48 | Learning How To Choose Instead Of Saying Yes To Everything

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In a world where success is often defined by external benchmarks and societal expectations, Monique invites us to pause and reflect on the art of intentional living. Tune in as Monique shares her personal framework, "Nature, Nurture, Navigate," guiding us to understand our inherent strengths and make choices that resonate with our true self. 

Press play now to learn how aligning your actions with your core values can lead to a more fulfilling and abundant life. This is the first step into a life of intentional living. Listen now!

📝As a special note, Monique announces the opening of her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

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Episode 27 | Scaling Your Humanity With Your Wealth

GEMS DROPPED
“Discomfort ​is ​necessary ​for ​us ​to ​grow, but ​not ​all ​discomfort ​is ​necessary. ​And ​I ​think ​that ​we ​haven't ​stopped ​to ​consider ​what ​necessity ​means ​to ​us. ​I'm ​not ​adding ​things ​to ​my ​plate ​for ​no ​reason. ​There ​has ​to ​be ​a ​reason. ​And ​the ​reason ​needs ​to ​be ​specific. ​It ​has ​to ​feel ​necessary.”

“You're ​oftentimes ​​fighting to ​create ​more ​equity ​in ​the ​world. ​You're ​pushing ​so ​hard ​and ​overextending ​yourself ​for ​the ​people ​that ​you ​are ​making ​a ​way ​for. ​Your ​employees, ​your ​team, ​your ​mentees, ​​whoever ​it ​is ​that ​you ​are ​trying ​to ​blaze ​the ​trail ​for ​or ​with. ​A ​big ​part ​of ​the ​mission ​oftentimes ​is ​to ​create ​more ​equity ​for ​them, ​for ​them ​to ​have experiences ​where ​there ​is ​more ​given ​to ​them ​than ​was ​given ​to ​you. Where ​they ​get ​to ​experience ​a ​reciprocal ​relationship ​within ​these ​crazy ​systems ​that ​they ​have ​to ​operate ​in ​and ​navigate ​and ​build, ​within and ​yet ​we ​won't ​expect ​that ​for ​ourselves. ​​It's ​like​ you're ​trying ​to ​give ​the ​thing ​that ​you ​are ​not ​willing ​to ​give ​to ​yourself. ​And ​I ​want ​you ​to ​know ​that ​that ​comes ​at ​a ​cost, ​not ​just ​to ​you, ​but ​for ​those ​who ​are ​watching. ​Because ​you're ​not ​setting ​the ​example ​you ​think ​that ​you ​are. ​​When ​you ​are ​living ​a ​life ​that ​​is ​​feeling ​lopsided, ​other ​folks ​can ​see ​that. We ​have ​to ​give ​ourselves ​permission ​to ​exist ​in ​what ​it ​is ​that ​we're ​trying ​to ​create ​for ​others ​to ​not ​leave ​ourselves ​out ​of ​our ​own ​vision.”

“You ​need ​to ​know ​what ​your ​values ​are.​ I ​think ​a ​lot ​of ​us ​have loosely ​articulated ​vague ​values ​that ​are ​really ​just ​a ​set ​of ​feelings ​that ​we've ​never ​actually ​taken ​the ​time ​to ​do ​the ​work ​on, ​to ​truly ​be ​precise ​about, ​to ​be ​specific ​about.”

“My ​values ​coupled ​with ​​my ​mind, ​body, ​connection, ​and my ​gut feeling ​help ​me ​decide ​​what ​I ​choose ​to ​say ​yes ​to ​versus ​what ​I ​don't. And ​we ​all ​need ​these.  ​And ​I ​will ​also ​say ​that ​getting intentional practice around connecting ​the ​two, ​using ​them ​in ​real ​life ​situations, it ​deepens ​our ​conviction. ​It ​makes ​it ​much ​easier ​to step ​into ​whatever ​season ​of ​life ​or ​work that ​is ​ahead ​of ​us ​with ​a ​lot ​more ​confidence ​and ​speed, ​honestly.”

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