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How do you balance ambition with your partner?
In our latest episode, Monique explores the delicate balance of managing personal and shared goals within a relationship. Drawing from her own experiences with her husband, she sheds light on the importance of mutual support, communication, and understanding in navigating shared and individual ambitions.
Monique candidly discusses foundational elements that must be in place for a successful partnership, including respect, kindness, and the value of therapy. As the conversation unfolds, Monique introduces actionable tools and strategies, including the concept of "over owning" and the importance of articulating personal desires. She also shares her unique approach to regular "family off-sites," designed to foster alignment and communication about goals and aspirations.
Plus, she’s sharing a FREE tool to help you get started. Tune in to learn more.
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“To ambition as a couple, to ambition with a spouse, requires some foundational things that you just got to have in place such as love, respect, kindness, mutual willingness. If these are missing then there's nothing else to talk about.”
“If you have a habit of feeling like you have to be on top of everything and own everything, it will bleed across multiple areas of your life and work, and it will get you into trouble in various ways.”
“At some point you have to recognize like, okay, well, if I have a holistic view on all the things that I want to accomplish in life and this piece of me over owning is keeping me from the things that I want for myself. It's basically pushing me out of the equation. The solve is simply. You may be setting up your partners to be the intern. So step back and let your partner, your spouse, exercise and build their competence. Because your co-CEOs, your co-leaders, your one, your a unit.”
“We'll convince ourselves that things are scarce when we haven't directed ourselves towards wanting what we want and asserting what we want. And then you move towards what you want and then you create what you want. Like that's kind of how it works. And we don't give ourselves space to do that. We don't take it seriously because we just need to respond to the demands. We need to be reactionary. And I'm telling y', all, if you don't give yourself this space, then no one can get into that space with you and help you build towards it.”
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