October 16, 2025 • 26 mins
What if the strongest move isn’t holding it all together, but letting yourself be held? We open the door to community care and explore how receiving support can be a radical, tender step toward real healing—especially for those of us taught to be the fixer, the organizer, the one who keeps it all running. Through lived stories, cultural memory, and practical tools, we map a path from hyper‑individualism to sisterhood.
I share how impending surgeries, family logistics, and everyday pressures revealed where I still try to do it alone—and how boundaries, not burnout, became my compass. We talk about the sneaky voice of guilt that shows up when we rest or ask for help, and then we flip the script: receiving is reciprocal. Accepting a glass of water, a meal, a ride, or a listening ear gives others purpose and deepens connection. From there we move into tools that make support feel safe in the body: breathwork to calm the nervous system, emotional regulation to ride big feelings back to neutral, and honest check‑ins that replace slammed cabinets with clear words.
You’ll get guided prompts to explore where receiving feels tight or open, who feels safe to lean on, and how to build reciprocal ties in your neighborhood, group classes, or support circles. We close with a visualization to “call in your circle,” honoring ancestors, friends, and soul sisters who remind us we don’t have to do this alone. If you’re ready to trade exhaustion for belonging and turn help into healing, this conversation is your invitation to say yes.
If this landed for you, share it with someone who needs the reminder, subscribe for more community‑rooted healing, and leave a review so others can find us. Your yes makes this circle stronger.
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Dora (00:06):
Ai Mijita.
Sometimes the strongest thingwe can do is let ourselves be
held.
In a world that taught us to bethe caregiver or caretaker, the
fixer, the one who keepseveryone together, it can feel
almost foreign to receipt.
Welcome back to Ay Mijita,Embracing Your Roots, Reclaim
(00:28):
Your Essence.
I'm your host, Dora AliciaPraxedis, and today we're diving
deep into what it means to healthrough community, to allow
yourself to be supported,witnessed, and loved without
guilt.
Because healing no is meant tobe done sola, it's meant to be
done in a circle, in sisterhood,in comunidad.
(00:50):
If you join me for thethree-day challenge that I
hosted last week, or Ignite YourSoul retreat, the three-hour
virtual retreat that I held onSaturday, or you're involved in
the integration circle this weekthat we kicked off on Tuesday,
you already felt that power.
(01:12):
The way one woman's tears givesanother permission to exhale.
The way silence held moremedicine than words ever could.
This is the heart of today'sepisode.
Remembering that you are notalone.
And today's episode, I'm reallyhoning in on the comunidad
(01:34):
showing out, especially when itcomes to my journey, and how all
those different pieces havereally influenced me to lean in
and get support and get thatsupport and feel seen, feel
heard, and be able to cry inshoulders in lose de alguien.
Like really be heard.
And there's a lot of peoplethat have gone through a journey
(01:57):
and they're probably like 50steps ahead of you, or maybe 10.
But that knowledge, thatexperience helps mentor those
after that come, and you helppave that way.
So I'm definitely speaking onthat today.
Sound familiar?
(03:25):
That I got it is usually codefor I don't feel safe being seen
in my need.
And that's where guilt creepsin.
The guilt of resting, of sayingno, of not holding it all
together.
So today I want you to askyourself, where am I still
(03:47):
carrying the belief that I haveto do it all alone?
That's to be able to doeverything, that I have to
fulfill you know, laval lostrastes, hacer de comer, que sta
bien la casa, hobbies all greatand happy, the kids, the
logistics, be the Uber driver,go through all the motions, be
(04:10):
their counselor, make sure thatthey're getting homework
straight, all the things.
And that's where sitting downand thinking about that
question, it's like fregadospienso que tengo que hacer todo
(04:33):
yo.
Andas manitas y pisitos aroundhere, right?
There's more people, there'shands and feet that can do other
things in this household orthat around me.
Sometimes we think it's betterto do it ourselves because we
get it done, right?
We get shit done, which isgreat, but not to your
detriment.
And I've really sat down andreally thought about that
(04:56):
because now coming up with mysurgeries in November, I now
realize there's a lot of stuffthat I do around the house.
There's a lot of people thatrely on me.
Not only my kids, which are 21and 14, and my husband.
I mean, the man loves me somuch that he makes me do
everything pretty much.
But logistically, we need tomake sure I need to make sure
(05:17):
that they're independent, right?
And I have a lot of people thatreach out to me and I love it.
But sometimes it's like I needto really state my boundary on
when I have to help myselffirst.
So obviously there'sobligations that I have with
work and my commitments and nowI have to realize that no lo ten
(05:44):
cancer.
Letting yourself be supportedis a sacred act of healing.
Community is not a luxury, it'sa necessity.
In our cultures, community usedto be woven into everything,
from raising children to cookingmeals to celebrating life and
mourning death.
(06:05):
This is over there, especiallynow that the holidays are coming
up, it makes me it reminds meof when we would do posadas and
everybody, you know, everybodywould host one day in their
house, and we would, you know,do a pinata at the end and the
dulces and everything.
Such enriching culture that isdown there.
(06:25):
And especially cuando alguiense muere, my mom is always the
first one down to do tamales.
And unfortunately, that's howwe congregate sometimes is
births and deaths.
And so mourning those lovedones that have passed,
especially now that we approachthe day of the dead and you
know, towards Halloween now,it's like it makes you remember
and it makes me really ponder onthese are the times that we get
(06:49):
together.
So somehow or somewhere alongthe way, we lost that.
We replaced it withhyper-individualism, with the
hustle, with the comparison,with the grind.
But comunidad, the truesisterhood, reminds us that we
one, we don't have to be healedto belong, and two, you just
(07:13):
have to be willing to show up.
Now, this week I kicked off myintegration circle, and I
noticed that one in the feedbackI've gotten is that I'm not
alone.
I felt like I was alone, thatI'm the one that has to go
through all this by myself.
But when one woman shares hertruth, it becomes a mirror for
(07:36):
the others, and that's where westart to see ourselves in each
other (07:40):
the mother, the inner niña, the healer, the warrior,
and that shared reflection,that's medicine.
And that's where I'm able toassist them and guide them on
the different methodologies,different tools, different
practices that I use for myself,besides the limpias and all,
(08:01):
which I love and are my go-tos,but it's more of that emotional
regulation.
Those are the things that areso valuable for us, where we're
able to go from this theanxiety, the depression, the
sadness, the resentment, theanger, and also from peace and
joy and feeling ecstatic to youknow, something happens and then
(08:22):
we go back to neutral.
It's like how do we regulatethose emotions?
And those are all healing andlearning opportunities.
And one thing when you show upthat tends to happen is you're
vulnerable.
When you choose to be open andlet yourself be seen and heard
in the situation you are rightthen and right now, and be
(08:45):
present, that's where it opensup this portal.
Because when you let otherslove you through your process,
you reparent the part of youthat believed she had to earn
love through doing, haciendocosas, haciendo los que seres.
You start receiving love simplyfor being being you.
(09:08):
And I always talk aboutigniting that light within us,
and it's like showing your truecolors, showing who you are.
Si estás enojada, show it.
Don't be passiveaggressiveness, like, you know,
cerrando las band like thecabinet doors and slamming stuff
and everything.
Because I've done that, I've Istill do that to this day.
(09:30):
And it's like people ask me,oh, like my husband, it's
enojada.
And it's like, no, todo estábien, todo está bien.
Here I am slamming shit allover the floor and doing stuff
and kicking things, andobviously I'm angry or upset
about something, but we need tobe honest with ourselves, and
really it's like askingourselves, why is this coming
(09:51):
up?
Giving ourselves that moment topause and really lean into and
talk about it out loud.
And that's where we candefinitely have that awareness
with ourselves, but it's evenmore impactful, more meaningful
when you show up and talk aboutit amongst others.
And not that they need to getyou or understand you
(10:14):
completely, but at least voicingit out and talking out loud
instead of it living living inyour head, it creates a huge
difference because it's notbastarding, yeah.
No, it's como un volcán we'reready to erupt.
It's something that you'reputting out there and you're
getting a check, right?
Am I am I on the right track?
Am I not on the right track?
Does this sound medioco or am Ion to something?
(10:36):
And that's where you can getthat validation for yourself,
but then also like making surethat you're checking in with
yourself on what is coming upfor you.
This brings up a really goodpoint because this is something
I see all the time.
Let's talk about that guilt,Mejita.
The one that whispers, youshould be able to handle this.
(10:58):
It's sneaky.
It shows up when we cancelplans to rest, or when we ask
someone to watch the kids, orwhen we say, I need a break.
But guilt is not truth.
It's a conditioned responsefrom generations that equated
(11:20):
worth with sacrifice.
And I know I'm being dramatichere, but I mean seriously,
sacrifice yourself.
So here's your reframe to that.
Receiving is not selfish, it'sreciprocal.
When you allow others to give,you're giving them the gifts of
(11:42):
purpose, connection, andservice.
Think about it.
How good does it feel when youget to support someone you love?
That's the same feeling youruhers of when you say, No, I'm
fine, estoy bien.
And that's actually somethingI'm going through right now is
cuando alguien me ofrece un vasode agua, so somebody offers me
(12:04):
a glass of water or wherever Igo, they're like, Oh, quieres
algo de tomar.
And I'm like, usually I wouldsay, no, estoy bien, like you
know, you probably make yourselffeel humble and everything in
the works.
You're like, oh, I don't wantto inconvenience them.
Well, they actually feel likelet like rejected.
And what I've been practicinglately, which my husband finds
(12:25):
it kind of funny, is cada vezque me ofrecen algo, so every
time they offer me like a glassof water or something, I say
yes.
Gracias.
Even if I take a few sips, likeat least I'm I'm I'm taking
that in.
I'm giving them the ability andthe reciprocity that I'm there
and they're letting me and I'mreceiving and they're giving
(12:47):
because the les nace del corazóndarme.
Oh, and then sometimes I getthe males, and sometimes it's
like, oh, you pago, and it'slike, yeah, you know, you feel
loved, you feel appreciated,like especially with my mom.
And sometimes it's like my momcan give me food for like five
days and for the whole family,which is amazing, but oh,
(13:08):
sometimes in quantity it's alittle excessive, but you get
what I mean.
The woman she she cooks for forlove through love, like so.
That's how she shows you loveand appreciation.
And especially recently, likeI've just been see receiving
such an outpour.
I just had a conversation withmy favorite person in the world,
and she's like, Girl, LoCanasita is like you tell me,
(13:29):
I'll go visit you at thehospital, or I'll come by and I
stop by, or you know, and thenoh, over here there's this
restaurant, and I love the tacosdel pastor because they have um
pineapple in it.
I think I mentioned that oncebefore in another podcast, but
I'm addicted, and you better betbefore I start chemo, I'm gonna
be chowing those things down.
And I have been eating likewhat I want, but that's where
(13:52):
don't reject the things that arecoming at you.
Like sometimes we're so focusedon like the expectation of how
it should look like that we overwe just miss the opportunity in
and of itself.
There's like a there's theinvitation of them offering even
more stuff to you, and you justshut it down with that first
(14:13):
thing.
You're like, no, thank you, I'mgood.
You can always be better,always be better.
And so next time someone offershelp, I want you to try
something radical.
Say yes, even if it'suncomfortable, even if your
inner niña feels undeserving,let yourself receive.
(14:35):
That's where true healingbegins.
That's where you soak in it,bask in it, like ooh, like
pétalos de rosa are on the floorfor me, like roll out the red
carpet.
Because, girl, you you deserveeverything, that and more.
You deserve to feel thatworthiness because you wear it
like a crown.
(14:55):
You have all you're worth morethan all the diamonds and all
the emeralds and everything, allthe jewels in the world.
He's already me dio gallo.
But you get what I mean.
So work on that.
Work on that.
I task you to say yes.
Instead of saying no rightaway, like I attack you to say
yes.
But obviously, when it comes toboundaries and stuff, like you
(15:18):
know, you gotta think about it.
But like for the most part, ifsa si alguien te ofrece algo,
take it, take it, and see whathappens and what unfolds for
you.
Take a deep breath with me.
Inhale and exhale.
We're gonna do that two moretimes, but this time I want you
(15:43):
to inhale, receive, and exhale,release.
One more time.
Inhale, receive and hold at thetop, and exhale, release.
Now, if you feel comfortableenough, and if you're feeling
(16:08):
safe to do so, I invite you toclose your eyes for a moment.
Place your hand over yourheart, over that corazon of
yours.
And you can rub it, you can rubyour chest.
Whisper to yourself, I am safeto be supported.
(16:31):
Feel the warmth under yourhand.
That's your body rememberingthat it's okay to soften.
Now, I want you to visualizethe faces of the people who've
(16:55):
held space for you lately.
A friend who checked in, acoach, a sister.
That could be a sister fromanother mother.
(17:20):
A coworker.
Send them silent gratitude.
And imagine opening your palms,allowing more love, more help.
(17:58):
More support to flow in.
You don't have to earn rest.
(18:18):
You don't have to prove yourstrength.
You just have to let yourselfbe human.
And when you're ready to comeback, I want you to winkle your
(18:50):
fingers, your toes, some shimmyshimmy, shake those shoulders,
or roll those shoulders back,circle them back, and then
circle them forward and put yourhands over your head, like
straight up towards the ceiling,and then let them release
(19:15):
towards your sides.
And if you have your journal,you can go ahead and grab it.
You can pause this.
And I want you to fr reflect onthese questions.
If you don't have your journal,you can definitely think about
it.
(19:35):
And again, I invite you topause.
Number one, what does receivingfeel like in my body?
Tightness, openness,resistance?
Really check in on how that isreceived.
Number two, where do I feelguilt for asking for help?
(20:03):
This is a good one.
Like, really sit down with thisone and ponder on it.
And the one thing I love aboutwriting is automatic writing,
like things just start comingout, and you just start writing
things that you didn't even knowyou had.
Your unconscious orsubconscious, actually.
Your unconscious self comes outwith the things you need to
(20:25):
know.
Number three, who in my lifefeels safe to lean on?
And how can I nurture thatconnection?
So, how can you reach out tothat person and feel that
support for yourself?
(20:46):
Number four, how can I createmore reciprocal relationships in
my community?
Where's the plug?
Where are you able to plugyourself in?
What are the groups that youlike to attend?
Maybe there's a support groupin your community that you can
(21:07):
check out with.
I personally like the gym.
That's where one way I get tofeel like in community is going
to the group fitness classes.
So really sit with this.
And again, you can pause or youcan keep listening and just
mentally take note of what comesup.
Now it's time for a meditation,or what I call a mini-ritual.
(21:41):
And it's called calling in yourcycle visualization.
I invite you to close youreyes.
And I want you to imaginestanding in a circle of light.
And see that illuminate aroundyou.
(22:06):
Visualize that.
Each candle represents someonewho has walked beside you.
Ancestors, friends, guides,soul sisters.
Go around the circle.
(22:37):
Watching the light glow fromeach one of those candles.
See them surrounding you.
Each one saying you don't haveto do this alone.
(22:58):
Breathe in their love.
Breathe out your resistance.
Let yourself receive fully,unapologetically.
(23:38):
This is calling in your circle.
(24:41):
When you're ready, that's whereI invite you to open your eyes,
wriggle your hands and yourtoes.
And gently come back toyourself when you're ready.
If today's episode resonatedwith you, I invite you to share
(25:27):
it with a friend, someone thatneeds it.
A commadre, a friend, um, tuvecina, tu mama, tu hermana.
Um, I invite you to share thesacred space where we practice
everything we talk about here.
And I invite you to check outmy website at torapraxedis.com
(25:48):
and see what other things arecoming up that I may assist you
with.
It's time where we heal,reflect, and rise.
And if you really want toconnect with me, you can find me
at Instagram at dpraxedis.
And that's where I've beenreally coming back to social on
(26:11):
a daily basis for some degree.
And I've been going through themotions of documenting my
journey.
And you can find real lifestuff.
I go post on my story and allthe various things that I'm
doing.
And of course, sending you lotsof love y con mucho cariño.
(26:32):
Until next time, embrace yourraíces, reclaim your essencia.
Nos vemos.
Bye.
Ai Mijita.
Sometimes the strongest thingwe can do is let ourselves be
held.
In a world that taught us to bethe caregiver or caretaker, the
fixer, the one who keepseveryone together, it can feel
almost foreign to receipt.
Welcome back to Ay Mijita,Embracing Your Roots, Reclaim
(00:28):
Your Essence.
I'm your host, Dora AliciaPraxedis, and today we're diving
deep into what it means to healthrough community, to allow
yourself to be supported,witnessed, and loved without
guilt.
Because healing no is meant tobe done sola, it's meant to be
done in a circle, in sisterhood,in comunidad.
(00:50):
If you join me for thethree-day challenge that I
hosted last week, or Ignite YourSoul retreat, the three-hour
virtual retreat that I held onSaturday, or you're involved in
the integration circle this weekthat we kicked off on Tuesday,
you already felt that power.
(01:12):
The way one woman's tears givesanother permission to exhale.
The way silence held moremedicine than words ever could.
This is the heart of today'sepisode.
Remembering that you are notalone.
And today's episode, I'm reallyhoning in on the comunidad
(01:34):
showing out, especially when itcomes to my journey, and how all
those different pieces havereally influenced me to lean in
and get support and get thatsupport and feel seen, feel
heard, and be able to cry inshoulders in lose de alguien.
Like really be heard.
And there's a lot of peoplethat have gone through a journey
(01:57):
and they're probably like 50steps ahead of you, or maybe 10.
But that knowledge, thatexperience helps mentor those
after that come, and you helppave that way.
So I'm definitely speaking onthat today.
Sound familiar?
(03:25):
That I got it is usually codefor I don't feel safe being seen
in my need.
And that's where guilt creepsin.
The guilt of resting, of sayingno, of not holding it all
together.
So today I want you to askyourself, where am I still
(03:47):
carrying the belief that I haveto do it all alone?
That's to be able to doeverything, that I have to
fulfill you know, laval lostrastes, hacer de comer, que sta
bien la casa, hobbies all greatand happy, the kids, the
logistics, be the Uber driver,go through all the motions, be
(04:10):
their counselor, make sure thatthey're getting homework
straight, all the things.
And that's where sitting downand thinking about that
question, it's like fregadospienso que tengo que hacer todo
(04:33):
yo.
Andas manitas y pisitos aroundhere, right?
There's more people, there'shands and feet that can do other
things in this household orthat around me.
Sometimes we think it's betterto do it ourselves because we
get it done, right?
We get shit done, which isgreat, but not to your
detriment.
And I've really sat down andreally thought about that
(04:56):
because now coming up with mysurgeries in November, I now
realize there's a lot of stuffthat I do around the house.
There's a lot of people thatrely on me.
Not only my kids, which are 21and 14, and my husband.
I mean, the man loves me somuch that he makes me do
everything pretty much.
But logistically, we need tomake sure I need to make sure
(05:17):
that they're independent, right?
And I have a lot of people thatreach out to me and I love it.
But sometimes it's like I needto really state my boundary on
when I have to help myselffirst.
So obviously there'sobligations that I have with
work and my commitments and nowI have to realize that no lo ten
(05:44):
cancer.
Letting yourself be supportedis a sacred act of healing.
Community is not a luxury, it'sa necessity.
In our cultures, community usedto be woven into everything,
from raising children to cookingmeals to celebrating life and
mourning death.
(06:05):
This is over there, especiallynow that the holidays are coming
up, it makes me it reminds meof when we would do posadas and
everybody, you know, everybodywould host one day in their
house, and we would, you know,do a pinata at the end and the
dulces and everything.
Such enriching culture that isdown there.
(06:25):
And especially cuando alguiense muere, my mom is always the
first one down to do tamales.
And unfortunately, that's howwe congregate sometimes is
births and deaths.
And so mourning those lovedones that have passed,
especially now that we approachthe day of the dead and you
know, towards Halloween now,it's like it makes you remember
and it makes me really ponder onthese are the times that we get
(06:49):
together.
So somehow or somewhere alongthe way, we lost that.
We replaced it withhyper-individualism, with the
hustle, with the comparison,with the grind.
But comunidad, the truesisterhood, reminds us that we
one, we don't have to be healedto belong, and two, you just
(07:13):
have to be willing to show up.
Now, this week I kicked off myintegration circle, and I
noticed that one in the feedbackI've gotten is that I'm not
alone.
I felt like I was alone, thatI'm the one that has to go
through all this by myself.
But when one woman shares hertruth, it becomes a mirror for
(07:36):
the others, and that's where westart to see ourselves in each
other (07:40):
the mother, the inner niña, the healer, the warrior,
and that shared reflection,that's medicine.
And that's where I'm able toassist them and guide them on
the different methodologies,different tools, different
practices that I use for myself,besides the limpias and all,
(08:01):
which I love and are my go-tos,but it's more of that emotional
regulation.
Those are the things that areso valuable for us, where we're
able to go from this theanxiety, the depression, the
sadness, the resentment, theanger, and also from peace and
joy and feeling ecstatic to youknow, something happens and then
(08:22):
we go back to neutral.
It's like how do we regulatethose emotions?
And those are all healing andlearning opportunities.
And one thing when you show upthat tends to happen is you're
vulnerable.
When you choose to be open andlet yourself be seen and heard
in the situation you are rightthen and right now, and be
(08:45):
present, that's where it opensup this portal.
Because when you let otherslove you through your process,
you reparent the part of youthat believed she had to earn
love through doing, haciendocosas, haciendo los que seres.
You start receiving love simplyfor being being you.
(09:08):
And I always talk aboutigniting that light within us,
and it's like showing your truecolors, showing who you are.
Si estás enojada, show it.
Don't be passiveaggressiveness, like, you know,
cerrando las band like thecabinet doors and slamming stuff
and everything.
Because I've done that, I've Istill do that to this day.
(09:30):
And it's like people ask me,oh, like my husband, it's
enojada.
And it's like, no, todo estábien, todo está bien.
Here I am slamming shit allover the floor and doing stuff
and kicking things, andobviously I'm angry or upset
about something, but we need tobe honest with ourselves, and
really it's like askingourselves, why is this coming
(09:51):
up?
Giving ourselves that moment topause and really lean into and
talk about it out loud.
And that's where we candefinitely have that awareness
with ourselves, but it's evenmore impactful, more meaningful
when you show up and talk aboutit amongst others.
And not that they need to getyou or understand you
(10:14):
completely, but at least voicingit out and talking out loud
instead of it living living inyour head, it creates a huge
difference because it's notbastarding, yeah.
No, it's como un volcán we'reready to erupt.
It's something that you'reputting out there and you're
getting a check, right?
Am I am I on the right track?
Am I not on the right track?
Does this sound medioco or am Ion to something?
(10:36):
And that's where you can getthat validation for yourself,
but then also like making surethat you're checking in with
yourself on what is coming upfor you.
This brings up a really goodpoint because this is something
I see all the time.
Let's talk about that guilt,Mejita.
The one that whispers, youshould be able to handle this.
(10:58):
It's sneaky.
It shows up when we cancelplans to rest, or when we ask
someone to watch the kids, orwhen we say, I need a break.
But guilt is not truth.
It's a conditioned responsefrom generations that equated
(11:20):
worth with sacrifice.
And I know I'm being dramatichere, but I mean seriously,
sacrifice yourself.
So here's your reframe to that.
Receiving is not selfish, it'sreciprocal.
When you allow others to give,you're giving them the gifts of
(11:42):
purpose, connection, andservice.
Think about it.
How good does it feel when youget to support someone you love?
That's the same feeling youruhers of when you say, No, I'm
fine, estoy bien.
And that's actually somethingI'm going through right now is
cuando alguien me ofrece un vasode agua, so somebody offers me
(12:04):
a glass of water or wherever Igo, they're like, Oh, quieres
algo de tomar.
And I'm like, usually I wouldsay, no, estoy bien, like you
know, you probably make yourselffeel humble and everything in
the works.
You're like, oh, I don't wantto inconvenience them.
Well, they actually feel likelet like rejected.
And what I've been practicinglately, which my husband finds
(12:25):
it kind of funny, is cada vezque me ofrecen algo, so every
time they offer me like a glassof water or something, I say
yes.
Gracias.
Even if I take a few sips, likeat least I'm I'm I'm taking
that in.
I'm giving them the ability andthe reciprocity that I'm there
and they're letting me and I'mreceiving and they're giving
(12:47):
because the les nace del corazóndarme.
Oh, and then sometimes I getthe males, and sometimes it's
like, oh, you pago, and it'slike, yeah, you know, you feel
loved, you feel appreciated,like especially with my mom.
And sometimes it's like my momcan give me food for like five
days and for the whole family,which is amazing, but oh,
(13:08):
sometimes in quantity it's alittle excessive, but you get
what I mean.
The woman she she cooks for forlove through love, like so.
That's how she shows you loveand appreciation.
And especially recently, likeI've just been see receiving
such an outpour.
I just had a conversation withmy favorite person in the world,
and she's like, Girl, LoCanasita is like you tell me,
(13:29):
I'll go visit you at thehospital, or I'll come by and I
stop by, or you know, and thenoh, over here there's this
restaurant, and I love the tacosdel pastor because they have um
pineapple in it.
I think I mentioned that oncebefore in another podcast, but
I'm addicted, and you better betbefore I start chemo, I'm gonna
be chowing those things down.
And I have been eating likewhat I want, but that's where
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don't reject the things that arecoming at you.
Like sometimes we're so focusedon like the expectation of how
it should look like that we overwe just miss the opportunity in
and of itself.
There's like a there's theinvitation of them offering even
more stuff to you, and you justshut it down with that first
(14:13):
thing.
You're like, no, thank you, I'mgood.
You can always be better,always be better.
And so next time someone offershelp, I want you to try
something radical.
Say yes, even if it'suncomfortable, even if your
inner niña feels undeserving,let yourself receive.
(14:35):
That's where true healingbegins.
That's where you soak in it,bask in it, like ooh, like
pétalos de rosa are on the floorfor me, like roll out the red
carpet.
Because, girl, you you deserveeverything, that and more.
You deserve to feel thatworthiness because you wear it
like a crown.
(14:55):
You have all you're worth morethan all the diamonds and all
the emeralds and everything, allthe jewels in the world.
He's already me dio gallo.
But you get what I mean.
So work on that.
Work on that.
I task you to say yes.
Instead of saying no rightaway, like I attack you to say
yes.
But obviously, when it comes toboundaries and stuff, like you
(15:18):
know, you gotta think about it.
But like for the most part, ifsa si alguien te ofrece algo,
take it, take it, and see whathappens and what unfolds for
you.
Take a deep breath with me.
Inhale and exhale.
We're gonna do that two moretimes, but this time I want you
(15:43):
to inhale, receive, and exhale,release.
One more time.
Inhale, receive and hold at thetop, and exhale, release.
Now, if you feel comfortableenough, and if you're feeling
(16:08):
safe to do so, I invite you toclose your eyes for a moment.
Place your hand over yourheart, over that corazon of
yours.
And you can rub it, you can rubyour chest.
Whisper to yourself, I am safeto be supported.
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Feel the warmth under yourhand.
That's your body rememberingthat it's okay to soften.
Now, I want you to visualizethe faces of the people who've
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held space for you lately.
A friend who checked in, acoach, a sister.
That could be a sister fromanother mother.
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A coworker.
Send them silent gratitude.
And imagine opening your palms,allowing more love, more help.
(17:58):
More support to flow in.
You don't have to earn rest.
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You don't have to prove yourstrength.
You just have to let yourselfbe human.
And when you're ready to comeback, I want you to winkle your
(18:50):
fingers, your toes, some shimmyshimmy, shake those shoulders,
or roll those shoulders back,circle them back, and then
circle them forward and put yourhands over your head, like
straight up towards the ceiling,and then let them release
(19:15):
towards your sides.
And if you have your journal,you can go ahead and grab it.
You can pause this.
And I want you to fr reflect onthese questions.
If you don't have your journal,you can definitely think about
it.
(19:35):
And again, I invite you topause.
Number one, what does receivingfeel like in my body?
Tightness, openness,resistance?
Really check in on how that isreceived.
Number two, where do I feelguilt for asking for help?
(20:03):
This is a good one.
Like, really sit down with thisone and ponder on it.
And the one thing I love aboutwriting is automatic writing,
like things just start comingout, and you just start writing
things that you didn't even knowyou had.
Your unconscious orsubconscious, actually.
Your unconscious self comes outwith the things you need to
(20:25):
know.
Number three, who in my lifefeels safe to lean on?
And how can I nurture thatconnection?
So, how can you reach out tothat person and feel that
support for yourself?
(20:46):
Number four, how can I createmore reciprocal relationships in
my community?
Where's the plug?
Where are you able to plugyourself in?
What are the groups that youlike to attend?
Maybe there's a support groupin your community that you can
(21:07):
check out with.
I personally like the gym.
That's where one way I get tofeel like in community is going
to the group fitness classes.
So really sit with this.
And again, you can pause or youcan keep listening and just
mentally take note of what comesup.
Now it's time for a meditation,or what I call a mini-ritual.
(21:41):
And it's called calling in yourcycle visualization.
I invite you to close youreyes.
And I want you to imaginestanding in a circle of light.
And see that illuminate aroundyou.
(22:06):
Visualize that.
Each candle represents someonewho has walked beside you.
Ancestors, friends, guides,soul sisters.
Go around the circle.
(22:37):
Watching the light glow fromeach one of those candles.
See them surrounding you.
Each one saying you don't haveto do this alone.
(22:58):
Breathe in their love.
Breathe out your resistance.
Let yourself receive fully,unapologetically.
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This is calling in your circle.
(24:41):
When you're ready, that's whereI invite you to open your eyes,
wriggle your hands and yourtoes.
And gently come back toyourself when you're ready.
If today's episode resonatedwith you, I invite you to share
(25:27):
it with a friend, someone thatneeds it.
A commadre, a friend, um, tuvecina, tu mama, tu hermana.
Um, I invite you to share thesacred space where we practice
everything we talk about here.
And I invite you to check outmy website at torapraxedis.com
(25:48):
and see what other things arecoming up that I may assist you
with.
It's time where we heal,reflect, and rise.
And if you really want toconnect with me, you can find me
at Instagram at dpraxedis.
And that's where I've beenreally coming back to social on
(26:11):
a daily basis for some degree.
And I've been going through themotions of documenting my
journey.
And you can find real lifestuff.
I go post on my story and allthe various things that I'm
doing.
And of course, sending you lotsof love y con mucho cariño.
(26:32):
Until next time, embrace yourraíces, reclaim your essencia.
Nos vemos.
Bye.
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