June 5, 2024 • 30 mins
What if you could reset your entire life and business with just a few simple tools and strategies? Join me, Damaris Ramirez, as I share my transformative journey on this episode of "Amigas Let's Talk." From tackling the chaotic world of home renovations to managing client projects, I'll introduce you to the magic of self-reflection, digital journaling with Penzu and Day One, and the power of setting SMART goals. Discover how Trello can become your best ally in organizing both personal and professional tasks, ensuring that you stay on top of your game every single day.
But that's not all—we're also diving deep into the quest for a healthy lifestyle. I open up about my experiences with Pilates, the struggles of weight loss, and the importance of a strong support system. Learn how decluttering with the Tody app can clear not just your space but also your mind. Whether you're creating vision boards with Canva or finding joy in passion projects, this episode is packed with actionable self-care and personal development strategies. I also recommend reading "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown to help you embrace your flaws and live authentically. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that could very well be the reset button you've been searching for.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome to Amigas let's Talk, the show
where we discuss life andbusiness and everything in
between.
I am your host, damaris Ramirez, and every week we will bring
you stories and insights,hopefully to inspire you to
think differently.
My goal is that every womanlives her best life.
So, amiga, grab a cup of coffeeor tea and let's talk.
(00:21):
So, amiga, I'm back.
I'm back doing these podcasts,trying to share the message,
trying to create a communitywhere we can share ideas and
help one another.
But before we get back intothat, I thought in this first
episode, back.
I talk about resetting your life, specifically resetting my life
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and my business and the thingsthat I've done to be able to get
back on track.
The first thing that I did wasthink about self-reflection and
journaling, so spending timeevery day writing about my
thoughts, feelings, goals, fromthe very beginning in the
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morning, reflecting on whatmakes me happy and making sure
that I was being able to silencemy mind.
There's a quote that says thesoul always knows what to do to
heal itself.
The challenge is to silence themind, so part of that is
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putting it all down on paper.
To silence the mind, so part ofthat is putting it all down on
paper.
I personally like using ajournal and writing my thoughts
down using a beautiful fountainpen.
If you're the kind of personthat wants to do this, but
you're more of an online youknow everything is on your phone
then there's options for you.
Two of them that I consideredwere Penzu and Day One, and
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maybe one day I'll do that oruse those options if I'm
traveling and I forget mynotebook.
But they both have free optionsand also the in-app paying
services.
So look into them Penzu and DayOne and those might be ones
that might work for you.
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And, don't worry, if you'redriving, I will include all of
the items that I mentioned onthis podcast, on the show notes
which you can get if you aregoing to the platform that you
listen to your podcast and thenyou're going to be able to click
on this episode specifically,and there should be a link to
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show notes and through there youcan get a copy of the items
with some links so that you canhave the information available
if you need it or if you thinksomeone is going through a tough
time and they are now trying toget back on track and you want
to just, you know, share thislink, this podcast.
That might be helpful too.
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The next thing that I did was Iset some goals for myself, some
clear, achievable goals, and youknow I decided, in order to do
that, I would use the you know,always mentioned SMART goals,
which stands for being specific,making sure it's measurable,
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making sure it's attainable andrelevant and that it's time
bound, that there's a specifictime that I'm expecting to get
that task done by.
And that was because I have alot to do.
I have a lot going on and youknow we all have the same amount
of hours in a day and in orderfor me to prioritize, I need to
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make sure that I write thingsdown.
And that I'm specific Alsoallows me to prioritize the
things that need to be done forthe day.
And you know I mean you have tobe realistic.
Sometimes you can't get it alldone, especially if you're going
through a difficult time at thetime or if you're just getting
through a difficult time.
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You know, slowly you're goingto get back to where you were
once before, maybe just a new,normal Right.
So you want to sit down and tryto, you know, write down what
are the things that you want tobe able to accomplish daily,
weekly, possibly monthly, weekly, possibly monthly and then be
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able to go back and see howyou're doing with those tasks,
because you can easily bedistracted by your thoughts.
So, again, there are specifictools that I use.
I personally love, and have usedfor years, the app called
Trello.
I love it, I use it for workand, uh, also life.
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Um, it's a system, it's an appwhere you're creating cards and
then, via these cards, youbasically list what your items
are that you want to accomplish.
Um, then you could also attachdeadlines to them and then you
could, you know, really do sometracking on the progress.
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You could also share theinformation.
I know my husband has one.
There are times when we've hadrenovations in the house and we
both have the Trello app and weuse the free version and we're
able to share and we're alsoable to, once we get a task done
, move it over to the nextcolumn.
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You know we have a done columnso that we know, ok, these
things still need to beaccomplished.
I've even used it if I amhosting I know I've used it to
host, like Thanksgiving dinnerto make a list of what are all
the things that I need to do soI'll have.
I'll have a card that items tobuy at the supermarket or guests
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to invite, or, you know, menu,a list for the menu.
It's really user friendly andeasy.
You're like you know draggingthings over from one list to the
menu.
It's really user-friendly andeasy.
You're like you know draggingthings over from one list to the
other, but you can clearly seewhere things are.
And for business, I like it formany ways, and one of the
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things is listing my client, myactive clients, right?
Maybe non-active clients?
Maybe those are the clientsthat I want to follow up with.
Then I could also use it forprojects, listing what are the
items that I need to accomplishfor this project and then, as
I'm moving along, I can movethose items over.
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So for me, that's the one thatI like to use.
There are many out there thatyou can use.
I I tend to stick to what Iknow works and what I'm used to,
and so that's the one I havethat I'm using currently for my
goals.
The next thing that I've reallydone for resetting my life is
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practicing mindfulness andmeditation, so that is something
that every day, from the minuteI wake up.
It helps me to reduce stressand increase clarity.
It's a process that everybodycan do differently, process that
everybody can do differently,and I think the word meditation
sometimes for people it's alittle scary if they don't know
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what they need to do, but reallyit can be done in any space.
Your version of quiet time itmight not be the same version
that I have.
You might want to use a tool oryou might not.
You might want to just sitquietly in a space where you can
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get your thoughts all together.
For me, I can do many things.
I can meditate quietly in acorner or I can use tools like
the Calm app.
That's one that anybody can use.
They have the free option.
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They have a guided meditation.
So if you're someone who feelslike I think that might help me,
but I don't even know where tostart, you can go to the Calm
app and they will have actualpeople guiding you through the
meditation, speaking to you, andthey also have different
amounts of time.
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So let's say you have limitedtime, let's say you only have
five minutes, or let's say youwant a longer meditation, for
like 30 minutes, that you havethat option too.
So there's the Calm app thathas some really good guided
meditation.
So there's the Calm app thathas some really good guided
meditation, and then there'salso other kinds of devices that
you know are multifunctional,for example the Hash tool, and
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it's basically something thatyou keep in your nightstand and
I have to tell you, for me thatwas life-changing.
I got it a couple of years agofor the purpose of improving my
sleep routines, because I tendto just do so much during the
day that then at night I can'tsleep.
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All the thoughts, all the ideasof what I did during the day,
or what I need to accomplish,what I didn't accomplish, what I
need to accomplish tomorrow,they start racing through my
head and then the next thing,you know, it's two, three, four
in the morning, and now it's thenext day and I didn't get
enough sleep.
So that little device why Ilove it is that it also has
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lights.
So it has a series of differentlights that also help you, your
brain, to understand.
You know when you should begetting up and slowly change can
change from resting to sleeping, to waking up in the morning.
So the lights will change andyou can adjust the colors that
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you want.
So it's definitely amultifunctional tool with light
and sound features that havehelped me in having a better
sleep routine.
It does also have themeditation options, the guided
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meditations, that you can selectvia the app, and it does allow
you to have some free functions.
But if you wanted to increasethe options, then you can do the
monthly plan, which is what Ihave.
At first I thought, well, thismight be like the same as others
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that are out there, that youcan buy the cheaper versions you
know $10, $15 that have youknow, sound and music.
But after I purchased it and Ithink mine was, you know, a
little bit over $100, you know Ithought, oh, did I make a
mistake?
This is a little costly.
But I saw that others wereraving about it and I decided I
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would give it a chance.
And, sure enough, after a whileI realized I would wake up and
I didn't even remember when Iwent to sleep.
I think the brain startsadjusting to the different light
versions and you know it'sspecifically timed and so if you
continue and every day, use itregularly, it does really
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improve your sleep routines Atleast it did for me.
So it might be worth you trying.
You could always return it.
It doesn't work for you, butagain, the name of the actual
tool is called the hash and itlooks like kind of like an egg a
little bit, and I'll leave thelink below.
None of these items that I'mreferring to are items that I'm
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getting an incentive from.
They're not sponsored.
They're just my personal ideasthat I thought you might be
interested in.
All right, the next thing thatI started focusing on is
professional development.
Now, that is something I do allthe time, but during these
tough times, obviouslyeverything had to go to a stop.
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I didn't attend any courses foralmost eight months.
I didn't take any workshops, Iwasn't meeting with my
accountability partner.
None of that was happeningbecause life took over.
I needed to focus on being withmy daughter, being with family,
grieving.
That took a lot of time, butnow that I'm back, I'm starting
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to go back and attend courses,go to conferences.
You know slowly getting backinto it, and that's a key that
you do things slowly when you'reresetting.
If you can't afford to go toconferences or you rather do
things online, you can look intoCoursera or EDX.
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They also have free onlinecourses from Harvard, mit and
Berkeley and you're able toaudit some courses at no fee and
access their content.
So you can do that.
There's also learning throughLinkedIn.
Linkedin offers free one monthtrial for you to check out their
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courses for on business andthose.
I have done those.
They're pretty good.
I did it for a while.
I don't think I have it now,but a you know, everything is
worth trying to see what's abest fit for you and then if you
really need to have the minimuminvestment possible basically
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free then you can always go tothe public library.
There are local options right.
Go to your community college,go to the public library, go to
your local chambers of commerce.
There are some local optionsfor you to continue with your
professional development.
Or if you're getting back intoworking or your entrepreneurial
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project in you know you've had agap in income then that might
be the way you have to go untilyou get back on track, but
that's okay.
The key is that you start, thatyou start doing something and
that you get back on track onthe things that you were working
on.
That we're going to really bewhat we're going to take you to
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success.
The next thing that I had to dois really incorporate a healthy
routine and that'sincorporating regular exercise,
a balanced diet, in addition to,as I mentioned before, getting
sufficient sleep, and this Iknew and I know was going to
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help me with energy andwell-being.
I did find a book at the dollarstore that is worth me
mentioning because I'm reallyloving it.
I'm still reading it and Ireally enjoy it, and the name of
the book is Food FreedomForever Letting Go of Bad Habits
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, guilt and Anxiety Around Food.
The book is written by a woman,her name is Melissa Hartwig,
and she talks about using foodto distract and numb yourself,
and when I read that in thebeginning of the book, I thought
absolutely, because I havegained a little bit of weight
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during this time and I know, youknow, even though it's summer,
I am committed to lose thepounds I gained, and so I could
relate to her statement, and shehas a really interesting story.
I'm not going to get into ithere.
You can go get her book.
As I said, it's Food FreedomForever.
Right now, she's a certifiedsports nutritionist and, you
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know, I think that you shoulddefinitely find ways to create a
healthy routine for yourself,and that's whether you've have
are going through something orhave gone through something, it
doesn't matter or right now yourlife is okay, we all need a
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healthy routine.
So definitely that is somethingI am working on.
For Mother's Day, my daughtergot me a gift certificate for
three private Pilates section,which I'm going to start next
week, and I'm so excited.
I was taking Pilates last yearbefore all the craziness
happened and I absolutely lovedit and it was one of the things
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that I would go to regularly.
And then I wasn't losing theweight, so I thought I'm going
to cancel it and instead join agym.
Then I wasn't losing the weight, so I thought I'm going to
cancel it and instead join a gym.
And guess what happened?
I mean, yes, I didn't go to thegym.
So I think I'm going to go tothese Pilates classes and if I
really enjoy this space, I mightrenew or renew my club Pilates
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or sign up at this new place,because it's not the club
Pilates, it's actually adifferent location.
But and she thought that wouldbe good because then I could,
you know, compare and contrastwith what I've done before and
then figure out my otherexercises that I need to also be
doing.
But, like I said, reallyimportant to establish that
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healthy routine.
And then one of the things thatdefinitely the next thing I
want to mention and this issomething that is key and really
helped me through this time washaving a great support system,
connecting with people, and youknow what I would say Having.
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Sometimes you just are so sad ifyou're going through something
that you don't want to speak toanyone.
So, for everyone listening tothis podcast, if you know
someone who's going throughstuff, you need to reach out to
them.
You need to just call and sayis you know, just checking in?
You know you don't even bothersaying are you?
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Okay, you could, but thereality is they're probably
going through something verydifficult and you might not be
able to relate.
Most of my friends would calland say just checking in.
Just knowing that they werechecking in really really was
something that touched me and Irealized you know, they really
don't need anything from me.
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They don't want anything.
They are just calling to checkin and sometimes I needed that,
you know, call to lift me andneeded that community of family
and friends to support me andmotivate me, and you know you
want to surround yourself withthose kind of people.
So definitely do that anddefinitely reach out to people
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if you know that they're goingthrough something and, you know,
offer your support.
The next thing for reset thatI've had to really focus on and
this is this is a big one for meis decluttering and organizing,
and that's because I didn'tfeel like cleaning and
organizing.
You know, when you are goingthrough stuff, most of the time
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you're just thinking aboutwhat's going on and you know at
least for me, maybe other peoplethat's how they deal with
stress.
That was not how I dealt withstress.
Ignoring it is how I dealt withstress.
So you want to make sure thatyou can declutter.
You know it helps you not onlyphysically but mentally.
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It will help you mentally ifyou declutter, and that's what
science has proven.
You want to organize eitheryour workspace, your living
space, and you want to have amore conducive environment so
that you can then be productiveand you could be relaxed.
And one of the ways that Ifound and at first I thought, oh
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, I don't know if this is goingto work, but I love it.
And this is the Tati app.
That's T-O-D-Y Tati app.
You have to get it if you're abusy person I would almost say
even if you have a cleaningservice this little app you put
in all your rooms.
Right, they have some roomsthat already are listed, but you
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can edit and add your own.
And then it helps you toorganize and manage your
cleaning tasks by breaking themdown into smaller tasks.
It even allows you to createcustom cleaning plans.
You can see the progress.
There's little check marks whenyou say that you've completed
something.
It sends you reminders andnotifications.
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You can share it with yourfamily.
You reminders and notifications.
You can share it with yourfamily, and it even has
motivational features forcleaning your tasks by grouping
things into goals and challenges.
So I really, I really love it.
I think you should check it out.
All right, amiga, I'm going togive you three more things that
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I've done to reset.
So one of them is pursuing mypassion projects.
So for me, I'm in my happyplace.
I have a background in art andtaking time to do hobbies, to do
activities that I'm passionateabout.
For me, that's what hasrejuvenated my spirit and that
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is what I really enjoy.
For you, it might not be thatit might not be hobbies, but
there's many things that you cando to pursue passion projects
and you know I'll give you anidea of some of them here.
You can create a vision boardfor yourself.
Get some magazines or printsome things, and you know I'll
give you an idea of some of themhere.
You can create a vision boardfor yourself.
Get some magazines or printsome things, and you know it's
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the activity of actually puttingthem on a board, cutting it out
, taping it, thinking about itand then having it around.
We've all heard about thesevision boards.
They now have online visionboards.
I believe you can create one onCanva.
So if you don't have posterboard, you can.
You can create one on Canva.
So if you don't have posterboard, you can at least create
one on Canva.
I actually haven't, but I thinkI'm going to, because I know
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that then you can put that asyour screensaver, which then you
see it every day, and I lovethat idea.
So I think I'm going to do thatand create one one of these
weekends.
You can also attend events orshows for me.
I've attended a couple of showslately and I decided let me try
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something new Again.
This is so that your mind canfocus on new things.
If it's something new, thenit's harder for you to be
present.
It's harder for you to bepresent and distracted by
thoughts that you're having.
So one of the things that I didis.
The first thing I think that Idid is I purchased tickets to go
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to the opera.
I've never been to the opera.
I actually loved the opera.
I didn't even know what toexpect.
So the anticipation of going tothe opera and honestly, I
bought two tickets but I told myhusband, you can come, or if
you're not interested, then I'llfind a friend.
If I doing things, even if noone can go with you, then just
go on your own.
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But you need to get out, youneed to do things.
I say, more importantly, do newthings, as I said before,
because that's going to help youreally to be present, and I
really enjoyed it.
I also went to Cirque du Soleil, which I love, and I think the
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last thing that I did was thatwas new was I went to the Ballet
Hispanico, which was beautifulin New York City.
So again, go on your own or gowith a friend, but definitely go
out and do some passionprojects.
And the next thing that I wantto mention that I also do is
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practice gratitude, and that Iusually do in the evenings in my
journal and I just basicallywrite down.
You know what are the thingsthat I'm thankful for for that
day, especially having gonethrough a difficult time and the
time that my daughter so youcan imagine has gone through
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just being grateful that youknow she's okay and that she's
going to be okay, and that youknow life just sometimes we have
challenges and we have to getthrough them.
Besides having a journal, I didcheck out an app called
Gratitude.
It's a mobile app that can helpyou with habits of gratitude,
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and I thought it was pretty.
I thought that it had some goodprompts.
It also has inspirationalquotes that you can see every
day, that you can even share onInstagram or social media
platforms.
So I thought that part of itwas good.
The only thing I didn't like issome of the functions that I
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wanted to use are paid and I wasonly using the trial.
So I don't know if you've usedthe Gratitude app.
Comment below or comment in theshow notes.
So if you've used the Gratitudemobile app, let below or
comment in the show notes.
So if you've used the gratitudemobile app, let me know.
Let me know what your thoughtsare and what you think about it
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and if you're still using it,and then maybe I'll consider it
again.
And then the last number 10 itemfor reset that I am doing and
that I would highly recommendfor you is to prioritize
yourself, prioritize self-careand relaxation.
And there's a quote that saysalmost everything will work
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again if you unplug it for a fewminutes.
And that is including you.
And I thought that was funnybecause all the times that I've
called when I used to have cableI would call and say my cable's
not working they always saidwhy don't we unplug it for 10
seconds?
So when I heard this quote, Isaid, oh, that sounds really,
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really nice.
Yes, let's unplug, and you know, hopefully we'll work again.
So you know, try to do andprioritize yourself, prioritize
self-care.
Have a spa day.
If you can't go to the spa,then have one at home.
You can always go to the dollarstore.
They sell masks there.
They'll sell lotions.
Also, they sell nail polish.
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You can have a spa day at home.
Um, and you know, these are justsome inexpensive or free.
You can go outdoor, take ascenic walk, you can do, as
we've discussed earlier,journaling and writing.
And one of the ones that isreally good for self care and
prioritizing yourself andaccepting yourself is a book by
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Brene Brown and the title of itis the Gifts of Imperfection,
and in this book she wants youto embrace your imperfections,
she wants you to livewholeheartedly and she gives
advice on how to cultivate amore authentic and fulfilling
life.
It's a nice book, I think youknow.
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It's a good read for everyone,especially if you're trying to
prioritize self-care.
So here you have it, amigas my10 ways that I've been able to
reset my life.
I hope these are helpful foryou or a friend, and definitely
I want you to come back and getthe PDF of the list, like I said
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, of all these items.
I'm looking forward to havingyou all in my community again.
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Hello and welcome to Amigas let's Talk, the show
where we discuss life andbusiness and everything in
between.
I am your host, damaris Ramirez, and every week we will bring
you stories and insights,hopefully to inspire you to
think differently.
My goal is that every womanlives her best life.
So, amiga, grab a cup of coffeeor tea and let's talk.
(00:21):
So, amiga, I'm back.
I'm back doing these podcasts,trying to share the message,
trying to create a communitywhere we can share ideas and
help one another.
But before we get back intothat, I thought in this first
episode, back.
I talk about resetting your life, specifically resetting my life
(00:42):
and my business and the thingsthat I've done to be able to get
back on track.
The first thing that I did wasthink about self-reflection and
journaling, so spending timeevery day writing about my
thoughts, feelings, goals, fromthe very beginning in the
(01:02):
morning, reflecting on whatmakes me happy and making sure
that I was being able to silencemy mind.
There's a quote that says thesoul always knows what to do to
heal itself.
The challenge is to silence themind, so part of that is
(01:23):
putting it all down on paper.
To silence the mind, so part ofthat is putting it all down on
paper.
I personally like using ajournal and writing my thoughts
down using a beautiful fountainpen.
If you're the kind of personthat wants to do this, but
you're more of an online youknow everything is on your phone
then there's options for you.
Two of them that I consideredwere Penzu and Day One, and
(01:48):
maybe one day I'll do that oruse those options if I'm
traveling and I forget mynotebook.
But they both have free optionsand also the in-app paying
services.
So look into them Penzu and DayOne and those might be ones
that might work for you.
(02:08):
And, don't worry, if you'redriving, I will include all of
the items that I mentioned onthis podcast, on the show notes
which you can get if you aregoing to the platform that you
listen to your podcast and thenyou're going to be able to click
on this episode specifically,and there should be a link to
(02:32):
show notes and through there youcan get a copy of the items
with some links so that you canhave the information available
if you need it or if you thinksomeone is going through a tough
time and they are now trying toget back on track and you want
to just, you know, share thislink, this podcast.
That might be helpful too.
(02:53):
The next thing that I did was Iset some goals for myself, some
clear, achievable goals, and youknow I decided, in order to do
that, I would use the you know,always mentioned SMART goals,
which stands for being specific,making sure it's measurable,
(03:16):
making sure it's attainable andrelevant and that it's time
bound, that there's a specifictime that I'm expecting to get
that task done by.
And that was because I have alot to do.
I have a lot going on and youknow we all have the same amount
of hours in a day and in orderfor me to prioritize, I need to
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make sure that I write thingsdown.
And that I'm specific Alsoallows me to prioritize the
things that need to be done forthe day.
And you know I mean you have tobe realistic.
Sometimes you can't get it alldone, especially if you're going
through a difficult time at thetime or if you're just getting
through a difficult time.
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You know, slowly you're goingto get back to where you were
once before, maybe just a new,normal Right.
So you want to sit down and tryto, you know, write down what
are the things that you want tobe able to accomplish daily,
weekly, possibly monthly, weekly, possibly monthly and then be
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able to go back and see howyou're doing with those tasks,
because you can easily bedistracted by your thoughts.
So, again, there are specifictools that I use.
I personally love, and have usedfor years, the app called
Trello.
I love it, I use it for workand, uh, also life.
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Um, it's a system, it's an appwhere you're creating cards and
then, via these cards, youbasically list what your items
are that you want to accomplish.
Um, then you could also attachdeadlines to them and then you
could, you know, really do sometracking on the progress.
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You could also share theinformation.
I know my husband has one.
There are times when we've hadrenovations in the house and we
both have the Trello app and weuse the free version and we're
able to share and we're alsoable to, once we get a task done
, move it over to the nextcolumn.
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You know we have a done columnso that we know, ok, these
things still need to beaccomplished.
I've even used it if I amhosting I know I've used it to
host, like Thanksgiving dinnerto make a list of what are all
the things that I need to do soI'll have.
I'll have a card that items tobuy at the supermarket or guests
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to invite, or, you know, menu,a list for the menu.
It's really user friendly andeasy.
You're like you know draggingthings over from one list to the
menu.
It's really user-friendly andeasy.
You're like you know draggingthings over from one list to the
other, but you can clearly seewhere things are.
And for business, I like it formany ways, and one of the
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things is listing my client, myactive clients, right?
Maybe non-active clients?
Maybe those are the clientsthat I want to follow up with.
Then I could also use it forprojects, listing what are the
items that I need to accomplishfor this project and then, as
I'm moving along, I can movethose items over.
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So for me, that's the one thatI like to use.
There are many out there thatyou can use.
I I tend to stick to what Iknow works and what I'm used to,
and so that's the one I havethat I'm using currently for my
goals.
The next thing that I've reallydone for resetting my life is
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practicing mindfulness andmeditation, so that is something
that every day, from the minuteI wake up.
It helps me to reduce stressand increase clarity.
It's a process that everybodycan do differently, process that
everybody can do differently,and I think the word meditation
sometimes for people it's alittle scary if they don't know
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what they need to do, but reallyit can be done in any space.
Your version of quiet time itmight not be the same version
that I have.
You might want to use a tool oryou might not.
You might want to just sitquietly in a space where you can
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get your thoughts all together.
For me, I can do many things.
I can meditate quietly in acorner or I can use tools like
the Calm app.
That's one that anybody can use.
They have the free option.
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They have a guided meditation.
So if you're someone who feelslike I think that might help me,
but I don't even know where tostart, you can go to the Calm
app and they will have actualpeople guiding you through the
meditation, speaking to you, andthey also have different
amounts of time.
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So let's say you have limitedtime, let's say you only have
five minutes, or let's say youwant a longer meditation, for
like 30 minutes, that you havethat option too.
So there's the Calm app thathas some really good guided
meditation.
So there's the Calm app thathas some really good guided
meditation, and then there'salso other kinds of devices that
you know are multifunctional,for example the Hash tool, and
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it's basically something thatyou keep in your nightstand and
I have to tell you, for me thatwas life-changing.
I got it a couple of years agofor the purpose of improving my
sleep routines, because I tendto just do so much during the
day that then at night I can'tsleep.
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All the thoughts, all the ideasof what I did during the day,
or what I need to accomplish,what I didn't accomplish, what I
need to accomplish tomorrow,they start racing through my
head and then the next thing,you know, it's two, three, four
in the morning, and now it's thenext day and I didn't get
enough sleep.
So that little device why Ilove it is that it also has
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lights.
So it has a series of differentlights that also help you, your
brain, to understand.
You know when you should begetting up and slowly change can
change from resting to sleeping, to waking up in the morning.
So the lights will change andyou can adjust the colors that
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you want.
So it's definitely amultifunctional tool with light
and sound features that havehelped me in having a better
sleep routine.
It does also have themeditation options, the guided
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meditations, that you can selectvia the app, and it does allow
you to have some free functions.
But if you wanted to increasethe options, then you can do the
monthly plan, which is what Ihave.
At first I thought, well, thismight be like the same as others
(10:40):
that are out there, that youcan buy the cheaper versions you
know $10, $15 that have youknow, sound and music.
But after I purchased it and Ithink mine was, you know, a
little bit over $100, you know Ithought, oh, did I make a
mistake?
This is a little costly.
But I saw that others wereraving about it and I decided I
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would give it a chance.
And, sure enough, after a whileI realized I would wake up and
I didn't even remember when Iwent to sleep.
I think the brain startsadjusting to the different light
versions and you know it'sspecifically timed and so if you
continue and every day, use itregularly, it does really
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improve your sleep routines Atleast it did for me.
So it might be worth you trying.
You could always return it.
It doesn't work for you, butagain, the name of the actual
tool is called the hash and itlooks like kind of like an egg a
little bit, and I'll leave thelink below.
None of these items that I'mreferring to are items that I'm
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getting an incentive from.
They're not sponsored.
They're just my personal ideasthat I thought you might be
interested in.
All right, the next thing thatI started focusing on is
professional development.
Now, that is something I do allthe time, but during these
tough times, obviouslyeverything had to go to a stop.
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I didn't attend any courses foralmost eight months.
I didn't take any workshops, Iwasn't meeting with my
accountability partner.
None of that was happeningbecause life took over.
I needed to focus on being withmy daughter, being with family,
grieving.
That took a lot of time, butnow that I'm back, I'm starting
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to go back and attend courses,go to conferences.
You know slowly getting backinto it, and that's a key that
you do things slowly when you'reresetting.
If you can't afford to go toconferences or you rather do
things online, you can look intoCoursera or EDX.
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They also have free onlinecourses from Harvard, mit and
Berkeley and you're able toaudit some courses at no fee and
access their content.
So you can do that.
There's also learning throughLinkedIn.
Linkedin offers free one monthtrial for you to check out their
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courses for on business andthose.
I have done those.
They're pretty good.
I did it for a while.
I don't think I have it now,but a you know, everything is
worth trying to see what's abest fit for you and then if you
really need to have the minimuminvestment possible basically
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free then you can always go tothe public library.
There are local options right.
Go to your community college,go to the public library, go to
your local chambers of commerce.
There are some local optionsfor you to continue with your
professional development.
Or if you're getting back intoworking or your entrepreneurial
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project in you know you've had agap in income then that might
be the way you have to go untilyou get back on track, but
that's okay.
The key is that you start, thatyou start doing something and
that you get back on track onthe things that you were working
on.
That we're going to really bewhat we're going to take you to
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success.
The next thing that I had to dois really incorporate a healthy
routine and that'sincorporating regular exercise,
a balanced diet, in addition to,as I mentioned before, getting
sufficient sleep, and this Iknew and I know was going to
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help me with energy andwell-being.
I did find a book at the dollarstore that is worth me
mentioning because I'm reallyloving it.
I'm still reading it and Ireally enjoy it, and the name of
the book is Food FreedomForever Letting Go of Bad Habits
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, guilt and Anxiety Around Food.
The book is written by a woman,her name is Melissa Hartwig,
and she talks about using foodto distract and numb yourself,
and when I read that in thebeginning of the book, I thought
absolutely, because I havegained a little bit of weight
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during this time and I know, youknow, even though it's summer,
I am committed to lose thepounds I gained, and so I could
relate to her statement, and shehas a really interesting story.
I'm not going to get into ithere.
You can go get her book.
As I said, it's Food FreedomForever.
Right now, she's a certifiedsports nutritionist and, you
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know, I think that you shoulddefinitely find ways to create a
healthy routine for yourself,and that's whether you've have
are going through something orhave gone through something, it
doesn't matter or right now yourlife is okay, we all need a
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healthy routine.
So definitely that is somethingI am working on.
For Mother's Day, my daughtergot me a gift certificate for
three private Pilates section,which I'm going to start next
week, and I'm so excited.
I was taking Pilates last yearbefore all the craziness
happened and I absolutely lovedit and it was one of the things
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that I would go to regularly.
And then I wasn't losing theweight, so I thought I'm going
to cancel it and instead join agym.
Then I wasn't losing the weight, so I thought I'm going to
cancel it and instead join a gym.
And guess what happened?
I mean, yes, I didn't go to thegym.
So I think I'm going to go tothese Pilates classes and if I
really enjoy this space, I mightrenew or renew my club Pilates
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or sign up at this new place,because it's not the club
Pilates, it's actually adifferent location.
But and she thought that wouldbe good because then I could,
you know, compare and contrastwith what I've done before and
then figure out my otherexercises that I need to also be
doing.
But, like I said, reallyimportant to establish that
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healthy routine.
And then one of the things thatdefinitely the next thing I
want to mention and this issomething that is key and really
helped me through this time washaving a great support system,
connecting with people, and youknow what I would say Having.
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Sometimes you just are so sad ifyou're going through something
that you don't want to speak toanyone.
So, for everyone listening tothis podcast, if you know
someone who's going throughstuff, you need to reach out to
them.
You need to just call and sayis you know, just checking in?
You know you don't even bothersaying are you?
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Okay, you could, but thereality is they're probably
going through something verydifficult and you might not be
able to relate.
Most of my friends would calland say just checking in.
Just knowing that they werechecking in really really was
something that touched me and Irealized you know, they really
don't need anything from me.
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They don't want anything.
They are just calling to checkin and sometimes I needed that,
you know, call to lift me andneeded that community of family
and friends to support me andmotivate me, and you know you
want to surround yourself withthose kind of people.
So definitely do that anddefinitely reach out to people
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if you know that they're goingthrough something and, you know,
offer your support.
The next thing for reset thatI've had to really focus on and
this is this is a big one for meis decluttering and organizing,
and that's because I didn'tfeel like cleaning and
organizing.
You know, when you are goingthrough stuff, most of the time
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you're just thinking aboutwhat's going on and you know at
least for me, maybe other peoplethat's how they deal with
stress.
That was not how I dealt withstress.
Ignoring it is how I dealt withstress.
So you want to make sure thatyou can declutter.
You know it helps you not onlyphysically but mentally.
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It will help you mentally ifyou declutter, and that's what
science has proven.
You want to organize eitheryour workspace, your living
space, and you want to have amore conducive environment so
that you can then be productiveand you could be relaxed.
And one of the ways that Ifound and at first I thought, oh
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, I don't know if this is goingto work, but I love it.
And this is the Tati app.
That's T-O-D-Y Tati app.
You have to get it if you're abusy person I would almost say
even if you have a cleaningservice this little app you put
in all your rooms.
Right, they have some roomsthat already are listed, but you
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can edit and add your own.
And then it helps you toorganize and manage your
cleaning tasks by breaking themdown into smaller tasks.
It even allows you to createcustom cleaning plans.
You can see the progress.
There's little check marks whenyou say that you've completed
something.
It sends you reminders andnotifications.
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You can share it with yourfamily.
You reminders and notifications.
You can share it with yourfamily, and it even has
motivational features forcleaning your tasks by grouping
things into goals and challenges.
So I really, I really love it.
I think you should check it out.
All right, amiga, I'm going togive you three more things that
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I've done to reset.
So one of them is pursuing mypassion projects.
So for me, I'm in my happyplace.
I have a background in art andtaking time to do hobbies, to do
activities that I'm passionateabout.
For me, that's what hasrejuvenated my spirit and that
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is what I really enjoy.
For you, it might not be thatit might not be hobbies, but
there's many things that you cando to pursue passion projects
and you know I'll give you anidea of some of them here.
You can create a vision boardfor yourself.
Get some magazines or printsome things, and you know I'll
give you an idea of some of themhere.
You can create a vision boardfor yourself.
Get some magazines or printsome things, and you know it's
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the activity of actually puttingthem on a board, cutting it out
, taping it, thinking about itand then having it around.
We've all heard about thesevision boards.
They now have online visionboards.
I believe you can create one onCanva.
So if you don't have posterboard, you can.
You can create one on Canva.
So if you don't have posterboard, you can at least create
one on Canva.
I actually haven't, but I thinkI'm going to, because I know
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that then you can put that asyour screensaver, which then you
see it every day, and I lovethat idea.
So I think I'm going to do thatand create one one of these
weekends.
You can also attend events orshows for me.
I've attended a couple of showslately and I decided let me try
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something new Again.
This is so that your mind canfocus on new things.
If it's something new, thenit's harder for you to be
present.
It's harder for you to bepresent and distracted by
thoughts that you're having.
So one of the things that I didis.
The first thing I think that Idid is I purchased tickets to go
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to the opera.
I've never been to the opera.
I actually loved the opera.
I didn't even know what toexpect.
So the anticipation of going tothe opera and honestly, I
bought two tickets but I told myhusband, you can come, or if
you're not interested, then I'llfind a friend.
If I doing things, even if noone can go with you, then just
go on your own.
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But you need to get out, youneed to do things.
I say, more importantly, do newthings, as I said before,
because that's going to help youreally to be present, and I
really enjoyed it.
I also went to Cirque du Soleil, which I love, and I think the
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last thing that I did was thatwas new was I went to the Ballet
Hispanico, which was beautifulin New York City.
So again, go on your own or gowith a friend, but definitely go
out and do some passionprojects.
And the next thing that I wantto mention that I also do is
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practice gratitude, and that Iusually do in the evenings in my
journal and I just basicallywrite down.
You know what are the thingsthat I'm thankful for for that
day, especially having gonethrough a difficult time and the
time that my daughter so youcan imagine has gone through
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just being grateful that youknow she's okay and that she's
going to be okay, and that youknow life just sometimes we have
challenges and we have to getthrough them.
Besides having a journal, I didcheck out an app called
Gratitude.
It's a mobile app that can helpyou with habits of gratitude,
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and I thought it was pretty.
I thought that it had some goodprompts.
It also has inspirationalquotes that you can see every
day, that you can even share onInstagram or social media
platforms.
So I thought that part of itwas good.
The only thing I didn't like issome of the functions that I
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wanted to use are paid and I wasonly using the trial.
So I don't know if you've usedthe Gratitude app.
Comment below or comment in theshow notes.
So if you've used the Gratitudemobile app, let below or
comment in the show notes.
So if you've used the gratitudemobile app, let me know.
Let me know what your thoughtsare and what you think about it
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and if you're still using it,and then maybe I'll consider it
again.
And then the last number 10 itemfor reset that I am doing and
that I would highly recommendfor you is to prioritize
yourself, prioritize self-careand relaxation.
And there's a quote that saysalmost everything will work
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again if you unplug it for a fewminutes.
And that is including you.
And I thought that was funnybecause all the times that I've
called when I used to have cableI would call and say my cable's
not working they always saidwhy don't we unplug it for 10
seconds?
So when I heard this quote, Isaid, oh, that sounds really,
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really nice.
Yes, let's unplug, and you know, hopefully we'll work again.
So you know, try to do andprioritize yourself, prioritize
self-care.
Have a spa day.
If you can't go to the spa,then have one at home.
You can always go to the dollarstore.
They sell masks there.
They'll sell lotions.
Also, they sell nail polish.
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You can have a spa day at home.
Um, and you know, these are justsome inexpensive or free.
You can go outdoor, take ascenic walk, you can do, as
we've discussed earlier,journaling and writing.
And one of the ones that isreally good for self care and
prioritizing yourself andaccepting yourself is a book by
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Brene Brown and the title of itis the Gifts of Imperfection,
and in this book she wants youto embrace your imperfections,
she wants you to livewholeheartedly and she gives
advice on how to cultivate amore authentic and fulfilling
life.
It's a nice book, I think youknow.
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It's a good read for everyone,especially if you're trying to
prioritize self-care.
So here you have it, amigas my10 ways that I've been able to
reset my life.
I hope these are helpful foryou or a friend, and definitely
I want you to come back and getthe PDF of the list, like I said
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, of all these items.
I'm looking forward to havingyou all in my community again.
Invite a friend and we'll betalking soon.
Thanks, thank you for makingAmiga's let's Talk part of your
day.
We hope you enjoyed listeningto today's episode and be sure
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Today, until next time, bye,thank you, thank you.
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