3 Easy Ways to Control your Emotions

In this episode of Better Wellness, unlock the secret to emotional well-being and discover how your feelings shape your health. We sit down with wellness expert David Delrahim to unpack the complex relationship between our sensory experiences, emotions, and overall health. You’ll gain invaluable insights into how stress and anger can disrupt your body's chemistry, while understanding the transformative power of meditation for achieving emotional balance and presence. Join us as we explore the fascinating concept of energy fields and vibrations, and how the emotional states of those around us can impact our own well-being.

Take a moment to reflect on your own emotional state and its influence on your life. Tune in to Better Wellness for a thought-provoking discussion that will leave you with practical tools to enhance your emotional health and well-being.

From the producers of PBS's American Health Journal and Innovations in Medicine. Thank you for listening to Better Wellness.

Episode Transcript

Roland Perez (00:04):
We all deal with emotions in our lives, both
positive and negative.
These definitely have an impacton our happiness and wellness.
Are negative emotionsoverwhelming you?
Let's see how we can controlthem.
Welcome to Better Wellness, apodcast that explores the newest
innovations in true wellness.
I'm your host, roland Perez.

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Explores the newest innovationsin true wellness.
I'm your host, roland Perez, asthe executive producer of the
American Health Journal for morethan 25 years and produced over
530-minute award-winninghealthcare television shows and
aired nationally on PBS with anaudience of over 100 million
viewers.
But Better Wellness is morethan that Not only keeping your
body healthy, but developing themindset and balance that

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prevents illness.
Our guests are experiencedexperts in the world of staying
healthy, young and well.
Our guest is David Delrahim.
Good morning, david.
Wellness expert and notedvisionary in the field of
wellness.
Today he's going to share thepower of emotion in our lives.
Welcome, david.
Nice seeing you again.

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We have a fascinating topictoday emotion.
Very emotional, david, what?

David Delrahim (01:15):
is emotion.
Emotion is sensory, it's humansensory.
The things that we sensethrough our senses could be
smell, could be what we observethrough our eyes, our ears,
touch.
That is what really triggersemotions inside our body and it

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comes through how we act, how welook, how sometimes we hear or
understand the hearing, and howwe perceive what we smell or
taste.

Roland Perez (02:05):
Let me ask you quickly does emotion affect
wellness?

David Delrahim (02:09):
It certainly does.
It has deep roots.
Emotion is the byproduct of thesensories, with what we already
have in our file cabinets inour head, in our brain, in our
hearts and at the cellular level, because even our cells have

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memories.
So the information that wereceive, combined with what we
have in our filings, createsemotions and then we react to
that emotions, even stress.
We get stressed out from thestress, we get angry.

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When we get angry, our chemical, we create chemical imbalance
through our own body and we evenhave some joint pains right
after we show anger.
Or we get tired, we getmigraine.
Of course it has everything todo with wellness.

Roland Perez (03:19):
What are some of the emotions I know hate, love,
fear, grief, anger and how dothey affect us individually?

David Delrahim (03:28):
So you know there are two, as I call it,
windows to look into the worldand into the living.
I call it positive and negative, positive experience, positive
emotions and negative emotions.
Being connected with thepositivity, that means looking

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at life, living and the worldfrom the positive angle I call
it love, and from the negativeangle, I call it hate.
The love is, I call it hate.
The love is, I call it light,the hate is the darkness.
So everything that happensthrough each one of these

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channels, it connects us withthat channel.
Only, once we switch channels,we switch the experience and
that experience affects ourperception and that perception.
It creates the behavior thatbecomes the byproduct of the

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perception.
That the perception came fromthe sensory, and the sensory is
what sometimes we choose to beleft or right?

Roland Perez (04:55):
How does meditation have a part in
emotion?

David Delrahim (04:59):
Meditation definitely has a lot to do with
the wellness.
So let's begin.
What is the purpose ofmeditation?
What does meditation do?
Meditation calms the brain.
In that state of calmness webecome more present.

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That means the perceptive viewof the life and living
experience that we have.
It becomes smaller and smaller.
That is being present.
That means it is all aboutright now, when the perception

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expands.
We live in the past busy or inthe future.
We know what happens when welive in the past depression and
we know what happens in when welive in the future.
That's anxiety.
So it's only presence that wecan bring ourselves to the

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moment.
We experience peace, calmnessand the quality of life that we
are here to enjoy.

Roland Perez (06:21):
How do other people's emotions affect you?
I mean, there's hatred, there'sfear, I guess happiness, You're
fine, but all of a sudden yourwife comes in and there's a
broken window and they're veryupset.
If you're not angry, you mightseem like you don't care.
Do other people's emotionsaffect you and your wellness?

David Delrahim (06:46):
So we are energy .
We humans are energy and energyfields when we are in each
other's presence.
You have two different kinds ofenergies, or multiple different
kinds of energies, that theyare together.
If one comes up from thepositive window and you have

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another one that is from thenegative window, that means it's
tapped into the negativeexperience of life.
We emit energy.
We have our own energy field,that energy field that it is
tuned to the negative channel.
It is completely on a differentfrequency the one that is on

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the positive.
That's a different frequency aswell.
So if you have one negative andone positive, or you have one
negative, multiple positive andvice versa, it's a mix.
Of course they're all beingaffected by each other.
It's just frequency anddifferent entities you have that

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they emit different frequency.
They impact each other.
So if you really want wannahave a quality of life in the
present moment, make sure and bemindful of the space that you
are in.
Make sure that space isprotected.

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If you know you are beingpositive in the moment, look
around you.
Make sure that everything isthere to support you is on the
same frequency.

Roland Perez (08:43):
David, I was thinking have you ever
experienced walking up to atotal stranger and having an
immediate reaction to him?
You know you meet someone andyou just have a positive feeling
about them, or the opposite,like the other day.
I was parking somewhere andthis guy comes out shouting no

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parking here, no parking.
Even before he spoke I didn'tlike him.
So why is that?

David Delrahim (09:10):
So why is that?
Frequency and vibrations haseverything to do with how our
experience is set to be in life,and we could be in the presence

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of others, or we could be onthe phone or even on a Zoom call
.
The energy travels.
We are energy beings and youdon't necessarily have to have
someone in the same room to pickup on that energy.
It could be across the world,it could be on the other end of
the phone conversation.
You don't even have to see them, the energy travels.

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So one thing that I always sayis boundaries and limitations.
You have to create your ownboundaries and you have to have
the limitations.
We come across certain peoplethat we've never met in our life
and we just get gravitated tothem and we say you have an

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amazing energy.
Well, it is that frequency of alike, because if you are in the
positive state and you haveanother one that is in the
positive state both of you onceyou get into each other's field,
you amplifies your ownfrequency and the vibration goes

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up.
So you feel great.
That's emotion.
You feel so good about being atsomebody else's presence, but
ultimately you feel good aboutyourself because you have
amplified your frequency, justwent up and you like that.

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Again, you could be on a phonecall and somebody is not being
nice, kind and you say I justdon't enjoy this conversation.
Have a great day, we talk someother time or maybe we won't
even talk.
So that is the boundaries andlimitations that you know that

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you are.
If in somebody else's field thewrong frequency, create that
boundaries, and if thatfrequency is not about to change
, remove yourself from thatfrequency.
It's a choice, because if youstay in it, that's toxic and it

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would impact your wellness.

Roland Perez (12:02):
How do you control your emotions?
What's the best way?
How?

David Delrahim (12:06):
do we control emotion?
It's a choice.
And you might say what do youmean?
I get angry or I love someone?
Is a choice, absolutely, it is.
You choose which window orwhich channel to be working out
of.
That's your choice.
There's nobody else that saysthis.

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So how do we get that?
If something trips me off, ifsomething just makes me angry, I
have a choice not to be angry.
Absolutely, it's a choice.

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So if something gets you angry,so immediately that anger, you
know where that comes from.
You're walking off of anegative channel, which is the
left window.
So what is your choice?
Change the channel, go to theright side, remove yourself from

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that.
Boundaries and limitations.
I just choose.
See, it's a choice.
I choose not to be here, Ichoose not to be involved in
this discussion, I choose not tohave this relationship.
You have to exercise yourfreedom of choice power, all

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right.
So of course, you need othertools.
You know what how to maintainand sustain that.
That comes with work.
You have to work on it.
You know you have to, which isreally all about that whole
wellness journey.
You know, in order to maintainand sustain it, you have to be

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clean.
You have to practice certainguidelines.
It's a practice, it's a journey, it is we are.
When I say change the channel,you don't have a remote control
for yourself, doesn't exist,it's just knowing, having the

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wisdom being so present withyourself that in that moment you
know, know, is nothing but achoice.

Roland Perez (14:38):
David, you should teach these ideas to police
departments.

David Delrahim (14:42):
You know what?
You gave me an idea.
I would love to work with thelaw enforcement, Because the law
enforcement, these poor guys, Ireally believe they're all
underpaid, overworked andunderappreciated.
Definitely underappreciatedRight but let's park that on the
sideline.

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What is it that?
They are involved From morningto night, from the night to the
morning.
All right, they are eitherrushing or they are in negative
field.
That the negative left window.
That is their job to deal withthe all of these energies

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there's coming at them, not onthe right side.
Nobody calls, says, hey, youknow what, can you send the
police because I love you somuch?
No, no, they call when they'rein distress.
Where is the distress Leftwindow, Not the right.

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So that cop, that policeman orpolicewoman is rushing to where
Left window.
Knows once he or she gets there, what is the energy that is
coming at her?
Negative, hostile, potentially,or distressed, or somebody is

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about to die, or somebody istrapped, all of these things.
The stress is left.
Imagine that officer is a humanbeing.
He's not a robot.
He picks up all of theseemotions and you think he's not

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affected by it.
He has heart.
He's a human.
I don't care how much oftraining we do.
He's human.
How much he needs to be presentin that moment that he would

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know he has the power of choice.
I know I'm going to the left,but I need to be center or to
the right.
I know I'm here.
It is a difficult task for anyhuman, for any human.
And what really is fascinating?

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That we think that just becausewe have a title, whether we are
doctor, whether we're nurse,whether we are police officer,
whether we are firefighters, wehave to be flawless because we
had training.
Are you kidding me?

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We're human.
Whoever is criticizing all ofthese people, or even sometimes
we criticize our own parents Fora minute or two, put yourself

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in their shoes and live the lifethat they are living.
You are no less or no more thanthem because you're human.

Roland Perez (18:13):
David, thank you so much.
I appreciate your insight on areally interesting topic like
emotion.
I want to thank our audienceand hope you found something
from our conversation that Davidshared with us today, and I
hope you understand emotion, oryour emotions, and how they can
affect your wellness, andremember the Better Wellness
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