#40 Gentle Nudge: Make Your Motive Clear & Clean

Ever had someone say one thing but mean something totally different? 🙃 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dive into Chapter 19: “Make Your Motive Clear and Clean”—a gentle nudge to check your intentions before you speak or act.

Key takeaways:

• 💡 Say what you mean, mean what you say—but don’t say it mean: The golden rule of clear communication.
• 🧹 Check your motives: Are you being passive-aggressive or trying to “win”? Time for a little self-reflection!
• 🧠 Trust your gut: Why we can often sense when someone’s motives aren’t pure—and how to avoid being that person.

Harry shares stories about catching himself before making sarcastic comments (we’ve all been there!) and explains why even well-intentioned words can land badly if we’re not careful. Connie highlights how being upfront and kind creates trust—and why beating around the bush can make people uneasy.

Perfect for anyone who wants to communicate with more honesty and kindness! Tune in for practical tips, relatable laughs, and a reminder to keep your motives as clean as your words. 🌟

(Mini-episode, major impact—great for your next coffee break!)

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