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Hola, mi gente hermosa.
Welcome back to Ay Mijita.
I'm your host, Dora AliciaPraxedis.
Today's episode is muy especialbecause I'm sharing a
high-level recap of my InnerSpark five-day challenge and
we're on day four.
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We already went through threedays and over these past few
days, I watched mujeres and afew brave souls ignite their
spark, heal wounds they didn'teven know they were still caring
and step into their poder inways that were raw, beautiful
and powerful.
Even if, in ways that were raw,beautiful and powerful, even if
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you weren't part of thischallenge, this episode will
give you insights and practicesto reflect on.
Think of it as sitting incircle with us receiving the
medicine that came through.
It's been such an honor to holdspace for these beautiful souls
, been such an honor to holdspace for these beautiful souls
and being in this collective,especially on live.
That's where I've learned somuch from these women, on how
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resilient they are, how muchthey're going through, what
resonates the energy of love andcompassion for themselves.
To hold this intention overthese five days has been such a
great honor to witness thecourage of these participants
and my gratitude to them forallowing me to be part of their
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journey.
So what does this journey looklike over these five days.
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Well, on day one, we covered anopen ceremony by lighting a
candle and setting the intentionfor the week, for the next five
days.
And that's where, day one, wefocused on awakening that spark,
that inner spark.
We talked about how societaland family roles dim our light,
especially when we're goingthrough the motions of trying to
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find ourselves.
When we're going through themotions of trying to find
ourselves, and oftentimes,because of circumstances,
experiences, we just blow outthe light, we just keep silent.
We don't do anything to changeour situation, we just abide by
whatever's going on around us.
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And I shared that I firstrealized when I was shrinking my
light and I would make otherfeel comfortable, and that was a
very young age.
I wanted to please my parents.
In my family I was thecaretaker at a very young age.
That's something that very muchshaped me into adulthood.
I often would get choked upwhen I would call my dad to come
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pick me up from school when Iwas sick, and I felt guilty for
that because I felt like I wasbeing an inconvenience to him
because he preferred to work.
And so I ask you, where in yourlife are you dimming your spark
.
To fit in.
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With some of my participants,this day was super intense
because they ended up tappinginto some childhood work that
needed to come afloat duringthis time.
There were many breakthroughs.
On day one and that for me wasamazing again to witness this
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collective started realizingthat they lost touch with their
natural joy, and so journalingis one way to help reconnect
yourself.
Now, on day two, this waspiggybacking off of my episode
last week about the good girl,and so we honed in on what is
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releasing the good girl mask,that good girl conditioning to
be polite, don't rock the boat,sacrificing yourself for others,
like just to keep the peace,like just to keep the peace.
And so, for me, I rememberbeing that good girl when I was
code switching at work just tofit in, or in my family.
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I would just go with themotions, with my parents, like
whatever they said, I couldn'tspeak back and I couldn't act
out, because I felt like Ineeded to keep that peace with
my parents and at home, andespecially at work, like I
learned to just fit in, not betoo out there or too much.
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And so I learned to conform ata very, very young age.
And so in this group,especially live.
I saw words coming through suchas there was rules.
They considered themselves aspeople pleasers.
They were seen but not heard.
And so what's one rule you'vebeen living by that no longer
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serves you, longer serves you.
And again, this could besocietal norms, such as you have
to listen to your elders, youcan't talk back, and things of
that nature.
Now, yesterday, day three, wassuper powerful because we
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started digging into our healingof the mother wound and
activating our voice, and so wewere taught to silence ourselves
because sometimes speaking upwasn't allowed.
That was used, as our ancestors, our mother, grandmother and
the ones before them, as astrategy for survival.
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But in a sense, we're kind ofbetraying our own truth.
And so for me, going back tothat example with my dad of
calling him when I would getsick, I felt like this knot in
my throat and I would startcrying like unconsolably, even
before I picked up the phone tocall him.
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So I learned at a very youngage to just keep silent.
Calladita te ves mas bonita, andthat saying really resonated
with me and I embodied that wealso work through activating the
voice by putting a hand on yourheart and a hand on your voice
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on your throat, chakra andhumming and feeling that
vibration, and I invite you todo the same.
This exercise, kicking off withthis exercise on that day,
really started noticing yourvoice, the vibration and what
was coming up.
So I often just swallowed myvoice in my family dynamic
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because I thought that was thebest thing to do, not talking
back, not providing an opinion,and also my parents kind of made
me feel like my opinion didn'tmatter and that was a theme that
we started seeing throughoutthe night progressing.
So that's where we also workedon saying our truths out loud,
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feeling that release in thethroat and lighter in the breath
.
So I invite you to place a handon your throat and whisper one
truth you've been holding back.
Now today, day four, we'll bekicking off boundaries and
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self-care, and that's where Igave a little teaser on day
three.
But boundaries does not equalrejection, it actually equals
self-love.
So I gave a really greatexample regarding a house and
the fence and inviting peopleover and how intimate you want
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to get.
And that's where settingboundaries for myself I think
one of the biggest prominentones that I've set is for work
in my home life.
I work from home during the day.
So I do have my nine to fiveand I would often work until
late in the hours or early inthe morning just to get my stuff
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done.
But then I realized thanks tomy husband of reminding me that
I'm a workaholic and I have tobalance my family, my priorities
, my house, my life, and workwasn't just a center, and, as
someone mentioned, work isdefinitely numbing.
Some people decide whensomething is going on in
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personal life, they just decideto delve themselves into work,
to numb, and that was definitelyme.
So, identifying that I wasaddicted to work in a way, I
realized that I needed to setthat boundary of I need to work
only till X hour, like five, andI need to unplug, and work is
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always going to be there.
I know that, and so some of thethings that I will probably
notice tonight is we oftenstruggle with saying no, and
saying no in the way with loveand compassion.
So that's one thing we'll workon tonight.
But my question to you is whatboundary would honor you right
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now?
Now, I know day five is goingto be bittersweet because we've
spent every single day togetherfor give or take an hour, but
this is where we'll celebrateand integrate.
So integration is a key part tohealing and it's not just a
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ritual.
We embody it, and so we'll dosome cord cutting visualizations
.
We'll definitely see ourancestors pass blessings, not
burdens, to us, and so I inviteyou to close your eyes and
imagine your ancestors smiling,handing their blessings instead
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of pain.
Now take that in, receive,learn to receive those blessings
, and that we will end with oursacred space.
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And there was a lot of shiftshappening, and my intention for
this group and collective andfor this five-day challenge was
to ignite that spark if it wasdormant, and that's where, not
going to lie, I was very scaredof putting out this five-day
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challenge, but I've discoveredmy gifts of healing in a
collective setting anddefinitely providing that
support where needed.
Something cool happened lastnight where it caused me to
create a meditation journey andthat was to visit the ancestors,
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and so, if you're still, ifyou're interested, I could
definitely send that off to you.
If you want to email me or IMme, spark, I will definitely
send that over.
You can find that informationin the show notes.
So in this collective healing,some of the common threads that
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I've noticed have been silence,guilt, overgiving,
people-pleasing, self-sabotage,and so these patterns aren't
just individual, they'reancestral and within your
culture, especially given thesocietal and political climate
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we live in.
That's where it definitelyshapes us and it keeps us living
the story.
That's really not ours, butit's adopted and we have this
identity so ingrained inourselves that we don't open up
to pensar diferente, to thinkdifferently.
And so in my own lineage, Ilearned from my mom how to
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caretake, like be that motherfully entregada, like immersed,
selfless, and that has caused meto just silence and just do.
And throughout these years ofdoing my inner work, it's been
eye-opening and witnessingothers also go through those
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motions of discovering andbecoming aware of why they are
the way they are.
And again, that's how I beganmy spiritual journey was going
to figure out like why am I theway I am?
It all started because I wasable to overcome so much
adversity in my life gettingpregnant at a young age, trying
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to keep a marriage together whensometimes it's very shitty and
we've dropped the divorce word afew times in our relationship,
but we still stick together.
Pero por qué?
Why?
Why are my kids?
They're not perfect, but theyare human beings that are
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contributing to this world intheir own way.
Do they get in trouble?
Yes, lo regaño.
Of course I schooled them hereand there, and that's course
correct, it's part of being aparent.
But how was I able to continueon my journey of going on to
college and then getting amaster's degree, with having two
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kiddos and a husband, and thenhaving a good job, having
excellent benefits and a placeto work and finally finding my
groove, my jam, and I thought,oh, I would be content, but
there was still this piece in methat was missing, and that's
when my back went out and I feellike everything starts breaking
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down when you turn 30.
Los esos 30 are something else.
You graduate into new thingsand it's adulting in a whole new
level.
And so, reflecting on thosethings and over time, it's where
I found my faith and myconfidence in myself, but
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knowing that I am a vessel forGod, for divine, for source, for
spirit, that whatever comesthrough me is serving everybody
around me.
But I know God is workingthrough me, in me and around me,
and I started witnessing thatat the beginning of this month,
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in September, and I do have newsto share, but I'll hold off
until I know more.
But let's just say the peoplearound me have been so loving
and giving and I've been goingthrough my own process of
learning to receive in a wholenew level, and part of this
challenge has cracked me openinto discovering and really
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honing in on these gifts that Ihave of intuitively healing
others, picking up on things,sensations, downloads that I
receive, and it could be fromtheir ancestors, their lineage,
source, spirit.
I am just a vessel here toserve and in this collective has
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been so beautiful to honor eachone that has shown up and we do
have a replay and I know thatthey get this as well.
But there's something magicalthat happens when someone joins
live and is part of thiscollective the energy.
So, sitting and reflecting,where have you been holding back
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For me?
Caretaking, silence,expectations, expectations those
really shaped me.
But which patterns in yourfamily do you feel ready to
break?
The collective healing issomething so powerful when una
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mujer speaks her truth.
So when one woman speaks hertruth, she shifts generations,
generations back and generationsforward.
So that is such a gift to youand to your ancestors and to
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your future lineage.
Healing doesn't take a lifetimeto begin.
It just takes a moment ofcourage, taking that first step
in that direction.
And given that you'll probablytake two steps forward and five
steps back, and if not ten.
That you'll probably take twosteps forward and five steps
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back, and if not 10.
But it's for you to reassess,realign, review and so
breakthroughs happen incommunity.
Being seen is such a great, deepmedicine, so healing is not
linear.
Every single step matters, andI often like to use the Lego
metaphor, where every Lego inthe Lego set is super crucial
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and important, because eachpiece has its job, its function,
and so I'll leave you with afew practices that you can do.
One is daily journal Drop inone truth per day, and I invite
you to say it out loud with yourhand on your throat and your
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other hand on your heart.
Number two boundary practice.
Say no to one small thing thisweek.
Number three grounding ritual.
So your hand on your corazón,take a deep breath and exhale
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and say soy suficiente I amenough.
So thank you for joining me intoday's episode.
I want to shout out to those ofyou that attended live to the
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five-day challenge Today is dayfour, and I want to thank you as
my listener, because it's beensuch an honor walking through
this journey with you.
If you felt even one spark fromthis today.
Imagine what's possible over 12weeks.
So I am soon to open doors andI currently have a wait list for
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the inner shift from inside out, and this is my coaching
program, which I will talk aboutancestral clearing and we work
on inner child healing withlimpias astrology, human design,
the works, my intuitive healing.
We get one-on-one coaching.
There's some freebies,especially if you sign up before
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a given deadline, before theend of the month, and I invite
you to sign up at dorapraxedis.
com, or you can send me amessage on Instagram at
@dpraxedis, or down in the shownotes, you can send me a voice
memo or a message.
So remember, hermosa gente,embrace your raíces, reclaim
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your esencia.
You are the shift yourancestors prayed for.
Hasta luego, bye.