In this episode of 'Awaken Her,' host Corissa Stepp interviews Dr. Jolene Arasz, a practicing psychologist specializing in anxiety management and author of the book 'Why on Earth Do I Feel This Way? Understanding Anxiety and Mental Health Through Control Theory.' The discussion delves into the connection between trauma and anxiety, the mechanisms behind anxiety responses, and practical strategies for managing anxiety and promoting emotional regulation. Dr. Arasz explains how trauma can be rooted in a lack of perceived control and emphasizes the importance of safe, supportive environments for emotional healing. The episode also touches on how anxiety and trauma manifest in both children and adults, and the significance of addressing mental health holistically.
Find Dr. Jolene and her book here: https://jolenearasz.com/
00:00 Introduction to Trauma and Anxiety
00:41 Meet Dr. Jolene Arasz
01:48 Defining Trauma and Anxiety
03:15 The Root of Anxiety: Lack of Control
07:54 Understanding Defense Mechanisms
11:00 The Role of the Nervous System
12:40 Control Theory and Anxiety Management
23:09 Bilateral Stimulation and EMDR
25:39 Narcissism and Control
29:07 Managing Anxiety: Accepting What You Can't Control
29:29 The All-or-Nothing Mindset in Personality Disorders
30:07 Narcissism and Accountability Issues
30:42 The Role of Childhood Trauma in Narcissism
31:06 Understanding Vulnerability and Shame in Narcissists
31:23 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Boundaries
32:23 Emotional Regulation and Attachment in Early Childhood
36:08 Teaching Accountability to Children
38:49 The Impact of Anxiety on Children's Behavior
44:45 Creating Safe Learning Environments in Schools
53:05 The Connection Between Anxiety and Depression
55:08 Final Thoughts and Takeaways
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Corissa is a Holistic Trauma-Informed Coach & Narcissistic Abuse Specialist™ who empowers women after they’ve endured narcissist trauma to rediscover who they are, reclaim their power, and find the clarity and courage to move forward and live a life they love. Corissa is also a recovering people-pleaser and codependent who has endured way too many narcissistic relationships to count! She coaches not only from her knowledge and training but also from the wisdom she has gained from her own healing journey.
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