June 29, 2022 • 14 mins
Today we are finding freedom. In other words, the liberating feeling that comes from Not Caring What Others Think About You. We discuss the reality we are living in today’s post-modern world with likes, comments, and algorithms all designed to distort your self-image. Lette weaver lifts you up and give you the keys to how you can achieve a life goal of detaching yourself from the thoughts of others. Come Raise Vibes today and enjoy the show.
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
New blessing, new lessons, new money.
Welcome to another episode ofthe raisin vibes at the
Treehouse podcast.
Now, today we are opening ourminds to the truth about
something we all struggle with.
We have all worried about whatother people think.
I mean, even Jesus as hisdisciples, who do people say the
(00:25):
son, a man is now this struggleis so substantial that it weighs
in on our hearts, clouds up ourminds and impacts the choices
that we make in our lives.
Not just with what we do, butwith who we are.
As a people, let's dive inhumanity from the beginning of
time has been concerned withthoughts of others throughout
(00:48):
our history.
We have labeled the words,respect and reputation as a way
of engaging with others.
Think about us.
This, it has led to decisionsthat aren't always ours and it's
, it's boxed us up into thisgroupthink society.
That just goes along with whateveryone else is doing.
Now, this way of living, it cancreate that crab in a bucket
(01:10):
mentality, which means if youstep out and you start to do
your own thing and succeed, thepeople closest to you, that will
try to bring you back down withthem.
The ones with the most hatersare typically the most
successful members of society.
It's not just jealousy and envy,but it's a difference in
lifestyle and mental strengththat only a few carry in this
(01:32):
postmodern world, smart andworld.
So on previous episodes, we'vediscussed positive thinking and
becoming your most authenticself, which are major keys to
getting you into a place of notcaring about what other people
think of you.
I highly encourage you to tuneinto those episodes if you
haven't already now thank youfor being here for this one.
(01:52):
And for those of you who don'tknow, or it may be your first
time here, I'm your host SLWeaver, and I truly care about
your mental wellbeing.
We can all be positive lights inthis world around us.
And my goal with this episode isto open new doors of thoughts
and truths that lead totransformation.
I thank you for joining mebefore we move forward.
I gotta ask you these importantquestions today.
(02:14):
Have you over concerned yourselfwith the thoughts of others?
Have you done something in yourlife because you were trying to
live up to somebody else'sexpectations.
Are you unsure of where you fitin with this culture?
Are you exhausted seeing thesame media talking points
blasted out into the, We we'vebeen through a lot over these
(02:53):
last two years, and it seemslike this crisis, the crisis
world that we living in is onlya Celine.
And so with that being said, Itruly believe that there's never
been a better time to be anindividual than right now.
Like if you are one that leansinto your individual self, you
may not be accepted into certaingroups and may even be sensitive
(03:14):
online from time to time.
But the reality is you aren'tconcerned with the thoughts of
others.
This includes family, friends,peers, bosses, coworkers, and
society as whole.
So how do we get there?
How do we wire our brains to nolonger be concerned with the
thoughts of others?
Well, positive thinking andbeing your most authentic self
(03:35):
is an essential start to theprocess.
But it's not the only thing youcan do.
I mean, if it was this podcastepisode, won't be necessary.
Now, would it a pastor oneSunday powerfully said it, none
of your business with thoughtsare running through someone
else's head about you.
Now it wasn't the cleanestquote, but it surely made me
(03:58):
think about it in a way that Ichallenged you to think about it
today.
You'll never know what is beingthought up, up and your
assumptions.
They usually make it worsebecause it creates anxiety
within you that it's notproductive for life giving, but
yet it's not true because youwould never know the full
answer.
People will always havesomething to say and think about
(04:20):
you.
Sometimes it's good things.
And sometimes it's bad things.
Seeing yourself through the lensof God or seeing yourself in a
positive light will block outthem.
Thoughts of others, knowingyourself and becoming your most
authentic self gives you thepeace and courage to step out
into your individual self and beproud of who you are.
(04:42):
Scholars, philosophers like havealready reiterated for
centuries.
Words, have power.
This is spot on in dailyaffirmations and journaling can
help you block out the knowledgethat may come from someone in
your life.
That doesn't line up with thepath that you are on.
Everyone has at least one or twopeople in their lives that are
(05:02):
more like road blocks to theirultimate destination.
The journey to enlightenment inthe meaning of life is only
obtained.
When you are able to setboundaries from the people whose
words don't lift you up, butbreak you down.
It's not an easy thing to do.
As you might lose family andfriends, sometimes the sacrifice
(05:23):
of a better life or cries.
You trimming off the fat of yourprevious one.
We can do this with grace, loveand respect and in doing so, the
people we ed ourself from theywill grow and be able to have a
new perspective on why they areno longer on the team.
More times than not.
It takes someone sitting on thesidelines to realize the journey
(05:46):
that you are on caring aboutwhat others think it has been
proven to do more harm thangood.
It's a thought cancer, and itspreads at a rapid pace and it
can really harm yourself image.
It can remove you from a goalreshape who you are, and it can
have you living for someone elserather than living for yourself.
(06:07):
And God we are to be in theworld, but not be of the world.
We have enough people waiting inthe dugout for the world to tell
them who to be next.
Don't you wanna be different.
Do you not wanna be unique?
Not by anyone else's definition,but by the way you feel about
yourself.
When you look in the mirror, we,as a culture have taken too many
(06:31):
selfies and not enough momentsof looking at ourselves in that
mirror.
With that being said, I'm alwaysexcited to give you some tips
and guidance on how to care lessabout what other people think
and step into your mostauthentic self.
You ready?
Let's go.
Number one, not your worth.
(06:52):
Now this society has beenshunning confidence lately, and
it's been building up thisvictimology belief in our youth.
We are not lab rats of thisculture.
We know our worth beingconfident in who you are is not
only extremely healthy, but it'sextremely attractive.
Showing yourself love and takingan ease on yourself is one of
(07:13):
the best things you could do toreach your maximum potential.
Whether it's a positive mantra,a list of your best qualities or
kind words for affirmation, likeyou need to find your practice
that reminds you of yourselfworth number two, surround
yourself with incredible people.
Now we done touched on thisbriefly already, but it's that
(07:35):
important if you find yourselfengaging in behaviors that you
aren't proud of, or if you feelcrappy after hanging out with
somebody, the answer is prettyclear.
They shouldn't be in your life.
Yes.
It's easier said than done.
I get it.
But it's one of the fascist waysto not only have a more positive
life, but to care less aboutothers' opinions, listen to your
(08:00):
intuition.
When you are around certaincompany and use that discernment
to choose who belongs in yourcircle.
Youll, discover that once youhave fewer people that you are
trying to impress you'll careless, and you'll be more
confident in being your trueself.
Number three.
This is my favorite.
Say, no, I have gotten, uh,really good at it, honestly.
(08:22):
And instead of saying yes tosomething and then the bad end,
I can just say no and not thinkabout it.
Instead of saying yes to pleasesomeone I've learned to be
comfortable with doing what Iwant to do instead, instead of
putting myself in uncomfortablesituations or positions, I just
say no from the get go, it'squite nice.
(08:42):
It feels good.
And let's be real nine timesoutta 10.
When you are out, you just wannago back home.
you know what I'msaying?
The ball's cool.
But have you ever laid in yourown bed practice saying no to
things that don't feel good orcommitments that don't light you
up?
You'll quickly notice howliberating no is.
(09:02):
And that the world's still gonnaturn without you saying yes to
everything.
Just like the world turns whenyou don't listen to the haters,
Number four, get rid of the wordshould.
Now this one right here isalmost as good as saying though,
in fact, this one will probablyhelp you say no way more.
And the liberating feeling willbe amplified.
(09:25):
If you ever feel yourself sayingthe word should like, oh, but I
should go to this event or Ishould wear this.
Or I should just go to college.
Look, you need to take a stepback and you need to figure out
why you think you should.
Usually the word should meansthat you believe other people or
(09:48):
society as a whole thinks youshould do something.
The word should and identifywhat it is.
You really wanna do.
Number five, not caring aboutpeople, praises for you.
My last one, this one is a boldone because it's true in order
to completely transform intobeing someone who doesn't care
(10:12):
about what others think you haveto get over this certain hump
too.
It's hard, but you gotta do it.
You have to make sure that youdon't care about how people view
you.
Even if it's positive.
I know.
I know.
I know.
I know can't we just keep thegood stuff and dish the bad
stuff.
Sadly.
No.
When we base our self worth offof what other people think of
(10:35):
us, it's dangerous to get toocaught up into the compliments.
If you get caught up in thecompliments, then it's easy to
get caught up in the criticism.
And so the best things to do ispractice.
Not caring about any hood.
If people compliment you.
That's awesome.
And you should obviously respondwith a thank you, be polite, but
don't obsess over the praise andtry to soak it in too much.
(10:57):
Check your ego, remind yourselfthat you were just as good as
the person before the personcomplimented you.
It's after no more, no less.
Let me repeat that.
Remind yourself that you werejust as good as a person before
that person complimented you asafter It's a challenge at first,
(11:24):
but freedom is only found onboth sides of the sword.
True freedom comes from notcaring.
What people think full stopliving your life on your own
terms is one of the best thingsyou could do for yourself.
And for the legacy you leavebehind.
Stay true to that and liveunapologetically.
(11:44):
You'll never go wrong with doingthat.
I mean, unless you're trying todo something more that hurts
other people, then forget what Isaid.
I'm gonna conclude this with, weare over consumed with the
thoughts of others, with likescomments, these algorithms, man,
all trying to impact the way weview ourselves.
(12:05):
And it's not uncommon to getlost in the social society.
We all wanna be like, but thetrue freedom is, and not caring
about what people think aboutyou.
Trust me.
There will be plenty of peoplewho would like you for this.
You might lose a friend or afamily member now, but you are
gonna gain so much more on theother side, man, I personally
(12:27):
encourage you to see yourself inthe eyes of God, the divine, the
creator, rather than the eyes ofothers, affirmation stating that
you were chosen to do good andbe good, can go a long way in
your weekly life.
Speak the words over your lifethat you hope to see.
Come Surpas liberate yourselffrom the thoughts of man, fill
(12:50):
those pockets of unhealthythoughts and envision the things
you really want in life.
Instead, Do you want SU success?
Do you wanna be your mostauthentic self and not worry
about the thoughts of othersmanifest it and think of how
you're gonna get there and whatit looks like when you are
there.
Speak positive words toyourself, into the others around
(13:12):
you be alike, bro.
The darkness hates the light.
The good news is the light willattract more light, good vibes,
bring out more good vibes.
And as you might have heard,this is raising vibes at the
Treehouse.
And I hope you enjoy vibing withme today.
Type what you learned and usethe truths that hit home to
transform the way you think.
(13:34):
Yo, I'm super grateful.
You decided to join me today andI hope you consider subscribing
to the show.
Even sharing it with somefriends who could use a positive
message to start, oh, finishweek, help someone, you know,
detach from the thoughts ofothers.
Hey, thank tuning.
You.
New blessing, new lessons, new money.
Welcome to another episode ofthe raisin vibes at the
Treehouse podcast.
Now, today we are opening ourminds to the truth about
something we all struggle with.
We have all worried about whatother people think.
I mean, even Jesus as hisdisciples, who do people say the
(00:25):
son, a man is now this struggleis so substantial that it weighs
in on our hearts, clouds up ourminds and impacts the choices
that we make in our lives.
Not just with what we do, butwith who we are.
As a people, let's dive inhumanity from the beginning of
time has been concerned withthoughts of others throughout
(00:48):
our history.
We have labeled the words,respect and reputation as a way
of engaging with others.
Think about us.
This, it has led to decisionsthat aren't always ours and it's
, it's boxed us up into thisgroupthink society.
That just goes along with whateveryone else is doing.
Now, this way of living, it cancreate that crab in a bucket
(01:10):
mentality, which means if youstep out and you start to do
your own thing and succeed, thepeople closest to you, that will
try to bring you back down withthem.
The ones with the most hatersare typically the most
successful members of society.
It's not just jealousy and envy,but it's a difference in
lifestyle and mental strengththat only a few carry in this
(01:32):
postmodern world, smart andworld.
So on previous episodes, we'vediscussed positive thinking and
becoming your most authenticself, which are major keys to
getting you into a place of notcaring about what other people
think of you.
I highly encourage you to tuneinto those episodes if you
haven't already now thank youfor being here for this one.
(01:52):
And for those of you who don'tknow, or it may be your first
time here, I'm your host SLWeaver, and I truly care about
your mental wellbeing.
We can all be positive lights inthis world around us.
And my goal with this episode isto open new doors of thoughts
and truths that lead totransformation.
I thank you for joining mebefore we move forward.
I gotta ask you these importantquestions today.
(02:14):
Have you over concerned yourselfwith the thoughts of others?
Have you done something in yourlife because you were trying to
live up to somebody else'sexpectations.
Are you unsure of where you fitin with this culture?
Are you exhausted seeing thesame media talking points
blasted out into the, We we'vebeen through a lot over these
(02:53):
last two years, and it seemslike this crisis, the crisis
world that we living in is onlya Celine.
And so with that being said, Itruly believe that there's never
been a better time to be anindividual than right now.
Like if you are one that leansinto your individual self, you
may not be accepted into certaingroups and may even be sensitive
(03:14):
online from time to time.
But the reality is you aren'tconcerned with the thoughts of
others.
This includes family, friends,peers, bosses, coworkers, and
society as whole.
So how do we get there?
How do we wire our brains to nolonger be concerned with the
thoughts of others?
Well, positive thinking andbeing your most authentic self
(03:35):
is an essential start to theprocess.
But it's not the only thing youcan do.
I mean, if it was this podcastepisode, won't be necessary.
Now, would it a pastor oneSunday powerfully said it, none
of your business with thoughtsare running through someone
else's head about you.
Now it wasn't the cleanestquote, but it surely made me
(03:58):
think about it in a way that Ichallenged you to think about it
today.
You'll never know what is beingthought up, up and your
assumptions.
They usually make it worsebecause it creates anxiety
within you that it's notproductive for life giving, but
yet it's not true because youwould never know the full
answer.
People will always havesomething to say and think about
(04:20):
you.
Sometimes it's good things.
And sometimes it's bad things.
Seeing yourself through the lensof God or seeing yourself in a
positive light will block outthem.
Thoughts of others, knowingyourself and becoming your most
authentic self gives you thepeace and courage to step out
into your individual self and beproud of who you are.
(04:42):
Scholars, philosophers like havealready reiterated for
centuries.
Words, have power.
This is spot on in dailyaffirmations and journaling can
help you block out the knowledgethat may come from someone in
your life.
That doesn't line up with thepath that you are on.
Everyone has at least one or twopeople in their lives that are
(05:02):
more like road blocks to theirultimate destination.
The journey to enlightenment inthe meaning of life is only
obtained.
When you are able to setboundaries from the people whose
words don't lift you up, butbreak you down.
It's not an easy thing to do.
As you might lose family andfriends, sometimes the sacrifice
(05:23):
of a better life or cries.
You trimming off the fat of yourprevious one.
We can do this with grace, loveand respect and in doing so, the
people we ed ourself from theywill grow and be able to have a
new perspective on why they areno longer on the team.
More times than not.
It takes someone sitting on thesidelines to realize the journey
(05:46):
that you are on caring aboutwhat others think it has been
proven to do more harm thangood.
It's a thought cancer, and itspreads at a rapid pace and it
can really harm yourself image.
It can remove you from a goalreshape who you are, and it can
have you living for someone elserather than living for yourself.
(06:07):
And God we are to be in theworld, but not be of the world.
We have enough people waiting inthe dugout for the world to tell
them who to be next.
Don't you wanna be different.
Do you not wanna be unique?
Not by anyone else's definition,but by the way you feel about
yourself.
When you look in the mirror, we,as a culture have taken too many
(06:31):
selfies and not enough momentsof looking at ourselves in that
mirror.
With that being said, I'm alwaysexcited to give you some tips
and guidance on how to care lessabout what other people think
and step into your mostauthentic self.
You ready?
Let's go.
Number one, not your worth.
(06:52):
Now this society has beenshunning confidence lately, and
it's been building up thisvictimology belief in our youth.
We are not lab rats of thisculture.
We know our worth beingconfident in who you are is not
only extremely healthy, but it'sextremely attractive.
Showing yourself love and takingan ease on yourself is one of
(07:13):
the best things you could do toreach your maximum potential.
Whether it's a positive mantra,a list of your best qualities or
kind words for affirmation, likeyou need to find your practice
that reminds you of yourselfworth number two, surround
yourself with incredible people.
Now we done touched on thisbriefly already, but it's that
(07:35):
important if you find yourselfengaging in behaviors that you
aren't proud of, or if you feelcrappy after hanging out with
somebody, the answer is prettyclear.
They shouldn't be in your life.
Yes.
It's easier said than done.
I get it.
But it's one of the fascist waysto not only have a more positive
life, but to care less aboutothers' opinions, listen to your
(08:00):
intuition.
When you are around certaincompany and use that discernment
to choose who belongs in yourcircle.
Youll, discover that once youhave fewer people that you are
trying to impress you'll careless, and you'll be more
confident in being your trueself.
Number three.
This is my favorite.
Say, no, I have gotten, uh,really good at it, honestly.
(08:22):
And instead of saying yes tosomething and then the bad end,
I can just say no and not thinkabout it.
Instead of saying yes to pleasesomeone I've learned to be
comfortable with doing what Iwant to do instead, instead of
putting myself in uncomfortablesituations or positions, I just
say no from the get go, it'squite nice.
(08:42):
It feels good.
And let's be real nine timesoutta 10.
When you are out, you just wannago back home.
The ball's cool.
But have you ever laid in yourown bed practice saying no to
things that don't feel good orcommitments that don't light you
up?
You'll quickly notice howliberating no is.
(09:02):
And that the world's still gonnaturn without you saying yes to
everything.
Just like the world turns whenyou don't listen to the haters,
Number four, get rid of the wordshould.
Now this one right here isalmost as good as saying though,
in fact, this one will probablyhelp you say no way more.
And the liberating feeling willbe amplified.
(09:25):
If you ever feel yourself sayingthe word should like, oh, but I
should go to this event or Ishould wear this.
Or I should just go to college.
Look, you need to take a stepback and you need to figure out
why you think you should.
Usually the word should meansthat you believe other people or
(09:48):
society as a whole thinks youshould do something.
The word should and identifywhat it is.
You really wanna do.
Number five, not caring aboutpeople, praises for you.
My last one, this one is a boldone because it's true in order
to completely transform intobeing someone who doesn't care
(10:12):
about what others think you haveto get over this certain hump
too.
It's hard, but you gotta do it.
You have to make sure that youdon't care about how people view
you.
Even if it's positive.
I know.
I know.
I know.
I know can't we just keep thegood stuff and dish the bad
stuff.
Sadly.
No.
When we base our self worth offof what other people think of
(10:35):
us, it's dangerous to get toocaught up into the compliments.
If you get caught up in thecompliments, then it's easy to
get caught up in the criticism.
And so the best things to do ispractice.
Not caring about any hood.
If people compliment you.
That's awesome.
And you should obviously respondwith a thank you, be polite, but
don't obsess over the praise andtry to soak it in too much.
(10:57):
Check your ego, remind yourselfthat you were just as good as
the person before the personcomplimented you.
It's after no more, no less.
Let me repeat that.
Remind yourself that you werejust as good as a person before
that person complimented you asafter It's a challenge at first,
(11:24):
but freedom is only found onboth sides of the sword.
True freedom comes from notcaring.
What people think full stopliving your life on your own
terms is one of the best thingsyou could do for yourself.
And for the legacy you leavebehind.
Stay true to that and liveunapologetically.
(11:44):
You'll never go wrong with doingthat.
I mean, unless you're trying todo something more that hurts
other people, then forget what Isaid.
I'm gonna conclude this with, weare over consumed with the
thoughts of others, with likescomments, these algorithms, man,
all trying to impact the way weview ourselves.
(12:05):
And it's not uncommon to getlost in the social society.
We all wanna be like, but thetrue freedom is, and not caring
about what people think aboutyou.
Trust me.
There will be plenty of peoplewho would like you for this.
You might lose a friend or afamily member now, but you are
gonna gain so much more on theother side, man, I personally
(12:27):
encourage you to see yourself inthe eyes of God, the divine, the
creator, rather than the eyes ofothers, affirmation stating that
you were chosen to do good andbe good, can go a long way in
your weekly life.
Speak the words over your lifethat you hope to see.
Come Surpas liberate yourselffrom the thoughts of man, fill
(12:50):
those pockets of unhealthythoughts and envision the things
you really want in life.
Instead, Do you want SU success?
Do you wanna be your mostauthentic self and not worry
about the thoughts of othersmanifest it and think of how
you're gonna get there and whatit looks like when you are
there.
Speak positive words toyourself, into the others around
(13:12):
you be alike, bro.
The darkness hates the light.
The good news is the light willattract more light, good vibes,
bring out more good vibes.
And as you might have heard,this is raising vibes at the
Treehouse.
And I hope you enjoy vibing withme today.
Type what you learned and usethe truths that hit home to
transform the way you think.
(13:34):
Yo, I'm super grateful.
You decided to join me today andI hope you consider subscribing
to the show.
Even sharing it with somefriends who could use a positive
message to start, oh, finishweek, help someone, you know,
detach from the thoughts ofothers.
Hey, thank tuning.
You.
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