017- How to Let Them Be Who They Want to Be

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When you’re so used to overexplaining, overgiving, and overextending yourself — choosing silence can feel impossible. But what if silence is where your real power begins?

In this episode, Najwa explores what it means to stop trying to change people, to stop rescuing them from who they’ve chosen to be, and to finally let your peace speak louder than your pain.

Through powerful storytelling, gentle truth, and poetic reflection, Najwa helps you understand:

• Why you struggle to accept the truth about others
• How overexplaining becomes a form of self-betrayal
• Why fawning and people-pleasing are trauma responses
• The difference between compassion and self-abandonment
• How to stand in quiet integrity and let others face their own consequences

If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive,” or if you’ve loved people who constantly hurt you, this episode will remind you:
 You never have to explain to someone what they already know they did.

Timestamps

00:00 — When you stop overexerting yourself and choose silence
 01:28 — Letting go of control and seeing people for who they really are
 04:26 — Why we excuse others’ hurtful behavior
 05:31 — The guilt and consequences of setting boundaries
 07:51 — Recognizing intentional harm and emotional maturity
 10:23 — On jealousy, comparison, and emotional growth
 15:53 — “Great minds think alike, but fools seldom differ” — the company you keep
 20:49 — When helping turns into self-sacrifice
 26:02 — Healthy vs. unhealthy responses to mistreatment
 30:13 — Stop trying to change people; let them reveal themselves
 31:18 — The scorpion and the frog: understanding character
 35:02 — Staying kind without betraying yourself
 36:11 — “Let Them F*** Around and Find Out” — strength in self-respect
 40:34 — Integrity, boundaries, and the quiet storm of peace
 41:41 — Final reflections: let them be who they are, and protect who you are