Have you ever wondered if your daily habits and mindset might be sabotaging your chance at a fulfilled life? Join us as wellness expert David Delrahim uncovers the hidden ways we undermine our own desire to live, especially amidst physical, emotional, and mental discomforts. In our latest episode of Better Wellness, David and Roland discuss how common practices—such as poor dietary choices, constant exposure to negative news, and the stressful political climate—can severely impact our overall well-being.
This insightful conversation goes beyond identifying the problems to offer actionable solutions for rediscovering joy, hope, and a genuine desire to thrive. David emphasizes the need to critically evaluate our lifestyles and the stressors we impose on ourselves, shedding light on how these factors contribute to a diminished quality of life. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion that promises to reignite your passion for living well and cultivating a balanced existence. This is a must-listen for anyone yearning to reclaim their zest for life.
From the producers of PBS's American Health Journal and Innovations in Medicine. Thank you for listening to Better Wellness.
Episode Transcript
Have you lost your spark, that joy of living?
Some people find it difficultto find that desire to live.
Could it be the result of howyou are living your life?
Welcome to Better Wellness, apodcast that explores the newest
innovations in true wellness.
I'm your host, roland Perez, asthe executive producer of the
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American Health Journal for morethan 25 years and produced over
530-minute award-winninghealthcare television shows and
aired nationally on PBS with anaudience of over 100 million
viewers.
But better wellness is morethan that Not only keeping your
body healthy, but developing themindset and balance that
prevents illness.
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Our guests are experiencedexperts in the world of staying
healthy, young and well.
Our guest is David Delrahim, awellness expert and noted
visionary in the area ofwellness.
David discusses the many wayswe sabotage our outlook on life
and the understanding ofourselves.
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Good morning, david, glad tosee you here again Good morning.
David Delrahim (01:13):
Thank you so much for having me.
Roland Perez (01:15):
Today's topic fascinating.
I've sort of subtitled it as adesire to live.
Subtitled it as a desire tolive, but after our last podcast
you mentioned this to me and itit fascinated me and I thought
it would be an excellent topicto talk about today is the
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person's desire to live and tobe well.
So tell us a little bit aboutthe desire to live.
David Delrahim (01:46):
You know the question of a desire to live.
It sounds very easy to answer,but you would be surprised that
when we have asked people withsome discomforts, they started
thinking.
With some discomforts, theystarted thinking about it, so
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they really didn't come up witha yes, of course, I would love
to live immediately.
Roland Perez (02:14):
They took their time, a few pauses, a few
seconds and then they went onand said yeah, I have desire to
live.
You said people with discomfort.
What exactly do?
David Delrahim (02:29):
you mean With some sort of physical, emotional
, mental and even energeticdiscomfort.
But they get up in the morning,say you know what they feel
like the entire world is againstthem, if the whole sky is
coming down on them and theyhave a complaint about anyone
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and anything around them, closeand far, and they cannot find
anything that moves them, thatput a smile on their face, for
example, or they cannot.
They do.
They see that they aredisconnected from hope, they're
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not not being joyful.
So the desire to live.
It is not an easy questionBecause subconsciously or
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unconsciously, we do many things, and I mean the mass,
overwhelming majority of thepeople on this planet.
We do things that are probablyharmful to us.
That we are practicing has alot of poisonous components on a
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daily basis the way we eat, theway we think, the way our
perspective is or the way wejust go through life.
Roland Perez (04:32):
I understand the food we eat horribly.
There are a few countries inthe world that they eat very
well, because that's all theycan grow or all they can do, but
we are just mired in processedfood and it's terrible, there's
no doubt about it.
And then what we think and thepolitical situation that we're
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in.
We're so divided.
I mean, if you take all thatthing together, it's very toxic
absolutely so.
David Delrahim (05:03):
It's a stress that we put on ourselves.
We could be uptight, we couldget angry, but the physical and
emotional stress that weexperience, we are putting
stress on our body, on ourorgans, on our cells as well.
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And you know, I'm sure we haveexperienced with some kind of a
discomfort.
I call it illness, sickness.
And when we go to the doctorand they check everything and
everything checks out fine, theysay well, what do you think it
is, doctor?
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It's a stress.
So we hear that often.
So that is the stress at thecellular level.
Really, it is a byproduct ofthe way we live our lives, our
lifestyle.
You know, when we talked aboutthe processed food, of the way
we live our lives, our lifestyle, when we talked about the
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processed food.
But we eat too much, we eat toolate, not the right time, not
the right food, and the amountof sugar, for example, that we
take, or the salt that we take,or the salt that we take, and it
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goes on and on and on and on.
Watching the news, you know, Ioften say what do you expect to
hear from the news channel?
The news means bad news.
Roland Perez (06:40):
So the more we hear, If it's not bad news, it
just doesn't make sense.
David Delrahim (06:45):
It doesn't sell.
Roland Perez (06:46):
Yeah, it doesn't sell.
David Delrahim (06:48):
And, as we are tuned to all of this bad news,
it will change our frequency.
We go from I call it from astate of love to a state of
chaos, so we automatically get,uh, stressed out over something
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that we had totally control over.
Just don't watch the news youdon't have to.
Roland Perez (07:15):
yeah, when someone told me you know what, if I'm
expected to do, I I'm sold theseprocessed foods.
I I'm sold to sit around andwatch TV.
I'm sold to have politicalfeelings that are opposite to
other people.
I'm divided.
And then I mentioned to him.
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I said you know, you have totake the responsibility.
No one else, no one's going tostart changing the political
spectrum.
No one's going to stop makingprocessed foods Definitely not
going to.
They're going to make up moreprocessed foods, but it's your
responsibility to change that.
David Delrahim (07:56):
Well, it is our responsibility and we have to
know that we have choices.
We have a choice to watch ornot.
We have a choice to be part ofthe division energy that is
being created, being promotedfor the sake of control.
Of course it's a choice.
For the sake of control, ofcourse it's a choice.
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So I believe the desire to liveis a question that you have to
go inboard to find the answerand going outward, there are so
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many components that you perhapsget confused.
You cannot even connect to thissimple question, but very
profound, very deep question.
So if we have desire to live,then why are we doing the things
that are not good for us, whichis in contradiction to what we
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think?
We believe that we have desireto live.
So, even though it is a simplequestion, it is a very deep
question and then you startquestioning yourself.
It's a way of creatingawareness for yourself.
Roland Perez (09:26):
And responsibility for yourself 100%.
David Delrahim (09:29):
You take responsibility, you have choices
and you own the consequences ofthose choices.
We eat bad, we don't exercise,we don't meditate, we get
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emotional.
All of those things lead us notto be well, and right at that
point we have to ask ourselvesdid I really have desire to live
?
Because having a desire to liveis totally in line and in
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alignment with loving yourself.
When you love yourself, youdon't harm yourself and you are
showing to yourself and othersthat you have a desire to live.
Roland Perez (10:29):
And self-respect 100%.
David Delrahim (10:34):
So the desire to live.
Then you go to desire to livein the quality of living space.
Then that comes up Because, allright, I have a desire to live.
Where do I go from there?
Huh, quality, quality of life.
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Quality of life is the spacethat we create, is a structure
that we create and everythingyou do within that structure
promotes the quality of life andthe desire to live.
We often hear this from,unfortunately, the people who
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are up against.
You know, living, you know,with a chronic issue, could be
cancer, last stages, could beeven alcoholism and alcoholism.
There's so many, absolutelythere's so many chronic
challenges that can put us atthe point that we have months,
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weeks, days to live and then sayI want to live.
You know, like Steve Jobs,right Towards the end he said
that he was willing.
Apple, exactly the founder ofApple, he was willing to give
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everything he had so he can live, but unfortunately that option
wasn't available.
So you see, desire to live,that living, which is a gift.
We often do not think about itbecause we take that gift for
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granted.
It's given.
Of course I have it.
What Until we don't have it?
But often just like a safe job.
It's too late, but often, justlike Steve Jobs, it's too late.
It happens over and over andover again and we take a pause
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and we think about life and afew moments after that, we
forget what we talked about.
Roland Perez (13:18):
You know, steve Jobs said something very
interesting in a book I read onhim and that was the one thing
that when he got ill and he knewhe was facing death eventually
from his disease, he said theone thing that hit me the
hardest was I wasted so muchtime.
I wasted time and now that Ihave let's sub it, I use it, I
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concentrate it more and I alwaysthought to myself, now that
we're speaking, that you haveyour regimen of yoga and other
things and you make the time outof your busy schedule to do
these things Because you have adesire to live and to live a
healthy lifestyle.
David Delrahim (14:05):
Exactly.
It's a choice.
You know what?
Getting up four o'clock in themorning five days a week is a
choice.
But I have placed myself withinthat structure of living,
quality of life, and it startedby truly loving myself and
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loving this gift we call itliving or life and I want to
treasure this, I want to protectit.
So, putting all of those thingsin it, within that structure,
having the awareness and theconsciousness that guides you to
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be in touch with that question24-7, you don't do anything to
harm yourself, including perhapsgetting even angry, in other
words, treating others in a notloving way, because laws of
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attraction you receive what youput out.
I want to receive love.
The only way I can receive loveis by putting out love.
Yes, I love people, but I lovemyself too.
So by loving them they willlove me and the energy of love
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comes back to me.
And unfortunately, with angerthe same Often.
You know with and unfortunatelywith anger, the same Often,
what people, in the extremecases, they have heart attack
from too much anger.
So they've done that tothemselves.
Roland Perez (16:00):
Yeah, there's two ways to an argument.
You're absolutely right.
If you get yourself angry, ifyou let yourself get worked up
and get yourself angry, there'sanother.
You have another path.
You can step away from thatsort of thing and live a lot
longer.
David Delrahim (16:19):
Everyone says it , but few of us do Exactly.
Because we have there's so manydistractions around us, so many
News technology Technologiesare are good, but you know.
But social networking, all ofthese things?
You know even the way we eat.
We eat, but bad food, and weeat too much of it, at the wrong
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time and in the completelytoxic mindset, because when we
eat, our emotions and mind hasto be balanced for that food to
give us the nutritional valueand this energetic value.
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But if we eat it really fast,behind the steering wheel, while
we are honking horn and cuttingpeople off and getting angry,
what are we doing?
Roland Perez (17:23):
Shortening our lives is what we're doing
Exactly so.
David Delrahim (17:26):
The question is what is your desire to live If
we are taking the path of beingcompletely disconnected with
ourselves?
It is a very legitimatequestion.
What is your desire to live?
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Fascinating?
Roland Perez (17:53):
Thank you, david.
Again, a wonderful topic andwonderful answers Always amazing
.
I want to thank our audience.
I sure hope that you foundsomething from this discussion
with David today that will helpimprove and enhance your life.
And remember, the BetterWellness podcast is available
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just about anywhere, includingSpotify, amazon Music and iHeart
Radio.
So once again, thanks forsupporting Better Wellness.
I'm your host, roland Perez.
Thanks for listening.
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