What pretzel are you twisting yourself into just to look successful? And what’s that “success” really costing you? For so many of us, the chase isn’t about achievement — it’s about negotiating for acceptance. Let’s be real: if you’re chasing someone else’s version of success, you’re not building a life — you’re auditioning for one. Forever the Pick Me.
✨ In this episode, I unpack:
Why chasing the “That Girl” version of success sabotages your confidence and makes you feel like an imposter when you do score a win.
How authenticity and self-worth create real opportunities and flow
Why nurturing your unique strengths is the fastest path to growth
The freedom and fulfillment of embracing who you actually are
The get-rich-quick strategy isn’t hustling harder — it’s owning your strengths, finding your people, and working in alignment. Instead of failing at being “That Girl” (and resenting those who are), this is your permission slip to thrive as This Girl. The one nobody can copy, water down, or ignore.
🎙️ Tune in and learn how to stop people-pleasing, overcome imposter syndrome, and finally define success on your own terms.
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