March 6, 2024 • 19 mins
Have you ever held onto a grudge so tight that it felt like an anchor, dragging down your spirit? I, Harkaren, have been there, and on this special 10th episode of Balance Baby, I’ll guide you through the liberating process of releasing those burdens. Step into a world of personal transformation as I unfold the nuances of letting go and surrender, revealing how these practices can lead to profound growth and resilience. From personal tales steeped in resilience to actionable insights, we'll traverse the thin line between harboring past pains and stepping into a luminous future of acceptance and trust.
Celebrate with me the harmony of aligning with your true self, and how it magnetically draws abundance and positivity into our lives. This episode is a heart-to-heart on cultivating high vibrational states of gratitude, love, and joy—states that don't just elevate our own lives but ripple out to touch others. I invite you to join our community of beautiful souls, as we learn to interpret the subtle nudges of the universe and embrace the possibility that sometimes, what seems like life unraveling is actually a set-up for a remarkable alignment. Let’s embark on this journey together, one of balance and joy, and discover the serendipitous beauty of second chances.
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Harkaren (00:03):
Hello everyone and welcome to Balance Baby, the
podcast designed to help youconsistently show up as the best
version of yourself.
My name is Harkaren and I'll beyour host.
I'll be here every week sharingstories and teaching you
techniques to prioritize theonly thing we have any control
(00:25):
over in this world Ourselves.
Have you heard that theuniverse will keep giving you
the same lesson until you learnit?
Well, I've realized thatthere's at least one lesson that
you will continuously have torelearn and remaster throughout
your lifetime.
It's the lesson of impermanencethe concept that everything
(00:50):
changes and nothing lastsforever.
In our lives, we willconstantly be forced to let go
of things, good and bad.
Maybe you're asked to let go ofyour anger and resentment
towards somebody who wronged you.
Maybe you're asked to let go ofa relationship that's making
you physically sick.
(01:10):
Maybe you have to let go of ajob you love or a home you
cherish.
Maybe you're forced to let goof someone you love because of
distance or death.
Regardless of the circumstances, the lessons remain the same we
have to learn to release ourgrip, understanding that
(01:30):
clinging too tightly only leadsto our own suffering.
It's a lesson that requirescourage, vulnerability and
resilience, and in order tomaster it.
We need to shift our mindsetaround it.
When I think about letting goand surrender, my mind goes in
(01:51):
so many different directions, solet's start by clearly defining
the difference between theseterms.
Letting go involves releasingattachment to outcomes, emotions
or situations that no longerserve us.
It's about allowing things tounfold naturally, without trying
to control or manipulate them.
(02:12):
Letting go often involvesreleasing the past, forgiving
yourself and others andembracing the present moment.
Surrender goes beyond lettinggo and involves a deeper sense
of trust and acceptance.
It's about surrendering to theflow of life and releasing the
(02:33):
ego's need for control.
Surrendering means having faiththat things will unfold as they
are meant to, even if it'sdifferent from what you had
planned.
It's an act of humility andtrust in the greater
intelligence of the universe.
When we tap into our intuition,it becomes so much easier to
(02:54):
surrender and to trust thateverything is going to work out.
But if you're still veryego-driven, you might continue
struggling against the naturalflow of life.
Everything I've talked about onthis podcast up until this point
all interconnects witheverything I'm going to talk
about today, so that meansthings like meditation and
(03:16):
mindfulness are going to helpyou in surrendering and letting
go, and knowing where you're aton the vibrational scale of
alignment will give you guidanceinto what other things you
might need to release in yourlife.
As always, I'm going to do mybest to make this relatable and
share some vulnerable storiesfrom my life to help you bring
(03:38):
these concepts home.
So let's start where we alwaysdo, which is with ourselves.
I truly hope that you'restarting to enjoy the idea that
all change begins with us.
I personally find it verycomforting and empowering to
know that at any given moment, Ican make small changes in my
(03:59):
day or in my life that willcause a huge cascade of effects.
Maybe not immediate effects,but my life experience has
taught me that there will be aripple effect and I will reap
the benefits of making betterdecisions.
We've all heard a variation ofthe quote resentment is like
(04:21):
drinking poison and expectingthe other person to die, and now
that you have an understandingof the vibrational scale of
alignment, you can see how truethis is.
When we harbor resentmenttowards others, we're not only
poisoning our own emotionalwell-being, but it's attracting
negative energy and lowvibrations into our lives.
(04:43):
Resentment vibrates at a lowfrequency, dragging us down into
a state of bitterness andvictimhood.
We become trapped in a cycle ofblame and resentment and we're
unable to break free from thetoxic patterns that keep us
stuck in a state of suffering.
Or maybe you're not resentful,but maybe you did something
(05:06):
hurtful to someone that you careabout.
Maybe you said something youregret and now you've caused
damage in that relationship.
Maybe that person wants nothingto do with you anymore.
You could beg and cry and plead, but we have no power over
other people.
If someone is hurt by youractions and they choose not to
(05:27):
forgive you, it can bring up alot of low vibrational feelings
like guilt or shame or remorse.
You might find yourselfreplaying the scenario over and
over in your mind, desperatelywishing you could turn back time
and undo the harm you've caused.
But the truth is, once wordsare spoken or actions are taken,
(05:50):
they can't be undone.
In moments like these, it'snatural to experience a sense of
powerlessness.
You might feel tempted to tryand force reconciliation and to
make amends at any cost.
You could apologize and committo making changes.
However, true healing andreconciliation can't be forced
(06:12):
or rushed.
It requires patience and awillingness to accept
responsibility for your actions.
It might involve giving theother person space and time to
process their emotions.
But ultimately, whether or notforgiveness is granted is beyond
your control.
You have to learn to let go ofthe outcome and trust in the
(06:34):
natural unfolding of thesituation.
There is no point in dwelling onpast mistakes.
We can't go back and changewhat's happened.
Any energy we put towards it isa waste of energy.
Holding on to guilt andself-blame only perpetuates the
cycle of suffering and preventsyou from moving forward.
(06:56):
Instead, practiceself-compassion and
self-forgiveness, recognizingthat you are a human and prone
to mistakes.
Learn from your actions, committo growth and self-improvement
and strive to do better in thefuture.
By releasing yourself from theburden of guilt and embracing
(07:18):
the lessons learned from yourmistakes, you can begin the
journey towards healing andreconciliation, both with
yourself and in therelationships with others.
Now you're moving through lifewith some experience and
understanding.
The key is to let go of whathappened and then surrender to
what is.
(07:38):
I know this is easier said thandone.
Trust me, I have been through alot.
Life has taught me this lessonmany times and the lesson hasn't
gotten easier.
I've just gotten better athandling it.
Truthfully, I used to dreadletting go of anything, even the
(07:58):
bad things, like if someonehurt me, I wanted them to know
how shitty they are and howterrible they should feel.
I would make sure they knewthat I was unhappy with them,
but I was just keeping myselfstuck in a low vibration in the
process.
On the other hand, if I made amistake, I would let guilt eat
(08:20):
me up and ruin my day.
Neither of these situationswere serving me, but I had a
subconscious fear of change, soI would often self-sabotage.
Sometimes we self-sabotage inorder to keep things the same
and in order to keep thingspredictable.
It took a lot of work to undothese beliefs, but now I
(08:44):
absolutely love knowing thatlife is constantly changing and
that there's an ebb and flow tolife.
I embrace the unknown withexcitement and optimism.
I understand that when I let goof something, it creates room
for new people and newexperiences to enter my life.
The unknown is what makes lifeworth living.
(09:07):
I can think of a handful ofexperiences that were the
pillars of my spiritual journey.
Each one of them pushed medeeper into exploring my
spirituality, trying tounderstand what life is about.
They were big moments that madeeverything click for me.
Whenever I felt lost orconfused, diving into my
(09:30):
spirituality helped me find somepeace and understanding.
It was like having this safespace where I could sort through
all the craziness of life andfind some balance within myself.
The most profound catalyst formy change happened in 2019, and
this is when I truly understoodthe power of letting go and
(09:53):
surrender.
This isn't the easiest thing totalk about, but it is part of
my life story.
So, as I courageously embracevulnerability, I hope you're
inspired to do the same.
Sometimes, life will push youto a point of frustration, a
frustration so deep that itmotivates you to make drastic
(10:14):
changes in your life.
This is where I had gotten toThroughout my 20s.
I was in one relationship.
It was my first and onlylong-term relationship.
It wasn't perfect, but I waspretty blind to the issues I was
experiencing Back then.
(10:35):
It wasn't like it is now.
We didn't have therapy-levelrelationship advice available to
us on the internet or maybe wedid, it just wasn't talked about
as openly as it is now.
I love that people now havelists readily available for them
of what's a red flag and what'sa green flag.
(10:56):
Gaslighting is common knowledge,and so is narcissism, and we
know how to tell if someone'smanipulating us.
We understand boundaries,communication and mutual respect
.
With this awareness, we're notjust stumbling blindly into
relationships.
Instead, we're making informedchoices about who we let into
(11:18):
our lives, choosing partnersthat enrich our lives rather
than drain us emotionally.
But, like I said, this wasn'treally common back then, so I
didn't know at the time thatwhat I was experiencing in my
relationship was abnormal and,honestly, in comparison to the
relationships around us, we werea pretty good couple, but let
(11:42):
me tell you that bar was low.
Anyways, we were together foralmost a decade.
The relationship ended in ashort marriage and subsequently
a divorce.
Yes, I am happily divorced.
My divorce will come up morethan once in this podcast
because there are so many layersto it, but the intention today
(12:05):
is to tell you a story about thepower of letting go and
surrender.
Leading up to my marriage wasnot a flawless process.
There was a lot ofpassive-aggressive interactions
between my partner and I andthere was definitely some
toxicity, but again, not evenclose to what we witnessed in
the relationships around us.
(12:26):
We both felt a little bit offamilial and societal pressure,
but we also both wanted to getmarried.
I wasn't madly in love withthis man.
It just felt like the nextnatural step in our relationship
.
I remember being newly married,sitting alone in my bedroom and
(12:46):
asking out loud Is this it?
This is my life?
Now I'm married to this guy.
This is my family, these are myjobs.
We go on a trip a few times ayear.
We'll have a couple of kids andI'll repeat this for the next
50, 60 years.
Keep in mind, at this point inmy life I was not a very aligned
(13:10):
person.
I was completely out of balance.
I've always been a positiveperson and I've always worked on
being a better person, but mymindset was nowhere close to
where it is now.
I wasn't happy, but I didn'teven understand the extent of my
unhappiness.
I wasn't connected to myintuition, so I wasn't trusting
(13:35):
my gut instincts and I wasignoring all the signs the
universe had been sending me.
The question I asked out loudresulted in my life being
flipped, turned upside down acomplete 180.
Everything started to fallapart and crumble all around me.
I got scared, I panicked, Iwent into fix it mode.
(13:58):
My mind was racing and I wasconstantly overthinking.
My fear of change had beenactivated and I just wanted to
take back what I had asked andgo back to pretending I was
happy.
But sometimes not getting whatyou want is the greatest
blessing of all.
I had asked a question and Iwas given an answer, even if
(14:24):
it's not the answer I wanted atthe time.
It was in these moments that Isurrendered to the intelligence
of the universe.
I learned to start payingattention to the subtle clues
the universe was sending me.
I knew that his games wereplaying with my mind and I
couldn't trust my mind because Iwas too emotional.
(14:44):
Whenever something would happenand I didn't know what to do, I
would ask the universe forguidance, and then I would
patiently wait for my answer tobe revealed to me.
In hindsight, my divorce was thebest thing that ever happened
to me.
My life got exponentiallybetter after my divorce.
(15:05):
I was a shell of a human,filled with the ideas and
opinions of others.
I was so indecisive about everydecision in my life because I
didn't know how to trust my ownjudgment.
I needed to let go of the womanI was.
I needed to break, and mydivorce broke me, and because of
(15:29):
that, I was able to rebuildmyself from scratch.
There was now space in my lifeto learn and grow.
I was able to recreate myself,form my own ideals and build
habits to support the life Iwanted.
I was able to break free fromthe opinions of what other
(15:50):
people thought was right orwrong for me.
I taught myself that I knowwhat's best for me.
This is my life and I'll liveit as my authentic self.
I will forever be grateful forthat relationship and for that
experience, because it propelledme towards the woman I am today
, divinely guided and inspired.
(16:14):
Once I learned how to let go andsurrender is when life truly
became magical.
Suddenly, I had a second chanceto do everything I ever wanted.
I had always admired women whotraveled alone and I thought it
was something I'd never get toexperience.
Suddenly, the opportunity wasthere.
(16:35):
I was being nudged to stepoutside of my comfort zone and
to learn to embrace thisnewfound freedom.
Once I got my first taste ofsolo travel, I was hooked.
I've been to Hawaii, la and,most recently, seven weeks in
Europe Ever since I was a kid.
I remember thinking that itwould be so cool to live
(16:58):
downtown Again.
I thought I had missed mychance.
But not only did I movedowntown, I moved into my ideal
neighborhood with a sunset view.
Learning how to let go and letlife guide me has been the
greatest gift.
My life is better than I couldhave ever imagined More joyful,
(17:22):
more peaceful, more loving thanI ever knew possible.
I cherish every moment becauseit truly feels like my second
chance at life.
I prioritize staying alignedbecause I know everything else
will work itself out for me.
I focus on what I can controlmy mindset, my habits, my energy
(17:45):
and in doing so, I'm invitingbetter people and better
experiences into my life.
Thank you so much for tuning into my 10th episode.
By practicing letting go andsurrender, we make space for
forgiveness, compassion andempathy.
(18:08):
As we shift our focus towardsgratitude, love and joy, we
align ourselves with higherfrequencies of energy, inviting
in more abundance and harmonyinto our lives.
Sometimes, when things feellike they're falling apart, they
might actually be comingtogether better than you could
have imagined, and this is whyI'm so passionate about this
(18:30):
podcast.
I have witnessed a hugetransformation in myself and in
my life by following theconcepts that I discuss on this
podcast.
I know how good it feels to bealigned and how much goodness
flows to you from a place ofalignment.
Getting to tap into yourintuition is the best thing you
(18:52):
could do for yourself.
Your higher self is alwaysthere, ready to guide you
towards your desires.
The universe is alwayscommunicating, you just have to
be paying attention.
Be sure to follow and subscribeto the podcast so we can
continue leveling up on ourjourney together.
Together, here we're creating acommunity of beautiful souls,
(19:17):
ready to uplift each other,ready to experience all the joy
that this life has to offer us.
Don't forget life is all aboutbalance, baby.
Hello everyone and welcome to Balance Baby, the
podcast designed to help youconsistently show up as the best
version of yourself.
My name is Harkaren and I'll beyour host.
I'll be here every week sharingstories and teaching you
techniques to prioritize theonly thing we have any control
(00:25):
over in this world Ourselves.
Have you heard that theuniverse will keep giving you
the same lesson until you learnit?
Well, I've realized thatthere's at least one lesson that
you will continuously have torelearn and remaster throughout
your lifetime.
It's the lesson of impermanencethe concept that everything
(00:50):
changes and nothing lastsforever.
In our lives, we willconstantly be forced to let go
of things, good and bad.
Maybe you're asked to let go ofyour anger and resentment
towards somebody who wronged you.
Maybe you're asked to let go ofa relationship that's making
you physically sick.
(01:10):
Maybe you have to let go of ajob you love or a home you
cherish.
Maybe you're forced to let goof someone you love because of
distance or death.
Regardless of the circumstances, the lessons remain the same we
have to learn to release ourgrip, understanding that
(01:30):
clinging too tightly only leadsto our own suffering.
It's a lesson that requirescourage, vulnerability and
resilience, and in order tomaster it.
We need to shift our mindsetaround it.
When I think about letting goand surrender, my mind goes in
(01:51):
so many different directions, solet's start by clearly defining
the difference between theseterms.
Letting go involves releasingattachment to outcomes, emotions
or situations that no longerserve us.
It's about allowing things tounfold naturally, without trying
to control or manipulate them.
(02:12):
Letting go often involvesreleasing the past, forgiving
yourself and others andembracing the present moment.
Surrender goes beyond lettinggo and involves a deeper sense
of trust and acceptance.
It's about surrendering to theflow of life and releasing the
(02:33):
ego's need for control.
Surrendering means having faiththat things will unfold as they
are meant to, even if it'sdifferent from what you had
planned.
It's an act of humility andtrust in the greater
intelligence of the universe.
When we tap into our intuition,it becomes so much easier to
(02:54):
surrender and to trust thateverything is going to work out.
But if you're still veryego-driven, you might continue
struggling against the naturalflow of life.
Everything I've talked about onthis podcast up until this point
all interconnects witheverything I'm going to talk
about today, so that meansthings like meditation and
(03:16):
mindfulness are going to helpyou in surrendering and letting
go, and knowing where you're aton the vibrational scale of
alignment will give you guidanceinto what other things you
might need to release in yourlife.
As always, I'm going to do mybest to make this relatable and
share some vulnerable storiesfrom my life to help you bring
(03:38):
these concepts home.
So let's start where we alwaysdo, which is with ourselves.
I truly hope that you'restarting to enjoy the idea that
all change begins with us.
I personally find it verycomforting and empowering to
know that at any given moment, Ican make small changes in my
(03:59):
day or in my life that willcause a huge cascade of effects.
Maybe not immediate effects,but my life experience has
taught me that there will be aripple effect and I will reap
the benefits of making betterdecisions.
We've all heard a variation ofthe quote resentment is like
(04:21):
drinking poison and expectingthe other person to die, and now
that you have an understandingof the vibrational scale of
alignment, you can see how truethis is.
When we harbor resentmenttowards others, we're not only
poisoning our own emotionalwell-being, but it's attracting
negative energy and lowvibrations into our lives.
(04:43):
Resentment vibrates at a lowfrequency, dragging us down into
a state of bitterness andvictimhood.
We become trapped in a cycle ofblame and resentment and we're
unable to break free from thetoxic patterns that keep us
stuck in a state of suffering.
Or maybe you're not resentful,but maybe you did something
(05:06):
hurtful to someone that you careabout.
Maybe you said something youregret and now you've caused
damage in that relationship.
Maybe that person wants nothingto do with you anymore.
You could beg and cry and plead, but we have no power over
other people.
If someone is hurt by youractions and they choose not to
(05:27):
forgive you, it can bring up alot of low vibrational feelings
like guilt or shame or remorse.
You might find yourselfreplaying the scenario over and
over in your mind, desperatelywishing you could turn back time
and undo the harm you've caused.
But the truth is, once wordsare spoken or actions are taken,
(05:50):
they can't be undone.
In moments like these, it'snatural to experience a sense of
powerlessness.
You might feel tempted to tryand force reconciliation and to
make amends at any cost.
You could apologize and committo making changes.
However, true healing andreconciliation can't be forced
(06:12):
or rushed.
It requires patience and awillingness to accept
responsibility for your actions.
It might involve giving theother person space and time to
process their emotions.
But ultimately, whether or notforgiveness is granted is beyond
your control.
You have to learn to let go ofthe outcome and trust in the
(06:34):
natural unfolding of thesituation.
There is no point in dwelling onpast mistakes.
We can't go back and changewhat's happened.
Any energy we put towards it isa waste of energy.
Holding on to guilt andself-blame only perpetuates the
cycle of suffering and preventsyou from moving forward.
(06:56):
Instead, practiceself-compassion and
self-forgiveness, recognizingthat you are a human and prone
to mistakes.
Learn from your actions, committo growth and self-improvement
and strive to do better in thefuture.
By releasing yourself from theburden of guilt and embracing
(07:18):
the lessons learned from yourmistakes, you can begin the
journey towards healing andreconciliation, both with
yourself and in therelationships with others.
Now you're moving through lifewith some experience and
understanding.
The key is to let go of whathappened and then surrender to
what is.
(07:38):
I know this is easier said thandone.
Trust me, I have been through alot.
Life has taught me this lessonmany times and the lesson hasn't
gotten easier.
I've just gotten better athandling it.
Truthfully, I used to dreadletting go of anything, even the
(07:58):
bad things, like if someonehurt me, I wanted them to know
how shitty they are and howterrible they should feel.
I would make sure they knewthat I was unhappy with them,
but I was just keeping myselfstuck in a low vibration in the
process.
On the other hand, if I made amistake, I would let guilt eat
(08:20):
me up and ruin my day.
Neither of these situationswere serving me, but I had a
subconscious fear of change, soI would often self-sabotage.
Sometimes we self-sabotage inorder to keep things the same
and in order to keep thingspredictable.
It took a lot of work to undothese beliefs, but now I
(08:44):
absolutely love knowing thatlife is constantly changing and
that there's an ebb and flow tolife.
I embrace the unknown withexcitement and optimism.
I understand that when I let goof something, it creates room
for new people and newexperiences to enter my life.
The unknown is what makes lifeworth living.
(09:07):
I can think of a handful ofexperiences that were the
pillars of my spiritual journey.
Each one of them pushed medeeper into exploring my
spirituality, trying tounderstand what life is about.
They were big moments that madeeverything click for me.
Whenever I felt lost orconfused, diving into my
(09:30):
spirituality helped me find somepeace and understanding.
It was like having this safespace where I could sort through
all the craziness of life andfind some balance within myself.
The most profound catalyst formy change happened in 2019, and
this is when I truly understoodthe power of letting go and
(09:53):
surrender.
This isn't the easiest thing totalk about, but it is part of
my life story.
So, as I courageously embracevulnerability, I hope you're
inspired to do the same.
Sometimes, life will push youto a point of frustration, a
frustration so deep that itmotivates you to make drastic
(10:14):
changes in your life.
This is where I had gotten toThroughout my 20s.
I was in one relationship.
It was my first and onlylong-term relationship.
It wasn't perfect, but I waspretty blind to the issues I was
experiencing Back then.
(10:35):
It wasn't like it is now.
We didn't have therapy-levelrelationship advice available to
us on the internet or maybe wedid, it just wasn't talked about
as openly as it is now.
I love that people now havelists readily available for them
of what's a red flag and what'sa green flag.
(10:56):
Gaslighting is common knowledge,and so is narcissism, and we
know how to tell if someone'smanipulating us.
We understand boundaries,communication and mutual respect
.
With this awareness, we're notjust stumbling blindly into
relationships.
Instead, we're making informedchoices about who we let into
(11:18):
our lives, choosing partnersthat enrich our lives rather
than drain us emotionally.
But, like I said, this wasn'treally common back then, so I
didn't know at the time thatwhat I was experiencing in my
relationship was abnormal and,honestly, in comparison to the
relationships around us, we werea pretty good couple, but let
(11:42):
me tell you that bar was low.
Anyways, we were together foralmost a decade.
The relationship ended in ashort marriage and subsequently
a divorce.
Yes, I am happily divorced.
My divorce will come up morethan once in this podcast
because there are so many layersto it, but the intention today
(12:05):
is to tell you a story about thepower of letting go and
surrender.
Leading up to my marriage wasnot a flawless process.
There was a lot ofpassive-aggressive interactions
between my partner and I andthere was definitely some
toxicity, but again, not evenclose to what we witnessed in
the relationships around us.
(12:26):
We both felt a little bit offamilial and societal pressure,
but we also both wanted to getmarried.
I wasn't madly in love withthis man.
It just felt like the nextnatural step in our relationship
.
I remember being newly married,sitting alone in my bedroom and
(12:46):
asking out loud Is this it?
This is my life?
Now I'm married to this guy.
This is my family, these are myjobs.
We go on a trip a few times ayear.
We'll have a couple of kids andI'll repeat this for the next
50, 60 years.
Keep in mind, at this point inmy life I was not a very aligned
(13:10):
person.
I was completely out of balance.
I've always been a positiveperson and I've always worked on
being a better person, but mymindset was nowhere close to
where it is now.
I wasn't happy, but I didn'teven understand the extent of my
unhappiness.
I wasn't connected to myintuition, so I wasn't trusting
(13:35):
my gut instincts and I wasignoring all the signs the
universe had been sending me.
The question I asked out loudresulted in my life being
flipped, turned upside down acomplete 180.
Everything started to fallapart and crumble all around me.
I got scared, I panicked, Iwent into fix it mode.
(13:58):
My mind was racing and I wasconstantly overthinking.
My fear of change had beenactivated and I just wanted to
take back what I had asked andgo back to pretending I was
happy.
But sometimes not getting whatyou want is the greatest
blessing of all.
I had asked a question and Iwas given an answer, even if
(14:24):
it's not the answer I wanted atthe time.
It was in these moments that Isurrendered to the intelligence
of the universe.
I learned to start payingattention to the subtle clues
the universe was sending me.
I knew that his games wereplaying with my mind and I
couldn't trust my mind because Iwas too emotional.
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Whenever something would happenand I didn't know what to do, I
would ask the universe forguidance, and then I would
patiently wait for my answer tobe revealed to me.
In hindsight, my divorce was thebest thing that ever happened
to me.
My life got exponentiallybetter after my divorce.
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I was a shell of a human,filled with the ideas and
opinions of others.
I was so indecisive about everydecision in my life because I
didn't know how to trust my ownjudgment.
I needed to let go of the womanI was.
I needed to break, and mydivorce broke me, and because of
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that, I was able to rebuildmyself from scratch.
There was now space in my lifeto learn and grow.
I was able to recreate myself,form my own ideals and build
habits to support the life Iwanted.
I was able to break free fromthe opinions of what other
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people thought was right orwrong for me.
I taught myself that I knowwhat's best for me.
This is my life and I'll liveit as my authentic self.
I will forever be grateful forthat relationship and for that
experience, because it propelledme towards the woman I am today
, divinely guided and inspired.
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Once I learned how to let go andsurrender is when life truly
became magical.
Suddenly, I had a second chanceto do everything I ever wanted.
I had always admired women whotraveled alone and I thought it
was something I'd never get toexperience.
Suddenly, the opportunity wasthere.
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I was being nudged to stepoutside of my comfort zone and
to learn to embrace thisnewfound freedom.
Once I got my first taste ofsolo travel, I was hooked.
I've been to Hawaii, la and,most recently, seven weeks in
Europe Ever since I was a kid.
I remember thinking that itwould be so cool to live
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downtown Again.
I thought I had missed mychance.
But not only did I movedowntown, I moved into my ideal
neighborhood with a sunset view.
Learning how to let go and letlife guide me has been the
greatest gift.
My life is better than I couldhave ever imagined More joyful,
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more peaceful, more loving thanI ever knew possible.
I cherish every moment becauseit truly feels like my second
chance at life.
I prioritize staying alignedbecause I know everything else
will work itself out for me.
I focus on what I can controlmy mindset, my habits, my energy
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and in doing so, I'm invitingbetter people and better
experiences into my life.
Thank you so much for tuning into my 10th episode.
By practicing letting go andsurrender, we make space for
forgiveness, compassion andempathy.
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As we shift our focus towardsgratitude, love and joy, we
align ourselves with higherfrequencies of energy, inviting
in more abundance and harmonyinto our lives.
Sometimes, when things feellike they're falling apart, they
might actually be comingtogether better than you could
have imagined, and this is whyI'm so passionate about this
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podcast.
I have witnessed a hugetransformation in myself and in
my life by following theconcepts that I discuss on this
podcast.
I know how good it feels to bealigned and how much goodness
flows to you from a place ofalignment.
Getting to tap into yourintuition is the best thing you
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could do for yourself.
Your higher self is alwaysthere, ready to guide you
towards your desires.
The universe is alwayscommunicating, you just have to
be paying attention.
Be sure to follow and subscribeto the podcast so we can
continue leveling up on ourjourney together.
Together, here we're creating acommunity of beautiful souls,
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ready to uplift each other,ready to experience all the joy
that this life has to offer us.
Don't forget life is all aboutbalance, baby.
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