October 27, 2023 • 21 mins
Pilot Episode. Have you ever felt the crushing weight of perfectionism, imposter syndrome, or depression? Join me as I peel back the layers of my personal journey from surviving a traumatic car wreck to finding authenticity in my new normal. Listen as I throw open the curtains on my life, sharing how mindfulness and self-compassion became my beacon in the darkest of times. Through my struggles, I've learned to construct a life of self-worth and happiness, insights I'm eager to share with you.
Are you ready to become unstoppable? Let's talk about the four keys that have transformed my life: asking for help, embracing imperfections, living for myself, and taking action. I'll also delve into setting value-based goals, cultivating a community of support, and the imperative of mental health self-care. We're in this together, and with a little trust in the universe, and ourselves, we can achieve our dreams. Let's embark on this journey together, towards a life you've always wanted.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Becoming Unstoppable with Cole Evans.
I've struggled with lowself-worth, depression, anxiety
and shame for most of my life.
The more I've talked openlyabout this, the more I've found
how common these struggles arefor gay men.
It's taken so much hard work toovercome these inner battles
(00:21):
and I want to share with you howyou can win the battles, too,
so you can enjoy your fuckinglife like the happy and fabulous
dude you are.
Through self-compassion, youcan heal from pain and trauma,
find love and acceptance foryourself, live authentically and
, most importantly, becomeunstoppable.
(00:43):
Hello everyone, and welcome toBecoming Unstoppable.
This podcast is something thatI have been dreaming of doing
for years and I'm so happy andproud to be launching it today.
So thank you so much forlistening to our very first
(01:04):
episode, and if you enjoy whatyou hear today, please share it
with a friend and click followso that you're alerted of each
new episode, as it's posted toour podcast weekly.
Let's get started.
Are you a perfectionist?
I have been a lifelongperfectionist.
It's a symptom of impostersyndrome, and when I say I've
(01:29):
been a lifelong perfectionist, Imean like lifelong.
I've always been anoverachiever.
I was that kid who always gotstraight A's.
Everything always came easy tome.
If my mom was here right now,she would be telling you the
story of when I was in fifthgrade for this independent study
project I did a Titanic model.
(01:51):
My project was on the Titanicand I wanted to build this giant
model of the ship.
So my mom helped me.
We got this big assrefrigerator box and we shaped
it into the ship and we paintedit.
We got these big like QuakerOats, you know those cylinders,
(02:11):
the really tall ones.
We painted them gold, four ofthem for the smoke stacks.
This thing was massive, like wehad to get a truck to move it
to the school.
It was amazing.
I have always been anoverachiever.
I don't half-ass anything.
I've always been a go big or gohome person All symptoms of
perfectionism.
(02:32):
And in my career as a salesprofessional for the last 15
years I've consistently been oneof the top closers and highest
income earners with each of thecompanies that I've worked with.
I've also always been someonewho learns the hard way.
Failure way to success has beenthe MO for much of my life.
(02:57):
Unstoppable has become theidiosyncratic theme for my life
for many years now.
I even have it tattooed on mychest.
Unstoppable, it meansimpossible to prevent or stop,
and for a long time thismotivated me knowing that, no
(03:19):
matter what, no matter how manytimes I tripped and fell, I'd
get up dust the dirt off, learnfrom my mistakes and move on.
But add in some age, a lot ofkicks to the groin, an abusive
marriage and divorce, a fewcross-country moves, financial
(03:40):
struggles, as well as a lifelongstruggle with major depression
and debilitating anxiety.
Eventually, imposter syndromehijacked being unstoppable.
Last year I fell into a majordepression.
Everything overwhelmed me andbeing unstoppable seemed like a
(04:06):
total joke.
At this point I felt completelyparalyzed and hopeless.
Can you relate to that?
I decided that I had to dosomething that I'd never done
before in order to overcomethese obstacles and learn how to
move on and live a better life.
(04:28):
I remember I'd had friends whohad gone through treatment for
drugs and alcohol rehab programsand I remember thinking at one
point I wonder if they haverehab for depressed people.
And it turns out, after a quickGoogle search, there's dozens
of programs all over the countrythat are mental health, primary
for depression and anxiety.
(04:49):
So 11 months ago I checked intothis mental health treatment
program where I spent 11 weekslearning how to be mindful,
learning how to regulate myemotions and tolerate distress
and work with others on a muchbetter skill level.
(05:13):
Going through this program waslife changing for me.
Like I said, in my sales careerI've always been a top
performer, and that's becauseeverything we do as sales
professionals is completelyscripted.
I know these processesbackwards, forwards, upside down
(05:35):
.
I could do them in my sleep andI wanted to learn how to do
that same thing in my personallife.
I wanted the scripts and theskill sets, the different
processes, to learn how to crushmy personal life in the same
way that my sales training hadhelped me in my professional
(05:57):
life.
There are so many skills that Ilearned going through this
treatment program.
Two of the staples of myrecovery have been
self-compassion and mindfulness,and these learned skill sets
have allowed me to become themost authentic version of myself
(06:18):
, to build self-worth,self-esteem and confidence like
I've never had before and findhappiness in my life that I've
always wanted but I could neverseem to find or maintain, and
it's one of the reasons why I'mso excited about finally having
(06:38):
this podcast, because I want toshare with you the solutions
that I've found that have helpedme, hopefully to help you also
build the life you've alwayswanted and deserve.
And trust me, if I can digmyself out of the deepest,
darkest depression I've everbeen in, if I can turn my life
(07:00):
around and find happiness andstability, so can you, and
that's the goal of my podcast.
I want to share a story withyou.
The day before Christmas Eve,2012, I was driving on I-35 in
downtown Kansas City when an81-year-old woman got on the
(07:22):
interstate, driving the wrongway, and she hit me head-on.
It caused a four-car wreck andshe was killed in the collision.
This was extremely traumatic,and that next year, 2013, the
year that I went through myrecovery from the car wreck was
(07:46):
one of the toughest of my life.
I couldn't work, so I had nomoney.
I was deeply depressed.
I had to walk with a cane, Istruggled to pee right, I had to
have back surgery Things that atypical 23-year-old doesn't
deal with.
Now, I'm a firm believer ineverything happens for a reason
(08:10):
and I can always find a silverlining in pretty much any
situation.
So I became convinced that thereason for this car wreck that I
went through was to make meaware of how much talent and
potential that I had To realizeI was capable of such great
(08:35):
things.
But I wasn't even scratchingthe surface of my potential
no-transcript and although itwas several years before I began
referring to this asunstoppable, I think this is
where that concept was probablyoriginally born.
After almost 10 years of havingthis mentality, imposter
(09:03):
Syndrome had hijacked andbastardized, being unstoppable
over the years and turned itinto perfectionism.
You see, if I completed a taskand it was only 99% perfect,
well that was a failure in mymind and I was trash.
Dichotomous thinking hadcompletely overtaken my life.
(09:28):
How could I be unstoppable when99% of everything I do I fail
at?
I felt like a loser.
I felt hopeless and happinesswas the furthest thing from my
life.
I remember last December I hadbeen in my treatment program for
(09:54):
probably about three weeks orso and this is when I had kind
of my breakthrough moment.
I remember I had just thisanxiety attack one morning and I
broke down crying and just Imean all out blubbering, sobbing
, which was really healthy andreally helped me.
(10:16):
But I'm not one who normallycries, so this was different for
me.
But I remember in that moment Icame to the realization that
for so many years probably 10years since my car wreck I had
expected perfection from myselfand I finally realized that I
(10:47):
don't have to be perfect.
This was a moment when I reallyredefined the concept of being
unstoppable and when I realizedit's totally fine to be just
okay at something.
(11:07):
This insurmountable, crushingweight was lifted from my chest.
In addition to learning to givemyself grace, another lesson
that I figured out was, in orderto be unstoppable, you have to
(11:28):
actually make a daily effort andput in the work to build the
life you've always wanted.
Go figure, the life you'vealways wanted isn't just going
to appear out of thin air,despite the instant
gratification culture that welive in.
Did you know, one of the mostcommon deathbed regrets that
(11:51):
people have is I wish I'd hadthe courage to live for myself
and not what others expected ofme, or I wish I'd allowed myself
to be happier.
So at the beginning of thisyear, I relocated to Austin,
texas, to have a fresh start onmy life, and I've been making
(12:17):
efforts every week to create thelife I've always wanted and
deserve.
So I did a number of things.
I joined the Austin GaymansChorus, where I've made amazing
friends, and I'm now a boardmember and serve as the chairman
of their social eventscommittee.
I joined Austin Toastmastersand got super involved in giving
(12:43):
speeches and their leadershipprogram, which has really helped
me to work towards achieving alot of the goals that I've set
for myself.
It's one of the reasons why Ihave this podcast now, and don't
be surprised if I also end upposting live recordings from
some of my Toastmasters speeches.
(13:07):
And as I have gone through allof these, these changes, the
making the effort to build thelife that I've always wanted one
of the other huge efforts thatI've been working on was to
build friendships.
That I've always wanted butI've never had before.
(13:30):
I always thought making friendsas an adult was hard to do.
It turns out it's really not.
I thought I was sociallyawkward, but all you have to do
is just get where you havecommon interests with people and
then it's really easy toconnect again, and I'm sure
(13:51):
later on down the road I'llprobably do an episode on making
friends as an adult.
Becoming unstoppable isn't justthis cute little mantra for my
life, it's something I liveevery day and for the first time
I'm actually putting in thework to make it a reality.
(14:14):
It's not to say it's easy.
This takes a lot of work.
I still have days where I feeloverwhelmed, or I still have
days when the anxiety creeps in.
But even with all of the extrawork that I'm putting in, I feel
(14:35):
so much joy and I feel morefulfilled than I've ever been.
So here are four keys tobecoming unstoppable.
Number one ask for help.
You've got to build a community.
(14:57):
You cannot do this by yourself.
Trust me, I've tried.
There have been points in mylife where I thought, fuck it,
I'm going to do this all on myown.
I can't trust anyone.
It's me.
I'm going to go out there anddo it Like all of this rides on
me.
I'm an independent woman.
I don't need no man.
But humans are social creaturesand it's built into our DNA to
(15:27):
connect with others.
So it's so important to have asocial life and to build
friendships.
Specifically, you want to buildclose friendships with people
that you can be mutually therefor each other, that you can be
vulnerable with, to vent to onthe tough days and to celebrate
(15:52):
together on the great days.
You have to prioritize yourmental health.
I'm a firm believer.
Everyone needs a therapist.
Whether you see him twice ayear or twice a week, whatever
it may be, everyone needs atherapist and you need to learn
(16:14):
effective coping skills.
I highly recommend dialectalbehavior therapy or DBT.
And don't forget to meditateand practice self care on a
regular basis.
Number two stop trying to beperfect.
Imposter syndrome is a bitchand perfectionism is impossible.
(16:41):
You've got to eliminatedichotomous thinking from your
mind, because life is not blackor white.
You've got to live in the grayarea and embrace the roller
coaster.
Remember to pace yourself.
Your life isn't going to allcome into place and be well.
(17:07):
It's never going to be perfect,but it's not going to happen
overnight.
It's going to take time andyou've got to be flexible, give
up control and learn to adapt inthe moment.
Number three live for yourself.
(17:27):
You and you alone areresponsible for your happiness,
so you need to set someboundaries.
Work-life balance is essential.
It has been such a huge factorin me finding happiness with
setting boundaries with work andsaying, hey, I gotta have a
(17:48):
personal life outside of here.
Stop worrying about what otherpeople think.
Quit being a people pleaser.
You've got to learn how toadvocate for yourself and
believe in yourself.
You can do the big hard things.
(18:11):
Number four keys to becomingunstoppable.
Nike said it, shia LaBeoufreminded us.
Just do it.
You've got to determine thecore values you have for your
life and then set value-basedgoals to achieve true happiness.
(18:32):
Not milestone goals, notachievement, not
possession-based goals.
Value-based goals are what willhelp you achieve true happiness
.
Pay attention to the signs ofthe universe.
If it's easy and effortless andit's moving you towards your
(18:52):
goals, it's probably somethingyou should look into.
If you're getting nothing butred flags and it's just constant
struggle and strife, eh, maywanna think twice about that one
and jump on opportunities thatpresent themselves to you to
grow.
In his book, the Velvet Rage byDr Alan Downs, he says the
(19:17):
secret to life isn't an idea,it's a behavior.
You must do not just thinkabout what is likely to bring
you joy and peace.
Do you know how longStart-A-Podcast has been on my
(19:37):
vision board?
Each year, just do it.
That's why this podcast isfinally happening.
This has been such a long timecoming and, while it certainly
isn't going to be perfect now orever, this is me putting in the
(19:59):
work to make my dreams areality and achieve the goals
that I've set out to do.
For too long I letperfectionism stand in my way of
launching this podcast.
I thought it had to be perfect.
I thought I needed the perfectmic setup.
I thought I needed the perfectcover art.
(20:20):
Everything had to be perfect,but I finally decided I've gotta
at least get started somewhere.
Aristotle, and later MaryPoppins, said well begun is half
done.
Where are you currentlyallowing perfectionism to keep
you stuck and paralyzed frommoving forward in your life?
(20:43):
What goals have youprocrastinated achieving because
of imposter syndrome?
Maybe it's time to reassess?
Well begun is half done?
Let's recap the four keys tobecoming unstoppable.
Number one ask for help.
(21:04):
Number two stop trying to beperfect.
Three live for yourself.
And number four just do it.
You must do not just thinkabout what is likely to bring
you joy and peace.
Thank you, guys, so much forjoining us for our first episode
(21:28):
of Becoming Unstoppable.
And stick around.
It's only gonna get better fromhere.
If this has made an impact withyou, I'd love it if you would
share it with friends, post onsocial media and follow the
podcast.
Until next time, let's go outthere and be unstoppable.
(21:49):
This is Cole Evans signing off.
Welcome to Becoming Unstoppable with Cole Evans.
I've struggled with lowself-worth, depression, anxiety
and shame for most of my life.
The more I've talked openlyabout this, the more I've found
how common these struggles arefor gay men.
It's taken so much hard work toovercome these inner battles
(00:21):
and I want to share with you howyou can win the battles, too,
so you can enjoy your fuckinglife like the happy and fabulous
dude you are.
Through self-compassion, youcan heal from pain and trauma,
find love and acceptance foryourself, live authentically and
, most importantly, becomeunstoppable.
(00:43):
Hello everyone, and welcome toBecoming Unstoppable.
This podcast is something thatI have been dreaming of doing
for years and I'm so happy andproud to be launching it today.
So thank you so much forlistening to our very first
(01:04):
episode, and if you enjoy whatyou hear today, please share it
with a friend and click followso that you're alerted of each
new episode, as it's posted toour podcast weekly.
Let's get started.
Are you a perfectionist?
I have been a lifelongperfectionist.
It's a symptom of impostersyndrome, and when I say I've
(01:29):
been a lifelong perfectionist, Imean like lifelong.
I've always been anoverachiever.
I was that kid who always gotstraight A's.
Everything always came easy tome.
If my mom was here right now,she would be telling you the
story of when I was in fifthgrade for this independent study
project I did a Titanic model.
(01:51):
My project was on the Titanicand I wanted to build this giant
model of the ship.
So my mom helped me.
We got this big assrefrigerator box and we shaped
it into the ship and we paintedit.
We got these big like QuakerOats, you know those cylinders,
(02:11):
the really tall ones.
We painted them gold, four ofthem for the smoke stacks.
This thing was massive, like wehad to get a truck to move it
to the school.
It was amazing.
I have always been anoverachiever.
I don't half-ass anything.
I've always been a go big or gohome person All symptoms of
perfectionism.
(02:32):
And in my career as a salesprofessional for the last 15
years I've consistently been oneof the top closers and highest
income earners with each of thecompanies that I've worked with.
I've also always been someonewho learns the hard way.
Failure way to success has beenthe MO for much of my life.
(02:57):
Unstoppable has become theidiosyncratic theme for my life
for many years now.
I even have it tattooed on mychest.
Unstoppable, it meansimpossible to prevent or stop,
and for a long time thismotivated me knowing that, no
(03:19):
matter what, no matter how manytimes I tripped and fell, I'd
get up dust the dirt off, learnfrom my mistakes and move on.
But add in some age, a lot ofkicks to the groin, an abusive
marriage and divorce, a fewcross-country moves, financial
(03:40):
struggles, as well as a lifelongstruggle with major depression
and debilitating anxiety.
Eventually, imposter syndromehijacked being unstoppable.
Last year I fell into a majordepression.
Everything overwhelmed me andbeing unstoppable seemed like a
(04:06):
total joke.
At this point I felt completelyparalyzed and hopeless.
Can you relate to that?
I decided that I had to dosomething that I'd never done
before in order to overcomethese obstacles and learn how to
move on and live a better life.
(04:28):
I remember I'd had friends whohad gone through treatment for
drugs and alcohol rehab programsand I remember thinking at one
point I wonder if they haverehab for depressed people.
And it turns out, after a quickGoogle search, there's dozens
of programs all over the countrythat are mental health, primary
for depression and anxiety.
(04:49):
So 11 months ago I checked intothis mental health treatment
program where I spent 11 weekslearning how to be mindful,
learning how to regulate myemotions and tolerate distress
and work with others on a muchbetter skill level.
(05:13):
Going through this program waslife changing for me.
Like I said, in my sales careerI've always been a top
performer, and that's becauseeverything we do as sales
professionals is completelyscripted.
I know these processesbackwards, forwards, upside down
(05:35):
.
I could do them in my sleep andI wanted to learn how to do
that same thing in my personallife.
I wanted the scripts and theskill sets, the different
processes, to learn how to crushmy personal life in the same
way that my sales training hadhelped me in my professional
(05:57):
life.
There are so many skills that Ilearned going through this
treatment program.
Two of the staples of myrecovery have been
self-compassion and mindfulness,and these learned skill sets
have allowed me to become themost authentic version of myself
(06:18):
, to build self-worth,self-esteem and confidence like
I've never had before and findhappiness in my life that I've
always wanted but I could neverseem to find or maintain, and
it's one of the reasons why I'mso excited about finally having
(06:38):
this podcast, because I want toshare with you the solutions
that I've found that have helpedme, hopefully to help you also
build the life you've alwayswanted and deserve.
And trust me, if I can digmyself out of the deepest,
darkest depression I've everbeen in, if I can turn my life
(07:00):
around and find happiness andstability, so can you, and
that's the goal of my podcast.
I want to share a story withyou.
The day before Christmas Eve,2012, I was driving on I-35 in
downtown Kansas City when an81-year-old woman got on the
(07:22):
interstate, driving the wrongway, and she hit me head-on.
It caused a four-car wreck andshe was killed in the collision.
This was extremely traumatic,and that next year, 2013, the
year that I went through myrecovery from the car wreck was
(07:46):
one of the toughest of my life.
I couldn't work, so I had nomoney.
I was deeply depressed.
I had to walk with a cane, Istruggled to pee right, I had to
have back surgery Things that atypical 23-year-old doesn't
deal with.
Now, I'm a firm believer ineverything happens for a reason
(08:10):
and I can always find a silverlining in pretty much any
situation.
So I became convinced that thereason for this car wreck that I
went through was to make meaware of how much talent and
potential that I had To realizeI was capable of such great
(08:35):
things.
But I wasn't even scratchingthe surface of my potential
no-transcript and although itwas several years before I began
referring to this asunstoppable, I think this is
where that concept was probablyoriginally born.
After almost 10 years of havingthis mentality, imposter
(09:03):
Syndrome had hijacked andbastardized, being unstoppable
over the years and turned itinto perfectionism.
You see, if I completed a taskand it was only 99% perfect,
well that was a failure in mymind and I was trash.
Dichotomous thinking hadcompletely overtaken my life.
(09:28):
How could I be unstoppable when99% of everything I do I fail
at?
I felt like a loser.
I felt hopeless and happinesswas the furthest thing from my
life.
I remember last December I hadbeen in my treatment program for
(09:54):
probably about three weeks orso and this is when I had kind
of my breakthrough moment.
I remember I had just thisanxiety attack one morning and I
broke down crying and just Imean all out blubbering, sobbing
, which was really healthy andreally helped me.
(10:16):
But I'm not one who normallycries, so this was different for
me.
But I remember in that moment Icame to the realization that
for so many years probably 10years since my car wreck I had
expected perfection from myselfand I finally realized that I
(10:47):
don't have to be perfect.
This was a moment when I reallyredefined the concept of being
unstoppable and when I realizedit's totally fine to be just
okay at something.
(11:07):
This insurmountable, crushingweight was lifted from my chest.
In addition to learning to givemyself grace, another lesson
that I figured out was, in orderto be unstoppable, you have to
(11:28):
actually make a daily effort andput in the work to build the
life you've always wanted.
Go figure, the life you'vealways wanted isn't just going
to appear out of thin air,despite the instant
gratification culture that welive in.
Did you know, one of the mostcommon deathbed regrets that
(11:51):
people have is I wish I'd hadthe courage to live for myself
and not what others expected ofme, or I wish I'd allowed myself
to be happier.
So at the beginning of thisyear, I relocated to Austin,
texas, to have a fresh start onmy life, and I've been making
(12:17):
efforts every week to create thelife I've always wanted and
deserve.
So I did a number of things.
I joined the Austin GaymansChorus, where I've made amazing
friends, and I'm now a boardmember and serve as the chairman
of their social eventscommittee.
I joined Austin Toastmastersand got super involved in giving
(12:43):
speeches and their leadershipprogram, which has really helped
me to work towards achieving alot of the goals that I've set
for myself.
It's one of the reasons why Ihave this podcast now, and don't
be surprised if I also end upposting live recordings from
some of my Toastmasters speeches.
(13:07):
And as I have gone through allof these, these changes, the
making the effort to build thelife that I've always wanted one
of the other huge efforts thatI've been working on was to
build friendships.
That I've always wanted butI've never had before.
(13:30):
I always thought making friendsas an adult was hard to do.
It turns out it's really not.
I thought I was sociallyawkward, but all you have to do
is just get where you havecommon interests with people and
then it's really easy toconnect again, and I'm sure
(13:51):
later on down the road I'llprobably do an episode on making
friends as an adult.
Becoming unstoppable isn't justthis cute little mantra for my
life, it's something I liveevery day and for the first time
I'm actually putting in thework to make it a reality.
(14:14):
It's not to say it's easy.
This takes a lot of work.
I still have days where I feeloverwhelmed, or I still have
days when the anxiety creeps in.
But even with all of the extrawork that I'm putting in, I feel
(14:35):
so much joy and I feel morefulfilled than I've ever been.
So here are four keys tobecoming unstoppable.
Number one ask for help.
You've got to build a community.
(14:57):
You cannot do this by yourself.
Trust me, I've tried.
There have been points in mylife where I thought, fuck it,
I'm going to do this all on myown.
I can't trust anyone.
It's me.
I'm going to go out there anddo it Like all of this rides on
me.
I'm an independent woman.
I don't need no man.
But humans are social creaturesand it's built into our DNA to
(15:27):
connect with others.
So it's so important to have asocial life and to build
friendships.
Specifically, you want to buildclose friendships with people
that you can be mutually therefor each other, that you can be
vulnerable with, to vent to onthe tough days and to celebrate
(15:52):
together on the great days.
You have to prioritize yourmental health.
I'm a firm believer.
Everyone needs a therapist.
Whether you see him twice ayear or twice a week, whatever
it may be, everyone needs atherapist and you need to learn
(16:14):
effective coping skills.
I highly recommend dialectalbehavior therapy or DBT.
And don't forget to meditateand practice self care on a
regular basis.
Number two stop trying to beperfect.
Imposter syndrome is a bitchand perfectionism is impossible.
(16:41):
You've got to eliminatedichotomous thinking from your
mind, because life is not blackor white.
You've got to live in the grayarea and embrace the roller
coaster.
Remember to pace yourself.
Your life isn't going to allcome into place and be well.
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It's never going to be perfect,but it's not going to happen
overnight.
It's going to take time andyou've got to be flexible, give
up control and learn to adapt inthe moment.
Number three live for yourself.
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You and you alone areresponsible for your happiness,
so you need to set someboundaries.
Work-life balance is essential.
It has been such a huge factorin me finding happiness with
setting boundaries with work andsaying, hey, I gotta have a
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personal life outside of here.
Stop worrying about what otherpeople think.
Quit being a people pleaser.
You've got to learn how toadvocate for yourself and
believe in yourself.
You can do the big hard things.
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Number four keys to becomingunstoppable.
Nike said it, shia LaBeoufreminded us.
Just do it.
You've got to determine thecore values you have for your
life and then set value-basedgoals to achieve true happiness.
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Not milestone goals, notachievement, not
possession-based goals.
Value-based goals are what willhelp you achieve true happiness
.
Pay attention to the signs ofthe universe.
If it's easy and effortless andit's moving you towards your
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goals, it's probably somethingyou should look into.
If you're getting nothing butred flags and it's just constant
struggle and strife, eh, maywanna think twice about that one
and jump on opportunities thatpresent themselves to you to
grow.
In his book, the Velvet Rage byDr Alan Downs, he says the
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secret to life isn't an idea,it's a behavior.
You must do not just thinkabout what is likely to bring
you joy and peace.
Do you know how longStart-A-Podcast has been on my
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vision board?
Each year, just do it.
That's why this podcast isfinally happening.
This has been such a long timecoming and, while it certainly
isn't going to be perfect now orever, this is me putting in the
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work to make my dreams areality and achieve the goals
that I've set out to do.
For too long I letperfectionism stand in my way of
launching this podcast.
I thought it had to be perfect.
I thought I needed the perfectmic setup.
I thought I needed the perfectcover art.
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Everything had to be perfect,but I finally decided I've gotta
at least get started somewhere.
Aristotle, and later MaryPoppins, said well begun is half
done.
Where are you currentlyallowing perfectionism to keep
you stuck and paralyzed frommoving forward in your life?
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What goals have youprocrastinated achieving because
of imposter syndrome?
Maybe it's time to reassess?
Well begun is half done?
Let's recap the four keys tobecoming unstoppable.
Number one ask for help.
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Number two stop trying to beperfect.
Three live for yourself.
And number four just do it.
You must do not just thinkabout what is likely to bring
you joy and peace.
Thank you, guys, so much forjoining us for our first episode
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of Becoming Unstoppable.
And stick around.
It's only gonna get better fromhere.
If this has made an impact withyou, I'd love it if you would
share it with friends, post onsocial media and follow the
podcast.
Until next time, let's go outthere and be unstoppable.
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This is Cole Evans signing off.
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