haven't read the rest, butthanks for not just popping him
square in the fucking job.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
Oh, I was going to say you're a way better person
than I am.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
He approached me and got in my face.
One thing led to another and westarted throwing hands at a
backyard gig.
He tried to get me in theheadlock and I was uppercutting
him.
A group of my guy friendsseparated us and we're going to
beat his ass until they seen hisface all bloody Damn.
He blooded his face.
(15:30):
Nice, I ain't trying to fightwith you bitch.
Get it.
His two homegirls were going tojump me but my friend circled
me to protect me.
He got back in my face and wenta second round.
I left him on the floor and wasleaving the gig he came running
after me crying saying friendwants to say sorry and for me to
(15:51):
kick him out.
Oh, my god, the friend wantedhim to say sorry to her.
That's fucking insane.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
Wait, the friend that was circling, the friend that
was going to beat.
Speaker 1 (16:00):
No, his quote unquote .
Friend, the girl wanted him to.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
Wait, ok, his quote unquote.
Speaker 1 (16:06):
friend wanted to say sorry to this person that was
being cheated on, yeah, and forhim not to kick him out of his
house.
Oh my god, plot twist.
Plot twist Wait, it's not done.
Plot twist I was five monthspregnant when this went down.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
Oh my god, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
You got in a fight.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
That's crazy.
First of all, this guy's anasshole.
I hope I'm sure you're not withhim, but for him to do all this
shit and the friend sayingdon't kick him out, please,
please, don't kick him out.
Who are you?
If she was just a friend, hewouldn't have been hiding this
whole situation to begin with.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
If he was just a friend, he wouldn't have replied
oh shit, the moment he saw you.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
And her running away.
That's fucking crazy.
You did good.
You beat his ass.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Hey, you did so good.
I'm proud of you.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
One thing I'm kind of disappointed.
I wish your homeboys fucked hisass up too.
That would have been tight.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
But maybe you know what you tough, maybe you did it
all.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
Hell yeah, I hope you're not in that situation.
Thank you for the story.
That was fucking juicy.
Speaker 3 (17:21):
That was a good story and honestly, I don't know who
you are.
But hey, message me.
I want to be friends with you.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
You're a badass, I want to be friends with you.
Thank you so much for writingin yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
I hope.
I hope your life has flourished.
I hope you have nothing butpositivity.
You don't have that negativepeople, Anything in your life.
I hope you're doing.
I hope you're doing real good.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
And this happened 10 years ago, so I hope your kid's
fucking killing it in life.
Both of you Might be like 10years old probably.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Both of you.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Yeah, that was the first story.
Thank you for writing in On tothe next one.
All right, I'm a newly singlemama and haven't been single in
years, capitalized years, we'retalking almost eight.
Being together with someone foreight years side note is a long
time.
That's a big part of your life.
So I think being single afterthat long is A lot of things
(18:13):
have changed.
Is gnarly yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
That's a big change.
You're a new person.
I mean even just that outsideenvironment, dating has changed.
People have changed, that's abig thing.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
I decided this weekend, instead of working
quote unquote kids with dad, totake a spontaneous trip to Vegas
with someone I'm seeing Nice.
Call me crazy, reckless,whatever, but I've never, ever
in my entire life done anything.
This last minute slashspontaneous and bat shit crazy.
(18:46):
I'm excited to live my life forme and be a little messy along
the way, Ain't posting a damnthing while I'm there and
location off.
Be back in three days, laughingface.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
I love that.
Good for you, Girl.
Be as messy as you want to be.
You deserve it.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Yeah, so again, eight years is a long time and after
separating with someone, in myopinion, it's hard to move on or
it's hard to talk to someone,but at the same time, if someone
sees interest, it feels good,especially, like you said, you
have kids.
We're older now.
(19:26):
I don't know how old thisperson is, but they have kids.
I'm assuming maybe our age.
But if someone's into you, itfeels good.
Speaker 3 (19:34):
Yeah, it's good to have that little spark
especially.
I don't know what happened inthe marriage, but obviously
something happened to where itwasn't there anymore.
So, to feel like something elseto make this person excited and
to feel like let me go do this,that's a good thing, yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
And you're allowed to , so you deserve it.
Yeah, I always tell Brianna Ihate that Drake fucking said
this, but you only live one life, you live once.
Speaker 3 (19:58):
Yellow, you're yellowing forever.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
And you can't let shit stop you from doing things
you want to do, for doing thingsthat make you feel good.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
So Especially other people.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
Yeah, and you've said you've never done anything like
this, Like you're allowed to dothis.
You're allowed to make baddecisions.
It's not saying that that was abad decision, but you're
allowed to make decisions thatyou never have previously.
So I hope you had a good time.
Hopefully you send us whathappened.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Live life for yourself, especially being a
mama of kids.
You know you're living yourlife for your kids, so I'm glad
that you were able to take thattime.
No work, live it for yourself.
I hope you had all the shots.
I hope you had all the but ice.
I hope you had all the dick,all the messiness you want.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
All the messiness baby.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Can you next skeleton in the closet Call in and just
let us know how it went.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
Tell us the deets baby.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
We'll pump you up even more Hell.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Yeah, all right, thank you so much for that call
as well.
So this next one is a voicemail.
Let's hear the voicemail.
Who's brave enough to leave avoicemail?
Speaker 3 (21:07):
We got it right here, but still these are all
anonymous.
We don't know who these peopleare.
That's why we're like oh, wedon't know yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
You guys are so cute.
I love that greeting Hi.
Ok, I don't know what to do.
Long story short.
I've been talking to someonefor about three months and I
(21:38):
mean, things have gotten prettyserious, all except for the fact
that we're not official.
We weren't official and I justdecided to add things because I
felt like I was begging for hisattention at this last point,
(21:59):
and I don't want to have to begfor someone's attention, so,
anyway.
So I ended things a couple daysago about five days ago, six
days ago and he never responded.
And it really hurt my feelingsthat he didn't respond to me.
(22:21):
Ending things because I felt sodisposable, like you're not
going to even give me a goodbyeor I wish you well, or not even
a fuck.
You Like nothing.
And what hurts more thansomeone being angry or like
cheating you, is when they don'tcare.
Does that make sense?
I've always said the antithesisis the opposite of love is not
(22:42):
hate, it's apathy, becausesomeone who is so apathetic to
you or anything in life is likeas if you're non-existent.
So that's how I can feel.
Anyway, I can already feelChris Garza rolling his eyes at
me.
Anyway, he finally respondedtoday, like a week later.
(23:04):
And what do I do?
Just what do I do?
Do I ignore that text?
Do I acknowledge that he textedme?
I mean, the text was prettymuch like him saying sorry, but
he didn't necessarily say likehe wants to meet up again.
(23:25):
I don't know.
I don't know what I should do.
I do miss him, but I don't wantto have to beg someone's
attention.
So what do I do?
Love you.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Damn, that was a fucking deep ass voicemail.
Speaker 3 (23:44):
But we appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
Yeah, I mean a couple things.
There's a lot of variables inthis, the situation and how we
have to respond.
So one thing dating threemonths.
When people date, typicallyit's not usually with one person
, so three months might seem along time to some people, but
(24:05):
it's not that long in reality.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
Especially if you haven't had that exclusive talk
which she said.
They're not official.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Yes, Number two, you feel like you're begging for his
attention.
Yeah, To me that's your fuckinganswer.
Yeah, guys are being guys.
Guys are doing their own thing.
I'm glad that he responded andit made you a little hopeful.
But again, guys will doanything to keep something going
(24:36):
.
That's good If you're hooking up, if you're again showing him
attention, like not that it'sbad for you to keep responding
to him or keep trying to texthim, but it feels good to be
wanted.
So he might be in a situationwhere, oh damn, that feels good
that she's texting me and tryingto get a hold of me.
(24:57):
But again, he could be doinghis own thing and I mean, I'm
not trying to be like a dick,but he can always go back to you
and give you a fucking sentenceor paragraph, wrapped up with a
bow, to make you feel like,okay, he's interested in me
again.
So take it with a grain of saltand I think you should focus on
(25:21):
you, have fun, date otherpeople and don't put all your
eggs in one basket, becausenobody deserves that.
Everyone deserves to find truehappiness and you need to find
it anywhere, not just in oneplace.
Speaker 3 (25:35):
So I do agree with you.
I do think that it's hard beingnot I'm doing air quotes, not
official and not being able to.
Obviously you can't controlwhat the other person does.
You are kind of in this littlesituation where you don't know
(25:59):
what's going on.
You know, because as girls, wealways like to think that we,
you know, we want more, we wouldlike to think that more is
coming of it.
Whatever our situation is, youknow, that could eventually lead
to something, because that'swhat we all date for, right.
We all date for someone who isgoing to be our lifetime
companion.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
Yeah, so that's what we want.
So I get that.
I get wanting to be withsomeone and choose someone who's
going to come from a situationship and turn into a lifetime
companion.
But at the same time, I doagree with you You're not
official, so it is very great.
(26:43):
It's a very great area to know,like where you go from here,
what you do from here, andthat's the worst part about
dating.
The worst part about dating isyou don't know Like you don't.
You don't know what you can say.
You don't know what you can dobecause you know you don't want
to do one thing and eventuallyturn them off where they're like
(27:03):
oh, yeah, it's definitely arisk being in that area, where
you are, when you're.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I don't know if you're ready to make it
exclusive, but even if you bringup the conversation saying, hey
, where are we?
Speaker 3 (27:17):
Like do we see this, See this going forward?
That's actually going to be atopic.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
It obviously could lead one of two ways.
It could stay the same, just asconfusing as it is.
Or they could say, yeah, let'smove this into, but as a man, if
I'm there already, I'm bringingit up as a man.
I know people are like anybodythe girl could say it, or the
guy we know if we wanna move itforward or not.
(27:41):
So I think as a man, you shouldstep up and say I wanna move
forward.
It's a risk for you to bring itup, so you have a decision to
make.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
I think traditionally we are used to the guy saying
that and initiating it and us,as you know, someone else with
them Taking the lead being a man.
Following and saying okay, yeah, let's do this, and that's what
we all want.
But my number one thing is,girl, I never want you to feel
(28:12):
like you're less than.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Aw, girl's gang.
Yeah, sorry, the bang gang,bang gang.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
I never want anyone to feel like they're less than
or like they don't deserveanything, because you do.
You really do.
You deserve the most.
You deserve the best.
I don't even know you, but I Ithink all girls, all anyone
(28:49):
who's willing and ready for thatthat you deserve the world.
So I don't think that youshould be sitting here and
waiting for someone or beingmade to feel like you're not
enough, because you are, and Iknow that, whoever you are,
there is there's a millionpeople out there who would be
(29:13):
willing and lucky to have you.
So I think, like he said, yougot your answer, you know.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
Good one babe.
Speaker 3 (29:24):
Yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Oh, good advice, Listen and again like, who knows
, maybe this could turn out good.
We just don't know.
But hopefully we get an updateand it's a good one.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
Yeah, you just deserve to be happy, so
hopefully, whatever your updateis is Oops, even if you are
still with that person andthings are better, or if you've
moved on and you're having fun.
I agree with you, though havefun.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
Go out, go out, girl.
Yeah, take Brianna, take mewith you, let's go to some CD
bars.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
Let's find you someone, let's find you someone.
Thank you so much, though weappreciate your call.
Okay, we have one more.
Speaker 3 (30:15):
Okay, one more.
Speaker 1 (30:16):
Overbearing mother-in-laws and making
friends with your partner'sfriends' spouses.
Okay, so let's break both ofthese down.
The first part is overbearingmother-in-laws.
Did you write this?
Speaker 3 (30:35):
I cannot inhale.
I'm sorry.
I'm gonna like inhale these,but I see through my nostrils.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
I'm not trying to get into too much detail, but, as
some of you know, I don't reallytalk to my family anymore.
We don't, yes, which I meansucks, but I guess Brianna might
have been in that boat for alittle bit, so she could relate,
might have.
So what do you think about this?
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 3 (31:00):
I mean, we all hear the stereotypical version of
in-laws, so we all know, youknow where people are like ugh,
my mother-in-law.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:08):
Yeah, I'm not gonna go into a lot, but it sucks.
It sucks to have someone as anin-law who is domineering,
Relittling, Catty, you know,cuts things off, makes you.
Because I'm a very I'm a veryempathetic person.
I'm someone who is very I don'tlike drama and I don't like
(31:35):
confrontation.
If it comes to me, I'll put upwith it and I'll, you know, do
what I have to do, but I wouldmuch rather avoid it.
So, to have an overbearingin-law, it sucks a lot to have
someone who's oversteps theirboundaries, because the biggest
thing as a parent, as a spouse,is your boundaries.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (31:55):
And to have someone who comes into your relationship
and puts their Two cents Morethan two cents puts their dollar
50 in way more than they should.
It's a lot and it sucks and italso puts a strain on your
relationship as a parent withyour spouse.
It sucks, so I get that it'svery hard, but the advice I have
(32:20):
for you is I heard this onetime.
Something happened to me inlike third or fourth grade, I
don't even remember, but one ofthe noon duty aides came up to
me and I was really sad.
They were like you know what?
You gotta just be like a duck,and when the water gets on the
duck, they just let it roll offtheir back.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
You just Water off a duck's back.
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Just gotta let it roll off your back.
There's been a million timeswhere I've been like okay, and
I've just had to do the deepsigh and just be the bigger
person and move on, because Inever wanted it to affect my
relationship with my husband ormy relationship or my kid's
(32:59):
relationship with theirgrandparent.
I mean obviously things aredifferent now, but and listen, I
mean being in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
Growing up, we're programmed to love family and be
around family and friends andthat's what life's about.
And I think I've gone throughenough things and I'm at a point
where I'm successful enough andI have my own family to say
fuck family.
(33:27):
You need to do what you need todo to be happy, whether that's
with friends or girlfriend orwife and kids.
My kids are my life and Irefuse to have them around any
negativity, anything that makesthem question like what's going
(33:48):
on?
Like whoa, this is crazy to bearound, you know, like Like a
relationship.
If a relationship with someoneis meant to be, it'll happen.
If you fall out with yourfamily and it's meant to be you
guys will rekindle, apologieswill be made.
You guys will grow and mature,but until then, fuck everyone.
You need to look out for youand your own, so don't try to
(34:13):
get approval from family ormother-in-laws.
You do you.
You do what makes you and yourpartner happy and they should
support you.
Your spouse should support you.
Your kids should support you.
So I mean down, this is gettinga little deep.
Speaker 3 (34:28):
But I think that's the hardest thing is the spousal
support, because there aretimes where the spouse is cut in
half, like they're like well,you're my husband or wife, but
this is my parent, this is mymom.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
That's true.
At the end of the day, you staytrue to yourself.
You'll feel 100% better if youstick to your guns and you stick
to your beliefs.
Speaker 3 (34:50):
So let's use some Jonah Hill lingo Don't let your
boundaries be crossed.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
Hey, stick to your stick to your boundaries.
Fuck the noise, fuck everybody.
So, just be happy.
We live too fucking short toworry about family and
mother-in-laws andfather-in-laws and whatever, so
overbearing mothers.
Speaker 3 (35:14):
Ultimately, they're just a person.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
Yeah they're nobody to you.
You start your own life, youfigure your own life out.
But that's the first one.
Come hang out with us.
Yeah, we'll talk.
Speaker 3 (35:25):
Yeah, we'll talk Way deep.
Speaker 1 (35:27):
We're a small, tight knit unit.
So the second part is makingfriends with your partner's
friend's spouses.
That's a good one as well, Ithink when we were dating I
didn't really like any of yourfriends.
Speaker 3 (35:45):
No, when we started dating, you were such a hater.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
And I don't know why, maybe because I was.
I don't like people in general.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
No, new, friends.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
And I'm territorial, like even with my family growing
up.
That's a big part of myfamily's identity too is they're
territorial people.
That's part of the overbearingmother-in-law.
Speaker 3 (36:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
So it was hard for me to accept a lot of her friends,
even her friends husbands.
I was like fuck them, like Idon't know why I always had like
this mindset.
But I think over time you'llenjoy the company, because I
(36:30):
used to say and Breanna hatesthis that I was a lone wolf.
Speaker 3 (36:35):
Like I had a few friends.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
I was just going to say that I had a few friends,
but at the end of the day, Ilook out for me only until I got
her and I got our kids.
They're the only ones I careabout.
So other people I didn't give ashit about.
I didn't care about her bestfriends and her best friends
husbands or what they were goinglike.
(36:57):
She'd tell me the T.
Don't, don't get me wrong.
I love the fucking drama.
I love to stir the pot, baby.
Speaker 3 (37:02):
Oh, he's got his big wooden spoon.
Yep, no, come with it.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
But to make friends with them.
I mean, I didn't care, like Iyeah, they were an afterthought
of, like us, like I'd all right,they're going to come around,
Sure, I guess.
But over time I think I grew alove for for them.
I love them as much as you andI would help them out if they
(37:29):
needed it.
And, yeah, and whoever they'rewith, whoever they're surrounded
by, I think, because our familyis so small, it's OK for me to
love.
Speaker 3 (37:46):
Are you going to cry too?
Are you crying too?
Speaker 1 (37:48):
No, but same for you.
It's OK for you to beterritorial.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
Quote unquote.
Speaker 3 (37:55):
It's.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
OK for you to keep your partner and your babies
close.
But as you grow you'll learnand you'll accept that it's OK
to make friends, to let them inyour life, to let people in your
life.
As long as it's not fuckingtoxic or weird, it's OK to be
surrounded by by love.
Speaker 3 (38:17):
So I am a big advocate, but I'm a big believer
of Drake.
No new friends, no new friends,no, no yeah it's a big Drake
day guys.
But yeah, no new friends.
I've got my core group offriends.
Like you know, that's all Ineed in life.
They're my sisters, but, likewe said, we have a very small.
(38:40):
We have a very small family.
We don't have a lot and my bestfriends are, you know, they're
all I need, even before he camealong.
They're all I need in life.
They're, you know everything.
You know my supporters,whatever, but that's for him too
.
Those are your guys.
(39:00):
Your friends are the ones whohave known you.
You know some of them longerthan I have.
Some of them know you betterthan I have.
They have a lot of memorieswith you, they have a lot of
good times with you and uh huh.
So, coming into a relationshipwhere your partner has friends,
(39:24):
someone who you know want tospend time with them, it's hard.
It's hard to be like OK, who isthis?
But also same thing aboutboundaries as long as they're
not overstepping theirboundaries of not just you but
your relationship, that's whatyou need to keep in mind.
If they're not making you feeluncomfy.
If they're making you feeluncomfortable, then you need to
say something to yoursignificant other, especially if
(39:47):
they're making anything in yourrelationship feel uncomfortable
, you need to say somethingagain.
But you know, as someone who isan introvert, I'm an introvert.
I'm not like I said no newfriends.
I'm not like, come on guys, I'mnot like a big person to do
that, but those that's yoursignificant others family,
(40:09):
that's your significant othersfriends.
So you just got to.
You know, no one says you haveto be best friends with them,
but just kind of take it day byday.
You know they obviously lovethe person that you're with.
So stay true to yourself, butalso keep in mind that your
significant other loves them fora reason.
Yeah, I think, just kind of beopen to it.
(40:29):
I know it's hard, I know it'shard, it's hard, it's very hard,
but take a shot.
Just take a little flask drinkthroughout the day and yeah,
maybe they'll share it in yourflask with you.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
They are the liquor always turns you to someone else
.
Liquor goes quicker.
But anyway yeah that's all wegot.
Speaker 3 (40:56):
That's what we got.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
Damn, I think we got.
Instead of making fun of youguys, I think we felt for you
guys.
Speaker 3 (41:01):
Oh, this is a very I told, I told you guys this, that
I'm empathetic.
Anyway, yeah, yeah, that's it,that's it, but thank you for
leaving your skeletons out ofthe closet with us.
Speaker 1 (41:16):
Yeah, If you guys have any thing you want advice
on or to clear up things or wantour opinion on, you guys could
text us, leave a voicemail callus yeah, whatever, yeah, and
we'll or DM us.
Yeah, we'll play it for youguys, our next skeletons in the
closet, and we'll tell you whatwe think and what we feel.
Speaker 3 (41:37):
And these are fun because we do like to.
We do like to get to know thepeople who are with us in this
journey, who listen to us, whofill the things with us.
So if you have a skeleton inthe closet you would like to
release, our phone number is562-4570613.
Speaker 2 (41:58):
I got to memorize now .
That was good.
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Say it again 562-4570613.
All right, guys.
The next episode will have oursecond intro that we received.
We'd like for you guys again tolet us know how you like it.
But other than that, we'llcatch you on the flip flop later
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