September 11, 2025 • 38 mins
What happens when the "good girl" you've been playing all your life starts suffocating the authentic woman you're meant to become? In this soul-stirring exploration, we unpack the survival strategy that many first-gen Latinas and women from traditional backgrounds know intimately—the compulsion to please everyone, stay small, remain quiet, and always be "nice," even when your spirit is screaming "no más."
Growing up hearing "pórtate bien" or "que vas a saber tu, mocosa" trains us to equate our worth with our ability to comply. This conditioning follows us everywhere—into boardrooms where we smile through microaggressions and take on unpaid work, into relationships where we ignore red flags to avoid being "dramática," and even into our own bodies, which bear the burden of our self-betrayal through physical symptoms like tight throats, stomach knots, and chronic exhaustion.
Through vulnerable personal stories and practical wisdom, this episode guides you through recognizing where the good girl lives in your body and how to gently, firmly evict her. You'll learn powerful boundary scripts tailored to different scenarios—from workplace assertiveness to family gatherings—and experience a guided inner child reparenting practice that helps heal the part of you that learned it was safer to be "good" than truthful.
The most transformative insight? Your body has been giving you data all along. That discomfort when you say yes but mean no isn't you being dramatic—it's your inner wisdom crying out for authenticity. By tuning into these signals and honoring them with clear boundaries, you begin the journey from "quedar bien" to "quedar bien conmigo"—from pleasing others to honoring yourself.
Ready to release the good girl and reclaim your power? Join me for a special 7-day Good Girl Detox Challenge with daily practices to strengthen your boundary-setting muscles and reconnect with your authentic voice. Your transformation begins with a single, powerful truth: you don't have to earn your worth. Ya eres suficiente—you are enough.
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Dora (00:06):
Hola, hola, mi gente linda , Welcome to.
Ay Mijita, embracing yourRaices.
Reclaim your Esencia.
I'm Dora Alicia Praxedis, yourintuitive guide and shamanic
energy healer.
Today, we're releasing the goodgirl mentality.
Ese patrón de complacer a todosstaying small, quiet.
Ese patrón de complacer a todos, staying small, quiet, always
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nice, even when your espíritu isscreaming no más.
If you grew up hearing portatebien or que vas a saber tu
mocosa, this episode is for you.
We'll name where a good girlshows up in our bodies, our
relationships and our business.
Then I'll guide you throughboundary scripts an inner child
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reparenting practice and anenergetic cleansing to call your
power back.
Breathe conmigo, inhale, Exhale, exhale.
You don't have to earn yourworth.
Ya eres suficiente.
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You are enough.
Now, before we begin, whisperto yourself I'm safe to take up
space.
Estoy segura en mi verdad.
I am sure in my truth.
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The good girl is not you.
It's a survival strategy.
She follows rules to stay loved, be agreeable, be helpful.
Never make waves.
Say yes even when your bodysays no.
Say yes even when your bodysays no.
In many first-gen Latino homes,being buena hija meant get good
grades, help raise siblings, noboyfriends.
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No, talking back.
Over-serve la familia Incorporate.
It becomes smiling through themicroaggressions, taking back
extra projects sin pago, notnegotiating In relationships.
It's ignoring red flags.
Para no ser dramática, listen,this strategy kept us safe Hasta
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que ya no.
Hoy, we honor her forprotecting us and we lovingly
retire her from the HR in ourlives.
Gracias, mija, we got it fromhere.
Now I want you to meditate orjust really focus on these
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prompts and, if you feel calledto, you can grab your journal
and write a little further onthese.
Where do I still confuse beinggood with being safe?
If I wasn't performing good,girl, what would I say no to
this week?
Is there something that's beingcalled to you that you can
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release?
What am I afraid will happen ifI disappoint someone?
I feel like a gut, likesomething hit me in my gut like
a punch and sometimes my heartdrops to the floor, kind of
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feeling right, la bolita que tesube y te baja, and I feel so
bad.
So just sit with these and seewhat comes up.
Now let me take you back.
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I grew up first-gen Mexicandaughter in the Chicago West
suburbs and, as a chiquita, Ilearned to be responsible, like,
for example, taking care of mysisters ever since I was five,
like I needed to vacuum and likesomewhat clean.
But there would be all thesepeople At one point.
We we lived in where was it?
Displains, on Tui and Route 83,and there was a trailer park
and that's where I rememberthere was so many different
families at one point livingwith us bunking in.
There would be people in theliving room.
We had a three bedroom and thenwe had to like, add on and we
would share my, the family offive.
So my mom and dad and my twosisters and myself we shared a
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one like one bedroom of thatplace and so there would always
be, I feel, like a revolvingdoor of people coming home from
work and then leaving.
And my mom, she just knew Iwould always get fed.
But at a very short age I feltlike this responsibility for
watching out for my sisters.
I eventually became theirmother figure because every time
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they needed someone, theyalways knew they could rely on
me.
Consequently, when I gotpregnant at 16, that really
shaped my identity as being thatstrong one and it really
reinforced that mother figure.
And that's where I think,growing up, I was taught that I
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needed to do all these things inorder to perform and be that
good girl and with my pregnancy,I felt like I needed to
overcompensate for all thedamage that I did to my loved
ones unintentionally, becausewhen you're a teenager, you just
think about yourself like youdon't really think.
I honestly thought I wasinvincible.
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I thought I was immortal, likeI would never die, nothing bad
would ever happen, but thereality is it's very different.
I wasn't really thinking of theunintended consequences that
would happen like such ascreating all this, like chaos
and drama, like within ourimmediate family, and there was
a few elements that were alreadybroken.
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But I ended up taking that guiltand internalizing it and all my
decision-making from thenforward was I need to prove
myself.
I need to prove that I am aworking person.
I have a work ethic, like myparents, because they always
showed up to work.
I had three jobs at one point,my senior year in high school,
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and I had a one-year-old and Iwas in AP classes and I was a
great student and I think thatwas the year where I, like would
lose sleep over doing homework,performing, going to work.
I remember I worked at Bath andBody Works because I needed to
be 18 to do that and we wouldpull like really late shifts and
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I would get out like atmidnight, one in the morning.
I remember my boyfriend didn'tbelieve me as well that I would
get out at that time, so hewould wait for me outside.
But having all this setresponsibility performing that
really caused me to lose myselfin this like expectations or
what I thought expectations toeveryone else.
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And so in el trabajocorporativo, my corporate world,
I carried that same armor.
I overperformed, I codeswitched, I said yes when my
body said ya, basta.
And that's where I rememberthere was a particular event,
actually a black area, era of mylife at corporate, where I had
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this manager and they actuallywould come over to my desk and
say that everything that I wasdoing was a piece of shit, like
literally, and I did not know myrights in HR.
Like I did not know that I hadrights and there was like
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non-retaliatory behavior.
There was all these things thatI needed to consider and, being
that first gen, like I didn'treally have a person that
shepherded me through thatcorporate process.
It was more of me kind oflearning by the ropes and
fortunately later did I getblessed with great coworkers
that shepherded me through theprocess and probably spoke up to
the president and told him hey,this is going on over here.
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So that will always remain amystery to me.
But during those years Iremember it was two years or
more that this individual wouldundermine me.
I would just take it Anytime Icompleted a project, that person
would make it seem like it wastheir project, like they
excelled, it was their idea,their everything.
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But I remember this one timewhere the president of the
company lost all his faith in meand that really shaped me,
because there was one thing hesaid that I will always remember
it's like Dora.
Time will tell and time willtell the truth.
And yes, like two years later,this individual that me hizo la
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vida de cuadritos, let's saylike telenovela vibes, like the
villain, this individual, everytime there would be something
that you know shit hit the fanwith a project or something, it
was my fault, everything was myfault.
And that's when I realized, wow,not everybody's there to
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support you.
Some people are there to reallyundermine you and take credit
for what's not theirs.
And that really hurt, becausebeing told you're kind of like
this loser by your manager orthat you're inadequate for
certain things, when you knowyou're worthy, you know you have
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what it takes.
It's just this individual, forsome reason, is bottlenecking
your excelling in the job or inyour career.
That's when I realized okay,later retrospect, this person
was obviously just jealous and,to a point, envious of my
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performance because they wantedthe kudos.
I ended up taking a huge projectthat was on their plate and it
took a bit of time, but I wasable to get things done and
that's how I was able to provemyself.
But we need to be the advocatesfor ourselves and conforming
like with this manager that Ithought, oh, this individual is
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like wanting my best interest inthat and I wanted to perform
according to their expectations.
Man, that is something I regretbecause I really played myself
down.
I dumbed it down.
I would no joke cry on my wayhome and that's when I noticed I
began gaining weight because Iwould pass by through the
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drive-thru and get my I think itwas definitely McDonald's and
Portillo's my cheeseburger andmy cheese fries and my Coke, and
all that because I thought, oh,that's my relief, right, that's
my comfort food, that, or DairyQueen I love myself a good
Blizzard Snickers any time ofthe year.
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But that's where I didn't honormyself and I just wanted to
conform to what this manager hadin mind for me and I just
decided to take it, which wasnot the best scenario.
So what changed?
Not the best scenario.
So what changed?
My back injury eight years agocracked me open.
My body said you will rest or Iwill make you.
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So that's when I call it adivine smackdown, because that's
what caused me to really slowdown.
I ended up getting a herniateddisc and so it caused all this
inflammation to the point wheremy leg, my left leg, went numb
and I couldn't walk for twoweeks.
No joke, I was in a walker, um,like the you know the third age
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, los ancianitos.
And then, in 2019, losing my dadbrought me into this deeper
healing and I realized parentingand being responsible and being
that mother figure.
I do it all the time.
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I did it with my dad even.
Even though your parents aresupposed to teach you, that's
where we are like.
We as the children, as the sonsand daughters, we are the ones
teaching our parents a betterlife, a better move forward.
And it was quite the grievingprocess as well and, as I
explained before in previousepisodes, I grieved my dad at 16
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, when I got pregnant, so whenhe did pass away years later, at
the age of 54, from heartdisease, after living with it
for close to 10 years, that wasreally a loss because he was Mr
Iron man.
He was the one that never would.
I didn't.
I joked that he had nine livesas a cat, but he was the one
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that kept going.
He would go to the hospital, hewould come back out.
I didn't think that the lasttime I hugged my dad would be
the last time.
So, little by little, I startedtelling the truth.
I can't do that.
I need help.
I deserve to be paid.
You see, some people didn'tlike it, but guess what?
I started to like me.
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I deserve to be paid.
You see, some people didn'tlike it, but guess what?
I started to like me.
I started to honor myself.
I started to move forward andmove through that fear of like.
Oh, I don't want to disappointyou know my manager, which
estaba loca not gonna lie.
That's where just knowing thatyou support yourself, you hold
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yourself, that creates the bigdifference, that creates the
safety in your body to be ableto take that next step.
So think of one memory whereyou learned it was safer to be
good than truthful, place yourhand over your corazón, say I
see you.
Gracias por protegerme, thankyou for protecting me.
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The body snitches in the kindestway.
Good girl often feels liketight throat when you want to
say no Pit in the stomach beforea combo Shoulders up to las
orejas after you agree tosomething Exhaustion,
hypervigilance after familygatherings, especially when
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you're carrying all that energythat's not yours.
So your body isn't dramatic.
She's data to family gatherings, especially when you're
carrying all that energy that'snot yours.
So your body isn't dramatic,she's data.
She's your inner Nina saying isit safe for me to be honest?
So let's do a little practice.
I want you to inhale throughthe nose for four, so hold for
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four, Now exhale for four, nowexhale for six.
Drop your shoulders, unclenchthe jaw, ask Body what's my true
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?
No, what's my true?
Yes?
Trust the whisper.
And you can do this miniexercise and practice anytime
that you feel overwhelmed or youwant to check in.
It's a great practice to do ona daily if you can and just like
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tune into your body and what isit saying so in your journal,
or you can just contemplate onthese questions.
Where does good girl live in mybody?
What does my truthful self feellike somatically so in the body
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.
Boundaries aren't walls,they're clarity, akiya, scripts
and different vibes.
Choose yours.
So let's talk about the firstone low-key, polite.
Here are some phrases that youcan say I'm not available for
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that, but thanks for thinking ofme.
That doesn't work for me.
I can do blank instead.
Now let's talk about beingdirect and kind.
I'm not taking unpaid projects.
Here's my rate, and then youname the dollar amount.
I can't host this holiday.
Let's potluck, or I'm happy tobring, I don't know, some
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chilaquiles or some, I don'tknow, carnitasada, I'm just
kidding.
Fill in the blank.
Culture consciousness.
Mamá, te amo y te quiero honrarnuestra relación.
No puedo hablar de mi cuerpo ocompararme con primas.
Si vuelve a pasar me, voy aretirar de la conversación.
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So, mom, I love you and I wantto honor our relationship.
I can't talk about my body orcompare me to my cousins.
If it keeps on happening, I amgoing to retreat from this
conversation.
Oh, this one's a good one, tío,no hagas chistes de eso.
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Me hace sentir incómoda.
Cambiamos de tema.
So, uncle, don't make jokesabout that.
It makes me feel uncomfortable.
Let's just change the subjectNow.
These are really hard ones toreframe because culturally, like
our elders especially, you knowyour ma, your uncle in this one
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, but any other relatives it'sreally hard to change their mind
because they're really set ontheir beliefs.
But slowly but surely, once youstart stating these boundaries,
they will have to conform toyou and to what you want and you
need to honor them.
If you keep on overriding themsuch as like not honoring or
respecting your own boundariespeople are going to do the same
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thing.
So set the example and if youdo this and embody it, you're
giving them permission to alsocall their boundaries as well
and communicate them Right.
And sometimes, yes, it comesoff a little reprimanding at
first, like hey, no, digas eso,tienes que ser más woke or
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tienes que ser más consciente dela sociedad.
And you know, pero, just saythose things, like, have the
conversation.
And if it causes a littlecontrast, a little friction with
them, that's actually a goodthing.
Conflict although people wedon't like to use that word,
conflict is actually a greatconversation starter because
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usually people get fired up ontheir take on things Now in the
workplace.
That's outside my bandwidth.
Which current project should Ideprioritize?
If I take this on, I'm glad tohelp during work hours.
I won't be available nights andweekends.
So, girl, claim it C.
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Claim it Like you don't have tobe the good girl and conform.
Like, claim your worth, claimyour boundary, because that is
the way you.
Self-love is the boundarysetting.
That is something that I seewith my clients all the time is
that they say something but theydon't like follow through.
Like, for example, is that theysay something but they don't
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like follow through.
Like, for example, I don't wantto eat or I don't want to drink
soda anymore, or I don't wantto drink alcohol anymore.
And that's actually somethingI'm integrating myself is I am
not going to have alcoholanymore.
So my Tuesdays and Thursdays atmy favorite place here in West
Chicago is Coco Loco Shout out,there they have.
They have tacos Tuesdays andThursdays and margaritas half
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price on Tuesday, thursdays, andoh my gosh, I am definitely
gonna miss those.
But then again, I can always gofor the virgin option.
But I am dropping alcohol forpersonal reasons.
And if I were to go right,especially with my husband and I
and you know we always we goThursday nights and it's like,
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oh, I was putting a Margarita,and if I just want to please him
, and it's like, yeah, let's go.
If we go, I'm probably going tohave the tacos right.
I'm not going to have theMargarita because I want to
honor myself and what I'm doingfor me, but if my husband keeps
pushing on it like that's nothonoring the boundary, even if
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he buys it for me, I won't drinkit Right, unless you feel
compelled to and then youconform, or you, you're a sucker
for it, you, you get swayed todrink in it.
So, again, it's up to you, andthat's where you are the
dictator of your own life andyour boundaries.
And that's where you are thedictator of your own life and
your boundaries.
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Now, this next one relationships.
This one hits.
This one hits because these arethe ones you can use.
I need time to process.
Let's revisit mañana at 6 pm.
I'm not available for raisedvoices.
I'm stepping away and willreturn when we're calm.
This one's a good one, the lastone to practice, because when
I'm having an argument withsomeone, I can think of an
individual and this person lovesto talk over everybody and
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they've been better, but stilllike they pretty much have
diarrhea of the mouth and theyraise their voice and I'm just
taking it, right, I'm justtaking it.
Taking it, taking itSupuestamente.
Yo I'm giving them space, whichthere's an art to that.
I mean, yes, you can hold thespace for the person, but when
you start getting triggered andshit like that's when you should
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know hey, it's time to you knowwe're saying very hurtful
things or you're taking in a lotof things and in a way, we all
have narcissistic behavior inour personalities.
We all do like to some degree.
If you meet somebody thatdoesn't, please IM me, like DM
me on Instagram, or send me anemail.
I would be happy to readthrough it or, even better, send
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me a voice memo.
But if you have a really goodnarcissist story, let me know,
because you know my dad, mydad's up there.
Que paz descanse, pero I know alot of narcissistic people in
my life and I love some goodstories and maybe you'll be
featured in the future episode.
But for this one withrelationships, you have to call
it out Like the person is notgoing to know that you're
getting triggered.
You have to call it out Likethe person is not going to know
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that you're getting triggeredand you need to.
That's where having thatawareness is such a big step,
when you know that you're alsogetting like uneasy,
uncomfortable in the body, likehonor that, like it's time to
walk away, like, oh, let me go,let me go, right, let me go turn
off the beans that I put on thestove.
Just make sure you're takingcare of you first.
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If you're cool, collected, youare able to make better
decisions in any area of yourlife.
So pick one script, text it toyourself.
That's your good girl detoxline of the week.
Now close your eyes, if you can.
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Hand on heart, hand on belly,and that's inhale for four and
exhale for six.
So inhale for four and exhalefor six.
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Picture your younger self.
Maybe five, maybe 14.
Where is she?
What is she wearing?
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What does her face say?
Tell her mi amor, I'm so proudof you.
You carried so much.
You never had to be perfect tobe loved.
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I'm the grown up now To beloved.
I'm the grown-up now.
I protect you.
You get to play, to be loud, torest and bear witness to her.
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Ask her what do you need from methis week?
And take a moment to listen.
It might be a nap, a song, asong Time outside Saying no to
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something.
Now imagine a gentle limpia ahuevo, rolling down from crown
and the top of your head to yourfeet, collecting comparison
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guilt shame.
Collecting comparison guiltshame.
Visualize it.
Pulling the residue of be goodor be punished.
Say aloud.
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Say aloud, release what's notmine.
Regreso mi poder.
I choose truth over performance.
When you're ready, you can openyour eyes and in your journal,
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or you can just contemplate onthese questions.
My inner nina needs what fromme this week?
If I trusted I was safe, Iwould stop performing and then
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our families taught what theyknew in the world that wasn't
safe.
Para nosotras, the message begood often meant be safe from
judgment, gossip, peligro.
We honor the intention and alsoevolve the method.
So just a a side spiritual notebeing humble is not being
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invisible.
The OS universe source creatordidn't place gifts in you to
hide them.
Humility is truth, not erasure.
So some of those things that wegrew up with and especially
culturally, that we have insociety, not only in the Mexican
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culture, but let's reframe someof those.
Let's go from quote-unquotegood girls don't make waves to
good ancestors.
Tell the truth from I don'twant to disappoint to I won't
abandon myself to avoiddisappointing others.
From quedar bien to quedar bienconmigo.
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From do good to I'm doing goodfor myself Now in your journal.
I want you to I'm going to taskyou with this is write a
compassionate letter to an elder.
You don't have to send it okay,we don't have I mean postage
and all that or emails and thattype but just write it down.
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Write a letter to an elder thatprobably made you feel a
certain way, but thank you andtell them thank you for teaching
me, and fill in the blank.
And I'm choosing that.
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I'm choosing blank now.
So an example would be I wouldwrite a letter to mi abuelita,
my grandma, and I would saythank you for teaching me to be
strong and take shit fromeverybody and do whatever I need
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to do and worry about everybody.
I'm choosing to worry and to bestrong for myself now instead
of for others.
So take that example, make ityours Now.
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I do have like if you'relistening to this episode real
time.
I do have a five-day challengecoming up on September 15th 2005
is the year this is beingrecorded but I do have a
challenge for you, or a goodgirl detox plan of seven days
and this is going to be fun Ifyou're committed and let me know
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.
Dm me at dpraxedes on Instagram, or you can find me on Facebook
at Dora Alicia Praxedes, or youcan email me at dora, at dora
praxedescom, and, or you cansend me a text or a message
voice memo down below in theshow notes.
You can click on there and itgoes directly to me.
But are you ready for a microrebellion week?
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So aquí está tu plan.
Day one awareness audit Track.
Every time you say yes, circlethe ones that were actually a no
, your affirmation to repeat.
I'm allowed to pause beforeresponding.
So do that for day one.
Day two one honest no.
Use one boundary script fromearlier in this episode text or
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say it Afterwards.
Shake your hands, breathe andcelebrate.
Day three body care and alimpia.
I task you with salt bath or ashower scrub, sweep the energy
down and out and through thetubes and down the drain, and I
want you to journal what am Iready to release.
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And before you go into thatshower I mean into that bath, I
usually shower set thatintention of what you want to
release.
Day four self-advocacy.
Ask for what you need Time,money, help, clarity.
I want you to use the script Todo my best I need, blank by
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blank.
Day five visibility Post orshare one truth publicly a
boundary, win, a lesson, adesire, and, if you want, you
can tag me at Tora Praxedes, atT Praxedes, on Instagram.
An affirmation on day five youcan repeat is it's safe to be
seen.
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Day six rest and play.
Do something impractical thatdelights your in your niña
interior.
Note how your nervous systemresponds like is there anything
that you're being called to doas a practice, to like, maybe,
breathe and to slow down, or isit to dance?
Like do something fun, walkaround, play, remember, play.
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Number.
Day seven review and ritual whatchanged over these course of
seven days?
What surprised you?
I would call you to and if andif you feel called to, close
with a candle, a prayer ofgratitude and your new
commitment to yourself.
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So, once you're done with theseven days, you can DM me at
dpraxedes, with detox done, whenyou complete it, and I will go
ahead and be your biggestcheerleader and celebrate you
because you've got this chingona, you've got this, and I will go
ahead and be your biggestcheerleader and celebrate you
because you've got this chingona, you've got this.
So I thought I'd throw this in,anticipate objections with
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family or whoever that you'regoing through these motions with
right, this good girl,deconditioning, detox and
anything that might come up sooften.
Questions I get is what if myfamilia gets mad?
Well, my answer to you isdiscomfort does not equal danger
.
You can love someone or you canlove people and have limits.
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So I would suggest you use ascript like I love you, I'm not
available for blank, and repeatthat once, then disengage.
Another question I get is whatif I freeze, like when I'm
saying all this stuff, like whatif I like, ooh, I like me
paralizo right, like I can't saynothing, like the cat got my
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tongue or whatever?
My answer to you is prep adefault line.
Let me check my schedule andget back to you.
Like that should be like out ofthe pocket kind of thing.
Right, buy time and text theboundary later.
Another question I get is Isaid yes and I regret it.
Now what?
So?
My answer to you is repair ispower, so remediate.
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You can say something like Iovercommitted, I need to step
back.
I can do blank or help you findsomeone else, so kind of you
know you're working with them,you're flexible, but you're
really stating like oh, shoot, Irecommit.
Like, oh, I overcommitted, Ican't do it, don't feel bad
about that.
Like that is you takingresponsibility, ownership that
you are unable to fulfill thatresponsibility.
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The last question that we'llcover is how do I stop guilt?
Ooh, and guilt is a big one, andI have an episode, previous
episode, that you can go backfor that.
But my answer to you is guiltis a nervous system sensation,
so your body will feel guilty,as like breathe, place your feet
on the floor and name it Liketalk to yourself.
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This is guilt, not guidance.
And then, once you calmyourself down, a good little
exercise I love to do is putyour water, wash your hands with
cold water for about sing thehappy birthday song or something
for 20 minutes in that, likereally cold water, and that will
definitely like control.
Well, it will calm your nervoussystem down.
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Also, remember to breathe andjust make sure you're like going
through those motions beforeyou go into that guilt again.
Now, to close out, let's do alittle energy cleanse hands over
your heart.
Inhale for four, exhale for six.
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Now repeat after me.
I release the role of good girl.
I enter the one who protectedme.
I choose truth, boundaries andjoy.
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Embrace your raices, reclaim tuesencia.
Now shake out your hands, brushdown your arms and imagine this
rose gold light sealing yourfield.
It is done, and so it is, andso it is.
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If today landed for you, sharethis episode with a sister who's
breaking free too, ready fordeeper support, you can join me
in my five-day challenge nextweek.
Or you can definitely go todorapraxedescom and kind of look
around.
But there is a place where youcan sign up for the inner shift
Da Dentro Pa Fuera.
It's my 12-week journey forfirst-gen mujeres reclaiming
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their voz, energía y poder.
So their voice, their energyand their power.
And again, you can apply atDoraPraxedescom.
Want a gentler start?
You can grab my free Raiz ResetChecklist.
It's my mini limpia for yourschedule and soul.
You could definitely look atthat link in the bio in
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Instagram at Deep PraxedesGracias por estar aquí, Eres
hermosa.
And until next time, embraceyour raíces and reclaim your
esencia.
Bye-bye, thank you.
Hola, hola, mi gente linda , Welcome to.
Ay Mijita, embracing yourRaices.
Reclaim your Esencia.
I'm Dora Alicia Praxedis, yourintuitive guide and shamanic
energy healer.
Today, we're releasing the goodgirl mentality.
Ese patrón de complacer a todosstaying small, quiet.
Ese patrón de complacer a todos, staying small, quiet, always
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nice, even when your espíritu isscreaming no más.
If you grew up hearing portatebien or que vas a saber tu
mocosa, this episode is for you.
We'll name where a good girlshows up in our bodies, our
relationships and our business.
Then I'll guide you throughboundary scripts an inner child
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reparenting practice and anenergetic cleansing to call your
power back.
Breathe conmigo, inhale, Exhale, exhale.
You don't have to earn yourworth.
Ya eres suficiente.
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You are enough.
Now, before we begin, whisperto yourself I'm safe to take up
space.
Estoy segura en mi verdad.
I am sure in my truth.
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The good girl is not you.
It's a survival strategy.
She follows rules to stay loved, be agreeable, be helpful.
Never make waves.
Say yes even when your bodysays no.
Say yes even when your bodysays no.
In many first-gen Latino homes,being buena hija meant get good
grades, help raise siblings, noboyfriends.
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No, talking back.
Over-serve la familia Incorporate.
It becomes smiling through themicroaggressions, taking back
extra projects sin pago, notnegotiating In relationships.
It's ignoring red flags.
Para no ser dramática, listen,this strategy kept us safe Hasta
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que ya no.
Hoy, we honor her forprotecting us and we lovingly
retire her from the HR in ourlives.
Gracias, mija, we got it fromhere.
Now I want you to meditate orjust really focus on these
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prompts and, if you feel calledto, you can grab your journal
and write a little further onthese.
Where do I still confuse beinggood with being safe?
If I wasn't performing good,girl, what would I say no to
this week?
Is there something that's beingcalled to you that you can
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release?
What am I afraid will happen ifI disappoint someone?
I feel like a gut, likesomething hit me in my gut like
a punch and sometimes my heartdrops to the floor, kind of
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feeling right, la bolita que tesube y te baja, and I feel so
bad.
So just sit with these and seewhat comes up.
Now let me take you back.
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I grew up first-gen Mexicandaughter in the Chicago West
suburbs and, as a chiquita, Ilearned to be responsible, like,
for example, taking care of mysisters ever since I was five,
like I needed to vacuum and likesomewhat clean.
But there would be all thesepeople At one point.
We we lived in where was it?
Displains, on Tui and Route 83,and there was a trailer park
and that's where I rememberthere was so many different
families at one point livingwith us bunking in.
There would be people in theliving room.
We had a three bedroom and thenwe had to like, add on and we
would share my, the family offive.
So my mom and dad and my twosisters and myself we shared a
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one like one bedroom of thatplace and so there would always
be, I feel, like a revolvingdoor of people coming home from
work and then leaving.
And my mom, she just knew Iwould always get fed.
But at a very short age I feltlike this responsibility for
watching out for my sisters.
I eventually became theirmother figure because every time
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they needed someone, theyalways knew they could rely on
me.
Consequently, when I gotpregnant at 16, that really
shaped my identity as being thatstrong one and it really
reinforced that mother figure.
And that's where I think,growing up, I was taught that I
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needed to do all these things inorder to perform and be that
good girl and with my pregnancy,I felt like I needed to
overcompensate for all thedamage that I did to my loved
ones unintentionally, becausewhen you're a teenager, you just
think about yourself like youdon't really think.
I honestly thought I wasinvincible.
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I thought I was immortal, likeI would never die, nothing bad
would ever happen, but thereality is it's very different.
I wasn't really thinking of theunintended consequences that
would happen like such ascreating all this, like chaos
and drama, like within ourimmediate family, and there was
a few elements that were alreadybroken.
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But I ended up taking that guiltand internalizing it and all my
decision-making from thenforward was I need to prove
myself.
I need to prove that I am aworking person.
I have a work ethic, like myparents, because they always
showed up to work.
I had three jobs at one point,my senior year in high school,
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and I had a one-year-old and Iwas in AP classes and I was a
great student and I think thatwas the year where I, like would
lose sleep over doing homework,performing, going to work.
I remember I worked at Bath andBody Works because I needed to
be 18 to do that and we wouldpull like really late shifts and
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I would get out like atmidnight, one in the morning.
I remember my boyfriend didn'tbelieve me as well that I would
get out at that time, so hewould wait for me outside.
But having all this setresponsibility performing that
really caused me to lose myselfin this like expectations or
what I thought expectations toeveryone else.
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And so in el trabajocorporativo, my corporate world,
I carried that same armor.
I overperformed, I codeswitched, I said yes when my
body said ya, basta.
And that's where I rememberthere was a particular event,
actually a black area, era of mylife at corporate, where I had
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this manager and they actuallywould come over to my desk and
say that everything that I wasdoing was a piece of shit, like
literally, and I did not know myrights in HR.
Like I did not know that I hadrights and there was like
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non-retaliatory behavior.
There was all these things thatI needed to consider and, being
that first gen, like I didn'treally have a person that
shepherded me through thatcorporate process.
It was more of me kind oflearning by the ropes and
fortunately later did I getblessed with great coworkers
that shepherded me through theprocess and probably spoke up to
the president and told him hey,this is going on over here.
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So that will always remain amystery to me.
But during those years Iremember it was two years or
more that this individual wouldundermine me.
I would just take it Anytime Icompleted a project, that person
would make it seem like it wastheir project, like they
excelled, it was their idea,their everything.
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But I remember this one timewhere the president of the
company lost all his faith in meand that really shaped me,
because there was one thing hesaid that I will always remember
it's like Dora.
Time will tell and time willtell the truth.
And yes, like two years later,this individual that me hizo la
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vida de cuadritos, let's saylike telenovela vibes, like the
villain, this individual, everytime there would be something
that you know shit hit the fanwith a project or something, it
was my fault, everything was myfault.
And that's when I realized, wow,not everybody's there to
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support you.
Some people are there to reallyundermine you and take credit
for what's not theirs.
And that really hurt, becausebeing told you're kind of like
this loser by your manager orthat you're inadequate for
certain things, when you knowyou're worthy, you know you have
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what it takes.
It's just this individual, forsome reason, is bottlenecking
your excelling in the job or inyour career.
That's when I realized okay,later retrospect, this person
was obviously just jealous and,to a point, envious of my
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performance because they wantedthe kudos.
I ended up taking a huge projectthat was on their plate and it
took a bit of time, but I wasable to get things done and
that's how I was able to provemyself.
But we need to be the advocatesfor ourselves and conforming
like with this manager that Ithought, oh, this individual is
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like wanting my best interest inthat and I wanted to perform
according to their expectations.
Man, that is something I regretbecause I really played myself
down.
I dumbed it down.
I would no joke cry on my wayhome and that's when I noticed I
began gaining weight because Iwould pass by through the
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drive-thru and get my I think itwas definitely McDonald's and
Portillo's my cheeseburger andmy cheese fries and my Coke, and
all that because I thought, oh,that's my relief, right, that's
my comfort food, that, or DairyQueen I love myself a good
Blizzard Snickers any time ofthe year.
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But that's where I didn't honormyself and I just wanted to
conform to what this manager hadin mind for me and I just
decided to take it, which wasnot the best scenario.
So what changed?
Not the best scenario.
So what changed?
My back injury eight years agocracked me open.
My body said you will rest or Iwill make you.
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So that's when I call it adivine smackdown, because that's
what caused me to really slowdown.
I ended up getting a herniateddisc and so it caused all this
inflammation to the point wheremy leg, my left leg, went numb
and I couldn't walk for twoweeks.
No joke, I was in a walker, um,like the you know the third age
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, los ancianitos.
And then, in 2019, losing my dadbrought me into this deeper
healing and I realized parentingand being responsible and being
that mother figure.
I do it all the time.
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I did it with my dad even.
Even though your parents aresupposed to teach you, that's
where we are like.
We as the children, as the sonsand daughters, we are the ones
teaching our parents a betterlife, a better move forward.
And it was quite the grievingprocess as well and, as I
explained before in previousepisodes, I grieved my dad at 16
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, when I got pregnant, so whenhe did pass away years later, at
the age of 54, from heartdisease, after living with it
for close to 10 years, that wasreally a loss because he was Mr
Iron man.
He was the one that never would.
I didn't.
I joked that he had nine livesas a cat, but he was the one
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that kept going.
He would go to the hospital, hewould come back out.
I didn't think that the lasttime I hugged my dad would be
the last time.
So, little by little, I startedtelling the truth.
I can't do that.
I need help.
I deserve to be paid.
You see, some people didn'tlike it, but guess what?
I started to like me.
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I deserve to be paid.
You see, some people didn'tlike it, but guess what?
I started to like me.
I started to honor myself.
I started to move forward andmove through that fear of like.
Oh, I don't want to disappointyou know my manager, which
estaba loca not gonna lie.
That's where just knowing thatyou support yourself, you hold
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yourself, that creates the bigdifference, that creates the
safety in your body to be ableto take that next step.
So think of one memory whereyou learned it was safer to be
good than truthful, place yourhand over your corazón, say I
see you.
Gracias por protegerme, thankyou for protecting me.
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The body snitches in the kindestway.
Good girl often feels liketight throat when you want to
say no Pit in the stomach beforea combo Shoulders up to las
orejas after you agree tosomething Exhaustion,
hypervigilance after familygatherings, especially when
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you're carrying all that energythat's not yours.
So your body isn't dramatic.
She's data to family gatherings, especially when you're
carrying all that energy that'snot yours.
So your body isn't dramatic,she's data.
She's your inner Nina saying isit safe for me to be honest?
So let's do a little practice.
I want you to inhale throughthe nose for four, so hold for
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four, Now exhale for four, nowexhale for six.
Drop your shoulders, unclenchthe jaw, ask Body what's my true
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?
No, what's my true?
Yes?
Trust the whisper.
And you can do this miniexercise and practice anytime
that you feel overwhelmed or youwant to check in.
It's a great practice to do ona daily if you can and just like
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tune into your body and what isit saying so in your journal,
or you can just contemplate onthese questions.
Where does good girl live in mybody?
What does my truthful self feellike somatically so in the body
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.
Boundaries aren't walls,they're clarity, akiya, scripts
and different vibes.
Choose yours.
So let's talk about the firstone low-key, polite.
Here are some phrases that youcan say I'm not available for
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that, but thanks for thinking ofme.
That doesn't work for me.
I can do blank instead.
Now let's talk about beingdirect and kind.
I'm not taking unpaid projects.
Here's my rate, and then youname the dollar amount.
I can't host this holiday.
Let's potluck, or I'm happy tobring, I don't know, some
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chilaquiles or some, I don'tknow, carnitasada, I'm just
kidding.
Fill in the blank.
Culture consciousness.
Mamá, te amo y te quiero honrarnuestra relación.
No puedo hablar de mi cuerpo ocompararme con primas.
Si vuelve a pasar me, voy aretirar de la conversación.
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So, mom, I love you and I wantto honor our relationship.
I can't talk about my body orcompare me to my cousins.
If it keeps on happening, I amgoing to retreat from this
conversation.
Oh, this one's a good one, tío,no hagas chistes de eso.
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Me hace sentir incómoda.
Cambiamos de tema.
So, uncle, don't make jokesabout that.
It makes me feel uncomfortable.
Let's just change the subjectNow.
These are really hard ones toreframe because culturally, like
our elders especially, you knowyour ma, your uncle in this one
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, but any other relatives it'sreally hard to change their mind
because they're really set ontheir beliefs.
But slowly but surely, once youstart stating these boundaries,
they will have to conform toyou and to what you want and you
need to honor them.
If you keep on overriding themsuch as like not honoring or
respecting your own boundariespeople are going to do the same
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thing.
So set the example and if youdo this and embody it, you're
giving them permission to alsocall their boundaries as well
and communicate them Right.
And sometimes, yes, it comesoff a little reprimanding at
first, like hey, no, digas eso,tienes que ser más woke or
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tienes que ser más consciente dela sociedad.
And you know, pero, just saythose things, like, have the
conversation.
And if it causes a littlecontrast, a little friction with
them, that's actually a goodthing.
Conflict although people wedon't like to use that word,
conflict is actually a greatconversation starter because
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usually people get fired up ontheir take on things Now in the
workplace.
That's outside my bandwidth.
Which current project should Ideprioritize?
If I take this on, I'm glad tohelp during work hours.
I won't be available nights andweekends.
So, girl, claim it C.
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Claim it Like you don't have tobe the good girl and conform.
Like, claim your worth, claimyour boundary, because that is
the way you.
Self-love is the boundarysetting.
That is something that I seewith my clients all the time is
that they say something but theydon't like follow through.
Like, for example, is that theysay something but they don't
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like follow through.
Like, for example, I don't wantto eat or I don't want to drink
soda anymore, or I don't wantto drink alcohol anymore.
And that's actually somethingI'm integrating myself is I am
not going to have alcoholanymore.
So my Tuesdays and Thursdays atmy favorite place here in West
Chicago is Coco Loco Shout out,there they have.
They have tacos Tuesdays andThursdays and margaritas half
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price on Tuesday, thursdays, andoh my gosh, I am definitely
gonna miss those.
But then again, I can always gofor the virgin option.
But I am dropping alcohol forpersonal reasons.
And if I were to go right,especially with my husband and I
and you know we always we goThursday nights and it's like,
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oh, I was putting a Margarita,and if I just want to please him
, and it's like, yeah, let's go.
If we go, I'm probably going tohave the tacos right.
I'm not going to have theMargarita because I want to
honor myself and what I'm doingfor me, but if my husband keeps
pushing on it like that's nothonoring the boundary, even if
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he buys it for me, I won't drinkit Right, unless you feel
compelled to and then youconform, or you, you're a sucker
for it, you, you get swayed todrink in it.
So, again, it's up to you, andthat's where you are the
dictator of your own life andyour boundaries.
And that's where you are thedictator of your own life and
your boundaries.
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Now, this next one relationships.
This one hits.
This one hits because these arethe ones you can use.
I need time to process.
Let's revisit mañana at 6 pm.
I'm not available for raisedvoices.
I'm stepping away and willreturn when we're calm.
This one's a good one, the lastone to practice, because when
I'm having an argument withsomeone, I can think of an
individual and this person lovesto talk over everybody and
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they've been better, but stilllike they pretty much have
diarrhea of the mouth and theyraise their voice and I'm just
taking it, right, I'm justtaking it.
Taking it, taking itSupuestamente.
Yo I'm giving them space, whichthere's an art to that.
I mean, yes, you can hold thespace for the person, but when
you start getting triggered andshit like that's when you should
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know hey, it's time to you knowwe're saying very hurtful
things or you're taking in a lotof things and in a way, we all
have narcissistic behavior inour personalities.
We all do like to some degree.
If you meet somebody thatdoesn't, please IM me, like DM
me on Instagram, or send me anemail.
I would be happy to readthrough it or, even better, send
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me a voice memo.
But if you have a really goodnarcissist story, let me know,
because you know my dad, mydad's up there.
Que paz descanse, pero I know alot of narcissistic people in
my life and I love some goodstories and maybe you'll be
featured in the future episode.
But for this one withrelationships, you have to call
it out Like the person is notgoing to know that you're
getting triggered.
You have to call it out Likethe person is not going to know
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that you're getting triggeredand you need to.
That's where having thatawareness is such a big step,
when you know that you're alsogetting like uneasy,
uncomfortable in the body, likehonor that, like it's time to
walk away, like, oh, let me go,let me go, right, let me go turn
off the beans that I put on thestove.
Just make sure you're takingcare of you first.
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If you're cool, collected, youare able to make better
decisions in any area of yourlife.
So pick one script, text it toyourself.
That's your good girl detoxline of the week.
Now close your eyes, if you can.
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Hand on heart, hand on belly,and that's inhale for four and
exhale for six.
So inhale for four and exhalefor six.
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Picture your younger self.
Maybe five, maybe 14.
Where is she?
What is she wearing?
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What does her face say?
Tell her mi amor, I'm so proudof you.
You carried so much.
You never had to be perfect tobe loved.
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I'm the grown up now To beloved.
I'm the grown-up now.
I protect you.
You get to play, to be loud, torest and bear witness to her.
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Ask her what do you need from methis week?
And take a moment to listen.
It might be a nap, a song, asong Time outside Saying no to
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something.
Now imagine a gentle limpia ahuevo, rolling down from crown
and the top of your head to yourfeet, collecting comparison
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guilt shame.
Collecting comparison guiltshame.
Visualize it.
Pulling the residue of be goodor be punished.
Say aloud.
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Say aloud, release what's notmine.
Regreso mi poder.
I choose truth over performance.
When you're ready, you can openyour eyes and in your journal,
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or you can just contemplate onthese questions.
My inner nina needs what fromme this week?
If I trusted I was safe, Iwould stop performing and then
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our families taught what theyknew in the world that wasn't
safe.
Para nosotras, the message begood often meant be safe from
judgment, gossip, peligro.
We honor the intention and alsoevolve the method.
So just a a side spiritual notebeing humble is not being
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invisible.
The OS universe source creatordidn't place gifts in you to
hide them.
Humility is truth, not erasure.
So some of those things that wegrew up with and especially
culturally, that we have insociety, not only in the Mexican
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culture, but let's reframe someof those.
Let's go from quote-unquotegood girls don't make waves to
good ancestors.
Tell the truth from I don'twant to disappoint to I won't
abandon myself to avoiddisappointing others.
From quedar bien to quedar bienconmigo.
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From do good to I'm doing goodfor myself Now in your journal.
I want you to I'm going to taskyou with this is write a
compassionate letter to an elder.
You don't have to send it okay,we don't have I mean postage
and all that or emails and thattype but just write it down.
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Write a letter to an elder thatprobably made you feel a
certain way, but thank you andtell them thank you for teaching
me, and fill in the blank.
And I'm choosing that.
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I'm choosing blank now.
So an example would be I wouldwrite a letter to mi abuelita,
my grandma, and I would saythank you for teaching me to be
strong and take shit fromeverybody and do whatever I need
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to do and worry about everybody.
I'm choosing to worry and to bestrong for myself now instead
of for others.
So take that example, make ityours Now.
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I do have like if you'relistening to this episode real
time.
I do have a five-day challengecoming up on September 15th 2005
is the year this is beingrecorded but I do have a
challenge for you, or a goodgirl detox plan of seven days
and this is going to be fun Ifyou're committed and let me know
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.
Dm me at dpraxedes on Instagram, or you can find me on Facebook
at Dora Alicia Praxedes, or youcan email me at dora, at dora
praxedescom, and, or you cansend me a text or a message
voice memo down below in theshow notes.
You can click on there and itgoes directly to me.
But are you ready for a microrebellion week?
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So aquí está tu plan.
Day one awareness audit Track.
Every time you say yes, circlethe ones that were actually a no
, your affirmation to repeat.
I'm allowed to pause beforeresponding.
So do that for day one.
Day two one honest no.
Use one boundary script fromearlier in this episode text or
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say it Afterwards.
Shake your hands, breathe andcelebrate.
Day three body care and alimpia.
I task you with salt bath or ashower scrub, sweep the energy
down and out and through thetubes and down the drain, and I
want you to journal what am Iready to release.
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And before you go into thatshower I mean into that bath, I
usually shower set thatintention of what you want to
release.
Day four self-advocacy.
Ask for what you need Time,money, help, clarity.
I want you to use the script Todo my best I need, blank by
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blank.
Day five visibility Post orshare one truth publicly a
boundary, win, a lesson, adesire, and, if you want, you
can tag me at Tora Praxedes, atT Praxedes, on Instagram.
An affirmation on day five youcan repeat is it's safe to be
seen.
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Day six rest and play.
Do something impractical thatdelights your in your niña
interior.
Note how your nervous systemresponds like is there anything
that you're being called to doas a practice, to like, maybe,
breathe and to slow down, or isit to dance?
Like do something fun, walkaround, play, remember, play.
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Number.
Day seven review and ritual whatchanged over these course of
seven days?
What surprised you?
I would call you to and if andif you feel called to, close
with a candle, a prayer ofgratitude and your new
commitment to yourself.
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So, once you're done with theseven days, you can DM me at
dpraxedes, with detox done, whenyou complete it, and I will go
ahead and be your biggestcheerleader and celebrate you
because you've got this chingona, you've got this, and I will go
ahead and be your biggestcheerleader and celebrate you
because you've got this chingona, you've got this.
So I thought I'd throw this in,anticipate objections with
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family or whoever that you'regoing through these motions with
right, this good girl,deconditioning, detox and
anything that might come up sooften.
Questions I get is what if myfamilia gets mad?
Well, my answer to you isdiscomfort does not equal danger
.
You can love someone or you canlove people and have limits.
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So I would suggest you use ascript like I love you, I'm not
available for blank, and repeatthat once, then disengage.
Another question I get is whatif I freeze, like when I'm
saying all this stuff, like whatif I like, ooh, I like me
paralizo right, like I can't saynothing, like the cat got my
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tongue or whatever?
My answer to you is prep adefault line.
Let me check my schedule andget back to you.
Like that should be like out ofthe pocket kind of thing.
Right, buy time and text theboundary later.
Another question I get is Isaid yes and I regret it.
Now what?
So?
My answer to you is repair ispower, so remediate.
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You can say something like Iovercommitted, I need to step
back.
I can do blank or help you findsomeone else, so kind of you
know you're working with them,you're flexible, but you're
really stating like oh, shoot, Irecommit.
Like, oh, I overcommitted, Ican't do it, don't feel bad
about that.
Like that is you takingresponsibility, ownership that
you are unable to fulfill thatresponsibility.
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The last question that we'llcover is how do I stop guilt?
Ooh, and guilt is a big one, andI have an episode, previous
episode, that you can go backfor that.
But my answer to you is guiltis a nervous system sensation,
so your body will feel guilty,as like breathe, place your feet
on the floor and name it Liketalk to yourself.
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This is guilt, not guidance.
And then, once you calmyourself down, a good little
exercise I love to do is putyour water, wash your hands with
cold water for about sing thehappy birthday song or something
for 20 minutes in that, likereally cold water, and that will
definitely like control.
Well, it will calm your nervoussystem down.
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Also, remember to breathe andjust make sure you're like going
through those motions beforeyou go into that guilt again.
Now, to close out, let's do alittle energy cleanse hands over
your heart.
Inhale for four, exhale for six.
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Now repeat after me.
I release the role of good girl.
I enter the one who protectedme.
I choose truth, boundaries andjoy.
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Embrace your raices, reclaim tuesencia.
Now shake out your hands, brushdown your arms and imagine this
rose gold light sealing yourfield.
It is done, and so it is, andso it is.
(37:14):
If today landed for you, sharethis episode with a sister who's
breaking free too, ready fordeeper support, you can join me
in my five-day challenge nextweek.
Or you can definitely go todorapraxedescom and kind of look
around.
But there is a place where youcan sign up for the inner shift
Da Dentro Pa Fuera.
It's my 12-week journey forfirst-gen mujeres reclaiming
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their voz, energía y poder.
So their voice, their energyand their power.
And again, you can apply atDoraPraxedescom.
Want a gentler start?
You can grab my free Raiz ResetChecklist.
It's my mini limpia for yourschedule and soul.
You could definitely look atthat link in the bio in
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Instagram at Deep PraxedesGracias por estar aquí, Eres
hermosa.
And until next time, embraceyour raíces and reclaim your
esencia.
Bye-bye, thank you.
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