The 10-Minute Self-Care Revolution

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Have you been treating self-care as optional? That book you wanted to read, the walk you planned to take, the few minutes of silence you craved? These are often the first things we sacrifice when life gets hectic. But what if just 10 minutes of intentional self-care daily could dramatically transform your energy, patience and productivity?

In this empowering episode, I share why those precious minutes for yourself aren't selfish, they're strategic. Drawing from countless client sessions where this issue surfaces repeatedly, I offer a simple three-step framework to make self-care non-negotiable, even with the busiest schedule. You'll learn how to schedule self-care like an appointment, choose truly restorative activities (not just mindless scrolling), and track the surprising returns on your investment.

The math is compelling: 10 minutes daily equals 60 hours yearly of investment in yourself. What could you do with more patience with your children, clearer thinking at work, and better decision-making in all areas of life? As a mother of four, I share my own morning ritual and how it changed my parenting approach. Self-care doesn't steal your time, it amplifies your capacity to use time effectively for everything else.

Ready to stop putting yourself last? Whether you're struggling to know what you need or can't see how self-care fits into your particular situation, this episode offers practical guidance for every circumstance.

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Episode Transcript

Mel (00:18):
Welcome to Beyond Organised , the podcast that helps you
simplify your life and amplifyyour purpose.
I'm Mel Schenker, life coachspeaker, founder of She's
Organised, but, more importantly, a wife and mum of four little
kids.
If you've ever felt overwhelmed, like you're constantly
juggling everything but neverquite catching up, this is the
place for you.
Here we go beyond just thetidying up and creating systems.

(00:42):
We're talking about real lifestrategies that bring order to
your life, but also we talkabout the things beyond the
organising, the things thatreally matter, like your
parenting relationships and somuch more.
So grab your coffee and let'sdive in.
Welcome to today's episode.
I wanted to actually talk aboutself-care, so one of the biggest

(01:08):
things I'm talking about in myone-on-one sessions with clients
is the need to have at least 10minutes a day.
Almost everyone I've comeacross is not giving themselves
proper time to refuel themselves, to pour into their own lives.
So I mean there's plenty ofpeople that are scrolling on

(01:30):
social media or doing otherthings and there's time that's
being wasted as such, but noteven taking 10 minutes of
intentional time for themselves.
So I wanted to cover that today, because I wanted to highlight
the benefits of why even 10minutes a day is important, but
also how you can get that returnon your investment, so to speak

(01:53):
, and how that plays out as well.
Most people they feel likeself-care is optional.
It's almost like you go throughyour day you try and get all
the things you have to get done,but that book you really wanted
to read, well, oops, I've runout of time, I'm going to eat
into that time of reading thebook and there goes my day.

(02:15):
It's almost like that is yourbuffer and your optional thing
in the day, and when thingsdon't go to plan, that's the
first thing to disappear.
But we need to start treatingit differently.
It's crucial to you being ableto not just survive the day, but

(02:36):
to eventually enjoy your dayand have the energy you need for
everything else and thepatience, but also being
productive.
So I have three steps that Iwant to cover today that will
help you see this return on yourinvestment in spending 10
minutes for yourself and how tomake this happen.
So step one is schedule it likean appointment.

(02:58):
We want to put 10 minutes inyour calendar every day.
Treat it as non-negotiable Forme.
I like doing it in the morning.
10 minutes in the morningbefore anyone wakes up.
Hopefully, if my baby doesn'twake up before then.
I like to have 10 minutes and Ilove to just make a coffee, sit
down in silence, and sometimesI'll journal, I'll draw in my

(03:20):
adult coloring book.
I'll just take 10 minutes forme and honestly, it's just to
think, breathe and enjoy a hotcoffee.
And I find that by just startingthe day not feeling rushed and
frantic because I know what'sabout to happen after that 10
minutes can get pretty hectic.
Just starting that way, Ialready just feel a lot more

(03:44):
calm.
So when the kids are taking waytoo long to get ready they're
not getting out of bed, theydon't want to put on their
school shoes or whatever it is Iactually have the patience to
deal with it better and not snap, which I can tell you.
If I didn't have that 10minutes beforehand, I would be
more likely to get impatientwith them.

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So I know what I'm like and Iknow how I react to situations
and if I'm already starting offfeeling a little bit more calm
and refreshed, then that willalso help me pass that on to my
kids in behaving better as wellmyself.
So it doesn't matter whetherit's morning or lunch or evening

(04:28):
.
You find what works for you, buttry and make it consistent.
It's okay if one morning hereor there or one night here or
there is different, that's fine,but try and make it as
consistent as possible.
So you've also got that to lookforward to.
You've got that time that youknow is for you to maybe read
those few pages of a book or tosit down and journal and get out

(04:52):
your feelings for the day.
Respect it like any othermeeting you would have.
And it's okay if you miss a day, just don't quit, pick it up
again.
We want to have that long-termbeing able to give that 10
minutes for yourself.
And I tell mums in particulardon't focus on the laundry pile
that's sitting right in front ofyou.

(05:13):
Have your coffee or tea, readyour book, do whatever it is
that you're doing in that 10minutes.
Don't worry about the laundry.
We've got planned for thatlater.
This is your 10 minute time todo what you like and look if you
can do more than 10 minutes 20minutes, 30 minutes, whatever it
is great, go for it.
But I'm sure we can all find atleast 10 minutes in a day to

(05:37):
put yourself first, really,because no one else is going to
put you first.
I hate to say no one else isgoing to do it, only you can do
this for yourself.
My second step is to choosesomething restorative, not
reactive.
So when it's restorative, itfills your tank.

(06:00):
So things like prayer, ifyou're a person of faith,
journaling, walking, stretchingsilence that's one of my ones
Deep breathing, whatever it isthat fills your tank.
Maybe a bit of artwork, craftwork could even be listening to
a podcast or somethingeducational, whatever it is that

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fills you up.
That's what we want to focus on.
We don't want to do thereactive things, the things that
numbs you and things like yourendless scrolling TV or any
other kind of busy work.
You don't want to leave that 10minutes wondering what you just
did.
You want to know what you didin that 10 minutes wondering
what you just did.
You want to know what you didin that 10 minutes.

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You want to be intentionalabout it and not just waste that
10 minutes that you've got,because 10 minutes of
restorative time for you isgoing to be way more productive
than even 30 minutes of reactivescrolling random TV and things
like that.
Now, there's nothing wrong withbeing on social media or

(07:04):
watching TV.
Please don't hear the wrongthing, in that you can
definitely do that at adifferent time.
This is just not part of yourintentional 10 minutes of
self-care time.
Now the third part is sort oftracking the return on
investment.
Now, I love data, I love factsand figures and the way that I

(07:25):
go about things, even when itcomes to this stuff, that a lot
of it can be mental and lessphysical in some ways can be a
lot harder to track.
But I like data and facts.
So we want to try and track ourreturn on the 10 minutes that
we're putting in.
So I want you to start noticingthe effects.
Do you have more energy?

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Maybe it's snapping less at thekids.
Maybe it's just being able tobe that little bit more patient
when certain situations pop upthat normally frustrate you.
Maybe you've got a little bitmore clarity, you have less
brain fog, you can make fasterdecisions or react quicker to
certain situations.

(08:07):
Maybe you actually just feel alittle bit more calm around the
home or at work or anything likethat.
So I want you to start notingdown how things are changing.
Maybe particular situationsthat come up a lot and you've
reacted differently this time,or you felt differently this
time.
I want you to start tracking howthis time for you is impacting

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other areas of your life.
So I want you to think in termsof like compound interest.
So If you're doing 10 minutes aday, that's 70 minutes a week.
Fair, it's five hours a month,60 hours a year.
Now, it's not a lot.
It's really not a lot in theway you do things, but taking

(08:53):
those small deposits ofconsistent time can have really
big returns in the long run.
You might find you have gotmore energy and you can get
through your workload quickerand clearer.
You can deal with householdtasks a lot easier, maybe even
make better financial decisions,because you're not reacting to

(09:15):
certain situations.
You're thinking things throughand financially it could
actually end up saving you moremoney as well.
So we want to see how this isimpacting other parts of your
life.
So start noting it down,journaling it, putting it in a
spreadsheet.
However you want to do itActually get intentional with

(09:36):
noticing the differences in yourlife.
So, just to recap, we want toschedule it in, we want to
treasure this time like we wouldanything else.
That's important.
We want to choose restorative,not reactive, tasks and we want
to be able to track it.
We want to actually see so youcan really see the benefits,

(09:59):
because if we're not focusing onhow it's impacting our lives,
it might be something that willeasily drop again down the track
, and we don't want to do that.
Self-care doesn't steal yourtime.
It actually gives more back toyou.
So I just want to encourage youthat if this is something that

(10:20):
you've been struggling with, youdon't need to keep struggling
with it alone.
I have got inside the she'sOrganized Hub.
For those that are in there,I've got a self-care toolkit and
it gives you a whole list ofexamples of things you can do,
even just with a short amount oftime and for free.
There's a whole lot of thingsin there that might spark ideas,

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because if you're anything likeme, when I first started I did
not know what to do with myself.
I'm just so used to being busyand dealing with everyone else
and everything else that Iactually didn't know what I
needed for me.
But if you are wanting a littlebit more personalized help in
this situation and you know that, you know you need to be

(11:05):
looking after yourself, but it'sjust so hard because your
particular situation, you can'tsee how it could possibly work,
then I encourage you to actuallybook in a free, 60-minute
organized life strategy session.
I've had a lot of thesesessions with women and, trust
me, I think I've seen everysituation that you can think of

(11:26):
out there.
I am confident that I'll beable to help you in creating a
plan for the next steps for youin moving forward from this, and
there'll also be options tokeep working together beyond
that as well, if you'reinterested.
But even just taking that onehour to spend with me, I can
guarantee you we'll put thingsin place that will save you

(11:48):
potentially hours every week,let alone month, year, so on.
So if you're interested, headto the description.
I've got the link in there tobook in the free strategy
session with me.
But if you've got any otherquestions and that you can
always reach out to me, thedetails are in the description
and I'm more than happy to helpyou with this, because this is a

(12:10):
really common pain point for somany women out there in just
putting themselves last.
And let's start putting youfirst so you can actually look
after everyone else better, youcan love on everyone else better
, because at the end of the day,like I say in the tagline of
this.
Organising is just the beginningfor the purposeful life beyond

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it.
It's not just about beingorganised.
It's about the relationshipsand the life we want to lead
beyond all this stuff.
So if you need my help, I'mmore than happy to help you and
I look forward to talking to yousoon.
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