June 4, 2024 • 8 mins
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Speaker 0 (00:00):
All right, single moms, you got to really give
yourself some grace.
Seriously, I know it's hard outhere and I know it's not easy,
but single moms, I really wantyou to know that, especially
when you're doing it all byyourself, you are doing the best
that you can as a single mother.
Okay, if anyone hasn't told youtoday that you're not doing
enough, if anyone hasn't toldyou today that you're not a
(00:22):
great mom, you're doing amazing.
You are a great mom.
I know so many of us got ithard because we're doing it by
ourselves and we are picking upthe pieces, but just know that
you got this and these are sometips that maybe can help you as
a single mom going throughmotherhood.
Single moms, please try topractice self-care.
(00:42):
Please pour that love ontoyourself, even if that's getting
your nails done, maybe yourhair done, even going out with
certain friends.
Please prioritize yourwellbeing.
Prioritize yourself, becauseyou need to be the best that you
can to show up for those kids,to show up as a better mom, as a
better person, to show up foryour job, to show up in all
(01:03):
aspects of your life.
You need to have time foryourself.
So if that means reaching outto certain family members that
you trust or certain people inyour life as friends or
relatives that you really trust,then reach out to them for help
, because being a single mom itis not easy.
You're going to need peoplealong the way that's going to
help you, that's going tosupport you so that you can
(01:25):
always fall back on, so you knowthat you're not doing this
journey by yourself.
So if you have family that isvery supportive, that is there
for you, reach out to yourfamily.
There's nothing wrong with youhaving a day just to yourself,
just to get back to you, just torelease all your stress.
We need that, we really needthat.
And if the fathers are involved, ladies, please reach out to
(01:48):
the dads and be like listen, Ineed a day to myself, I need a
day to just get my nails done.
Even if you want to go out withyour friends, tell them like I
need a day to just go out tohave fun, to enjoy.
Because, just because you're amom, your life does not have to
stop.
And I hate it when people belike oh, you're a mom, like your
whole life is your kids.
Yeah, your whole life is yourkids, but your life is about you
(02:10):
too.
Your life doesn't stop justbecause you're a mom.
Don't let people make you feellike, just because you're a mom,
that's it.
Your life is over.
Your life is not over.
Your life is just beginning.
You can live for you and youcan live for your kids.
Reach out to family members,reach out to people that you
really trust and that your kidslove, so that they can help you
and always know that you aredoing your best, always know
(02:32):
that you just showing up, evenif you're doing it by yourself,
that is enough, and one day,your kids is going to look back
on you and they're going to belike Mommy was always here for
me.
Mommy never abandoned me.
Mommy never neglected me.
Mommy never neglected me.
Mommy never left my side.
Your kids are going to see that, especially when they're older,
they're going to love you,they're going to appreciate you,
they're going to celebrate youall the time, because they know
(02:55):
you as their mom.
While you're doing it byyourself, they know that you
never left them, that you madesacrifices for your kids.
So, moms, keep it going.
I'm a single mom.
Sacrifices for your kids.
So, moms, keep it going.
I'm a single mom.
But of course, her dad isinvolved and he is a very
present, active dad and I livewith my daughter, so I'm a
full-time mom.
Sometimes it gets overwhelming.
So, me, what I do, I alwayscall my parents.
(03:15):
I call my parents or sometimesI just drop her off to my
parents, just so I can have sometime to breathe and just so I
can have some time to myself,like to go hiking or to go on a
workout or to hang out withsomeone that I love or love
being around.
It's needed sometimes.
And then it's sad because Iknow a lot of us moms,
especially single moms, we don'thave that.
(03:36):
We don't have that support, wedon't have that family, we don't
have people that can help usalong the way.
So if you don't have anyonethat can help you, find a
community of moms that you cantrust, that you can have this
support group, that you can havethis support system so that you
don't feel alone.
It's rough when you're a singlemom and you're doing everything
(03:57):
by yourself.
If you don't have a supportsystem, if you don't have anyone
that's going to help you.
Try to find mom groups onlineon Facebook.
Try to find a community, buildyour community of single moms
that's going to help you so youdon't have to go through this
motherhood journey by yourself.
And I actually follow this girlon Instagram.
Her name is single blackmotherhood and she is a single
(04:21):
mom and she builds a communityof single moms and they go on
retreats and for the ones thatdon't have support with their
kids, she makes it veryaccommodating for her, for her
kids, like there's support outthere, there's someone out there
that can help you, that cansupport you, that can be there
for you.
You don't have to do this alone.
And I know it's hard becauseyou don't want to trust
(04:42):
everybody and you shouldn'ttrust everybody.
I know so many women that arestruggling and they have a
support system, they have helpand they're still struggling.
So you got to find that balancebetween you and your children
and yourself.
You got to have time to reallymake yourself happy.
You got to, and your childrenand yourself.
You gotta have time to reallymake yourself happy.
You gotta have time tocelebrate yourself, celebrate
your small wins.
I just know it's hard,especially when you are a single
(05:05):
mom and you don't trust anybodyand you shouldn't trust anyone.
But I don't think that youshould do it by yourself.
I don't think that you shouldstruggle and go through this
motherhood journey alone.
There is so much people that isgoing through what you're going
through.
I confide in the most with mysister, because me and my sister
we're single moms and we'regoing through things a lot
similarly.
(05:25):
But I have my sister to fallback on and I feel it breaks my
heart and I feel bad for thepeople that don't have that
healthy support.
But there has to be that oneperson that you could just reach
out, that can just be there foryou, that can just come and
help you out and take some ofthe load.
You know whether it's a familymember, or maybe it's a close
friend, or maybe it's even,maybe it's a neighbor.
(05:45):
You got to have that one personthat you trust and that's there
for you and that could probablyshow up for you.
I just really want y'all toprioritize your well-being
because this is hard.
You know it's not easy.
This is a struggle that womangoes through every single day.
Celebrate that you are a momand that you are blessed to be
having these kids and you got totake some time out your day to
(06:08):
really focus on who you are.
Don't lose yourself inmotherhood.
So when my daughter goes tosleep.
That's the time I like tojournal, that's the time I like
to pray.
I don't want to just be a mom.
I want more to my life.
I want to serve more as a womanin this world.
I want to impact my audience.
I want to impact my followers.
(06:29):
I want to encourage women,especially single moms.
My target audience is mostlysingle mothers.
Yeah, I can get out of thistoxic relationship.
You guys can break generationalcurse.
You can do it while you're inpoverty.
You can do it while you have nobackbone, you have no support,
as long as you truly believe inyourself and you find a way when
maybe there is no way, whenmaybe the odds are against you,
(06:52):
and you break the cycle oftrauma and you're building
generational blessings andyou're breaking generational
traumas.
That is what my channel isabout.
It's about self-love, it'sabout personal development, but
it's my main audience is forsingle moms, because I'm a
single mom and I know how hardthat is and if you don't take
care of yourself, you're notgoing to show up as a better mom
, as a better person foryourself, for your kids, for
(07:14):
your job, for your work, foranything.
Don't forget about yourself justbecause you prioritize your
kids, and your kids are first.
Don't lose yourself in yourchildren.
Remember who you are, always,find support, because there is
support out there, and know thatyou are doing your best.
You know, and sometimes yourbest.
It may look like just gettingthrough the day, sometimes your
(07:36):
best may look like maybe comingoff a little bit short, but if
that is your best, that is yourbest.
That's more than enough, causeit's hard.
No one is going to understandour struggle.
So, single moms, just please, myheart really goes out for y'all
.
Like when I be talking to God,it's so crazy, cause when I talk
to God, I'd be like yo God, allthese single moms that are out
here and they have no support,they have like no type of help.
(08:00):
You be letting these dudes getaway with it, like these
deadbeat dads get away with it.
Please bring a strong, healthy,loving, respectful, loyal man
to these single moms out here.
Like these single moms deserveit all.
We deserve everything, and Ipray that upon single moms.
I pray that y'all geteverything that y'all deserve
and y'all create abundance andy'all create generational wealth
(08:21):
for you and your kids.
That is the goal.
So I hope y'all like this video.
All right, single moms, you got to really give
yourself some grace.
Seriously, I know it's hard outhere and I know it's not easy,
but single moms, I really wantyou to know that, especially
when you're doing it all byyourself, you are doing the best
that you can as a single mother.
Okay, if anyone hasn't told youtoday that you're not doing
enough, if anyone hasn't toldyou today that you're not a
(00:22):
great mom, you're doing amazing.
You are a great mom.
I know so many of us got ithard because we're doing it by
ourselves and we are picking upthe pieces, but just know that
you got this and these are sometips that maybe can help you as
a single mom going throughmotherhood.
Single moms, please try topractice self-care.
(00:42):
Please pour that love ontoyourself, even if that's getting
your nails done, maybe yourhair done, even going out with
certain friends.
Please prioritize yourwellbeing.
Prioritize yourself, becauseyou need to be the best that you
can to show up for those kids,to show up as a better mom, as a
better person, to show up foryour job, to show up in all
(01:03):
aspects of your life.
You need to have time foryourself.
So if that means reaching outto certain family members that
you trust or certain people inyour life as friends or
relatives that you really trust,then reach out to them for help
, because being a single mom itis not easy.
You're going to need peoplealong the way that's going to
help you, that's going tosupport you so that you can
(01:25):
always fall back on, so you knowthat you're not doing this
journey by yourself.
So if you have family that isvery supportive, that is there
for you, reach out to yourfamily.
There's nothing wrong with youhaving a day just to yourself,
just to get back to you, just torelease all your stress.
We need that, we really needthat.
And if the fathers are involved, ladies, please reach out to
(01:48):
the dads and be like listen, Ineed a day to myself, I need a
day to just get my nails done.
Even if you want to go out withyour friends, tell them like I
need a day to just go out tohave fun, to enjoy.
Because, just because you're amom, your life does not have to
stop.
And I hate it when people belike oh, you're a mom, like your
whole life is your kids.
Yeah, your whole life is yourkids, but your life is about you
(02:10):
too.
Your life doesn't stop justbecause you're a mom.
Don't let people make you feellike, just because you're a mom,
that's it.
Your life is over.
Your life is not over.
Your life is just beginning.
You can live for you and youcan live for your kids.
Reach out to family members,reach out to people that you
really trust and that your kidslove, so that they can help you
and always know that you aredoing your best, always know
(02:32):
that you just showing up, evenif you're doing it by yourself,
that is enough, and one day,your kids is going to look back
on you and they're going to belike Mommy was always here for
me.
Mommy never abandoned me.
Mommy never neglected me.
Mommy never neglected me.
Mommy never left my side.
Your kids are going to see that, especially when they're older,
they're going to love you,they're going to appreciate you,
they're going to celebrate youall the time, because they know
(02:55):
you as their mom.
While you're doing it byyourself, they know that you
never left them, that you madesacrifices for your kids.
So, moms, keep it going.
I'm a single mom.
Sacrifices for your kids.
So, moms, keep it going.
I'm a single mom.
But of course, her dad isinvolved and he is a very
present, active dad and I livewith my daughter, so I'm a
full-time mom.
Sometimes it gets overwhelming.
So, me, what I do, I alwayscall my parents.
(03:15):
I call my parents or sometimesI just drop her off to my
parents, just so I can have sometime to breathe and just so I
can have some time to myself,like to go hiking or to go on a
workout or to hang out withsomeone that I love or love
being around.
It's needed sometimes.
And then it's sad because Iknow a lot of us moms,
especially single moms, we don'thave that.
(03:36):
We don't have that support, wedon't have that family, we don't
have people that can help usalong the way.
So if you don't have anyonethat can help you, find a
community of moms that you cantrust, that you can have this
support group, that you can havethis support system so that you
don't feel alone.
It's rough when you're a singlemom and you're doing everything
(03:57):
by yourself.
If you don't have a supportsystem, if you don't have anyone
that's going to help you.
Try to find mom groups onlineon Facebook.
Try to find a community, buildyour community of single moms
that's going to help you so youdon't have to go through this
motherhood journey by yourself.
And I actually follow this girlon Instagram.
Her name is single blackmotherhood and she is a single
(04:21):
mom and she builds a communityof single moms and they go on
retreats and for the ones thatdon't have support with their
kids, she makes it veryaccommodating for her, for her
kids, like there's support outthere, there's someone out there
that can help you, that cansupport you, that can be there
for you.
You don't have to do this alone.
And I know it's hard becauseyou don't want to trust
(04:42):
everybody and you shouldn'ttrust everybody.
I know so many women that arestruggling and they have a
support system, they have helpand they're still struggling.
So you got to find that balancebetween you and your children
and yourself.
You got to have time to reallymake yourself happy.
You got to, and your childrenand yourself.
You gotta have time to reallymake yourself happy.
You gotta have time tocelebrate yourself, celebrate
your small wins.
I just know it's hard,especially when you are a single
(05:05):
mom and you don't trust anybodyand you shouldn't trust anyone.
But I don't think that youshould do it by yourself.
I don't think that you shouldstruggle and go through this
motherhood journey alone.
There is so much people that isgoing through what you're going
through.
I confide in the most with mysister, because me and my sister
we're single moms and we'regoing through things a lot
similarly.
(05:25):
But I have my sister to fallback on and I feel it breaks my
heart and I feel bad for thepeople that don't have that
healthy support.
But there has to be that oneperson that you could just reach
out, that can just be there foryou, that can just come and
help you out and take some ofthe load.
You know whether it's a familymember, or maybe it's a close
friend, or maybe it's even,maybe it's a neighbor.
(05:45):
You got to have that one personthat you trust and that's there
for you and that could probablyshow up for you.
I just really want y'all toprioritize your well-being
because this is hard.
You know it's not easy.
This is a struggle that womangoes through every single day.
Celebrate that you are a momand that you are blessed to be
having these kids and you got totake some time out your day to
(06:08):
really focus on who you are.
Don't lose yourself inmotherhood.
So when my daughter goes tosleep.
That's the time I like tojournal, that's the time I like
to pray.
I don't want to just be a mom.
I want more to my life.
I want to serve more as a womanin this world.
I want to impact my audience.
I want to impact my followers.
(06:29):
I want to encourage women,especially single moms.
My target audience is mostlysingle mothers.
Yeah, I can get out of thistoxic relationship.
You guys can break generationalcurse.
You can do it while you're inpoverty.
You can do it while you have nobackbone, you have no support,
as long as you truly believe inyourself and you find a way when
maybe there is no way, whenmaybe the odds are against you,
(06:52):
and you break the cycle oftrauma and you're building
generational blessings andyou're breaking generational
traumas.
That is what my channel isabout.
It's about self-love, it'sabout personal development, but
it's my main audience is forsingle moms, because I'm a
single mom and I know how hardthat is and if you don't take
care of yourself, you're notgoing to show up as a better mom
, as a better person foryourself, for your kids, for
(07:14):
your job, for your work, foranything.
Don't forget about yourself justbecause you prioritize your
kids, and your kids are first.
Don't lose yourself in yourchildren.
Remember who you are, always,find support, because there is
support out there, and know thatyou are doing your best.
You know, and sometimes yourbest.
It may look like just gettingthrough the day, sometimes your
(07:36):
best may look like maybe comingoff a little bit short, but if
that is your best, that is yourbest.
That's more than enough, causeit's hard.
No one is going to understandour struggle.
So, single moms, just please, myheart really goes out for y'all
.
Like when I be talking to God,it's so crazy, cause when I talk
to God, I'd be like yo God, allthese single moms that are out
here and they have no support,they have like no type of help.
(08:00):
You be letting these dudes getaway with it, like these
deadbeat dads get away with it.
Please bring a strong, healthy,loving, respectful, loyal man
to these single moms out here.
Like these single moms deserveit all.
We deserve everything, and Ipray that upon single moms.
I pray that y'all geteverything that y'all deserve
and y'all create abundance andy'all create generational wealth
(08:21):
for you and your kids.
That is the goal.
So I hope y'all like this video.
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