Been There Got Out Podcast

Unlock the secrets to rebuilding trust and nurturing healthy relationships with insights from psychotherapist Tami Kiekhaefer. Discover how to navigate the emotional turmoil after betrayal and trauma, as Tami illuminates the often-overlooked feelings of self-blame and societal pressure to move on too quickly. Gain invaluable guidance on why connections to past partners linger and how to acknowledge your current emotional state with...

Can navigating the choppy waters of co-parenting truly be harmonious, especially when dealing with a toxic ex? Join us as we promise eye-opening insights and practical solutions with parenting coach Jeanine Mouchawar. In this episode, we unravel the complex dynamics of co-parenting where differing backgrounds and expectations often collide. Jeanine draws from her vast experience with single moms and contentious divorces to guide us...

Can social media really make or break a family law case? Listen as we uncover the power of digital footprints with Jacqy Dougherty from XG Consultants Group, a leading global private investigation firm. Jacqy explores the surprising ways social media is used to reveal discrepancies in court testimonies, unfit parenting, and concealed finances. With tales of mysterious multiple profiles and unexpected courtroom revelations, this epi...

Join us for a transformative discussion with Sue Donnellan, a multi-entrepreneur, mom of four, and insightful parenting coach, as we explore the complex world of parenting through challenging situations such as divorces and custody battles. We examine effective strategies for navigating these turbulent times, emphasizing the importance of trusting parental instincts over misdiagnosing children's behaviors. Sue sheds light on t...

Discover the transformative power of understanding family dynamics during high-conflict divorces in our latest episode, featuring insights from Adam Barta, a seasoned licensed clinical social worker. We promise you'll gain a new perspective on the importance of examining the entire family's environment rather than singling out a child's behavior in therapy. Adam takes us on a journey through the crucial elements of a...

Fraud expert Kelly Todd takes us into the shadowy world of financial betrayal and deception. As a seasoned forensic accountant, Kelly shares invaluable insights into how financial abuse often infiltrates relationships, particularly during the tumultuous time of divorce. She uncovers the psychology of a fraudster, illustrating how the dynamics of financial control can lead to a cascade of rationalizations and deceit. Kelly’s mission...

Join us as we navigate the complex world of student loans and credit management during a divorce, featuring insights from Angela Kim, known as Angela the Credit Boss. Discover how divorce can unexpectedly damage your credit score, even without a contentious split, due to shared financial responsibilities like co-signing on student loans or mortgages. 

Angela shares a critical revelation about student loans: each semester c...

Years ago, Susie found herself amidst the emotional storm of a high-conflict divorce, grappling with the feelings of shame and regret that came with it. Now, as a mental health coach for women, she joins us to share her learned wisdom and practical advice on navigating such tumultuous times. From establishing boundaries to focusing on what we can control, Susie’s insights empower us to reclaim our mental and physical health, even w...

Trauma therapist Dr. Rebecca Vazquez joins us to unravel the intricate links between anxiety, our physical bodies, and the mind, with a special focus on the influential vagus nerve. She introduces us to the "drop three" technique, a simple yet effective method for alleviating anxiety by relaxing the jaw, shoulders, and hands to signal safety to the body. Throughout our conversation, Dr. Vazquez offers invaluable advice on...

After enduring the turmoil of domestic violence, Shanay Fulton found herself navigating the unpredictable world of homelessness, a journey that ultimately led her to happiness and advocacy. She joins us to share her inspiring story, offering a raw and authentic look at the intricate challenges faced by domestic violence survivors, particularly the relentless cycle of financial instability and lack of secure housing. Shanay's p...

Growing up, P and her sister faced the unimaginable reality of being separated from their mother, entangled in a web spun by their father's manipulation and control. This episode sheds light on the darker side of the family court system that often overlooks the subtle yet profound impact of legal and emotional abuse. P bravely shares her story, revealing the struggles of living under the constant surveillance and authoritarian...

What happens when a parent's portrayal of love is skewed by manipulation and deceit? Join us as we explore the tumultuous journey of A, a young adult who courageously shares her story of growing up amidst parental alienation, divorce, and domestic violence. A's father painted her mother in an unflattering light, affecting A's and her sister's perceptions and mental health. We uncover the emotional manipulation t...

Transform your approach to managing your finances during a divorce by joining our insightful conversation with Nancy Rossner, our returning expert! Learn about the upsides and potential pitfalls of various tax filing options, such as filing jointly versus separately. Nancy shares her wisdom on balancing the benefits of joint filing, like larger deductions, against the risks of shared tax liabilities. Meanwhile, separate filing migh...

What if navigating the often turbulent waters of divorce could actually lead to empowerment and personal growth? Join us on a transformative journey as we sit down with Chloe, a certified divorce coach from London and a key member of the Amicable Divorce Network, who unveils her new book, "Don't Screw Up Your Divorce." Chloe shares invaluable insights on how to maintain control and make informed decisions during this...

Unlock the secrets to rebuilding your credit and safeguarding your financial future with the expert guidance of financial advisor Derrick Diksa. As life's transitions—such as leaving a toxic relationship or going through a divorce—can wreak havoc on your credit score, Derrick shares practical strategies to navigate these challenges. Learn how to avoid the common pitfalls of store credit cards and understand the significance of...

Unlock the secrets to overcoming betrayal and harness the power of hypnosis with our expert guest, Leszek Erasmus. Ever wondered how a simple shift in perspective might transform your emotional landscape after a painful betrayal? Join us as Leszek, a double-certified life coach and consultant hypnotist from Portland, Oregon, shares his profound insights and personal experiences. You'll learn about the deep emotional wounds bet...

What happens when unchecked emotions walk into a family courtroom? Discover the insights of Mia Poppe, a vibrant New York City matrimonial attorney, as we navigate the nuances of managing reactivity in family court settings. With a focus on strategic communication and the subtleties of body language, Mia offers critical advice on understanding court culture and aligning with judicial expectations. Uncover the strategies in our new ...

Unlock the secrets to navigating the complex world of family law with insights from Yoni Levoritz, a seasoned New York City attorney. Our conversation sheds light on the thorny issues surrounding relocations and parenting plans, including the hidden pitfalls of moving away from a noncustodial parent and how economic factors can influence custody outcomes. Yoni shares a remarkable case study where a denied relocation was reversed on...

Join us for an insightful discussion with Jeff Kaplan, a seasoned divorce attorney from New York City, as we explore the critical dynamics of building a strong attorney-client relationship, especially in high-conflict divorce and custody cases. Jeff shares his expertise on why this relationship is sacred and how a good lawyer should know their client's life details intimately, often better than the client themselves. We addres...