February 12, 2025 • 18 mins
Ever felt like your emotions are running the show, holding you back from reaching your full potential? Imagine waking up to a high fever, yet still pushing through to fulfill a commitment. That's the kind of determination and momentum we explore, sharing personal stories that highlight the immense power within us to overcome feelings of laziness and discouragement. This episode is all about mastering your emotions and unleashing the "higher version of you" to navigate challenges and achieve personal growth, even when motivation is at an all-time low.
We dissect how emotions can dominate our actions and decisions, and how they shouldn't impede our progress. With compelling analogies—like focusing on future possibilities as a driver looks through a windshield rather than the rear-view mirror—we offer insights into aligning with your higher self. By making small, intentional choices, you can reshape your identity and seize vast opportunities, regardless of where you started. Through inspiring narratives of individuals who have redefined their lives, we underline that your past doesn't dictate your future. This episode is your guide to harnessing emotions, staying committed, and bridging the gap between your current reality and your goals.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
That walk is the higher version of you that
healthy meal.
Higher version of you Startingthat business when you're
nervous.
Higher version of you Going tothat conference and learn how to
get better.
Higher version of you Don'tfeel like doing it right now.
Lower version of you.
You have to sometimes play amental game with yourself where
you let your higher version ofyou dominate the lower version
(00:22):
of you, so that that lowerversion of you doesn't become
the permanent you.
If you actually took time tolearn about how incredible you
were, nothing would ever stopyou.
How do you feel about yourfeelings?
This is what we're going totalk about today.
If you've not done so, I wantyou to do this.
I want you to subscribe, tojoin, comment, to share the
(00:43):
information that we provide,because this isn't about
anything other than making theworld better.
You know it's funny becausewhen I started doing these
videos, I did these videos outof motivation, because of my
kids.
Actually, the reason why is Ithought to myself when I was
growing up, I wish there werelessons I could have learned
from you know, parents,grandparents, great grandparents
(01:06):
, that kind of thing buttechnology wasn't there for me
to be able to hear their voices,get their lessons to be able to
pass on, but now it is.
So I do these videos.
Part of the greatest motivationfor me doing this by far is
that there are lessons that Ireceived that I want my children
, my great, my grandchildren, mygreat-grandchildren to be able
(01:28):
to learn One day prayerfully.
They'll click, watch, getsomething out of this.
Hopefully they get value.
Hopefully you get value out ofthis.
If so, make sure that yousubscribe, join us and comment.
I love reading your comments.
I'm going to talk about feelingsright now, because feelings are
so important.
Unfortunately, feelings havebeen misused by most of us.
(01:52):
Let me give you an example.
I woke up today with a highfever.
I have a fever right now.
I have a very high fever,actually, and I knew that I had
this video to do today.
I have other work that I haveto get done, and the last thing
I wanted to do was anything.
I just wanted to stay in bedand do all that stuff that you
do when you're not feeling yourbest, right, and so I have a
(02:16):
choice.
Choice number one I go with myfeelings, which were bed, sleep,
all of that.
But then the other choice wasmy commitment.
I made a commitment that Iwanted to have a certain
frequency, that I was going tohave videos be released so that
I would keep in my momentum.
(02:37):
You know, momentum is somethingI believe in and it seems like,
right when you're about to havea breakthrough in momentum, all
of a sudden all hell breaksloose and something goes wrong.
Your car breaks down, you getsick, you break up with your
girlfriend.
All this stuff starts to happenright when you are beginning
(02:57):
your momentum.
And I've come to learn thisthat if you can ignore how you
feel in that moment, there'salways a breakthrough that
happens on the other side.
So here's what I did.
I had a conversation with myself.
Here's what I said.
I said self here's what we'regoing to do.
We're going to get out of thisbed.
We're going to go and do thisvideo.
(03:20):
We're going to go and get ourwork done today.
We're going to do every meetingwe have to do.
We're going to take every callwe have to take.
We're going to act like you're100% good.
Now I'm not crazy.
Clearly, I'm going to take careof myself.
But that's not the point.
The point was I made a consciouschoice that I didn't want to
give in to my feelings.
(03:41):
You see, years ago I don't knowabout you I used to sleep till
whenever I woke up, which was, Iremember, once my mother come
in the room and it was like 1245or something like that, and
she's like it's almost oneo'clock and you're still in bed,
and I realized later on howcrazy that was that I was in bed
(04:04):
.
Now, it's not like I worked anight shift, I was just in bed
because it was easier to be inbed doing nothing than doing
something.
Matter of fact, I've come tobelieve that when people say
they love to sleep, sleep isgreat, but it usually is because
they haven't found the gamethat they want to play.
When you were kids and theholidays were coming, like
(04:25):
Christmas or your birthday wascoming, did you need sleep?
How fast did you want to waitfor that morning to come, for
you to get up and hop out of bedand go and be celebrated or go
get your gifts and all thisother stuff?
You didn't right.
It's just like, isn't itamazing?
Like during a holiday or duringyour birthday, when you're
about to be rewarded forsomething, you don't need an
alarm clock, you just you'rejust up.
(04:46):
So I remember, looking back atthat me and I would have told my
mother.
Then I would have said Mom,here's the thing, it's not that
I'm being lazy, it's that I'mnot motivated.
That's it.
Most people aren't just lazy,they're just not motivated.
We're doing things that wedon't want to do, work with
(05:06):
people we don't want to workwith, and we start to get more
into our feelings.
We decide I'm not going to dothat project on time because I
don't feel like it.
I'm not going to go to the gymright now because I don't feel
like it.
I'm not going to turn thatreport in right now because I
don't feel like it.
I don't feel like it, I don'tfeel my best.
(05:27):
And so we hide behind ourfeelings as reasons for lack of
performance and I just refused.
Today I said I'm just nottaking that, I'm just not doing
that and I'm not going to givethis video at anything other
than 100%.
I'm not going to come in here.
Like you know, I don't feelgood right now.
I'm like I don't have time.
I don't have time for it.
I don't have time for thenonsense, I don't have time for
the germs and whatever.
I don't have time for it.
I have something that I have todo.
(05:49):
And so for you and I, in orderfor us to have an incredible
life, we have to ignore ourfeelings.
Now, I'm not saying don'tacknowledge what you're thinking
, but don't have your feelingsdisempower you.
I've seen so many people thatI've worked with over years.
Man, they had the ability, thepotential to be amazing, but
(06:09):
they couldn't get past theirfeelings.
I've met so many people that Ithought would be incredible in
business, but they couldn't getpast their feelings.
Their feelings absolutelysabotage their success.
Their feelings absolutely had abarrier between them and
everything else they wanted.
I want you to imagine you'rehere, there's this wall here,
and on the other side iseverything you want, and this is
(06:30):
your feelings.
And if you're standing herelooking at your feelings, if you
knew that everything you wantedwas on the other side of that
wall, you'd probably go overthat wall, around that wall,
under that wall, through thatwall, because everything you
ever wanted was on the otherside.
Well, here's what I'm here totell you it is Everything that
(06:51):
you want is on the other side ofyour feelings.
When you don't feel like wakingup, get up, get up.
Get up.
Why?
Because you don't feel like it.
When you don't feel like eatingright, eat right.
Why?
Because you don't feel like it.
You'll discover that most ofthe things in your life that you
don't feel like doing are thevery things that would prosper
you.
You see, I believe that yourfeelings are a daily test to see
how much you truly want that,whichever it is you say that you
(07:14):
want.
Now look, we have feelings offear.
That's an opportunity to havesomething that you choose and to
conquer that.
Like you're afraid of flying.
Well, you have a choice.
The plane is probably going tomake it safely.
You can never travel becauseyou're afraid of flying or you
can figure out ways and methodsto conquer that fear.
(07:35):
You see, how you feel is asrelevant as the energy that you
give it.
If you give your feelings morerelevance than your dreams,
ambitions and goals, then yourfeelings win.
You know, it's amazing to me.
There was a gentleman that Iworked with and this guy was a
big-time bodybuilder.
He'd compete in all thesecompetitions.
(07:56):
This guy was huge.
I mean huge, I mean huge.
You know what I mean.
Like people, like their earshad muscles.
It was crazy and I said what'sthe hardest part of getting to
this level?
Because this guy was workingout twice a day and he'd come in
with these pre-made trays offood and all this other stuff
(08:20):
and he's like man, just doing itwhen I don't feel like it.
And I thought to myself man,the ability to conquer yourself
is when you're doing things thatyou know you should be doing,
no matter how you feel aboutdoing it.
Man, that's powerful.
(08:41):
What my mentor, mr Zalicki, saysall the time Commitment is
doing what you said you're goingto do long after the feelings
have left you.
We all have moments where ourfeelings betray us, moments
where we know we're supposed tomove but it's raining outside so
I can't go for that walk.
You know, I just lost acontract, I can't pay that bill.
(09:05):
And the reality is that thedominant thing that's standing
between you and everything isthat wall of feelings.
I want you to get a visualright now.
I want you to get the visual ofyou and there's this wall in
front of you Sadness, regret,disappointment, all those
(09:27):
feelings Don't feel like it,temporary, laz, laziness,
whatever that is.
And I want you to imagine that,if you have the ability to
scale and climb that wall or towalk around either side of that
wall is everything you've everwanted.
Now here's a question are yougoing to do it?
(09:48):
It's easy for me to say, but inquestion, are you going to do
it?
It's easy for me to say, but inthat moment, are you going to
do it?
Can you hold your commitmentand make your commitment
superior to your feelings?
Those calls that you saidyou're going to make?
You said as soon as I get up,I'm going to make these calls.
Are you going to make them ordo you not feel like it?
(10:08):
That exercise you said you'regoing to start doing?
You saw that YouTube video,that influencer and you saw that
work.
You're like man, I got to getback in shape.
Are you going to do it or doyou not feel like it?
That business you said you'regoing to start, you said a year
ago, two years ago, three, four,five years ago, you told people
around you that you're going tostart this thing.
(10:29):
Are you going to do it or is ittoo late now?
Like, what are you going to doto conquer your feelings?
What are you going to do to getaround and over that wall?
Because if you can get overthat wall, you are beyond 99% of
(10:54):
human beings that walk thisplanet, most humans, doesn't
matter whether you're black,white, asian, hispanic, come
from a well-to-do family, poorfamily, middle-class family,
doesn't matter who you pray to,you don't pray to.
None of that matters right now.
For this point Most people aredominated by their feelings.
They're only as good as theirfeelings.
The road that they will go downis the length of their feelings
.
It's hard for them to see fiveyears out because how they feel
(11:16):
right now.
It's hard for them to havegrand visions and grand goals
and they usually don't want towrite down goals.
They don't have things writtendown on their walls and stuff
I've written around.
Why?
Because they just how are theygoing to do it?
They don't feel like it.
Some people don't even feellike picking up the pen to write
down the goal, which is thenavigation towards their dreams.
(11:39):
They don't feel like it If thepen's not laying right there.
Some people won't get out thehouse to go buy the pen to go
write down the goal because theydon't feel like it.
Feelings are amazing tools.
God gave us all feelings, butGod did not give us the reason
to use feelings as excuses.
We created that, you know.
Imagine animals hunters likelions.
(12:01):
Imagine lions only hunting whenthey felt like it.
God gave us free choice.
It's an amazing thing Animalshunt when they're hungry.
They don't sit and say man,it's cold out here, I don't feel
like doing this right now.
I don't feel like doing thisright now, I'm staying in, let's
get back in this cave.
That's not what happens.
They hunt.
They have no connection.
(12:23):
They know they're hungry.
They need to go hunt.
They need to go eat.
They need to go hunt.
They need to go eat.
They need to go forage.
They need to go do whatever togather nuts.
They need to go.
They don't have time to feel.
God gave us feelings and,unfortunately, most of us have
learned how to use the gift offeelings as barriers to the life
(12:45):
we want.
Make today the day that you gethonest with yourself.
Just take a moment and look howmany times in my life have I
said X and done Y, and the onlyreason why in between was my
feelings?
How many times Was it once?
Was it twice?
You could look back to dozensmaybe, but it doesn't matter.
(13:07):
What matters is what's next.
You know, when you're in a car,the windshield is huge.
The windshield is huge.
Those little mirrors on thedriver's side and the passenger
side and the rear view mirror.
They're small.
The reason why the windshieldis huge is because you're
supposed to see what's in frontof you and focus in on that.
(13:31):
You're supposed to only glanceat what's behind you.
You're supposed to glance tothe left, glance to the right.
Glance in it's a glance Toomany times.
People stare at what those sidemirrors and the rear view mirror
.
They stare at those, they'reconstantly looking back at
whatever was back there and theycreate a feeling around it.
(13:54):
You know I was supposed to dothis but I didn't do that and I
feel terrible now and because Ifeel terrible now, I'm not going
to go do whatever that nextthing was, because I feel bad.
So they stare at what theycannot control anymore and they
review that drama series overand over again, create negative
(14:15):
feelings.
Then the huge window ofopportunity in front of them,
that huge windshield ofopportunity.
Huge window of opportunity infront of them, that huge
windshield of opportunity,everything out there that could
be great for them.
They don't go for it becausethey're too busy looking at that
.
Do you know if you're driving ina car and you keep your eyes
focused in on your rear viewmirror and on your driver's side
(14:35):
mirror and your passenger sidemirror.
If you focus only on those two,you're going to crash.
They're not designed for you tostare at, they're designed for
you to glance at.
So here's what I encourage youto do with feelings.
We bring this together.
Number one look at yourfeelings and move forward anyway
.
Number two don't focus in onwhat has already been.
(15:00):
Keep your eye on where you'regoing so important and speak to
yourself in a way that allowsfor you, as a third party, to
boss you around.
So when I said here's whatyou're going to do, you're going
to go do that video.
You're going to give greatenergy.
You're not even going to focusin on how you feel, you're just
(15:21):
going to go do it.
That was like me working for meand me the CEO telling the
employee me what to do.
There's a higher level of you.
There's a higher version of youand that higher version has a
higher rank than you and thathigher rank version of you wants
the best for the subordinateversion of you.
(15:41):
But if you don't engage withthat other version of you, the
one that says go take that walkthat walk is the higher version
of you.
That healthy meal higherversion of you, starting that
business when you're nervoushigher version of you Going to
that conference and learn how toget better.
Higher version of you Don'tfeel like doing it right now.
Lower version of you Don't feellike doing it right now.
(16:02):
Lower version of you you haveto sometimes play a mental game
with yourself where you let yourhigher version of you dominate
the lower version of you so thatthat lower version of you
doesn't become the permanent you.
We're one small choice, alwaysfrom having another level life.
We're just one small choice andif we take these moments and
(16:25):
make these small, little choicesnot big choices, small choices
that create new habits, wecreate a new identity and
eventually the old identity isnot comfortable anymore.
You know, I met someone who'svery successful and he grew up
in a very dysfunctional family.
He's such a family-orientedperson I didn't even know how
dysfunctional his family was.
The way that he was with hiskids, they're just so great and
(16:49):
he's one of those dads that like, no matter what, like he's
there.
He's there at every game,da-da-da-da-da-da.
And one day we were justtalking.
We had a baseball game.
You know, our kids were playingbaseball together and I got to
know him over time and we weretalking and he was talking to me
about his business and thethings he was doing and how
excited he was to be able to bethere to watch his kid play
baseball.
And then it just kind of cameout about all the craziness he
(17:10):
grew up with and here's what hesaid I didn't want my then to be
my forever.
Don't let your then be yourforever.
Whatever didn't happen thendidn't happen then.
It doesn't have to be yourforever.
Move from your then and go foryour forever.
But the bridge between what youwant and where you want to be
(17:31):
is going to be your ability toconquer your feelings.
You can know the informationDoesn't matter.
You can have all the rightconnections.
That helps.
But nothing is going to be moreimportant for you getting over
that wall than you're beingwilling to dominate your
feelings.
Make your feelings a slave toyour higher version self.
(17:52):
God bless, if you actually tooktime to learn about how
incredible you were, nothingwould ever stop.
You See, the definition ofsight is the faculty or power of
seeing.
That walk is the higher version of you that
healthy meal.
Higher version of you Startingthat business when you're
nervous.
Higher version of you Going tothat conference and learn how to
get better.
Higher version of you Don'tfeel like doing it right now.
Lower version of you.
You have to sometimes play amental game with yourself where
you let your higher version ofyou dominate the lower version
(00:22):
of you, so that that lowerversion of you doesn't become
the permanent you.
If you actually took time tolearn about how incredible you
were, nothing would ever stopyou.
How do you feel about yourfeelings?
This is what we're going totalk about today.
If you've not done so, I wantyou to do this.
I want you to subscribe, tojoin, comment, to share the
(00:43):
information that we provide,because this isn't about
anything other than making theworld better.
You know it's funny becausewhen I started doing these
videos, I did these videos outof motivation, because of my
kids.
Actually, the reason why is Ithought to myself when I was
growing up, I wish there werelessons I could have learned
from you know, parents,grandparents, great grandparents
(01:06):
, that kind of thing buttechnology wasn't there for me
to be able to hear their voices,get their lessons to be able to
pass on, but now it is.
So I do these videos.
Part of the greatest motivationfor me doing this by far is
that there are lessons that Ireceived that I want my children
, my great, my grandchildren, mygreat-grandchildren to be able
(01:28):
to learn One day prayerfully.
They'll click, watch, getsomething out of this.
Hopefully they get value.
Hopefully you get value out ofthis.
If so, make sure that yousubscribe, join us and comment.
I love reading your comments.
I'm going to talk about feelingsright now, because feelings are
so important.
Unfortunately, feelings havebeen misused by most of us.
(01:52):
Let me give you an example.
I woke up today with a highfever.
I have a fever right now.
I have a very high fever,actually, and I knew that I had
this video to do today.
I have other work that I haveto get done, and the last thing
I wanted to do was anything.
I just wanted to stay in bedand do all that stuff that you
do when you're not feeling yourbest, right, and so I have a
(02:16):
choice.
Choice number one I go with myfeelings, which were bed, sleep,
all of that.
But then the other choice wasmy commitment.
I made a commitment that Iwanted to have a certain
frequency, that I was going tohave videos be released so that
I would keep in my momentum.
(02:37):
You know, momentum is somethingI believe in and it seems like,
right when you're about to havea breakthrough in momentum, all
of a sudden all hell breaksloose and something goes wrong.
Your car breaks down, you getsick, you break up with your
girlfriend.
All this stuff starts to happenright when you are beginning
(02:57):
your momentum.
And I've come to learn thisthat if you can ignore how you
feel in that moment, there'salways a breakthrough that
happens on the other side.
So here's what I did.
I had a conversation with myself.
Here's what I said.
I said self here's what we'regoing to do.
We're going to get out of thisbed.
We're going to go and do thisvideo.
(03:20):
We're going to go and get ourwork done today.
We're going to do every meetingwe have to do.
We're going to take every callwe have to take.
We're going to act like you're100% good.
Now I'm not crazy.
Clearly, I'm going to take careof myself.
But that's not the point.
The point was I made a consciouschoice that I didn't want to
give in to my feelings.
(03:41):
You see, years ago I don't knowabout you I used to sleep till
whenever I woke up, which was, Iremember, once my mother come
in the room and it was like 1245or something like that, and
she's like it's almost oneo'clock and you're still in bed,
and I realized later on howcrazy that was that I was in bed
(04:04):
.
Now, it's not like I worked anight shift, I was just in bed
because it was easier to be inbed doing nothing than doing
something.
Matter of fact, I've come tobelieve that when people say
they love to sleep, sleep isgreat, but it usually is because
they haven't found the gamethat they want to play.
When you were kids and theholidays were coming, like
(04:25):
Christmas or your birthday wascoming, did you need sleep?
How fast did you want to waitfor that morning to come, for
you to get up and hop out of bedand go and be celebrated or go
get your gifts and all thisother stuff?
You didn't right.
It's just like, isn't itamazing?
Like during a holiday or duringyour birthday, when you're
about to be rewarded forsomething, you don't need an
alarm clock, you just you'rejust up.
(04:46):
So I remember, looking back atthat me and I would have told my
mother.
Then I would have said Mom,here's the thing, it's not that
I'm being lazy, it's that I'mnot motivated.
That's it.
Most people aren't just lazy,they're just not motivated.
We're doing things that wedon't want to do, work with
(05:06):
people we don't want to workwith, and we start to get more
into our feelings.
We decide I'm not going to dothat project on time because I
don't feel like it.
I'm not going to go to the gymright now because I don't feel
like it.
I'm not going to turn thatreport in right now because I
don't feel like it.
I don't feel like it, I don'tfeel my best.
(05:27):
And so we hide behind ourfeelings as reasons for lack of
performance and I just refused.
Today I said I'm just nottaking that, I'm just not doing
that and I'm not going to givethis video at anything other
than 100%.
I'm not going to come in here.
Like you know, I don't feelgood right now.
I'm like I don't have time.
I don't have time for it.
I don't have time for thenonsense, I don't have time for
the germs and whatever.
I don't have time for it.
I have something that I have todo.
(05:49):
And so for you and I, in orderfor us to have an incredible
life, we have to ignore ourfeelings.
Now, I'm not saying don'tacknowledge what you're thinking
, but don't have your feelingsdisempower you.
I've seen so many people thatI've worked with over years.
Man, they had the ability, thepotential to be amazing, but
(06:09):
they couldn't get past theirfeelings.
I've met so many people that Ithought would be incredible in
business, but they couldn't getpast their feelings.
Their feelings absolutelysabotage their success.
Their feelings absolutely had abarrier between them and
everything else they wanted.
I want you to imagine you'rehere, there's this wall here,
and on the other side iseverything you want, and this is
(06:30):
your feelings.
And if you're standing herelooking at your feelings, if you
knew that everything you wantedwas on the other side of that
wall, you'd probably go overthat wall, around that wall,
under that wall, through thatwall, because everything you
ever wanted was on the otherside.
Well, here's what I'm here totell you it is Everything that
(06:51):
you want is on the other side ofyour feelings.
When you don't feel like wakingup, get up, get up.
Get up.
Why?
Because you don't feel like it.
When you don't feel like eatingright, eat right.
Why?
Because you don't feel like it.
You'll discover that most ofthe things in your life that you
don't feel like doing are thevery things that would prosper
you.
You see, I believe that yourfeelings are a daily test to see
how much you truly want that,whichever it is you say that you
(07:14):
want.
Now look, we have feelings offear.
That's an opportunity to havesomething that you choose and to
conquer that.
Like you're afraid of flying.
Well, you have a choice.
The plane is probably going tomake it safely.
You can never travel becauseyou're afraid of flying or you
can figure out ways and methodsto conquer that fear.
(07:35):
You see, how you feel is asrelevant as the energy that you
give it.
If you give your feelings morerelevance than your dreams,
ambitions and goals, then yourfeelings win.
You know, it's amazing to me.
There was a gentleman that Iworked with and this guy was a
big-time bodybuilder.
He'd compete in all thesecompetitions.
(07:56):
This guy was huge.
I mean huge, I mean huge.
You know what I mean.
Like people, like their earshad muscles.
It was crazy and I said what'sthe hardest part of getting to
this level?
Because this guy was workingout twice a day and he'd come in
with these pre-made trays offood and all this other stuff
(08:20):
and he's like man, just doing itwhen I don't feel like it.
And I thought to myself man,the ability to conquer yourself
is when you're doing things thatyou know you should be doing,
no matter how you feel aboutdoing it.
Man, that's powerful.
(08:41):
What my mentor, mr Zalicki, saysall the time Commitment is
doing what you said you're goingto do long after the feelings
have left you.
We all have moments where ourfeelings betray us, moments
where we know we're supposed tomove but it's raining outside so
I can't go for that walk.
You know, I just lost acontract, I can't pay that bill.
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And the reality is that thedominant thing that's standing
between you and everything isthat wall of feelings.
I want you to get a visualright now.
I want you to get the visual ofyou and there's this wall in
front of you Sadness, regret,disappointment, all those
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feelings Don't feel like it,temporary, laz, laziness,
whatever that is.
And I want you to imagine that,if you have the ability to
scale and climb that wall or towalk around either side of that
wall is everything you've everwanted.
Now here's a question are yougoing to do it?
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It's easy for me to say, but inquestion, are you going to do
it?
It's easy for me to say, but inthat moment, are you going to
do it?
Can you hold your commitmentand make your commitment
superior to your feelings?
Those calls that you saidyou're going to make?
You said as soon as I get up,I'm going to make these calls.
Are you going to make them ordo you not feel like it?
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That exercise you said you'regoing to start doing?
You saw that YouTube video,that influencer and you saw that
work.
You're like man, I got to getback in shape.
Are you going to do it or doyou not feel like it?
That business you said you'regoing to start, you said a year
ago, two years ago, three, four,five years ago, you told people
around you that you're going tostart this thing.
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Are you going to do it or is ittoo late now?
Like, what are you going to doto conquer your feelings?
What are you going to do to getaround and over that wall?
Because if you can get overthat wall, you are beyond 99% of
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human beings that walk thisplanet, most humans, doesn't
matter whether you're black,white, asian, hispanic, come
from a well-to-do family, poorfamily, middle-class family,
doesn't matter who you pray to,you don't pray to.
None of that matters right now.
For this point Most people aredominated by their feelings.
They're only as good as theirfeelings.
The road that they will go downis the length of their feelings
.
It's hard for them to see fiveyears out because how they feel
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right now.
It's hard for them to havegrand visions and grand goals
and they usually don't want towrite down goals.
They don't have things writtendown on their walls and stuff
I've written around.
Why?
Because they just how are theygoing to do it?
They don't feel like it.
Some people don't even feellike picking up the pen to write
down the goal, which is thenavigation towards their dreams.
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They don't feel like it If thepen's not laying right there.
Some people won't get out thehouse to go buy the pen to go
write down the goal because theydon't feel like it.
Feelings are amazing tools.
God gave us all feelings, butGod did not give us the reason
to use feelings as excuses.
We created that, you know.
Imagine animals hunters likelions.
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Imagine lions only hunting whenthey felt like it.
God gave us free choice.
It's an amazing thing Animalshunt when they're hungry.
They don't sit and say man,it's cold out here, I don't feel
like doing this right now.
I don't feel like doing thisright now, I'm staying in, let's
get back in this cave.
That's not what happens.
They hunt.
They have no connection.
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They know they're hungry.
They need to go hunt.
They need to go eat.
They need to go hunt.
They need to go eat.
They need to go forage.
They need to go do whatever togather nuts.
They need to go.
They don't have time to feel.
God gave us feelings and,unfortunately, most of us have
learned how to use the gift offeelings as barriers to the life
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we want.
Make today the day that you gethonest with yourself.
Just take a moment and look howmany times in my life have I
said X and done Y, and the onlyreason why in between was my
feelings?
How many times Was it once?
Was it twice?
You could look back to dozensmaybe, but it doesn't matter.
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What matters is what's next.
You know, when you're in a car,the windshield is huge.
The windshield is huge.
Those little mirrors on thedriver's side and the passenger
side and the rear view mirror.
They're small.
The reason why the windshieldis huge is because you're
supposed to see what's in frontof you and focus in on that.
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You're supposed to only glanceat what's behind you.
You're supposed to glance tothe left, glance to the right.
Glance in it's a glance Toomany times.
People stare at what those sidemirrors and the rear view mirror
.
They stare at those, they'reconstantly looking back at
whatever was back there and theycreate a feeling around it.
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You know I was supposed to dothis but I didn't do that and I
feel terrible now and because Ifeel terrible now, I'm not going
to go do whatever that nextthing was, because I feel bad.
So they stare at what theycannot control anymore and they
review that drama series overand over again, create negative
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feelings.
Then the huge window ofopportunity in front of them,
that huge windshield ofopportunity.
Huge window of opportunity infront of them, that huge
windshield of opportunity,everything out there that could
be great for them.
They don't go for it becausethey're too busy looking at that
.
Do you know if you're driving ina car and you keep your eyes
focused in on your rear viewmirror and on your driver's side
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mirror and your passenger sidemirror.
If you focus only on those two,you're going to crash.
They're not designed for you tostare at, they're designed for
you to glance at.
So here's what I encourage youto do with feelings.
We bring this together.
Number one look at yourfeelings and move forward anyway
.
Number two don't focus in onwhat has already been.
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Keep your eye on where you'regoing so important and speak to
yourself in a way that allowsfor you, as a third party, to
boss you around.
So when I said here's whatyou're going to do, you're going
to go do that video.
You're going to give greatenergy.
You're not even going to focusin on how you feel, you're just
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going to go do it.
That was like me working for meand me the CEO telling the
employee me what to do.
There's a higher level of you.
There's a higher version of youand that higher version has a
higher rank than you and thathigher rank version of you wants
the best for the subordinateversion of you.
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But if you don't engage withthat other version of you, the
one that says go take that walkthat walk is the higher version
of you.
That healthy meal higherversion of you, starting that
business when you're nervoushigher version of you Going to
that conference and learn how toget better.
Higher version of you Don'tfeel like doing it right now.
Lower version of you Don't feellike doing it right now.
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Lower version of you you haveto sometimes play a mental game
with yourself where you let yourhigher version of you dominate
the lower version of you so thatthat lower version of you
doesn't become the permanent you.
We're one small choice, alwaysfrom having another level life.
We're just one small choice andif we take these moments and
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make these small, little choicesnot big choices, small choices
that create new habits, wecreate a new identity and
eventually the old identity isnot comfortable anymore.
You know, I met someone who'svery successful and he grew up
in a very dysfunctional family.
He's such a family-orientedperson I didn't even know how
dysfunctional his family was.
The way that he was with hiskids, they're just so great and
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he's one of those dads that like, no matter what, like he's
there.
He's there at every game,da-da-da-da-da-da.
And one day we were justtalking.
We had a baseball game.
You know, our kids were playingbaseball together and I got to
know him over time and we weretalking and he was talking to me
about his business and thethings he was doing and how
excited he was to be able to bethere to watch his kid play
baseball.
And then it just kind of cameout about all the craziness he
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grew up with and here's what hesaid I didn't want my then to be
my forever.
Don't let your then be yourforever.
Whatever didn't happen thendidn't happen then.
It doesn't have to be yourforever.
Move from your then and go foryour forever.
But the bridge between what youwant and where you want to be
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is going to be your ability toconquer your feelings.
You can know the informationDoesn't matter.
You can have all the rightconnections.
That helps.
But nothing is going to be moreimportant for you getting over
that wall than you're beingwilling to dominate your
feelings.
Make your feelings a slave toyour higher version self.
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God bless, if you actually tooktime to learn about how
incredible you were, nothingwould ever stop.
You See, the definition ofsight is the faculty or power of
seeing.
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