Better Than Perfect | A Relationship Podcast

Are men being “ruined by women”…or by men selling victimhood? In this episode we unpack how red-pill rage-bait hijacks your attention, feeds the male-loneliness loop, and what to do instead: build character, set standards, and lead with strength (not contempt).

What you’ll learn

• Why the “red-pill cult” works (algorithms, outrage, identity)

• Guidance vs. rigid rules—how dogma breeds hypocrisy

• Character > looks: discipline, s...

Two imperfect people tackle a brutal Reddit letter: “My boyfriend admits he’ll never love me as much as his childhood best friend.” We break down friend-zone vs slept-zone, orbiters, and why clear standards beat “looking insecure.”What you’ll learn• The friend-zone asymmetry: women park guys; men keep women they’ve already slept with• Why “I loved her more” is a deal-breaker, not a dialogue starter• No-ex/no-bestie boundaries and t...

Two imperfect people, one spicy topic. We revisit erotica culture, BookTok “spice,” and why the fantasy of extreme dominance can quietly rewire desire, derail intimacy, and normalize what shouldn’t be normal. We also read a listener email from a husband navigating his wife’s romance-novel habit and share concrete steps for couples who want passion without porn—or “book porn.”

What you’ll learn

• How “spice” conditions arousal (ju...

We answer Maria’s big question: Should you delay dating to work on yourself, or date to grow? We break down timing for men vs women, how to avoid “healing as avoidance,” what real standards look like, and how to prepare yourself so the right person actually shows up.

What you’ll learn

• The difference between healing and hiding

• Why timing looks different for men and women—and what to do about it

• Standards vs expectations (and the one...

A hundred down… and here’s the other fifty. 🎉

This is Part 2 of our 100th-episode celebration: a rapid-fire recap of Episodes 51–100. We revisit the biggest lessons (and a few hot takes): standards vs. expectations, how long to stay unhappy, defensiveness, chivalry, “what do you bring to the table?”, community, conflict, brutal truths for young and older women, modern-traditional roles, AI + dating, the “financial abuse” debate, wi...

A hundred episodes. One imperfect couple. A ton of growth.In our 100th episode, we celebrate by recapping the first 50 episodes of Better Than Perfect — what still holds up, what we’ve refined, and the lessons that changed our relationship. We kick off with a spicy debate on bars and clubs, respect vs control, and then speed-run through episodes 1 to 50: marriage, boundaries, conflict, polarity, resentment, smut vs porn, “girls nig...

Dating works better when it’s playful, curious, and pressure-free. We break down why leading with “I’m looking for marriage” screams desperation, how to keep things fun without being a player, and the masculine/feminine dance (men = guardians of commitment, women = guardians of sex). Plus: practical scripts, what “leadership” actually looks like on dates, and when to talk commitment.Chapters • 00:00 Cold open: “Treat dating like it...

Therapy terms were meant to heal—so why are they tearing us apart? Today we dig into therapy speak fatigue: how labels like “gaslighting,” “narcissist,” and even “boundaries” get weaponized, why validation isn’t agreement, and how to communicate without hiding behind buzzwords. We share concrete phrasing to replace labels with specifics so you can actually fix problems (and reconnect).Chapters • 00:00 Cold open: “Therapy speak is c...

Most men say “don’t be insecure”—and accidentally make it worse. In this episode we show exactly what to say and do when your partner spirals, why silent treatment is emotional manipulation, and how to stop the avoidant ↔ anxious ping-pong. We role-play a real scenario (the “gym girls” fear), break down a viral Reddit post where a partner went 7 days with no contact, and give practical reassurance scripts that calm anxiety without ...

Is “taking care of her” just a 1950s rerun—or the modern blueprint for trust and polarity? We unpack the blowback from a viral clip about men running household finances, clarify shielding vs. controlling, and show how real servant leadership lifts stress off her plate without putting her in the dark. For women, we cover how to stop emasculating potential (aka frog-farming), set standards without mothering, and hand responsibility b...

Two times a week and still unhappy? We unpack a Reddit case where a husband pushes porn “training,” demands replies while she’s with their kid, and even threatens to find someone else. We explain why that nukes trust and desire—and what actually builds a great sex life: enthusiasm, not obligation. You’ll learn how porn scripts sabotage connection, how to get her out of “mom mode,” why taking stress off her plate matters, and how to...

You’re not actually fighting about the toilet seat. You’re fighting about what it means—feeling unseen, unsafe, or unloved. In this episode we argue the #1 relationship killer is resentment, not a lack of communication per se. We cover how resentment builds like plaque, why “surface” complaints are really unmet emotional needs, how to bring things up without triggering a defensive spiral, and the crucial difference between grace an...

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We played Truth or Drink—but swapped booze for a Wheel of Hot Sauce. Four card tiers (Happy Hour → On the Rocks → Last Call → Extra Dirty). Stakes: Crystal → Carolina Reaper → Scorpion → “Stupidamente Piccante.” Questions escalated fast: ambulance stories, cheating ethics, threesome reveals, nipple descriptions, and whether you should ever not tell the truth.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)...

A viral post claims “financial abuse” because a husband (250k/yr) pays all bills, gives an allowance, and more money on request—yet doesn’t grant direct account access. We break down: real abuse vs boundaries, why the man leading finances can reduce stress (when he’s a servant leader), how trust beats “50/50,” and concrete steps to transition out of roommate economics.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00 – Cold open: “No 50/50. No excuses.”...

An anthropologist says polyamorous couples are just as happy as monogamous ones. We pause the podcast, look at each other, and ask: Really? This episode dissects the “biology made me do it” argument—men’s visual wiring, women’s romance/status pull, jealousy/mate-guarding—and why biology ≠ destiny when you’re building a life, not running on instinct. We separate momentary happiness from long-term fulfillment and make the case for ch...

Fame, clout, and the attention economy—have they nuked modern love? John & Nicole tear into celebrity dating dynamics, Instagram DMs, body-count wars, cheating double standards, and whether “status” has replaced character. From Kardashian culture to manosphere hot takes, this one splits the room 50/50.

⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)

0:00 – Cold open: “dark days” mindset and why attention rewires desire

2:20 – Fame & access: h...

She says she’s done, movers booked, divorce lawyer on speed-dial. Do you level up and reclaim respect—or let her go and start over? John and Nicole break down the brutal path from blindsided husband to high-value man, debating whether fighting for a dying marriage is strength or desperation.

⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)

0:00  Cold open: “Even though she’s leaving you…”—why terms matter

2:30  Shock phase: blindsided men & early warning ...

Ten evergreen “rules” almost everyone hears—John & Nicole shred them one by one. From soul-mate telepathy to the myth that a newborn repairs a shaky marriage, the duo’s rapid-fire myth-busting sparks a 50/50 comment war.⏱️ Timestamps (approx.)0:00  Intro & why relationship “rules” won’t die2:50  Myth #1 – If they loved me, they’d just know what I need9:20  Myth #2 – Good couples don’t fight10:30  Myth #3 – You complete me14...