April 7, 2024 • 21 mins
As April's fresh breezes usher in a season of renewal, Zach Batista and I, Brandon May, share an intimate exploration of personal accountability's profound influence on growth and transformation. Imagine the strength it takes to confront your own missteps and the liberating wave that follows when you do; we delve into these moments with heartfelt transparency. Our candid conversation travels from the therapeutic landscape, where techniques like EMDR's bilateral stimulation foster healing, to the disciplined domain of military training where the weight of others' lives sharpens our sense of responsibility. We reveal how the act of making amends, though deeply personal, unlocks freedom and invites healing, not just for the individual but for all touched by the ripples of our actions.
Journey with us as we uncover the power of owning our faults and the positive transformation it can catalyze in our lives. From the inspiring paths of rehabilitation to the everyday challenge of living without comparison, we unpack the diverse experiences of being—and becoming—our best selves. Discover the varied roads to accountability and the impact of a single phone call or face-to-face conversation in setting things right. Through the stories we share and the practices we suggest, this episode stands as an invitation to our listeners to contribute their own narratives of accountability, weaving together a tapestry that celebrates how individual energy and actions shape the world we inhabit.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Good morning.
Good morning.
Welcome to B2Z Podcast.
Hey, zach Batista, along withmy co-host, brandon May.
Hello everybody, nice, april1st.
Nice sunny day after a rainycloudy weekend.
Nice sunny day after a rainy,cloudy weekend.
(00:27):
I'm ready to talk about somebig topics.
How are you feeling today?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
I'm feeling pretty good.
I'm not as excited as I wouldnormally be, but I'm all right.
How are you guys doing?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
How are you?
I'm good.
Good, yeah, I had some therapy.
This morning Talked about thegood of bilateral stimulation of
the mind, which is anotherbyproduct of EMDR therapy.
So anything can trigger that.
If you hold hands while youwork, if you are a runner or a
(01:11):
walker and you're trying tothink things out.
That's a form of EMDR andbilateral stimulation.
So we did a little bit of thattoday.
But today, let's talk aboutsomething people may not be
doing, which is holdingthemselves accountable.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Yeah, accountability.
Accountability, that's a bigone.
In my life right now.
I've been talking from thestandpoint of the accuser, you
know what I mean or the personwho is the problem, and being
(01:53):
accountable for righting yourwrong.
If you've wronged somebody andyou're sitting on it for too
long, you're not holdingyourself accountable If you know
you should apologize.
Maybe it's something small.
You're not holding yourselfaccountable If you know you
should apologize.
Maybe it's something small, butusually it's something big.
(02:13):
You're in a relationship withan old friend and it's your
fault and you're not holdingyourself accountable.
That's the accountability we'retalking about today.
It's a little bit of humilityas well, showing humility to a
situation where you need to holdyourself accountable to move
forward, whether that be at work, whether that be with your
(02:36):
close friends, your family.
Accountability is huge.
How do you hold yourselfaccountable when you've wronged
somebody?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
That was Accountability was a huge lesson
in the military Since boot campday one.
You're accountable.
You're accountable for, notonly for yourself but, then they
start putting you in charge ofother motherfuckers and you
become accountable for them aswell.
Even though we're from twodifferent perspectives, you have
(03:15):
done a very good job of holdingyourself accountable every day.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Definitely that's something that I really try and
do.
I don't necessarily like to bethe problem in a situation.
In order to get that off of mychest and that feeling away from
me, I try, and you know, untieall the knots out of the rope
and just get that weight off myshoulders.
I don't like to carry aroundthat mental stress or have that
(03:42):
feeling upon me for so manyyears where I'm like, dang, I
did this person wrong and Ithought and I'm still thinking
about it years later.
Maybe the person's not eventhinking about me, but because
I'm the the, the victimizer, youknow I hold a different type of
weight and if you hold yourselfaccountable, then that's one of
the things you can release.
(04:04):
And if you hold yourselfaccountable, then that's one of
the things you can release.
And you know, just because youhold yourself accountable to
doesn't mean that the person isgoing to receive your efforts to
try and make amends orapologize or whatever it is that
you're trying to write Doesn'tmean that accountability goes by
the wayside.
You know, it's still very, it'sa, it's a big deal for the soul
.
You know what I mean forhumanity.
(04:26):
I mean so many things happenbecause people don't hold
themselves accountable.
You know whether it be you knowsomething that happens at work
and somebody goes down for whatit is that you did, and maybe
you were truly the cause of it,getting in a car accident and
just fucking calling it a buck.
(04:47):
Man, you're like that's me, mybad, you know, and just holding
yourself accountable like thatwould make the world a better
place.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Was there any story that comes to mind when you were
thinking about accountability?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Accountability for me is mostly you.
You know my family and stufflike that and the relationships
and the things that we need towork on.
You know, um, I'm not gonna getinto like a specific story just
because I don't.
I I've never asked my family ifI could speak on them like that
, so I'm not going to until Iask them.
(05:23):
But you know, for me, thesefriends, you know, as I've
gotten wronged by a lot offriends, by a lot of friends
trying to be an entrepreneur,trying and creating businesses
and or you know, even clients,uh, going to other artists and
(05:47):
stuff like that and not holdingthemselves accountable for how
they treated me.
You know what I mean?
That's a weird one too, right,yeah, client accountability
towards tattooing all right,that'd be a whole another topic.
But anyways yeah, um, there isno specific story for me that I
(06:08):
want to share about it, justbecause, man, that's all
personal.
You know what I mean Like, andthat's not necessarily how I
want to go.
I feel like I'm like lettingtoo much out if I do that, but
please know that I'm out thereand if I've wronged you, make
yourself known, because I wouldlike to hold myself accountable
and we can, we can get throughthat.
You know what I mean, that's.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
And anyone listening that's.
That's pretty big, at least inmy book, to put yourself out
here and we're putting ourselveson public broadcast for you to
be vulnerable.
I appreciate that today.
I'll give you that for one andfor two letting people come to
you.
Yeah, you know what I mean.
You just threw the bait and thehook out there.
(06:50):
Oh yeah, yeah we'll see whotakes a bite out of it, and
hopefully it doesn't come acrossas vengeful either or negative.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yeah, this is for growth.
These conversations are forgrowth.
This is not to say that youwere wrong or anything like that
, because that's not trueaccountability.
Accountability is washing it,washing your hands, getting that
dirt off of your hands, youknow.
Making sure that you wash yourhands after you use the restroom
.
Holding yourself accountableAccountability.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
That's simple.
Yeah, that's a simple way ofputting it right there.
No one's watching you Right.
Make sure you're washing yourhands.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Right, yeah, but I challenge you guys to that.
You know Everybody has that oneperson that they probably could
do a little bit better withEverybody out there listening,
right, you're wrong.
And then come back and tell mehow you feel after that.
It's going to feel good, andit's not just for the feeling of
good, it's for the growth ofhumans, it's for the growth in
(07:51):
you.
Man, like you hold these thingsin you and you're frustrated
and you feel you've been wrong.
Man, let that go.
You know we only get but awindow on this earth.
You know, and existing is apleasure and it's something that
not everybody gets to do.
If you're healthy and you'renot ill and you're not deformed
(08:15):
or anything like that, man,y'all better.
You know, don't take this shitfor granted.
Don't take it for granted, man,hold yourself accountable.
Make this place better, youknow.
Yeah, so that's my rant,motherfuckers, you feel me.
That's a good rant, yeah, goodrant.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Yeah, it's Monday.
Mondays are good for rants, Ifeel like.
So I will tell you a situationwhere I had a more formal type
of accountability, and that'swhen I went through.
I went through rehab, yeah, sixyears ago, and you got to hold
(08:58):
yourself accountable.
That's a big lesson for thattoo.
And you apologize, you writeyour letters, you get things off
your chest.
So, coming from thatperspective, I did, I was at one
of the lowest levels of my lifeand I held myself accountable.
(09:20):
I'm better for it, I'm a betterman and I know how to do it now
in a professional way, you know, not an acting out way, yeah,
but yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
So accountability is huge.
It is huge and I feel like thelonger you wait to hold yourself
accountable, the more or theheavier the weight comes.
You know, and it's just like,and then you feel like you can't
do it and that person is justgoing to write you off and you
know you forever got an asteriskon the side of your name
because you did him dirty andyou know it.
(09:52):
There's a lot of ways you canhold yourself accountable to.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe from such a grief stage If
you have a lot of children.
If you have a lot of children,hold yourself accountable and be
the best dad that you couldpossibly be.
That doesn't mean be betterthan the dad over there.
Be the best dad that you can be, your version of it, the
(10:15):
authentic you.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
I'm so glad you brought up variety.
That was what I was on the samepage on as well.
I'm going to keep reiteratingthis.
He's going to keep reiteratingthis there's no set of rules to
live in life, there's no set ofrules to any of this, but doing
something different may triggera better part of you.
(10:41):
This is why we did this.
This is why we started this.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
These situations.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
We're hoping this triggers a better part of us.
If it does, it does.
If it doesn't, it doesn't.
It was a fun experiment whileit lasted, but I'm enjoying it
and I think it is helping withmy mental health.
There's no right form oftherapy.
There's no right form ofaccountability.
You just got to go out thereand try something.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Please, yeah, yeah and just call that person.
Yeah, call that person.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
If you're fucked up.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Own it, you know.
Get it off your chest, Move on.
It's not the end of the world.
You're not going to jail.
Nobody's hurt.
You Just stand on something.
That's being a man.
They tell you to be a man.
Put your chest down.
That's being a man, holdingyourself accountable.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
And we talked about that conversation.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Or a woman.
Yeah, hey, that's right.
You know what I'm saying,that's right.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
We talked about that in our last episode Making that
phone call or face-to-face andsometimes that is hard for some
of us.
I'm more of the.
I'm going to shoot a text andtry to give all my personality
and feelings in this text and Iknow Brandon's laughing at me,
(12:04):
but I know he's tried to read mytext and see my feelings in it.
It's hard to do.
Some people cannot do that.
So don't be afraid of that faceto face meeting or that phone
call and I prefer to call.
He's a phone caller, whichfreaks me out.
Sometimes I'm like, oh, Ididn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
And it's more for the receiving of the energy.
I want to temperature check.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
I usually feel better after the phone call.
Anyways, yeah, it's just that,yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
I got to get it Like hold up.
I can't text how I feel.
You know.
Yeah, I got to get it Hold up.
I can't text how I feel youknow, yeah, yeah, chime in when
you get a chance and go to theInstagram page and maybe write
something about accountabilityIf you've got something good to
add to the equation and you feellike you could help us out and
what it is that we're doing, howyou hold yourself accountable
(12:58):
and what it is that we're doinghow you hold yourself
accountable, man, I'm all for it.
I'm all for it because we onlygot one opportunity out here and
this world thrives off ofenergy and you want to make sure
yours is positive and it's notall messed up.
Man, lot of crappy people outthere.
You know like just doing shadyshit and sometimes an
(13:22):
accountability.
You know to define that in anaccountability way.
You're not defining yourself inthe right way.
You know you're out there loose.
You know you're not holdingyourself accountable for being a
good individual.
Wake up, brush your teeth.
You know what I mean.
Put on fresh clothes if you gotthe opportunity to do so.
If you don't have theopportunity to do so, go hard.
(13:45):
Get what it is that you wantout of this, but don't carry the
trauma with you.
You got trauma Release it.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
We've gotten, I feel so far we've gotten great energy
in our DMs.
Just one more time, that's atB2TOZpodcast.
We're on Instagram, facebook,and we really would love to hear
from you, even if you don'twant us to share or shout you
(14:15):
out, which we definitely will,by the way.
Yeah, just hit us up.
We like to know we're making alittle bit of a difference to
our listeners.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Yeah, so be accountable for tapping in, you
know.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Wash that dish.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Wash that dish, you know.
Put it away, you know.
Pick that dirty clothes up, youknow those dirty clothes up,
know those dirty clothes up, andwash them, don't just let them
chill.
This goes so far.
It's so deep, you know.
You guys gotta get motivated.
I'm gonna, you know, I'm tryingto stay motivated.
I'm operating in a way where Iwant to be positive for you guys
(14:55):
when you meet me.
You know, and that doesn't meanI'm being fake I'm just
choosing to be a positiveindividual and holding myself
accountable to make sure thatthe world is positive.
Each one, teach one Over hererambling.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
And for those of you listeners in Southern California
, we are going to have someopportunities coming up where
you can catch both of ustogether.
One of them is going to be at aPTSD walk coming up in May.
I'll give all the details onthat.
That's me and Fontana.
And then we're also going to bedoing a tattoo convention in
(15:38):
Ontario, California.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Ontario.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
InkCon, inkcon, coming up at the end of June.
Ontario Convention Center.
Yeah, so I'm giving them littleseeds right now just to get you
guys thinking and yeah, if youwant to come out and hang out
with us, we'd love to see you.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Oh, I wanted to do one thing which I didn't even
tell exactly, or maybe I did,but I wanted to shout out uh,
some of the businesses that havebeen, you know, coming and
spending money with me, let mego grab some business cards real
quick, I'll be right back guys.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
So I know one of them specifically.
He's going to shout out andthat's my neighbor.
My neighbor just came in andgot his logo tattooed on his
forearm Awesome, awesome, human.
That's Bill Rosenthal withBadass Billy's Beef Jerky.
And yeah, I know that's one ofthe cards he went up to get, but
(16:40):
I'll let him list those off foryou, All right.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
So the first one we'll start off is with Badass
Billy's Beef Jerky at Ontario,california.
This guy's a really good guy.
You should just buy jerky fromhim because of how cool he is,
but it does taste good as well.
I tried it.
We went through all kinds offlavors.
He just got a tattoo of hislogo his business logo on there.
He's absolutely solid.
(17:05):
He ended up being like a reallygood friends with one of my
mentors at Apprentice me, sothat was really cool too.
The next one is Rachel York.
Rachel York, physical therapyand wellness.
She's at a Riverside guys.
She's super dope.
She's operating at a tournamenthouse right now and if you just
(17:29):
had a baby or you just wentthrough an injury or anything
like that, please go hit her up.
You know, I know shespecializes in all different
types of things.
I ask these companies if I canshot them out.
I'm not being paid for this,you feel me?
So this is all love, um, soplease go give them a follow.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
These people mean a lot to us.
Yeah, I'm willing to promotethem as much as I can right, and
there's another one's.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
It's Orange Grove Detail.
This is Eric man.
He's off of Adams, 2900 Adams.
Okay.
So you guys go check him out.
He does car detail.
He does a really good job.
If you want your car cleaned uplooking brand new, he can
handle that for you.
He just started his businessoff, so let's go bless him with
some money you off.
(18:15):
So let's go bless him with somemoney you know and go support
local business.
And the last one is AA Designs.
This is my boy, Andrew.
He's a graphic designer.
He's graduated from Cal Baptistreal soon here.
He's done some logos and sealsand certificates that for my
brother's books and we'reworking on some motorsports
designs right now.
He's also done some stuff formy business personally.
He's really good.
(18:36):
Check him out AA Designs.
His name's Andrew.
I just wanted to shout thosecompanies out.
Obviously, you guys need tocome get tattoos by me.
B-main Studios, man.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
We're holding you accountable.
If you want to know.
I have this roundup time.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Is that okay with you ?
Yeah, let's round it out I gottwo quotes again.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Is that, uh, you liking that you?
Speaker 2 (19:02):
like.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
I like two quotes it gives us a little little little
flexibility to bounce stuff off.
Of.
First one I asked good, it'sgood, uh, good leaders saying
these quotes?
First one was Mahatma Gandhi.
He said it is wrong and immoralto seek to escape the
(19:25):
consequences of one's acts.
Goes right along with what wewere saying today.
Right yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Yeah, gandhi, don't lie't lie, don't fuck around
yeah, so come on, guys, you knowthis.
You shouldn't just be hearingthis the first time today.
You know.
You guys know, we all know howwe should be acting and how you
know each other accountable.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
So when he said that, I know I don't have a date, but
yeah, that was a good one.
So the second quote I have isfrom one of the fathers of our
of the United States, thomasPaine.
(20:11):
He was a great author and heeven goes a little further.
He goes a body of men holdingthemselves accountable to nobody
ought not to be trusted byanybody.
Dangerous, dangerous, yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
That sounds like a man who's been through some
things or done some things andlearned from his mistakes.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
One or the other.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
That's heavy.
That's heavy.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Got some good ones today.
Thank you again for joining us.
Appreciate you tuning in.
Go ahead and like and subscribe.
That's B2C Podcast.
Thank you.
Good morning.
Good morning.
Welcome to B2Z Podcast.
Hey, zach Batista, along withmy co-host, brandon May.
Hello everybody, nice, april1st.
Nice sunny day after a rainycloudy weekend.
Nice sunny day after a rainy,cloudy weekend.
(00:27):
I'm ready to talk about somebig topics.
How are you feeling today?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
I'm feeling pretty good.
I'm not as excited as I wouldnormally be, but I'm all right.
How are you guys doing?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
How are you?
I'm good.
Good, yeah, I had some therapy.
This morning Talked about thegood of bilateral stimulation of
the mind, which is anotherbyproduct of EMDR therapy.
So anything can trigger that.
If you hold hands while youwork, if you are a runner or a
(01:11):
walker and you're trying tothink things out.
That's a form of EMDR andbilateral stimulation.
So we did a little bit of thattoday.
But today, let's talk aboutsomething people may not be
doing, which is holdingthemselves accountable.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Yeah, accountability.
Accountability, that's a bigone.
In my life right now.
I've been talking from thestandpoint of the accuser, you
know what I mean or the personwho is the problem, and being
(01:53):
accountable for righting yourwrong.
If you've wronged somebody andyou're sitting on it for too
long, you're not holdingyourself accountable If you know
you should apologize.
Maybe it's something small.
You're not holding yourselfaccountable If you know you
should apologize.
Maybe it's something small, butusually it's something big.
(02:13):
You're in a relationship withan old friend and it's your
fault and you're not holdingyourself accountable.
That's the accountability we'retalking about today.
It's a little bit of humilityas well, showing humility to a
situation where you need to holdyourself accountable to move
forward, whether that be at work, whether that be with your
(02:36):
close friends, your family.
Accountability is huge.
How do you hold yourselfaccountable when you've wronged
somebody?
Speaker 1 (02:47):
That was Accountability was a huge lesson
in the military Since boot campday one.
You're accountable.
You're accountable for, notonly for yourself but, then they
start putting you in charge ofother motherfuckers and you
become accountable for them aswell.
Even though we're from twodifferent perspectives, you have
(03:15):
done a very good job of holdingyourself accountable every day.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Definitely that's something that I really try and
do.
I don't necessarily like to bethe problem in a situation.
In order to get that off of mychest and that feeling away from
me, I try, and you know, untieall the knots out of the rope
and just get that weight off myshoulders.
I don't like to carry aroundthat mental stress or have that
(03:42):
feeling upon me for so manyyears where I'm like, dang, I
did this person wrong and Ithought and I'm still thinking
about it years later.
Maybe the person's not eventhinking about me, but because
I'm the the, the victimizer, youknow I hold a different type of
weight and if you hold yourselfaccountable, then that's one of
the things you can release.
(04:04):
And if you hold yourselfaccountable, then that's one of
the things you can release.
And you know, just because youhold yourself accountable to
doesn't mean that the person isgoing to receive your efforts to
try and make amends orapologize or whatever it is that
you're trying to write Doesn'tmean that accountability goes by
the wayside.
You know, it's still very, it'sa, it's a big deal for the soul
.
You know what I mean forhumanity.
(04:26):
I mean so many things happenbecause people don't hold
themselves accountable.
You know whether it be you knowsomething that happens at work
and somebody goes down for whatit is that you did, and maybe
you were truly the cause of it,getting in a car accident and
just fucking calling it a buck.
(04:47):
Man, you're like that's me, mybad, you know, and just holding
yourself accountable like thatwould make the world a better
place.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Was there any story that comes to mind when you were
thinking about accountability?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Accountability for me is mostly you.
You know my family and stufflike that and the relationships
and the things that we need towork on.
You know, um, I'm not gonna getinto like a specific story just
because I don't.
I I've never asked my family ifI could speak on them like that
, so I'm not going to until Iask them.
(05:23):
But you know, for me, thesefriends, you know, as I've
gotten wronged by a lot offriends, by a lot of friends
trying to be an entrepreneur,trying and creating businesses
and or you know, even clients,uh, going to other artists and
(05:47):
stuff like that and not holdingthemselves accountable for how
they treated me.
You know what I mean?
That's a weird one too, right,yeah, client accountability
towards tattooing all right,that'd be a whole another topic.
But anyways yeah, um, there isno specific story for me that I
(06:08):
want to share about it, justbecause, man, that's all
personal.
You know what I mean Like, andthat's not necessarily how I
want to go.
I feel like I'm like lettingtoo much out if I do that, but
please know that I'm out thereand if I've wronged you, make
yourself known, because I wouldlike to hold myself accountable
and we can, we can get throughthat.
You know what I mean, that's.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
And anyone listening that's.
That's pretty big, at least inmy book, to put yourself out
here and we're putting ourselveson public broadcast for you to
be vulnerable.
I appreciate that today.
I'll give you that for one andfor two letting people come to
you.
Yeah, you know what I mean.
You just threw the bait and thehook out there.
(06:50):
Oh yeah, yeah we'll see whotakes a bite out of it, and
hopefully it doesn't come acrossas vengeful either or negative.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Yeah, this is for growth.
These conversations are forgrowth.
This is not to say that youwere wrong or anything like that
, because that's not trueaccountability.
Accountability is washing it,washing your hands, getting that
dirt off of your hands, youknow.
Making sure that you wash yourhands after you use the restroom
.
Holding yourself accountableAccountability.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
That's simple.
Yeah, that's a simple way ofputting it right there.
No one's watching you Right.
Make sure you're washing yourhands.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Right, yeah, but I challenge you guys to that.
You know Everybody has that oneperson that they probably could
do a little bit better withEverybody out there listening,
right, you're wrong.
And then come back and tell mehow you feel after that.
It's going to feel good, andit's not just for the feeling of
good, it's for the growth ofhumans, it's for the growth in
(07:51):
you.
Man, like you hold these thingsin you and you're frustrated
and you feel you've been wrong.
Man, let that go.
You know we only get but awindow on this earth.
You know, and existing is apleasure and it's something that
not everybody gets to do.
If you're healthy and you'renot ill and you're not deformed
(08:15):
or anything like that, man,y'all better.
You know, don't take this shitfor granted.
Don't take it for granted, man,hold yourself accountable.
Make this place better, youknow.
Yeah, so that's my rant,motherfuckers, you feel me.
That's a good rant, yeah, goodrant.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Yeah, it's Monday.
Mondays are good for rants, Ifeel like.
So I will tell you a situationwhere I had a more formal type
of accountability, and that'swhen I went through.
I went through rehab, yeah, sixyears ago, and you got to hold
(08:58):
yourself accountable.
That's a big lesson for thattoo.
And you apologize, you writeyour letters, you get things off
your chest.
So, coming from thatperspective, I did, I was at one
of the lowest levels of my lifeand I held myself accountable.
(09:20):
I'm better for it, I'm a betterman and I know how to do it now
in a professional way, you know, not an acting out way, yeah,
but yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
So accountability is huge.
It is huge and I feel like thelonger you wait to hold yourself
accountable, the more or theheavier the weight comes.
You know, and it's just like,and then you feel like you can't
do it and that person is justgoing to write you off and you
know you forever got an asteriskon the side of your name
because you did him dirty andyou know it.
(09:52):
There's a lot of ways you canhold yourself accountable to.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe from such a grief stage If
you have a lot of children.
If you have a lot of children,hold yourself accountable and be
the best dad that you couldpossibly be.
That doesn't mean be betterthan the dad over there.
Be the best dad that you can be, your version of it, the
(10:15):
authentic you.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
I'm so glad you brought up variety.
That was what I was on the samepage on as well.
I'm going to keep reiteratingthis.
He's going to keep reiteratingthis there's no set of rules to
live in life, there's no set ofrules to any of this, but doing
something different may triggera better part of you.
(10:41):
This is why we did this.
This is why we started this.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
These situations.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
We're hoping this triggers a better part of us.
If it does, it does.
If it doesn't, it doesn't.
It was a fun experiment whileit lasted, but I'm enjoying it
and I think it is helping withmy mental health.
There's no right form oftherapy.
There's no right form ofaccountability.
You just got to go out thereand try something.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
Please, yeah, yeah and just call that person.
Yeah, call that person.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
If you're fucked up.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Own it, you know.
Get it off your chest, Move on.
It's not the end of the world.
You're not going to jail.
Nobody's hurt.
You Just stand on something.
That's being a man.
They tell you to be a man.
Put your chest down.
That's being a man, holdingyourself accountable.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
And we talked about that conversation.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Or a woman.
Yeah, hey, that's right.
You know what I'm saying,that's right.
Speaker 1 (11:44):
We talked about that in our last episode Making that
phone call or face-to-face andsometimes that is hard for some
of us.
I'm more of the.
I'm going to shoot a text andtry to give all my personality
and feelings in this text and Iknow Brandon's laughing at me,
(12:04):
but I know he's tried to read mytext and see my feelings in it.
It's hard to do.
Some people cannot do that.
So don't be afraid of that faceto face meeting or that phone
call and I prefer to call.
He's a phone caller, whichfreaks me out.
Sometimes I'm like, oh, Ididn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 2 (12:24):
And it's more for the receiving of the energy.
I want to temperature check.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
I usually feel better after the phone call.
Anyways, yeah, it's just that,yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
I got to get it Like hold up.
I can't text how I feel.
You know.
Yeah, I got to get it Hold up.
I can't text how I feel youknow, yeah, yeah, chime in when
you get a chance and go to theInstagram page and maybe write
something about accountabilityIf you've got something good to
add to the equation and you feellike you could help us out and
what it is that we're doing, howyou hold yourself accountable
(12:58):
and what it is that we're doinghow you hold yourself
accountable, man, I'm all for it.
I'm all for it because we onlygot one opportunity out here and
this world thrives off ofenergy and you want to make sure
yours is positive and it's notall messed up.
Man, lot of crappy people outthere.
You know like just doing shadyshit and sometimes an
(13:22):
accountability.
You know to define that in anaccountability way.
You're not defining yourself inthe right way.
You know you're out there loose.
You know you're not holdingyourself accountable for being a
good individual.
Wake up, brush your teeth.
You know what I mean.
Put on fresh clothes if you gotthe opportunity to do so.
If you don't have theopportunity to do so, go hard.
(13:45):
Get what it is that you wantout of this, but don't carry the
trauma with you.
You got trauma Release it.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
We've gotten, I feel so far we've gotten great energy
in our DMs.
Just one more time, that's atB2TOZpodcast.
We're on Instagram, facebook,and we really would love to hear
from you, even if you don'twant us to share or shout you
(14:15):
out, which we definitely will,by the way.
Yeah, just hit us up.
We like to know we're making alittle bit of a difference to
our listeners.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Yeah, so be accountable for tapping in, you
know.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Wash that dish.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Wash that dish, you know.
Put it away, you know.
Pick that dirty clothes up, youknow those dirty clothes up,
know those dirty clothes up, andwash them, don't just let them
chill.
This goes so far.
It's so deep, you know.
You guys gotta get motivated.
I'm gonna, you know, I'm tryingto stay motivated.
I'm operating in a way where Iwant to be positive for you guys
(14:55):
when you meet me.
You know, and that doesn't meanI'm being fake I'm just
choosing to be a positiveindividual and holding myself
accountable to make sure thatthe world is positive.
Each one, teach one Over hererambling.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
And for those of you listeners in Southern California
, we are going to have someopportunities coming up where
you can catch both of ustogether.
One of them is going to be at aPTSD walk coming up in May.
I'll give all the details onthat.
That's me and Fontana.
And then we're also going to bedoing a tattoo convention in
(15:38):
Ontario, California.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
Ontario.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
InkCon, inkcon, coming up at the end of June.
Ontario Convention Center.
Yeah, so I'm giving them littleseeds right now just to get you
guys thinking and yeah, if youwant to come out and hang out
with us, we'd love to see you.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Oh, I wanted to do one thing which I didn't even
tell exactly, or maybe I did,but I wanted to shout out uh,
some of the businesses that havebeen, you know, coming and
spending money with me, let mego grab some business cards real
quick, I'll be right back guys.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
So I know one of them specifically.
He's going to shout out andthat's my neighbor.
My neighbor just came in andgot his logo tattooed on his
forearm Awesome, awesome, human.
That's Bill Rosenthal withBadass Billy's Beef Jerky.
And yeah, I know that's one ofthe cards he went up to get, but
(16:40):
I'll let him list those off foryou, All right.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
So the first one we'll start off is with Badass
Billy's Beef Jerky at Ontario,california.
This guy's a really good guy.
You should just buy jerky fromhim because of how cool he is,
but it does taste good as well.
I tried it.
We went through all kinds offlavors.
He just got a tattoo of hislogo his business logo on there.
He's absolutely solid.
(17:05):
He ended up being like a reallygood friends with one of my
mentors at Apprentice me, sothat was really cool too.
The next one is Rachel York.
Rachel York, physical therapyand wellness.
She's at a Riverside guys.
She's super dope.
She's operating at a tournamenthouse right now and if you just
(17:29):
had a baby or you just wentthrough an injury or anything
like that, please go hit her up.
You know, I know shespecializes in all different
types of things.
I ask these companies if I canshot them out.
I'm not being paid for this,you feel me?
So this is all love, um, soplease go give them a follow.
Speaker 1 (17:46):
These people mean a lot to us.
Yeah, I'm willing to promotethem as much as I can right, and
there's another one's.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
It's Orange Grove Detail.
This is Eric man.
He's off of Adams, 2900 Adams.
Okay.
So you guys go check him out.
He does car detail.
He does a really good job.
If you want your car cleaned uplooking brand new, he can
handle that for you.
He just started his businessoff, so let's go bless him with
some money you off.
(18:15):
So let's go bless him with somemoney you know and go support
local business.
And the last one is AA Designs.
This is my boy, Andrew.
He's a graphic designer.
He's graduated from Cal Baptistreal soon here.
He's done some logos and sealsand certificates that for my
brother's books and we'reworking on some motorsports
designs right now.
He's also done some stuff formy business personally.
He's really good.
(18:36):
Check him out AA Designs.
His name's Andrew.
I just wanted to shout thosecompanies out.
Obviously, you guys need tocome get tattoos by me.
B-main Studios, man.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
We're holding you accountable.
If you want to know.
I have this roundup time.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Is that okay with you ?
Yeah, let's round it out I gottwo quotes again.
Speaker 1 (19:00):
Is that, uh, you liking that you?
Speaker 2 (19:02):
like.
Speaker 1 (19:02):
I like two quotes it gives us a little little little
flexibility to bounce stuff off.
Of.
First one I asked good, it'sgood, uh, good leaders saying
these quotes?
First one was Mahatma Gandhi.
He said it is wrong and immoralto seek to escape the
(19:25):
consequences of one's acts.
Goes right along with what wewere saying today.
Right yeah?
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Yeah, gandhi, don't lie't lie, don't fuck around
yeah, so come on, guys, you knowthis.
You shouldn't just be hearingthis the first time today.
You know.
You guys know, we all know howwe should be acting and how you
know each other accountable.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
So when he said that, I know I don't have a date, but
yeah, that was a good one.
So the second quote I have isfrom one of the fathers of our
of the United States, thomasPaine.
(20:11):
He was a great author and heeven goes a little further.
He goes a body of men holdingthemselves accountable to nobody
ought not to be trusted byanybody.
Dangerous, dangerous, yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
That sounds like a man who's been through some
things or done some things andlearned from his mistakes.
Speaker 1 (20:37):
One or the other.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
That's heavy.
That's heavy.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Got some good ones today.
Thank you again for joining us.
Appreciate you tuning in.
Go ahead and like and subscribe.
That's B2C Podcast.
Thank you.
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