August 4, 2024 • 11 mins
Ever felt like your date just doesn’t really care about you? Join me as we uncover the subtle yet telling signs that it's time to reconsider your romantic prospects. You’ll learn how to spot red flags like a lack of interest in your mental health and personal life, which can reveal a partner's true intentions. Sharpen your instincts and protect your heart by recognizing these early warning signals, ensuring you steer clear of future heartache.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What up beautiful people Frijeliz here.
So these are the biggest signsthat, ladies and gentlemen, you
should give up dating thisperson.
Sign number one is when theydon't even ask you how you're
doing.
They talk to you but they don'teven ask you how you're doing,
how you're feeling, how's yourday, did you eat?
Like little things like that.
(00:20):
It really shows if that man orif that woman even cares about
you.
And if they don't even do that,they're not even giving you the
bare minimum like that.
Right, there is the bareminimum when you're dating
someone, or if you're in arelationship with someone, or
even if you're getting to knowsomeone.
If they don't even ask youabout your well-being, if they
don't even ask you about yourmental health, they don't even
ask you how are you, how are youdoing?
(00:43):
That is such a red flag.
I was dating someone and I wasbasically begging this man to
ask me how I'm doing, ask me howI'm feeling, and he still
couldn't get it right me.
After begging him, me, aftercursing him out, me, after
blocking him and taking him back, he still couldn't do the bare
minimum for me and that justshowed me that that person never
(01:05):
really cared about me.
He just was with me fordifferent reasons.
And the person if they don'teven ask you, how are you?
They don't even give you thatcommon decency.
When you're getting to knowthem, or even when you're dating
them, or even if you're in arelationship, that's already a
deal breaker.
That's already a red flag.
That means they do not careabout you.
And if deal breaker, that'salready a red flag.
(01:30):
That means they do not careabout you.
And if they're with you,they're with you for the wrong
reasons.
They're not with you to tryingto grow with you.
They're not with you trying toreally be with you, build the
future with you.
They're probably just with you,maybe for sex, maybe they're
just trying to use you, maybethey're just with you because of
the benefits that you areproviding them.
I'm telling you little thingsthat it just really shows you
the character of that person andit really shows you what
they're really there for.
Most of the time it's not thatyou're even dating this person,
(01:52):
it's that you got a piece ofthis person.
And that is the most confusing.
And when you're confused aboutif someone is even feeling you,
if someone is even interested inyou, that right there tells you
all what you need to know aboutthem.
They don't even ask you howyou're doing.
It just means that they don'tcare about you.
And if they don't care aboutyou, they're not trying to build
with you.
And if they're not trying tobuild with you, that means
(02:12):
they're dating you for the wrongreasons or they're trying to
benefit from being with you, andthat's just selfish on their
part and is messed up on yourpart.
Number two another sign, ladiesand gentlemen, that you should
really give up dating them iswhen they're not even trying to
get to know you, like you guysknow.
When you guys are talking tosomeone or you guys are even
dating someone and you guys justbe like I miss you, I want you,
(02:36):
I want to sleep with you, horny, but they're not really trying
to get to know you.
You know they're not trying toget to know your family.
If you have kids, they're notreally trying to build a
connection with your kids.
They're not really trying toknow your everyday life.
Like they don't know you.
Like they're talking to you butthey don't know you.
Like they don't ask you whatyour favorite color is, they
don't try to make effort.
(02:56):
They don't ask you what's youra red flag when you're dating
this person for a couple ofmonths and they don't know
anything about your life.
They don't know if you likeflowers, they don't know what
kind of movie you like, theydon't know what kind of food
you're into like they're notreally trying to get to know you
.
Like, yeah, conversations arevery surface level.
It's more about maybe sleepingwith you.
(03:17):
It's more about constant lovebombing.
Like they tell you how muchthey miss you.
They tell you how much theywant to be.
Like they tell you how muchthey miss you.
They tell you how much theywant to be with you.
They tell you, oh, I can't waitto see you.
But they're not really tryingto get to know you.
Like there's no substance.
Everything is very surfacelevel.
Y'all don't really talk.
Y'all don't really haveuncomfortable conversations.
If anything, you guys don'treally have deep conversations.
It's more like, hey, I miss you.
(03:38):
What you doing, going to work?
Okay, talk to you later.
Like they're not really gettingto know you.
I've been there.
I've done that.
I was dating someone and hewasn't really trying to get to
know me.
He wasn't really asking mequestions.
He wasn't really trying tobuild a bond with me.
He wasn't really trying to getto know me on a deeper level and
(04:05):
that just benefit you or theyjust don't want you, that
they're going to waste your time.
Ladies and gentlemen, I knowthese signs are so small, but
these little signs can reallysave you so much heartbreak, so
much disappointment in the end,because if you are really
interested in this person, thisperson is really not trying to
build a bond with you, thisperson is really not trying to
build a connection with you.
You got to pay attention,ladies and gentlemen, when this
person is really not trying tobuild a bond with you, this
person is really not trying tobuild a connection with you.
You got to pay attention,ladies and gentlemen, when this
person just like you, because ofyour looks, they're just
(04:27):
attracted to you, but mentallyand emotionally they're absent,
they're unavailable, and that isa huge problem, because if you
can't have tough talks, youcan't have deeper conversations
with this person, you arewasting your time and you are
going to suffer later.
If you keep on trying to form abond with this person, you are
going to be disappointed.
(04:48):
Sooner than later you're gonnarealize you are dating a wall,
you are dating a ghost, anotherred flag, another sign that you
know, ladies and gentlemen, thatyou should just give up dating
this person is when theyinvalidate your feelings, they
invalidate your emotions.
You guys ever talk to someoneand you guys tell them like, oh
(05:08):
my God, I had such a hard day orI'm not feeling well, and they
just so dismissive, they makeeverything about them, they make
the whole conversation aboutthem.
So, basically, you guys datingor you guys being in a
relationship is so one-sidedbecause if it's not about them
and how they feel and whatthey're benefiting from, you're
just completely absent.
You're completely dismissive,unheard, misunderstood,
(05:32):
unaccepted.
If this person trulyinvalidates how you feel, does
not make you feel appreciated,doesn't make you feel celebrated
, don't even make you feeltolerated, that's a sign you
really gotta give up on them.
That's honestly, realistically,respectfully.
That's a sign you need to blockthem if they're not even trying
to comfort you, they're noteven trying to get to know you,
(05:52):
they're not even trying tosupport you.
That already tells you what youare about to get yourself into
when you're in the talkingstages or you're in the dating
stages.
What you are experiencing inthe beginning.
That is a preview of what youare about to walk into.
Don't ever think that you canchange this person.
(06:13):
No, you cannot change thisperson.
I don't care how in love theythink they are, I don't care
what it is that they be tellingyou, I don't care what kind of
sex you be giving this person.
You cannot change that person.
The best thing you can do ischange the person, get rid of
that person, throw them away,put them in the garbage and
replace them.
But you can't change anybodybecause after a while, that lust
(06:36):
, that desire for you, it justgoes away.
It's like feelings and emotions.
Emotions come and go, just likethe wind, just like the seasons
change.
You cannot make someone change.
Someone should want to changebecause they want to change, not
because they're driven by youto change.
That comes and goes, but ifthat person does not validate
your feelings at all, that'skind of like a narcissist trait
(06:59):
that means they don't even careabout you.
You're just there, but you'renot really there.
They're physically there foryou, but mentally, emotionally,
they're just gone.
They don't care about you.
Again, it's going to feel likeyou're lonely in the
relationship.
So why not be lonely and have apeace of mind than dealing with
the headache, instead of tryingto stress someone to get it
right.
Instead of trying to raise thatperson, instead of trying to
(07:20):
beg and force that person to bewhat you want them to be, that
is such a deal breaker.
That's not even a red flag.
That's a deal breaker.
Cutting them off is not enough.
You need to block them.
When you block them, they'regoing to try to hit you back up
when you get rid of them, whenyou cut them off, they're going
to try to come back to you.
Ladies and gentlemen, but I'mtelling you, even when you take
them back, things are not goingto change.
(07:42):
They're going to manipulate you.
They're going to love, bomb you.
They're going to tell youeverything that you want to hear
, and then it's going to go backto square one and then your
feelings are going to be moreinvolved and that person is
going to lose more respect foryou.
So, if they don't even validatehow you feel, block them.
Don't even keep trying.
Just block them.
That's it.
Everything that I just explainedto you is below the bare
(08:04):
minimum.
It's really below the bareminimum.
Someone really trying to hearyou out, someone trying to
communicate with you, supportyou.
That's all the bare minimum.
That's something that you don'teven have to ask.
It should be given.
Like I said in my last video,what's understood don't even got
to be explained.
That's how you know you're nottalking to a real man or a real
woman.
(08:24):
You're talking to a child.
This is what you're goingthrough.
They're not trying to get toknow you.
They're not really trying tobuild a deeper bond.
And when I mean a deeper bond,I'm not talking about sex and
I'm not talking about justphysical attraction.
Attraction may be important,but it has to be deeper than
physical attraction.
It has to be like emotional,mental connection.
(08:44):
It has to be like a real deepbond that you guys have that you
guys can build from.
When you guys are dating someone, also try to really get to know
them as a friend.
Don't even try to jump intodating, because when you get to
know them as a friend, you getto know them for who they really
are and not what you want themto be.
Ladies and gentlemen, whenyou're dating someone and you
tell them upfront what you wantand what you don't want, they're
(09:07):
going to pretend to be exactlywhat you want for a couple of
days, maybe even for a couple ofweeks, and after that you're
going to start to see thesepeople for who they really are.
I really believe when you'redating someone, it's kind of
better to just get to know themas friends, so you guys can
build a real foundation.
You guys can build a real bondand a connection.
(09:28):
It's not strictly justattraction or maybe sex.
You guys have a real, seriousbond and you're not just bonding
off physical attributes.
You guys are stimulating eachother's mind.
You guys are havinguncomfortable conversations.
You guys are really getting toknow each other.
You both are equally yoked witheach other.
You guys are equally alignedwith each other.
(09:50):
That is my content for today andI really hope, ladies and
gentlemen, this has helped youout in any sort of way.
Remember, if you guys aredealing with someone that I just
basically described in thiscontent, you've got the best
thing that you can do, not onlywhen you block them or when you
cut them off, but the best thingto do is detach.
Detaching from someone that isreally not good for you or
(10:14):
someone who do not align withyou or someone who does not
serve you anymore.
Detach from them, because thatwill protect your peace, you
will heal from it, you will growfrom it and eventually you're
going to attract someone who'sway better for you.
You don't want to downgrade.
You don't want to be withsomeone that don't even give you
the bare minimum, like honestly, I think everything that I
described to you guys is kind ofnarcissists, like they don't
(10:36):
validate how you feel.
They're not really trying toget to know you.
They don't even check in withyou.
This person does not careanything about you.
If you like more content likethis, please like comment.
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Follow me on Instagram.
Follow me on TikTok Cause whenI'm not on YouTube, I am
definitely on TikTok.
I'm always throwing out gems,so I'll see you on my next video
(10:58):
.
What up beautiful people Frijeliz here.
So these are the biggest signsthat, ladies and gentlemen, you
should give up dating thisperson.
Sign number one is when theydon't even ask you how you're
doing.
They talk to you but they don'teven ask you how you're doing,
how you're feeling, how's yourday, did you eat?
Like little things like that.
(00:20):
It really shows if that man orif that woman even cares about
you.
And if they don't even do that,they're not even giving you the
bare minimum like that.
Right, there is the bareminimum when you're dating
someone, or if you're in arelationship with someone, or
even if you're getting to knowsomeone.
If they don't even ask youabout your well-being, if they
don't even ask you about yourmental health, they don't even
ask you how are you, how are youdoing?
(00:43):
That is such a red flag.
I was dating someone and I wasbasically begging this man to
ask me how I'm doing, ask me howI'm feeling, and he still
couldn't get it right me.
After begging him, me, aftercursing him out, me, after
blocking him and taking him back, he still couldn't do the bare
minimum for me and that justshowed me that that person never
(01:05):
really cared about me.
He just was with me fordifferent reasons.
And the person if they don'teven ask you, how are you?
They don't even give you thatcommon decency.
When you're getting to knowthem, or even when you're dating
them, or even if you're in arelationship, that's already a
deal breaker.
That's already a red flag.
That means they do not careabout you.
And if deal breaker, that'salready a red flag.
(01:30):
That means they do not careabout you.
And if they're with you,they're with you for the wrong
reasons.
They're not with you to tryingto grow with you.
They're not with you trying toreally be with you, build the
future with you.
They're probably just with you,maybe for sex, maybe they're
just trying to use you, maybethey're just with you because of
the benefits that you areproviding them.
I'm telling you little thingsthat it just really shows you
the character of that person andit really shows you what
they're really there for.
Most of the time it's not thatyou're even dating this person,
(01:52):
it's that you got a piece ofthis person.
And that is the most confusing.
And when you're confused aboutif someone is even feeling you,
if someone is even interested inyou, that right there tells you
all what you need to know aboutthem.
They don't even ask you howyou're doing.
It just means that they don'tcare about you.
And if they don't care aboutyou, they're not trying to build
with you.
And if they're not trying tobuild with you, that means
(02:12):
they're dating you for the wrongreasons or they're trying to
benefit from being with you, andthat's just selfish on their
part and is messed up on yourpart.
Number two another sign, ladiesand gentlemen, that you should
really give up dating them iswhen they're not even trying to
get to know you, like you guysknow.
When you guys are talking tosomeone or you guys are even
dating someone and you guys justbe like I miss you, I want you,
(02:36):
I want to sleep with you, horny, but they're not really trying
to get to know you.
You know they're not trying toget to know your family.
If you have kids, they're notreally trying to build a
connection with your kids.
They're not really trying toknow your everyday life.
Like they don't know you.
Like they're talking to you butthey don't know you.
Like they don't ask you whatyour favorite color is, they
don't try to make effort.
(02:56):
They don't ask you what's youra red flag when you're dating
this person for a couple ofmonths and they don't know
anything about your life.
They don't know if you likeflowers, they don't know what
kind of movie you like, theydon't know what kind of food
you're into like they're notreally trying to get to know you
.
Like, yeah, conversations arevery surface level.
It's more about maybe sleepingwith you.
(03:17):
It's more about constant lovebombing.
Like they tell you how muchthey miss you.
They tell you how much theywant to be.
Like they tell you how muchthey miss you.
They tell you how much theywant to be with you.
They tell you, oh, I can't waitto see you.
But they're not really tryingto get to know you.
Like there's no substance.
Everything is very surfacelevel.
Y'all don't really talk.
Y'all don't really haveuncomfortable conversations.
If anything, you guys don'treally have deep conversations.
It's more like, hey, I miss you.
(03:38):
What you doing, going to work?
Okay, talk to you later.
Like they're not really gettingto know you.
I've been there.
I've done that.
I was dating someone and hewasn't really trying to get to
know me.
He wasn't really asking mequestions.
He wasn't really trying tobuild a bond with me.
He wasn't really trying to getto know me on a deeper level and
(04:05):
that just benefit you or theyjust don't want you, that
they're going to waste your time.
Ladies and gentlemen, I knowthese signs are so small, but
these little signs can reallysave you so much heartbreak, so
much disappointment in the end,because if you are really
interested in this person, thisperson is really not trying to
build a bond with you, thisperson is really not trying to
build a connection with you.
You got to pay attention,ladies and gentlemen, when this
person is really not trying tobuild a bond with you, this
person is really not trying tobuild a connection with you.
You got to pay attention,ladies and gentlemen, when this
person just like you, because ofyour looks, they're just
(04:27):
attracted to you, but mentallyand emotionally they're absent,
they're unavailable, and that isa huge problem, because if you
can't have tough talks, youcan't have deeper conversations
with this person, you arewasting your time and you are
going to suffer later.
If you keep on trying to form abond with this person, you are
going to be disappointed.
(04:48):
Sooner than later you're gonnarealize you are dating a wall,
you are dating a ghost, anotherred flag, another sign that you
know, ladies and gentlemen, thatyou should just give up dating
this person is when theyinvalidate your feelings, they
invalidate your emotions.
You guys ever talk to someoneand you guys tell them like, oh
(05:08):
my God, I had such a hard day orI'm not feeling well, and they
just so dismissive, they makeeverything about them, they make
the whole conversation aboutthem.
So, basically, you guys datingor you guys being in a
relationship is so one-sidedbecause if it's not about them
and how they feel and whatthey're benefiting from, you're
just completely absent.
You're completely dismissive,unheard, misunderstood,
(05:32):
unaccepted.
If this person trulyinvalidates how you feel, does
not make you feel appreciated,doesn't make you feel celebrated
, don't even make you feeltolerated, that's a sign you
really gotta give up on them.
That's honestly, realistically,respectfully.
That's a sign you need to blockthem if they're not even trying
to comfort you, they're noteven trying to get to know you,
(05:52):
they're not even trying tosupport you.
That already tells you what youare about to get yourself into
when you're in the talkingstages or you're in the dating
stages.
What you are experiencing inthe beginning.
That is a preview of what youare about to walk into.
Don't ever think that you canchange this person.
(06:13):
No, you cannot change thisperson.
I don't care how in love theythink they are, I don't care
what it is that they be tellingyou, I don't care what kind of
sex you be giving this person.
You cannot change that person.
The best thing you can do ischange the person, get rid of
that person, throw them away,put them in the garbage and
replace them.
But you can't change anybodybecause after a while, that lust
(06:36):
, that desire for you, it justgoes away.
It's like feelings and emotions.
Emotions come and go, just likethe wind, just like the seasons
change.
You cannot make someone change.
Someone should want to changebecause they want to change, not
because they're driven by youto change.
That comes and goes, but ifthat person does not validate
your feelings at all, that'skind of like a narcissist trait
(06:59):
that means they don't even careabout you.
You're just there, but you'renot really there.
They're physically there foryou, but mentally, emotionally,
they're just gone.
They don't care about you.
Again, it's going to feel likeyou're lonely in the
relationship.
So why not be lonely and have apeace of mind than dealing with
the headache, instead of tryingto stress someone to get it
right.
Instead of trying to raise thatperson, instead of trying to
(07:20):
beg and force that person to bewhat you want them to be, that
is such a deal breaker.
That's not even a red flag.
That's a deal breaker.
Cutting them off is not enough.
You need to block them.
When you block them, they'regoing to try to hit you back up
when you get rid of them, whenyou cut them off, they're going
to try to come back to you.
Ladies and gentlemen, but I'mtelling you, even when you take
them back, things are not goingto change.
(07:42):
They're going to manipulate you.
They're going to love, bomb you.
They're going to tell youeverything that you want to hear
, and then it's going to go backto square one and then your
feelings are going to be moreinvolved and that person is
going to lose more respect foryou.
So, if they don't even validatehow you feel, block them.
Don't even keep trying.
Just block them.
That's it.
Everything that I just explainedto you is below the bare
(08:04):
minimum.
It's really below the bareminimum.
Someone really trying to hearyou out, someone trying to
communicate with you, supportyou.
That's all the bare minimum.
That's something that you don'teven have to ask.
It should be given.
Like I said in my last video,what's understood don't even got
to be explained.
That's how you know you're nottalking to a real man or a real
woman.
(08:24):
You're talking to a child.
This is what you're goingthrough.
They're not trying to get toknow you.
They're not really trying tobuild a deeper bond.
And when I mean a deeper bond,I'm not talking about sex and
I'm not talking about justphysical attraction.
Attraction may be important,but it has to be deeper than
physical attraction.
It has to be like emotional,mental connection.
(08:44):
It has to be like a real deepbond that you guys have that you
guys can build from.
When you guys are dating someone, also try to really get to know
them as a friend.
Don't even try to jump intodating, because when you get to
know them as a friend, you getto know them for who they really
are and not what you want themto be.
Ladies and gentlemen, whenyou're dating someone and you
tell them upfront what you wantand what you don't want, they're
(09:07):
going to pretend to be exactlywhat you want for a couple of
days, maybe even for a couple ofweeks, and after that you're
going to start to see thesepeople for who they really are.
I really believe when you'redating someone, it's kind of
better to just get to know themas friends, so you guys can
build a real foundation.
You guys can build a real bondand a connection.
(09:28):
It's not strictly justattraction or maybe sex.
You guys have a real, seriousbond and you're not just bonding
off physical attributes.
You guys are stimulating eachother's mind.
You guys are havinguncomfortable conversations.
You guys are really getting toknow each other.
You both are equally yoked witheach other.
You guys are equally alignedwith each other.
(09:50):
That is my content for today andI really hope, ladies and
gentlemen, this has helped youout in any sort of way.
Remember, if you guys aredealing with someone that I just
basically described in thiscontent, you've got the best
thing that you can do, not onlywhen you block them or when you
cut them off, but the best thingto do is detach.
Detaching from someone that isreally not good for you or
(10:14):
someone who do not align withyou or someone who does not
serve you anymore.
Detach from them, because thatwill protect your peace, you
will heal from it, you will growfrom it and eventually you're
going to attract someone who'sway better for you.
You don't want to downgrade.
You don't want to be withsomeone that don't even give you
the bare minimum, like honestly, I think everything that I
described to you guys is kind ofnarcissists, like they don't
(10:36):
validate how you feel.
They're not really trying toget to know you.
They don't even check in withyou.
This person does not careanything about you.
If you like more content likethis, please like comment.
Subscribe Also.
Follow me on Instagram.
Follow me on TikTok Cause whenI'm not on YouTube, I am
definitely on TikTok.
I'm always throwing out gems,so I'll see you on my next video
(10:58):
.
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