May 12, 2024 ā¢ 7 mins
Have you ever felt trapped in a toxic cycle, allowing the chaotic noise of social media and external pressures to overwhelm your sense of self? You're not alone. my latest episode is a heart-to-heart on the silent epidemic of neglected mental health and the courage it takes to break free and choose self-respect over disrespect. I share the raw and emotional story of a family member's struggle in a toxic household, highlighting the profound impact such environments can have on our mental well-being. This isn't just about venting; it's a call to action to face our emotions honestly, set firm boundaries, and reclaim our joy from the clutches of comparison.
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Speaker 0 (00:01):
Hey y'all.
So I'm sorry if my audio isvery bad my microphone broke but
I really wanted to talk aboutprioritizing your mental health.
I think it is so important.
I feel like a lot of peoplejust really ignore the way how
they're feeling and theiremotions and then they wonder
why they're so disappointed andthey wonder why they're such in
the right or they're in theirconstant toxic cycle that they
(00:23):
can't get out of.
Because you're not prioritizingyour mental health, you're not
prioritizing your wellbeing, andmaybe that means that you got
to log out of social media for alittle bit to get back to you,
to get back to yourself, to getback to healing, to get back to
focusing on what you love beingpresent in the very moment.
That's the thing.
Y'all cannot be letting socialmedia control you.
(00:44):
You cannot be letting socialmedia have you comparing
yourself to other people.
Once you start comparingyourself to other people, you're
already robbing yourself fromjoy.
You're already robbing yourselffrom your own destiny because
you're worrying about what thenext person is doing.
The last thing you should everbe doing, especially when you
get on social media, is worryingabout what the next person is
doing or comparing yourself toother people.
(01:04):
You are bringing a necessaryburden to yourself.
You don't know what that personis going through.
You don't know what that persondid to get to where they want
to be.
Not everything that glitters isgold.
One thing I want you to leavewith my content today, if you're
listening, if you're watching,is do not compare yourself to
other people.
I was just on the phone with oneof my family member and she's
(01:25):
really going through itemotionally, mentally, because
she's in this toxic household.
She feels like she's beingverbally, mentally bullied.
That's just heartbreaking.
I don't ever want to seeanybody being bullied.
I don't ever want to feel likeeveryone's mental health is at
stake or is at risk because ofyour family members, because of
where you're living, because ofwhere you're working or what
(01:45):
kind of relationship that youare in.
And I feel like if you are inthese kind of situations, do
your best to minimize thetoxicity.
If it's a relationship, thatperson already showed you
numerous times who they are.
When someone shows you who theyare, believe them.
When someone shows you who theyare, believe them.
(02:06):
Don't keep giving peopleunnecessary chances over and
over to show you that they'regoing to change, to show you
that they're going to do betterfor you If that person already
showed you the first time, eventhe third time, that they are a
piece of crap, that they don'tlove you, that they do not
worthy you, that they do notrespect you.
Stop giving these peoplemillions and millions of chances
, because you are doing adisservice to yourself.
(02:27):
You can't blame anybody else.
You got to take accountability.
You got to take responsibilityfor your actions.
Why are you letting thesepeople treat you the way that
they treat you?
Why are you allowing disrespect?
You have to prioritize yourmental health.
You got to choose distance overdisrespect.
You got to choose distance overdisrespect.
You got to choose peace overmisery.
It's a job and it's very toxic.
(02:49):
I've worked at a toxic jobbefore.
I worked where it was so muchdrama behind the scenes and what
I did.
I stick to myself because whenI go into work, it's just the
paycheck.
I'm not there to make friends.
I'm not there to hang out withanybody.
I'm not there to get to knowanybody.
I'm there to clock in, make mymoney, clock out and go about my
life, go about my business, andif that job is very toxic to me
(03:11):
, I will go find somewhere else.
I will go find something elseto do, something that is better
for me, something that gives mea peace of mind.
But when it comes to your money, don't let anybody come play
with your money.
When you go to work, clock in,worry about you, focus on
yourself and if the environmentis too toxic, get another job or
(03:33):
go to another location ortransfer to another place.
Work on your passion.
Focus on your passion so youdon't have to rely on these
minimum wage jobs to pay yourbills.
You can pay your own bills,being an entrepreneur, doing
something that you love workingfor yourself.
I cannot work for other people.
I don't enjoy working for otherpeople.
I don't love having a boss.
While I'm there right now, I amworking on becoming a full-time
(03:56):
content creator.
When I was in toxic situations,I almost lost my job because I
almost got into a fight with oneof my coworkers.
But if you're just going intowork, your money is your money
and you got kids to feed, yougot bills to pay.
You need to cut off all thenoise.
Stop making friends, stoptelling these people your
business.
Go in, get your money, get out.
Go about your life, go aboutyour day, go about your business
(04:16):
.
Don't worry about other peoplebecause other people's opinions
is not going to pay your bills.
Other people's perception ofyou, it's not going to get you
ahead of life.
It's not going to get you towhere you want to be.
Another thing with familymembers.
I know a lot of people livewith toxic family members.
I used to do the same.
I was living in a toxichousehold at one point Not that
it was toxic every day, but itwas just a necessary drama here
(04:39):
and there.
And I know when you live withfamily or friends, you know
sharing a room with friends.
I know it can be very toxic.
Work on getting your own place,have a conversation with your
roommates or have a conversationwith your family when I'm in my
bedroom.
This is the boundary.
Do not come in, do not botherme, do not come with drama.
(05:00):
When I was living with myparents, my parents did a lot
for me.
There's just so many reasons Ireally wanted to move out,
because I just wanted to be onmy own, because my parents were
very, very strict.
The way how I got out is I justmoved in with my boyfriend and
I don't really recommend thatfor everybody, because you know
me and that person is no longertogether.
The best thing that I can sayis that is to just be on your
(05:22):
own.
Work on being on your own, andI know that's hard because this
world is so hard I feel like tolive in today's time you need to
have three, four jobs, and Idon't think it's worth working
three to four jobs that youdon't love, that you don't enjoy
, just to make a living.
That's why I always tell peoplefocus on becoming your own boss
on the side, like, while you'restill working that day job,
(05:46):
focus on becoming your own boss,focus on becoming your own CEO,
focus on your business, focuson your brand, whatever it is
that you want to do.
I really tell people like, focuson that.
I honestly do not have the bestadvice, but I can advise women
with kids to go to a shelter.
I know so many people that havedone it.
I've done it and it was thebest thing that ever happened to
me and my child Overall.
What I really just want to sayis that you really got to
(06:08):
protect your mental health.
Don't let anyone bring you down, don't let anyone drag you down
with them.
If you know you're going places, you know you got so much
better coming for you coming foryour family.
Don't let other people messthat up for you.
It's always the people that aredoing the least that has the
most to say up for you.
It's always the people that aredoing the least that has the
(06:28):
most to say.
If it's friendships, if it'sthings that you can control the
toxicity, protecting your mentalhealth, then do it.
Cut these friends off.
These friends are not doinggood for you.
What good is it when your mindis like falling apart, when your
mind is at risk and you'restarting to have these negative
thoughts?
And I've been there.
I was in a relationship and Iwas just having these dark
thoughts.
I was stressed out, I wasunmotivated, I was uninspired, I
(06:50):
was not happy, I didn't evenreally love myself, I didn't
even know who I was, and that'sjust a scary dark place to be in
.
If you're in there, do the bestwith minimizing the
distractions, minimizing what'snot good for you, whether that's
a relationship, whether that'sliving with family, whether
that's working at a job that isnot serving you.
Do your best to minimize that,to change your life, because you
(07:12):
can change your life.
Where you at right now does notmean that this is where you're
going to be in a couple of yearsand it's not going to define
you.
This is just another page inyour book.
We got to the end of this videoand if you like this content,
please like, comment andsubscribe and I'll be back for
more videos.
Hey y'all.
So I'm sorry if my audio isvery bad my microphone broke but
I really wanted to talk aboutprioritizing your mental health.
I think it is so important.
I feel like a lot of peoplejust really ignore the way how
they're feeling and theiremotions and then they wonder
why they're so disappointed andthey wonder why they're such in
the right or they're in theirconstant toxic cycle that they
(00:23):
can't get out of.
Because you're not prioritizingyour mental health, you're not
prioritizing your wellbeing, andmaybe that means that you got
to log out of social media for alittle bit to get back to you,
to get back to yourself, to getback to healing, to get back to
focusing on what you love beingpresent in the very moment.
That's the thing.
Y'all cannot be letting socialmedia control you.
(00:44):
You cannot be letting socialmedia have you comparing
yourself to other people.
Once you start comparingyourself to other people, you're
already robbing yourself fromjoy.
You're already robbing yourselffrom your own destiny because
you're worrying about what thenext person is doing.
The last thing you should everbe doing, especially when you
get on social media, is worryingabout what the next person is
doing or comparing yourself toother people.
(01:04):
You are bringing a necessaryburden to yourself.
You don't know what that personis going through.
You don't know what that persondid to get to where they want
to be.
Not everything that glitters isgold.
One thing I want you to leavewith my content today, if you're
listening, if you're watching,is do not compare yourself to
other people.
I was just on the phone with oneof my family member and she's
(01:25):
really going through itemotionally, mentally, because
she's in this toxic household.
She feels like she's beingverbally, mentally bullied.
That's just heartbreaking.
I don't ever want to seeanybody being bullied.
I don't ever want to feel likeeveryone's mental health is at
stake or is at risk because ofyour family members, because of
where you're living, because ofwhere you're working or what
(01:45):
kind of relationship that youare in.
And I feel like if you are inthese kind of situations, do
your best to minimize thetoxicity.
If it's a relationship, thatperson already showed you
numerous times who they are.
When someone shows you who theyare, believe them.
When someone shows you who theyare, believe them.
(02:06):
Don't keep giving peopleunnecessary chances over and
over to show you that they'regoing to change, to show you
that they're going to do betterfor you If that person already
showed you the first time, eventhe third time, that they are a
piece of crap, that they don'tlove you, that they do not
worthy you, that they do notrespect you.
Stop giving these peoplemillions and millions of chances
, because you are doing adisservice to yourself.
(02:27):
You can't blame anybody else.
You got to take accountability.
You got to take responsibilityfor your actions.
Why are you letting thesepeople treat you the way that
they treat you?
Why are you allowing disrespect?
You have to prioritize yourmental health.
You got to choose distance overdisrespect.
You got to choose distance overdisrespect.
You got to choose peace overmisery.
It's a job and it's very toxic.
(02:49):
I've worked at a toxic jobbefore.
I worked where it was so muchdrama behind the scenes and what
I did.
I stick to myself because whenI go into work, it's just the
paycheck.
I'm not there to make friends.
I'm not there to hang out withanybody.
I'm not there to get to knowanybody.
I'm there to clock in, make mymoney, clock out and go about my
life, go about my business, andif that job is very toxic to me
(03:11):
, I will go find somewhere else.
I will go find something elseto do, something that is better
for me, something that gives mea peace of mind.
But when it comes to your money, don't let anybody come play
with your money.
When you go to work, clock in,worry about you, focus on
yourself and if the environmentis too toxic, get another job or
(03:33):
go to another location ortransfer to another place.
Work on your passion.
Focus on your passion so youdon't have to rely on these
minimum wage jobs to pay yourbills.
You can pay your own bills,being an entrepreneur, doing
something that you love workingfor yourself.
I cannot work for other people.
I don't enjoy working for otherpeople.
I don't love having a boss.
While I'm there right now, I amworking on becoming a full-time
(03:56):
content creator.
When I was in toxic situations,I almost lost my job because I
almost got into a fight with oneof my coworkers.
But if you're just going intowork, your money is your money
and you got kids to feed, yougot bills to pay.
You need to cut off all thenoise.
Stop making friends, stoptelling these people your
business.
Go in, get your money, get out.
Go about your life, go aboutyour day, go about your business
(04:16):
.
Don't worry about other peoplebecause other people's opinions
is not going to pay your bills.
Other people's perception ofyou, it's not going to get you
ahead of life.
It's not going to get you towhere you want to be.
Another thing with familymembers.
I know a lot of people livewith toxic family members.
I used to do the same.
I was living in a toxichousehold at one point Not that
it was toxic every day, but itwas just a necessary drama here
(04:39):
and there.
And I know when you live withfamily or friends, you know
sharing a room with friends.
I know it can be very toxic.
Work on getting your own place,have a conversation with your
roommates or have a conversationwith your family when I'm in my
bedroom.
This is the boundary.
Do not come in, do not botherme, do not come with drama.
(05:00):
When I was living with myparents, my parents did a lot
for me.
There's just so many reasons Ireally wanted to move out,
because I just wanted to be onmy own, because my parents were
very, very strict.
The way how I got out is I justmoved in with my boyfriend and
I don't really recommend thatfor everybody, because you know
me and that person is no longertogether.
The best thing that I can sayis that is to just be on your
(05:22):
own.
Work on being on your own, andI know that's hard because this
world is so hard I feel like tolive in today's time you need to
have three, four jobs, and Idon't think it's worth working
three to four jobs that youdon't love, that you don't enjoy
, just to make a living.
That's why I always tell peoplefocus on becoming your own boss
on the side, like, while you'restill working that day job,
(05:46):
focus on becoming your own boss,focus on becoming your own CEO,
focus on your business, focuson your brand, whatever it is
that you want to do.
I really tell people like, focuson that.
I honestly do not have the bestadvice, but I can advise women
with kids to go to a shelter.
I know so many people that havedone it.
I've done it and it was thebest thing that ever happened to
me and my child Overall.
What I really just want to sayis that you really got to
(06:08):
protect your mental health.
Don't let anyone bring you down, don't let anyone drag you down
with them.
If you know you're going places, you know you got so much
better coming for you coming foryour family.
Don't let other people messthat up for you.
It's always the people that aredoing the least that has the
most to say up for you.
It's always the people that aredoing the least that has the
(06:28):
most to say.
If it's friendships, if it'sthings that you can control the
toxicity, protecting your mentalhealth, then do it.
Cut these friends off.
These friends are not doinggood for you.
What good is it when your mindis like falling apart, when your
mind is at risk and you'restarting to have these negative
thoughts?
And I've been there.
I was in a relationship and Iwas just having these dark
thoughts.
I was stressed out, I wasunmotivated, I was uninspired, I
(06:50):
was not happy, I didn't evenreally love myself, I didn't
even know who I was, and that'sjust a scary dark place to be in
.
If you're in there, do the bestwith minimizing the
distractions, minimizing what'snot good for you, whether that's
a relationship, whether that'sliving with family, whether
that's working at a job that isnot serving you.
Do your best to minimize that,to change your life, because you
(07:12):
can change your life.
Where you at right now does notmean that this is where you're
going to be in a couple of yearsand it's not going to define
you.
This is just another page inyour book.
We got to the end of this videoand if you like this content,
please like, comment andsubscribe and I'll be back for
more videos.
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