So many of us carry the belief that we have to earn love. That if we change who we are, give more of ourselves, or abandon our own needs, then maybe, just maybe, someone will finally choose us. But true love isn’t an audition.
In this powerful episode of Beyond Words, we explore what it means to stop chasing after the bare minimum. Together, we’ll look at why we cling to those who only offer us crumbs of attention, and how to shift toward a love that meets us where we are: whole, worthy, and enough.
If you’ve ever found yourself asking: Why don’t they love me the way I love them? Why do I have to prove myself just to be seen? this conversation is for you.
You’ll be reminded:
- Why abandoning yourself for love is never true love.
- How to recognize when you’re living on crumbs instead of the feast you deserve.
- That you don’t need to beg for love that was promised. The right person will see your worth without conditions.
Stop auditioning for people’s lives. Stop surviving on scraps. You are worthy of a love that stays, grows, and lets you rest safely in it.
Timestamps & Show Notes:
0:00 – Introduction
Why so many of us grow up believing love must be earned, and how that belief drives us to self-abandonment.
2:45 – The Illusion of Earning Love
The cycle of chasing crumbs of affection and mistaking them for a feast.
6:30 – The Cost of Auditioning
The exhaustion and heartache of performing to be chosen, and why it never leads to real security.
10:15 – What Real Love Is (and Isn’t)
A reflection on conditional love versus love that sees your essence without demands.
15:00 – Reclaiming Your Worth
Steps to move away from scarcity and toward embodying worthiness.
19:20 – Closing Reflections
An affirmation to stop auditioning for people’s lives — and rest in the truth that you are already enough.
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