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Have you ever found yourself on the brink of burnout, grappling with the decision to take a step back for your sanity?  This episode is a deep dive into the art of pausing, as my friend Sandy and I open up about the trials left in the wake of COVID-19. We don't just skim the surface; we sink into the grit of physical recuperation, the mental toll, and the financial hurdles that have reshaped our lives. Sandy's resilience shines through as she shares her transformative approach to wellness, moving beyond temporary fixes to a complete lifestyle overhaul.

Turn the volume up for a conversation that celebrates the often-overlooked power of gratitude in our daily lives. We'll unpack the difference between a fleeting diet and a profound lifestyle change, and how to cultivate a mindset that cherishes moderation in all aspects of living.  Join us as we acknowledge the unspoken heroes of mental health: the moments of stillness, the thoughtful reflection, and the embrace of change for a more fulfilled existence.

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
I need some water.
Ja Cradding somewhere to stay,hey, Okay.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Only it's who knows, who knows, who knows, who knows.
I just go with a draping, goSendin' love to my friends and
friends.
When I'm involved, I'm pissed.
We'll be chillin' in the nextfew days.
I'll buy all the books andneeds.

(00:29):
I'll get the sunshine riversand trees we need.

Speaker 1 (00:36):
When we see, ja, we see your way, just take a least
train from the park, we see ussay, hey, every month, today,
moon up in Las Vegas, I'll leavethe park away and let me read a
chapter.
Today, hey, when the in thecity hungry and no eats, I'm
food and I'm the food.
Treat as a chopper body treat.
Hey, to see safe over dinner.
Real then Cause what the reasonwe be there?

(00:57):
Who knows.

Speaker 3 (01:00):
Who knows, I have no singing voice.
But I'm always singing Everyone, everyone.
Yes, you're getting a reggaesong today.

Speaker 2 (01:14):
I've been listening to this song a lot, sendin' love
to my friends and friends,sendin' love to my friends, and
trees we need.

Speaker 1 (01:23):
When do we meet up at the funny room?
Just a steam paper, but one isyou Like.
It's a dream if you gotgratitude, so go tell the reggae
that can't stop coming throughnow.

Speaker 3 (01:35):
Information you think on your own.
Indeed, life is a dream if youhave gratitude.
I hope you didn't miss thatlife.
Hello everyone.
And it's another episode.
That song is by ProtoJ andChronix and it's you Knows.

Speaker 1 (01:52):
Who Knows?

Speaker 3 (01:53):
not, you Knows.

Speaker 1 (01:54):
Who.

Speaker 3 (01:54):
Knows.
I tell you old age is a thing.
Hey, my words get mixed upevery time, but I am here.
It's been a week.
It was a weird week In that inthe middle of a busy week, I
stopped people.
I stopped.

(02:14):
I woke up on Wednesday morning.
I wasn't feeling sick, I wasn'taching, I just felt like Like
flat-lined, like I didn't feellike doing anything.

(02:36):
It wasn't depression.
I was just at that point,tipping point, and I made the
decision to stop.
And the first thing I did was Isent out a text to my Eitel
lunch club To say there's nolunch service tomorrow or

(02:58):
Thursday, because I knew I wasnot going to get my things to do
this for Wednesday done, whichmeans I have to do them on
Thursday, which means there isno lunch club.
And surprisingly, I felt somuch guilt about it because I'm

(03:18):
like you, know people's routine.
I'm encouraging them to changetheir lifestyle but at the same
time, if I pushed myself to goto the kitchen and do the lunch
club and do everything, thatenergy would get in the food.
I am kidding you not, it wouldget in the food.

(03:39):
Everythings would go wrong.
That it's just stupid, I know,and I'm like after.
I'm like.
You know what is the rightthing to do.
And I'm now at Friday.
It's a Friday evening.
You got a reggae song and,trust me, when I got up this
morning I felt so good, I'vegotten so much done.

(04:00):
Today I still haven't left thehouse to go anywhere, but I've
been very productive andsometimes that's what you need
to do Just stop and just chill.
But guess what?
I'm not alone this evening.
I have my friend Sandy herewith me.

(04:22):
She's here at Aito retreat andwe've been talking and I thought
that a conversation with Sandyis worthwhile.
I think not only theconversation would be beneficial
to everyone who you know, Ipromote lifestyle changes, not

(04:47):
dieting, not radical, justsubtle changes that translate
slowly and become a full timehabit.
And, oh, junior, hi, yeah, hi,it's so funny.
I'm sorry.
My other friend, junior, isalso here, so she passed by and

(05:07):
so I had to say hi.
You know how I go, but we'rehaving a conversation with Sandy
, so, sandy, tell everyone.

Speaker 4 (05:15):
Hi there, I'm from Toronto, I'm Sandy, like
Lorraine said, and I secondeverything that Lorraine said
about sometimes.
You just got to take a littlebit of time off for yourself.

Speaker 3 (05:29):
That's why she's at Aito retreat.
So Sandy was telling me abouther experience during COVID and
I know we keep referring back tothat because but whether we
like it or not, it is a definingperiod in our life history,

(05:50):
especially our wellness history,because it had to do with our
health, not just physical butmental, and in a lot of ways, a
lot of us are still in recovery.
I know I am.
I'm not even going to pretendI'm still recovering financially
, I think, even though I'veachieved that so much and my, my

(06:16):
lifestyle has changed, whichmeans my income streams have
changed, which means I've had toadjust a few things, some in a
good way.
But we're all in recovery.
We're all in recovery frompeople who we know have been
affected, really was reallyaffected badly, health wise,

(06:38):
they lost friends, they lostfamily, they they lost health.
You know people are stillsuffering from long COVID just a
whole gamma.
And when Sandy and I weretalking, she was talking about
her experience during COVID andthen, coming out of COVID, how
it led her to decided to make atotal lifestyle change for her

(07:04):
total well-being, not justphysically but mentally.
And so I'm going to let Sandytell us in her own words about
what she did during COVID andwhat.
When did she make the decisionto adjust and what she did to
adjust, and how is she feelingnow?

Speaker 4 (07:24):
So during COVID I had actually had been working at
home already for 15 years, sothat part didn't change for me.
The thing that changed for meis I had other people in the
house now who wanted to havebreakfast, lunch and dinner and
I was doing a lot of cooking.
There were two kinds of people,I think, in COVID One's that

(07:47):
got really healthy and boughtgyms and stuff and put them into
their house.
And then there was the oneslike me that is a foodie and
wanted to decide it was a goodidea for me to write a cookbook
at that time and put on myrecipes down and at the end of
it I gained about 70 pounds,certainly wasn't happy with

(08:09):
myself.
It led to depression and mental, you know, affected me mentally
.
Now, coming out of it, I've lost40 pounds.
I realized that that's the keyto my happiness, you know, being
healthy, eating properly.

(08:29):
You know eating to live ratherthan living to eat.
So I've got a bit of a ways togo.
I've got about 25 pounds to go,but I know I'm in a better
mindset than I was and I'meating healthy and I'm feeling
better and I'm not letting mytongue decide what I should put

(08:51):
in my body.
I'm using my head, yes.
So that's my journey and that'skind of how I found Lorraine,
because I've been to Turks manytimes, I've never done an
accommodation like this and Iwent.
This is exactly what I need,and when I got here and saw the

(09:12):
place and met Lorraine, I knew Imade the right choice.

Speaker 3 (09:17):
One of the things that you just said to me this
evening that it's still plain inmy head that you emphasize to
people that you're not on a diet.
Yes, and that is such a thing,that's such an important thing
for you to do yeah, it's alifestyle, because people just
think they don't think anything.
When you're eating everything,you know everything under the

(09:41):
sun.
And I'm not saying I mean, ifyou're writing a cookbook, you
weren't necessarily eating badfood, but you were probably
eating a lot of food and nothaving a lot of physical
activity.
Absolutely.
Your metabolic rate slowed downbecause one you were confined
for a bit.
Sedatory, yeah, sedatory everyday and so that led to gaining

(10:04):
weight, and, of course, we'rewomen, so anything that changes
in our thing, it goes to ourhips, absolutely it goes to our
hips.
It's like whoo, and what Iwould like to know is, though at
what point was there somethingthat that triggered you that

(10:29):
said okay, I've gained somedefunds.
I don't like this.
Was there a defining moment foryou?

Speaker 4 (10:38):
Yeah, I think it was a.
It was a mental thing.
So I wasn't happy with the wayI looked.
It was, you know, the wholeCOVID thing and being isolated
and all that stuff, and I just Ijust said this is it Like, this
is not the life I want to live.
I want to get healthy.
I'm obviously getting up in myears now and now's, you know,

(11:02):
now's the time to do it.
Yeah, if never, it's now.
So that was kind of thedefining moment and as I lost
the weight, my mental health,got better, and the more I lose,
the more my mental hit.
Like I strongly believe, yourbody and your mental health,
they go hand in hand.
At least for me.

(11:23):
And yeah, so I mean I think thewhole you know premises of
eating to live rather thanliving to eat is the way it was
intended.

Speaker 3 (11:36):
That's the way it should be.
Yes, yes, it's people.
One of the things I tell peoplethat when you're eating, I
always stress about mindfuleating.
I never promote any form ofdiet because I truly believe
that people everyone's chemicalmakeup is different, so food is

(12:02):
gonna affect each persondifferently.
So this diet and that diet isnot forever, it's never for
everyone, and so I always tellpeople just eat mindfully,
everything in moderation.
If you want to have a slice ofcake, have a slice of cake.
Just don't have a slice of cakeevery day.

(12:24):
Yeah.
For the whole cake at once Ifyou can't get up and say you're
never having carbs, ever.
Your body needs carbs, yourkidneys, your heart, you need
carbs.
People are cutting carbs.
I was thinking you know I needto cut out carbs and they're
doing damage to their body, butthey're losing weight.

Speaker 4 (12:49):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (12:50):
And then I've seen situations where people have
collapsed.
They've been on this wellnesskick, they've lost all this
weight and they're doing these,going hard, and people are like,
but you've gotten so healthyand you lost all this weight and
no, but if he was on a dietthat was cut, he cut, he went

(13:11):
cold turkey and removed everyform of carb.
His heart got weak.

Speaker 4 (13:19):
Diets end.
That's the thing Diets endeventually.
You can't be on a diet, yourentire life A lifestyle is
forever.

Speaker 3 (13:27):
That's why I always stress wellness is a lifestyle.
It is a lifestyle whetheryou're working on physical or
mental health, or emotionalhealth.
It's a lifestyle.
I tell people.
It's for emotional health, youknow, you remove yourself from
situations if you can.
For mental health, you take upactivities, find a hobby, Find

(13:52):
something you love, regardless,no matter how silly it is.
One of the things I've done Idecided like two years ago I
remembered the joy that camefrom playing vinyl, vinyl
records.

Speaker 4 (14:09):
Oh nice.

Speaker 3 (14:11):
And a year and a half ago I started.
I was here.
I remember that everything wasat my mom's house in Jamaica.
I don't even know where it is,I don't know if it's in storage,
I don't know if she threw themout, I don't know anything.
And I bought a vinyl recordplayer.

(14:33):
I noticed it when I came in andI started collecting vinyl to
the point where Christmas justgone, what I bought myself for
Christmas was for new vinylrecords.
Good for you, and trust me, itis.
It can become a very expensivehobby, but with those four new

(14:56):
vinyl records I spent $100.
And it brought me so much joy.
Well, that's the important partit brought me so much joy.
So when I say find a hobby,find something you enjoy and
work it into your lifestyle, andyou don't have to do it for
anyone else but yourself.
You're not eating for others,you're eating for yourself, and

(15:24):
it's an amazing thing when itclicks, when something clicks
and you realize this is good andyou feel good at it.
Your cookbook, though.
I suspect that when you getback to finishing it, you're

(15:46):
going to approach it in atotally different mindset.

Speaker 4 (15:52):
You're right.
Like I mentioned to you I thinkI talked in the other day.
I know it's whole grains,everything's got to be whole
grain, but pasta is whole grain.
If it's rice, it's whole grain,and that's not the way I cooked
before.
But, having researched it andlooked into it, that's the best

(16:12):
thing for you.
And why would you want it notto be whole grain?

Speaker 3 (16:17):
Yeah, and I'm thinking, if you're remembering
all your grandmother's recipes,being able to translate that
into making it a healthier, moremindful version of it is a gift
that you can then pass on toyour kids and your grandkids.

(16:39):
So I'm looking forward to thatcompleted.

Speaker 2 (16:46):
Me too.

Speaker 3 (16:49):
Oh, my goodness, this has been so nice.
So you've heard from Sandy andyou've heard me, and we're not
going to be hanging aroundforever and ever.
We're going to play our songagain.
Sometimes I'm glad I don't dovideo, because if you do, some

(17:10):
of the things and expressionsthat take place while I'm
supposed to be trying to do this, so we're going to leave you
and we're going to play theentire song, because it's a fun
song.
This time, listen to the wordsand enjoy it, and see you next

(17:33):
time on.
Am I there Yet?
A Journey to Wellness.

Speaker 2 (17:37):
Good night, I just go with a trapping blues.
Trending love to my friends andfolks and I suppose I'm pleased
to be tillin' in the west inthis that provide all my wants
and needs.
I got the sunshine rivers andtrees we need to move away.

Speaker 1 (18:03):
When we see jami, see your way, just take a leap
straight from the progress.
See, I say every man to them ona philosophy, I leave the
proper way, and then we read achapter night when the inner
city agree and not eat, I'mfooded on a country that's a
chopper for the three dead.
To see Separatino.
Real, then, is what the reasonremain.

Speaker 2 (18:26):
Who knows, who knows who knows who knows, I just go
with a trapping blues, trendinglove to my friends and folks and
I suppose I'm pleased to betillin' in the west in this that
provide all my wants and needs.

Speaker 1 (18:44):
I got the sunshine rivers and trees we need to move
away when the rain beats up onthe roof Curb just a steam paper
.
But fun is cute Like it's adream.
If you got gratitude, so gotell the regime.
They can't stop what we do now.
Information you think on yourown Are reserved to the things

(19:06):
that you know.

Speaker 3 (19:06):
You like that?
What do you know if you can'tever change?
We need to move away from yourpoor life things where you're
sad, Watch your thoughts bepresent.
That's a mental healthstatement.

Speaker 2 (19:17):
Right there, I just go with a trapping blues,
trending love to my friends andfolks and I suppose I'm pleased
to be tillin' in the west inthis.
That provide all my wants andneeds.
I got the sunshine rivers andtrees.
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