52 | Making The Scary Identity Leap

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Are you standing at the edge of a new chapter, feeling the pull of transformation, yet held back by invisible barriers? 

Join Monique as she uncovers the secrets to navigating identity shifts and breaking free from the self-doubt that keeps us stuck. Explore the thought-provoking questions that often paralyze progress, like 'Am I truly capable?' and 'Is this the right moment?' Through fresh insights and actionable strategies, Monique helps you reframe those doubts into empowering questions that inspire clarity, courage, and momentum on your journey of becoming.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

GEMS DROPPED
"You're ​it. ​You're ​the ​one ​we've ​been ​waiting ​on ​to ​usher ​forward ​this ​next ​thing ​that ​has ​been ​placed ​on ​your ​heart, ​in ​your ​mind ​and ​your ​imagination ​to ​create ​in ​the ​world. Who ​is ​going ​to ​come ​through ​and tell ​you you're ​ready, ​tell ​you ​you're ​the ​right ​person ​for ​the ​job? ​No ​one. ​​No ​one ​is ​going ​to ​come ​through ​and ​affirm ​that ​for ​you.”

“Am ​I ​the ​right ​person? Any ​version ​of ​this ​question ​is ​an ​absolute ​trap, ​and ​we ​have ​to ​let ​the ​question ​go. It's ​not ​about how ​do ​I ​get ​to ​that ​answer. It's ​the ​question ​in ​and ​of ​itself that ​is ​not ​useful.”

 ​“If ​we ​can ​equip ​ourselves ​to ​move ​through ​this blockade ​phase or ​protective ​barriers ​phase, ​and ​we ​can ​slide ​that ​barrier ​to ​the ​left. Slide ​the ​’am ​I’ ​person ​question barrier ​to ​the ​right ​and ​then ​get ​into, ‘​well, ​what ​is ​the ​identity ​that ​I ​am ​sitting ​in ​today ​that ​is ​no ​longer ​serving ​me,  ​that ​is ​keeping ​me ​stuck ​on ​the ​road, ​that ​is ​keeping ​me ​boxed ​in ​with ​these ​barriers?’ This ​is ​when ​we ​start ​getting ​into ​more ​useful ​questions.”

“However ​you ​believe ​timing ​takes ​place, ​whatever ​right ​timing ​means ​for ​you, ​that's ​what ​it ​will ​be. ​No ​one ​else ​can ​tell ​you if ​it's ​the ​right ​time ​to ​pursue ​the ​thing ​that ​you ​need ​to ​pursue ​now. ​​I ​think ​a ​better ​question ​is, ‘​am ​I ​willing ​to ​make ​the ​sacrifices ​or ​to ​make ​the ​investments ​that ​are ​required ​right ​now ​in ​order ​for ​me ​to ​step ​into ​this ​new ​version ​of ​myself?’ ”

“We've ​got ​to ​get ​more ​precise. ​We've ​got ​to ​get ​more ​practical. ​We've ​got ​to ​get ​more ​tangible ​and ​real. ​These ​questions ​have ​to ​be ​useful ​to ​actually ​help ​us ​arrive ​at ​what ​we're ​trying ​to ​arrive ​at. We ​need ​questions ​that ​force ​decision ​making.” ​

“​​​If ​it's ​yours, ​you ​can ​do ​it. ​You ​can ​set ​the ​timeline. ​You ​can ​set ​the ​look ​and ​the ​feel- the ​vibe and ​the ​pace. ​You ​get ​to ​set ​it. ​Just ​give ​yourself ​permission ​to ​stop ​asking ​questions ​that ​limit ​you, ​that ​keep ​you ​stuck ​and ​that ​keep ​you ​spinning around ​an ​old ​identity ​that's ​trying ​to ​hold ​on ​to ​you ​and ​keep ​you ​safe. And ​free ​yourself ​with ​questions ​that ​actually ​move ​you ​forward, ​ ​that ​spark ​creativity, ​that ​spark ​your ​inner ​problem ​solver, ​that ​give ​you ​something ​to ​grab ​onto ​so ​that ​you ​can ​grab ​onto ​the ​next ​thing ​and ​the ​next ​thing ​and ​start ​that journey ​forward.”

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