54 | The Giver, The Grinder & The Pleaser: Rethinking Success

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Is the pursuit of success weighing you down? In this episode, Monique uncovers how ambition can sometimes come at the cost of our deepest dreams.

Listen in as she shares compelling stories of women balancing leadership, motherhood, and personal fulfillment. Through the lens of the 'Giver,' the 'Grinder,' and the 'Pleaser,' she reveals how these identities shape our paths—both fueling and restricting us.

Tune in to learn how to break free from outdated roles, redefine success on your terms, and step into a future of authentic fulfillment.

📢As a special note, Monique is opening her coaching waitlist for March 2025. You can sign up through her website to receive updates and secure a spot for transformative one-on-one coaching.

MENTIONED

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52 | Making The Scary Identity Leap

26 | When Achievement Is No Longer The Goal

15 | Learning To Dream First (CEO Series)

GEMS DROPPED

"Everything ​that you are ​doing could be ​mission ​oriented. ​Everything ​that you are ​doing ​could be ​impact ​driven.​ And ​then ​the ​thing ​that ​is ​not ​getting ​done ​is ​the ​thing ​that you ​desire ​most ​deeply. ​So ​the ​thing ​that you ​wanted ​most is ​the ​thing ​that is ​also ​being ​put ​at ​risk."

"When ​you're ​in ​a ​perpetual ​state ​of ​grind ​over ​years ​and ​years ​and ​years ​and ​years, ​your ​whole ​identity ​begins ​to ​form ​around ​that. ​And ​it's ​really, ​really ​challenging ​to ​see ​how ​it's ​possible ​to ​set ​that ​down ​and ​to ​still ​succeed. ​How ​to ​be ​any ​other ​way even ​when ​you ​know ​what ​is ​at ​stake."

"We ​think ​that ​just ​because ​this ​is ​​the ​version ​or form ​of ​winning ​that ​I've ​ever, ​always ​known ​that ​that ​is ​what ​winning ​is. ​That ​is ​what ​that ​looks ​like ​for ​me. ​That ​is ​what's ​possible ​for ​me. ​With ​the ​strengths ​that ​I ​have, ​with ​the ​weaknesses ​that ​I ​have, ​with ​the ​perspective ​that ​I ​have, ​the ​background that ​I ​have, that ​is ​how ​I ​must ​win. But, ​no, ​that is ​just ​how ​you ​happen ​to ​have ​won ​for ​this ​period ​of ​time. ​Winning can look different."

“The ​ways ​that ​we ​need ​to ​be ​must ​evolve ​if ​we ​want ​our ​successes ​to ​evolve, if ​we ​want ​to elevate ​ourselves. ​We ​constantly talk ​about ​elevating ​our ​voices ​and ​elevating, ​expanding ​our ​impact, those ​things ​don't ​elevate ​and ​expand, ​not ​truly, ​unless ​we ​do.”

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