Been There Got Out Podcast

Join us for an enlightening conversation with Gloria Vanderhorst, a distinguished psychologist whose five decades of experience provide a rich tapestry of insights into the world of male emotional expression. Gloria brings her depth of expertise to the forefront as we examine the constraints American cultural norms place on men's emotional vocabulary, beginning in childhood. Through her work with preschoolers, adolescents, and...

Dr. Karalynn Royster, a child psychologist from Colorado, joins us to unravel the complexities of co-parenting with a challenging ex-partner. She shares her expertise on creating a home environment where children can thrive despite the turmoil of separation. By focusing on the well-being of the children and allowing them time to adapt, Dr. Royster highlights key indicators of children struggling with these changes, like behavioral ...

Confidence and assertiveness specialist Talia Bambola shares her invaluable expertise on the nuanced differences between assertiveness and aggression. With her background as a licensed marriage family therapist, Talia discusses the transformative journey from people-pleasing to setting firm boundaries and building confidence. Her insights are particularly relevant for those trapped in high-conflict co-parenting dynamics, where bala...

Could the secret to easier co-parenting be as simple as understanding your emotions? Licensed professional counselor and play therapist Jenny Hornby joins the conversation to explore this and more. Our discussion offers listeners a fascinating glimpse into the world of emotional regulation—a crucial skill for parents who must navigate their own feelings while helping children identify and manage theirs. Jenny provides valuable insi...

Author and speaker Josh the Derelict joins us to share his unique insights on navigating the challenges of divorce and rediscovering one's identity through adversity. Josh's journey from feeling abandoned to embracing his true self is a testament to resilience and transformation. In this episode, Josh introduces his book, "The Five Traps Men Face when Going Through Divorce and How to Triumph Over Them," offering...

Michele Locke, a seasoned attorney and former domestic violence judge, brings her wealth of experience to our latest episode. We tackle the tough issues of family court, addressing concerns about judicial integrity and the toll of compassion fatigue on judges. Michele gives us a front-row seat to the complexities of protective orders and child protective services cases, highlighting the challenges of ensuring justice while managing...

Parenting teenagers through the tumultuous waters of divorce, separation, and co-parenting just became a little clearer thanks to our guest, parenting coach Mike Barsamian. With a rich background in understanding teenage behavior, Mike equates their journey to walking a tightrope, balancing precariously between the realms of childhood and adulthood. Together, we unpack the concept of "code switching" as teenagers navigate...

Unlock the secrets to protecting your child's emotional well-being amidst the turmoil of high-conflict divorce. Our guest, clinical psychologist Dave Marcus, sheds light on the profound psychological effects parental disputes can have on children of all ages. From toddlers who internalize parental tension to teenagers caught in the crossfire, discover how these dynamics shape a child's identity and mental health. Dave sha...

Join us as we welcome the insightful Theresa Inman, a board-certified behavior analyst, who sheds light on the complexities of aggressive behavior in children, especially within high-conflict divorces. Theresa brings her extensive experience to the table, explaining how children often mirror the behaviors they observe, sometimes resulting in aggression. We explore the misconceptions around children's innate understanding of be...

Join us as we engage in a thought-provoking conversation with Stacey Womack, the visionary founder and executive director of Abuse Recovery Ministry and Services (ARMS). Stacey shares her invaluable insights into domestic violence intervention programs, shedding light on how these initiatives aim to help individuals, primarily men, recognize and change abusive behaviors by altering their underlying belief systems. We address preval...

How does the court system handle the delicate issue of one parent turning their children against the other during a contentious divorce? Discover the insights of Jonathan Breeden, a divorce attorney with decades of experience, as he unravels the complexities of high-conflict co-parenting. With a focus on parental alienation, Jonathan shares stories and strategies that highlight the need for effective communication and resolution, b...

Join us for an inspiring conversation with Jackie Zamora, a talented Dominican dancer from Brooklyn, New York, as she shares her journey of founding Zam Dance, a transformative dance program for individuals with disabilities. Listen in as Jackie opens up about her personal experiences with mental abuse during childhood, which led her to seek solace and healing through dance. Jackie emphasizes the importance of expressing pain throu...

Anastasia Arauz, a seasoned co-parenting counselor, joins us to unravel the complex world of co-parenting during high-conflict divorces and custody battles. Through her expert lens, Anastasia demystifies common misconceptions and fears, such as confronting an ex-partner in counseling or doubting the effectiveness of these sessions. She clarifies the nuanced differences between the roles of a parenting coordinator and a co-parenting...

Amanda McCoy Flanagan, an award-winning author, writing coach, and grief recovery expert, joins us to unpack the tangled emotions tied to grief and personal empowerment. Amanda shares her wisdom on navigating the emotional labyrinth of high-conflict situations like divorce and toxic relationships, where guilt often shadows the path to healing. With her guidance, we challenge ourselves to view writing as a therapeutic process—transf...

Uncover essential strategies for navigating the intricate and emotionally charged world of childhood sexual assault allegations within the context of separation and custody disputes. We promise you'll gain invaluable insights from our guest, Brian, a seasoned trial attorney from Greenberg Gross, who shares his extensive expertise in handling these sensitive cases. His guidance is indispensable for those confronting the heartbr...

Unlock the secrets to rebuilding trust and nurturing healthy relationships with insights from psychotherapist Tami Kiekhaefer. Discover how to navigate the emotional turmoil after betrayal and trauma, as Tami illuminates the often-overlooked feelings of self-blame and societal pressure to move on too quickly. Gain invaluable guidance on why connections to past partners linger and how to acknowledge your current emotional state with...

Can navigating the choppy waters of co-parenting truly be harmonious, especially when dealing with a toxic ex? Join us as we promise eye-opening insights and practical solutions with parenting coach Jeanine Mouchawar. In this episode, we unravel the complex dynamics of co-parenting where differing backgrounds and expectations often collide. Jeanine draws from her vast experience with single moms and contentious divorces to guide us...

Can social media really make or break a family law case? Listen as we uncover the power of digital footprints with Jacqy Dougherty from XG Consultants Group, a leading global private investigation firm. Jacqy explores the surprising ways social media is used to reveal discrepancies in court testimonies, unfit parenting, and concealed finances. With tales of mysterious multiple profiles and unexpected courtroom revelations, this epi...

Join us for a transformative discussion with Sue Donnellan, a multi-entrepreneur, mom of four, and insightful parenting coach, as we explore the complex world of parenting through challenging situations such as divorces and custody battles. We examine effective strategies for navigating these turbulent times, emphasizing the importance of trusting parental instincts over misdiagnosing children's behaviors. Sue sheds light on t...