October 3, 2025 • 47 mins
Season 3: Episode 1 - Prioritize Self Care and Your Mental Health
Toni kicks off Season 3 with fresh energy! In this episode, she dives into the latest in pop culture, from Tabitha Brown’s tough love advice for dreamers, to Rihanna and Cardi B’s pregnancy news, Davido’s Miami wedding, Temi Otedola’s stunning nuptials, and more.
The main focus, however, is on why African/diaspora women need to prioritize self-care and mental health. Toni shares why she took a summer break, lessons she learned about listening to your body, the importance of rest, and unlearning the pressure to “do it all.”
She also teases what’s next on Banta with Toni, with upcoming conversations around maternal and reproductive mental health.
As always, she concludes the show with her "Book of the Week" selection, alongside her weekly picks for gospel and secular music. This thoughtful mix provides listeners with the perfect soundtrack and inspiration to carry them through the hustle and bustle of life.
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Hello and welcome to another season of Banta with Tony.
I have missed you guys and I hope you guys have missed me.
It's been a couple of months andit's good to be back.
Let's just say that I hope everybody had a wonderful summer
and you know, we keep trekking through with life given
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everything that we have going onright now.
So while I was gone, so much happened.
So it's only right that when we start out the new season, I'm
going to start out with pop culture and then move on to what
we're going to be talking about today.
So if you're new here and you'renot familiar with the format,
usually I do like a pop culture section.
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Then we'll have whatever the topic is is for this episode.
And then I usually share my current book that I'm reading
music. And then we kind of close it out
for the week. OK, last year, well last season,
the episodes will come out on Fridays.
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I haven't decided yet what days they will be coming out, but
once I do, I will be sure to letyou guys know.
So keep an eye out for the new episodes.
I am also creating more content on all my other platforms and
I'm really trying my best here to manage everything and to be
able to let you guys in to get acomplete view of who I am and
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what I bring to the table and what I'm trying to do here.
So please support a young Africamurder, a young Africa murder
that's trying to do things. Support me, support me, support
me as support yourself, support everybody.
OK, All right, so the first story is going to be the Tabitha
Brown story. I'm sure at this point everybody
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has kind of heard about it, but I wanted to talk about it on
here because I just could not understand at the time why
everybody gave her such a hard time for what she was saying.
And I understand the times that we're in.
I think the stats is that there's currently about 500,000
African American women who are unemployed in this current
economy. So it that's that's a huge
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number. We have to be honest with that.
And I think that given that whole situation that a lot of
people were more sensitive to anything that somebody's saying
that is in any kind of relation with work right now.
And then I think obviously it coming from somebody that people
perceive as that person successful, that person cannot
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relate to the average person. At least that's the perception.
I think it made it even more difficult.
But what did what she say? Was that such a terrible thing?
No, because if you watch the video, she was saying like while
you're pursuing your dreams right now, your entrepreneurship
stuff is not working. You're not making money like
you, you, you could be. And instead of you struggling
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through it, there's nothing wrong with you having a job and
still pursuing your dreams, AKA what I'm doing right now.
You know, like we all have dreams, we all have things that
we want to achieve. But I guess for me, it's like,
I've maybe it's because I'm African, but I've always come
from that place of like, there are those things that I need to
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have first in place before I cansay, OK, I'm going to lean on
this. And even with that, like we, we
always taught to just have something in the back, something
else going because you just never know, especially like when
your livelihood and the things that you are wanting to achieve
is dependent on somebody else, right?
So even with entrepreneurship, yes, you have a lot of autonomy,
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but your well-being, your being able to pay your bills and
everything else is dependent on people coming for your services
or buying your products. And if times are hard,
everybody's going through it. If you are providing a service
or a product that's considered aluxury, it is a tough market
right now because people are trying to just make sure they
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can do the basic things. And even for some people that is
very difficult. So I think what she was just
saying was like, it's not a failure to yourself, It's more
of a ego thing. Like she was trying to say, like
let go of your ego, go find a job, go do these things and
still pursue your dream. And it might just be a chapter
that is in your dream right now.You know, it just might not be
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working out right at this moment, but it doesn't mean that
will never work for you. But give yourself some stress
and go and collect a job so thatyou know, there will be, you
know, and I think in the video she mentioned like you're you're
driving everybody around you crazy.
So like, because you have a strain, you are affecting your
loved ones, the environment, you're creating everything else
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with the stress. That's what the woman was
saying. And people had a problem with
that. I don't understand it.
I totally understood what she was saying.
And I still also understood the fact that it was just the timing
of the message, that people werejust super sensitive to what it
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was that she was communicating at the time.
So I wanted to bring that up because I think that is valid.
You know, dreams are up and down, like sometimes you try
something and it works and it might work for a season and then
another season is not working. And you know, that's the the
human experience, our ability tobe able to adjust and say, OK, I
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tried this, it didn't work. Or I tried this, it worked, but
right now it's not working. And really being able to let go
of the ego of like, Oh my gosh, I could never have a nine to
five because you remember what happened in nine to five was a
crime. Oh, Lord.
So we're in different times. We're in different times for
sure. Rihanna is still very pregnant.
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You know, Rihanna is still very pregnant.
And there's rumor that this timearound is going to be a baby
girl. So she has two boys already.
And I guess we'll just have to wait and see.
I saw that there was like a ad for the Fenty Puma yesterday and
it was a photo shoot and she's looking very pregnant.
So it's going to be probably anymoment now, now we get to find
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out if she's going to have her little baby girl or if it's
going to be her and those, thoseboys, all of her boys.
So I, I, I can't wait to see, I mean, if she has a little girl,
Can you imagine the outfits thatshe's going to put her in?
Like, Oh my gosh, it's, it's going to be awesome.
Cardi B Speaking of pregnancies,Cardi B announced yesterday that
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she was pregnant and expecting with her current boyfriend.
And, and I saw a bunch of mixed,mixed reactions.
So there were those who were like, Oh my gosh, good for her.
And then I saw the Oh my gosh, Black women, we can't be out
here always portraying the storyof having five different baby
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daddies and www.woowooladiladiwoo.
And The thing is, you know, maybe it's a fault of mine, but
I can see on both sides, like, either way, somebody's pregnant,
be happy for that person. Like it doesn't cost us
anything, right? So definitely like,
congratulations to her and Stefan Diggs.
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That's the name of the the boyfriend that she's pregnant
with. And then the other side of it is
like, you know, I mean, that's not how she planned her life.
Like, if we want to go to the other argument of, you know,
like that comment that I saw, and I guess a lot of people feel
that way, Like why is she pregnant again?
And now with a different the woman was married to the person
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who she thought was she was going to build forever with that
didn't work out for her. And then now she finds herself
in this place. So and then it's Cardi B, like
she ain't going to go through what me and you will be going
through. She, her child will be well
taken care of just like the other three.
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That's why she's out here selling you her albums.
OK. I've been loving all of the
videos that she's been putting out.
To be honest. It's so hilarious.
Like the the one where she's selling the CD in the streets
and she has all like her little slippers.
Oh my gosh, hilarious. What was the other one?
I even showed my husband We're like cracking up about it
because I'm just like, this ladyis funny.
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And then I saw the video, the interview she did with Kelly
Rowland. So if you haven't seen it, it's
available on YouTube. It was done with Spotify.
So it's leading up to her album.And it was just pure comedic
gold in that video. It was so hilarious the the
Luke's on Kelly's face because you can just say tell like some
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of the things that Cardi was saying in there, it was not
planned because Kelly was just like, like I'm I know I'm not
supposed to laugh. Like the part where she's like,
I'm trying to help out of this and then turn out she wants to
sleep with my man. And I'm like, and Kelly's like
Cardi, I know I'm not supposed to laugh.
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I thought that interview was great.
I, I think like you never would have thought like Kelly Rowland
interviewing her, but it worked.And I guess like, you know, they
have a relationship obviously outside of the media, outside of
what people know, but it was just a very, very funny and
interesting interview. I haven't watched the interview
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yet with Gayle King. That's on my to watch list.
So I wouldn't speak on that because I haven't seen it.
I totally saw that one little clip.
And then I've been seeing like, obviously she made the
announcement on Gail's show and all of that.
So I will have to go and watch that and then probably talk
about that in another episode. This was the soma of romance,
pier romance, pier romance, pierromance was in the air.
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Everybody was getting married. What it was, oh, Oh my gosh, it
was just lovely. So it started out with David
Davido and Chuma. They were the false ones on the
some other did that team and they were in my hummy, my hummy,
they were in my hummy and it wasstar started.
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Everybody came through. They had their wedding.
She had the beautiful, beautifulbeaded gown.
I do know the designer, but I don't know why it's skipping me
right now. Alanoku, Alanoku bridal
beautiful gown. The picture where she's wearing
like the black suit and then hernecklace was going down her
back. That was one of my favorite of
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the pre wedding ones that they had shared and they had their
beautiful ceremony then in between Tony, Tony.
So she's a, she's a writer and she got married to her Boo.
She's a British writer. She's a British writer that I
like her. I like the things that she
shares on her social media. Sometimes a little bit of a
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British accent, but I feel like I'm very little bit Jamaican
influences there as well. Like, OK, I'm, I'm trying to
have a British accent, but I'm not how good it's working out
for me. But she was also getting
married. So it's like she had her like
introduction ceremony, I think her traditional wedding.
And then it just so happened around the time that she was
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sharing some of her pictures, then Timmy or Ted dollar or Ted
dollar get dollars. That is like what I was thinking
the entire time I was seeing those.
I said, oh, Ted dollar get dollars.
Are you kidding me? Are you kidding me?
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Oh my goodness. Like, and let me just say, first
of all, so there was this whole discourse online about, you
know, this is how you do a wedding that's classic and
beautiful and da da, da, da, da.And I guess people were like
pinning her wedding against Davido's wedding.
So it's not a good thing to compare a wedding because either
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way they're both rich people that got married and we can't
even afford neither one of those.
So I don't even understand how we could be on the Internet
criticizing either one when we did not get invited to start
with and could not afford eitherone of them.
So they are both of the same class because I saw that where I
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was like 1 is no they both are billionaires in their country so
let's stop playing with that. They both belong to the same
class, they just have different taste and I think that showed
showed through in how they decided to celebrate their their
their marriages. And it's OK for people to have
preferences. Like out of the two, I do prefer
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Tammys wedding because she has like similar, I guess sentiment
style like how I would do something.
That's how she did it like to tome.
But it doesn't mean that like Chuma's wedding and David was
wedding wasn't beautiful either.One thing about Chuma's wedding
that I liked whoever gave her the the styling points to say do
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short hair. You deserve erase.
Get out of here. When I saw her and that short
hair and the dress and the I said OK, correct.
She came correct because there were other things that I saw
that I was like I wasn't too sure.
But when I saw that on that wedding day, you are correct,
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Madam, you are correct. You are correct.
And so Tammy Alto dolls wedding,it was just like how it was done
and the fact that this wedding had happened three different
locations, we never heard anything about like they just
went about it in a different way.
And I think for a lot of people that just kind of like brought
up things that have been, I guess, percolating and happening
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like beneath the surface as far as like with how African
weddings go. And, you know, sometimes we we
have equated like the big shows,the the more of more the
extravagance and we love it. Don't get me wrong.
I am a Leo after all. You know, I like, I like the
drama. I bring the drama, honey, we
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love the drama, but it's like that's not all there is, you
know, like, and I think that's what her wedding really brought
to the surface was like, how canwe do things?
The fact that she had, you know,she did have African designers
because I did see some people who don't line talking and
saying that she had no African designers.
Yes, she did. She did have African designers,
but she had Western designers and even an Asian designer
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creating African attire and I think that was beautiful.
That was out-of-the-box. It was breathtaking and they did
a phenomenal job. But I mean, when you have the
correct amount of money, does anybody have a choice to not do
it? You could have told them creates
me a 10 piece head tie without goes to the they would do it as
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long as you can pay. I mean, what is it?
So I think some people felt somekind of way because they're
like, well, they're African designers.
She didn't showcase. I think there are so many people
getting married now. Like what I said a few months
ago when we're talking I think was about this Sharon Oja
wedding that now people get stylist to do the wedding and
then that stylist is the one contacting all the designers and
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doing things. I think there are other people
who have gotten married that have given exposure and African
designers will continue to get exposure.
But I think what this wedding brought to light was like, let
everybody do what they want to do.
So you don't. I mean, you should, like I said,
she did have some African designers, but you don't have to
if that's not what you want to do.
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But I felt like they both did a good job of showing their
heritage. It was no different from when
Priscilla and Juma got married. And, you know, just everybody's
just doing it the way they want to do.
And I think for people to have been comparing the two, saying
like this one's better. You just as an individual,
you're going to have preferences.
And I think it's it's for me, what I like the most about her
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wedding also was that we alreadyknow your father is a
billionaire. The budget was probably
unlimited. I think they said what, 14 mil
is what they spent. But it's the way about that she
went about doing everything, just the pure attention to
details. And I think that's what I've
always liked about Tamia Todola is like with everything that she
does, Even when I used to listento her podcast that she had with
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Mr. Easy, that's what he would say.
He was like, you guys would see her post a picture and think
it's a random picture. But no, this girl has planned
everything out that she's putting out.
So I think that just shows up like even with her wedding
planning, like, and that's what I loved about it, the attention
to detail and that idea. Like it doesn't always have to
be rah, rah, rah. And I think for us as Africans,
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like with what we've been used to, what we see abroad over
here, and I'm sure it's no different back home, especially
the Nigerian culture. It's a lot of just the big
weddings, the extravagance, the loud, the noisy.
And we love it. Like I said, we love the drama,
but it's like, you know, somebody came through and did
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something different. And I think that's what we're
going to be seeing moving forward.
I think we're going to be seeinga lot of brides choosing to do
things their way, as it should be, and not necessarily old,
because that's what my mom wants.
That's what my mom and my sisterand my auntie and my.
What do you want? How did you envision your day?
How is that going to come to, you know, fruition for you?
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And yes, you might have to, you know, appease your mom and
appease your dad. But the day really is about
these two people that are falling in love.
And I think, you know, they justkind of reminded us about that.
Like, it should always be about the couple and what they want to
do and how they want to celebrate their day and their
location of choosing to go to Iceland.
That was a place that was sentimental to them.
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The food that they ate, what they provided for their guests,
everything was just so thoughtful, Chioma says.
Well, when she, I think she had like a pin of her son, the one
that passed away, I thought thatwas beautiful.
So to even compare the two, it'slike they both had things that
were important to them and they both had, you know, how they
wanted their days to be, and that's how both people shared
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it. You might prefer one over the
other, but don't say that this one's great and this one's not.
So I'm excited to see what the young brides are going to do.
I, I do want to see a change in certain ways.
I know like back in the day, like the idea of even a court
wedding, but the, from what I'm seeing now, even here in
America, that's becoming more ofa thing.
I, the like 2 weeks ago I saw this girl that did a courthouse
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wedding and the most beautiful photo shoot.
I mean, extravagance and the, the veil and even where she got
married. I said, that's a courthouse.
Oh Lord, a beautiful courthouse where they do that because I
don't know if we have any kind of courthouses around here that
look like that. That's a different story.
So anyways, everybody and the Mama got married on the summer
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Tony, the writer, like I said, her stuff was also beautiful.
Her and her her husband. It's just crazy that it kind of
all happened happened around thetime.
So it's like one person will post and another person will
post, but I was like, yes, give me all the wedding content, all
of it. And all the summer brides looked
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beautiful. And they all incorporated their
African, their African, their African heritage very, very
well. And it was just beautiful to
see. I like weddings.
I like. I really do.
So let's see next pop culture. Is there anything else
happening? There's a whole bunch of other
stuff that I will never discuss on this show because we're going
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to keep it light and bright on this side.
OK? So, yeah, we'll not be
discussing any of that. But it's it was a good summer.
It was a good summer. I think it is going to be
interesting to see what else or who who has anything for us
because the year is not over. And I know times are kind of
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dragging on right now, but we need we need entertainment.
So who knows to next week there'll be a different story,
something different that I'm talking about, like.
Because I, I can guarantee therewill, there will be something
different to talk about. Yeah, I can guarantee that.
But anywho, so this summer I decided to take a break from
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recording and it was a decision that I did not anticipate
coming. In fact, the way I had planned
it was for me to continue recording and then take about
like 6 weeks off and then start season 3.
But I had to listen to my body. There were things I had going on
that it was just best for me to just kind of step back, just
take a moment, live in the moments, enjoy time with my
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family, kind of recoup mentally and everything else because you
know, and that's part of like, why now that I'm back on, I'm
going to like try to share more of my life because I have a lot
of things going on. And I think I kind of said that
I remember even recording certain days and I would be so
tired. And you can hear it through the
mic. And I don't want to be in that
place again. I don't want to work to the
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point of like exhaustion and notreally taking care of myself.
And so it was a break that I didn't plan, but it was a break
that was needed. And during that time, I learned
lessons. So I only thought it was right
that on the first episode back, I'll kind of talk about the
lessons that I learned from taking my summer sabbatical
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break, whatever you want to callit, PTO, you know.
So the first thing is listen to your body.
I think so many of us, there's avideo that will be coming out
prior to this podcast coming outand it's going to be on my
YouTube channel. And it's just talking about what
to expect out of lovely Tony moving forward, what I'm trying
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to create here. And one of the things is that I,
I, I, I the the best word to saybecause I think in that video I
said, I stumbled upon it. And it's not that I stumbled
upon it is that it found me. It's like it's things that I've
experienced throughout my life. And as I think of the next phase
of my life and I'm like, OK, what, how would I want to
incorporate the things that I'veexperienced, the things that
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I've done into something positive that I can use to
impact the world? Maternal and reproductive mental
health came up and I, I really believe that it is work that I
am like, I'm just passionate about 1:00 and it's work that is
needed and it's work that's impactful.
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I, I think one of the first lessons I learned this summer
was listening to your body. And I wonder how many women go
through their, their, their timehere.
And you have been made to only think of yourself as a secondary
to everything else that you havegoing on.
So, you know, you might, you might be tired, you might be
exhausted, you might have some pains and things that you don't
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listen to because you know, you're, you have children, you
might have a spouse, you might have people who depend on you.
And the way our society kind of trains us and wants us to always
put ourselves 2nd. And I had to learn, I had to
unlearn a lot of things. But one of the big things that I
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had to learn was this idea like,I can't be effective.
I can't be the best person that I can be if I'm not my best.
Like I can't be a good mom. I can't be a Good Wife if I'm
not at my best. I can't be a good employee.
I can't do any of those things if I'm not at my best.
So the first thing is listening to your body.
There was a story that I read earlier in the year where the, I
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think it was a well renowned lady that had, I want to say
like a catering business or a restaurant or something.
And she was always talking abouthow she's so tired and one day
she went to sleep and just did not wake up.
There's so many stories. And I think for a lot of us as
African women, if we're going tobe honest with ourselves, we
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have mothers, we have people that are not too far removed
from us that we saw working themselves to the bone.
And they never complained, or atleast we never heard it.
And whether we realize it or not, as we are going through
life, as we're doing these things, they kind of have set
that benchmark for us. I was during the summer, Amicole
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came out and said that the brandAmicole is no longer going to
exist. I, you know, I, I'm so
embarrassed to even say it. Like, but I had never actually
bought any of the Amicole products.
But I have friends who have usedher.
The, the one product that a friend of mine had to use was
like her lip oil or something. And she was just telling me
about the formula and all of that stuff.
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But I had never actually tried it because I've gone to Sephora
before and I don't go to Sephoraoften, like once in a while.
And I'm the type of person like once I know my products, like I
just walk in there, get what I need, get out, get out.
So I had wanted to try her lip oil, but I never just got around
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to it. But the brand will no longer be
existing. And I remember watching she was
on a podcast with Emma Garde. Or is that how you say her name?
She's the Co founder of Good American with Khloe Kardashian.
And now she has a podcast and she had she had the the founder
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for Amicole on there. I don't know why her name is
escaping me. Daria.
Is it her name? Oh my gosh, don't misquote me.
But she had her on there and oneof the things she talked about
was like, she was here working not too long after giving birth,
like breastfeeding, doing all these things just recently after
giving birth. And one of the things she kept
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telling herself was she saw her immigrant mother doing the same
thing. And that was just normal.
And that was just what's expected.
And I think for a lot of us, African women, I would say, but
I'm sure it's true for a lot of us across the diaspora, I think
it would be true for a lot of usthat that is a big part of our
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story. When you come from women who you
feel like are superheroes and they did so many great things
and they did them so well. And they did them without ever
complaining, without ever bad inthe eye, without ever asking for
anything. We don't realize how much we
internalize that. And so when you start existing
and now we are the new adults, Now we are the ones carrying on
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the baton that, you know, we arecarrying on what we have seen.
And is it good? Is it effective?
The answer is no. I suffered from that too.
I would always tell myself, like, my parents are still
working hard, So what excuse do I have?
Of course I have to work hard. I almost believed that there was
no other way to achieve anythingthat I wanted to achieve without
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it being like such a push and pull and tug and all of that.
So it's on learning of the mind that has to occur.
That has to happen. And I think for a lot of us,
whether children of immigrants, people that belong to minority
groups, for a lot of us, we're going to see our parents doing
things to just make ends meet and for, you know, to just
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exist. And when we get to these spaces
and we achieve things in the next generation, there's almost
that sense of guilt there because it's like, how could I
waste this opportunity? How could I?
My mom did this, my dad did this.
They they got it. So what is my complaint?
And it's like, honey, what did the Nigerian say?
But did no be fire would do sit down somewhere, listen to your
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body. If your body say you need a
rest, you need a rest Relax. Nobody should be judging you.
And if somebody is judging you, tell them to go.
I beg. Don't come and kill yourself.
Not to only you, but it's so true.
Like we have to learn to listen to our bodies and we have to
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learn to say, it's OK for me to be exhausted.
It's OK for me to be tired. I can't do everything and I
can't be everything to everybody.
And anybody that's expecting anyof that out of me, Let's have a
discussion because it's just notpossible.
I can't give you that Like, and that's OK.
Like that's the first step is realizing that you're the one
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that's going to set that boundary for yourself and you're
the one that's going to enforce it.
So taking a sabbatical, taking abreak, the next lesson I learned
was that sometimes you think taking a break or stopping
something is going to like prevent you from achieving a
goal to reach where it is you want to reach.
But what I learned on this break, sometimes it's going to
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get you exactly where you need to be.
Before I took the break, I probably we, I probably would
have kept on recording my, my, my, my, my podcast the same way
that I'm I was doing, which there was nothing wrong with it
because I believed in building up right?
So I knew that. OK, I will start off just doing
the audio just so I can learn tojust be consistent, so I can
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learn to just keep showing up every week despite anything that
I have going on in my life. That was a lesson that I needed
to learn. So during that time it was good
that I did that. But it was during the break that
I know that OK podcast nowadays in order for them to grow, there
needs to be video. And it was join this break that
I had to figure out how am I going to do this and do it in a
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way that I can still afford because that's the honest truth.
I have somebody who records, I mean, who edits the audio and
they will keep on editing the audio.
But as far as with the video, I,I'm going to have to be the one
to edit the videos. And I had to be OK with how am I
going to put it together? How is it going to be pieced
together? And I couldn't have done that if
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I didn't take that break to figure out, OK, this is where I
want to go during this break. I have, you know, brainstorm and
thought about how I'm going to grow this thing into something
that I can be proud of. I wouldn't.
I have done that if I didn't take a break.
So my second thing there is learning that sometimes stepping
back, stepping away, taking breaks from things actually gets
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you faster and closer to your goal than just working, working,
working yourself up to the bone.Because when you take a break,
you're able to step back, gain perspective.
Sometimes you're able to see thefull picture of something.
You can look at the whole thing.But when you're able to step
back, sometimes stepping away gives you clarity.
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So if you are a workhorse, somebody that is, I'm going to
take no breaks till I'm dead. I used to go to college with
somebody that said that, oh, resting, you can rest when
you're dead. So this mentality of like, in
order for me to be successful, in order for me to get
somewhere, I need to work, work,work, work, work, work, work,
take no breaks. I'm telling you right now, learn
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how to step back, learn how to take a break.
If you feel stuck, if you feel like you're trying things,
things are not working, chances are you just need to step back
away and give yourself time to truly like, look at the full
picture of something and I promise you, you'll gain some
insights. I did so many things this
summer. It was good for me not to think
about, oh, what am I going to dowith the podcast?
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During that time, I was on threads a lot.
And again, one of the things that I knew that I have to work
on, and it's just by virtue of me being somebody that's a
neurodivergent, I have ADHD. So it's the idea of routine.
A lot of times that's where I get lost is in that routine,
doing things that I deem to be mundane over and over again.
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But that is how you build greatness When you do something
over and over again until it becomes second nature.
You don't even have to think about it.
So that idea of routine. So with Threads, I knew that OK,
I want to be able to build something on there, but I had to
get used to the idea of posting every day and posting.
Sometimes you don't get anybody to see your post and then other
times you post something and youget 50 likes.
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And other times you post something and it gets, you know,
1500 views. I think at this point I have
like maybe 208 followers on threads and I think I'm sitting
at like maybe 45,000 views on mystuff and I don't know what the
likes are. I stopped counting likes for
things a long time ago. But either way, I had to build
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that muscle up just showing up on that platform every day.
And I wouldn't have been able tohave done that if I didn't take
the break during the summer. So again, sometimes taking a
break might open other opportunities for you, certain
things for you to be able to do.I just got some great news a
couple weeks ago, well actually last week that when I looked at
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it, I was like, if I hadn't taken the break down in summer,
I wouldn't have gotten that. So I just feel like everything
just works out like how it should and how God has destined
for it to be for you. And don't be afraid of stepping
back. If you stepping back away from
something means that something doesn't happen for you, then it
wasn't meant for you. But whatever is meant for you,
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it will be there. And that break, I think it was
Pastor Mike Todd that was like one of the first people that
used to talk about how he takes a sabbatical every year and he
does it regardless, no matter what.
Like, he just steps away. And at the time, like, when I
heard his message, I was like, OK.
And it wasn't until this year when I practiced it for myself,
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this idea of resting, we need torest to recharge.
You need to rest to be able to like take a deep breath and then
propel to the next thing. So I will say this anytime
you're about to like leap into another phase or go into another
part of maybe a dream that you have, you know, maybe there are
multiple layers. You know, this is step one, Step
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2, step three. I encourage you, if you can
afford it or whether you can afford it or not, make it where
you take a break in between. Like if let's say I've
accomplished Step 19, I'm going to go to Step 2.
Let me take a break so that you can have a chance to kind of sit
back and evaluate and say how did I do with step one?
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What could I have done better? What could I change so that when
you're going on to the next phase, you can take those
lessons from that first phase toput it to the next phase?
So I think I wouldn't be here right now recording this video
looking as flat as I do. Okay, all jokes aside, I
wouldn't be doing it this way. If I didn't take that break.
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I probably would have kept on recording just audio and then be
like, what is happening? No growth.
And I told myself when I was going on this journey that I
have to grow every time, like every season when I came
through, something had to be different, something had to be
better and I had to keep pushingmyself.
And that's exactly what I'm doing.
So I'm, I'm so proud of me. So take your break, take your
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sabbatical, listen to your body.Next one is going to be the
future of Banta. And I think I've kind of talked
about it a little bit. So I will be having more content
on maternal and reproductive mental health and that will be
on my YouTube channel. All my social media is going to
be lovely. Tony So LOVELITONII am on
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TikTok, I'm on Lemonade, I am onInstagram, I'm on Threads and
I'm and I am on YouTube. So on my YouTube channel, that's
really where I'll be making a lot of videos talking about
reproductive and maternal mentalhealth on my TikTok.
I like to do a mixture of thingsso that will continue the
fashion. The home decor Lemonade is my
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little area. Like lemonade is what I feel
like Instagram used to be. So it's a lot of pictures still.
So sometimes I'll do like my sense of the day because I'm a
fragrance girl. I like to smell so the smell can
set the mood, you know what I mean?
So lemonade is for that. I also share home content on
lemonade, but lemonade is more like my picture collage kind of
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thing nowadays. I can I post some videos and
stuff on there, but yeah, that'swhat I do on there.
But really the main thing is I hope that I, I'm bringing my
whole self so that people can see because I feel like
sometimes, you know, when you see the end product or you only
see one part of somebody, you don't know all that it takes for
somebody to show up and to do the things that they do.
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So I'm hoping to be more open inthat way to kind of let you guys
in so you can see. Okay, this is my story and I was
having a discussion with my husband and we were talking
about certain things and we weretalking about how, you know, and
just in general, sometimes there's only one kind of story.
And there's nothing wrong with that.
But I'm just hoping that there will be somebody out there who
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can relate to my story, my storyof my way of, you know, I'm
somebody who has always done like things such as, like I had
a blog before. I've always tried to like do
stuff with fashion and all that,but at the same time, I have a
family and I was always trying to build that.
And I've made mistakes and I don't always get it right.
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And I'm a woman with that's neurodivergent and working
through all those things. And it's not been easy.
Sometimes the the road to getting from point A to B is
longer for people like me. So I just want to come out here
and just tell my story and tell it authentically to me.
And hopefully there'll be peopleout there who can relate and
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they can be like, OK, I want to follow along.
But this that I'm trying to growhere.
I want to see, I want to see youcontinue to grow.
I, my hope is to form a community to have people who are
in a similar space with me or, you know, they look at something
that I'm doing and like, I neverthought about that, but let me,
let me consider it. And I want to be able to have
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discourse. I like to talk and I like to
banter back and forth, back and forth.
I'm not at that stage yet with my podcast where I have guests,
but I look forward to that, thatthat's one of the areas that I'm
going to be growing in, you know, so baby steps.
First, I was just recorded and it was just audio.
Today I'm doing video. Next time I'll be having guests
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like I just, I'm committed to this and I want to see where it
takes me and I want to bring allof me to it so that it's not
like, oh, I have this part of methat's hidden or this part of me
that that's how I went about it in the past and it was kind of
exhausting for me. So I just want to bring all of
me, like you're going to see allof me.
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The Tony that's funny, the Tony that's serious, the Tony that's
a mom, The Tony that is a nurse,The Tony that gets tired, the
Tony that has faith, the Tony that questions that faith, the
Tony that has criticisms, the Tony that gives people the
benefit of the doubt, but the Tony that's also going to call
them out. All of it.
So I hope that you would join meon this journey and we'll see
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where we land, where it takes us.
I promise we'll have a good timebecause hello, it's me.
But I just want to say thank you.
If you even came back and you started listening again to my
podcast, thank you so much. I appreciate it from the bottom
of my heart. Those who have been my ride or
dies since the beginning listening to it wherever you
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have your podcast, Apple, last time I shared it, I said, ah,
for the hard time I give to Apple and for them to be the
biggest platform where where people are listening to my
stuff. Hey, life is funny.
Life is hilarious. Like what?
That's that's the biggest. I might Spotify.
Come on, do you do something? But yeah, wherever you listen to
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my podcast, the fact that you keep coming back and you keep
listening. I am so beyond grateful and I'm
so excited for this season. I have certain plans, but I'm
also, I've learned to also just let life flow.
So there are things I have planned, but there are lots of
things that I'm just going to belike, we're just going to go
with the flow. We're going to see where we land
and that's how it's going to be.So welcome to season 3 of Banta
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with Tony. We're going to do a lot of talk.
We're going to talk. We're going Banta, but I can't
wait. And I'll see you guys.
I'll catch you guys on the next one.
Bye now. OK, so before I go, I'm going to
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give my selections for the song and the book.
So the book that I'm reading nowis Heat.
She's the one that wrote Oh my gosh, I'm going to look it up so
I don't mess it up. I'm going to mess with the name,
but it's a new release. Like it just came out.
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Oh my goodness, I'll get there. I'll get there.
I'm I'm so sorry. I probably should have coming
back after taking a break. Let's just say that it is
because I have it on my Spotify Sweet Heat by Bulu Baba Lola.
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So it's Sweet Heat by Bolu Baba Lola.
She's the one that did honey andspice.
I had honey and spice on my list, but I haven't read it yet.
But the sweet heat that just came out.
So my book selection is going tobe Sweet Heat by Bolu.
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I'm messing it up again. Oh my gosh, blood.
I will get it. I will get it.
I will get it. Yes.
OK, so my current book selection, my current book
selection is Sweet Heat by Bulu Baba Lola.
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She wrote Honey and Spice. If you read that one that has
been on my list, but I've actually never read it.
But this one, I had just gotten the little notification from
Spotify that it was coming out. So I was like, you know what?
I'm just going to read this one before I even read Honey and
Spice. So that's what I'm currently
reading is Sweet Heat. And then I'm actually reading
and I keep saying reading my, myboujibooki husband makes fun of
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me all the time 'cause he's like, you ain't reading, you
listening. So I am listening to Children of
Blood and Bones actually with mykids.
So in the mornings we'll listen to little pieces of it in the
afternoon, like when I'm pickingit up, we'll listen to little
pieces of it. So that's a longer books, but
I'm reading, I'm listening to Children of Blood and Bones and
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in Sweet Heat I'm listening to that by myself, 'cause that's
not for chill, that's not for cheering, OK, I don't even know.
Maybe even the blood and bones might have some parts in it.
I don't know. But so far it's just, you know,
mythical characters characterizing.
So that's the the, the book thatI'm reading right now.
If you want to join me along, let's read Sweet Heat by Bolu
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Baba Lola. She is a Nigerian girl, OK and
song hey, this one is very hard.No, it's very hard.
So Charlie Poppy just came out with a new song called Naso Naso
Naso. It's the beat.
It's the beat for me. Like I'm like arrest me.
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It's a beat like the minute I put that song as the first song
on my playlist, every other songthat came after needed to have a
beat. That was just like, it was so
sickening, man. I was like what?
Charlie Poppy now? So you have done it.
You have done it. You have done it.
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Who are we? Who are we?
You have done it. So Charlie Poppy now so and
then, Oh my gosh, I'm so bad. I'm just going to leave that for
this week. Next week I'll share my other
one that's been Totorini. It was so funny because in that
not so song, these Totori, my body.
And the very first time I heard the word Totori was when I went
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to Abuja and this lady at the airport, she wanted me to speak
Creole because I speak Creole. I'm from Sierra Leone, so we
speak Creole. But really if you are Nigerian
and you speak broken English, you should be able to understand
Creole, but it's just going to sound like a different type of
dialect. So I was like, you know what,
I'm speaking Creo to these people.
When I go to Abuja, I do not care.
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So I was at the airport and I'm just like speaking Creo and this
woman is like and see, see another thing the TV is see
right now they totally my body. They totally my body too much.
Which one we that I was like, what?
Totari. Oh my God, my body.
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Oh, Lord, it was too fun. I was like and so you wanna talk
you for you. She's looking at me like oh, my
ma'am, it's broken English. It's just, you know, it sounds
different. So my body.
So that song is criminal. Criminal song.
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So that is my first choice of song for the week.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And then gospel.
What have I been being like? I don't want to give you guys
anything old. I know.
I added some songs. I'm trying to remember what her
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name is. I think it's Grace.
I'll just have to do it next week.
I'm so sorry. I'm.
You know, I'm still, I braked, Itook break, so I still have to
enter myself inside of teens. But yeah, I know her name is
Grace, but I'll find it for nextweek because she does, like, she
does like remakes of songs that we already know.
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But it's just the beauty of her voice.
It's so beautiful. And so I'm sorry that I don't
have anything to give you to uplift you this week.
Please forgive me. But when you listen to that
shally poppy song, that should be able to carry you a little
bit, you know, if you're feelingdown, just no.
So no. So OK guys, I will catch you on
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the next episode. See you guys later.
Bye bye.
Hello and welcome to another season of Banta with Tony.
I have missed you guys and I hope you guys have missed me.
It's been a couple of months andit's good to be back.
Let's just say that I hope everybody had a wonderful summer
and you know, we keep trekking through with life given
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everything that we have going onright now.
So while I was gone, so much happened.
So it's only right that when we start out the new season, I'm
going to start out with pop culture and then move on to what
we're going to be talking about today.
So if you're new here and you'renot familiar with the format,
usually I do like a pop culture section.
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Then we'll have whatever the topic is is for this episode.
And then I usually share my current book that I'm reading
music. And then we kind of close it out
for the week. OK, last year, well last season,
the episodes will come out on Fridays.
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I haven't decided yet what days they will be coming out, but
once I do, I will be sure to letyou guys know.
So keep an eye out for the new episodes.
I am also creating more content on all my other platforms and
I'm really trying my best here to manage everything and to be
able to let you guys in to get acomplete view of who I am and
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what I bring to the table and what I'm trying to do here.
So please support a young Africamurder, a young Africa murder
that's trying to do things. Support me, support me, support
me as support yourself, support everybody.
OK, All right, so the first story is going to be the Tabitha
Brown story. I'm sure at this point everybody
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has kind of heard about it, but I wanted to talk about it on
here because I just could not understand at the time why
everybody gave her such a hard time for what she was saying.
And I understand the times that we're in.
I think the stats is that there's currently about 500,000
African American women who are unemployed in this current
economy. So it that's that's a huge
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number. We have to be honest with that.
And I think that given that whole situation that a lot of
people were more sensitive to anything that somebody's saying
that is in any kind of relation with work right now.
And then I think obviously it coming from somebody that people
perceive as that person successful, that person cannot
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relate to the average person. At least that's the perception.
I think it made it even more difficult.
But what did what she say? Was that such a terrible thing?
No, because if you watch the video, she was saying like while
you're pursuing your dreams right now, your entrepreneurship
stuff is not working. You're not making money like
you, you, you could be. And instead of you struggling
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through it, there's nothing wrong with you having a job and
still pursuing your dreams, AKA what I'm doing right now.
You know, like we all have dreams, we all have things that
we want to achieve. But I guess for me, it's like,
I've maybe it's because I'm African, but I've always come
from that place of like, there are those things that I need to
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have first in place before I cansay, OK, I'm going to lean on
this. And even with that, like we, we
always taught to just have something in the back, something
else going because you just never know, especially like when
your livelihood and the things that you are wanting to achieve
is dependent on somebody else, right?
So even with entrepreneurship, yes, you have a lot of autonomy,
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but your well-being, your being able to pay your bills and
everything else is dependent on people coming for your services
or buying your products. And if times are hard,
everybody's going through it. If you are providing a service
or a product that's considered aluxury, it is a tough market
right now because people are trying to just make sure they
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can do the basic things. And even for some people that is
very difficult. So I think what she was just
saying was like, it's not a failure to yourself, It's more
of a ego thing. Like she was trying to say, like
let go of your ego, go find a job, go do these things and
still pursue your dream. And it might just be a chapter
that is in your dream right now.You know, it just might not be
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working out right at this moment, but it doesn't mean that
will never work for you. But give yourself some stress
and go and collect a job so thatyou know, there will be, you
know, and I think in the video she mentioned like you're you're
driving everybody around you crazy.
So like, because you have a strain, you are affecting your
loved ones, the environment, you're creating everything else
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with the stress. That's what the woman was
saying. And people had a problem with
that. I don't understand it.
I totally understood what she was saying.
And I still also understood the fact that it was just the timing
of the message, that people werejust super sensitive to what it
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was that she was communicating at the time.
So I wanted to bring that up because I think that is valid.
You know, dreams are up and down, like sometimes you try
something and it works and it might work for a season and then
another season is not working. And you know, that's the the
human experience, our ability tobe able to adjust and say, OK, I
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tried this, it didn't work. Or I tried this, it worked, but
right now it's not working. And really being able to let go
of the ego of like, Oh my gosh, I could never have a nine to
five because you remember what happened in nine to five was a
crime. Oh, Lord.
So we're in different times. We're in different times for
sure. Rihanna is still very pregnant.
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You know, Rihanna is still very pregnant.
And there's rumor that this timearound is going to be a baby
girl. So she has two boys already.
And I guess we'll just have to wait and see.
I saw that there was like a ad for the Fenty Puma yesterday and
it was a photo shoot and she's looking very pregnant.
So it's going to be probably anymoment now, now we get to find
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out if she's going to have her little baby girl or if it's
going to be her and those, thoseboys, all of her boys.
So I, I, I can't wait to see, I mean, if she has a little girl,
Can you imagine the outfits thatshe's going to put her in?
Like, Oh my gosh, it's, it's going to be awesome.
Cardi B Speaking of pregnancies,Cardi B announced yesterday that
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she was pregnant and expecting with her current boyfriend.
And, and I saw a bunch of mixed,mixed reactions.
So there were those who were like, Oh my gosh, good for her.
And then I saw the Oh my gosh, Black women, we can't be out
here always portraying the storyof having five different baby
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daddies and www.woowooladiladiwoo.
And The thing is, you know, maybe it's a fault of mine, but
I can see on both sides, like, either way, somebody's pregnant,
be happy for that person. Like it doesn't cost us
anything, right? So definitely like,
congratulations to her and Stefan Diggs.
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That's the name of the the boyfriend that she's pregnant
with. And then the other side of it is
like, you know, I mean, that's not how she planned her life.
Like, if we want to go to the other argument of, you know,
like that comment that I saw, and I guess a lot of people feel
that way, Like why is she pregnant again?
And now with a different the woman was married to the person
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who she thought was she was going to build forever with that
didn't work out for her. And then now she finds herself
in this place. So and then it's Cardi B, like
she ain't going to go through what me and you will be going
through. She, her child will be well
taken care of just like the other three.
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That's why she's out here selling you her albums.
OK. I've been loving all of the
videos that she's been putting out.
To be honest. It's so hilarious.
Like the the one where she's selling the CD in the streets
and she has all like her little slippers.
Oh my gosh, hilarious. What was the other one?
I even showed my husband We're like cracking up about it
because I'm just like, this ladyis funny.
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And then I saw the video, the interview she did with Kelly
Rowland. So if you haven't seen it, it's
available on YouTube. It was done with Spotify.
So it's leading up to her album.And it was just pure comedic
gold in that video. It was so hilarious the the
Luke's on Kelly's face because you can just say tell like some
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of the things that Cardi was saying in there, it was not
planned because Kelly was just like, like I'm I know I'm not
supposed to laugh. Like the part where she's like,
I'm trying to help out of this and then turn out she wants to
sleep with my man. And I'm like, and Kelly's like
Cardi, I know I'm not supposed to laugh.
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I thought that interview was great.
I, I think like you never would have thought like Kelly Rowland
interviewing her, but it worked.And I guess like, you know, they
have a relationship obviously outside of the media, outside of
what people know, but it was just a very, very funny and
interesting interview. I haven't watched the interview
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yet with Gayle King. That's on my to watch list.
So I wouldn't speak on that because I haven't seen it.
I totally saw that one little clip.
And then I've been seeing like, obviously she made the
announcement on Gail's show and all of that.
So I will have to go and watch that and then probably talk
about that in another episode. This was the soma of romance,
pier romance, pier romance, pierromance was in the air.
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Everybody was getting married. What it was, oh, Oh my gosh, it
was just lovely. So it started out with David
Davido and Chuma. They were the false ones on the
some other did that team and they were in my hummy, my hummy,
they were in my hummy and it wasstar started.
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Everybody came through. They had their wedding.
She had the beautiful, beautifulbeaded gown.
I do know the designer, but I don't know why it's skipping me
right now. Alanoku, Alanoku bridal
beautiful gown. The picture where she's wearing
like the black suit and then hernecklace was going down her
back. That was one of my favorite of
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the pre wedding ones that they had shared and they had their
beautiful ceremony then in between Tony, Tony.
So she's a, she's a writer and she got married to her Boo.
She's a British writer. She's a British writer that I
like her. I like the things that she
shares on her social media. Sometimes a little bit of a
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British accent, but I feel like I'm very little bit Jamaican
influences there as well. Like, OK, I'm, I'm trying to
have a British accent, but I'm not how good it's working out
for me. But she was also getting
married. So it's like she had her like
introduction ceremony, I think her traditional wedding.
And then it just so happened around the time that she was
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sharing some of her pictures, then Timmy or Ted dollar or Ted
dollar get dollars. That is like what I was thinking
the entire time I was seeing those.
I said, oh, Ted dollar get dollars.
Are you kidding me? Are you kidding me?
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Oh my goodness. Like, and let me just say, first
of all, so there was this whole discourse online about, you
know, this is how you do a wedding that's classic and
beautiful and da da, da, da, da.And I guess people were like
pinning her wedding against Davido's wedding.
So it's not a good thing to compare a wedding because either
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way they're both rich people that got married and we can't
even afford neither one of those.
So I don't even understand how we could be on the Internet
criticizing either one when we did not get invited to start
with and could not afford eitherone of them.
So they are both of the same class because I saw that where I
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was like 1 is no they both are billionaires in their country so
let's stop playing with that. They both belong to the same
class, they just have different taste and I think that showed
showed through in how they decided to celebrate their their
their marriages. And it's OK for people to have
preferences. Like out of the two, I do prefer
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Tammys wedding because she has like similar, I guess sentiment
style like how I would do something.
That's how she did it like to tome.
But it doesn't mean that like Chuma's wedding and David was
wedding wasn't beautiful either.One thing about Chuma's wedding
that I liked whoever gave her the the styling points to say do
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short hair. You deserve erase.
Get out of here. When I saw her and that short
hair and the dress and the I said OK, correct.
She came correct because there were other things that I saw
that I was like I wasn't too sure.
But when I saw that on that wedding day, you are correct,
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Madam, you are correct. You are correct.
And so Tammy Alto dolls wedding,it was just like how it was done
and the fact that this wedding had happened three different
locations, we never heard anything about like they just
went about it in a different way.
And I think for a lot of people that just kind of like brought
up things that have been, I guess, percolating and happening
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like beneath the surface as far as like with how African
weddings go. And, you know, sometimes we we
have equated like the big shows,the the more of more the
extravagance and we love it. Don't get me wrong.
I am a Leo after all. You know, I like, I like the
drama. I bring the drama, honey, we
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love the drama, but it's like that's not all there is, you
know, like, and I think that's what her wedding really brought
to the surface was like, how canwe do things?
The fact that she had, you know,she did have African designers
because I did see some people who don't line talking and
saying that she had no African designers.
Yes, she did. She did have African designers,
but she had Western designers and even an Asian designer
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creating African attire and I think that was beautiful.
That was out-of-the-box. It was breathtaking and they did
a phenomenal job. But I mean, when you have the
correct amount of money, does anybody have a choice to not do
it? You could have told them creates
me a 10 piece head tie without goes to the they would do it as
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long as you can pay. I mean, what is it?
So I think some people felt somekind of way because they're
like, well, they're African designers.
She didn't showcase. I think there are so many people
getting married now. Like what I said a few months
ago when we're talking I think was about this Sharon Oja
wedding that now people get stylist to do the wedding and
then that stylist is the one contacting all the designers and
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doing things. I think there are other people
who have gotten married that have given exposure and African
designers will continue to get exposure.
But I think what this wedding brought to light was like, let
everybody do what they want to do.
So you don't. I mean, you should, like I said,
she did have some African designers, but you don't have to
if that's not what you want to do.
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But I felt like they both did a good job of showing their
heritage. It was no different from when
Priscilla and Juma got married. And, you know, just everybody's
just doing it the way they want to do.
And I think for people to have been comparing the two, saying
like this one's better. You just as an individual,
you're going to have preferences.
And I think it's it's for me, what I like the most about her
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wedding also was that we alreadyknow your father is a
billionaire. The budget was probably
unlimited. I think they said what, 14 mil
is what they spent. But it's the way about that she
went about doing everything, just the pure attention to
details. And I think that's what I've
always liked about Tamia Todola is like with everything that she
does, Even when I used to listento her podcast that she had with
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Mr. Easy, that's what he would say.
He was like, you guys would see her post a picture and think
it's a random picture. But no, this girl has planned
everything out that she's putting out.
So I think that just shows up like even with her wedding
planning, like, and that's what I loved about it, the attention
to detail and that idea. Like it doesn't always have to
be rah, rah, rah. And I think for us as Africans,
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like with what we've been used to, what we see abroad over
here, and I'm sure it's no different back home, especially
the Nigerian culture. It's a lot of just the big
weddings, the extravagance, the loud, the noisy.
And we love it. Like I said, we love the drama,
but it's like, you know, somebody came through and did
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something different. And I think that's what we're
going to be seeing moving forward.
I think we're going to be seeinga lot of brides choosing to do
things their way, as it should be, and not necessarily old,
because that's what my mom wants.
That's what my mom and my sisterand my auntie and my.
What do you want? How did you envision your day?
How is that going to come to, you know, fruition for you?
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And yes, you might have to, you know, appease your mom and
appease your dad. But the day really is about
these two people that are falling in love.
And I think, you know, they justkind of reminded us about that.
Like, it should always be about the couple and what they want to
do and how they want to celebrate their day and their
location of choosing to go to Iceland.
That was a place that was sentimental to them.
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The food that they ate, what they provided for their guests,
everything was just so thoughtful, Chioma says.
Well, when she, I think she had like a pin of her son, the one
that passed away, I thought thatwas beautiful.
So to even compare the two, it'slike they both had things that
were important to them and they both had, you know, how they
wanted their days to be, and that's how both people shared
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it. You might prefer one over the
other, but don't say that this one's great and this one's not.
So I'm excited to see what the young brides are going to do.
I, I do want to see a change in certain ways.
I know like back in the day, like the idea of even a court
wedding, but the, from what I'm seeing now, even here in
America, that's becoming more ofa thing.
I, the like 2 weeks ago I saw this girl that did a courthouse
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wedding and the most beautiful photo shoot.
I mean, extravagance and the, the veil and even where she got
married. I said, that's a courthouse.
Oh Lord, a beautiful courthouse where they do that because I
don't know if we have any kind of courthouses around here that
look like that. That's a different story.
So anyways, everybody and the Mama got married on the summer
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Tony, the writer, like I said, her stuff was also beautiful.
Her and her her husband. It's just crazy that it kind of
all happened happened around thetime.
So it's like one person will post and another person will
post, but I was like, yes, give me all the wedding content, all
of it. And all the summer brides looked
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beautiful. And they all incorporated their
African, their African, their African heritage very, very
well. And it was just beautiful to
see. I like weddings.
I like. I really do.
So let's see next pop culture. Is there anything else
happening? There's a whole bunch of other
stuff that I will never discuss on this show because we're going
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to keep it light and bright on this side.
OK? So, yeah, we'll not be
discussing any of that. But it's it was a good summer.
It was a good summer. I think it is going to be
interesting to see what else or who who has anything for us
because the year is not over. And I know times are kind of
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dragging on right now, but we need we need entertainment.
So who knows to next week there'll be a different story,
something different that I'm talking about, like.
Because I, I can guarantee therewill, there will be something
different to talk about. Yeah, I can guarantee that.
But anywho, so this summer I decided to take a break from
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recording and it was a decision that I did not anticipate
coming. In fact, the way I had planned
it was for me to continue recording and then take about
like 6 weeks off and then start season 3.
But I had to listen to my body. There were things I had going on
that it was just best for me to just kind of step back, just
take a moment, live in the moments, enjoy time with my
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family, kind of recoup mentally and everything else because you
know, and that's part of like, why now that I'm back on, I'm
going to like try to share more of my life because I have a lot
of things going on. And I think I kind of said that
I remember even recording certain days and I would be so
tired. And you can hear it through the
mic. And I don't want to be in that
place again. I don't want to work to the
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point of like exhaustion and notreally taking care of myself.
And so it was a break that I didn't plan, but it was a break
that was needed. And during that time, I learned
lessons. So I only thought it was right
that on the first episode back, I'll kind of talk about the
lessons that I learned from taking my summer sabbatical
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break, whatever you want to callit, PTO, you know.
So the first thing is listen to your body.
I think so many of us, there's avideo that will be coming out
prior to this podcast coming outand it's going to be on my
YouTube channel. And it's just talking about what
to expect out of lovely Tony moving forward, what I'm trying
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to create here. And one of the things is that I,
I, I, I the the best word to saybecause I think in that video I
said, I stumbled upon it. And it's not that I stumbled
upon it is that it found me. It's like it's things that I've
experienced throughout my life. And as I think of the next phase
of my life and I'm like, OK, what, how would I want to
incorporate the things that I'veexperienced, the things that
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I've done into something positive that I can use to
impact the world? Maternal and reproductive mental
health came up and I, I really believe that it is work that I
am like, I'm just passionate about 1:00 and it's work that is
needed and it's work that's impactful.
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I, I think one of the first lessons I learned this summer
was listening to your body. And I wonder how many women go
through their, their, their timehere.
And you have been made to only think of yourself as a secondary
to everything else that you havegoing on.
So, you know, you might, you might be tired, you might be
exhausted, you might have some pains and things that you don't
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listen to because you know, you're, you have children, you
might have a spouse, you might have people who depend on you.
And the way our society kind of trains us and wants us to always
put ourselves 2nd. And I had to learn, I had to
unlearn a lot of things. But one of the big things that I
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had to learn was this idea like,I can't be effective.
I can't be the best person that I can be if I'm not my best.
Like I can't be a good mom. I can't be a Good Wife if I'm
not at my best. I can't be a good employee.
I can't do any of those things if I'm not at my best.
So the first thing is listening to your body.
There was a story that I read earlier in the year where the, I
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think it was a well renowned lady that had, I want to say
like a catering business or a restaurant or something.
And she was always talking abouthow she's so tired and one day
she went to sleep and just did not wake up.
There's so many stories. And I think for a lot of us as
African women, if we're going tobe honest with ourselves, we
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have mothers, we have people that are not too far removed
from us that we saw working themselves to the bone.
And they never complained, or atleast we never heard it.
And whether we realize it or not, as we are going through
life, as we're doing these things, they kind of have set
that benchmark for us. I was during the summer, Amicole
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came out and said that the brandAmicole is no longer going to
exist. I, you know, I, I'm so
embarrassed to even say it. Like, but I had never actually
bought any of the Amicole products.
But I have friends who have usedher.
The, the one product that a friend of mine had to use was
like her lip oil or something. And she was just telling me
about the formula and all of that stuff.
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But I had never actually tried it because I've gone to Sephora
before and I don't go to Sephoraoften, like once in a while.
And I'm the type of person like once I know my products, like I
just walk in there, get what I need, get out, get out.
So I had wanted to try her lip oil, but I never just got around
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to it. But the brand will no longer be
existing. And I remember watching she was
on a podcast with Emma Garde. Or is that how you say her name?
She's the Co founder of Good American with Khloe Kardashian.
And now she has a podcast and she had she had the the founder
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for Amicole on there. I don't know why her name is
escaping me. Daria.
Is it her name? Oh my gosh, don't misquote me.
But she had her on there and oneof the things she talked about
was like, she was here working not too long after giving birth,
like breastfeeding, doing all these things just recently after
giving birth. And one of the things she kept
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telling herself was she saw her immigrant mother doing the same
thing. And that was just normal.
And that was just what's expected.
And I think for a lot of us, African women, I would say, but
I'm sure it's true for a lot of us across the diaspora, I think
it would be true for a lot of usthat that is a big part of our
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story. When you come from women who you
feel like are superheroes and they did so many great things
and they did them so well. And they did them without ever
complaining, without ever bad inthe eye, without ever asking for
anything. We don't realize how much we
internalize that. And so when you start existing
and now we are the new adults, Now we are the ones carrying on
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the baton that, you know, we arecarrying on what we have seen.
And is it good? Is it effective?
The answer is no. I suffered from that too.
I would always tell myself, like, my parents are still
working hard, So what excuse do I have?
Of course I have to work hard. I almost believed that there was
no other way to achieve anythingthat I wanted to achieve without
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it being like such a push and pull and tug and all of that.
So it's on learning of the mind that has to occur.
That has to happen. And I think for a lot of us,
whether children of immigrants, people that belong to minority
groups, for a lot of us, we're going to see our parents doing
things to just make ends meet and for, you know, to just
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exist. And when we get to these spaces
and we achieve things in the next generation, there's almost
that sense of guilt there because it's like, how could I
waste this opportunity? How could I?
My mom did this, my dad did this.
They they got it. So what is my complaint?
And it's like, honey, what did the Nigerian say?
But did no be fire would do sit down somewhere, listen to your
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body. If your body say you need a
rest, you need a rest Relax. Nobody should be judging you.
And if somebody is judging you, tell them to go.
I beg. Don't come and kill yourself.
Not to only you, but it's so true.
Like we have to learn to listen to our bodies and we have to
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learn to say, it's OK for me to be exhausted.
It's OK for me to be tired. I can't do everything and I
can't be everything to everybody.
And anybody that's expecting anyof that out of me, Let's have a
discussion because it's just notpossible.
I can't give you that Like, and that's OK.
Like that's the first step is realizing that you're the one
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that's going to set that boundary for yourself and you're
the one that's going to enforce it.
So taking a sabbatical, taking abreak, the next lesson I learned
was that sometimes you think taking a break or stopping
something is going to like prevent you from achieving a
goal to reach where it is you want to reach.
But what I learned on this break, sometimes it's going to
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get you exactly where you need to be.
Before I took the break, I probably we, I probably would
have kept on recording my, my, my, my, my podcast the same way
that I'm I was doing, which there was nothing wrong with it
because I believed in building up right?
So I knew that. OK, I will start off just doing
the audio just so I can learn tojust be consistent, so I can
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learn to just keep showing up every week despite anything that
I have going on in my life. That was a lesson that I needed
to learn. So during that time it was good
that I did that. But it was during the break that
I know that OK podcast nowadays in order for them to grow, there
needs to be video. And it was join this break that
I had to figure out how am I going to do this and do it in a
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way that I can still afford because that's the honest truth.
I have somebody who records, I mean, who edits the audio and
they will keep on editing the audio.
But as far as with the video, I,I'm going to have to be the one
to edit the videos. And I had to be OK with how am I
going to put it together? How is it going to be pieced
together? And I couldn't have done that if
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I didn't take that break to figure out, OK, this is where I
want to go during this break. I have, you know, brainstorm and
thought about how I'm going to grow this thing into something
that I can be proud of. I wouldn't.
I have done that if I didn't take a break.
So my second thing there is learning that sometimes stepping
back, stepping away, taking breaks from things actually gets
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you faster and closer to your goal than just working, working,
working yourself up to the bone.Because when you take a break,
you're able to step back, gain perspective.
Sometimes you're able to see thefull picture of something.
You can look at the whole thing.But when you're able to step
back, sometimes stepping away gives you clarity.
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So if you are a workhorse, somebody that is, I'm going to
take no breaks till I'm dead. I used to go to college with
somebody that said that, oh, resting, you can rest when
you're dead. So this mentality of like, in
order for me to be successful, in order for me to get
somewhere, I need to work, work,work, work, work, work, work,
take no breaks. I'm telling you right now, learn
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how to step back, learn how to take a break.
If you feel stuck, if you feel like you're trying things,
things are not working, chances are you just need to step back
away and give yourself time to truly like, look at the full
picture of something and I promise you, you'll gain some
insights. I did so many things this
summer. It was good for me not to think
about, oh, what am I going to dowith the podcast?
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During that time, I was on threads a lot.
And again, one of the things that I knew that I have to work
on, and it's just by virtue of me being somebody that's a
neurodivergent, I have ADHD. So it's the idea of routine.
A lot of times that's where I get lost is in that routine,
doing things that I deem to be mundane over and over again.
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But that is how you build greatness When you do something
over and over again until it becomes second nature.
You don't even have to think about it.
So that idea of routine. So with Threads, I knew that OK,
I want to be able to build something on there, but I had to
get used to the idea of posting every day and posting.
Sometimes you don't get anybody to see your post and then other
times you post something and youget 50 likes.
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And other times you post something and it gets, you know,
1500 views. I think at this point I have
like maybe 208 followers on threads and I think I'm sitting
at like maybe 45,000 views on mystuff and I don't know what the
likes are. I stopped counting likes for
things a long time ago. But either way, I had to build
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that muscle up just showing up on that platform every day.
And I wouldn't have been able tohave done that if I didn't take
the break during the summer. So again, sometimes taking a
break might open other opportunities for you, certain
things for you to be able to do.I just got some great news a
couple weeks ago, well actually last week that when I looked at
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it, I was like, if I hadn't taken the break down in summer,
I wouldn't have gotten that. So I just feel like everything
just works out like how it should and how God has destined
for it to be for you. And don't be afraid of stepping
back. If you stepping back away from
something means that something doesn't happen for you, then it
wasn't meant for you. But whatever is meant for you,
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it will be there. And that break, I think it was
Pastor Mike Todd that was like one of the first people that
used to talk about how he takes a sabbatical every year and he
does it regardless, no matter what.
Like, he just steps away. And at the time, like, when I
heard his message, I was like, OK.
And it wasn't until this year when I practiced it for myself,
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this idea of resting, we need torest to recharge.
You need to rest to be able to like take a deep breath and then
propel to the next thing. So I will say this anytime
you're about to like leap into another phase or go into another
part of maybe a dream that you have, you know, maybe there are
multiple layers. You know, this is step one, Step
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2, step three. I encourage you, if you can
afford it or whether you can afford it or not, make it where
you take a break in between. Like if let's say I've
accomplished Step 19, I'm going to go to Step 2.
Let me take a break so that you can have a chance to kind of sit
back and evaluate and say how did I do with step one?
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What could I have done better? What could I change so that when
you're going on to the next phase, you can take those
lessons from that first phase toput it to the next phase?
So I think I wouldn't be here right now recording this video
looking as flat as I do. Okay, all jokes aside, I
wouldn't be doing it this way. If I didn't take that break.
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I probably would have kept on recording just audio and then be
like, what is happening? No growth.
And I told myself when I was going on this journey that I
have to grow every time, like every season when I came
through, something had to be different, something had to be
better and I had to keep pushingmyself.
And that's exactly what I'm doing.
So I'm, I'm so proud of me. So take your break, take your
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sabbatical, listen to your body.Next one is going to be the
future of Banta. And I think I've kind of talked
about it a little bit. So I will be having more content
on maternal and reproductive mental health and that will be
on my YouTube channel. All my social media is going to
be lovely. Tony So LOVELITONII am on
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TikTok, I'm on Lemonade, I am onInstagram, I'm on Threads and
I'm and I am on YouTube. So on my YouTube channel, that's
really where I'll be making a lot of videos talking about
reproductive and maternal mentalhealth on my TikTok.
I like to do a mixture of thingsso that will continue the
fashion. The home decor Lemonade is my
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little area. Like lemonade is what I feel
like Instagram used to be. So it's a lot of pictures still.
So sometimes I'll do like my sense of the day because I'm a
fragrance girl. I like to smell so the smell can
set the mood, you know what I mean?
So lemonade is for that. I also share home content on
lemonade, but lemonade is more like my picture collage kind of
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thing nowadays. I can I post some videos and
stuff on there, but yeah, that'swhat I do on there.
But really the main thing is I hope that I, I'm bringing my
whole self so that people can see because I feel like
sometimes, you know, when you see the end product or you only
see one part of somebody, you don't know all that it takes for
somebody to show up and to do the things that they do.
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So I'm hoping to be more open inthat way to kind of let you guys
in so you can see. Okay, this is my story and I was
having a discussion with my husband and we were talking
about certain things and we weretalking about how, you know, and
just in general, sometimes there's only one kind of story.
And there's nothing wrong with that.
But I'm just hoping that there will be somebody out there who
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can relate to my story, my storyof my way of, you know, I'm
somebody who has always done like things such as, like I had
a blog before. I've always tried to like do
stuff with fashion and all that,but at the same time, I have a
family and I was always trying to build that.
And I've made mistakes and I don't always get it right.
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And I'm a woman with that's neurodivergent and working
through all those things. And it's not been easy.
Sometimes the the road to getting from point A to B is
longer for people like me. So I just want to come out here
and just tell my story and tell it authentically to me.
And hopefully there'll be peopleout there who can relate and
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they can be like, OK, I want to follow along.
But this that I'm trying to growhere.
I want to see, I want to see youcontinue to grow.
I, my hope is to form a community to have people who are
in a similar space with me or, you know, they look at something
that I'm doing and like, I neverthought about that, but let me,
let me consider it. And I want to be able to have
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discourse. I like to talk and I like to
banter back and forth, back and forth.
I'm not at that stage yet with my podcast where I have guests,
but I look forward to that, thatthat's one of the areas that I'm
going to be growing in, you know, so baby steps.
First, I was just recorded and it was just audio.
Today I'm doing video. Next time I'll be having guests
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like I just, I'm committed to this and I want to see where it
takes me and I want to bring allof me to it so that it's not
like, oh, I have this part of methat's hidden or this part of me
that that's how I went about it in the past and it was kind of
exhausting for me. So I just want to bring all of
me, like you're going to see allof me.
(38:33):
The Tony that's funny, the Tony that's serious, the Tony that's
a mom, The Tony that is a nurse,The Tony that gets tired, the
Tony that has faith, the Tony that questions that faith, the
Tony that has criticisms, the Tony that gives people the
benefit of the doubt, but the Tony that's also going to call
them out. All of it.
So I hope that you would join meon this journey and we'll see
(38:57):
where we land, where it takes us.
I promise we'll have a good timebecause hello, it's me.
But I just want to say thank you.
If you even came back and you started listening again to my
podcast, thank you so much. I appreciate it from the bottom
of my heart. Those who have been my ride or
dies since the beginning listening to it wherever you
(39:19):
have your podcast, Apple, last time I shared it, I said, ah,
for the hard time I give to Apple and for them to be the
biggest platform where where people are listening to my
stuff. Hey, life is funny.
Life is hilarious. Like what?
That's that's the biggest. I might Spotify.
Come on, do you do something? But yeah, wherever you listen to
(39:44):
my podcast, the fact that you keep coming back and you keep
listening. I am so beyond grateful and I'm
so excited for this season. I have certain plans, but I'm
also, I've learned to also just let life flow.
So there are things I have planned, but there are lots of
things that I'm just going to belike, we're just going to go
with the flow. We're going to see where we land
and that's how it's going to be.So welcome to season 3 of Banta
(40:09):
with Tony. We're going to do a lot of talk.
We're going to talk. We're going Banta, but I can't
wait. And I'll see you guys.
I'll catch you guys on the next one.
Bye now. OK, so before I go, I'm going to
(41:07):
give my selections for the song and the book.
So the book that I'm reading nowis Heat.
She's the one that wrote Oh my gosh, I'm going to look it up so
I don't mess it up. I'm going to mess with the name,
but it's a new release. Like it just came out.
(41:49):
Oh my goodness, I'll get there. I'll get there.
I'm I'm so sorry. I probably should have coming
back after taking a break. Let's just say that it is
because I have it on my Spotify Sweet Heat by Bulu Baba Lola.
(42:12):
So it's Sweet Heat by Bolu Baba Lola.
She's the one that did honey andspice.
I had honey and spice on my list, but I haven't read it yet.
But the sweet heat that just came out.
So my book selection is going tobe Sweet Heat by Bolu.
(42:33):
I'm messing it up again. Oh my gosh, blood.
I will get it. I will get it.
I will get it. Yes.
OK, so my current book selection, my current book
selection is Sweet Heat by Bulu Baba Lola.
(42:57):
She wrote Honey and Spice. If you read that one that has
been on my list, but I've actually never read it.
But this one, I had just gotten the little notification from
Spotify that it was coming out. So I was like, you know what?
I'm just going to read this one before I even read Honey and
Spice. So that's what I'm currently
reading is Sweet Heat. And then I'm actually reading
and I keep saying reading my, myboujibooki husband makes fun of
(43:21):
me all the time 'cause he's like, you ain't reading, you
listening. So I am listening to Children of
Blood and Bones actually with mykids.
So in the mornings we'll listen to little pieces of it in the
afternoon, like when I'm pickingit up, we'll listen to little
pieces of it. So that's a longer books, but
I'm reading, I'm listening to Children of Blood and Bones and
(43:41):
in Sweet Heat I'm listening to that by myself, 'cause that's
not for chill, that's not for cheering, OK, I don't even know.
Maybe even the blood and bones might have some parts in it.
I don't know. But so far it's just, you know,
mythical characters characterizing.
So that's the the, the book thatI'm reading right now.
If you want to join me along, let's read Sweet Heat by Bolu
(44:04):
Baba Lola. She is a Nigerian girl, OK and
song hey, this one is very hard.No, it's very hard.
So Charlie Poppy just came out with a new song called Naso Naso
Naso. It's the beat.
It's the beat for me. Like I'm like arrest me.
(44:30):
It's a beat like the minute I put that song as the first song
on my playlist, every other songthat came after needed to have a
beat. That was just like, it was so
sickening, man. I was like what?
Charlie Poppy now? So you have done it.
You have done it. You have done it.
(44:52):
Who are we? Who are we?
You have done it. So Charlie Poppy now so and
then, Oh my gosh, I'm so bad. I'm just going to leave that for
this week. Next week I'll share my other
one that's been Totorini. It was so funny because in that
not so song, these Totori, my body.
And the very first time I heard the word Totori was when I went
(45:14):
to Abuja and this lady at the airport, she wanted me to speak
Creole because I speak Creole. I'm from Sierra Leone, so we
speak Creole. But really if you are Nigerian
and you speak broken English, you should be able to understand
Creole, but it's just going to sound like a different type of
dialect. So I was like, you know what,
I'm speaking Creo to these people.
When I go to Abuja, I do not care.
(45:35):
So I was at the airport and I'm just like speaking Creo and this
woman is like and see, see another thing the TV is see
right now they totally my body. They totally my body too much.
Which one we that I was like, what?
Totari. Oh my God, my body.
(45:56):
Oh, Lord, it was too fun. I was like and so you wanna talk
you for you. She's looking at me like oh, my
ma'am, it's broken English. It's just, you know, it sounds
different. So my body.
So that song is criminal. Criminal song.
(46:19):
So that is my first choice of song for the week.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And then gospel.
What have I been being like? I don't want to give you guys
anything old. I know.
I added some songs. I'm trying to remember what her
(46:40):
name is. I think it's Grace.
I'll just have to do it next week.
I'm so sorry. I'm.
You know, I'm still, I braked, Itook break, so I still have to
enter myself inside of teens. But yeah, I know her name is
Grace, but I'll find it for nextweek because she does, like, she
does like remakes of songs that we already know.
(47:01):
But it's just the beauty of her voice.
It's so beautiful. And so I'm sorry that I don't
have anything to give you to uplift you this week.
Please forgive me. But when you listen to that
shally poppy song, that should be able to carry you a little
bit, you know, if you're feelingdown, just no.
So no. So OK guys, I will catch you on
(47:26):
the next episode. See you guys later.
Bye bye.
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