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Teresa Whiting (00:00):
Hey friends,
welcome back.
I am so excited to be back withyou again after taking the
summer off.
As you may have noticed, somethings have changed around here,
and that's what this episode isall about.
I'm going to tell you what'schanging, what's staying the
same and what it all means foryou.
Hi, friend, if you've everwondered how God's Word connects
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with the messy, broken parts ofyour story, you're in the right
place.
Welcome to Beauty in theBrokenness, formerly Find Hope
here, where we have honestconversations about the Bible,
our real-life struggles and thehope God brings for healing.
I'm your host, teresa Whiting,an author, bible teacher and
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trauma-informed life coach, butmostly a friend and fellow
struggler.
I'm here to hold out hope rightin the midst of your mess.
If you don't mind, I'm going tostart this episode with a little
story.
So back in 2014, I had taken aday to just relax, to rest.
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It was a Sunday, so I was usingthat as a Sabbath and I was
like this is my day, I'm goingto unplug, I'm going to sit in
my hammock and journal, and atthat time I was coming up with a
business name because I hadstarted a little business where
I was flipping furniture.
I was taking old, discardedpieces of things that know,
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things that people left on theside of the road.
I was fixing them up, paintingthem and selling them, and I was
trying to determine the name ofmy business.
But more so I was trying tothink about what is the message
like, the thing that God hasburned into my heart, and that's
when I came up with the nameBeauty in the Brokenness, I
think I wrote in my journal.
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If I could spend my lifedeclaring one message to the
world, it would be this God isstill creating beauty in the
midst of your brokenness, notafter the brokenness is over,
not 10 years later, when you canlook back on your life and see
how all the things worked out.
No like, right in the middle ofit there is beauty to be found.
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So I came up with this nameBeauty in the Brokenness.
You guys, that was 11 years ago.
I was so certain that that wasthe mission that God had me on.
I bought the domain namebeautyinthebrokennesscom, I set
up an LLC called Beauty in theBrokenness Ministries, and then
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I let a thousand little thingsstop me from fully putting my
message out there.
First of all, I started with afurniture flipping business.
What I really wanted to do waswrite and speak and teach women
the Bible, but I was too scaredand so I was like, well, I'll
just flip furniture and I'llkind of subtly put that message
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out there.
Well, it didn't take too long.
About three years later, I hadmy first speaking engagement and
God really made it clear to methat that was the passion of my
heart.
I mean, I love sharingscripture and sharing stories
with women, and so that wasstill my passion.
I actually started my websitein 2017 and it was called
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beautyinthebrokennesscom.
You can still go there.
It'll take you toteresawitingcom Same website,
same content.
But when I started my podcasttwo years ago, I thought this is
when I'm going to use beauty inthe brokenness, and I didn't.
I let these silly things stopme.
Let me tell you why.
Because you might be thinkingwell, why didn't you just name
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it Beauty and the Brokennessfrom the start?
Because obviously, that's beenyour passion.
Well, let me tell you why Fear.
Fear is the only thing thatstopped me.
I would kind of pitch the nameout to people and I would say
what do you think of the name?
Beauty and the Brokenness?
Beauty and the?
What?
Beauty and the broken Like oh,that's a lot, that's a mouthful,
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that's confusing.
Nobody is searching beauty inthe brokenness, nobody's going
online.
You have to be searchable andyou have to have something that
people want to look up.
And nobody's looking up beautyin the brokenness.
But really and truly, it wasthis one moment.
I was part of a writing groupand we used to do these Tuesday
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calls where they would haveexperts on the line and these
experts would call in and sharetheir stories.
And I remember specifically oneday Emily P Freeman was
interviewing this expert and shesaid to her is there anything?
You're just tired of things,you just don't want to hear
anymore.
And this woman, who I don'teven know who she is to this day
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, said I'm so tired of beauty inthe brokenness, it's so cliche.
And I was like what my mouthliterally dropped open.
I was like I thought I madethat up and surely she had not
been on my website.
So I let that commentcompletely derail the passion
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that God had put on my heart.
And so when I started mypodcast, I called it Find Hope
here, which I do love that andthat is something I am really
passionate about spreading hope.
So it's not like it was so faroff.
But every time people would askme what's the name of your
podcast, I'd say find hope hereand inside.
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I'd be like, but I really wantto call it beauty in the
brokenness, because that's themessage that God birthed in me.
It's not just beauty after thebrokenness, it's beauty right in
the midst of it.
Now, you may have heard of theart form, kintsugi, and that's
where people take a broken pieceof pottery and they repair it
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with this gold filling andthat's really beautiful and I
love that illustration.
But that's not what I'm talkingabout, because even in kintsugi
you're looking at after thatbroken thing has been repaired,
you can stand back and say, oh,wow, look at how beautiful that
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turned out in the end.
And it highlights the scars andit highlights the brokenness.
And yes, yes to all of that.
And also I want to hold out hopeto people who are still in the
middle of the mess, like whenthe wounds are still fresh, when
the pain is raw, when the ashesare still smoldering and
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nothing around you feelsredemptive, when you're looking
around at your life and youcan't even find anything that
resembles beauty.
It's still there.
There is beauty here and now,no matter what season you're
walking through, no matter howdark or bleak it looks, there is
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beauty to be found.
Sometimes it's just littleglimmers that you can hold onto.
You'll be walking down thesidewalk and see flowers pushing
through the cracks, or you'llsee a beautiful, fiery sunset
where the clouds are backlit bythe setting sun.
Or maybe it's just a moment ofsilence and for just that moment
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you feel a sense of God's peace.
Maybe it's walking barefoot onthe sand or watching raindrops
race each other down awindowpane.
Sometimes, often, it's in theface of a friend who shows up
and says I'm here, I'm goingthrough this with you.
Sometimes it's a text thatsimply says I see you.
It's in the worship songs youcan't sing because of that lump
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in your throat.
Sometimes it's in the face ofthe woman at the grocery store
who you know.
Her heart is breaking just likeyours, and all of a sudden this
compassion wells up in you.
That is beauty in the middle ofyour brokenness.
It's in the sisterhood that wefeel when we know that others
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have walked a similar path.
It's in the Psalms that help usvoice our pain and our praise.
This is the beauty I'm talkingabout Not faking, not pretending
oh, I'm fine, I'm fine, you'refine, we're all fine.
No, not denying the pain, notturning a blind eye to it, but
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facing it and saying even here,even in the midst of this
situation, my heart will fightto find the beauty.
Because you and I don't live ona movie set, we don't live in
some kind of filtered TikTokreel or social media post.
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We live in a broken post, fallunder the curse world, which
will one day be restored.
But until then, everythingaches.
The whole earth groans.
Every heart carries this deep,unnamed longing, which I have
come to call the ache, the thingthat says, oh, something's not
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right and it isn't.
But instead of being angry atthe ache, instead of scorning
the pain in our lives and justnumbing ourselves out or trying
to avoid it, we can face it andwe can say you know what this is
.
This is a signpost.
This ache is a longing thatreminds us that our sure hope
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goes beyond this world andanything this world has to offer
.
We have longings that willnever be filled this side of
heaven.
Listen to this quote from CSLewis.
The Christian says Creaturesare not born with desires unless
satisfaction for those desiresexists.
A baby feels hunger.
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Well, there is such a thing asfood.
A duckling wants to swim.
Well, there is such a thing aswater.
Men feel sexual desire.
Well, there is such a thing aswater Men feel sexual desire.
Well, there's such a thing assex.
If I find in myself a desirewhich no experience in this
world can satisfy, the mostprobable explanation is that I
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was made for another world.
If none of my earthly pleasuressatisfy it, that does not prove
that the universe is a fraud.
Probably the earthly pleasureswere never meant to satisfy it,
but only to arouse it, tosuggest the real thing.
If that is so, I must take care, on the one hand, never to
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despise or be unthankful forthese earthly blessings and, on
the other, never to mistake themfor the something else of which
they are only a kind of copy,or echo, or mirage.
I think the ache that we feelis a reminder that the story
isn't over yet and that we'renot home yet.
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One day, those desires aregoing to be fulfilled beyond
anything we could ask or imagine, because we're heirs to an
inheritance promised by thecreator and sustainer of the
universe.
But we don't have to wait tillheaven to find that joy, to find
that beauty, because God givesus glimpses of it here and now.
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And that is the passion of myheart.
It's about finding, discovering, beholding the beauty God gives
us right in the midst of thebrokenness.
So this has been my passion foryears and years and finally, 11
years later, I am stepping intoit, I'm owning it, I'm saying
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I'm sorry, ms Editor, whoeveryou are out there, if you're
tired of hearing Beauty in theBrokenness, maybe you won't like
this podcast.
But for the rest of you who feelthat ache, who want to say how
do I find the beauty in mybroken life?
This is the podcast for you inmy broken life, this is the
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podcast for you.
Okay, so what are you going tofind on a regular basis on
beauty in the brokenness?
You're going to find hope,still hope and redemption that,
whoever you are, you are notdefined by the brokenness that
you have walked through, havewalked through.
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God is a God of redemption,restoration, rescue.
His heart is to bring you intoa place of beauty.
You're going to findauthenticity and truth.
I am committed to not pretending.
Okay, let's get this out hereright at the beginning.
I am not an expert, I am afellow struggler.
I am here to walk beside you tosay, hey, here is what I have
learned from God's word andlet's look at it and let's study
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it together and let's haveconversations that talk about
our real, actual lives thatmaybe are somewhat uncomfortable
in other settings or maybe thechurch hasn't addressed, but
you're thinking about it.
This is a place to have thoseconversations.
Also, you can trust that thispodcast has the Bible as its
foundation.
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I am committed to God's word.
His word is the truth, it's thesource of life, it's our light,
and so the things that I teach,the conversations that we have,
will be reflective of peoplewho believe that the Bible is
true.
I want to help you connect withGod and his heart.
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We don't study the Bible justso we can get a bunch of
information and check our box.
We study the Bible to get toknow God.
That's where he reveals himselfto us, that's where we spend
intimate time with him, and sothis podcast is going to be
committed to scripturalintegrity.
Another thing you're going tofind on this podcast is a voice
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of empowerment and freedom.
I am here to help you breakfree from things like shame and
labels and lies that the enemyof your soul whispers or shouts
at you on a regular basis.
I want to encourage freedom inthe areas of sexuality and
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trauma and relational heartacheand financial struggle Okay,
heartache and financial struggleand I want to invite you to
respond to God's grace withworship, with wholeness and with
an expectation that God isgoing to show up in your life.
Our empowerment doesn't comefrom ourselves.
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It comes from God at work in usand through us.
Comes from God at work in usand through us.
And then, lastly, I want thisto be a place of community and
connection.
Doing a podcast is kind of weird, because I'm talking to you but
you're not getting to talk tome, which is why I started a new
thing that kind of coincideswith this podcast, and it's a
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sub stack called Beauty and theBrokenness.
That's an opportunity for us tokind of expand this
conversation.
It's a place where you canleave comments and interact with
other listeners.
Now, if you're like, hey, Iwant to go deeper, well then I
want to invite you to some ofthe events that I have, where I
am either speaking and sharingmessages from God's word, or
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we're having intensives orworkshops where together we can
work through some of the thingsthat we're talking about on this
podcast.
I do not want to be a talkinghead just spouting information
at you.
I want to be a participant inhelping you heal your brokenness
.
To that end, I just gotcertified as a trauma-informed
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life coach because I want tounderstand the inner workings of
what life in this trauma-filled, broken world does.
I want to be a voice of hopeand encouragement and truth to
you in your brokenness.
You know the word trauma getsthrown around all the time and I
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just want to say that the wholeBible is a trauma story.
Okay, it's the story of usturning our back on God, living
in a now traumatized, broken,fallen world, and it's the story
of God's rescue and redemption.
It's the story of him comingout and pursuing us and finding
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us and letting us know thatwe're seen and we are not beyond
repair and we are not beyondhis ability to redeem and
restore our lives.
So if all of that sounds goodto you, I hope you'll stick
around and be part of the Beautyin the Brokenness community.
You can join on Substack.
You can just listen to thispodcast and share it with your
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friends.
However you want.
To be involved would be adelight to me.
So what's changing and whatisn't.
Honestly, most stuff isn'tchanging.
I have a new name, beauty andthe Brokenness, but it's the
same message and the samemethods.
Actually, we're still gonnahave honest conversations with
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amazing guests.
We're still gonna dig into theBible and look at God's word and
what he says and the story heis telling.
We're still gonna havepractical life suggestions that
you can take away at the storyhe is telling.
We're still going to havepractical life suggestions that
you can take away at the end ofeach episode.
The name is changing, but theheart behind this podcast is
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exactly the same.
If you've been around a while,you know that this podcast has
always been about finding hope.
My intro used to say this is apodcast about holding the messy,
complicated, painful parts oflife alongside the beautiful,
joy-filled hope that Jesuspromises.
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And that is what Beauty in theBrokenness is all about.
It's about finding hope in themidst of the mess.
So really, this is a pivot morethan it is a change.
Now it just has the name that'sbeen burning in my heart all
these years and I've stepped upto face my fear of calling it
what I've wanted to call it.
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All along I've been told thatanytime you make changes, you
lose people because nobody likeschange, and I guess that means
podcast listeners don't like itwhen you change the name of your
podcast.
So I'm asking for your help tocombat the natural way of things
.
I'm asking you to join me inpreventing this natural decline.
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So would you yes, you listenerdo three simple things to help
me out.
First of all is follow the show.
If you're still around, youprobably already are following
the show.
The second thing you can do isto share the podcast with your
people.
If you've liked Find Hope here,and if you think you're going
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to enjoy Beauty in theBrokenness which is really the
same thing, just more of itwould you share this with your
friends and family?
And then the third thing and Iknow you've heard this before is
to leave a rating and review.
Many of you already have, and Ithank you so much.
If you haven't yet, you canjump over to Apple Podcasts and
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leave a five-star rating and areview that tells Apple that
this is a podcast worthlistening to.
Now, before I close, I justwanted to mention one other
thing that's not changing, andthat is the music.
I know, for me, whenever I amlistening to a podcast and I
hear the music.
Come on, I'm like, oh, it'sthat podcast, I love it.
And so if you have come to hearthe music of Find Hope here, it
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is the same in Beauty and theBrokenness.
Plus, it took me a really longtime to find music that I liked,
so why go through that Again?
I feel like the music I'vechosen still goes with the heart
behind Beauty and theBrokenness, with the heart
behind Beauty and the Brokenness.
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Thanks for hanging out with metoday on Beauty and the
Brokenness.
To find anything I mentioned onthis episode, go to
TeresaWhitingcom slash listen,or you could even go to
BeautyandtheBrokennesscom slashlisten.
It'll take you to the sameplace and that's where you'll
find all the show notes.
I pray that you have eyes tosee the beautiful redemptive
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work of Jesus in the midst ofyour broken life.
In closing, I want to leave youwith this prayer from Numbers 6
, 24 to 26.
The Lord bless you and keep you.
The Lord make His face shine onyou and be gracious to you.
The Lord turn His face towardyou and give you peace.