February 25, 2025 • 28 mins
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Rose is turning 40! Can you believe it, fellow ‘85 babies? It’s our year to shine!
In this episode of Baring it All with Rose and Chrystal, we dive into what it really means to celebrate milestones. Talk about Rose's thoughts on turning 40, her excitement and the fact she never usually celebrates her birthday. At first, Rose wasn’t even sure she wanted a big party—until a moment from the show Queer Eye hit her right in the feels. Suddenly, it all made sense. Enter Chrystal (and her husband, Craig), who are on a mission to throw the ultimate celebration and remind Rose just how special she is.
We chat about stepping into a new era of life, embracing change, and all the emotions that come with it—because getting older isn’t just about the number, it’s about feeling good in your skin, chasing dreams, and surrounding yourself with people who lift you up.
We also touch on health and fitness, taking care of ourselves as we age, dreams and Rose’s big plan: 40 things to do while you’re 40 (because why not make the year an epic adventure?).
So whether you’ve got a milestone birthday coming up or just want to reflect on your wild ride so far, we hope this convo reminds you to celebrate yourself and everything you have achieved and have overcome thus far and get excited for what’s next. Because honestly, life just keeps getting better with age.
Happy 40th Rose!
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Rose Oates (00:05):
Welcome to Bearing it All with Rose and Crystal.
Chrystal (00:08):
Where the conversations get real emotions
run raw and nothing is filtered.
Rose Oates (00:13):
Buckle up because we're Bearing it All deep,
diving into everything frommotherhood to mental health and
everything in between.
We want to get to know you,each other and our bodies and
things are going to get spicy.
Are you ready for it?
Let's do it.
Each other and our bodies andthings are going to get spicy.
Chrystal (00:25):
Raspassy, are you ready for it?
Rose Oates (00:27):
Let's do it, so you can have your cake girl, because
(00:52):
I know where you like to putthe cake.
Why did I know you were goingto go there?
World?
Chrystal (00:55):
likes icing in places.
You don't want to know.
Actually, you probably do wantto know because it's spicy.
Rose Oates (01:02):
But yeah, we're going to leave that for another
time, but it has been like mybirthday every day this month.
I have celebrated the entiremonth, but officially I turn 40
on the 26th of February, so intwo days.
Chrystal (01:18):
And shit me dead.
I have two days to create themost epic reel of Rosie bloopers
you've ever seen and I need tolike probably not sleep until 2
am tonight making it.
Rose Oates (01:25):
It's going down, she has got way too much ammunition
up her sleeve.
She has been collecting it Anytime I am doing anything.
She's like hello, here's myphone, I just get my phone out.
Chrystal (01:37):
I've got her doing all sorts of random things.
Rose Oates (01:39):
Oh, my God, drunk and sober.
Yeah, most of them honestly aresober.
Yeah, oh my God, drunk andsober.
Yeah, most of them honestly aresober.
Yeah, that's what's worse.
Chrystal (01:46):
Oh God, and you act just as stupid sober, if not
worse.
Rose Oates (01:48):
Yeah, it's better.
Chrystal (01:48):
It's good for me I actually don't need alcohol to
have a good time, but it is your40th birthday and we have been
well, you're not ready for it.
I'm ready for it, I'm fuckingready for and the most epicest
birthday party Epicest, epic,epic.
I don't know the most epicbirthday party.
There is an epic birthday partyhappening this Saturday night,
I know.
Rose Oates (02:09):
I'm actually really, really excited, but I was so
not excited about having abirthday party at all.
Chrystal (02:14):
I think I gave you an ultimatum yeah, between you and
Craig.
I was having a birthday and wejust started plotting it.
Like Craig rang me and was likehey, look like rose has not
made a decision.
What's happening?
I need you to lay down the hardlaw on her.
And I was at work and I waslike look, babe, I'm gonna give
you three options.
Option one you don't do anythingat all that's what I wanted to
(02:35):
do, which is party poopercentral, or we have a massive
party, which is what I wanted todo, or we go on a holiday, yeah
, so I gave her three choicesand I said, by the end of today,
you need to let me know whatwe're doing.
So she didn't have a choice,because I had been already
asking her for months, months.
You did months and months,right?
So anyways, she gave me okay,we're gonna do the party.
(02:59):
We'll do a party, we're gonnado the party.
I was like holy fucking shit,I've got one month to organize
this birthday and she wasexcited.
Rose Oates (03:06):
Like I did not want, I was quite happy to do nothing
.
I generally never celebrate mybirthday.
That irritated the shit out ofme but you know, I know I was
irritating her, but I neverreally have anything, and not
even really drinks.
I don't even really do drinkson my birthday.
I celebrate through the monthLike I do things for myself.
(03:26):
I go get myself something, likeI celebrate it, because I feel
like my birthday is the start ofmy year.
I feel like everybody's yearstarts on their birthday.
That's officially your turn.
You know your lap around thesun is.
For me it's February 26, toFebruary 26 is my official year,
so my official year is about tostart.
It's like me I'm going into likeNew Year's prep, but I reflect
(03:47):
a lot on my birthday and I goquite inwards and I was like why
am I so opposed to having abirthday party?
Like, why am I so opposed to it?
And I honestly, this is like sosad, but I really had to think
about why.
I just didn't want anything andit was overwhelming.
And then there was this.
I didn't tell you this.
(04:07):
So the other night I waswatching Queer Eye.
I love Queer Eye and it alwaysmakes me cry anyway, but it was
about this lady and she wasturned like she was in a
relationship where he didn't lether celebrate herself.
She was very like dominatedagainst and she was coming free.
And then she really, reallywanted a 50th birthday party,
but he was like nah, oh no.
(04:29):
And the words on the screenended up coming up.
So they did a birthday partyfor her all these years later,
where she gets to celebrate it,and the words across the screen
said I'm worth celebrating.
And I cried like a baby and I'mnot just talking like a few
tears, it was like an epiphany.
(04:52):
I was like I'm worthcelebrating.
I was like fuck, I didn't thinkI was worth celebrating.
Chrystal (05:00):
Don't even say that to me, because I would celebrate
you every day.
Rose Oates (05:03):
I it's, and I cried and I cried and I'm talking like
not just tears, like I wassobbing, you were full so in.
So I went to my bedroom becausemy kids are like, oh my god,
she's got quite emotional overqueer eye today.
I went to my room and I went tovoice message you and Renee so
yous are in this group chat thegroup chat is called, uh, bitch
(05:24):
faces turning 40 and I went tothank you guys.
But the sob.
So I was like, oh, I justwanted to send this message and
you're gonna think it's bad, I'mokay but like why didn't you
send it?
I couldn't, I just couldn't.
I was like what in the fuck iswrong with you?
So I went and I recorded it andI was like, oh my God, just
(05:46):
delete that, you idiot.
But I was trying to thank youand Renee and obviously Craig in
the back of my mind for like,actually like showing me how
worthy I am of celebration andactually doing this Like my love
language is acts of service andthe fact that you guys are
doing these things for me.
(06:08):
It just was a lot and it washard to accept.
And the reason I I was like,okay, I'm booking a therapy
session for a start.
Obviously, I do believeeverybody's worthy.
You know how strongly I feelabout that.
Yeah, you do Like everybody'sworth, like you are worthy.
Chrystal (06:24):
But it's funny that you also are at a point where
you're like am I worthy which100%?
Rose Oates (06:29):
fuck.
Chrystal (06:29):
Yes you are.
Do you know what, though?
I've gone extra on this becauseI'm like shit, I don't know
when she's going to let me, soI've done everything you can
think possible.
Rose Oates (06:35):
Oh God yeah.
Chrystal (06:41):
She don't know some of the stuff that's going to
happen.
I don't know if she's going tobe happy with it, but too bad.
Rose Oates (06:47):
No, I'm really really excited now, but it was a
real.
It wasn't to take the mood down, but it was just to be owning
the fact that sometimes youdon't realise things about
yourself.
Oh man, you're a moody bitch.
I didn't like it because Idon't like the attention.
Everyone's like oh, you lovethe attention and I was like you
clearly don't know me.
I love entertaining people.
I love making people feel goodabout themselves.
If I have to make a fool ofmyself so that you laugh and you
(07:10):
feel good about yourself, I'mthere.
I will be there.
Chrystal (07:13):
It's more the fact of like an occasion where they're
coming to celebrate you Me.
Rose Oates (07:16):
The attention is on me just because it's me, yes.
So that's where I found thatone heart.
And I was brought up to be sohumble Don't brag about yourself
, don't do this Like no, you'renot better than anybody else and
so that was so ingrained in me.
And we didn't really celebratebirthdays.
I never had a real.
I had maybe one or two birthdayparties growing up.
(07:39):
I think it was my ninthbirthday, my mom and dad, we had
an 18th and I had a 21st.
That's the parties that I hadever, so birthdays weren't a
thing.
You didn't even really get apresent on your birthday, not
out of just meanness, justbecause I will get you something
later that you need Shit manBirthdays for me are like huge.
(07:59):
Yeah, they've never been big forme, so I've always felt like,
oh, it's all good.
So, yeah, having that epiphanyof like, oh my God, you actually
thought you weren't worthcelebrating, you know and then
the anxiety oh my God, arepeople going to come to my
birthday?
Chrystal (08:12):
Girl, there's like 80 to 100 people coming, so I hope
you're ready for that, jesus.
But I'm so excited for this, soexcited Like this whole party
is like themed around Rose thetheme is like pretty much Rose
all day.
So like it's written everywhere, I was going to put your
mugshot on the cupcakes but Icouldn't because she was like I
was going to get a life-sizecutout.
(08:32):
There was all these things Iwas going to do, but you know I
had to like reel it in a littlebit.
Rose Oates (08:36):
She had to reel in the you side, but the event
planner in you definitely cameout.
Chrystal (08:40):
Oh girl, I was like this is rekindling my love for
events.
Don't get me wrong, guys I willnever go back into events, ever
, ever.
But if you're my bestie and I'mplanning your party, I'm going
to do it spectacular.
Rose Oates (08:51):
Oh, I'm excited, I can't wait.
But there's a whole heap ofemotions, I reckon in your 40th
year, don't you even feel thatLike I feel it, like I'm not
emotional in the sense of like,like I'm feeling sad for myself.
Okay, I had my sad moment, allright.
Chrystal (09:04):
I had my moment.
Rose Oates (09:05):
But I'm also so fucking excited.
Everyone's like, oh my God, 40.
And I'm like I can't wait.
I have been in my child likeI've been raising kids.
I'm a mum of four.
All I've been doing is kids andI still will be, obviously.
But I feel like that part of mylife is over.
I'm no longer having any morechildren.
(09:26):
You're done, skye.
Chrystal (09:28):
You're closed shop.
I'm going.
Rose Oates (09:29):
The shop is closed.
I mean, you do have a moment ofsadness where you know that's
done.
Like all the kids went toschool this year, even though,
like chicks in kinder freedom,it's a different, yeah, so, and
next year they're going to be inschool, all of them, all time.
It's a different era, like I'mwalking into my 40s and going
there's a sense of self comingback you know what I mean like
(09:50):
I'm getting my health sorted.
So, like all of last year, Iwas like, okay, let's get this
shit sorted, let's feel wellagain.
I am loving exercise and mysport and my running and I
haven't loved it for years.
Yeah, and I feel like that's ahuge part of who I am.
I love lifting weights and Ilove running and I want to like
(10:11):
do a marathon, like at the endof next year or end of the year
or end of early next year, maybeeven this year, who knows?
Maybe earlier.
Chrystal (10:18):
I thought of running a marathon.
I'd rather bury myself.
Rose Oates (10:22):
Yeah, but that excites me, Like the fact that
I'm even excited about thatstuff.
Chrystal (10:25):
Yeah it's good, it is really good.
Rose Oates (10:27):
And everyone's got this thing that you know.
Oh, it's so scary to turn 40.
It's not.
Chrystal (10:33):
I'm actually excited to tell people that I'm turning
40 because I don't feel I look40.
I don't know if it's just likeme being a cockhead, but when I
say to people that I'm turning40, they're like what do you
mean?
I'm like say it again.
I know she loves every secondof it.
What do you mean?
They're like you look early,like late 20s, early 30s.
I'm like, oh, are you sure?
Are you sure, please, please.
Rose Oates (10:54):
Like get so excited over it, I feel 40.
Chrystal (10:56):
Yeah, like my hips tell a different story when I'm
trying to get off the floor andmy knees.
Like when I'm being intimateand I'm like, wow, I feel like
you just dislocated a part of mybody.
Pretty sure I did.
I'm pretty sure I did my hipsthat time.
I think he dislocated your hipsthat time.
Pretty sure my kneecaps as well, like I can't kneel for too
long, sorry guys.
Rose Oates (11:15):
That's exactly right .
I think there's a different wayof thinking about 40.
Like, okay, here's the thing,the Golden Girls.
I think the Golden Girls turned40, the actual show turns 40 in
1985.
Wow, so I think they brought itout in 95.
I could be wrong, but it'sclose to that era.
The Golden Girls looked so old,so old.
Chrystal (11:35):
They looked like old, wrinkly grannies.
Rose Oates (11:36):
Yes, they all looked like little grannies.
They're technically grannies.
Yes, they all look like littlegrannies, but I think that but
wait, were they 40?
They would have been our age.
Yeah, no way in hell.
Yes, yeah, I think Blanche waslike 41.
Chrystal (11:45):
She was like 42.
Oh my God, there is no way I'msporting a knitted jumper and a
little granny haircut anytimesoon.
Rose Oates (11:51):
But okay, I saw this app and it was so funny.
Not an app someone had madelike a transformation of like.
They had the Golden Girls andthey put like young hairstyles
on them.
Did they look young?
Oh my God, it changedeverything.
I was like whoa, the power of ahairstyle.
It was the hair they had andeverything.
Also.
(12:12):
I think it's not about how welook younger, it's that we're
not dressing for our age.
Like people were telling thosewomen you have to wear sleeves
now because you're old.
You can't show your arms atthis age.
You have to have a shorthaircut.
You have to have a shorthaircut or you have to wear this
and that, because it was soregimented.
You get to this age, you've gotto look away, you've got to act
a certain way.
Chrystal (12:31):
I did actually laugh at your child a few weeks ago.
I said Indy, what is that blush?
It's so beautiful.
And she beautiful and shelaughed and she said it's
lipstick.
And I went that is what mygranny used to do.
Rose Oates (12:40):
Please don't do that again yeah, she had a lipstick
on and then she just dabbed alittle lipstick.
Yes, my nana used to do that,like with the lipstick.
She was onto something, mate,that was multi-use.
Back then I got it.
Now you just get a three-in-onestick she already knew it was
three-in-one.
Chrystal (12:54):
That is true.
There is three-in-one sticksnowadays.
Yeah, not that, maybelline.
Wear it here, wear it there,wear it on your nipples if you
want to.
Oh Jesus.
Rose Oates (13:01):
Christ.
Well, apparently the best nudelipstick is the same colour as
your nipple, as your nippleRight, sorry, hold on, let me
have a look.
I'll look down there, hold on.
You know I'm 40, so becauseit's right down at my knees,
actually, I'll just lift my top,it's fine.
So yeah, apparently the colorof your nipple gives you the
best nude on your lip.
Oh my God.
Chrystal (13:25):
Shall we do this as a potty?
Yes, let's buy like our nipplelip shades and see if it is true
.
I believe it's true because Iwas like, of course it's like
this you can see it from themoon.
Hello Talking about liketurning 40, right, like, do you
have any like goals for thisyear because you're 40?
(13:46):
Because, remember, we talkedabout 40 before 40.
Well, that ship sailed for you.
Rose Oates (13:51):
I never did 40 before 40.
But a friend of ours is Morgie.
Chrystal (13:55):
She is she's doing a 40 before 40.
Rose Oates (13:57):
But she's obviously got plenty of time, because I
think she.
But I was like how about I do40 while I'm 40?
Chrystal (14:04):
That is amazing 40 in my 40s.
Rose Oates (14:06):
Yes, so 40 things I've never done or I've always
wanted to do while I'm 40.
Give me a few things.
So I think I do like I'm goingto go like that generic.
I do want to jump out of aplane Okay, because that would
scare the shit out of me.
Same, I would probably poopmyself.
I would be like crying, likeCraig would jump out in a
(14:27):
heartbeat.
He would love that adrenaline.
But what gets me is I would beso scared.
So to overcome that fear wouldbe massive.
I think doing like even sillythings, like continuing to learn
to dance, doing a marathon,doing things with my kids that
like you know even the smallthings, because I think Morgan
had those on there.
She was like watch things withmy kids that, like you know even
the small things, because Ithink Morgan had those on there.
(14:47):
She was like watch Titanic withmy kids and I was like what?
But I was like, oh wow, Ididn't think of those.
So watching like some, like allthe iconic movies I think I've
already done that the kids arestarting to, my girls are
starting to knock off like ouriconic movies in Things like
that, just really simple things.
But I also think I thinkfinding what I want to do and
(15:08):
like pushing myself, I think the40, while I'm 40s, while I'm in
my 40s is going to be thingsthat are pushing my boundaries,
that aren't going to becomfortable for me.
It's not even just going to belike, oh, I'm going to jump out
of a plane, like I just said, orI really want to go to Vegas.
It's not just going to be thosethings I want to do, things
(15:30):
that are really going to push meout of that comfort zone and
push me out of that I'm okaywith, like I'm on my last run
here.
Guys.
So zero to 40, no, and I meanthis in a cool way Zero to 40,
we were growing.
So zero to 20, you literallywere a kid.
You're probably still living athome.
You got out of the womb, jesusChrist.
Then 20 to 30, oh my God, youdo so much in your 20s.
(15:51):
So much fun, so much study.
You're working.
You might've started havingkids like I did.
30s continue to have kids, gotmarried, mum era, like working
on, like what do I want to do?
Career 40 and onwards you ain'tdead.
These days we're living to 80and I'm hoping I got 40 good
(16:12):
years in me.
But I've got to be realistic.
Like maybe 70 to 80 I could belike in a Zimmer frame, I could
be Like my knees could be out.
So let's say I've got 30,really like strong, solid years
I'm going to go out with a trailof dust, mate, I am gonna be
skidding into my grave like that, yeah, and just fall in and I'm
(16:34):
gonna be known like at youreulogy people are gonna be
remembering you for like thewild shit you did.
Yeah, the she went to bed at 645 probably what I might go to
bed at 6 45, but as long asduring my waking hours I am
living my best life, like I wantto experience it all, yeah, and
I want travel and I want foodand I want to feed, but I also
(16:58):
want to be healthy and I thinkthat's also a thing that I'm
like.
That's where you're wiping offon me a little bit.
Chrystal (17:03):
Yes, yeah, I did not think about the health aspect,
yes, of getting older.
Yeah, so now you're like I'mgoing to make you do this and
I'm going to make you that youhaven't yet, but I'm going to
let you.
Thank you, yeah, but that's thething.
I might actually go for alittle swim in the ocean.
Rose Oates (17:21):
Yes, it could be, a scene out of Jaws.
Chrystal (17:22):
I don't know.
Rose Oates (17:23):
I don't know, I'll take one for the team.
Okay, I'll poke it in the eyeor something.
The shark, the shark or me, notyou, get in the water, get in
the water, poke you in the eye.
I'll sacrifice her to the shark.
But I think, as well the healthaspect has.
I've been very motivated byturning 40.
I was Feeling the way, feelingfierce, feeling good, fiercely,
(17:45):
40.
Fiercely, 40.
Yeah, bitches, fiery andfiercely.
Yeah, I don't want to lose asense of myself, I want to gain
it.
And I don't even know who sheis yet.
Like, I know she's there but Idon't want to be who I was at 30
.
I don't want to be oh, I wantto go back to who I was.
I don't want to go back to whoI was.
(18:09):
I want to be who I want to benow and move forward with that.
And I think I'm very excited.
I'm very excited but like, yes,the health aspect.
We do have to be healthy.
I've always loved health,fitness, all of that sort of
thing, and my body.
This got really nothing to dowith it, in a sense, but like
I've fluctuated weight here,there, everywhere, I've been in
the thick of like children andnot being well and you know
(18:32):
dealing with, like my gut issues, endo bloody, fucking
ulcerative colitis.
It is a condition that I'mgoing to live with, but it
doesn't mean that I'm not goingto try still look after the body
and the vessel that I've got,because obviously, yeah, our
knees are hurting.
And I've got because obviously,yeah, our knees are hurting and
I think if we do have 30 goodyears we want 40 good years but
(18:53):
if we are strong, looking afterour bones, our health and our
being, you know getting into theweight, so no osteoporosis for
us, baby.
Chrystal (18:57):
Well, as celiacs, we're more prone to having
osteoporosis.
I did not know that.
My auntie was like you need tojust start taking, like a
calcium tablet or something I'mlike what.
Rose Oates (19:07):
So we've got to take all our vitamins, but also
weight training is really,really good for keeping
ourselves strong and healthy andkeeping those bones dense.
I can't believe we've just goneinto that keeping our bones
dense.
I know, but that's also like afun thing, so I can't believe it
we'll have to keep you guysposted on, like her reaction
from the weekend.
Chrystal (19:26):
But don't worry, I've got the photographers, I've got
the content creators, I've gotall the people coming to make
sure that we capture every partof this party.
Rose Oates (19:35):
I'm really excited, like Craig and Crystal have gone
all out and my girlfriend'sbaking like crazy this week I've
never spoken to Craig more inthe last five years than I have
in the past month.
Chrystal (19:46):
Me and him are just like voice noting and like doing
little chats.
Rose Oates (19:50):
It's so, unlike him, I just didn't think he would
want to do this.
You know what?
Chrystal (19:53):
Look as much as you did not want to do anything, he
wants to celebrate you, likeyour husband wanted to celebrate
you.
He wanted to make sure thatthis party was like
unforgettable.
But he was concerned.
Why?
Because he didn't want to letyou down.
Oh, he's so fearful of lettingyou down, like he when craig
speaks to me, I swear to god,this man, he, he has your heart
(20:18):
inside his heart.
I don't know.
Anyways, he thinks about likeall the things he and he was
like if I don't't do it right,she's going to chew my face off.
Oh my God, crazy.
Maybe not to that extent, maybeI made that up, but just saying
like he wanted to make surethat like it was.
And that's where he was like Ineed your help, girl, because I
need it to be epic.
And I was like don't worry,I've got your back.
Rose Oates (20:39):
Yes, you do.
You did been amazing.
He's really he's gone.
No, you're having a party.
He's like.
You know.
I said, oh look, I want to getthe front lawn.
I want fake lawn at the frontinstead.
And he's like no one's going tocare about your fake lawn in 30
years, he's like.
But everyone's going toremember the memories that you
made together at this party andI was like I didn't even think
(20:59):
of that.
Chrystal (21:00):
I think I did scare him, though, cause all my plans.
He was like is this gonna costme 20 grand?
Rose Oates (21:03):
yeah, I yeah, because she, when she gets on a
tangent.
Chrystal (21:07):
She just, I was like I'm booking this and this and
this, and I'm also booking thisand that.
And he was like, um, uh, excuseme, um, what's the budget?
Rose Oates (21:15):
I'm like, oh, don't worry, I got this she's like
there is no budget in my mind.
Chrystal (21:18):
I was like I'm doing all the things, so bye.
Rose Oates (21:22):
I know yeah it's, I don't even know what she's done.
So we're definitely going tofill you in on the party and
share a little bit on our pageand everything like that.
But yeah, I'm excited and Ithink that if you're not excited
about your next era whetherthat be you going into your
thirties or your forties or yourfifties or whatever that is, it
doesn't really matter.
Yeah, just live your best life.
Chrystal (21:46):
And it doesn't really matter.
Yeah, just live your best lifeand celebrate yourself.
Yeah, celebrate yourself.
Rose Oates (21:48):
If you want to have a party, do something for your
birthday to acknowledge the year, to acknowledge yourself that
you've made it this far, becausesome years you have your
birthday and you're like fuck,like it hasn't been a good year
and that's actually okay.
There's been plenty of years, Iwould say that, going into my
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30s oh my God, they were myfavorite.
My first five, six years in my30s so good, after I had Esme.
I have to be honest, those lastthree years I would say oh my
God, they were the hardest of mylife in some ways, like so
fucking hard, like I felt like Ihad to crawl out of a hole more
than once, like I got to thetop and I was like I made it and
then like someone booted me inthe head and I ended up back
down again.
It was really tough.
But then as a whole, we alwaysoverestimate what we can achieve
in one year.
This is a Tony Robbins quote.
(22:34):
Guys, here's the quote of theday.
We always overestimate what wecan achieve in one year and
underestimate what we canachieve in 10.
So, like you've got to look atyour decade, like all the things
that you did, all the thingsyou overcame, that's a lot, that
is a lot, yeah.
So in the last 10 years.
I'm like wow, I'm really proud,I'm really amazed, I can't
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believe I'm here on the otherside and I'm really excited.
Chrystal (23:00):
And I'm ready for this weekend.
I know, look at her face.
The pyjamas arrived today.
The makeup artist is ready.
The dress is bought.
I went this morning andmessaged every single trade and
service to be like this is allplanned.
Check in that you're ready togo.
Rose Oates (23:18):
I know it's all ready, it's all ready to go, and
then just, yeah, we're going tocelebrate something with the
kids on the Wednesday.
Have a little cake go out.
Chrystal (23:25):
Craig actually flies in on my birthday, so, like of
all days, I'm like yeah, andthen I got a little something
planned for you on Thursday atwork.
Rose Oates (23:33):
She doesn't stop, does she?
Chrystal (23:34):
Yeah, you're crazy, I know, I just pre-warned you in
case you get mad at me, butthere's something happening on
Thursday.
Oh God, oh God, and the myanxiety lifts.
I got a stripper coming to work.
Rose Oates (23:44):
I'm joking.
Chrystal (23:45):
I'm joking, craig.
I actually don't.
There's no stripper, only me.
Rose Oates (23:51):
I'm okay with that.
Oh my God.
Well, that was us.
That's my little birthdaywrap-up.
That's it, guys.
We're going in strong this year, big 4-0.
4-0.
We're owning every friggingminute.
It doesn't matter.
Age is honestly just a number,and I am going to be doing 40
while we're 40 and draggingCrystal along for the ride until
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she turns 40 in November, andthen paybacks a bitch because,
honestly, I'll be collectingfootage of every moment of her
so I can make it into a threeminute reel.
And then, yeah, god knows whatwe'll do for your birthday.
She's already planned hers andbooked it, and everything.
Chrystal (24:29):
Spoke to the venue this morning just to double
confirm Hers is in November.
Rose Oates (24:31):
It's in November, completely done.
Chrystal (24:32):
It's in November, but I'm just a planner.
Yeah, you love that.
Rose Oates (24:35):
I love it.
I can't wait for yours,actually, and it's a cowboy
theme.
Chrystal (24:38):
So like me and Rose have decided.
Rose Oates (24:45):
Yeah, like cowboy.
Chrystal (24:46):
It's like last hoedown , something like that.
You know, but H-O-E Like a ho.
But me and my husband are amonth apart and our friend
circle and family obviously allcan join.
We're just going to do one big,massive fucking hoedown.
Yes, corn on the cob.
Rose Oates (25:04):
I don't know, I need to suss this out.
Yeah, some like ranchy stylefood.
Yeah, I hope so.
I hope the venue can do that.
Chrystal (25:09):
I'm sure I'm going to chat.
I'll be like, make it realranchy.
Rose Oates (25:12):
Yes, yeah, make it real country.
Chrystal (25:16):
Make it real country.
I can't wait.
Rose Oates (25:18):
Oh, the denim I can't wait to get an outfit.
It's a denim theme.
It's denim and diamonds.
Chrystal (25:22):
That's the theme.
Yes, I'm trying to get mytitties done before I'm 40.
So, instead, like I'm hopingthey're back up where they need
to be.
You know, Drop Back up therewould be nice, but we'll see if
I can afford it.
I need to try and get some coin.
Rose Oates (25:38):
Yeah, oh, there you go.
Look at her.
She's like Trying to suss outwhat body part.
Chrystal (25:43):
I need to sell, you know.
Yeah, well, just the kidneywill probably get the lift, I
know.
But you know, I don't know ifthey're working that well.
Rose Oates (25:48):
To be honest with you, though, I want this is what
we're going to look after ourhealth.
But on the titty front,actually, yes, I want someone
that can lift and do a good jobLike lift them, cut the nipple
down to a regular size.
Like cabernet instead of asalami yeah that would be nice.
Yeah, just do like I don't wantlike a big knocker, they're
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scary.
No, I just need them.
That's on my 40 before 40 listOn the 40, yeah, let's just see
if it happens.
Mine's already, mine's maybe 40while I'm 40.
Chrystal (26:18):
I might need to put my credit card limit up somehow.
Rose Oates (26:21):
Can you?
Chrystal (26:21):
put a boob job on there, I would say so.
I don't actually know.
On the, definitely not.
You're like um, excuse me, wasthat necessary?
I need to be on social media.
My titties need to be in line.
Yes, um, when I'm talking andit's face, it's like one of
those.
Yeah, it's dropping where it'slike they're at my kneecaps um,
and yes it's.
Rose Oates (26:39):
It's distracting the customers exactly.
Chrystal (26:41):
Yeah, sorry well, all right.
Well, let's start getting thislist together I would love to
see it, but if you want to jumpout of a plane next week, I I'm
ready for it.
Rose Oates (26:48):
Okay, let's do it so during the year.
I think we'll share our 40while we're 40 list and maybe
take you guys along for the ride.
Maybe we'll have to get Paulyto film some of the 40 during
the 40th.
Chrystal (27:01):
Oh God, Swimming in the ocean, the fear in my face.
Have you?
Rose Oates (27:05):
not swum in the ocean, not in a very long time.
Chrystal (27:07):
Okay, so this year we went to the beach a couple of
weeks ago and I made sure I worejeans.
There was no way, if the kidswere like, come on, mum, I'd be
like no, I'm wearing jeans, ohmy god.
Rose Oates (27:17):
Okay, that's one we're ticking off.
That's an easy one, that's gone.
Get in the ocean this year.
Okay, wash away everything.
I's soothing.
Chrystal (27:27):
It's cleansing, it doesn't wash away my fear.
Wash away the fear, which willprobably attract the sharks, but
anyways, the shark doesn't cometo the shore in the.
Don't lie.
I've seen it on seven news.
It's been at the shore.
Rose Oates (27:40):
Not what it was sitting in the froth, pretty
much.
No, it wasn't.
I'm just saying I've seen it.
If you see the helicopter andthe siren get out of the water,
I'll probably be like frozen Iwon't be able to move.
Chrystal (27:51):
Oh God, You'll have to throw me over your shoulder
because I used to do Surf LifeClub, surf Life Saving.
Rose Oates (27:57):
So will we chuck you over?
Oh, my God, I'll just hit thedesk.
Anyway, until then, take careof your.
Oh, we've stuffed it again.
I can't remember.
Welcome to Bearing it All with Rose and Crystal.
Chrystal (00:08):
Where the conversations get real emotions
run raw and nothing is filtered.
Rose Oates (00:13):
Buckle up because we're Bearing it All deep,
diving into everything frommotherhood to mental health and
everything in between.
We want to get to know you,each other and our bodies and
things are going to get spicy.
Are you ready for it?
Let's do it.
Each other and our bodies andthings are going to get spicy.
Chrystal (00:25):
Raspassy, are you ready for it?
Rose Oates (00:27):
Let's do it, so you can have your cake girl, because
(00:52):
I know where you like to putthe cake.
Why did I know you were goingto go there?
World?
Chrystal (00:55):
likes icing in places.
You don't want to know.
Actually, you probably do wantto know because it's spicy.
Rose Oates (01:02):
But yeah, we're going to leave that for another
time, but it has been like mybirthday every day this month.
I have celebrated the entiremonth, but officially I turn 40
on the 26th of February, so intwo days.
Chrystal (01:18):
And shit me dead.
I have two days to create themost epic reel of Rosie bloopers
you've ever seen and I need tolike probably not sleep until 2
am tonight making it.
Rose Oates (01:25):
It's going down, she has got way too much ammunition
up her sleeve.
She has been collecting it Anytime I am doing anything.
She's like hello, here's myphone, I just get my phone out.
Chrystal (01:37):
I've got her doing all sorts of random things.
Rose Oates (01:39):
Oh, my God, drunk and sober.
Yeah, most of them honestly aresober.
Yeah, oh my God, drunk andsober.
Yeah, most of them honestly aresober.
Yeah, that's what's worse.
Chrystal (01:46):
Oh God, and you act just as stupid sober, if not
worse.
Rose Oates (01:48):
Yeah, it's better.
Chrystal (01:48):
It's good for me I actually don't need alcohol to
have a good time, but it is your40th birthday and we have been
well, you're not ready for it.
I'm ready for it, I'm fuckingready for and the most epicest
birthday party Epicest, epic,epic.
I don't know the most epicbirthday party.
There is an epic birthday partyhappening this Saturday night,
I know.
Rose Oates (02:09):
I'm actually really, really excited, but I was so
not excited about having abirthday party at all.
Chrystal (02:14):
I think I gave you an ultimatum yeah, between you and
Craig.
I was having a birthday and wejust started plotting it.
Like Craig rang me and was likehey, look like rose has not
made a decision.
What's happening?
I need you to lay down the hardlaw on her.
And I was at work and I waslike look, babe, I'm gonna give
you three options.
Option one you don't do anythingat all that's what I wanted to
(02:35):
do, which is party poopercentral, or we have a massive
party, which is what I wanted todo, or we go on a holiday, yeah
, so I gave her three choicesand I said, by the end of today,
you need to let me know whatwe're doing.
So she didn't have a choice,because I had been already
asking her for months, months.
You did months and months,right?
So anyways, she gave me okay,we're gonna do the party.
(02:59):
We'll do a party, we're gonnado the party.
I was like holy fucking shit,I've got one month to organize
this birthday and she wasexcited.
Rose Oates (03:06):
Like I did not want, I was quite happy to do nothing
.
I generally never celebrate mybirthday.
That irritated the shit out ofme but you know, I know I was
irritating her, but I neverreally have anything, and not
even really drinks.
I don't even really do drinkson my birthday.
I celebrate through the monthLike I do things for myself.
(03:26):
I go get myself something, likeI celebrate it, because I feel
like my birthday is the start ofmy year.
I feel like everybody's yearstarts on their birthday.
That's officially your turn.
You know your lap around thesun is.
For me it's February 26, toFebruary 26 is my official year,
so my official year is about tostart.
It's like me I'm going into likeNew Year's prep, but I reflect
(03:47):
a lot on my birthday and I goquite inwards and I was like why
am I so opposed to having abirthday party?
Like, why am I so opposed to it?
And I honestly, this is like sosad, but I really had to think
about why.
I just didn't want anything andit was overwhelming.
And then there was this.
I didn't tell you this.
(04:07):
So the other night I waswatching Queer Eye.
I love Queer Eye and it alwaysmakes me cry anyway, but it was
about this lady and she wasturned like she was in a
relationship where he didn't lether celebrate herself.
She was very like dominatedagainst and she was coming free.
And then she really, reallywanted a 50th birthday party,
but he was like nah, oh no.
(04:29):
And the words on the screenended up coming up.
So they did a birthday partyfor her all these years later,
where she gets to celebrate it,and the words across the screen
said I'm worth celebrating.
And I cried like a baby and I'mnot just talking like a few
tears, it was like an epiphany.
(04:52):
I was like I'm worthcelebrating.
I was like fuck, I didn't thinkI was worth celebrating.
Chrystal (05:00):
Don't even say that to me, because I would celebrate
you every day.
Rose Oates (05:03):
I it's, and I cried and I cried and I'm talking like
not just tears, like I wassobbing, you were full so in.
So I went to my bedroom becausemy kids are like, oh my god,
she's got quite emotional overqueer eye today.
I went to my room and I went tovoice message you and Renee so
yous are in this group chat thegroup chat is called, uh, bitch
(05:24):
faces turning 40 and I went tothank you guys.
But the sob.
So I was like, oh, I justwanted to send this message and
you're gonna think it's bad, I'mokay but like why didn't you
send it?
I couldn't, I just couldn't.
I was like what in the fuck iswrong with you?
So I went and I recorded it andI was like, oh my God, just
(05:46):
delete that, you idiot.
But I was trying to thank youand Renee and obviously Craig in
the back of my mind for like,actually like showing me how
worthy I am of celebration andactually doing this Like my love
language is acts of service andthe fact that you guys are
doing these things for me.
(06:08):
It just was a lot and it washard to accept.
And the reason I I was like,okay, I'm booking a therapy
session for a start.
Obviously, I do believeeverybody's worthy.
You know how strongly I feelabout that.
Yeah, you do Like everybody'sworth, like you are worthy.
Chrystal (06:24):
But it's funny that you also are at a point where
you're like am I worthy which100%?
Rose Oates (06:29):
fuck.
Chrystal (06:29):
Yes you are.
Do you know what, though?
I've gone extra on this becauseI'm like shit, I don't know
when she's going to let me, soI've done everything you can
think possible.
Rose Oates (06:35):
Oh God yeah.
Chrystal (06:41):
She don't know some of the stuff that's going to
happen.
I don't know if she's going tobe happy with it, but too bad.
Rose Oates (06:47):
No, I'm really really excited now, but it was a
real.
It wasn't to take the mood down, but it was just to be owning
the fact that sometimes youdon't realise things about
yourself.
Oh man, you're a moody bitch.
I didn't like it because Idon't like the attention.
Everyone's like oh, you lovethe attention and I was like you
clearly don't know me.
I love entertaining people.
I love making people feel goodabout themselves.
If I have to make a fool ofmyself so that you laugh and you
(07:10):
feel good about yourself, I'mthere.
I will be there.
Chrystal (07:13):
It's more the fact of like an occasion where they're
coming to celebrate you Me.
Rose Oates (07:16):
The attention is on me just because it's me, yes.
So that's where I found thatone heart.
And I was brought up to be sohumble Don't brag about yourself
, don't do this Like no, you'renot better than anybody else and
so that was so ingrained in me.
And we didn't really celebratebirthdays.
I never had a real.
I had maybe one or two birthdayparties growing up.
(07:39):
I think it was my ninthbirthday, my mom and dad, we had
an 18th and I had a 21st.
That's the parties that I hadever, so birthdays weren't a
thing.
You didn't even really get apresent on your birthday, not
out of just meanness, justbecause I will get you something
later that you need Shit manBirthdays for me are like huge.
(07:59):
Yeah, they've never been big forme, so I've always felt like,
oh, it's all good.
So, yeah, having that epiphanyof like, oh my God, you actually
thought you weren't worthcelebrating, you know and then
the anxiety oh my God, arepeople going to come to my
birthday?
Chrystal (08:12):
Girl, there's like 80 to 100 people coming, so I hope
you're ready for that, jesus.
But I'm so excited for this, soexcited Like this whole party
is like themed around Rose thetheme is like pretty much Rose
all day.
So like it's written everywhere, I was going to put your
mugshot on the cupcakes but Icouldn't because she was like I
was going to get a life-sizecutout.
(08:32):
There was all these things Iwas going to do, but you know I
had to like reel it in a littlebit.
Rose Oates (08:36):
She had to reel in the you side, but the event
planner in you definitely cameout.
Chrystal (08:40):
Oh girl, I was like this is rekindling my love for
events.
Don't get me wrong, guys I willnever go back into events, ever
, ever.
But if you're my bestie and I'mplanning your party, I'm going
to do it spectacular.
Rose Oates (08:51):
Oh, I'm excited, I can't wait.
But there's a whole heap ofemotions, I reckon in your 40th
year, don't you even feel thatLike I feel it, like I'm not
emotional in the sense of like,like I'm feeling sad for myself.
Okay, I had my sad moment, allright.
Chrystal (09:04):
I had my moment.
Rose Oates (09:05):
But I'm also so fucking excited.
Everyone's like, oh my God, 40.
And I'm like I can't wait.
I have been in my child likeI've been raising kids.
I'm a mum of four.
All I've been doing is kids andI still will be, obviously.
But I feel like that part of mylife is over.
I'm no longer having any morechildren.
(09:26):
You're done, skye.
Chrystal (09:28):
You're closed shop.
I'm going.
Rose Oates (09:29):
The shop is closed.
I mean, you do have a moment ofsadness where you know that's
done.
Like all the kids went toschool this year, even though,
like chicks in kinder freedom,it's a different, yeah, so, and
next year they're going to be inschool, all of them, all time.
It's a different era, like I'mwalking into my 40s and going
there's a sense of self comingback you know what I mean like
(09:50):
I'm getting my health sorted.
So, like all of last year, Iwas like, okay, let's get this
shit sorted, let's feel wellagain.
I am loving exercise and mysport and my running and I
haven't loved it for years.
Yeah, and I feel like that's ahuge part of who I am.
I love lifting weights and Ilove running and I want to like
(10:11):
do a marathon, like at the endof next year or end of the year
or end of early next year, maybeeven this year, who knows?
Maybe earlier.
Chrystal (10:18):
I thought of running a marathon.
I'd rather bury myself.
Rose Oates (10:22):
Yeah, but that excites me, Like the fact that
I'm even excited about thatstuff.
Chrystal (10:25):
Yeah it's good, it is really good.
Rose Oates (10:27):
And everyone's got this thing that you know.
Oh, it's so scary to turn 40.
It's not.
Chrystal (10:33):
I'm actually excited to tell people that I'm turning
40 because I don't feel I look40.
I don't know if it's just likeme being a cockhead, but when I
say to people that I'm turning40, they're like what do you
mean?
I'm like say it again.
I know she loves every secondof it.
What do you mean?
They're like you look early,like late 20s, early 30s.
I'm like, oh, are you sure?
Are you sure, please, please.
Rose Oates (10:54):
Like get so excited over it, I feel 40.
Chrystal (10:56):
Yeah, like my hips tell a different story when I'm
trying to get off the floor andmy knees.
Like when I'm being intimateand I'm like, wow, I feel like
you just dislocated a part of mybody.
Pretty sure I did.
I'm pretty sure I did my hipsthat time.
I think he dislocated your hipsthat time.
Pretty sure my kneecaps as well, like I can't kneel for too
long, sorry guys.
Rose Oates (11:15):
That's exactly right .
I think there's a different wayof thinking about 40.
Like, okay, here's the thing,the Golden Girls.
I think the Golden Girls turned40, the actual show turns 40 in
1985.
Wow, so I think they brought itout in 95.
I could be wrong, but it'sclose to that era.
The Golden Girls looked so old,so old.
Chrystal (11:35):
They looked like old, wrinkly grannies.
Rose Oates (11:36):
Yes, they all looked like little grannies.
They're technically grannies.
Yes, they all look like littlegrannies, but I think that but
wait, were they 40?
They would have been our age.
Yeah, no way in hell.
Yes, yeah, I think Blanche waslike 41.
Chrystal (11:45):
She was like 42.
Oh my God, there is no way I'msporting a knitted jumper and a
little granny haircut anytimesoon.
Rose Oates (11:51):
But okay, I saw this app and it was so funny.
Not an app someone had madelike a transformation of like.
They had the Golden Girls andthey put like young hairstyles
on them.
Did they look young?
Oh my God, it changedeverything.
I was like whoa, the power of ahairstyle.
It was the hair they had andeverything.
Also.
(12:12):
I think it's not about how welook younger, it's that we're
not dressing for our age.
Like people were telling thosewomen you have to wear sleeves
now because you're old.
You can't show your arms atthis age.
You have to have a shorthaircut.
You have to have a shorthaircut or you have to wear this
and that, because it was soregimented.
You get to this age, you've gotto look away, you've got to act
a certain way.
Chrystal (12:31):
I did actually laugh at your child a few weeks ago.
I said Indy, what is that blush?
It's so beautiful.
And she beautiful and shelaughed and she said it's
lipstick.
And I went that is what mygranny used to do.
Rose Oates (12:40):
Please don't do that again yeah, she had a lipstick
on and then she just dabbed alittle lipstick.
Yes, my nana used to do that,like with the lipstick.
She was onto something, mate,that was multi-use.
Back then I got it.
Now you just get a three-in-onestick she already knew it was
three-in-one.
Chrystal (12:54):
That is true.
There is three-in-one sticksnowadays.
Yeah, not that, maybelline.
Wear it here, wear it there,wear it on your nipples if you
want to.
Oh Jesus.
Rose Oates (13:01):
Christ.
Well, apparently the best nudelipstick is the same colour as
your nipple, as your nippleRight, sorry, hold on, let me
have a look.
I'll look down there, hold on.
You know I'm 40, so becauseit's right down at my knees,
actually, I'll just lift my top,it's fine.
So yeah, apparently the colorof your nipple gives you the
best nude on your lip.
Oh my God.
Chrystal (13:25):
Shall we do this as a potty?
Yes, let's buy like our nipplelip shades and see if it is true
.
I believe it's true because Iwas like, of course it's like
this you can see it from themoon.
Hello Talking about liketurning 40, right, like, do you
have any like goals for thisyear because you're 40?
(13:46):
Because, remember, we talkedabout 40 before 40.
Well, that ship sailed for you.
Rose Oates (13:51):
I never did 40 before 40.
But a friend of ours is Morgie.
Chrystal (13:55):
She is she's doing a 40 before 40.
Rose Oates (13:57):
But she's obviously got plenty of time, because I
think she.
But I was like how about I do40 while I'm 40?
Chrystal (14:04):
That is amazing 40 in my 40s.
Rose Oates (14:06):
Yes, so 40 things I've never done or I've always
wanted to do while I'm 40.
Give me a few things.
So I think I do like I'm goingto go like that generic.
I do want to jump out of aplane Okay, because that would
scare the shit out of me.
Same, I would probably poopmyself.
I would be like crying, likeCraig would jump out in a
(14:27):
heartbeat.
He would love that adrenaline.
But what gets me is I would beso scared.
So to overcome that fear wouldbe massive.
I think doing like even sillythings, like continuing to learn
to dance, doing a marathon,doing things with my kids that
like you know even the smallthings, because I think Morgan
had those on there.
She was like watch things withmy kids that, like you know even
the small things, because Ithink Morgan had those on there.
(14:47):
She was like watch Titanic withmy kids and I was like what?
But I was like, oh wow, Ididn't think of those.
So watching like some, like allthe iconic movies I think I've
already done that the kids arestarting to, my girls are
starting to knock off like ouriconic movies in Things like
that, just really simple things.
But I also think I thinkfinding what I want to do and
(15:08):
like pushing myself, I think the40, while I'm 40s, while I'm in
my 40s is going to be thingsthat are pushing my boundaries,
that aren't going to becomfortable for me.
It's not even just going to belike, oh, I'm going to jump out
of a plane, like I just said, orI really want to go to Vegas.
It's not just going to be thosethings I want to do, things
(15:30):
that are really going to push meout of that comfort zone and
push me out of that I'm okaywith, like I'm on my last run
here.
Guys.
So zero to 40, no, and I meanthis in a cool way Zero to 40,
we were growing.
So zero to 20, you literallywere a kid.
You're probably still living athome.
You got out of the womb, jesusChrist.
Then 20 to 30, oh my God, youdo so much in your 20s.
(15:51):
So much fun, so much study.
You're working.
You might've started havingkids like I did.
30s continue to have kids, gotmarried, mum era, like working
on, like what do I want to do?
Career 40 and onwards you ain'tdead.
These days we're living to 80and I'm hoping I got 40 good
(16:12):
years in me.
But I've got to be realistic.
Like maybe 70 to 80 I could belike in a Zimmer frame, I could
be Like my knees could be out.
So let's say I've got 30,really like strong, solid years
I'm going to go out with a trailof dust, mate, I am gonna be
skidding into my grave like that, yeah, and just fall in and I'm
(16:34):
gonna be known like at youreulogy people are gonna be
remembering you for like thewild shit you did.
Yeah, the she went to bed at 645 probably what I might go to
bed at 6 45, but as long asduring my waking hours I am
living my best life, like I wantto experience it all, yeah, and
I want travel and I want foodand I want to feed, but I also
(16:58):
want to be healthy and I thinkthat's also a thing that I'm
like.
That's where you're wiping offon me a little bit.
Chrystal (17:03):
Yes, yeah, I did not think about the health aspect,
yes, of getting older.
Yeah, so now you're like I'mgoing to make you do this and
I'm going to make you that youhaven't yet, but I'm going to
let you.
Thank you, yeah, but that's thething.
I might actually go for alittle swim in the ocean.
Rose Oates (17:21):
Yes, it could be, a scene out of Jaws.
Chrystal (17:22):
I don't know.
Rose Oates (17:23):
I don't know, I'll take one for the team.
Okay, I'll poke it in the eyeor something.
The shark, the shark or me, notyou, get in the water, get in
the water, poke you in the eye.
I'll sacrifice her to the shark.
But I think, as well the healthaspect has.
I've been very motivated byturning 40.
I was Feeling the way, feelingfierce, feeling good, fiercely,
(17:45):
40.
Fiercely, 40.
Yeah, bitches, fiery andfiercely.
Yeah, I don't want to lose asense of myself, I want to gain
it.
And I don't even know who sheis yet.
Like, I know she's there but Idon't want to be who I was at 30
.
I don't want to be oh, I wantto go back to who I was.
I don't want to go back to whoI was.
(18:09):
I want to be who I want to benow and move forward with that.
And I think I'm very excited.
I'm very excited but like, yes,the health aspect.
We do have to be healthy.
I've always loved health,fitness, all of that sort of
thing, and my body.
This got really nothing to dowith it, in a sense, but like
I've fluctuated weight here,there, everywhere, I've been in
the thick of like children andnot being well and you know
(18:32):
dealing with, like my gut issues, endo bloody, fucking
ulcerative colitis.
It is a condition that I'mgoing to live with, but it
doesn't mean that I'm not goingto try still look after the body
and the vessel that I've got,because obviously, yeah, our
knees are hurting.
And I've got because obviously,yeah, our knees are hurting and
I think if we do have 30 goodyears we want 40 good years but
(18:53):
if we are strong, looking afterour bones, our health and our
being, you know getting into theweight, so no osteoporosis for
us, baby.
Chrystal (18:57):
Well, as celiacs, we're more prone to having
osteoporosis.
I did not know that.
My auntie was like you need tojust start taking, like a
calcium tablet or something I'mlike what.
Rose Oates (19:07):
So we've got to take all our vitamins, but also
weight training is really,really good for keeping
ourselves strong and healthy andkeeping those bones dense.
I can't believe we've just goneinto that keeping our bones
dense.
I know, but that's also like afun thing, so I can't believe it
we'll have to keep you guysposted on, like her reaction
from the weekend.
Chrystal (19:26):
But don't worry, I've got the photographers, I've got
the content creators, I've gotall the people coming to make
sure that we capture every partof this party.
Rose Oates (19:35):
I'm really excited, like Craig and Crystal have gone
all out and my girlfriend'sbaking like crazy this week I've
never spoken to Craig more inthe last five years than I have
in the past month.
Chrystal (19:46):
Me and him are just like voice noting and like doing
little chats.
Rose Oates (19:50):
It's so, unlike him, I just didn't think he would
want to do this.
You know what?
Chrystal (19:53):
Look as much as you did not want to do anything, he
wants to celebrate you, likeyour husband wanted to celebrate
you.
He wanted to make sure thatthis party was like
unforgettable.
But he was concerned.
Why?
Because he didn't want to letyou down.
Oh, he's so fearful of lettingyou down, like he when craig
speaks to me, I swear to god,this man, he, he has your heart
(20:18):
inside his heart.
I don't know.
Anyways, he thinks about likeall the things he and he was
like if I don't't do it right,she's going to chew my face off.
Oh my God, crazy.
Maybe not to that extent, maybeI made that up, but just saying
like he wanted to make surethat like it was.
And that's where he was like Ineed your help, girl, because I
need it to be epic.
And I was like don't worry,I've got your back.
Rose Oates (20:39):
Yes, you do.
You did been amazing.
He's really he's gone.
No, you're having a party.
He's like.
You know.
I said, oh look, I want to getthe front lawn.
I want fake lawn at the frontinstead.
And he's like no one's going tocare about your fake lawn in 30
years, he's like.
But everyone's going toremember the memories that you
made together at this party andI was like I didn't even think
(20:59):
of that.
Chrystal (21:00):
I think I did scare him, though, cause all my plans.
He was like is this gonna costme 20 grand?
Rose Oates (21:03):
yeah, I yeah, because she, when she gets on a
tangent.
Chrystal (21:07):
She just, I was like I'm booking this and this and
this, and I'm also booking thisand that.
And he was like, um, uh, excuseme, um, what's the budget?
Rose Oates (21:15):
I'm like, oh, don't worry, I got this she's like
there is no budget in my mind.
Chrystal (21:18):
I was like I'm doing all the things, so bye.
Rose Oates (21:22):
I know yeah it's, I don't even know what she's done.
So we're definitely going tofill you in on the party and
share a little bit on our pageand everything like that.
But yeah, I'm excited and Ithink that if you're not excited
about your next era whetherthat be you going into your
thirties or your forties or yourfifties or whatever that is, it
doesn't really matter.
Yeah, just live your best life.
Chrystal (21:46):
And it doesn't really matter.
Yeah, just live your best lifeand celebrate yourself.
Yeah, celebrate yourself.
Rose Oates (21:48):
If you want to have a party, do something for your
birthday to acknowledge the year, to acknowledge yourself that
you've made it this far, becausesome years you have your
birthday and you're like fuck,like it hasn't been a good year
and that's actually okay.
There's been plenty of years, Iwould say that, going into my
(22:13):
30s oh my God, they were myfavorite.
My first five, six years in my30s so good, after I had Esme.
I have to be honest, those lastthree years I would say oh my
God, they were the hardest of mylife in some ways, like so
fucking hard, like I felt like Ihad to crawl out of a hole more
than once, like I got to thetop and I was like I made it and
then like someone booted me inthe head and I ended up back
down again.
It was really tough.
But then as a whole, we alwaysoverestimate what we can achieve
in one year.
This is a Tony Robbins quote.
(22:34):
Guys, here's the quote of theday.
We always overestimate what wecan achieve in one year and
underestimate what we canachieve in 10.
So, like you've got to look atyour decade, like all the things
that you did, all the thingsyou overcame, that's a lot, that
is a lot, yeah.
So in the last 10 years.
I'm like wow, I'm really proud,I'm really amazed, I can't
(22:56):
believe I'm here on the otherside and I'm really excited.
Chrystal (23:00):
And I'm ready for this weekend.
I know, look at her face.
The pyjamas arrived today.
The makeup artist is ready.
The dress is bought.
I went this morning andmessaged every single trade and
service to be like this is allplanned.
Check in that you're ready togo.
Rose Oates (23:18):
I know it's all ready, it's all ready to go, and
then just, yeah, we're going tocelebrate something with the
kids on the Wednesday.
Have a little cake go out.
Chrystal (23:25):
Craig actually flies in on my birthday, so, like of
all days, I'm like yeah, andthen I got a little something
planned for you on Thursday atwork.
Rose Oates (23:33):
She doesn't stop, does she?
Chrystal (23:34):
Yeah, you're crazy, I know, I just pre-warned you in
case you get mad at me, butthere's something happening on
Thursday.
Oh God, oh God, and the myanxiety lifts.
I got a stripper coming to work.
Rose Oates (23:44):
I'm joking.
Chrystal (23:45):
I'm joking, craig.
I actually don't.
There's no stripper, only me.
Rose Oates (23:51):
I'm okay with that.
Oh my God.
Well, that was us.
That's my little birthdaywrap-up.
That's it, guys.
We're going in strong this year, big 4-0.
4-0.
We're owning every friggingminute.
It doesn't matter.
Age is honestly just a number,and I am going to be doing 40
while we're 40 and draggingCrystal along for the ride until
(24:13):
she turns 40 in November, andthen paybacks a bitch because,
honestly, I'll be collectingfootage of every moment of her
so I can make it into a threeminute reel.
And then, yeah, god knows whatwe'll do for your birthday.
She's already planned hers andbooked it, and everything.
Chrystal (24:29):
Spoke to the venue this morning just to double
confirm Hers is in November.
Rose Oates (24:31):
It's in November, completely done.
Chrystal (24:32):
It's in November, but I'm just a planner.
Yeah, you love that.
Rose Oates (24:35):
I love it.
I can't wait for yours,actually, and it's a cowboy
theme.
Chrystal (24:38):
So like me and Rose have decided.
Rose Oates (24:45):
Yeah, like cowboy.
Chrystal (24:46):
It's like last hoedown , something like that.
You know, but H-O-E Like a ho.
But me and my husband are amonth apart and our friend
circle and family obviously allcan join.
We're just going to do one big,massive fucking hoedown.
Yes, corn on the cob.
Rose Oates (25:04):
I don't know, I need to suss this out.
Yeah, some like ranchy stylefood.
Yeah, I hope so.
I hope the venue can do that.
Chrystal (25:09):
I'm sure I'm going to chat.
I'll be like, make it realranchy.
Rose Oates (25:12):
Yes, yeah, make it real country.
Chrystal (25:16):
Make it real country.
I can't wait.
Rose Oates (25:18):
Oh, the denim I can't wait to get an outfit.
It's a denim theme.
It's denim and diamonds.
Chrystal (25:22):
That's the theme.
Yes, I'm trying to get mytitties done before I'm 40.
So, instead, like I'm hopingthey're back up where they need
to be.
You know, Drop Back up therewould be nice, but we'll see if
I can afford it.
I need to try and get some coin.
Rose Oates (25:38):
Yeah, oh, there you go.
Look at her.
She's like Trying to suss outwhat body part.
Chrystal (25:43):
I need to sell, you know.
Yeah, well, just the kidneywill probably get the lift, I
know.
But you know, I don't know ifthey're working that well.
Rose Oates (25:48):
To be honest with you, though, I want this is what
we're going to look after ourhealth.
But on the titty front,actually, yes, I want someone
that can lift and do a good jobLike lift them, cut the nipple
down to a regular size.
Like cabernet instead of asalami yeah that would be nice.
Yeah, just do like I don't wantlike a big knocker, they're
(26:10):
scary.
No, I just need them.
That's on my 40 before 40 listOn the 40, yeah, let's just see
if it happens.
Mine's already, mine's maybe 40while I'm 40.
Chrystal (26:18):
I might need to put my credit card limit up somehow.
Rose Oates (26:21):
Can you?
Chrystal (26:21):
put a boob job on there, I would say so.
I don't actually know.
On the, definitely not.
You're like um, excuse me, wasthat necessary?
I need to be on social media.
My titties need to be in line.
Yes, um, when I'm talking andit's face, it's like one of
those.
Yeah, it's dropping where it'slike they're at my kneecaps um,
and yes it's.
Rose Oates (26:39):
It's distracting the customers exactly.
Chrystal (26:41):
Yeah, sorry well, all right.
Well, let's start getting thislist together I would love to
see it, but if you want to jumpout of a plane next week, I I'm
ready for it.
Rose Oates (26:48):
Okay, let's do it so during the year.
I think we'll share our 40while we're 40 list and maybe
take you guys along for the ride.
Maybe we'll have to get Paulyto film some of the 40 during
the 40th.
Chrystal (27:01):
Oh God, Swimming in the ocean, the fear in my face.
Have you?
Rose Oates (27:05):
not swum in the ocean, not in a very long time.
Chrystal (27:07):
Okay, so this year we went to the beach a couple of
weeks ago and I made sure I worejeans.
There was no way, if the kidswere like, come on, mum, I'd be
like no, I'm wearing jeans, ohmy god.
Rose Oates (27:17):
Okay, that's one we're ticking off.
That's an easy one, that's gone.
Get in the ocean this year.
Okay, wash away everything.
I's soothing.
Chrystal (27:27):
It's cleansing, it doesn't wash away my fear.
Wash away the fear, which willprobably attract the sharks, but
anyways, the shark doesn't cometo the shore in the.
Don't lie.
I've seen it on seven news.
It's been at the shore.
Rose Oates (27:40):
Not what it was sitting in the froth, pretty
much.
No, it wasn't.
I'm just saying I've seen it.
If you see the helicopter andthe siren get out of the water,
I'll probably be like frozen Iwon't be able to move.
Chrystal (27:51):
Oh God, You'll have to throw me over your shoulder
because I used to do Surf LifeClub, surf Life Saving.
Rose Oates (27:57):
So will we chuck you over?
Oh, my God, I'll just hit thedesk.
Anyway, until then, take careof your.
Oh, we've stuffed it again.
I can't remember.
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