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Daniela SM (00:01):
Hi, I'm Daniela.
Welcome to my podcast, becauseEveryone has a Story, the place
to give ordinary people'sstories the chance to be shared
and preserved.
Our stories become the languageof connections.
Let's enjoy it.
Connect and relate, becauseeveryone has a story.
Welcome.
(00:21):
My guest is Chelsea Husem andshe's here to share her bold and
unfiltered journey.
Chelsea is a total force, apowerhouse entrepreneur,
best-selling author, speaker anda badass bathing her way in the
male-dominated constructionindustry.
She lives by one rule trustyour intuitions.
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Forget the typical businessplaybook.
Chelsea does things her way andit works wonders.
She's sassy, strong and allabout living life on her own
terms.
She shares powerful insights onmanaging time, setting
boundaries and staying healthywhile juggling entrepreneurship
and motherhood.
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Oh, and her book Real Vibe Onlyit is like a shot of espresso
for your soul and her newpodcast, lip Service and Lashes.
Chelsea proved that there is nomountain too tall to climb and
she's here to share her amazingstory with us.
Let's enjoy.
Welcome, chelsea to the show.
Chelsea Husum (01:23):
Thank you, I'm so
excited to be here.
Daniela SM (01:25):
Yes, me too, and I
am so excited that you have a
story.
So why do you want to shareyour story?
Chelsea Husum (01:30):
Yeah, I think
it's so important to fully,
authentically step into yourlife and who you are is to
finally share your story and orat least make peace with parts
of your story that maybe youhaven't.
It's been a really powerfulyear for me, finally looking at
pieces that I kind of had hiddenor hadn't really healed from,
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or it has allowed me to reallystep into who I truly am.
Daniela SM (01:54):
Wonderful, wonderful
.
And so when does your storystart?
Chelsea Husum (01:57):
Well gosh, I have
so many stories and twists and
turns, but my story now?
I was a high school Spanishteacher for 10 years.
Now I own a constructioncompany in Denver totally
different things.
My story has just kind of beengoing with the twists and turns
of life, like I never would havethought I would be here and
owning my own company working inconstruction ever.
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But I love it and that's whatmy story was meant to be right.
But I'm a mom, active, you know, just love living life and I
feel more fulfilled now than Iever have and throughout my
story and throughout my lifeI've learned a lot of things.
I've gone through some reallyhard things, as we all have, but
now I know I use that to makeme stronger and to kind of share
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my message with others and hopeand give them hope, maybe if
they're going through toughtimes.
Daniela SM (02:46):
All right, okay, so
tell us your story.
Chelsea Husum (02:48):
So I'm from a
small town in South Dakota.
I had a great upbringing.
My parents got divorced when Iwas three, so my parents lived
apart and I'm super close to mydad Still am to this day.
He's one of my best friends.
And then my mom and stepdad gotmarried when I was six.
So he's been in the pictureforever too.
So I I honestly wouldn't changeit.
I love I have more parents thatlove me, which is really cool.
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But I moved out to Denver to doan internship for my
broadcasting degree, um, andthen didn't leave, uh, got a job
here and then ended up meetingmy now husband here, um, and
stayed.
So I, you know, like I said Iwell, I worked in experiential
marketing and trade shows forprobably five or six years after
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college but then kind of wasfeeling that I really I didn't
feel like I was doing anythingworthwhile in the world like
with my life, and so I did somesoul searching, realized, hey, I
want to be a teacher.
I had the Spanish degree but Ihad zero experience, you know, I
didn't know how to be a teacher.
So I quit that job, got mymaster's in education and became
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a high school Spanish teachermiddle and high school for 10
years.
Daniela SM (03:56):
Sorry, how do you
learn Spanish?
Chelsea Husum (03:58):
So I studied in
Ecuador for quite a few months
and then I got a degree, incollege too.
So it was funny, though in highschool I took Spanish and I
don't remember one word.
I took it for two years,remember nothing.
And then I apparently was incollege and I'm like, oh, I kind
of like this, I'm kind of goodat it, so yeah, then I decided I
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have a broadcast journalismdegree and a Spanish degree.
So I decided to double major.
Daniela SM (04:24):
And how do you
decide to go to Ecuador?
Chelsea Husum (04:27):
I first went
because my college professor,
Richard he had been in the PeaceCorps in Ecuador way back when
and so he always loved it, andso he took a group of us
students for a month to studythere and then I fell in love
with it and then I went back bymyself the following year for
three months.
So, yeah, I and then actually10 years after that, I took a
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group of my students there,which was a full circle moment.
It was pretty cool.
So I've been there three timesand I just I love it.
Had some trauma there as well,but but overall I love the
country and the people and I hadreally just amazing experiences
there overall.
Daniela SM (05:06):
So then you decided
to be a teacher, and you loved
it.
What happened?
Chelsea Husum (05:10):
I loved it till
the last year.
I did not love it and it was apretty rough year and I just
it's with me.
If I don't love something, I'mmiserable and I have to like I
know it affects just mywell-being and my happiness.
So it's like, okay, I have tolike I know it affects just my
wellbeing and my happiness.
So it's like, okay, I have tomove on.
But this time I was really like, okay, well, I just spent all
this money for a master's degree, you know, I made it 10 years.
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But I just was like, what am Igoing to do now, you know?
And I applied for just a bunchof random jobs.
No one called me.
It was really discouraging,honestly, and, um, the only job
I got offered was as an officemanager in a different
construction company.
So that actually got me intocommercial construction, really
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kind of got thrown in.
I did not get trained.
Well, I cried a lot, it washard, because there's a lot of
really specific things inconstruction that are very odd,
and reports and all these, allthese weird things, and so
finally kind of figured thoseout the hard way and then, in
March of 2020, I started myconstruction company.
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I worked both jobs until Aprilof 22, when I was like I
physically can't do this anymore.
It's way too much, obviously,working two full-time jobs,
trying to be a mom, trying tojust do normal things in life
too.
So then I stepped into justrunning my company.
Daniela SM (06:31):
But how you decided
that you wanted to run your own
company from something that youdidn't know before.
Chelsea Husum (06:36):
Yeah, yeah.
So I had had some conversationsand kind of since I was in
construction, felt like I had apretty good handle on on that in
commercial construction, andthen had some conversations, um,
with some vendors in town andsaw a niche with I just started
a company with concrete scanning.
So, um, it's, it's like ifyou're on a high rise building,
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let's say it, um, this littleexpensive machine scans the
concrete, the floor of the wall,more or less, to tell you that
there's something in there soyou're not cutting into it.
And then you know people couldget killed, there's really
dangerous things, so it's moreof a safety thing.
So I started with that and justsaw a niche in the market where
there's a lot of there's somenot a lot, but there's some
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bigger companies doing it.
I heard they are not doing itvery well, or they were three
weeks out, you know, and peoplewanted somebody.
Hey, I need you in two days orI need somebody who is doing
this well, because obviouslypeople can get hurt or die if
you don't do it well.
So started with that and then,due to client demand, I ended up
doing core drilling, which isit's the circular cutting and
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floor wall on these buildings.
And then I work mainly withelectrical and mechanical
companies and they come in andfill up all these holes that we
cut with their stuff, kind ofsaw you know where, where we
were needed.
And now we do tons of coredrilling and, which is funny
that I never would have evendone it.
But they were like hey, can youdo this?
And I'm like, okay, well, let'ssee.
Daniela SM (08:04):
I find fascinating
is what kind of personality you
have to to have found a nichethat you could.
You know you're having your job.
People usually just have theirjob and do their job, but you
were thinking more, so that'sthat's what I'm interested to
know.
Chelsea Husum (08:18):
Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I mean it's.
I kind of just have thepersonality that you could throw
me in anything and I'm a reallyhard worker and I'm like I'll
figure it out, like I don't.
I don't have business training,I don't have a business degree,
but as I've gone through life,I work really hard to try to
excel at whatever I'm doing,whether it was teaching or you
know the company before that.
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So it's like I'm just reallytenacious and I'm like I got
this.
I can figure it out, eventhough I have so much learning
to do.
Right, but I learned the hardway.
I ask a lot of questions.
Early on, I found women inDenver who owned larger
companies in construction thatwere doing like they're doing
multi-millions a year and Ibecame their friend and I I
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learned from them and I askedthem for advice and I asked them
who do you use for insurance?
Who you know?
Do you have a recommendationfor this?
They became mentors to me and Ireally learned a lot from them.
Or you know, even today, ifsomething happens and I just
want feedback or their thoughts,like I could call them and say,
hey, what are your thoughts onthis?
I learned a lot from that firstoffice manager job.
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I got after teaching likereally just learned the hard way
, learned all the pieces andalso learned like what not to do
, because it it was a prettypoorly run company, so and I'm
really organized, and so it waslike, okay, now stepping into my
company, this is what I'm goingto do, this is what I'm not
going to do.
Right, it's going to be reallyorganized really by the book.
Learn from so many differentpieces, like now being a few
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years in and my confidence andeverything, versus when I just
started.
I mean, I'd get so nervous whenclients would call and I'd be
like, let me check on that, I'llget back to you, you know.
And I'd have to call myemployees and be like, hey,
they're asking this, you know,and now I can talk about it
forever.
Daniela SM (10:10):
But it's just yeah,
it was tenacious and I can get
thrown in and I'll figure it outand what about.
Chelsea Husum (10:12):
You know you're
in a business where there's
mainly men running it.
What are the challenges thatwere presented to you?
Overall, I haven't reallyencountered a lot of like people
that are rude to me or treat mebadly because I'm a woman.
Potentially it's because I'mconfident, I know who I am as a
person.
I go out there, I'm genuine,I'm honest and what you see is
what you get.
So it's like I don't evenreally I mean I don't even
really open the door for to betreated poorly and I'm not going
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to work with people who treatme poorly or be around those
people.
I get to actually choose as theowner, who to work with and who
not to.
I've been supported very welland by men and women alike, and
I think it's just you know, likeI said, because I'm genuine,
I'm confident, I know who I amand that's kind of how I step
out and into the world and intomy business and I think people
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just appreciate that.
You know that they, they knowthey can trust me, they know who
I am as a person.
Daniela SM (11:03):
So you have this
business, you're a mom and also
you wrote a book.
What else do you have?
Chelsea Husum (11:08):
My first book
came out this year.
I'm also a speaker in Coloradoand nationally also, and then
I'm working on starting my ownpodcast as well.
So that's really close.
It's been really.
It's been being worked on for awhile, but it's really really
close finally.
So I'm excited to step intothat too.
I am doing a lot, but it's allstuff that fills me up and
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excites me.
I get energized from it.
It's I'm.
Anything I'm doing is notbecause I am pressured to do it
or feel obligated, it's justpurely out of passion.
So it's like when you're, whenyou're doing things like that
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that you love, it's like bringit on, but how do you do it?
How do you?
Can you manage all these tasksone day in a week?
Yeah, I mean, I'm reallyorganized, I'm really efficient.
I have learned to set boundarieswith my time.
I, you know I don't go to everymeeting or I get all kinds of
requests from, like, banks andinsurance companies like, hey,
you want to?
I'd love to get you coffee andchat, see how I can support you,
and while that's great, it's awaste of my time and it's a
waste of their time, cause I'mnot switching banks, I'm not
switching insurance.
You know things like that.
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It's like made it okay tonicely say no to things that I
think are not a good use of mytime, to grow my business or to
connect with a new client orwhatever.
Right, I wake up really early.
I go to the gym first thing,cause in construction my phone
starts ringing, sometimes at sixand by for sure by seven
everyone's on job sites likeyou're getting emails, calls.
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So it's like that is my timebefore my family's awake.
I go to the gym because if Isay I'm going to work out later,
that never happened I get.
I will make a million excuses, Iwill get lazy, I will.
I will be like, oh yeah, work,it's just too busy, right?
So it's like, if I do it firstthing, I can't make the excuses
that I know I'm going to make,and then I go to bed really
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early because sleep's reallyimportant to me and I have to
get decent sleep.
For me, it's looking at thehabits.
Okay, what are you doing day today?
Are some of these thingsdraining you, draining your
energy, right, and making youfeel just bad?
Then get rid of them.
And then what things that youdo make you feel really good and
energized and healthy?
Then you need to put those inand no one's going to be like oh
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yeah, I'll give you a whole dayto just relax and have some me
time.
You have to build it in if youwant it, otherwise you're on a
runaway train.
That is your life and you're atthe mercy of everyone else.
But it's like, ultimately, it'syour responsibility to make
your life what you want it to.
Have learned boundaries, whatam I doing, what are my habits
and things like that, and what'simportant to me?
Daniela SM (13:41):
Yes, and so what
time is early?
Like what time you wake up forthe gym?
Chelsea Husum (13:50):
I get up at 530
and then I go to bed by like by
nine at the latest.
Some days I'm exhausted and I'mlike it's 830 kids, we're going
to bed, but yeah, nine.
Usually.
So important though, because ifyou don't feel good, you can't
perform.
I have so much going on.
You do, you can't perform, Ihave so much going on.
You do, we all do.
But if you don't feel like, ifyou're coming home and you're
like, well, I'm gonna drink abottle of wine, you know, or two
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, every night, and then you skipthe gym because you have a
headache, you're hungover, youfeel horrible, you snap at your
kids, you go eat a bunch ofstuff because you're hungover.
I mean, it's just, there'scertain things that flow in and
wreck all of your healthy habits, right?
So it's really you need to takea look and say what am I
filling my days with?
Is it helping me be better andget, have more energy and feel
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good, or is it making me feelbad?
And you have to kind of assessthat way.
Daniela SM (14:39):
Yes, you're right.
Well, I also wake up early, notearly these days.
Yeah, what time.
I usually wake up about 5.30.
Okay, I'm not going to bed atnine, yeah, and I do go to the
gym, but I spend kind of timebefore I leave, you know, before
I go to the gym.
So I go like around seven, nice, but that's because I have more
time now.
You know, before, when the kidswere little, yes, I had to be
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there at six o'clock, that'swhen they open, otherwise we
would never make it so the samewith the excuses.
And you know, you build a habitthat, of course, is very easy
to break.
So that's why you have to noexcuses, you have to go,
otherwise you don't go Becauseyou do yeah, yeah, life will
come in and it will change yourplans.
Sometimes I wish I didn't needtoo many hours of sleep because
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I would like to have the dayslonger and do more things, and
lately I've been going to bed abit later and I know that that's
not so good.
Let's talk about your book.
When did you decide to write abook?
What happened?
Chelsea Husum (15:39):
First of all I
will say I never wanted to write
a book ever.
That was not at all on my goalsor bucket list whatsoever.
It was two years ago now, Ithink.
I joined a women's entrepreneurgroup in Denver and they were
having a brunch and I was like,oh great, but I love brunch.
And then I almost didn't gobecause I was like, well, the
keynote speaker is a woman whoowns a publishing company and I
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thought I don't want to be awriter.
So I almost didn't go.
But I was like, well, it'sbrunch, let's I'll just still go
and, you know, hang out withsome of these women.
And I went and I listened tothis woman speak, um, and I was
like I really like her and herenergy.
So afterwards I went up andtalked to her and randomly was
like maybe I could do this andat that point still wouldn't had
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no clue maybe what I would evenwrite about.
She and I started chatting.
We had like a phone call andthen I was like, yeah, I'm going
to do it.
And I again really didn't knowwhat I was going to write about.
I kind of just sat down andstarted writing things that
popped into my head of storiesfrom my life.
So the book is just a bunch ofshort stories from my life a lot
about motherhood, a lot aboutbeing an entrepreneur, a lot
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about trying to find your tribe,going through hard things,
going through traumaticexperiences how did I dig out?
How did it affect me?
The whole goal I guess behindit is I want to inspire people
to not feel the need to beperfect, because so many of us,
especially women, look aroundand we're like, well, she looks
perfect, she seems perfect.
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You know they all have it alltogether.
In reality, they don't.
It just appears that way, right.
So I want people to like,embrace their actual, authentic,
vulnerable self, be who you'remeant to be flaws and all you
know and just and just own yourstory and you know, live, live
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an actually authentic, fulfilledlife.
Daniela SM (17:27):
But you look like
you do everything perfectly,
You're organized, you wake upearly, you go to bed late, you
have, you have everything undercontrol.
So how can you say that?
Oh?
Chelsea Husum (17:38):
I don't.
I do not at all.
I try to go on on likeInstagram and cry a lot and say,
oh my gosh, this happened.
Or if you're like the book,you'd be like, wow, she's, she's
a hot mess, but I own it.
I definitely do not.
I try to go on like socialmedia, especially, and be like
here's what happened today,here's something stupid I did.
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Here's like you know I madethis mistake or whatever and how
I learned from it, just because, yeah, I am really organized.
I'm just a crazy person likethat, like that's just who I am.
I can't help it, but yeah, I, Itry my hardest to share those
stories about silly things I'vedone or crazy experiences I've
had, so people don't look at meand think, oh, she's perfect.
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You know what I mean.
Daniela SM (18:24):
But does it help you
being on social media?
Chelsea Husum (18:26):
Um, sometimes I
love it, sometimes I hate it.
Honestly, I try to just putlike good things out into the
world.
You know so much.
You go on there and you seepeople ranting and raving and
especially like election yearsduring COVID, it's like, oh for
God's sake, I just can't like Iam an empath and I can't see.
I don't read the news, I don'twatch the news.
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I literally just can't.
So me, I'm trying to put sillythings out there and just show
my real life, but also show meauthentically, like who I am and
you know the struggles I've hadand social media my head can be
used for good or bad, but I tryto to be authentic and real and
put good things out in theworld, more or less.
Daniela SM (19:08):
Does your husband
also works with you?
Chelsea Husum (19:10):
No, he is also in
construction.
He does business developmentfor a large general contractors.
He's not involved in mybusiness at all.
Daniela SM (19:19):
Well, like, like you
know, he he's working in
construction too, so perhapssome of his learnings can help
you as well.
You have conversations about it, or Possibly.
Chelsea Husum (19:28):
I mean, we
probably talk about construction
more than most households.
You know it's like pillow talk.
It's a little ridiculous, um,but not not a lot, like I'll go
to him if I just want to runsomething by him.
But honestly I've I found thebest.
I kind of just I do whatever Iwant because I go with what my
gut tells me and I feelintuitively that's how I make
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decisions.
So really I do whatever I want.
I go with, like I said, myintuition, how I believe things
should be run and happen, andit's been working great so far.
I always say entrepreneurs arekind of the special, kind of
crazy, because who, like,willingly steps over that
threshold and it's terrifying ina way because you could lose
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everything.
But it's also so amazing and Ilove being my own boss.
Like I told my husband I couldnever work for anyone else Again
.
I'm ruined forever.
I would get fired on the firstday and I'd be like this is
horrible, I can't do it.
You know, because I now knowwhat it's like to own my time
and make the decisions and, youknow, be the boss.
Daniela SM (20:34):
That's what
everybody says that it's an
entrepreneur, that is justwonderful, but you have to be
the boss.
That's what everybody says thatit's an entrepreneur, that is
just wonderful, but you have tobe a special person.
Not everybody can take thatrisk.
Yeah, yes, but I feel thatbeing in construction is like a
good business they're nevergoing to be out of business.
Chelsea Husum (20:48):
Yeah, it's been
booming.
I mean some.
There are some times where itkind of slows down or you know
where jobs for funding, you knowwith interest rates and or fund
bank funding, they've tightenedthings up a lot the last few
years.
You know, overall we have overdoubled each year.
As a small business, we'regrowing.
But there are times when it's aslower month.
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But I have to say, tell myself,instead of freaking out like
it's just the ebbs and flows,because next month will be
really busy.
So I don't like overthink itand start panicking, because I
know all my, all my businessesabout making relationships and
and getting those relationshipswith our customers, so that I am
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the one they call every time.
While maybe they have a slowermonth for them, I have other
people calling me or you know,and they always come back to me
when, when they have somethingelse come up.
So it's it's definitelyinteresting and you have to have
grit.
Like it's.
You're not going to profit.
Probably in the first few yearsyou might.
I didn't pay myself for years.
I literally started payingmyself this year and I started
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it in March of 2020.
I worked for free.
It's not about the money.
I don't care about the money.
It was about me buildingsomething and I know I have done
it.
I've done all of the buildingof the company and my employees
are amazing.
They're on the job sites.
I'm running everything else,but I know exactly what I did to
get here and how we have grownand built this company.
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It's more about like buildingsomething you're proud of yes,
of course, like your own baby.
This company.
Daniela SM (22:16):
It's more about like
building something you're proud
of.
Yes, of course, Like your ownbaby.
Yep, it is.
You said that you were workingin the other job at the meantime
as you were building this,which is the wise thing to do,
because you said you didn't getpaid for so long.
Chelsea Husum (22:27):
Yeah.
Daniela SM (22:28):
You couldn't have
done it.
Chelsea Husum (22:37):
No, probably not,
Probably not or our revenue was
so little and really, again, Ijust made the choice not to pay
myself, because I reallypreferred to pay my employees
more and I also that was moreimportant to me to have really
good people that are experts atwhat they do, because if they
aren't good, the company willnot succeed, no matter how much
I do Like for me.
I pay my employees for 40 hoursa week, whether they're working
or not, because I need goodpeople and I don't want them
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having to quit because they justneed money.
They have to put food on thetable, right.
I pay more in payroll each weekthan I need to technically, but
for me it's worth it.
I pay them a lot more than theyused to make at their old
companies and they only work 40hours max a week.
They're not working nights andweekends like they used to work
40 hours max a week.
They're not working nights andweekends like they used to.
Daniela SM (23:20):
You know so that's
important to me, that they're
taken care of and they, theyknow they're good here.
You saw that in other placesthat people didn't get paid as
much and then they will leaveand then you know it's a
training and get to know theperson again.
Yeah, that's a cost.
Chelsea Husum (23:33):
Yeah, if it's a
slow time.
They're working 20 hours a weekand they have to look elsewhere
, so they're kind of job hoppingsometimes, sometimes because
they need money, which you can'tblame them, right, but you
can't for me.
Being such a small company, youcan't offer consistency or have
good people with that.
You know you have to do better.
So you have people that want tostay with you.
Daniela SM (23:54):
And you learned this
how you have people that want
to stay with you.
Chelsea Husum (23:57):
And you learned
this how?
I just did it.
I no one, no one that I know,does it honestly, and I just
thinking of the kind of people Iwanted, how they have to be
experts.
I needed to hire people thathad been doing this a long time.
I knew I had to pay them moreand pay them well, and then I
just I don't know like, no onetold me to do it, it's just in
my gut.
I knew that that's what Ineeded to do to make sure that
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they would stay.
Daniela SM (24:20):
Wow, yeah, well,
congratulations.
I feel like that is actually asecret.
That is not a secret, but thatis the key of success knowing
that you can keep your peoplehappy.
Of course, everybody's alwaysthinking about money and that's
why they don't actually do that,but at the end, it costs more
(24:46):
to train, to hire, to get theconnection to.
Chelsea Husum (24:47):
Yeah, it is time
consuming, which is way more
expensive than any money thatyou can have For sure.
Yeah, keep your people happy.
If you have good people, yes,it's so much easier to keep them
happy instead of constantlylooking for other people,
because a lot of people areflaky.
I over the years, had hiredsomebody like, ok, I got all
your stuff, you're going tostart tomorrow, and then they
don't show up.
I mean, I don't need that.
Then it comes back on me and Ilook bad.
(25:09):
You know the company looks bad.
So it's like if I know I havegood people, I will do whatever
it takes to keep them.
Daniela SM (25:15):
That's good, and so
you haven't had a tight turnover
.
Chelsea Husum (25:19):
No, I really
haven't.
Yeah, I mean they, it's funny.
My employees will get callsfrom other, just from people, or
they'll have people on a jobsite like come up to them and be
like are you guys hiring?
We've heard like good thingsabout you and it's funny.
So I have people calling myemployees asking if we're hiring
because they hear about youknow that we kind of we just get
to, we do our own thing andI've this company has been able
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to be successful doing it ourown way.
I don't, I just do literallywhatever I want, whatever I feel
is right, and we've beenthriving doing that.
You know, it's not like itdoesn't have to be this cookie
cutter way or you don't have todo it like everyone else does to
be successful.
I'm proving you can do your ownway and be successful.
Daniela SM (26:03):
Obviously, the smart
way, of course, is the smart
way.
Thank you, yeah, that'swonderful.
And so the book is done, isready and is distributing
already.
What about the podcast?
Why a podcast?
Why do you want to?
Chelsea Husum (26:27):
have a podcast
now.
Yeah, I feel like, upon writingthe book, it took me like there
was a story in there from 20years ago, a very traumatic
event that had happened that Ididn't tell anyone about for 20
years.
And so, writing this book, Iwas like I had all these
different things that I'd gonethrough that I just needed to
get out into the world really,because I needed to heal myself
and move through it and, youknow, get healing through
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writing.
So it was like put that out inthe world Ultimately, like this
is what I'm meant to do Now.
I feel like I do have a story.
So with the podcast it's, I'vehad so many women come up to me
and say, hey, I, you know thisstory really touched me.
Thank you for saying what I'mthinking.
Thank you for not me.
I'm over here feeling alone orI'm going through a hard time,
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but you made me feel supportedand seen Right.
So I just want to.
I want to have realconversations.
I want to talk about real life,not the perfect, you know this,
perfect, you know part of life.
Talk about real life to inspireother people, because we all
need to hear.
Like I know when I listen tothat kind of stuff I I get
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energized and I feel inspired,and you know to hear what
everyone in the world has beenthrough.
We've all been through somestuff.
It's you know what I mean.
It's pretty intense and it's Ilove hearing people's stories of
how they have overcome whateveradversity they've had in life.
So I just want to share, youknow, things from my life and
then have other people sharingas well, exactly, exactly what
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you're doing.
Daniela SM (27:56):
You know there's
scenarios that are not.
They're not going to happen.
In my life, learning your storyand other people's short story
I mean yours, seems is a happystory.
You're not saying anythingtraumatic here, but when you
hear other people's issues forme have grown a lot the
compassion and understanding ofother humans and I keep learning
.
More than when we arejudgmental or we don't have room
(28:18):
for being open, it's becauseignorance, because we don't know
, and so, whilst the more thatwe, you talk to people which you
know, you usually tend to be inthe circle of similar people
like you, but with the podcastyou are gonna have more people
that um you, they reach outwithout you even thinking about
it, and that's how you know yourbrain, just like opens, opens.
Chelsea Husum (28:42):
Yeah, well, I
totally agree and like like for
me.
For example and I've wroteabout both of these stories in
my book I've been, and I've beenthrough a lot of other things.
When I was, I had mentioned, Istudied in South America.
The second time I was there,when I was there alone, I went
back to this academia that I wasstudying at and I ended up
being drugged and raped and leftalone in an abandoned house by
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my professor there, and I meanso traumatic.
I was alone in a foreigncountry, right and so that I
just shoved it down, I think forself-preservation, because I
didn't know what to do.
You know, I didn't tell anyone.
I pretended it didn't happenfor 20 years and then, last
December actually, I endedfinally a two and a half year
(29:26):
lawsuit that I was in.
I was being sued for millionsof dollars.
That was by far the mosthorrific thing I've ever even
endured, even more than theassault because I was being
attacked day after day for years.
My kids were like mom, when arewe losing our house?
Mom, here's $12.
You need it more than I do.
I was waking up covered inhives Like I was not okay.
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What I learned about myself wasthat trauma.
That happened 20 years ago andI was so young.
I was so young, I didn't knowmyself.
Now I do know myself and I'vedone the work and I know what I
need.
And I was so young, I was soyoung, I didn't know myself.
Now I do know myself and I'vedone the work and I know what I
need.
And I remember one morningwalking downstairs it was a good
year and a half in to this andI texted a girlfriend who's a
therapist and I said I'm notokay, I need help.
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Like I just can't do this.
I didn't want to die, but Ididn't want to live anymore.
Like it was so heavy andoverwhelming and horrible.
I couldn't wake up and run acompany and be a mom and juggle
all these things.
I just was struggling so bad.
Recently I knew I had to takesteps to dig out and take care
of myself or get rid of thethings that are making you feel
(30:32):
poorly.
Add the things that make youtake care of you a little bit.
You got to be gentle onyourself when you're going
through those things.
It's so much more difficult togo through.
Daniela SM (30:40):
Thank you so much
for sharing that part of you,
the two horrible experience,because one way or another,
they're both being attack yourpersona, right?
Yeah, yeah, not everybody hasthe capability to actually look
for help, which is alsocommanded that you did that,
because that's the mostimportant part.
Chelsea Husum (30:59):
Yeah, that truly,
when we're all going through
hard things, hopefully we havelike a friend or family member,
at least one that we could talkabout it with.
But there's something to besaid about a therapist that
doesn't know you, that you cansay whatever you want to say and
you're not worried abouthurting their feelings or saying
anything bad.
You know what I mean.
That's going to upset thatperson.
(31:19):
You sometimes, when you'rereally in it, you just need to
get it all out and not be no,you will not be judged in any
way and work through it and saywhat you really want to say.
Daniela SM (31:28):
Yeah, I also noticed
you talk to your friends is a
burden because you alwayscomplain about the same thing
and it's kind of annoying.
And then they listen but theyreally don't have the expertise
to to help you.
So it's your your to you knowit's yourself.
You can keep complaining andbeing an annoying friend, or you
can look for help, read booksuh, you know research and so
(31:52):
when you have these therapy orthe counselor, I don't know.
To me has been moreconversations and I learn one
little nugget every time andit's not like I thought that if
you go to counseling ortherapies you just go with a
notebook and you know step one,step two to three, homework, go
there, come back, you're doneand it's way more than that.
So I am glad that you, that youthat you also sharing that part
(32:16):
that is important to talk tosome professionals, so, and so
it has helped you a lot andovercome those issues that you
know, those experiences that youhad.
Chelsea Husum (32:27):
Yeah, I think the
lawsuit ended December 28th of
23.
It was, like I said, the worstexperience of my life.
It's called the chapter iscalled Hell in my book and it's
by far the longest, because itwent on forever and I kept
writing about oh, now thishappened, now this happened and
the feelings.
It was interesting, but I willsay and I've talked to other
(32:48):
people too that are in lawsuitsyou can sue someone for
literally anything and just makeup the most random things and
have zero evidence and sue themand cost them hundreds of
thousands of dollars and, youknow, pretty much ruin their
life.
We were set to go to trial and Inever even I had all this
evidence sitting there to belike okay, well, here, here's
(33:09):
this accusation Boom, thatproves that's wrong, or that's
not true.
Here's this one Boom, thisevidence proves that's not true.
I mean, I had it all.
I had witnesses, tons ofevidence, but I never got to the
point to even get stuff thrownout or present my evidence,
because it's just not like that.
Like you know, they say, oh,you're innocent until proven
(33:29):
guilty.
I felt like you're just guilty,you're going to pay hundreds of
thousands of dollars.
And then your lawyers are likewell, but if you go to trial,
you're going to pay at least300,000 more and the jury could
believe them and you know, andthen you could file bankruptcy
and lose literally everything.
So it's like what?
At what point do you say enough, like enough of me spending my
(33:51):
energy on this, like enough ofbeing attacked?
Right, so it, it was not.
It's done, thank God, but itwas a horrific experience.
It the court system is reallymessed up.
In my experience, it really is.
Daniela SM (34:07):
Yeah, I can imagine,
but now it's over.
Chelsea Husum (34:10):
I made it through
.
It was not great but I made itthrough and I I actually wrote
about this in my book at thevery end of that chapter too.
Because finally, you know, foryears I feel like years of my
life were taken from me truly,and my patience was so thin, I
was depressed, I was overwhelmed, I was cranky.
(34:31):
My poor kids you know mom'scrying, she's snapping at us.
It was bad the way it affectedmy life, how I I just barely
made it through, right.
But I said in my book and Itruly believe this that you know
I'm done, I'm taking my powerback.
No, I'm not.
I'm not feeling these mentaking my power and making me
(34:54):
feel powerless and victimizedand attacked.
I'm done, I said in the book.
I said I'm, I'm heading intothis 2024 with a chip on my
shoulder and I'm kind of pissedoff and I'm using this as fuel
and fire to be like.
I will look back on this timeas a.
This was just a launching padfor me to just go out and just
(35:17):
do what I meant to do in theworld.
Like it's.
This is just the beginning forme and I truly feel like that.
I had to go through hell to getto this point in my life and
now it's like bring it.
I am sharing my message, I'msharing my story because other
people need to hear it and I amnot going to be held back.
I'm not going to be held downanymore.
(35:38):
I just I'm over it.
It's just like enough, rightEnough.
Daniela SM (35:42):
Yes, and then also
it affected your kids as well.
Chelsea Husum (35:45):
Oh yeah, it
affected my whole family.
It was really really horrible.
Daniela SM (35:50):
Yeah, of course, of
course, and so this is going to
yes, this is sometimes whenpeople have challenges is what
makes them stronger and tosucceed even more.
So I guess this is what hashappened to you you got your
power back.
Chelsea Husum (36:06):
Yep, and now I'm
going, and now you want to
spread the story?
Daniela SM (36:10):
Yes, and nobody's
going to stop you.
Well, nobody was going to stopanyway before.
Yes, excellent.
When are you thinking to haveyour podcast?
What is the name?
Do you have an idea?
Chelsea Husum (36:19):
Well, hopefully
mid-October-ish I had a name and
then I'm actually meeting witha consultant to kind of just
make it a little stronger, Likewe're close but it's like not
quite there and I have thisfeeling of what I want, but I'm
just not creative in that way tothink of names like that.
I brought someone in to help meso it launch it the right way
(36:40):
and have things set up so it canbe what it's meant to be
Wonderful and I think you have alot of creativity because you
have built a lot of things.
Daniela SM (36:47):
Thank you.
Chelsea Husum (36:49):
I do, but not in
the way of naming things.
Naming my book was so hard andI came up with this really
boring title and I'm like that'sit.
You know, publisher, I have mytitle and she's like no, that is
so boring, this is not you.
I know you and I know whatyou're saying in your book.
No, we have to do better.
So we finally, the two of us,kind of threw ideas around and
(37:11):
came up with it.
Daniela SM (37:12):
But other things I
feel like I'm creative in, but
not naming things well, I feellike when there is a lot of
options, it is so hard.
Chelsea Husum (37:18):
I get overwhelmed
yeah.
Daniela SM (37:20):
Yes, I don't know
anything about websites, but I
wanted to build my own, yeah,and I'm never happy because I'm
like, okay, oh, look, you couldhave it this way or that way,
and it never ends.
The choices is the paradox ofchoice.
So I'm, yes, exactly, exactlyWonderful.
And, kay, is there anythingelse that you want to share or
anything that my podcast can bea service to you?
Chelsea Husum (37:42):
I appreciate you
having me on and you know I
would love if any if anything wetalked about today touched you
or resonated with you.
I would I love to hear people'sfeedback or if, if you're
listening and in a tough season,I want to offer to be there for
you if you need, if you don'thave somebody to just say, hey,
I got you.
You know what I mean.
It's hard sometimes and itfeels lonely when you're in
(38:04):
those tough times.
Daniela SM (38:05):
Yes, for sure, and I
want people to follow you on
social media, which you haveInstagram.
What other social platforms youhave?
Chelsea Husum (38:12):
Mainly I use
Instagram.
I'm also on LinkedIn and onFacebook.
My website is justchelseahusamcom and on there is
like speaking, I'm doing books,any events, any.
All my social links are onthere as well, so that's
probably the best thing place tofind really any of this stuff.
Daniela SM (38:28):
Okay, we didn't talk
about your speaking part.
What?
What do you get invited forusually?
What kind of presentationsyou're giving?
Chelsea Husum (38:36):
I'm.
I speak a lot on like being anentrepreneur, building a company
from nothing, kind of how I didit my way and did it
differently.
I love to talk about being abusy woman, mom, juggling it all
.
How do I live my best life?
And again, it's not perfect, itnever will be, but how I keep
trying, because I use how I feelright and I am constantly
(38:59):
striving to just be fulfilledand happy and joyful.
That's literally my goal inlife.
You know, I talk about thingsI've done that I've really
learned or grown a lot from.
Also, I talk about, you know,overcoming adversity and how I
got through that stuff as well.
Those are probably my biggesttopics.
Daniela SM (39:13):
Wonderful, wonderful
.
All right, chelsea, thank youso much for being here.
Yes, it was lovely.
Thank you for the lessons andthe conversations.
All the best and all success.
Thank you so much.
Yes, I appreciate you, daniela,and if you need any help with
the podcast, always happy tohelp.
Chelsea Husum (39:31):
Yes, I will.
I will, I will let you know.
I'm pretty green.
Daniela SM (39:35):
Perfect.
Yes, I will, I will.
I will let you know.
I'm pretty green, perfect,thank you.
Well, thank you so much.
I hope you enjoyed today'sepisode.
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