February 3, 2025 • 29 mins
Are you ready to elevate your business and life?
In this powerful coaching session, James Adlam sits down with Pastor Arnita Patrice to share game-changing tips and strategies to help take her business to the next level.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Very much.
So pay attention to thethoughts you're thinking and ask
yourself am I vibrating at alevel 10 or any other level?
Any nine, eight, seven, that'snot 10.
10 is I just won my Super Bowl.
10 is I'm speaking in front ofthousands of people.
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10 is I've just been nominatedfor this award.
Ten is I'm making goo gobs ofmoney.
Ten is like that's ten.
Right, you're living your dreamlife now.
That's ten.
Anything, that's not ten.
It's okay, but it's not ten.
And I want you to go into yourevents, your meetings, your
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sessions, all those things,asking yourself one question I'm
at a 10 right now.
Wow, if you actually took timeto learn about how incredible
you were, nothing would everstop.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I've trained and activated so many people in
their gifts and their callings,and that's not just it.
I believe God wants me to gohigher, and I believe that you
are an answer to my prayer.
So I need to know how I can besuccessful in my business, how I
can be successful in thedifferent avenues that I am
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really wanting to grow in.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I don't want to be mediocre, I don't so well, first
of all, thank you, you arewelcome.
Yeah, that's a, that's an.
I'm grateful.
If I can give anything, anyinsights, it's because I was
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gifted with insights.
So part of this whole ummission for me is to do my best
to deliver, and so I'm going todo my best to deliver.
But you have to be open becauseit may not sound like what you
think it might sound like.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Okay, okay, let's go.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Okay.
So first thing is that youremember biblically you cannot
cast your, do not cast yourpearls before the swine, yes,
okay.
So if you have something that'sreally great and you know it's
really great, it doesn't meanit's great for everyone.
And so part of what we do is wethink everyone wants what we
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have and on some level they do,but on some level they don't
Like they may want what we have,but they don't necessarily see
us as the process to get to whatthey want.
They may look at some otherbusiness or they have some other
concept.
And the more you try andinfluence people to what you
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want them to do is the moreresistance they're going to give
you because it's just not foreverybody.
I mean it's for everybody butit's not for everybody.
And that was the toughest thingfor me to realize.
Look, I was when I start, lookbad, very bad.
You know, you hear all thesestories about people that they
start something and it's likethey were five years old and
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they're an Olympic athlete, orthey were three years old and
they're a Hollywood actor oractress.
You're like where do thesepeople come from?
But it's like that for everybusiness and every business
you're going to have the peoplethat have the very fast success
and what you're trying to do isyou're trying to model your
success after their success.
You're trying to pattern them,but you can't pattern yourself
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after other people, because yourjourney is going to be
completely individualized.
Your journey is going to becompletely individualized and
you will get super frustratedwhen you're trying to compare
your beginning or your middle totheir end story.
And it's what we do and it'sunfortunate because so many
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people get bounced out of whatwe do because they just
emotionally, they tearthemselves apart, because
they're like I should be furtheralong and I should be.
Why, why?
Why should you?
Because Bobby's story told youthat according to the same
timeline, he was here and you'renot you know what I mean.
So the first thing is thatyou've got to remember you're an
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individual.
Your story is going to becompletely individual.
That's number one.
But number two is you got tothink about who am I talking to.
You know, if you open up a, ifyou, if you go to Korea, you're
probably going to eat someKorean food.
Right, that's probably.
That's probably what's going tohappen in Korea.
And if you go to Korea and youlook for American food and
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you're frustrated that it's notas readily available, you're
going to be very, veryfrustrated.
So I want you to look at it likethis.
I want you to look at it like Iwant you to think about it in
these terms I need to take whatI have and I need to put it in
front of people.
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That's what it is.
I need to take what I have andI need to put it in front of the
right people.
That's what it is.
I need to take what I have andI need to put it in front of the
right people, and who are theright people.
You need to have a perfectpartner list Perfect partner
list.
So you know how people makelists of things they want when
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they're dating.
Oh, I want him to be this.
I want her to be that andactually you know what.
Most people actually don't makea list.
That's why we folks end up withany old thing and like how to
get here?
Because when you don't have youknow, you're supposed to make
the vision plain.
When you don't have it writtenout, it's not plain, so you end
up anywhere.
When you have a perfect partnerlist, you're looking for people
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that display this and that Iwant people that are high
achievement minded,entrepreneurial, success driven,
like whatever those things arethat you know is the best fit
for you.
You need to write it down.
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You need to write it downbecause that way, if you come
across someone who fits all ofthat, you're like you know what.
I literally sat and made a listof the perfect person I wanted
to work with and I promiseeverything that I wrote down on
that list you exemplify, or mostof the things I wrote down on
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that list you exemplify.
But if you meet somebody elseand you have this list and you
measure them against this listand there's nothing about them
that fits this list, why wouldyou ever talk to them about what
you do?
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Wow, that's good.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
So you need to have.
It's your personal roadmap.
So I have a roadmap, I have aroadmap and when I work with new
people, I ask myself like anddo they okay, yeah, they check.
Okay, yeah, they check that.
Okay, yeah, they got that.
Okay, yeah, they got that.
They don't have this.
But okay, now it has to be 100%on everything.
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But they check more boxes thanthey don't check, and every
single time I've deviated fromit, I've paid a price.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Because I wasn't honest with myself.
When you do things out of it,when you try and bring people
aboard on your mission on yoursuccess yacht, and they don't
want to be there, you are theone who's you're going to suffer
, they're going to make yousuffer because they never want
to be in the first place.
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You drug them onto the boat, sonow they're there, Now you feel
responsible to them, but theydon't want to be there.
It's like if you're in arelationship with someone and
they have no desire to be there,but you want them to be there,
you're the one who suffers there, right?
So it's the same exact thing inour business.
So that's the I would say makeyour list and be clear and be
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honest with yourself and thenlook at who you begin to attract
.
Okay, Is that fair?
Speaker 2 (08:22):
That's fair, that's good.
Is that fair?
Speaker 1 (08:24):
That's fair, that's good.
So there's a couple otherthings I want to give you.
You know, in any conversation,whoever vibrates at the highest
frequency, that's their domain.
You told me before, when wewere off camera what does your
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name mean?
Speaker 2 (08:46):
My name means Eagle Ruler, Eagle Leader.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Eagle Ruler, eagle Leader.
So just think about that.
An eagle in and of itself isalready the king of its domain.
It's the king or queen of itsdomain, but your name means the
ruler of the kings and queens oftheir domain Make sense.
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That makes sense.
Okay, so you're looking foreagles?
It doesn't say ruler of pigeonsand ducklings, I'm looking for
eagles, I'm looking for eagles,I'm looking for eagles.
So if I'm meeting people,here's a great thing.
If you let people know whoyou're looking for, they will
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raise their hands, like so, if Iput out an ad in a newspaper
not a newspaper on LinkedIn andI said not a newspaper on
LinkedIn and I said looking forsystems engineers with five
years experience, blah, blah,blah, blah, then when I put that
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post up, everybody who's asystems engineer with five years
experience knows to raise theirhand and submit their resume
and submit their resume.
If you're looking for eagles andyou let people know that you're
looking for business savvy,entrepreneurially minded
professionals who want to createanother source of income,
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anyone who replies back to thatis saying I am who you're
looking for.
But if you don't let peopleknow who you're looking for,
then they don't know to raisetheir hands.
You're looking for eagles.
You know, when I meet withpeople and I work with people
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hands-on, I tell them I'mlooking to work with the best of
the best.
I tell this is it.
And they're like what's that?
Business, savvy,entrepreneurially minded,
hardworking.
Da, da, da, da da.
They want more.
They're not.
They're not lazy.
I'm telling them because if youaren't, that I don't want to
work with you.
I don't have time for that.
I don't have time for that kindof drama.
We need to do this.
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Oh, I'm tired, like nobody hastime for that.
So if you clarify your request,you become way more attractive.
Not everybody loves jazz music,but everyone who walks into a
jazz music bar loves jazz music.
They put on the sign jazz musicbar loves jazz music.
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They put on the sign jazz musicand then jazz music lovers walk
in.
Here's the last thing.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Last thing then I'll open up.
If you have a question, that'sgood.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Last thing I'll open up if you have a question.
That's good.
Um, last thing I open up if youhave a question.
The last thing is that it'sreally important that what you
have to have an expectation ofthe outcome that you're seeking,
like you have to have anexpectation like if you know
you're going to win, you soundyour trump is before the battle
right, like there's no long ago,when there was battles, they
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had different trumpet calls.
We're going into battle.
We've lost this battle.
Retreat.
We've won this battle.
They had different calls, right.
There's, there's greatness whenyou sound your victory trumpet
before you even begin the battle, when you sound your victory
trumpet before you even beginthe battle.
So what I mean by that is like,if you're going to do, if
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you're going to be a mentor,pastor, speaker, author, any
other thurs, any other morethurs that you have, whatever
that is, you have to vibrate atthe level like it's already done
.
You have to vibrate like it'salready done.
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You can't vibrate like you'rein the middle of the process.
You have to vibrate like thisis a done deal, like we've
already won.
And what I mean by that is ifyou vibrate like that, you'd be
excited all the time.
Yes, like how would you if youjust won the battle?
Wouldn't you be excited?
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I would be excited.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Yes, I would.
You'd be excited.
So are you being excited dailylike you've already won the
battle?
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Wow, that's something to think about.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
I'm excited.
You're excited, but I want youto think about this, if you have
to think about it.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Then you're not excited, okay.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
So can you consciously choose to be excited
about what's going on, as ifyou've already won the thing
you're attempting to win?
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Wow, yes.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Okay, it's a choice.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Yes, it is Okay.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
It's a choice.
Yes, it is Okay.
No-transcript.
You see, people want to workwith winners.
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And before you're a winner.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
You say you're one.
Yes, I'm a winner, right?
Speaker 1 (14:34):
So if you say you're a winner, how would you carry
yourself when you get on thatphone call?
How would you talk when you geton that Zoom?
What would your energy be likewhen you're in front of someone?
How would you engage theconversation?
As a winner, as a winner.
So if that's the case, then I'mgoing to encourage you to, very
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much so, pay attention to thethoughts you're thinking and ask
yourself am I vibrating at alevel 10 or any other level, any
9, 8, 7?
That's not 10.
10 is I just won my Super Bowl.
10 is I'm speaking in front ofthousands of people.
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10 is I've just been nominatedfor this award.
Ten is I'm making goo gobs ofmoney.
Ten is like that's ten, right,you're living your dream life.
Now that's ten.
Anything that's not ten, it'sokay, but it's not ten.
And I want you to go into yourevents, your meetings, your
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sessions, all those things,asking yourself one question I'm
at a 10 right now.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Wow, that's good.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Does this help you?
Speaker 2 (16:03):
That helps.
That helps a lot Because itactually is helping me to
self-examinate myself.
You know, just to examinemyself, like I have a Zoom, a
couple of Zooms today, andbefore I get on that Zoom, I I
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need to be at a 10.
They need to see 10.
Not a 9, not a 7, but a 10.
When I talk to people on thephone, they need to hear a 10.
So an eagle is the rule ofthere is nothing above the eagle
in the sky Correct and one ofthe characteristics of the eagle
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that I, like I just did a wholesession.
I spoke Friday night and I wastalking about vision and I was
talking about when the ego getsto a place above the storm, the
vision is increased.
They see what others don't see,and I'm at this place in my
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life where I know God has givenme vision, but what am I going
to do with the vision that he'sgiven me?
So I believe that you havegiven me some tools necessary to
help me soar, because that'swhat an eagle does.
An eagle soars.
You don't see an eagle soars aneagle and you don't see an
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eagle in the chicken coop.
You don't see an eagle walkingaround an eagle, so yes, ma'am
so I'm gonna soar when I'm onthe zoom, I'm soaring yes, ma'am
events.
I'm soaring when you're layingin bed.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
You soar, you leitate in your bed.
That's right, yes, yes you'regoing to be confronted, but sore
.
That's right.
One other thing since I knowyou're an eagle lover, you have
to remember there's a point inthe eagle's life what will go
into a private cave and rip outits own feathers to grow new
feathers?
Because it has a mission tokeep soaring and the old
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feathers.
It can't fly to the sameheights with the old feathers,
so it needs new.
Fly to the same heights withthe old feathers, so it needs
new feathers, and they will.
Can you imagine the process ofripping out your own feathers?
Yes, that's like you ripping,that's like you reaching down
and ripping your skin offEverywhere.
Feathers are kind of everywhereand they're ripping their wings
, feathers off with their beaksto grow new feathers.
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So this is where you are rightnow, where you said I need to, I
need to rip out old feathers.
Look at old feathers like oldthinking, old habits, old
behaviors, old patterns, and sayI'm going to grow new thinking,
new habits, new behaviors, newpatterns in alignment with that
which I know I'm creating, causeI'm that which I know I'm
creating, because I'm creatingit right now.
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It's not like one day, no, it's.
I'm right now, it's happeningright now.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
That's right.
I have a question for you.
You gave me some tools to keepme I won't say motivated, I
won't say motivated, I won't saymotivated, for some reason I
don't want to say motivated.
Yeah, I feel like you gave mesome tools necessary for me to
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live, to soar.
Okay, because motivation, wecan go up and down on some
things.
These are like life skills thatyou've given me and these are
necessary skills.
I will say, in your line ofwork, do you ever get to a point
where you go, you re-evaluateand you go to the next level?
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Because I understand that thenext level will always come with
hurdles and sacrifices andthings.
What do you do to prepare forthat next level that comes your
way?
What do you do?
Because I know you don't stay.
You're always about what youdid on one level is going to be
on a greater level.
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It's going to be even greateron the next level.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
How do you prepare for that?
Yeah, I think that greatquestion.
If I'm in communication withpeople already at the next level
, it gives me access to peerinto the next level.
You know, you remember when thewoman said if I could just
touch the hem of his garment, Ishall be healed.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Like her belief system was that if I just got in
proximity to him I would behealed.
Like that's really powerful.
Imagine that, like I believe so, and he says your faith has
healed you, right?
So if I I believe in just being, when I know I need to go to
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the next level sometimes youdon't know it, but sometimes
you're like, no, I really needto go to the next level I need
to get around people that arealready at the next level and
and I just need to be aroundthem.
I need to be in their midstbecause they talk different,
they see everything differentand it's like a slap upside the
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head.
Like boy, you need to stopplaying, because they're doing
life at another level.
And I don't know about you, butwhen I'm around certain people
that are winning in certainareas at that next level, I
don't need anything, they don'tneed to say anything to me, just
being around them, I'mmotivated to go and get off my
you-know-what and go makesomething happen.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
That's right.
That's how I feel right now.
I feel like right after I getoff this call, you may see me
fly.
You're like, oh, that's Arnitaup there, that's her up there.
Y'all see her, she's sore,that's me.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
I want to hear news of your victories.
I want to hear news of yourvictories on a consistent basis.
Just reach out, text me,message me, and everything is a
victory or a setup for victory.
So I I used to have a jar andwhen I didn't get the outcome I
wanted like someone told me, no,I would take a dollar and put
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it in that jar.
It was like one of those big,huge, like not gallon things,
but it was pretty big.
It's probably like about thisbig, and the reason why is
because I wanted even my nose tobe a celebration and I take
myself to the movies.
So I want you to handle.
If someone sees your value,sees your conversation, sees
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your worth and says let's gogreat.
If they don't see your value,see your conversation, see your
worth, and says let's go Great.
If they don't see your value,see your conversation, see your
worth, take a dollar, put it in,go, take yourself to the movie,
be like look, I'm celebratingeverything I can't lose, wow.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
I love that.
I like that.
I love that you celebrate.
I like that because sometimesthe no's can get overwhelming.
I don't compare.
My mother taught me a long timeago don't expect people to treat
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you the way you treat them.
You keep being who you are andgrowing, and so when I do get
no's it's on to the next person.
But I also put a little note bytheir name, like I'm going to
come back to you or I'm going topresent it in a different way
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that I know that will pull themin.
So I'm not discouraged by that.
I celebrate everybody.
I go to our meetings on aweekly basis and I stand up and
I congratulate everybody, likeI'm the one getting up there
getting an award, because Idon't have time to hate the
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whole grudges.
I forgive easily.
I move forward.
Um for one.
I'm required to do that becauseof whose I am.
So I don't waste my time andwoe is me with the violin, music
and all.
No, I tell somebody this.
I tell somebody this.
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Every morning, defeat is waitingat my bedside and waiting for
me to join their team.
But every day I have a choiceto get on the winning side.
I have a choice to push andkeep pushing.
It's a choice that I make, andI do it very intentionally,
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because everything is at you,coming at you to pull you down.
It may be a phone call, it maybe a letter in the, in the mail.
What are you going to do?
The bible says in everything,give thanks, for this is the
will of god, and so I said Iwant to be in his will.
You know, if you're insomebody's will, you reap
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benefits.
You, you know, you got thatgreat uncle or auntie that got a
will and you got to dosomething in order to receive
there's benefits.
And that's how I look at that.
I give thanks every single day.
I'm alive.
I'm a cancer survivor.
I'm a survivor of a lot ofthings.
So that's why I have a smile onmy face.
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That's why I walk with myshoulder.
I'm a tall woman, I'm 5'11" andwith heels I'm even taller.
And when I walk I command theroom because I know whose I am.
I walk in authority, I walk inauthority.
So when I celebrate otherpeople, I'm clapping.
I'm clapping until I get mine.
I'm just I'm.
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I'm just going to keep oncheering everybody up and keep
showing up until I receivewhat's mine.
So that's my mindset.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
I love it.
Then, with that mindset, greatthings are coming for you.
One last thing I wanted to giveyou that I just thought of what
you were just saying for you.
One last thing I wanted to giveyou that I just thought of what
you were just saying.
You know, you said you go andyou clap for everyone and you
celebrate their success.
Here's what I remember.
We talked about going to thatnext level.
You, you make sure that therewas one day I was in a room with
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some people and I looked aroundand nothing, nothing
disparaging, but just me beinghonest with myself, and I was on
this.
We got, we agreed to get onthis, this leadership call.
Right, we agreed to get on thiscall together.
We're all going to hold eachother accountable.
And you know it was one ofthose accountability like, yeah,
let's do this.
And you know it was one ofthose accountability like, yeah,
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let's do this.
You're serious, I'm serious.
But what I realized within acertain window of time maybe it
was a month, maybe a little bitlonger, maybe less was that I
wanted it more.
I wanted it more and I was onthis call and I'm like this is
not where I'm supposed to bebecause, like I want it more
than the people that are on thiscall, and I'm like this is not
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where I'm supposed to be because, like I want it more than the
people that are on this call,like we would say, like what are
your results for the day?
And people like nothing,nothing, nothing.
Next day nothing, nothing,nothing.
I'm sitting, I'm like this islike.
This does nothing.
This is not.
I'm not raising my, this is notraising my vibration, but
there's loyalty, there'srelationship and friendship and
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there was loyalty there and Ididn't want to upset the apple
cart.
So I stayed a little bit longerthan I should have stayed
because I didn't want to upsetthe apple cart.
So I'm saying to you, if youlook around and you really,
really, really, really, really,really want it and no one else
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really showing you that theywant it as much as you want it,
you make sure to go find theroom of people that really,
really, really want it.
Put yourself in that room.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
That's why I want you to go find Mr James.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Well, hey, I may be one but there may be others, but
you just make sure, and if noone's there, then you make sure
that you create your own room,and it may be mental first and
then it goes into the world.
But you make sure Don't wasteyour time.
Okay, just hanging out withfolks because they're familiar.
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Yes, you're right.
Thank you for taking the timeand talking to me.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
I appreciate your time.
I know your time is veryvaluable as is yours.
Time is a currency on earth,and this was a really great
investment of time.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
thank you, thank you.
If you actually took time tolearn about how incredible you
were, nothing would ever stop.
You see.
The definition of sight is thefaculty or power of seeing.
Very much.
So pay attention to thethoughts you're thinking and ask
yourself am I vibrating at alevel 10 or any other level?
Any nine, eight, seven, that'snot 10.
10 is I just won my Super Bowl.
10 is I'm speaking in front ofthousands of people.
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10 is I've just been nominatedfor this award.
Ten is I'm making goo gobs ofmoney.
Ten is like that's ten.
Right, you're living your dreamlife now.
That's ten.
Anything, that's not ten.
It's okay, but it's not ten.
And I want you to go into yourevents, your meetings, your
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sessions, all those things,asking yourself one question I'm
at a 10 right now.
Wow, if you actually took timeto learn about how incredible
you were, nothing would everstop.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I've trained and activated so many people in
their gifts and their callings,and that's not just it.
I believe God wants me to gohigher, and I believe that you
are an answer to my prayer.
So I need to know how I can besuccessful in my business, how I
can be successful in thedifferent avenues that I am
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really wanting to grow in.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I don't want to be mediocre, I don't so well, first
of all, thank you, you arewelcome.
Yeah, that's a, that's an.
I'm grateful.
If I can give anything, anyinsights, it's because I was
(01:46):
gifted with insights.
So part of this whole ummission for me is to do my best
to deliver, and so I'm going todo my best to deliver.
But you have to be open becauseit may not sound like what you
think it might sound like.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Let's go.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Okay, okay, let's go.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Okay.
So first thing is that youremember biblically you cannot
cast your, do not cast yourpearls before the swine, yes,
okay.
So if you have something that'sreally great and you know it's
really great, it doesn't meanit's great for everyone.
And so part of what we do is wethink everyone wants what we
(02:32):
have and on some level they do,but on some level they don't
Like they may want what we have,but they don't necessarily see
us as the process to get to whatthey want.
They may look at some otherbusiness or they have some other
concept.
And the more you try andinfluence people to what you
(02:53):
want them to do is the moreresistance they're going to give
you because it's just not foreverybody.
I mean it's for everybody butit's not for everybody.
And that was the toughest thingfor me to realize.
Look, I was when I start, lookbad, very bad.
You know, you hear all thesestories about people that they
start something and it's likethey were five years old and
(03:16):
they're an Olympic athlete, orthey were three years old and
they're a Hollywood actor oractress.
You're like where do thesepeople come from?
But it's like that for everybusiness and every business
you're going to have the peoplethat have the very fast success
and what you're trying to do isyou're trying to model your
success after their success.
You're trying to pattern them,but you can't pattern yourself
(03:38):
after other people, because yourjourney is going to be
completely individualized.
Your journey is going to becompletely individualized and
you will get super frustratedwhen you're trying to compare
your beginning or your middle totheir end story.
And it's what we do and it'sunfortunate because so many
(03:59):
people get bounced out of whatwe do because they just
emotionally, they tearthemselves apart, because
they're like I should be furtheralong and I should be.
Why, why?
Why should you?
Because Bobby's story told youthat according to the same
timeline, he was here and you'renot you know what I mean.
So the first thing is thatyou've got to remember you're an
(04:19):
individual.
Your story is going to becompletely individual.
That's number one.
But number two is you got tothink about who am I talking to.
You know, if you open up a, ifyou, if you go to Korea, you're
probably going to eat someKorean food.
Right, that's probably.
That's probably what's going tohappen in Korea.
And if you go to Korea and youlook for American food and
(04:40):
you're frustrated that it's notas readily available, you're
going to be very, veryfrustrated.
So I want you to look at it likethis.
I want you to look at it like Iwant you to think about it in
these terms I need to take whatI have and I need to put it in
front of people.
(05:00):
That's what it is.
I need to take what I have andI need to put it in front of the
right people.
That's what it is.
I need to take what I have andI need to put it in front of the
right people, and who are theright people.
You need to have a perfectpartner list Perfect partner
list.
So you know how people makelists of things they want when
(05:24):
they're dating.
Oh, I want him to be this.
I want her to be that andactually you know what.
Most people actually don't makea list.
That's why we folks end up withany old thing and like how to
get here?
Because when you don't have youknow, you're supposed to make
the vision plain.
When you don't have it writtenout, it's not plain, so you end
up anywhere.
When you have a perfect partnerlist, you're looking for people
(05:48):
that display this and that Iwant people that are high
achievement minded,entrepreneurial, success driven,
like whatever those things arethat you know is the best fit
for you.
You need to write it down.
(06:08):
You need to write it downbecause that way, if you come
across someone who fits all ofthat, you're like you know what.
I literally sat and made a listof the perfect person I wanted
to work with and I promiseeverything that I wrote down on
that list you exemplify, or mostof the things I wrote down on
(06:31):
that list you exemplify.
But if you meet somebody elseand you have this list and you
measure them against this listand there's nothing about them
that fits this list, why wouldyou ever talk to them about what
you do?
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Wow, that's good.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
So you need to have.
It's your personal roadmap.
So I have a roadmap, I have aroadmap and when I work with new
people, I ask myself like anddo they okay, yeah, they check.
Okay, yeah, they check that.
Okay, yeah, they got that.
Okay, yeah, they got that.
They don't have this.
But okay, now it has to be 100%on everything.
(07:12):
But they check more boxes thanthey don't check, and every
single time I've deviated fromit, I've paid a price.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Because I wasn't honest with myself.
When you do things out of it,when you try and bring people
aboard on your mission on yoursuccess yacht, and they don't
want to be there, you are theone who's you're going to suffer
, they're going to make yousuffer because they never want
to be in the first place.
(07:47):
You drug them onto the boat, sonow they're there, Now you feel
responsible to them, but theydon't want to be there.
It's like if you're in arelationship with someone and
they have no desire to be there,but you want them to be there,
you're the one who suffers there, right?
So it's the same exact thing inour business.
So that's the I would say makeyour list and be clear and be
(08:12):
honest with yourself and thenlook at who you begin to attract
.
Okay, Is that fair?
Speaker 2 (08:22):
That's fair, that's good.
Is that fair?
Speaker 1 (08:24):
That's fair, that's good.
So there's a couple otherthings I want to give you.
You know, in any conversation,whoever vibrates at the highest
frequency, that's their domain.
You told me before, when wewere off camera what does your
(08:45):
name mean?
Speaker 2 (08:46):
My name means Eagle Ruler, Eagle Leader.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Eagle Ruler, eagle Leader.
So just think about that.
An eagle in and of itself isalready the king of its domain.
It's the king or queen of itsdomain, but your name means the
ruler of the kings and queens oftheir domain Make sense.
(09:13):
That makes sense.
Okay, so you're looking foreagles?
It doesn't say ruler of pigeonsand ducklings, I'm looking for
eagles, I'm looking for eagles,I'm looking for eagles.
So if I'm meeting people,here's a great thing.
If you let people know whoyou're looking for, they will
(09:37):
raise their hands, like so, if Iput out an ad in a newspaper
not a newspaper on LinkedIn andI said not a newspaper on
LinkedIn and I said looking forsystems engineers with five
years experience, blah, blah,blah, blah, then when I put that
(09:58):
post up, everybody who's asystems engineer with five years
experience knows to raise theirhand and submit their resume
and submit their resume.
If you're looking for eagles andyou let people know that you're
looking for business savvy,entrepreneurially minded
professionals who want to createanother source of income,
(10:21):
anyone who replies back to thatis saying I am who you're
looking for.
But if you don't let peopleknow who you're looking for,
then they don't know to raisetheir hands.
You're looking for eagles.
You know, when I meet withpeople and I work with people
(10:45):
hands-on, I tell them I'mlooking to work with the best of
the best.
I tell this is it.
And they're like what's that?
Business, savvy,entrepreneurially minded,
hardworking.
Da, da, da, da da.
They want more.
They're not.
They're not lazy.
I'm telling them because if youaren't, that I don't want to
work with you.
I don't have time for that.
I don't have time for that kindof drama.
We need to do this.
(11:06):
Oh, I'm tired, like nobody hastime for that.
So if you clarify your request,you become way more attractive.
Not everybody loves jazz music,but everyone who walks into a
jazz music bar loves jazz music.
They put on the sign jazz musicbar loves jazz music.
(11:39):
They put on the sign jazz musicand then jazz music lovers walk
in.
Here's the last thing.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Last thing then I'll open up.
If you have a question, that'sgood.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Last thing I'll open up if you have a question.
That's good.
Um, last thing I open up if youhave a question.
The last thing is that it'sreally important that what you
have to have an expectation ofthe outcome that you're seeking,
like you have to have anexpectation like if you know
you're going to win, you soundyour trump is before the battle
right, like there's no long ago,when there was battles, they
(12:06):
had different trumpet calls.
We're going into battle.
We've lost this battle.
Retreat.
We've won this battle.
They had different calls, right.
There's, there's greatness whenyou sound your victory trumpet
before you even begin the battle, when you sound your victory
trumpet before you even beginthe battle.
So what I mean by that is like,if you're going to do, if
(12:29):
you're going to be a mentor,pastor, speaker, author, any
other thurs, any other morethurs that you have, whatever
that is, you have to vibrate atthe level like it's already done
.
You have to vibrate like it'salready done.
(12:52):
You can't vibrate like you'rein the middle of the process.
You have to vibrate like thisis a done deal, like we've
already won.
And what I mean by that is ifyou vibrate like that, you'd be
excited all the time.
Yes, like how would you if youjust won the battle?
Wouldn't you be excited?
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I would be excited.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Yes, I would.
You'd be excited.
So are you being excited dailylike you've already won the
battle?
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Wow, that's something to think about.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
I'm excited.
You're excited, but I want youto think about this, if you have
to think about it.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
Then you're not excited, okay.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
So can you consciously choose to be excited
about what's going on, as ifyou've already won the thing
you're attempting to win?
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Wow, yes.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Okay, it's a choice.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Yes, it is Okay.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
It's a choice.
Yes, it is Okay.
No-transcript.
You see, people want to workwith winners.
(14:27):
And before you're a winner.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
You say you're one.
Yes, I'm a winner, right?
Speaker 1 (14:34):
So if you say you're a winner, how would you carry
yourself when you get on thatphone call?
How would you talk when you geton that Zoom?
What would your energy be likewhen you're in front of someone?
How would you engage theconversation?
As a winner, as a winner.
So if that's the case, then I'mgoing to encourage you to, very
(15:00):
much so, pay attention to thethoughts you're thinking and ask
yourself am I vibrating at alevel 10 or any other level, any
9, 8, 7?
That's not 10.
10 is I just won my Super Bowl.
10 is I'm speaking in front ofthousands of people.
(15:22):
10 is I've just been nominatedfor this award.
Ten is I'm making goo gobs ofmoney.
Ten is like that's ten, right,you're living your dream life.
Now that's ten.
Anything that's not ten, it'sokay, but it's not ten.
And I want you to go into yourevents, your meetings, your
(15:44):
sessions, all those things,asking yourself one question I'm
at a 10 right now.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Wow, that's good.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Does this help you?
Speaker 2 (16:03):
That helps.
That helps a lot Because itactually is helping me to
self-examinate myself.
You know, just to examinemyself, like I have a Zoom, a
couple of Zooms today, andbefore I get on that Zoom, I I
(16:27):
need to be at a 10.
They need to see 10.
Not a 9, not a 7, but a 10.
When I talk to people on thephone, they need to hear a 10.
So an eagle is the rule ofthere is nothing above the eagle
in the sky Correct and one ofthe characteristics of the eagle
(16:49):
that I, like I just did a wholesession.
I spoke Friday night and I wastalking about vision and I was
talking about when the ego getsto a place above the storm, the
vision is increased.
They see what others don't see,and I'm at this place in my
(17:11):
life where I know God has givenme vision, but what am I going
to do with the vision that he'sgiven me?
So I believe that you havegiven me some tools necessary to
help me soar, because that'swhat an eagle does.
An eagle soars.
You don't see an eagle soars aneagle and you don't see an
(17:32):
eagle in the chicken coop.
You don't see an eagle walkingaround an eagle, so yes, ma'am
so I'm gonna soar when I'm onthe zoom, I'm soaring yes, ma'am
events.
I'm soaring when you're layingin bed.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
You soar, you leitate in your bed.
That's right, yes, yes you'regoing to be confronted, but sore
.
That's right.
One other thing since I knowyou're an eagle lover, you have
to remember there's a point inthe eagle's life what will go
into a private cave and rip outits own feathers to grow new
feathers?
Because it has a mission tokeep soaring and the old
(18:08):
feathers.
It can't fly to the sameheights with the old feathers,
so it needs new.
Fly to the same heights withthe old feathers, so it needs
new feathers, and they will.
Can you imagine the process ofripping out your own feathers?
Yes, that's like you ripping,that's like you reaching down
and ripping your skin offEverywhere.
Feathers are kind of everywhereand they're ripping their wings
, feathers off with their beaksto grow new feathers.
(18:30):
So this is where you are rightnow, where you said I need to, I
need to rip out old feathers.
Look at old feathers like oldthinking, old habits, old
behaviors, old patterns, and sayI'm going to grow new thinking,
new habits, new behaviors, newpatterns in alignment with that
which I know I'm creating, causeI'm that which I know I'm
creating, because I'm creatingit right now.
(18:53):
It's not like one day, no, it's.
I'm right now, it's happeningright now.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
That's right.
I have a question for you.
You gave me some tools to keepme I won't say motivated, I
won't say motivated, I won't saymotivated, for some reason I
don't want to say motivated.
Yeah, I feel like you gave mesome tools necessary for me to
(19:25):
live, to soar.
Okay, because motivation, wecan go up and down on some
things.
These are like life skills thatyou've given me and these are
necessary skills.
I will say, in your line ofwork, do you ever get to a point
where you go, you re-evaluateand you go to the next level?
(19:49):
Because I understand that thenext level will always come with
hurdles and sacrifices andthings.
What do you do to prepare forthat next level that comes your
way?
What do you do?
Because I know you don't stay.
You're always about what youdid on one level is going to be
on a greater level.
(20:10):
It's going to be even greateron the next level.
Speaker 1 (20:23):
How do you prepare for that?
Yeah, I think that greatquestion.
If I'm in communication withpeople already at the next level
, it gives me access to peerinto the next level.
You know, you remember when thewoman said if I could just
touch the hem of his garment, Ishall be healed.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Like her belief system was that if I just got in
proximity to him I would behealed.
Like that's really powerful.
Imagine that, like I believe so, and he says your faith has
healed you, right?
So if I I believe in just being, when I know I need to go to
(21:01):
the next level sometimes youdon't know it, but sometimes
you're like, no, I really needto go to the next level I need
to get around people that arealready at the next level and
and I just need to be aroundthem.
I need to be in their midstbecause they talk different,
they see everything differentand it's like a slap upside the
(21:24):
head.
Like boy, you need to stopplaying, because they're doing
life at another level.
And I don't know about you, butwhen I'm around certain people
that are winning in certainareas at that next level, I
don't need anything, they don'tneed to say anything to me, just
being around them, I'mmotivated to go and get off my
you-know-what and go makesomething happen.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
That's right.
That's how I feel right now.
I feel like right after I getoff this call, you may see me
fly.
You're like, oh, that's Arnitaup there, that's her up there.
Y'all see her, she's sore,that's me.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
I want to hear news of your victories.
I want to hear news of yourvictories on a consistent basis.
Just reach out, text me,message me, and everything is a
victory or a setup for victory.
So I I used to have a jar andwhen I didn't get the outcome I
wanted like someone told me, no,I would take a dollar and put
(22:25):
it in that jar.
It was like one of those big,huge, like not gallon things,
but it was pretty big.
It's probably like about thisbig, and the reason why is
because I wanted even my nose tobe a celebration and I take
myself to the movies.
So I want you to handle.
If someone sees your value,sees your conversation, sees
(22:49):
your worth and says let's gogreat.
If they don't see your value,see your conversation, see your
worth, and says let's go Great.
If they don't see your value,see your conversation, see your
worth, take a dollar, put it in,go, take yourself to the movie,
be like look, I'm celebratingeverything I can't lose, wow.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
I love that.
I like that.
I love that you celebrate.
I like that because sometimesthe no's can get overwhelming.
I don't compare.
My mother taught me a long timeago don't expect people to treat
(23:21):
you the way you treat them.
You keep being who you are andgrowing, and so when I do get
no's it's on to the next person.
But I also put a little note bytheir name, like I'm going to
come back to you or I'm going topresent it in a different way
(23:42):
that I know that will pull themin.
So I'm not discouraged by that.
I celebrate everybody.
I go to our meetings on aweekly basis and I stand up and
I congratulate everybody, likeI'm the one getting up there
getting an award, because Idon't have time to hate the
(24:04):
whole grudges.
I forgive easily.
I move forward.
Um for one.
I'm required to do that becauseof whose I am.
So I don't waste my time andwoe is me with the violin, music
and all.
No, I tell somebody this.
I tell somebody this.
(24:26):
Every morning, defeat is waitingat my bedside and waiting for
me to join their team.
But every day I have a choiceto get on the winning side.
I have a choice to push andkeep pushing.
It's a choice that I make, andI do it very intentionally,
(24:48):
because everything is at you,coming at you to pull you down.
It may be a phone call, it maybe a letter in the, in the mail.
What are you going to do?
The bible says in everything,give thanks, for this is the
will of god, and so I said Iwant to be in his will.
You know, if you're insomebody's will, you reap
(25:10):
benefits.
You, you know, you got thatgreat uncle or auntie that got a
will and you got to dosomething in order to receive
there's benefits.
And that's how I look at that.
I give thanks every single day.
I'm alive.
I'm a cancer survivor.
I'm a survivor of a lot ofthings.
So that's why I have a smile onmy face.
(25:33):
That's why I walk with myshoulder.
I'm a tall woman, I'm 5'11" andwith heels I'm even taller.
And when I walk I command theroom because I know whose I am.
I walk in authority, I walk inauthority.
So when I celebrate otherpeople, I'm clapping.
I'm clapping until I get mine.
I'm just I'm.
(25:54):
I'm just going to keep oncheering everybody up and keep
showing up until I receivewhat's mine.
So that's my mindset.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
I love it.
Then, with that mindset, greatthings are coming for you.
One last thing I wanted to giveyou that I just thought of what
you were just saying for you.
One last thing I wanted to giveyou that I just thought of what
you were just saying.
You know, you said you go andyou clap for everyone and you
celebrate their success.
Here's what I remember.
We talked about going to thatnext level.
You, you make sure that therewas one day I was in a room with
(26:29):
some people and I looked aroundand nothing, nothing
disparaging, but just me beinghonest with myself, and I was on
this.
We got, we agreed to get onthis, this leadership call.
Right, we agreed to get on thiscall together.
We're all going to hold eachother accountable.
And you know it was one ofthose accountability like, yeah,
let's do this.
And you know it was one ofthose accountability like, yeah,
(26:50):
let's do this.
You're serious, I'm serious.
But what I realized within acertain window of time maybe it
was a month, maybe a little bitlonger, maybe less was that I
wanted it more.
I wanted it more and I was onthis call and I'm like this is
not where I'm supposed to bebecause, like I want it more
than the people that are on thiscall, and I'm like this is not
(27:10):
where I'm supposed to be because, like I want it more than the
people that are on this call,like we would say, like what are
your results for the day?
And people like nothing,nothing, nothing.
Next day nothing, nothing,nothing.
I'm sitting, I'm like this islike.
This does nothing.
This is not.
I'm not raising my, this is notraising my vibration, but
there's loyalty, there'srelationship and friendship and
(27:31):
there was loyalty there and Ididn't want to upset the apple
cart.
So I stayed a little bit longerthan I should have stayed
because I didn't want to upsetthe apple cart.
So I'm saying to you, if youlook around and you really,
really, really, really, really,really want it and no one else
(27:55):
really showing you that theywant it as much as you want it,
you make sure to go find theroom of people that really,
really, really want it.
Put yourself in that room.
Speaker 2 (28:06):
That's why I want you to go find Mr James.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Well, hey, I may be one but there may be others, but
you just make sure, and if noone's there, then you make sure
that you create your own room,and it may be mental first and
then it goes into the world.
But you make sure Don't wasteyour time.
Okay, just hanging out withfolks because they're familiar.
(28:33):
Yes, you're right.
Thank you for taking the timeand talking to me.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
I appreciate your time.
I know your time is veryvaluable as is yours.
Time is a currency on earth,and this was a really great
investment of time.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
thank you, thank you.
If you actually took time tolearn about how incredible you
were, nothing would ever stop.
You see.
The definition of sight is thefaculty or power of seeing.
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