May 5, 2024 • 9 mins
Walking away from a relationship that no longer serves you is like removing a weight you never knew you were carrying. In our latest episode, I unfold the chapters of my life where letting go of toxic ties was not a loss but a profound gain. It's a candid confession of self-discovery, recognizing the courage it takes to pour love into oneself and the transformative power of being selective with who we share our journey. As you listen, you'll understand why self-love isn't just about solitude; it's about creating space for relationships that truly matter—those that uplift and support us through thick and thin.
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Speaker 0 (00:00):
So I really wanted to talk about something.
I really don't like the factthat, just because in your
self-love journey you're losingpeople along the way,
relationships are starting tofizzle out, people are starting
to fade away from your life.
It's not always a bad thing.
It's really not a bad thing.
It's actually very necessary.
When a lot of you guys aregoing through a self-love
(00:20):
journey and you guys are pouringso much love into yourself and
you're focusing on you and youall about wanting to protect
your peace, the people that youlose along your way.
It's not a loss.
It's actually a gain.
Maybe you're losing peoplealong the way because it's for
you to be better, it's for youto grow, it's for you to get to
where you want to be, it's foryou to elevate, and everybody
(00:41):
that comes with you on yourjourney does not leave with you
on your journey because you aremeant for more.
You're meant to level up,you're meant to elevate, you're
meant for so much greater.
And, unfortunately, a lot ofpeople that starts the journey
with us, a lot of people that webe doing life with, people that
we surround ourselves with,people that we call our friends,
people that we call, you know,maybe family, maybe family,
(01:03):
maybe relatives.
They cannot be with you alongyour entire journey because they
be the ones holding you back,holding you back from growth,
holding you back for more.
When I got out of a toxicrelationship and I just had time
for myself, I just had time toreally hear my thoughts, you
know, turn all the voices off Ireally realized, like who wasn't
really there for me, who wasn'treally for me.
(01:25):
A lot of the times, when you'regoing through your self-love
journey, when you lose peoplealong the way, it's not about
beef, it's just about outgrowingpeople.
It's just about realizing thatnot everybody is really for you.
Don't question god's path foryou.
Like I'm always gonna say, I'malways gonna say this but god
heard conversations that youcan't hear.
God saw things that you didn'tsee.
(01:45):
You know god witnessed thingsthat you did not witness.
God heard conversations thatyou was not a part of.
God sees things that you cannotsee.
God hears things that youcannot hear.
You know what I'm saying.
So don't ever question god'sjourney.
Oh, why am I losing people alongthe way?
But what I really want to sayis that it may get lonely.
You may feel alone.
(02:05):
Be around people that reallysupport you for you.
Be around people that want tosee you win.
Be around those that theyrespect that you want to protect
your peace.
They respect that you want toprioritize yourself.
Sadly, that's not always thecase.
Unfortunately, that's noteverybody.
You know it's hard to be aroundpeople like that.
I'm still trying to findlike-minded individuals.
(02:26):
I'm still trying to find mytribe and it's hard.
It's really hard because Iseparated myself from so many
people, especially relatives,people that just was hindering
my peace.
The main reason why I removedmyself from so many people,
especially that do not serve me,is because one, I wanted peace.
Two, it was for my mentalhealth.
(02:49):
When you're going through aself-love journey and you feel
like you're alone and you feellike you're losing so many
people along the way, what Itruly believe is that do not let
poisonous people get back intoyour life.
Because you're way tooimpatient, because you want
connection, you want to bearound people so bad.
I'd rather be by myself andhave peace and connect with God
(03:11):
and maybe have like a smalllittle intimate circle, than be
around people that are just nogood for me.
Be around people that are notgood for my growth, not good for
my mental peace, not good formy well-being again.
I know healing and I know beingin your self-love journey is
hard like it is, so hard,especially when people just
(03:31):
started falling off your path.
When you don't resonate, youdon't relate to the people that
you once used to be around withanymore.
You know you don't relate tothem anymore.
The vibes isn't the same and itdoesn't always have to be beef.
It doesn't mean that there'sdramas.
Just you are on your own pathand they're on your own journey
and sometimes they're not gonnaunderstand, they're not gonna
(03:51):
get it.
They won get it.
When you elevate and when yourise up, you're going to have
more people mad at you thanhappy for you, and those be the
people that you know.
Those be your loved ones.
Don't ever be too impatient tofind the people.
That is good for you.
That you settle for poisonouspeople.
You settle for people thatreally can affect your mental
health, your mental peace,people that drain your energy.
(04:14):
I know certain people in my lifethat they will rather settle
with people that just bringstrauma, people that just brings
negativity, people that arereally not authentic, genuine
people, because they don't wantto be by themselves.
And when you don't want to beby yourself.
That's really a scary place tobe.
Because you have to be byyourself, you have to be alone.
(04:35):
You have to really love who youare.
You got to enjoy your owncompany.
You really got to get to knowyourself and love on you before
you could just give your energyaway to other people.
You don't want to becodependent on friendships.
You don't want to becodependent on family or
relatives or coworkers or the orthe outside world.
You got to make sure that youare whole and you have peace
(04:57):
within yourself and that youtruly love yourself and that you
bring good energy.
Before you just be around otherpeople and settle with people.
That just brings you poisonous,brings you poison and brings
you toxicity.
And it's the same inrelationships.
Just because you are way tooimpatient, attract the right
person or wait on god's timing,why would you settle for someone
(05:18):
that is no good for you?
You're actually doing moredamage than good to yourself.
Ladies and gentlemen,especially women, don't stick
with a relationship that's nogood for you, that's always
tearing you down, that's alwaysbelittling you, just because
you're too impatient and youdon't want to do the work within
yourself.
You don't want to heal, youdon't want to grow.
Imagine you actually cut offtoxic people from your life.
(05:40):
You level up, you elevate, youfocus on God.
You're doing what's best foryou.
Imagine God really blesses you,because that's what happens
most of the time.
But you have to go through thatjourney where it's going to
feel alone.
You're going to feel lonely.
You're going to feel like youdon't really have anybody.
You're going to feel likeyou're losing people along the
way.
And you're not losing anyonealong the way when you're
(06:02):
leveling up.
Let me tell you something youare never losing people along
the way in your path, in yourjourney.
When you choose yourself,you're not losing anybody along
the way.
When you want to do better foryourself, you're not losing
anyone friend, no family, norelative, no hater, no
relationship.
When you want to level up, whenyou want to protect your peace,
(06:22):
when you want to protect yourmental health, when you want to
just do what's best for you,when you want to just better
yourself, you're never losingpeople along the way.
That's just God revealing who'sreally there for you and who
really loves you for free.
The reality is a lot of people,unfortunately, they cannot
handle the truth.
They cannot handle what Godreveals to them.
But why stick around peoplethat are poisonous to you?
(06:44):
Why stick around people thatare toxic to you?
I'd rather be by myself andhave peace and have sanity than
be around fake people, then bearound toxic people, then be
around people.
That's just going to drain myenergy, because what does that
do for me?
My mental health is at risk.
I'm such in a negative, badmood all the time.
You know I'm always in a funk,I'm always disappointed, and
(07:04):
then that just brings morestress and then that just brings
more burdens.
Why would I want that formyself and I would not want that
for God?
So when you are in yourself-love journey, it is hard,
it could be very discouraging,but do not, do not let toxic,
poisonous people back into yourlife because you feel alone,
because you feel like you don'thave anybody.
Focus on the people that lovesyou for free.
(07:27):
Focus on the friendships.
Focus on the family membersthat want you to do better for
yourself.
If God took people away fromyour life whether it's a
relationship, a lover, afriendship I don't know a
coworker you know whatever hetook away from your life, he
took it away from you for yourown good, and you may not
realize it in the process, whenyou're going through things.
(07:48):
You're not going to realize it.
You're going to feel like, ohmy God, why is this happening to
me?
Why am I losing so many peoplealong the way?
You're never going to realizeit when you're in the path, but
sooner than later, god is goingto reveal it to you.
Oh, I had to lose this personfor my peace.
I had to lose this person toget to this place to focus on
(08:08):
myself, to focus on healing, tofocus on loving myself.
People come around you for aseason, a reason, a blessing, a
lesson, and you gotta just focuson that.
Like people in your life, theyhave expiration dates.
Just because you feel lonely,don't isolate yourself too much
where you're not making healthy,genuine connections.
Go be around people that aresupporting you.
Go be around people that arerooting for you, but don't
(08:29):
settle for people that arepoisonous to you and like like
you're not alone in this.
I go through this too.
I be going through moments andI'm like damn, I feel by myself,
you know, and then I be, but Ihave so much peace.
That's why I don't complain.
Like the peace that I have now.
I did not have this before,like I'm telling you, I did not
have the peace that I have now.
(08:50):
I had to get rid of people thatI love, people that I wanted to
do life with.
Talk to God about your problems, journal, meditate, be around
family that really love you, bearound friends that love you for
free, and I hope you guys likethis content and, if you did,
please like, comment andsubscribe and I'll be back for
more videos.
So I really wanted to talk about something.
I really don't like the factthat, just because in your
self-love journey you're losingpeople along the way,
relationships are starting tofizzle out, people are starting
to fade away from your life.
It's not always a bad thing.
It's really not a bad thing.
It's actually very necessary.
When a lot of you guys aregoing through a self-love
(00:20):
journey and you guys are pouringso much love into yourself and
you're focusing on you and youall about wanting to protect
your peace, the people that youlose along your way.
It's not a loss.
It's actually a gain.
Maybe you're losing peoplealong the way because it's for
you to be better, it's for youto grow, it's for you to get to
where you want to be, it's foryou to elevate, and everybody
(00:41):
that comes with you on yourjourney does not leave with you
on your journey because you aremeant for more.
You're meant to level up,you're meant to elevate, you're
meant for so much greater.
And, unfortunately, a lot ofpeople that starts the journey
with us, a lot of people that webe doing life with, people that
we surround ourselves with,people that we call our friends,
people that we call, you know,maybe family, maybe family,
(01:03):
maybe relatives.
They cannot be with you alongyour entire journey because they
be the ones holding you back,holding you back from growth,
holding you back for more.
When I got out of a toxicrelationship and I just had time
for myself, I just had time toreally hear my thoughts, you
know, turn all the voices off Ireally realized, like who wasn't
really there for me, who wasn'treally for me.
(01:25):
A lot of the times, when you'regoing through your self-love
journey, when you lose peoplealong the way, it's not about
beef, it's just about outgrowingpeople.
It's just about realizing thatnot everybody is really for you.
Don't question god's path foryou.
Like I'm always gonna say, I'malways gonna say this but god
heard conversations that youcan't hear.
God saw things that you didn'tsee.
(01:45):
You know god witnessed thingsthat you did not witness.
God heard conversations thatyou was not a part of.
God sees things that you cannotsee.
God hears things that youcannot hear.
You know what I'm saying.
So don't ever question god'sjourney.
Oh, why am I losing people alongthe way?
But what I really want to sayis that it may get lonely.
You may feel alone.
(02:05):
Be around people that reallysupport you for you.
Be around people that want tosee you win.
Be around those that theyrespect that you want to protect
your peace.
They respect that you want toprioritize yourself.
Sadly, that's not always thecase.
Unfortunately, that's noteverybody.
You know it's hard to be aroundpeople like that.
I'm still trying to findlike-minded individuals.
(02:26):
I'm still trying to find mytribe and it's hard.
It's really hard because Iseparated myself from so many
people, especially relatives,people that just was hindering
my peace.
The main reason why I removedmyself from so many people,
especially that do not serve me,is because one, I wanted peace.
Two, it was for my mentalhealth.
(02:49):
When you're going through aself-love journey and you feel
like you're alone and you feellike you're losing so many
people along the way, what Itruly believe is that do not let
poisonous people get back intoyour life.
Because you're way tooimpatient, because you want
connection, you want to bearound people so bad.
I'd rather be by myself andhave peace and connect with God
(03:11):
and maybe have like a smalllittle intimate circle, than be
around people that are just nogood for me.
Be around people that are notgood for my growth, not good for
my mental peace, not good formy well-being again.
I know healing and I know beingin your self-love journey is
hard like it is, so hard,especially when people just
(03:31):
started falling off your path.
When you don't resonate, youdon't relate to the people that
you once used to be around withanymore.
You know you don't relate tothem anymore.
The vibes isn't the same and itdoesn't always have to be beef.
It doesn't mean that there'sdramas.
Just you are on your own pathand they're on your own journey
and sometimes they're not gonnaunderstand, they're not gonna
(03:51):
get it.
They won get it.
When you elevate and when yourise up, you're going to have
more people mad at you thanhappy for you, and those be the
people that you know.
Those be your loved ones.
Don't ever be too impatient tofind the people.
That is good for you.
That you settle for poisonouspeople.
You settle for people thatreally can affect your mental
health, your mental peace,people that drain your energy.
(04:14):
I know certain people in my lifethat they will rather settle
with people that just bringstrauma, people that just brings
negativity, people that arereally not authentic, genuine
people, because they don't wantto be by themselves.
And when you don't want to beby yourself.
That's really a scary place tobe.
Because you have to be byyourself, you have to be alone.
(04:35):
You have to really love who youare.
You got to enjoy your owncompany.
You really got to get to knowyourself and love on you before
you could just give your energyaway to other people.
You don't want to becodependent on friendships.
You don't want to becodependent on family or
relatives or coworkers or the orthe outside world.
You got to make sure that youare whole and you have peace
(04:57):
within yourself and that youtruly love yourself and that you
bring good energy.
Before you just be around otherpeople and settle with people.
That just brings you poisonous,brings you poison and brings
you toxicity.
And it's the same inrelationships.
Just because you are way tooimpatient, attract the right
person or wait on god's timing,why would you settle for someone
(05:18):
that is no good for you?
You're actually doing moredamage than good to yourself.
Ladies and gentlemen,especially women, don't stick
with a relationship that's nogood for you, that's always
tearing you down, that's alwaysbelittling you, just because
you're too impatient and youdon't want to do the work within
yourself.
You don't want to heal, youdon't want to grow.
Imagine you actually cut offtoxic people from your life.
(05:40):
You level up, you elevate, youfocus on God.
You're doing what's best foryou.
Imagine God really blesses you,because that's what happens
most of the time.
But you have to go through thatjourney where it's going to
feel alone.
You're going to feel lonely.
You're going to feel like youdon't really have anybody.
You're going to feel likeyou're losing people along the
way.
And you're not losing anyonealong the way when you're
(06:02):
leveling up.
Let me tell you something youare never losing people along
the way in your path, in yourjourney.
When you choose yourself,you're not losing anybody along
the way.
When you want to do better foryourself, you're not losing
anyone friend, no family, norelative, no hater, no
relationship.
When you want to level up, whenyou want to protect your peace,
(06:22):
when you want to protect yourmental health, when you want to
just do what's best for you,when you want to just better
yourself, you're never losingpeople along the way.
That's just God revealing who'sreally there for you and who
really loves you for free.
The reality is a lot of people,unfortunately, they cannot
handle the truth.
They cannot handle what Godreveals to them.
But why stick around peoplethat are poisonous to you?
(06:44):
Why stick around people thatare toxic to you?
I'd rather be by myself andhave peace and have sanity than
be around fake people, then bearound toxic people, then be
around people.
That's just going to drain myenergy, because what does that
do for me?
My mental health is at risk.
I'm such in a negative, badmood all the time.
You know I'm always in a funk,I'm always disappointed, and
(07:04):
then that just brings morestress and then that just brings
more burdens.
Why would I want that formyself and I would not want that
for God?
So when you are in yourself-love journey, it is hard,
it could be very discouraging,but do not, do not let toxic,
poisonous people back into yourlife because you feel alone,
because you feel like you don'thave anybody.
Focus on the people that lovesyou for free.
(07:27):
Focus on the friendships.
Focus on the family membersthat want you to do better for
yourself.
If God took people away fromyour life whether it's a
relationship, a lover, afriendship I don't know a
coworker you know whatever hetook away from your life, he
took it away from you for yourown good, and you may not
realize it in the process, whenyou're going through things.
(07:48):
You're not going to realize it.
You're going to feel like, ohmy God, why is this happening to
me?
Why am I losing so many peoplealong the way?
You're never going to realizeit when you're in the path, but
sooner than later, god is goingto reveal it to you.
Oh, I had to lose this personfor my peace.
I had to lose this person toget to this place to focus on
(08:08):
myself, to focus on healing, tofocus on loving myself.
People come around you for aseason, a reason, a blessing, a
lesson, and you gotta just focuson that.
Like people in your life, theyhave expiration dates.
Just because you feel lonely,don't isolate yourself too much
where you're not making healthy,genuine connections.
Go be around people that aresupporting you.
Go be around people that arerooting for you, but don't
(08:29):
settle for people that arepoisonous to you and like like
you're not alone in this.
I go through this too.
I be going through moments andI'm like damn, I feel by myself,
you know, and then I be, but Ihave so much peace.
That's why I don't complain.
Like the peace that I have now.
I did not have this before,like I'm telling you, I did not
have the peace that I have now.
(08:50):
I had to get rid of people thatI love, people that I wanted to
do life with.
Talk to God about your problems, journal, meditate, be around
family that really love you, bearound friends that love you for
free, and I hope you guys likethis content and, if you did,
please like, comment andsubscribe and I'll be back for
more videos.
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