October 6, 2022 • 41 mins
Founder of Unleash Your Shine
“What could be possible if you played full out with the level of courage you have never had before?” - Brittany Horn
Brittany moved from food stamps and an eviction notice to becoming a nationally acclaimed author and speaker. Brittany shares her strategies on how to find your shine.
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Welcome to and then it's a podcast we look at what
comes after the struggle, atough season or a setback. My
name is Suzie Chafin. I'm momfor a wife Kota, an author, a
business owner and a coach. Butwhat I'm most passionate about
is helping people transitionfrom struggle to striving to
absolutely thriving. Today, Ihad the honor of interviewing
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Miss Brittany horn, who is thefounder of the unleash your
shine movement, and creator ofthe unleash unleash your shine
mastermind for high impactfemale entrepreneurs. Brittany
certainly knows the struggleguys. And just to give you a
little sneak peek, she went fromeviction notices, food stamps,
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and nearly $250,000 of tax debtto becoming a nationally known
speaker, award winningentrepreneur, and peak
performance coach for femaleentrepreneurs all over the
country. Nothing lights Brittanymore up than activating untapped
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potential and others, andhelping women create success in
their business. So they canincrease her influence, increase
their income, increase theirimpact, and become the women God
created them to be. We are soexcited to have Brittany.
Brittany, welcome. Thank you somuch for being here. I so
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appreciate you hopping on thispodcast to share your story of
the struggle, very big struggle,actually two struggles that
we're gonna dive into today. Howyou found you're surviving, and
then absolutely right now youare in the thriving, you are
doing fantastic. And it's sofun. It has been so fun to know
you all these years and watchyou grow and develop into this
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nationally acclaimed speaker andauthor and all the crazy things
that you're doing now. Socongratulations on your success.
And thank you for being here.
Absolutely. Well, I just have tofirst say I'm so delighted to be
here, Susie. And just what anhonor and gift it is to know you
and to be a part of yourpodcast. I just honored you for
the mission. And really what youare creating in putting this
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together you're going to bechanging so many people's lives
through is this as you sharestories of where people have
been giving other people hope.
So I just want to acknowledgeyou for that. So she so what
were things like for Britneywhen they weren't so pretty so
right. So we have a couple, youknow, I want to take you back to
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there's really when I firstbecame an entrepreneur, it was
2012. And I was in my early 20s.
I had never launched anythingbefore. I'd never been a
business owner before. And Ireally had no idea how to sell
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had no Omkar at this point, buta lot of ambition and decided
that I was going to find a wayto make this succeed. And so
there was I said yes tolaunching a neighborhood
franchise magazine. And wentoff, I was so certain that it
was probably going to take memaybe, you know, three months to
create this product fromnothing. But there I was Suzy
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after nine months of doing this.
And I will take you to exactlythe moment where I was sitting
on my couch in my, in myapartment where I was, I
remember looking at my phone andthere was an eviction notice
from my landlord that said, youknow, Brittany, if you have not
paid you have not paid your rentfor two months. And if we don't
get some cash here really fast,you're not going to be living
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here any longer. And so there Iwas, just the day prior, I had
missed my bus. I was runningdown the highway, yes, holding
my heels in my suit and alltrying to get get to this
meeting. And then which I didmake it to my meeting,
everything worked. And then thatnight, I went to my serving job
that I remember falling asleepstanding up. I was so tired. And
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in the bathroom that they had tocome in and wake me up to tell
me a table was there. Oh, therewas no Can you imagine? It was
about 100 hours a week when Ihad added it all up between the
magazine I was trying to launchin the serving job. I remember
I'm sitting on the couch andlooking at this text, my food
stamp money for the week it wasabout to be finished. I remember
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I had 27 cents in my bankaccount. And there I was, and I
was like God, how is this goingto work? But I made a decision.
I said, if I'm committed I knowI will always find a way if I'm
committed I will find a way andtherein entered my very first
business coach. So at thatpoint, I had someone come in
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that said you know Brittany, andthey started speaking life into
me when I didn't see it in mice.
So all I saw was what was infront of me. And I felt like I
was failing, I felt like it wasnever gonna work. If you're
listening to this, maybe you'vebeen at that place sometime in
the past. Or maybe you're thereright now where you're where
you're, you're you find yourselfsaying, I thought I'd be farther
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along right now, I thoughtthings would look different
right now, I didn't really fit,I thought this would be a little
bit easier than what I'm seeingright now. And that's where I
was. And so this coach came inand said, you know, Brittany,
this is who I see you to be. Andthey started reminding me of who
I was. And they said, We'regoing to just take it one step
at a time, I'm going to take youunder my wing, I'm going to
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teach you how to sell I'm goingto teach you how to run a
business, I'm going to teach youhow to grow and build a team and
your staff. And I said, youknow, I don't really believe you
right now, because I don't seeit. But you're gonna I'm gonna
go on this blind faith, I'mgonna let you be the flashlight
for me. And because all I sawwas darkness, that there's only
black in front of me. But Isaid, you know, I'm gonna let
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you be the flashlight. And soI'm just going to take this next
step, you told me this, and I'mjust going to trust that it's
going to work. And Susie, youwould not even believe it, they
were right. And So lo andbehold, there it was, a few
months later, I baby step bybaby step one step at a time, I
ended up having a magazine, andno longer needed to run down the
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highway with the bus anymore.
Because I did get my first car,I no longer worked at the
serving job, because I was ableto support myself moved out of
the apartment, and didn't haveto do food stamps any longer.
And it was just it was such agift to know that I could have
not done it if somebody elsehadn't painted the way for me.
And I said yes, to just thatbaby step and going on that
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teeny, tiny piece of faith. AndI'll tell you, Susie, the next
time I saw my coach in person,you better believe what I gave
them as a present. And it was aflashlight. That's awesome.
Because they were the flashlightfor me. And so that was my very
first foray intoentrepreneurship. And, and and,
and the learning piece of thecurve of what it means to be a
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business owner. Yeah,absolutely.
I love that. Really, thetransformation started with that
one decision that you made to becommitted. I mean, even though
the circumstances around youlooked completely impossible, 27
cents in the bank account. Nomore food stamps getting an
eviction notice. I mean, howmaking that decision? I think
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everybody in that place, it'slike, we've all would have been
like, Oh, I get it. Brittany,why you would have quit? Yeah, I
understand. That's hard. But youdidn't quit. You push, you push
through, you made the decision.
And you leaned on the help froma coach who spoke life into you.
I think I think that's sopowerful. And that was just
really the kind of theforeshadowing of what was to
come next, right.
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Mm hmm. You know, and it is itbeing an entrepreneur has so
many different chapters to it.
And it's like, I like to call itthe roller coaster, you know,
we're up here. And then we haveanother little dip and then
we're going up again. And youknow, as long as you keep your
seatbelt on Brittany horn, thenyou're not going to fly off the
roller coaster. So I went on aroller coaster of an adventure.
So I launched my magazine, andwithin a year had built up to a
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six figure plus profit over 10kplus a month, I had been given
the opportunity to start leadingand overseeing other people and
helping them build theirbusiness and kind of our Midwest
region. And I loved it. It wasso much fun to see other people
and pulling out that potentialin them. Then I like to have a I
like to call what I had my yearof Ryan when I met my wonderful
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husband Ryan. And during thatpoint, when we after we had
gotten married, we both hadassumed about a quarter of a
million dollars in tax debt. Sothat's a to about $250,000 of
tax debt that we owe to the IRS.
He was a business owner, I was abusiness owner. And we both had
a that's what we brought to ourmarriage and our six months
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after we got married. I willnever forget the day Suze it was
a Wednesday afternoon and Iremember it was I had just got
my hair done that day. And itwas like this nice spring day
and I'm walking into the grocerystore and I can still feel the
the the wind like whippingacross my face. And I was like
this is such a great day. It'sawesome. I was just like on you
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know, on and I got all thegroceries and I'm checking out
in the conveyor belt is rightthere, put my card in the slot
all the groceries are back in mycart, I'm ready to go to the car
and my car declines. Like whatis going on? There's money in my
bank account. Why is my cardeclining? And the wonderful
lady is like, you know, yourcard didn't go through let's
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let's put this let's put thisput this in again. So I put my
card in again, and it's stilldeclined. So pull up my phone
and looked at my banking app.
And in that moment, it read IRStax levy, and there was read
negative $100 Oh, Ah. So in thatmoment, I looked at all of our
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accounts, every single pennythat we had was gone. Every
account, every savings, everychecking, and it was all gone.
So there, I was walking out ofthe grocery store. And I
remember I left all my groceriesright there on the side, I had
to tell them, hey, I'm so sorry,I can't pay for this. And I
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walked out. And it was like, Ifelt like everything.
It was like there was like,someone must have felt if they
had a fire, and they losteverything they had. But yet
there was in inside of me thispiece of God, I'm yours, and I
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trust you, you're going to,you're going to take care of us,
and it's going to be okay. Buteven in that moment, I remember
sitting in the car in theparking lot, and gripping the
steering wheel. And it's like,I've all like, I felt this, it
was like this gorilla wassitting on my chest, and I could
barely even breathe. And I waslike, we're going to find a way.
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It was like that same resolvewhen I was sitting on the couch
with the text from my landlord.
I don't know how this is goingto work. But if I'm committed,
we're going to find a way. And Icalled my wonderful husband who
sits there and starts praying onthe phone as I'm crying. I'm
like, Well, we're going to dothis. And we came home. And the
first thing he said wasBrittany, how can we make this
fun? What did you make us whatan amazing husband I have
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losing. And so we sat there, andwe laughed a little bit, cried a
little bit, and said, Okay, God,what's our next step. And there
in suddenly was the next pieceof my entrepreneurial adventure.
And what that we what thatlooked like to rebuild a
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business completely fromscratch. At that point, I
remember, it was May 31. So allof our bills, everything we owed
was due the very next day. And Ican tell you, Susie is only by
the grace of God one step at atime, that we ended up going
from that place to rebuild abusiness back. But it didn't, it
wasn't easy. It didn't justhappen. And I'll tell you, there
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was another moment, it wasprobably maybe four or five
months after after this hadhappened. When I remember, it
was three o'clock in theafternoon, and I am in my bed in
my pajamas, and I'm on him Whatdo you know, another coaching
call, and this this, and I am onthe phone, and I remember, I
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mean, my pajamas, okay? Likehaving, you know, and, and all I
remember saying was I am such afailure all I'm failing at
everything, I cannot do this,there's no way this will happen.
And, and I'm literally likeyelling into the phone. And this
wonderful person on the otherend of the line, once again,
starts speaking life back to me,Brittany, you haven't failed,
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you're just not finished yet.
You haven't failed, you're justnot finished yet. This is what I
see in you, you can do this.
Remember where you've been.
Remember what you've alreadyovercome. If you're listening to
this podcast, remember whatyou've done. Remember what
you've already overcome, you cando this, we're just going to do
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one little piece at a time,you're looking at everything
right now. That's why it seemsimpossible. But all we're going
to do is we're gonna focus onthe next right step. So girl,
you're gonna go, you're gonnatake a shower, and then you're
gonna call me back. Now we'regoing to do the next step, like,
Okay, let's start there, thenI'm going to make one phone
call, then you're going to callme back, then you're gonna go to
one meeting, and then you'regonna call me back. And then
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through that Suzy, baby, step bybaby step by baby step. Within
nine months, I had rebuilt thebusiness from a $1,500 profit,
one month away from completelylosing my magazine and
everything I'd worked for, to asix figure plus profit, and then
building from there. And thereis no way that that would have
happened, if it wouldn't havebeen for those coaches that came
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in and spoke life to me. And sothat is part of my mission now,
to be able to pay it forwardinto that flashlight to be that
voice of hope to pull out thatpotential and other people as a
coach. And it's one of thethings I do on coaching calls,
or when I'm on my mastermindwith the different ladies that
I'm with so that they can startshining out what's already
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inside of them.
That's so powerful. And it's Ijust think about how I can't
imagine being in that line atthe grocery store and looking at
your phone and seeing thenegative 100 and then realizing
that you had nothing. I mean, Ican't even imagine the amount of
fright that you had at thatmoment how scared you must have
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been how paralyzed I'm imaginethat you probably just didn't
even know what to do next. Howdid you find even that inner
energy to make the decision thatwe're just going to continue to
move forward? We're gonna justcontinue to make the next right
step.
You know, I think it's I thinkit's really a great question. I
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think in those moments in thosemoments, sometimes I've found it
comes down to my prayer. Theonly thing I can say is, is God
Help, Help. Help. It's a one oneword prayer help. And what I
heard from someone years agothat I've never forgot and is my
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favorite prayer is God, I'myours. And I trust you. Like, I
don't understand. This doesn'tmake sense to me. I'm terrified
out of my mind right now. I haveno idea what to do. I don't even
I feel so unsteady, souncertain, so shaky on the
inside, but I know I do trustyou show me the next right step.
And I, I will pray often God,what is my next right action?
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What's my next right action,show me the next right thing to
do. And I will tell you, in thatgoing through the tax levy, it
was another layer of having toget really honest with myself, I
remember feeling so embarrassed,I felt so humiliated, I felt
like all I wanted to do was, waswhen I wake up in the morning,
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Suzie, and all I want to do isthrow the covers back up over my
head, stay there for a long,long. And it's like, I just
wanted to hide, because I hadmade up all of these things that
would happen if I startedsharing about it. And sometimes
when we're in those places, themost healing thing is to share.
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Suddenly, when I started sharingand talking about my story, in
my experience, it's like that1000 pound gorilla that was
sitting on my chest was gone.
And I was free. And then when Istarted owning where I was,
here's what happened, looking atit as just is a fact, I was the
one that was creating themeaning or the story of what
happened, you know? And then Icould say, wow, look at this
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experience. How, how do you wantto use this god to fuel me
forward into this next chapter?
Oh, that'spowerful. Yeah, so the I love
the one one word prayer help. Imean, sometimes that's all we
can muster. But that's all.
That's all that's needed. Right?
It's just to, to reallysurrender ourselves and ask that
I love that. The god I'm yours.
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And I trust you. And I love thatthose words of truth that your
coach spoke up spoken to you,you haven't failed, you just
aren't finished yet. And I thinkfor people who are in the
struggle right now, like, it'shard to believe that this is not
the final chapter, but you'rejust not finished. It's just
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part of the story. And I lovethat your story, you came to
such a drastic blow. And you'vemade the decision to just keep
making the next right choice,whether that was taking the
shower or making a phone callsomething so small. And you use
something that I've heard yousay before is tiny is mighty,
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could you kind of reallyelaborate on that concept of
tiny is mighty.
Yes, I love that. And what Ilove about it is tiny is mighty.
It's like the tiniest decisions,the smallest things have so much
power. It's if I am it, what'sthe what's a great way to
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explain this. So if a plane ifif a pilot is flying a plane,
and you're and you're on the wayto go to Hawaii, did you know
that if they're only I thinkit's two degrees off of what
they're doing, they're going toend up in completely the other
direction, which is their coursecorrecting? I believe it's over
95% of the time, they're coursecorrecting. The pilot knows what
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they're doing. But they're intheir in their course
correcting, they're changing.
They're making sure. And so tinyis Mighty, the tiniest things
that I can do the tiniestthings, if you're listening to
this that you can do can havethe biggest shift consistency is
undefeated. Consistency isundefeated. So there I was when
I was when I was in bed, sayinghow much I was failing. And the
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very wise coach on the other endof the line was like Brittany,
all we're gonna do is theseteeny tiny things you're going
to do, you're going to do, andhere I was, I'm going to need to
do 20 meetings a week and nevergonna ever be able to do that my
whole life. It's gonna be paid,paid, paid, paid, paid. They're
like, that's not actually true.
Why don't we start with like,five can you do five a week and
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we're just going to do five andI want you to take time off
during the week. I'm like,You're insane. This will never
work. And they're like, we'rejust gonna do five and I will
tell you Suze? I did when Ilooked back at it. Over nine
months. I did 5.4 meetings aweek was my out. And I took off.
They told me to take one day offI said, You know I don't think I
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can do that. But we're gonnastart with like an hour and
we're start with two hours. Thenwe're gonna like maybe do half a
day but I did get a couple fulldays off in there I will say and
looking back on it, I actuallydid that, completing 5.4 average
meetings a week, my number onegoal at the beginning of that
year, when I was about to losemy magazine was to take the
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month of December off, wholemonth seemed absolutely
impossible. But I believe insetting a vision and declaring
it of what I really want, it'spart of my framework. And what I
do on my coaching calls withwith the women that I coach
today, is really getting clarityon your breathtaking future. And
so what I did is I laid out, I'mgoing to take off an entire
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month at the end of the year.
And Suzie, my vision was, once Ihit that 10k, again, which I did
in September, I did actuallytake the month of December off
from all active salesappointments, it was a true
miracle, something I neverthought was would be possible.
And it all came down to thattiny is mighty and doing the
teeny tiny little things overand over and over.
That's so that's so amazing. AndI know that part of your
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transformation and all of thisin achieving that goal and
achieving that month off wasthat you quit looking in the
rearview mirror, and you quitlooking to what could you know,
maybe the failures and thesuccesses, and realizing that
that had nothing to do withwhat's in front of you. And I
know you talk a lot about youramazing windshield, but you want
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to dive into that a little bit.
Yes, absolutely. And so, youknow, I remember this one day, I
was driving Suzy and I waslooking at the rearview mirror
that was in front of me. Andthen looking at this big
breathtaking windshield, and itwas as if God was like Brittany,
do you not see? All you're doingis looking at this teeny, tiny
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rearview mirror? Like you'reliving your life? looking in the
rearview mirror? So why do youthink you keep crashing all the
time? Driving looking in yourrear view mirror? And it was
like God was like pretty? Do younot see how big it is? It's
literally like, teeny tiny,little. And then do you see this
big, breathtaking windshield infront of you? And it was like
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Brittany, do you not see, thisis where you're going? Why do
you think your windshield is somuch larger than your rearview
mirror. This is where you'regoing this is where I want to
take you what could be possible.
If you stepped into the visionthat I've already created you
for that's already inside ofyou, will you let me have the
steering wheel and the brakes,all you need is to put your key
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in, and the gas pedal, I'll dothe steering, I'll tell you when
to stop, you just got to putyour key in and you got to just
put on the gas. And we're gonnago in this big breathtaking
windshield. And it was like Isat there in the car. And I was
like, Oh my gosh, that's why Ifeel like I've been crashing all
the time. And it was like God islike pretty your rearview mirror
is there to keep you safe. Youknow, you're gonna glance in it
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and you're gonna learn from it,you're going to ask yourself,
How is this a gift? What are thethings from the past that you've
learned? So that, you know,there's this cop that's fine by
there's this accident, you'rebeing careful so that you're not
so you know, moving forward,like that'll never ever, ever
happen again with the IRS, orwhatever it is so that I can
have that breathtaking future.
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But in that moment, Susie, itwas like this huge, like, huge
aha, because I didn't see thebreathtaking windshield in front
of me. One of the pieces of myframework today, with the ladies
that I coach, the first piece isyou have to really own your
awesome, you have to rememberwhat you've already done, what
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you've already accomplished allthe things, because so many
times these wonderful highperforming entrepreneurs, we
forget those things, we forgetwhat we've already done, we
forget all of the things thathave already taken place. So
that has to be the first pieceand getting into that powerful
state of remembering that thennumber two is create your
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breathtaking future, what is itthat you really want. And one of
the ways they do that is what'scalled a declaration letter. And
what I love about this, this isone of the most powerful letters
that I've ever written and formy for my clients, it's where
you're writing a letter toyourself in advance. So if I was
writing this letter, I'd bewriting it to myself, as if it
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is a year from now 12 monthsfrom now, or you could do a six
month letter, and you're lookingback and you're saying all the
things that you're so gratefulfor that have already taken
place in your life. It's likeGod, thank you, Bernie, I'm so
proud of you. Like look at thethings that you've done and
accomplished and you're writingout the vision. So for example,
that was part of what I did whenit was let's take a month off.
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Okay, let's bring thepublication back it's it's that
letter and speaking those thingsout. So it's another way of
living in what that breathtakingfuture really is. Of that big
windshield of what's in front ofme and so those are a few of the
different pieces that really gotme to how do I how do I continue
having that power that comesbecause I so believe I mean I
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see I had all these fuzzy goalsand fuzzy targets Just don't get
hit.
They should No, you're right.
Absolutely right.
They just don't get hit. It'slike, I got an Uber and I said,
Hey, you know, you want to drivearound a little bit, I'm like,
no, like, I wouldn't do that I'mgonna get an Uber and say,
Alright, we're on to theairport, I know, there's a lot
of paths to get to the airport,but I know I'm gonna get to the
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airport, because i that is thetarget and where we're going. So
I had to get absolute clarity onwhat it is I want. So if you're
listening to this, and you'relike, I don't have the clarity,
I'm not quite sure. Giveyourself the gift of writing
that letter, take 15 minutes,take 30 minutes and just write
from your heart. You know, whatcould be possible? If you really
played Fallout, with a level ofcourage that you may not have
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never had before? Not what inthe past of all the things that
you feel like you haven't doneor? Or is this like, this is a
new slate, like, what do youreally want? What can be
possible, I mean, I'm gettingexcited for you even just
thinking about it.
And what I love about that, too,is that when you're writing that
letter, you're in a place ofgratitude. And I know that I've
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heard you say before, that whenyou're living in gratitude, you
can't be fearful gratitude andfear cannot coexist. And so
you're really making this verycompelling vision of yourself.
You're creating concise andclear goals, you're figuring out
a way to get there. I know thedeclaration letter is just one
of some of the tools that youuse to help really go after
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those goals. What are some otherthings, other strategies or
tools that you used during thattime as well?
Yeah, absolutely. And so I thinkthat really gets to the third
piece of my framework. So thefirst one is, is own your
awesome. The second is createyour breathtaking future. And
then the third one is really beunstoppable today. So how do we
live out our unstoppable, like,what does that look like, in the
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middle, like when things happen?
So number two, creating ourbreathtaking future. So what
what we've done at this point isyou have a declaration letter,
you know where you're going. Soanother way that you can live
out you're unstoppable is torecord your letter, and to
listen to your letter, which issomething I love to do it, when
you're working out when you'redoing the dishes, when you're
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getting ready in the morning,you're listening to your letter.
And so it's reminding you ofwhere you're going what you're
grateful for in advance. That isone way. I also have what I call
a yes board. So some people callit a vision board or a prayer
board or but I like to call myyes board like this is what I'm
doing to say yes to in advance.
I'm looking at it here is we'retalking in my office right now.
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And these are pictures on hereof things I'm believing God for
that I'm saying yes to inadvance. I also do what's called
Future gratitudes, which is whatI say thank you for in advance.
And what I do, I do one of theseevery night before I go to
sleep, I used to put them onsticky notes on the back of my
door. Now I just put them in anotebook. So I've evolved from
the sticky notes to thenotebook. But it's saying I'm so
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grateful for I'm so grateful forwhatever it is that you're
believing God for that, whetherit's in your business, or in
your family or in your personallife, but those are little
things that help create thatbreathtaking future and to stay
into that place. Then when whatdo we do when things happen that
we can't really control? And howdo I get back on track when that
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happens? So one of my number onehacks in tools I love to do is
what's called Book ending. Sothe way book ending works just
like a book and on a shelf, youhave your book end, you have
your book, and then you everbook, another book end. So if
there's a little task, you feellike you're losing momentum, how
do I get back on track Brittany,when things are going crazy,
like I just feel like I want togo hide back under the covers
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again, like what do I do? So theway you book end is, what I like
to say is you just text somebodyand say, here's the action, I'm
going to take the time, I'mgoing to take it and then you
text them once it's done. So ifyou're listening to this, and
you're like, well, Brittany, Idon't have any accountability
partners, or I don't even knowwho I would text. So my, what I
might invite you to considerdoing is just pick one person,
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say, Hey, I'm gonna text you.
And I really need to do thisthing that I keep putting off
and telling myself I'm going todo that I don't do and at four
o'clock today, I'm and I'm goingto do it, you don't even need to
respond to this text. I'm justgoing to do this to put it out
there. And then I'm gonna textyou when I'm finished. That's
it. And you're done. Sobookending is one of those
tools. The other thing I wouldsay is what I like to call the
power of three. So after, youknow they've done neurologic
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brain research to show that yourbrain really thinks in threes
and after three, it's like 123Many. So that's my way of
explaining. So we focus onthree. So when I'm on a coaching
call, we will focus on the topthree things, the top three
goals for 2022. We'll focus onthe top three things you're
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working on for the quarter, thenwe'll look at the top three
things for the month, then webreak it down to the week. So my
question for you if you'restarting to feel super
overwhelmed, or I like to calloverloaded. If you're in a place
where you feel like your brainis just spinning, can you stop?
Can you grab a sticky note andwrite your three things for the
day? These are the three thingsthat I'm going to focus on for
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today. And I know I'm winning bythe end of the day, if I've done
those three things, so gettingits book ending power of three.
And then the last thing is whatI like to call my weekly meeting
with myself. And so this iswhere I will take, you can take
15 minutes, you can take 30, youcan take an hour review the
week, here's wins, here's threewins from the week, here's three
special moments, things thathappened, like being on this
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podcast right now would be aspecial moment. Or if you're
listening to this, and it's,it's, it's touching you in some
way, that could be a specialmoment. What I learned from this
week, what I what I where Istruggled this week, what I
would say to someone if I wascoaching them, and then the
decision I need to do to movefaster this next week. And so in
doing those little things helpsme then I can look at my week,
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then I can see what my goals arefor the following week, where do
I need to go? And then thatmomentum is back. So if you're
in those place, those are acouple of little hacks that you
can do at any time to moveyourself forward.
Welcome to and then it's a podcast we look at what
comes after the struggle, atough season or a setback. My
name is Suzie Chafin. I'm momfor a wife Kota, an author, a
business owner and a coach. Butwhat I'm most passionate about
is helping people transitionfrom struggle to striving to
absolutely thriving. Today, Ihad the honor of interviewing
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Miss Brittany horn, who is thefounder of the unleash your
shine movement, and creator ofthe unleash unleash your shine
mastermind for high impactfemale entrepreneurs. Brittany
certainly knows the struggleguys. And just to give you a
little sneak peek, she went fromeviction notices, food stamps,
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and nearly $250,000 of tax debtto becoming a nationally known
speaker, award winningentrepreneur, and peak
performance coach for femaleentrepreneurs all over the
country. Nothing lights Brittanymore up than activating untapped
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potential and others, andhelping women create success in
their business. So they canincrease her influence, increase
their income, increase theirimpact, and become the women God
created them to be. We are soexcited to have Brittany.
Brittany, welcome. Thank you somuch for being here. I so
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appreciate you hopping on thispodcast to share your story of
the struggle, very big struggle,actually two struggles that
we're gonna dive into today. Howyou found you're surviving, and
then absolutely right now youare in the thriving, you are
doing fantastic. And it's sofun. It has been so fun to know
you all these years and watchyou grow and develop into this
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nationally acclaimed speaker andauthor and all the crazy things
that you're doing now. Socongratulations on your success.
And thank you for being here.
Absolutely. Well, I just have tofirst say I'm so delighted to be
here, Susie. And just what anhonor and gift it is to know you
and to be a part of yourpodcast. I just honored you for
the mission. And really what youare creating in putting this
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together you're going to bechanging so many people's lives
through is this as you sharestories of where people have
been giving other people hope.
So I just want to acknowledgeyou for that. So she so what
were things like for Britneywhen they weren't so pretty so
right. So we have a couple, youknow, I want to take you back to
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there's really when I firstbecame an entrepreneur, it was
2012. And I was in my early 20s.
I had never launched anythingbefore. I'd never been a
business owner before. And Ireally had no idea how to sell
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had no Omkar at this point, buta lot of ambition and decided
that I was going to find a wayto make this succeed. And so
there was I said yes tolaunching a neighborhood
franchise magazine. And wentoff, I was so certain that it
was probably going to take memaybe, you know, three months to
create this product fromnothing. But there I was Suzy
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after nine months of doing this.
And I will take you to exactlythe moment where I was sitting
on my couch in my, in myapartment where I was, I
remember looking at my phone andthere was an eviction notice
from my landlord that said, youknow, Brittany, if you have not
paid you have not paid your rentfor two months. And if we don't
get some cash here really fast,you're not going to be living
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here any longer. And so there Iwas, just the day prior, I had
missed my bus. I was runningdown the highway, yes, holding
my heels in my suit and alltrying to get get to this
meeting. And then which I didmake it to my meeting,
everything worked. And then thatnight, I went to my serving job
that I remember falling asleepstanding up. I was so tired. And
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in the bathroom that they had tocome in and wake me up to tell
me a table was there. Oh, therewas no Can you imagine? It was
about 100 hours a week when Ihad added it all up between the
magazine I was trying to launchin the serving job. I remember
I'm sitting on the couch andlooking at this text, my food
stamp money for the week it wasabout to be finished. I remember
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I had 27 cents in my bankaccount. And there I was, and I
was like God, how is this goingto work? But I made a decision.
I said, if I'm committed I knowI will always find a way if I'm
committed I will find a way andtherein entered my very first
business coach. So at thatpoint, I had someone come in
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that said you know Brittany, andthey started speaking life into
me when I didn't see it in mice.
So all I saw was what was infront of me. And I felt like I
was failing, I felt like it wasnever gonna work. If you're
listening to this, maybe you'vebeen at that place sometime in
the past. Or maybe you're thereright now where you're where
you're, you're you find yourselfsaying, I thought I'd be farther
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along right now, I thoughtthings would look different
right now, I didn't really fit,I thought this would be a little
bit easier than what I'm seeingright now. And that's where I
was. And so this coach came inand said, you know, Brittany,
this is who I see you to be. Andthey started reminding me of who
I was. And they said, We'regoing to just take it one step
at a time, I'm going to take youunder my wing, I'm going to
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teach you how to sell I'm goingto teach you how to run a
business, I'm going to teach youhow to grow and build a team and
your staff. And I said, youknow, I don't really believe you
right now, because I don't seeit. But you're gonna I'm gonna
go on this blind faith, I'mgonna let you be the flashlight
for me. And because all I sawwas darkness, that there's only
black in front of me. But Isaid, you know, I'm gonna let
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you be the flashlight. And soI'm just going to take this next
step, you told me this, and I'mjust going to trust that it's
going to work. And Susie, youwould not even believe it, they
were right. And So lo andbehold, there it was, a few
months later, I baby step bybaby step one step at a time, I
ended up having a magazine, andno longer needed to run down the
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highway with the bus anymore.
Because I did get my first car,I no longer worked at the
serving job, because I was ableto support myself moved out of
the apartment, and didn't haveto do food stamps any longer.
And it was just it was such agift to know that I could have
not done it if somebody elsehadn't painted the way for me.
And I said yes, to just thatbaby step and going on that
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teeny, tiny piece of faith. AndI'll tell you, Susie, the next
time I saw my coach in person,you better believe what I gave
them as a present. And it was aflashlight. That's awesome.
Because they were the flashlightfor me. And so that was my very
first foray intoentrepreneurship. And, and and,
and the learning piece of thecurve of what it means to be a
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business owner. Yeah,absolutely.
I love that. Really, thetransformation started with that
one decision that you made to becommitted. I mean, even though
the circumstances around youlooked completely impossible, 27
cents in the bank account. Nomore food stamps getting an
eviction notice. I mean, howmaking that decision? I think
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everybody in that place, it'slike, we've all would have been
like, Oh, I get it. Brittany,why you would have quit? Yeah, I
understand. That's hard. But youdidn't quit. You push, you push
through, you made the decision.
And you leaned on the help froma coach who spoke life into you.
I think I think that's sopowerful. And that was just
really the kind of theforeshadowing of what was to
come next, right.
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Mm hmm. You know, and it is itbeing an entrepreneur has so
many different chapters to it.
And it's like, I like to call itthe roller coaster, you know,
we're up here. And then we haveanother little dip and then
we're going up again. And youknow, as long as you keep your
seatbelt on Brittany horn, thenyou're not going to fly off the
roller coaster. So I went on aroller coaster of an adventure.
So I launched my magazine, andwithin a year had built up to a
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six figure plus profit over 10kplus a month, I had been given
the opportunity to start leadingand overseeing other people and
helping them build theirbusiness and kind of our Midwest
region. And I loved it. It wasso much fun to see other people
and pulling out that potentialin them. Then I like to have a I
like to call what I had my yearof Ryan when I met my wonderful
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husband Ryan. And during thatpoint, when we after we had
gotten married, we both hadassumed about a quarter of a
million dollars in tax debt. Sothat's a to about $250,000 of
tax debt that we owe to the IRS.
He was a business owner, I was abusiness owner. And we both had
a that's what we brought to ourmarriage and our six months
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after we got married. I willnever forget the day Suze it was
a Wednesday afternoon and Iremember it was I had just got
my hair done that day. And itwas like this nice spring day
and I'm walking into the grocerystore and I can still feel the
the the wind like whippingacross my face. And I was like
this is such a great day. It'sawesome. I was just like on you
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know, on and I got all thegroceries and I'm checking out
in the conveyor belt is rightthere, put my card in the slot
all the groceries are back in mycart, I'm ready to go to the car
and my car declines. Like whatis going on? There's money in my
bank account. Why is my cardeclining? And the wonderful
lady is like, you know, yourcard didn't go through let's
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let's put this let's put thisput this in again. So I put my
card in again, and it's stilldeclined. So pull up my phone
and looked at my banking app.
And in that moment, it read IRStax levy, and there was read
negative $100 Oh, Ah. So in thatmoment, I looked at all of our
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accounts, every single pennythat we had was gone. Every
account, every savings, everychecking, and it was all gone.
So there, I was walking out ofthe grocery store. And I
remember I left all my groceriesright there on the side, I had
to tell them, hey, I'm so sorry,I can't pay for this. And I
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walked out. And it was like, Ifelt like everything.
It was like there was like,someone must have felt if they
had a fire, and they losteverything they had. But yet
there was in inside of me thispiece of God, I'm yours, and I
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trust you, you're going to,you're going to take care of us,
and it's going to be okay. Buteven in that moment, I remember
sitting in the car in theparking lot, and gripping the
steering wheel. And it's like,I've all like, I felt this, it
was like this gorilla wassitting on my chest, and I could
barely even breathe. And I waslike, we're going to find a way.
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It was like that same resolvewhen I was sitting on the couch
with the text from my landlord.
I don't know how this is goingto work. But if I'm committed,
we're going to find a way. And Icalled my wonderful husband who
sits there and starts praying onthe phone as I'm crying. I'm
like, Well, we're going to dothis. And we came home. And the
first thing he said wasBrittany, how can we make this
fun? What did you make us whatan amazing husband I have
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losing. And so we sat there, andwe laughed a little bit, cried a
little bit, and said, Okay, God,what's our next step. And there
in suddenly was the next pieceof my entrepreneurial adventure.
And what that we what thatlooked like to rebuild a
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business completely fromscratch. At that point, I
remember, it was May 31. So allof our bills, everything we owed
was due the very next day. And Ican tell you, Susie is only by
the grace of God one step at atime, that we ended up going
from that place to rebuild abusiness back. But it didn't, it
wasn't easy. It didn't justhappen. And I'll tell you, there
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was another moment, it wasprobably maybe four or five
months after after this hadhappened. When I remember, it
was three o'clock in theafternoon, and I am in my bed in
my pajamas, and I'm on him Whatdo you know, another coaching
call, and this this, and I am onthe phone, and I remember, I
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mean, my pajamas, okay? Likehaving, you know, and, and all I
remember saying was I am such afailure all I'm failing at
everything, I cannot do this,there's no way this will happen.
And, and I'm literally likeyelling into the phone. And this
wonderful person on the otherend of the line, once again,
starts speaking life back to me,Brittany, you haven't failed,
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you're just not finished yet.
You haven't failed, you're justnot finished yet. This is what I
see in you, you can do this.
Remember where you've been.
Remember what you've alreadyovercome. If you're listening to
this podcast, remember whatyou've done. Remember what
you've already overcome, you cando this, we're just going to do
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one little piece at a time,you're looking at everything
right now. That's why it seemsimpossible. But all we're going
to do is we're gonna focus onthe next right step. So girl,
you're gonna go, you're gonnatake a shower, and then you're
gonna call me back. Now we'regoing to do the next step, like,
Okay, let's start there, thenI'm going to make one phone
call, then you're going to callme back, then you're gonna go to
one meeting, and then you'regonna call me back. And then
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through that Suzy, baby, step bybaby step by baby step. Within
nine months, I had rebuilt thebusiness from a $1,500 profit,
one month away from completelylosing my magazine and
everything I'd worked for, to asix figure plus profit, and then
building from there. And thereis no way that that would have
happened, if it wouldn't havebeen for those coaches that came
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in and spoke life to me. And sothat is part of my mission now,
to be able to pay it forwardinto that flashlight to be that
voice of hope to pull out thatpotential and other people as a
coach. And it's one of thethings I do on coaching calls,
or when I'm on my mastermindwith the different ladies that
I'm with so that they can startshining out what's already
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inside of them.
That's so powerful. And it's Ijust think about how I can't
imagine being in that line atthe grocery store and looking at
your phone and seeing thenegative 100 and then realizing
that you had nothing. I mean, Ican't even imagine the amount of
fright that you had at thatmoment how scared you must have
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been how paralyzed I'm imaginethat you probably just didn't
even know what to do next. Howdid you find even that inner
energy to make the decision thatwe're just going to continue to
move forward? We're gonna justcontinue to make the next right
step.
You know, I think it's I thinkit's really a great question. I
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think in those moments in thosemoments, sometimes I've found it
comes down to my prayer. Theonly thing I can say is, is God
Help, Help. Help. It's a one oneword prayer help. And what I
heard from someone years agothat I've never forgot and is my
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favorite prayer is God, I'myours. And I trust you. Like, I
don't understand. This doesn'tmake sense to me. I'm terrified
out of my mind right now. I haveno idea what to do. I don't even
I feel so unsteady, souncertain, so shaky on the
inside, but I know I do trustyou show me the next right step.
And I, I will pray often God,what is my next right action?
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What's my next right action,show me the next right thing to
do. And I will tell you, in thatgoing through the tax levy, it
was another layer of having toget really honest with myself, I
remember feeling so embarrassed,I felt so humiliated, I felt
like all I wanted to do was, waswhen I wake up in the morning,
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Suzie, and all I want to do isthrow the covers back up over my
head, stay there for a long,long. And it's like, I just
wanted to hide, because I hadmade up all of these things that
would happen if I startedsharing about it. And sometimes
when we're in those places, themost healing thing is to share.
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Suddenly, when I started sharingand talking about my story, in
my experience, it's like that1000 pound gorilla that was
sitting on my chest was gone.
And I was free. And then when Istarted owning where I was,
here's what happened, looking atit as just is a fact, I was the
one that was creating themeaning or the story of what
happened, you know? And then Icould say, wow, look at this
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experience. How, how do you wantto use this god to fuel me
forward into this next chapter?
Oh, that'spowerful. Yeah, so the I love
the one one word prayer help. Imean, sometimes that's all we
can muster. But that's all.
That's all that's needed. Right?
It's just to, to reallysurrender ourselves and ask that
I love that. The god I'm yours.
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And I trust you. And I love thatthose words of truth that your
coach spoke up spoken to you,you haven't failed, you just
aren't finished yet. And I thinkfor people who are in the
struggle right now, like, it'shard to believe that this is not
the final chapter, but you'rejust not finished. It's just
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part of the story. And I lovethat your story, you came to
such a drastic blow. And you'vemade the decision to just keep
making the next right choice,whether that was taking the
shower or making a phone callsomething so small. And you use
something that I've heard yousay before is tiny is mighty,
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could you kind of reallyelaborate on that concept of
tiny is mighty.
Yes, I love that. And what Ilove about it is tiny is mighty.
It's like the tiniest decisions,the smallest things have so much
power. It's if I am it, what'sthe what's a great way to
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explain this. So if a plane ifif a pilot is flying a plane,
and you're and you're on the wayto go to Hawaii, did you know
that if they're only I thinkit's two degrees off of what
they're doing, they're going toend up in completely the other
direction, which is their coursecorrecting? I believe it's over
95% of the time, they're coursecorrecting. The pilot knows what
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they're doing. But they're intheir in their course
correcting, they're changing.
They're making sure. And so tinyis Mighty, the tiniest things
that I can do the tiniestthings, if you're listening to
this that you can do can havethe biggest shift consistency is
undefeated. Consistency isundefeated. So there I was when
I was when I was in bed, sayinghow much I was failing. And the
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very wise coach on the other endof the line was like Brittany,
all we're gonna do is theseteeny tiny things you're going
to do, you're going to do, andhere I was, I'm going to need to
do 20 meetings a week and nevergonna ever be able to do that my
whole life. It's gonna be paid,paid, paid, paid, paid. They're
like, that's not actually true.
Why don't we start with like,five can you do five a week and
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we're just going to do five andI want you to take time off
during the week. I'm like,You're insane. This will never
work. And they're like, we'rejust gonna do five and I will
tell you Suze? I did when Ilooked back at it. Over nine
months. I did 5.4 meetings aweek was my out. And I took off.
They told me to take one day offI said, You know I don't think I
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can do that. But we're gonnastart with like an hour and
we're start with two hours. Thenwe're gonna like maybe do half a
day but I did get a couple fulldays off in there I will say and
looking back on it, I actuallydid that, completing 5.4 average
meetings a week, my number onegoal at the beginning of that
year, when I was about to losemy magazine was to take the
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month of December off, wholemonth seemed absolutely
impossible. But I believe insetting a vision and declaring
it of what I really want, it'spart of my framework. And what I
do on my coaching calls withwith the women that I coach
today, is really getting clarityon your breathtaking future. And
so what I did is I laid out, I'mgoing to take off an entire
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month at the end of the year.
And Suzie, my vision was, once Ihit that 10k, again, which I did
in September, I did actuallytake the month of December off
from all active salesappointments, it was a true
miracle, something I neverthought was would be possible.
And it all came down to thattiny is mighty and doing the
teeny tiny little things overand over and over.
That's so that's so amazing. AndI know that part of your
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transformation and all of thisin achieving that goal and
achieving that month off wasthat you quit looking in the
rearview mirror, and you quitlooking to what could you know,
maybe the failures and thesuccesses, and realizing that
that had nothing to do withwhat's in front of you. And I
know you talk a lot about youramazing windshield, but you want
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to dive into that a little bit.
Yes, absolutely. And so, youknow, I remember this one day, I
was driving Suzy and I waslooking at the rearview mirror
that was in front of me. Andthen looking at this big
breathtaking windshield, and itwas as if God was like Brittany,
do you not see? All you're doingis looking at this teeny, tiny
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rearview mirror? Like you'reliving your life? looking in the
rearview mirror? So why do youthink you keep crashing all the
time? Driving looking in yourrear view mirror? And it was
like God was like pretty? Do younot see how big it is? It's
literally like, teeny tiny,little. And then do you see this
big, breathtaking windshield infront of you? And it was like
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Brittany, do you not see, thisis where you're going? Why do
you think your windshield is somuch larger than your rearview
mirror. This is where you'regoing this is where I want to
take you what could be possible.
If you stepped into the visionthat I've already created you
for that's already inside ofyou, will you let me have the
steering wheel and the brakes,all you need is to put your key
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in, and the gas pedal, I'll dothe steering, I'll tell you when
to stop, you just got to putyour key in and you got to just
put on the gas. And we're gonnago in this big breathtaking
windshield. And it was like Isat there in the car. And I was
like, Oh my gosh, that's why Ifeel like I've been crashing all
the time. And it was like God islike pretty your rearview mirror
is there to keep you safe. Youknow, you're gonna glance in it
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and you're gonna learn from it,you're going to ask yourself,
How is this a gift? What are thethings from the past that you've
learned? So that, you know,there's this cop that's fine by
there's this accident, you'rebeing careful so that you're not
so you know, moving forward,like that'll never ever, ever
happen again with the IRS, orwhatever it is so that I can
have that breathtaking future.
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But in that moment, Susie, itwas like this huge, like, huge
aha, because I didn't see thebreathtaking windshield in front
of me. One of the pieces of myframework today, with the ladies
that I coach, the first piece isyou have to really own your
awesome, you have to rememberwhat you've already done, what
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you've already accomplished allthe things, because so many
times these wonderful highperforming entrepreneurs, we
forget those things, we forgetwhat we've already done, we
forget all of the things thathave already taken place. So
that has to be the first pieceand getting into that powerful
state of remembering that thennumber two is create your
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breathtaking future, what is itthat you really want. And one of
the ways they do that is what'scalled a declaration letter. And
what I love about this, this isone of the most powerful letters
that I've ever written and formy for my clients, it's where
you're writing a letter toyourself in advance. So if I was
writing this letter, I'd bewriting it to myself, as if it
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is a year from now 12 monthsfrom now, or you could do a six
month letter, and you're lookingback and you're saying all the
things that you're so gratefulfor that have already taken
place in your life. It's likeGod, thank you, Bernie, I'm so
proud of you. Like look at thethings that you've done and
accomplished and you're writingout the vision. So for example,
that was part of what I did whenit was let's take a month off.
(24:34):
Okay, let's bring thepublication back it's it's that
letter and speaking those thingsout. So it's another way of
living in what that breathtakingfuture really is. Of that big
windshield of what's in front ofme and so those are a few of the
different pieces that really gotme to how do I how do I continue
having that power that comesbecause I so believe I mean I
(24:57):
see I had all these fuzzy goalsand fuzzy targets Just don't get
hit.
They should No, you're right.
Absolutely right.
They just don't get hit. It'slike, I got an Uber and I said,
Hey, you know, you want to drivearound a little bit, I'm like,
no, like, I wouldn't do that I'mgonna get an Uber and say,
Alright, we're on to theairport, I know, there's a lot
of paths to get to the airport,but I know I'm gonna get to the
(25:17):
airport, because i that is thetarget and where we're going. So
I had to get absolute clarity onwhat it is I want. So if you're
listening to this, and you'relike, I don't have the clarity,
I'm not quite sure. Giveyourself the gift of writing
that letter, take 15 minutes,take 30 minutes and just write
from your heart. You know, whatcould be possible? If you really
played Fallout, with a level ofcourage that you may not have
(25:39):
never had before? Not what inthe past of all the things that
you feel like you haven't doneor? Or is this like, this is a
new slate, like, what do youreally want? What can be
possible, I mean, I'm gettingexcited for you even just
thinking about it.
And what I love about that, too,is that when you're writing that
letter, you're in a place ofgratitude. And I know that I've
(26:00):
heard you say before, that whenyou're living in gratitude, you
can't be fearful gratitude andfear cannot coexist. And so
you're really making this verycompelling vision of yourself.
You're creating concise andclear goals, you're figuring out
a way to get there. I know thedeclaration letter is just one
of some of the tools that youuse to help really go after
(26:22):
those goals. What are some otherthings, other strategies or
tools that you used during thattime as well?
Yeah, absolutely. And so I thinkthat really gets to the third
piece of my framework. So thefirst one is, is own your
awesome. The second is createyour breathtaking future. And
then the third one is really beunstoppable today. So how do we
live out our unstoppable, like,what does that look like, in the
(26:43):
middle, like when things happen?
So number two, creating ourbreathtaking future. So what
what we've done at this point isyou have a declaration letter,
you know where you're going. Soanother way that you can live
out you're unstoppable is torecord your letter, and to
listen to your letter, which issomething I love to do it, when
you're working out when you'redoing the dishes, when you're
(27:05):
getting ready in the morning,you're listening to your letter.
And so it's reminding you ofwhere you're going what you're
grateful for in advance. That isone way. I also have what I call
a yes board. So some people callit a vision board or a prayer
board or but I like to call myyes board like this is what I'm
doing to say yes to in advance.
I'm looking at it here is we'retalking in my office right now.
(27:27):
And these are pictures on hereof things I'm believing God for
that I'm saying yes to inadvance. I also do what's called
Future gratitudes, which is whatI say thank you for in advance.
And what I do, I do one of theseevery night before I go to
sleep, I used to put them onsticky notes on the back of my
door. Now I just put them in anotebook. So I've evolved from
the sticky notes to thenotebook. But it's saying I'm so
(27:49):
grateful for I'm so grateful forwhatever it is that you're
believing God for that, whetherit's in your business, or in
your family or in your personallife, but those are little
things that help create thatbreathtaking future and to stay
into that place. Then when whatdo we do when things happen that
we can't really control? And howdo I get back on track when that
(28:10):
happens? So one of my number onehacks in tools I love to do is
what's called Book ending. Sothe way book ending works just
like a book and on a shelf, youhave your book end, you have
your book, and then you everbook, another book end. So if
there's a little task, you feellike you're losing momentum, how
do I get back on track Brittany,when things are going crazy,
like I just feel like I want togo hide back under the covers
(28:32):
again, like what do I do? So theway you book end is, what I like
to say is you just text somebodyand say, here's the action, I'm
going to take the time, I'mgoing to take it and then you
text them once it's done. So ifyou're listening to this, and
you're like, well, Brittany, Idon't have any accountability
partners, or I don't even knowwho I would text. So my, what I
might invite you to considerdoing is just pick one person,
(28:54):
say, Hey, I'm gonna text you.
And I really need to do thisthing that I keep putting off
and telling myself I'm going todo that I don't do and at four
o'clock today, I'm and I'm goingto do it, you don't even need to
respond to this text. I'm justgoing to do this to put it out
there. And then I'm gonna textyou when I'm finished. That's
it. And you're done. Sobookending is one of those
tools. The other thing I wouldsay is what I like to call the
power of three. So after, youknow they've done neurologic
(29:17):
brain research to show that yourbrain really thinks in threes
and after three, it's like 123Many. So that's my way of
explaining. So we focus onthree. So when I'm on a coaching
call, we will focus on the topthree things, the top three
goals for 2022. We'll focus onthe top three things you're
(29:38):
working on for the quarter, thenwe'll look at the top three
things for the month, then webreak it down to the week. So my
question for you if you'restarting to feel super
overwhelmed, or I like to calloverloaded. If you're in a place
where you feel like your brainis just spinning, can you stop?
Can you grab a sticky note andwrite your three things for the
day? These are the three thingsthat I'm going to focus on for
(30:00):
today. And I know I'm winning bythe end of the day, if I've done
those three things, so gettingits book ending power of three.
And then the last thing is whatI like to call my weekly meeting
with myself. And so this iswhere I will take, you can take
15 minutes, you can take 30, youcan take an hour review the
week, here's wins, here's threewins from the week, here's three
special moments, things thathappened, like being on this
(30:23):
podcast right now would be aspecial moment. Or if you're
listening to this, and it's,it's, it's touching you in some
way, that could be a specialmoment. What I learned from this
week, what I what I where Istruggled this week, what I
would say to someone if I wascoaching them, and then the
decision I need to do to movefaster this next week. And so in
doing those little things helpsme then I can look at my week,
(30:44):
then I can see what my goals arefor the following week, where do
I need to go? And then thatmomentum is back. So if you're
in those place, those are acouple of little hacks that you
can do at any time to moveyourself forward.
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