49 | Whose Permission Are You Seeking?

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Have you ever felt the pull to close one chapter of your life and start a new one, only to be held back by an invisible ball and chain? 

This episode tackles the heart of that struggle, exploring how we can make meaningful shifts in how we work, live, and perceive ourselves. Join Monique on this live broadcast episode as she discusses how to break free from old identities, embrace personal evolution, and seek permission from within. 

Tune in for a transformative conversation that challenges you to rethink the rules you've lived by and invites you to create from a place of artistry and authenticity.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

GEMS DROPPED
“Once ​we've ​reached ​a ​certain ​level ​of ​achievement ​and ​success ​in ​our ​lives, ​oftentimes ​then we ​have ​the ​privilege ​of ​looking ​up ​and ​creating ​from ​this ​place ​of ​artistry, ​like ​actually ​being ​a ​creative, ​taking a paintbrush to ​blank ​canvas ​and ​building ​from ​scratch. ​How we ​see ​the ​world, ​how we ​want ​things ​to ​be, ​how we ​want ​to ​exist. ​And ​that ​level ​of ​freedom ​can ​come ​with ​a ​lot ​of ​fear ​and ​it ​can ​be ​disorienting. ​But ​it ​is ​the ​place ​that ​we, ​I ​think, ​all ​deserve ​to ​be ​at.”

“I ​think ​the ​top ​two ​reasons ​that ​I ​hear ​from ​people ​who ​are ​scared ​to ​pivot, ​who ​are ​scared ​to ​make ​the ​leap: ​number ​one, ​there's ​some ​scarcity ​thing ​going ​on ​around money. ​But ​I ​think ​that ​the bigger ​driver ​is ​something ​around ​this ​invisible ​audience ​that ​is ​judging ​our ​every ​move. ​The ​language ​that ​people ​use ​constantly ​is ​’I ​get ​scared of ​what ​people ​will ​think ​or ​what ​people ​will ​say’. Like, what people? Who ​are ​you ​talking ​about? ​Who ​specifically ​are ​you ​referring ​to? ”

“Usually ​there ​are ​specific ​relationships, there ​are ​specific ​groups ​of ​people ​that ​we ​have ​related ​to ​in ​a ​certain ​way, ​who ​have ​seen ​us ​occupy ​a ​certain ​identity, ​who ​have ​seen ​us ​in ​a ​certain ​light ​that ​we ​don't ​want ​to ​break ​our ​current ​image ​with ​them. ​We're ​terrified ​of ​becoming ​something ​unrecognizable ​to ​​these ​people ​or ​a ​specific ​person. ​And ​​the ​way ​these ​show ​up ​in ​our ​thoughts ​and ​in ​our ​minds ​that ​then ​influence ​our ​actions ​is ​what ​I've ​been ​calling an ​invisible ​audience.”

“There's ​a ​physiological ​connection ​to ​the ​ways ​in ​which ​we ​are ​not ​allowing ​ourselves ​to ​show ​up ​in ​the ​fullness ​of ​who ​we ​are and ​we've ​created ​all ​of ​these ​rules ​around ​these ​old ​identities ​that are no ​longer ​going ​to ​serve ​us. ​We ​have ​created ​all ​of ​these ​limitations ​and ​rules ​and ​constraints ​based ​off ​of ​old ​spaces, ​places ​and ​identities ​that ​we've ​had ​to ​occupy ​or ​that ​we've ​chosen ​to ​occupy ​in ​the ​past and ​that ​stuff ​is ​sticking ​with ​us.”

"Sacrifice is meant to be temporary. It is not meant to be the end all, be all, forever state of things."

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