Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation

Becoming Your Own Fountain of Resources

Come listen to Shelby's personal and heartwarming story about rescuing an orphaned duckling, Buck, using it to illustrate valuable lessons on resilience, self-reliance, and overcoming obstacles following parental alienation. Shelby emphasizes the importance of trusting your instincts, especially when external help is not forthcoming, and relates this to the experiences of alienated p...

In episode 144, Shelby discusses the emotional challenges faced by alienated parents, focusing on the tendencies to desensitize and emotionally withdraw from their parenting roles. She shares personal experiences and observations on how coping mechanisms like masking emotions, disengaging from the parental role, and withdrawing socially can affect both the parent and the child. Shelby emphasizes the importance of resilience, proces...

Turning Negativity into Empowerment: Strategies for Alienated ParentsIn episode 143 of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford shares a heartfelt and insightful discussion about dealing with negativity, particularly meant for alienated parents. Shelby begins by sharing a personal story about finding a duckling and the challenges of unexpected situations. She then delves into the pervasive negativity that alienated parents ...

Defining Personal Standards & Boundaries for Alienated Parents

In Episode 142 of the 'Beyond The High Road Podcast', host Shelby Milford emphasizes the importance for alienated parents to define and maintain personal standards and boundaries in their lives. After thanking a reviewer and encouraging listeners to submit their own reviews, Shelby transitions into the main topic: evaluating what you currently accept in your life, an...

Father's Day Support for Alienated DadsIn this special bonus episode, Shelby addresses a missed acknowledgment of Father's Day and extends her heartfelt support to alienated dads. She discusses the struggles of lacking recognition from children and family, and emphasizes the importance of self-love and perseverance. Shelby encourages fathers to continue their efforts in maintaining a foundation for their children's retu...

Overcoming Directionlessness: Creating Purpose and Progress for Alienated Parents

In episode 141 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford addresses the pervasive feelings of directionlessness, purposelessness, hopelessness, and helplessness many alienated parents experience. Shelby shares her personal struggles and offers a comprehensive approach to creating change by advocating for self-empowerment through detailed ...

Episode 140 examines the deep-seated fears and emotional turmoil experienced by alienated parents when their child decides to change their name. Shelby discusses this complex issue from multiple angles, including the parent's perspective of hurt and rejection, the child's motivations, and the potential psychological impacts on the child. The episode is structured to first address the parent's feelings, then delve into the children'...

Redefining Your Story

In episode 139 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford announces a shift in how her episodes will be structured—moving towards more targeted and searchable content. This episode focuses on a critical issue faced by alienated parents: overcoming feelings of victimization to feel more empowered. Shelby shares personal experiences and discusses how distinguishing between objective facts and the emotion...

In episode 138 Shelby shares personal journal entries to illustrate her painful journey of dealing with parental alienation along with the steps she took to regain her sense of power and worthiness. Shelby emphasizes the importance of identifying and adhering to core values and offers practical advice for alienated parents to navigate their lives more clearly and purposefully.

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How Trauma and Grief Shape Decisions for Alienated Parents

In this episode of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford discusses the profound impact of trauma and grief on personal responses and decisions. She highlights a listener review, thanks Alexandra Unshakable for her feedback, and encourages listeners to leave reviews. Shelby shares personal stories and insights into how unprocessed trauma and grief manifest in daily...

Addressing complex emotions surrounding Mother's Day for alienated parents. Shelby shares a poignant story about a mother dealing with the tragic loss of her child, providing insights into how such experiences can shape one’s journey through grief. The episode delves into the various thought patterns that contribute to prolonged grief disorder, such as rumination, self-blame, and avoidance. Shelby emphasizes the importance of p...

Why Avoiding Your Feelings is Sometimes the Best Choice For Alienated Parents

In episode 135 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford discusses the concept of intentional avoidance and its benefits for maintaining emotional balance and peace in the chaos of parental alienation. She shares her personal experiences and challenges with avoidance, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and societal beliefs about emotions. Shelby delves...

Understanding and Coping with Betrayal in Parental Alienation

In episode 134 of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford delves into the complex subject of betrayal, particularly within the context of parental alienation. Shelby explores whether betrayal is an emotion or a perception, drawing analogies with grief and emphasizing that betrayal stems from a perceived breach of trust. The discussion is sparked by a recent expe...

Discussing the common communication pitfall of using the phrase 'I feel like' and how it can hinder emotional clarity and empowerment, especially for alienated parents. Shelby encourages listeners to focus on identifying and articulating actual emotions to reduce misinterpretations and overcome poor communication habits. By sharing personal experiences and insights from her counseling journey, Shelby aims to help parents ta...

Coping with Feelings of Inadequacy as an Alienated Parent

In episode 132 of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford delves into the common feelings of inadequacy that many alienated parents experience. She opens up about her own struggles with avoiding social media checks on her daughter and the internal conflict about not feeling 'enough' due to her current situation. Shelby emphasizes the importance of recogn...

Navigating Nostalgia, Remorse, & Uncertainty

In episode 131 Shelby Milford delves into the mixed emotions that arise with springtime nostalgia. She shares her personal reflections on regret and remorse, prompted by some treasured memories with her daughter before alienation. Shelby emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between regret and shame, encouraging listeners to embrace their growth journey. She explores how changin...

Dive into cultivating a sense of safety and peace amidst the chaos of parental alienation. Shelby begins by sharing a touching review from a listener, highlighting the transformative impact of her coaching. She then addresses the common feeling of instability and unpredictability faced by alienated parents, emphasizing the importance of bringing focus back to oneself. Through strategies like building emotional resilience, establish...

In episode 129 of 'Beyond the High Road' podcast, Shelby discusses the emotional challenges faced by alienated parents and those experiencing grief. She reflects on the importance of engaging in hobbies like plant care that cultivate patience and dedication. She emphasizes the power of shifting one's mindset from merely surviving to thriving, even during the grief of alienation. Drawing from personal anecdotes and clien...

Trust Your Compass: A Journey to Restore Your Bond For Alienated ParentsIn episode #128 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, Shelby Milford shares a recorded Facebook Live session addressing alienated parents seeking to reconnect with their children. Shelby discusses the challenges parents face in reunification and the importance of trusting their instincts amidst professional and societal pressures. Through a case study of a past ...