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February 12, 2025 37 mins

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In today's fast-paced world, the pressure to conform to a certain image of success can be overwhelming. Many of us are familiar with the archetype of the "4am CEO," a figure that embodies relentless ambition and productivity. But what happens when this pursuit of success starts to overshadow our true selves? 

In this week's episode, Monique dives into the journey of identity evolution and the fears that accompany significant life changes. Building on her previous discussions about identity leaps, she reflects on the critical moments when we find ourselves on the brink of transformation, yet held back by fears surrounding safety and acceptance.

Join in as Monique guides us through the transformative process of letting go, embracing new identities, and ultimately finding peace in the pursuit of our authentic self.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for February 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

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52 | Making The Scary Identity Leap

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“We ​have ​identity ​needs. ​Safety ​at ​the ​identity ​level ​is ​very ​different ​than ​safety ​at ​the practical, ​tangible ​level. ​Safety, ​in ​terms ​of ​our heart’s needs, it operates ​very ​differently. And ​I ​think ​these ​are ​driving ​forces ​that ​are ​deeper ​and ​can ​be ​far ​stronger ​if ​we ​turn ​our ​attention ​to ​them ​and ​actually ​start ​to ​get ​real ​with ​what ​is ​trying ​to ​stretch ​and ​come ​from ​us.”

“I'm ​tired ​of ​money ​being ​this ​primary ​driver. ​I'm ​beyond ​that. ​​I ​know ​I'm ​in ​a ​system ​that ​requires ​money ​to ​sustain us, but ​I ​don't want ​that ​to ​be ​the ​thing ​that ​is ​driving ​all ​of ​my ​decisions ​anymore. ​I ​want ​to ​do ​the ​things ​that ​have ​been ​deemed ​frivolous. I ​want ​to ​spend ​more ​time ​in ​my ​garden. ​I ​want ​to ​spend ​more ​time ​cooking. I want to ​experience ​a ​season ​that ​lets ​that ​version ​of ​myself ​come ​to ​be. ​I ​want ​to ​get ​to ​know ​this ​version of ​myself ​where ​money ​is ​no ​longer ​the ​core ​driver. ​Like, ​what ​a ​privilege ​that ​would ​be. ​How ​incredible ​​would ​that ​be? ​It's ​a ​shame ​that ​that's ​a ​privilege. ​It shouldn't be ​a ​privilege.”

“​If ​you ​change, ​the ​world ​around ​you changes which means ​the ​relationships ​around ​you ​have ​to ​change. ​They ​can ​embrace ​it, you ​can ​figure ​out ​how ​to ​move ​forward ​together, you ​might ​have ​a ​rough ​patch ​or a ​season, ​but ​there's ​also ​the ​risk ​that ​that ​relationship is now ​lost ​or some ​of ​the ​core ​fundamentals ​that ​kept you ​connected ​before, ​are ​null ​and ​​void ​at ​this ​point.”

“If ​I'm ​evolving ​into ​a ​whole ​new ​world, ​there’s a version ​of ​myself ​where ​I'm ​not ​going ​to ​be ​your ​savior ​anymore ​because ​I'm ​relaxing ​into my ​own ​needs. ​I'm ​leaning ​into my ​own ​creative ​expression ​and ​like ​minded, ​equally ​yoked ​community, ​partnership, ​friendship…​the ​version ​of ​me ​that ​was ​required ​to ​uphold ​the ​nature ​of ​our ​past ​relationship, ​she's ​not ​going ​to ​be ​here. ​That ​undercurrent is ​a ​huge ​part ​of ​what ​will hold ​us back from ​evolving ​into ​the ​next ​version ​or ​the ​next ​stage ​of ​identity ​that ​is ​calling. ​I ​cannot ​overstate ​how ​deep ​that ​runs, ​how ​real ​that ​is ​for ​us.”

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