September 25, 2025 • 25 mins
Have you ever experienced that brilliant moment of clarity—when everything suddenly makes sense and you can see exactly what needs to change in your life? That's a breakthrough, and while those moments feel incredible, they're just the beginning of true transformation. 🙌🏽 Breakthroughs are like seeds that need nurturing to grow into lasting change. 🍃 Without integration—the consistent, intentional work of embodying our realizations—even our most powerful insights can slip away as life moves forward. This episode explores the crucial but rarely discussed process of what happens after the breakthrough moment.
I share my personal journey through grief after losing my father in 2019, which revealed generational patterns of silence and sacrifice that had been passed down through my lineage. That realization was powerful, but integration was messy—involving tears, boundary-setting with family, and reparenting my inner child who felt responsible for everyone else's healing. I discovered how something as simple as my comfort with Snickers bars connected to deeper emotional patterns with my father and my childhood need for love and attention.
Integration faces universal challenges: the pull of familiar patterns, unrealistic expectations of instant results, and resistance from family and loved ones who may not understand or support our changes. When we begin setting boundaries, we often hear "You've changed" or "Ya no es la misma"—and while this can trigger guilt, it's actually confirmation we're growing into our authentic selves.
The episode provides practical tools for integration: daily rituals like breathwork and journaling; somatic anchors to help your body feel safe with change; practicing boundaries in small, consistent ways; and finding community and accountability to support your journey. We close with a guided meditation and journaling prompts to help you honor your own breakthroughs and begin the integration process.
Ready to not just have breakthroughs but live them? Join our upcoming group coaching experience in October where you'll find a sacred container to ground your insights into lasting change. Because a breakthrough is a door opened—integration is choosing to step through that door, day after day.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
Hola, hola, mi gente hermosa, Welcome back to another
episode of Ay mi hijita.
Embracing your roots, reclaimyour esencia.
Today we're diving intosomething bien poderoso, pero
rarely talked about integration.
You know that feeling whenyou've had a big aha moment
(00:27):
Maybe it came during therapy, ajournaling sesh, after a limpia
with a huevo, or even in themiddle of a fight con alguien
that you love you finally see itLike wow, this is the pattern,
this is what needs to change.
That moment feels so clear, tanliberador, like so freeing.
(00:51):
But then life keeps moving andif we're not careful, it's a
breakthrough that we had canslip away.
So today we're talking aboutwhat happens after the
breakthrough.
How do you hold on to it, howdo you embody it, how do you
honor the gift you just received?
Because healing isn't justabout the aha, oh, oh, okay.
(01:15):
It's about how you live thenext day.
And if you were in my innerspark challenge last week, shout
out to all of you who showed uplive and or watched the replay
and shared your corazón with me,then you know the breakthroughs
were on fire, but now this is aseason of grounding them.
Así que let's get into it.
(01:38):
Let me start by sharing my ownjourney.
(02:01):
Let me start by sharing my ownjourney.
When my dad passed away in 2019,december it was right before
the holidays, it was two daysafter my birthday I had one of
the biggest breakthroughs of mylife.
I realized how much pain andtrauma I was carrying.
That wasn't mine alone.
It belonged to my lineage.
That moment cracked me open.
(02:24):
I saw the patterns of silence,of sacrifice, of aguantate mija,
and that had been passed downfrom generation to generation.
But let me tell you, havingthat realization didn't mean
everything magically changed.
Integration was messy.
It looked like crying in my caron lunch breaks.
(02:46):
It looked like learning to sayno to family when all I'd ever
said was yes.
And it looked like reparentingmyself at early 30s, comforting
that little girl inside me whofelt responsible for everyone
else's healing that had to fixit.
And here's the truth.
(03:06):
A breakthrough is like asemilla, a seed.
The seed doesn't become a treeovernight.
It takes a lot of time right togrow and really put down the
roots.
You got to nurture it, protectit, give it sun.
Protect it, give it sun, giveit some aguita, give it patience
(03:29):
.
That's integration.
And even though my dad passedaway, I kept going through that
same lesson over and over, ofhow there was just so much
resentment, there were so manyunresolved emotions that I
didn't know how to process them.
There was a lot of thingscoming up as a child and when I
turned 16, like I felt like Ilost my dad already.
Then, because of my pregnancy,my dad treated me differently,
(03:55):
like he wasn't that nurturingdad, like he was all the time.
And during this five daychallenge, the one of the days I
remember I had the aha moment.
Live on that challenge day,because I remember that when my
dad, because he worked secondshift, he would come home from
(04:15):
work and if I waited up for him,especially on Friday nights, he
would bring me a snicker barlike those king-size ones bar,
like those king size ones.
And so now I understand as anadult that when I'm feeling
stressed, especially when I wasat work, when I needed that
moment to like get up, think orwhatever, we had a candy bowl.
And I remember the receptionist.
(04:36):
She would hold the snicker barsfor me, the little fun size
ones, because I would alwayscome and look for them and they
would always be gone.
Now I understand my correlationwith snicker bars.
It's because it was.
It reminded me of my dad, likehe was there for me at the end
of the night, like I was therefor him waiting, and that was
(04:57):
back to my little girl that Iwanted to feel loved.
And so if I thought, if Iwaited up for him, you know, at
midnight that he would, you knowhe would give me that undivided
attention that I didn't getgrowing up.
And so when I have a snickerbar, that's my comfort that
that's the one that I go to isbecause it reminds me of my dad
and I and I had that aha momentthat I needed a moment.
(05:19):
And, as you can tell, I'm stillprocessing those emotions, like
feeling that love for my dad and, especially after he passed
away, not having that bond likewe used to before I got pregnant
.
That was something that, evento this day I still.
It gets me choked up because Iwish our relationship was
different.
(05:39):
But going back to the littlegirl, it's like navigating that
grief right Of losing my dad atlike 16, not having that same
relationship, but then losinghim again in 2019 when, for real
, like he was gone from thisearth and I know and I believe
that he's with me, his soul iswith me, he sees over me.
I pray for his soul as well, tomake it to the heavens and for
(06:02):
him to realize the life I havenow.
And, like my husband and myself, like we didn't wish no harm,
no foul to nobody.
It's just that's how the cardswere dealt or that's how life
kind of unraveled before us.
Pero siempre quería darle gusto.
I always wanted to be there formy dad, um, and make him happy.
But I always knew that that waslike a moving carrot all the
(06:24):
time, like siempre era algothere was something more and
insatiable right, that like thatinsatiable dragon that never
has the thirst satisfied.
And so that's where, for me,again, breakthroughs are like
the semillas, right.
This was something thatcultivated, like the snicker bar
.
So now, now I'm aware, now Iget to nurture and have patience
(06:47):
with myself and have thatconsistency to keep growing.
And this lesson is going tokeep coming up right.
When I see a movie and I seesomeone you know embracing their
dad or having that like moment,it's like, oh, my, like I.
I reminisce on the moments thatI did have with my dad and how,
you know, that kind of stuffgets me.
I know my husband and I, overthe summer, we went to go see I
(07:09):
don't know if it was this summer, now everything's a blur but we
went to go see Gladiator 2.
Oh my gosh, at the end of themovie I was bawling my eyes out
because that was another moviethat my dad loved to watch over
and over again growing up wasGladiator the first one.
And so just having that russellcrowe moment right of like, oh
my gosh, you're gonna like fallover and stuff and you're gonna
(07:31):
die.
Um, it just really got to me,right, it gets to me those
certain moments.
It's gut-wrenching.
But that's the lesson again ofwhere do I need to reparent
myself, where do I need to holdmyself, especially when it came
to that relationship with my dad.
So let's break it down.
A breakthrough is awareness.
It's the moment when la luz,the light, turns on and you can
(07:55):
finally see the room you've beensitting in all along.
But integration, now that's alittle different.
That's when you start walkingaround that room, rearranging
the furniture, opening up theventanas, the windows, deciding
what stays and what goes.
In my culture's words, mija nose trata de correr, se trata de
(08:20):
sostener el paso.
So healing isn't a race, it'sabout sustaining your pace.
It's not about the running.
It's about sustaining that pacethat you're running with.
So think about Olympia.
When you pass an egg over yourbody, you're clearing out that
dense energy.
But if you go back into thatsame environment, the same
(08:43):
habits, the same toxic cycles,that energy returns.
Integration is when you shiftyour daily choices to match your
new awareness.
But let's be honest,integration is not easy.
Here are some challenges I seeover and over with myself, with
(09:04):
clients, with those that I love.
It's old patterns calling youback.
It feels safer to go back towhat's familiar, even if it
hurts Like.
What I see firsthand is likethe toxicity environment.
You know that la toxica, eltoxico.
It's like these recurringthings that keep coming over and
over and it's still like wedon't learn the lesson.
(09:27):
It's also expecting instantresults.
You think why do I still feelheavy?
Didn't I already heal this?
Ay amiga?
Healing is like peeling anonion.
It's capa por, capa, layer bylayer, peeling every one of
those back and going through themotions and emotions of feeling
(09:48):
, but then also reminiscing onwhat is here.
What's the information herethat I need to hold?
What is it that I can like?
Dig a little deeper andtransmute it to something that's
going to serve me.
What is the lesson here that Ineed to learn?
The other thing I see is familyresistance.
The moment you start settingboundaries, alguien's going to
(10:09):
say ¿Qué te pasa?
Like, what's going on with you?
You've changed.
Ya, no es la misma, ya te creesmuy, muy.
And, to be honest, that's thepoint.
Is for you to shift so much tothe point where it's noticeable
to others, where they're like oh, look at her, it's like, oh,
fuck, ya, se they're like oh,look at her, it's like oh, fuck,
(10:31):
yes, and all that.
No, it's you're being stern,you're setting your boundaries,
you're doing what's right foryou and in your own way.
And then again people try toguilt, trip you or shame you
into something, and then youfeel the shame and the guilt and
that works and everything,because you're like oh, maybe I
am, me, estoy pasando mucho.
Like, maybe I'm pushing theenvelope here too much.
With people it's like no, girl,you gotta do you, you gotta
(10:55):
feel the guilt and fear and thefear.
But that's where it's your mindtrying to override you, it's in
your heart.
You know you're doing the rightthing, but in your mind you're
like no, I should be mispolite,I should, I should be conforming
, I should be people pleasingand all that.
It's like, yeah, but how farhas it gotten?
You like honestly with yourself?
That's where you need to bestern and firm in the things
(11:17):
that you want to envision andthen hold yourself accountable.
Integration can feel like aspiritual hangover.
Your mind, body and even yourloved ones need time to catch up
with the new you, and that'swhere it's slowly but surely
right we're going to start tocrawl, then we're going to start
(11:38):
to then walk and then we canrun.
So it takes some getting usedto from both sides, like your
loved ones, your peoplesurrounding you and yourself and
honor that transition, becausethat is super sacred for you.
It's a time of transformationand I'm not saying it's easy,
but it is something that's goingto be serving you and change
(12:03):
just step by step.
Take it one at a time.
Step.
Take it one time, one at a time.
So how do we actually integrate?
Here are some tools that havecarried me and my clients
through.
Number one daily rituals, smallbut consistent breath work,
(12:24):
journaling, five minutes,passing your hands over your
body and saying return to center.
This energy is not mine.
You can incorporate theseduring the day and the morning,
at night, or you could do allthe above and that there is no
right or wrong way to do it.
I would say for journaling,just do automatic writing and
(12:45):
see what comes through whenyou're passing your hands
through or doing some sort ofthat morality.
It's being very intentional inwhat you're releasing.
Number two is somatic anchors.
Your body needs to feel safewith the change.
So place your hand on yourcorazón, on your heart.
When you feel triggered, sayout loud estoy segura, I am safe
(13:09):
.
And my favorite here is put onehand they cross it over your
body and place them on yourshoulders and just tap and just
say to yourself I feel safe, Iam safe, estoy segura, and just
tap, tap, tap, tap and embodythat when you feel that fear
(13:30):
coming up.
That is one way you coulddefinitely embody that integrate
.
Number three are boundaries inaction.
So start small.
Pick one thing this week to sayno to and honor that.
Integration happens oneboundary at a time, so don't go
(13:51):
off trying to do you know awhole checklist of them.
Just start with somethingreally, really small.
Like, for example, I'm going toschedule time for myself and if
somebody tries to override thistime, I'm going to say no,
because you already have acommitment.
They don't need to know it'sgoing to be with yourself and
they don't need to know you'regoing to take a nap for an hour.
You don't need to know you'regoing to take a nap for an hour.
(14:14):
You don't need to explainyourself.
All you need to do is block itoff on your schedule and make
time for yourself and do whatyou think is best for yourself,
for your body, or if you need tosit with something, this could
be a perfect time for meditationand or, like, if you want to do
another modality, this would bethe time.
But take that sacred time foryourself.
Number four is community andaccountability.
(14:34):
Healing alone is exhausting,like tell me about it.
Once I started tapping intocommunities, that's when I
really started feeling the shift.
Comunidad matters.
That's why I create groupspaces, because when you see
otras mujeres integrating, youremember you're not crazy,
you're not alone and you're notweak.
When I plug into the collectiveor when I hold group space,
(15:00):
that's when it's like wow,that's, it's super powerful.
You feel the energy you embodyso much because you come into it
and everybody brings differenttypes of energy.
But when we're doing it incommunity and I'm able to hold
that sacred space.
I can pick up on the resistanceof the collective and address
it, like when we're in togetheror when you're doing this on
(15:23):
your own.
It's like you can kind of goout of control and you probably
need that soundboard or you needthat other person to keep you
accountable on.
This was the goal, or we'retrying to do this.
You know you're doing thisbecause of these reasons and
it's just to keep you focusedand what are the things that
actually matter to you?
Now, healing is very powerfuland that's where I started
(15:46):
tapping into healing circles andI'm going to do one coming up
and that's where the mind is sopowerful, especially how you
focus.
And so when you're doing thatcollectively with people, it's
that energy is just 10x, if noteven more, multiplied even more.
And it's such a loving,nurturing community, the one,
(16:09):
the one I'm building, and I amso appreciative of that because
it is genuine love and that'sthe thing that I want.
I want it's like a love bombthat I want to set off, and
every time that I open space, Ido it so intentionally and hold
everybody that it is.
It is seriously.
I was in shock last week.
(16:30):
Every time that we met upafterwards I reflected on and I
heard from so many that it wasso powerful for them to be in
such a space.
So let's do a mini practicetogether.
Close your eyes, if you can atthis moment.
Take a deep breath, inhalandopor la nariz.
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Inhale through your nose,exhalando por la boca, out
through your mouth and just keepdoing that at your rhythm.
And again, if you can't closeyour eyes, you can lower your
gaze.
Just keep doing it on your ownpace.
Breathe in through your noseand out through your mouth and
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slow down to the rhythm of yourheart.
No-transcript into Pachamama andground those feet firm in the
(17:44):
floor, in the ground, andvisualize from the top down,
from the top of your head.
Just take that breath in andout Through your shoulders,
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through your heart, through yourtummy, down your legs, passing
your knees into your feet thatare planted in the floor.
Take one more deep breath inand deep breath out.
Call in your ancestors.
(18:44):
See them standing behind you,nodding, saying we got you, mija
, keep going Now place your handon your corazón and repeat
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after me I honor my breakthrough, I ground into my body, I am
ready to live my truth.
Now take one more deep breath,in and out and out, and slowly
(19:50):
open your eyes and wiggle yourtoes, wiggle your fingers and
I'm not live with you or else Iwould tell you to shimmy, shimmy
, which is like shake yourshoulders and your arms and
release that energy that wasstagnant, and then fully open
(20:12):
your eyes and come back.
If you have a journal, I wantyou to write these down and if
not, you could just reflect onthese.
Number one what breakthroughhave I had recently that I don't
(20:33):
want to forget and acknowledgewhat has coming up?
What is the first thing youthink about?
Number two what is one dailyaction I can take to honor it?
(20:53):
And again, this is awareness ofsomething you've done in the
past, recently.
Number three who in my lineage,benefits from me embodying this
change?
And again, this is where youcan use automatic writing and
(21:30):
journal.
Pause this to really dig intowhat is coming up for you right
now, who is coming through foryou right now?
And let your masters, teachers,loved ones, guides, ones guides
, spirit, guide you through thisprocess.
Number four what resistance amI noticing in myself or from
(21:52):
others?
So I invite you to write SinFiltro, without filters.
This is only for you and keephonoring what's coming up for
you.
During the sacred process,during the challenge last week,
(22:17):
I witnessed mujeres sharingpowerful stories.
One One said I finally told mymom I needed space and she
respected it.
That is such a huge win, likebeing able to communicate those
boundaries with them.
Another whispered through tearsafter when I was talking to
them is that she shared I spokemy truth without shaking.
(22:39):
Wow, we did work a lot on thevoice, on our throat chakra, and
we were able to release a lotof those blocks.
And this person in particularlywas very shy and would get a
knot in their throat every timethey would speak up.
And someone else said for thefirst time I didn't apologize
(23:00):
for taking up space.
That goes to show the releasingof that guilt that sometimes we
feel when we want to claim ourboundaries, when we want to be
ourselves and have that esenciajust bust out.
These are the fruits ofbreakthroughs, pero también of
(23:20):
integration, and it was sopowerful to see that and witness
that, especially talking withthem afterwards, like over the
weekend.
I held spots for inner claritycalls and that was so rewarding
and such an honor to witness allthe various things that were
coming up and how we were ableto work through them and
(23:41):
integrate into their life.
So, mijita, let me leave youwith this A breakthrough is a
door open.
Integration.
Is you choosing to step throughthat door, day after day, if
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you're ready to not just have abreakthrough but live them,
embody them.
And that's where just find thatcommunity, that accountability
and that space to integrate.
And that's where, beyond theLookout because I do have group
coaching experience coming inOctober and that's where, in
(24:27):
this container, you'll be ableto ground your breakthroughs
into lasting change.
I'll be sharing the informationvery soon and gracias for
always being here, for listening, listening, for doing this
brave work, because it is noteasily done at times.
So, remember siempre, embraceyour raices, reclaim your
(24:52):
esencia, sending you so muchlove and look forward to talk to
you soon.
All right, bye.
Hola, hola, mi gente hermosa, Welcome back to another
episode of Ay mi hijita.
Embracing your roots, reclaimyour esencia.
Today we're diving intosomething bien poderoso, pero
rarely talked about integration.
You know that feeling whenyou've had a big aha moment
(00:27):
Maybe it came during therapy, ajournaling sesh, after a limpia
with a huevo, or even in themiddle of a fight con alguien
that you love you finally see itLike wow, this is the pattern,
this is what needs to change.
That moment feels so clear, tanliberador, like so freeing.
(00:51):
But then life keeps moving andif we're not careful, it's a
breakthrough that we had canslip away.
So today we're talking aboutwhat happens after the
breakthrough.
How do you hold on to it, howdo you embody it, how do you
honor the gift you just received?
Because healing isn't justabout the aha, oh, oh, okay.
(01:15):
It's about how you live thenext day.
And if you were in my innerspark challenge last week, shout
out to all of you who showed uplive and or watched the replay
and shared your corazón with me,then you know the breakthroughs
were on fire, but now this is aseason of grounding them.
Así que let's get into it.
(01:38):
Let me start by sharing my ownjourney.
(02:01):
Let me start by sharing my ownjourney.
When my dad passed away in 2019,december it was right before
the holidays, it was two daysafter my birthday I had one of
the biggest breakthroughs of mylife.
I realized how much pain andtrauma I was carrying.
That wasn't mine alone.
It belonged to my lineage.
That moment cracked me open.
(02:24):
I saw the patterns of silence,of sacrifice, of aguantate mija,
and that had been passed downfrom generation to generation.
But let me tell you, havingthat realization didn't mean
everything magically changed.
Integration was messy.
It looked like crying in my caron lunch breaks.
(02:46):
It looked like learning to sayno to family when all I'd ever
said was yes.
And it looked like reparentingmyself at early 30s, comforting
that little girl inside me whofelt responsible for everyone
else's healing that had to fixit.
And here's the truth.
(03:06):
A breakthrough is like asemilla, a seed.
The seed doesn't become a treeovernight.
It takes a lot of time right togrow and really put down the
roots.
You got to nurture it, protectit, give it sun.
Protect it, give it sun, giveit some aguita, give it patience
(03:29):
.
That's integration.
And even though my dad passedaway, I kept going through that
same lesson over and over, ofhow there was just so much
resentment, there were so manyunresolved emotions that I
didn't know how to process them.
There was a lot of thingscoming up as a child and when I
turned 16, like I felt like Ilost my dad already.
Then, because of my pregnancy,my dad treated me differently,
(03:55):
like he wasn't that nurturingdad, like he was all the time.
And during this five daychallenge, the one of the days I
remember I had the aha moment.
Live on that challenge day,because I remember that when my
dad, because he worked secondshift, he would come home from
(04:15):
work and if I waited up for him,especially on Friday nights, he
would bring me a snicker barlike those king-size ones bar,
like those king size ones.
And so now I understand as anadult that when I'm feeling
stressed, especially when I wasat work, when I needed that
moment to like get up, think orwhatever, we had a candy bowl.
And I remember the receptionist.
(04:36):
She would hold the snicker barsfor me, the little fun size
ones, because I would alwayscome and look for them and they
would always be gone.
Now I understand my correlationwith snicker bars.
It's because it was.
It reminded me of my dad, likehe was there for me at the end
of the night, like I was therefor him waiting, and that was
(04:57):
back to my little girl that Iwanted to feel loved.
And so if I thought, if Iwaited up for him, you know, at
midnight that he would, you knowhe would give me that undivided
attention that I didn't getgrowing up.
And so when I have a snickerbar, that's my comfort that
that's the one that I go to isbecause it reminds me of my dad
and I and I had that aha momentthat I needed a moment.
(05:19):
And, as you can tell, I'm stillprocessing those emotions, like
feeling that love for my dad and, especially after he passed
away, not having that bond likewe used to before I got pregnant
.
That was something that, evento this day I still.
It gets me choked up because Iwish our relationship was
different.
(05:39):
But going back to the littlegirl, it's like navigating that
grief right Of losing my dad atlike 16, not having that same
relationship, but then losinghim again in 2019 when, for real
, like he was gone from thisearth and I know and I believe
that he's with me, his soul iswith me, he sees over me.
I pray for his soul as well, tomake it to the heavens and for
(06:02):
him to realize the life I havenow.
And, like my husband and myself, like we didn't wish no harm,
no foul to nobody.
It's just that's how the cardswere dealt or that's how life
kind of unraveled before us.
Pero siempre quería darle gusto.
I always wanted to be there formy dad, um, and make him happy.
But I always knew that that waslike a moving carrot all the
(06:24):
time, like siempre era algothere was something more and
insatiable right, that like thatinsatiable dragon that never
has the thirst satisfied.
And so that's where, for me,again, breakthroughs are like
the semillas, right.
This was something thatcultivated, like the snicker bar
.
So now, now I'm aware, now Iget to nurture and have patience
(06:47):
with myself and have thatconsistency to keep growing.
And this lesson is going tokeep coming up right.
When I see a movie and I seesomeone you know embracing their
dad or having that like moment,it's like, oh, my, like I.
I reminisce on the moments thatI did have with my dad and how,
you know, that kind of stuffgets me.
I know my husband and I, overthe summer, we went to go see I
(07:09):
don't know if it was this summer, now everything's a blur but we
went to go see Gladiator 2.
Oh my gosh, at the end of themovie I was bawling my eyes out
because that was another moviethat my dad loved to watch over
and over again growing up wasGladiator the first one.
And so just having that russellcrowe moment right of like, oh
my gosh, you're gonna like fallover and stuff and you're gonna
(07:31):
die.
Um, it just really got to me,right, it gets to me those
certain moments.
It's gut-wrenching.
But that's the lesson again ofwhere do I need to reparent
myself, where do I need to holdmyself, especially when it came
to that relationship with my dad.
So let's break it down.
A breakthrough is awareness.
It's the moment when la luz,the light, turns on and you can
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finally see the room you've beensitting in all along.
But integration, now that's alittle different.
That's when you start walkingaround that room, rearranging
the furniture, opening up theventanas, the windows, deciding
what stays and what goes.
In my culture's words, mija nose trata de correr, se trata de
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sostener el paso.
So healing isn't a race, it'sabout sustaining your pace.
It's not about the running.
It's about sustaining that pacethat you're running with.
So think about Olympia.
When you pass an egg over yourbody, you're clearing out that
dense energy.
But if you go back into thatsame environment, the same
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habits, the same toxic cycles,that energy returns.
Integration is when you shiftyour daily choices to match your
new awareness.
But let's be honest,integration is not easy.
Here are some challenges I seeover and over with myself, with
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clients, with those that I love.
It's old patterns calling youback.
It feels safer to go back towhat's familiar, even if it
hurts Like.
What I see firsthand is likethe toxicity environment.
You know that la toxica, eltoxico.
It's like these recurringthings that keep coming over and
over and it's still like wedon't learn the lesson.
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It's also expecting instantresults.
You think why do I still feelheavy?
Didn't I already heal this?
Ay amiga?
Healing is like peeling anonion.
It's capa por, capa, layer bylayer, peeling every one of
those back and going through themotions and emotions of feeling
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, but then also reminiscing onwhat is here.
What's the information herethat I need to hold?
What is it that I can like?
Dig a little deeper andtransmute it to something that's
going to serve me.
What is the lesson here that Ineed to learn?
The other thing I see is familyresistance.
The moment you start settingboundaries, alguien's going to
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say ¿Qué te pasa?
Like, what's going on with you?
You've changed.
Ya, no es la misma, ya te creesmuy, muy.
And, to be honest, that's thepoint.
Is for you to shift so much tothe point where it's noticeable
to others, where they're like oh, look at her, it's like, oh,
fuck, ya, se they're like oh,look at her, it's like oh, fuck,
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yes, and all that.
No, it's you're being stern,you're setting your boundaries,
you're doing what's right foryou and in your own way.
And then again people try toguilt, trip you or shame you
into something, and then youfeel the shame and the guilt and
that works and everything,because you're like oh, maybe I
am, me, estoy pasando mucho.
Like, maybe I'm pushing theenvelope here too much.
With people it's like no, girl,you gotta do you, you gotta
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feel the guilt and fear and thefear.
But that's where it's your mindtrying to override you, it's in
your heart.
You know you're doing the rightthing, but in your mind you're
like no, I should be mispolite,I should, I should be conforming
, I should be people pleasingand all that.
It's like, yeah, but how farhas it gotten?
You like honestly with yourself?
That's where you need to bestern and firm in the things
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that you want to envision andthen hold yourself accountable.
Integration can feel like aspiritual hangover.
Your mind, body and even yourloved ones need time to catch up
with the new you, and that'swhere it's slowly but surely
right we're going to start tocrawl, then we're going to start
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to then walk and then we canrun.
So it takes some getting usedto from both sides, like your
loved ones, your peoplesurrounding you and yourself and
honor that transition, becausethat is super sacred for you.
It's a time of transformationand I'm not saying it's easy,
but it is something that's goingto be serving you and change
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just step by step.
Take it one at a time.
Step.
Take it one time, one at a time.
So how do we actually integrate?
Here are some tools that havecarried me and my clients
through.
Number one daily rituals, smallbut consistent breath work,
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journaling, five minutes,passing your hands over your
body and saying return to center.
This energy is not mine.
You can incorporate theseduring the day and the morning,
at night, or you could do allthe above and that there is no
right or wrong way to do it.
I would say for journaling,just do automatic writing and
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see what comes through whenyou're passing your hands
through or doing some sort ofthat morality.
It's being very intentional inwhat you're releasing.
Number two is somatic anchors.
Your body needs to feel safewith the change.
So place your hand on yourcorazón, on your heart.
When you feel triggered, sayout loud estoy segura, I am safe
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.
And my favorite here is put onehand they cross it over your
body and place them on yourshoulders and just tap and just
say to yourself I feel safe, Iam safe, estoy segura, and just
tap, tap, tap, tap and embodythat when you feel that fear
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coming up.
That is one way you coulddefinitely embody that integrate
.
Number three are boundaries inaction.
So start small.
Pick one thing this week to sayno to and honor that.
Integration happens oneboundary at a time, so don't go
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off trying to do you know awhole checklist of them.
Just start with somethingreally, really small.
Like, for example, I'm going toschedule time for myself and if
somebody tries to override thistime, I'm going to say no,
because you already have acommitment.
They don't need to know it'sgoing to be with yourself and
they don't need to know you'regoing to take a nap for an hour.
You don't need to know you'regoing to take a nap for an hour.
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You don't need to explainyourself.
All you need to do is block itoff on your schedule and make
time for yourself and do whatyou think is best for yourself,
for your body, or if you need tosit with something, this could
be a perfect time for meditationand or, like, if you want to do
another modality, this would bethe time.
But take that sacred time foryourself.
Number four is community andaccountability.
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Healing alone is exhausting,like tell me about it.
Once I started tapping intocommunities, that's when I
really started feeling the shift.
Comunidad matters.
That's why I create groupspaces, because when you see
otras mujeres integrating, youremember you're not crazy,
you're not alone and you're notweak.
When I plug into the collectiveor when I hold group space,
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that's when it's like wow,that's, it's super powerful.
You feel the energy you embodyso much because you come into it
and everybody brings differenttypes of energy.
But when we're doing it incommunity and I'm able to hold
that sacred space.
I can pick up on the resistanceof the collective and address
it, like when we're in togetheror when you're doing this on
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your own.
It's like you can kind of goout of control and you probably
need that soundboard or you needthat other person to keep you
accountable on.
This was the goal, or we'retrying to do this.
You know you're doing thisbecause of these reasons and
it's just to keep you focusedand what are the things that
actually matter to you?
Now, healing is very powerfuland that's where I started
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tapping into healing circles andI'm going to do one coming up
and that's where the mind is sopowerful, especially how you
focus.
And so when you're doing thatcollectively with people, it's
that energy is just 10x, if noteven more, multiplied even more.
And it's such a loving,nurturing community, the one,
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the one I'm building, and I amso appreciative of that because
it is genuine love and that'sthe thing that I want.
I want it's like a love bombthat I want to set off, and
every time that I open space, Ido it so intentionally and hold
everybody that it is.
It is seriously.
I was in shock last week.
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Every time that we met upafterwards I reflected on and I
heard from so many that it wasso powerful for them to be in
such a space.
So let's do a mini practicetogether.
Close your eyes, if you can atthis moment.
Take a deep breath, inhalandopor la nariz.
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Inhale through your nose,exhalando por la boca, out
through your mouth and just keepdoing that at your rhythm.
And again, if you can't closeyour eyes, you can lower your
gaze.
Just keep doing it on your ownpace.
Breathe in through your noseand out through your mouth and
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slow down to the rhythm of yourheart.
No-transcript into Pachamama andground those feet firm in the
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floor, in the ground, andvisualize from the top down,
from the top of your head.
Just take that breath in andout Through your shoulders,
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through your heart, through yourtummy, down your legs, passing
your knees into your feet thatare planted in the floor.
Take one more deep breath inand deep breath out.
Call in your ancestors.
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See them standing behind you,nodding, saying we got you, mija
, keep going Now place your handon your corazón and repeat
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after me I honor my breakthrough, I ground into my body, I am
ready to live my truth.
Now take one more deep breath,in and out and out, and slowly
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open your eyes and wiggle yourtoes, wiggle your fingers and
I'm not live with you or else Iwould tell you to shimmy, shimmy
, which is like shake yourshoulders and your arms and
release that energy that wasstagnant, and then fully open
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your eyes and come back.
If you have a journal, I wantyou to write these down and if
not, you could just reflect onthese.
Number one what breakthroughhave I had recently that I don't
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want to forget and acknowledgewhat has coming up?
What is the first thing youthink about?
Number two what is one dailyaction I can take to honor it?
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And again, this is awareness ofsomething you've done in the
past, recently.
Number three who in my lineage,benefits from me embodying this
change?
And again, this is where youcan use automatic writing and
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journal.
Pause this to really dig intowhat is coming up for you right
now, who is coming through foryou right now?
And let your masters, teachers,loved ones, guides, ones guides
, spirit, guide you through thisprocess.
Number four what resistance amI noticing in myself or from
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others?
So I invite you to write SinFiltro, without filters.
This is only for you and keephonoring what's coming up for
you.
During the sacred process,during the challenge last week,
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I witnessed mujeres sharingpowerful stories.
One One said I finally told mymom I needed space and she
respected it.
That is such a huge win, likebeing able to communicate those
boundaries with them.
Another whispered through tearsafter when I was talking to
them is that she shared I spokemy truth without shaking.
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Wow, we did work a lot on thevoice, on our throat chakra, and
we were able to release a lotof those blocks.
And this person in particularlywas very shy and would get a
knot in their throat every timethey would speak up.
And someone else said for thefirst time I didn't apologize
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for taking up space.
That goes to show the releasingof that guilt that sometimes we
feel when we want to claim ourboundaries, when we want to be
ourselves and have that esenciajust bust out.
These are the fruits ofbreakthroughs, pero también of
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integration, and it was sopowerful to see that and witness
that, especially talking withthem afterwards, like over the
weekend.
I held spots for inner claritycalls and that was so rewarding
and such an honor to witness allthe various things that were
coming up and how we were ableto work through them and
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integrate into their life.
So, mijita, let me leave youwith this A breakthrough is a
door open.
Integration.
Is you choosing to step throughthat door, day after day, if
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you're ready to not just have abreakthrough but live them,
embody them.
And that's where just find thatcommunity, that accountability
and that space to integrate.
And that's where, beyond theLookout because I do have group
coaching experience coming inOctober and that's where, in
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this container, you'll be ableto ground your breakthroughs
into lasting change.
I'll be sharing the informationvery soon and gracias for
always being here, for listening, listening, for doing this
brave work, because it is noteasily done at times.
So, remember siempre, embraceyour raices, reclaim your
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esencia, sending you so muchlove and look forward to talk to
you soon.
All right, bye.
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