AwakenYou in Your Marriage

It feels like nothing is changing… but it is.

There’s a moment on the journey of growth that can feel downright cruel.

You’re showing up. You’re doing the work. You’re staying present, using the tools, praying through the pain…
And still, nothing seems to be changing.
Not fast enough. Not visibly enough.
And that old voice whispers, Why bother?

If that’s where you are right now, I recorded this week’s episode just for you.

What if the clutter in your home is quietly draining the energy from your marriage?

In this week’s episode, I sit down with decluttering and mindset coach Kerryn Simmons to talk about how the spaces we live in impact how we feel in our relationships. We explore what “clutter capacity” means, how childhood messages about organizing shape us, and how couples can begin to talk—without blame—about what they want their home to feel like.

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When your marriage feels heavy or disconnected, it’s easy to believe you’re the only one going through it.
You look around and assume other couples must have it figured out,
while you quietly carry the weight of your own disappointments behind closed doors.

But here’s the truth I wish more people knew:
Suffering in silence won’t move you forward.

Healing begins when we step out of isolation—when we allow ourselves to be s...

You open up about something emotional… and your spouse completely misses it.

They try to fix it, change the subject, or talk about someone else instead.

And just like that—you shut down.

This is how emotional intimacy quietly unravels in marriage. Not with a big fight, but with a missed moment. A break in connection. A silence that grows.

In this week’s episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m sharing a very real moment from my own m...

Have you ever been in a moment with your spouse where you felt a swirl of emotions?

You’re hurt.
Frustrated.
Disappointed.

But underneath all of it—you know that you still love them.

That’s exactly where I found myself the day after our 20th anniversary.
I had planned the evening. Jeff gave me flowers… a day late.
And the way he handed them to me? Let’s just say it didn’t land the way he probably hoped.

It would’ve been...

Have you ever had that moment in your marriage where you feel like…
"What’s the point of trying anymore?"

Maybe you’ve done the work. You’ve been patient. You’ve read the books, had the talks, maybe even tried counseling.
And yet, the connection still feels out of reach. The effort still feels one-sided. You still feel… stuck.

If that sounds familiar, this week’s episode was made with you in mind.

In it, I share a st...

This week’s episode is a tender one — one that honestly surprised even me as I lived it.

Inside the episode, I share a brand-new break that happened in my marriage recently — a quiet, significant shift that exposed a dynamic I’ve lived with for years, often without fully realizing how much it impacted my heart.

You’ll have to tune in to hear exactly what happened. But more importantly, I want you to listen because this same dynamic c...

In many marriages, there’s a quiet, often invisible dynamic that keeps one person shrinking and the other wondering why they feel so alone — even when both partners care deeply.

It’s called the “one down” position.
And it’s more common than you might think.

Sometimes it looks like always apologizing…
Or saying, “You deserve better than me.”
Or hiding behind a wall of withdrawal and silence.

But underneath, it’s all rooted ...

Have you ever gone through a season in your marriage where things felt… quiet? Not in a peaceful, cozy way — but in a Where did we go? kind of way.

 Maybe you’re in that season right now. Conversations feel dull or distant. You’re both going through the motions. You’re wondering if the connection you once had is gone for good.

 This week on the podcast, I’m sharing a reflection that’s been stirring in my heart during Holy Week — one ...

Let’s say you bought something this week—a new pair of shoes, a few Amazon “add to cart” moments—and didn’t tell your spouse. Not because it was a big secret, but because… what’s the point, right?

Guess what...
Most of us aren’t intentionally lying in our marriages.
But we’re often not fully telling the truth either.

We leave out the small stuff—spending, frustrations, unmet needs—because we’re trying to avoid conflict or pro...

Resentment and blame can quietly build in a marriage until one day you realize you’re not just frustrated—you’re disconnected, discouraged, and maybe even questioning whether things can ever feel good again.

In this episode, we take a gentle but honest look at how resentment starts, what it looks like in everyday marriage dynamics (even the “small” stuff), and why it leaves you feeling powerless and stuck.

You’ll learn:
🌱 What r...

You know that subtle ache when your spouse is right there… but still feels far away?

This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I’m talking about what it really means to reconnect in your marriage—and why it so often feels harder than it should.

Because for many, it’s not that you don’t want to feel close again… it’s that you’re not sure how to bridge the growing gap—especially when your spouse doesn’t seem to feel the same urgency you...

I know the journey to a healthier, more connected marriage can feel slow. Sometimes it feels like you’re doing the work, showing up differently, choosing patience, and yet… nothing seems to change.

Maybe your spouse still reacts the same way. Maybe old patterns resurface. Maybe you wonder if all this effort is even worth it.

I want you to stop for a moment. Breathe.

And hear this: The work you are doing matters.

Even if you can’t see t...

Have you ever wished your spouse would just see their part?

You try to talk about the struggles in your marriage, hoping they’ll acknowledge how their actions (or inactions) are affecting you. But instead, they dismiss it. Defend themselves. Maybe even turn it back on you. And you’re left feeling unheard, unseen, and like you’re carrying the weight of the relationship all by yourself.

I know that feeling. I lived it.

For years, I felt...

Ever feel like you’re the only one trying to improve your marriage?

It seems as though you’re constantly reflecting, adjusting, and trying to make things better—while your spouse seems unaware or unwilling to see their part? Maybe they shut down, get defensive, or act like you’re the one making a big deal out of nothing.

It’s frustrating. Exhausting. And it can make you feel completely alone in the relationship.

But why does this happ...

Have you ever brought up something important to your spouse, only to suddenly find yourself on the defensive?

Maybe you wanted to talk about feeling overwhelmed with household responsibilities, and before you know it, the conversation flips—now you’re reassuring them that they do enough. Or perhaps you ask for more quality time together, and instead of responding to your request, they fire back with, “Well, you’re always on your pho...

Have you ever had a moment where your spouse did something small—ignored a request, seemed distracted, didn’t respond the way you hoped—and suddenly, you found yourself way more upset than you expected? Maybe you lashed out, shut down, or felt deeply hurt over something that, logically, didn’t seem that big.

It happens! And there’s a reason this happens.

In those moments, your reaction isn’t just about your spouse—it’s about somethin...

Have you ever wanted to bring something up with your spouse but hesitated—afraid it would lead to an argument, defensiveness, or even more distance?

This is a common relational dynamic and today I want to help you break this cycle so you can break through to the relationship you desire. 

Many couples struggle with confrontation because they’ve never learned how to approach tough conversations in a way that actually strengthens their ...

Have you ever sat across from your spouse on a date night and felt… nothing? Like you should be enjoying yourselves, but instead, the conversation feels forced, surface-level, or stuck in logistics?

Or maybe you’ve stopped doing date nights altogether because, honestly, what’s the point if they don’t feel special anymore?

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many couples quietly struggle with feeling disconnected, assuming that...